[cafemaddy podcast] Ep.4 Above All, Be Kind (To Yourself)

At Cafe Maddy, a 15 year old customer from Australia places an order, about self-hatred. Maddy cooks a very special fusion recipe, and talks about kindness towards her own self.
What's your take on this? Let me know in the comments. Please feel free to leave any feedback on the podcast, would love to develop and improve as I move forward!
The video I talked about in this podcast is here:
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[@issy4312]

OMMG maddy thank you so so much!! my heart literally stopped when i heard '15’ and ‘from australia' on ur ig story. it's insane how closely this message aligns with me rn. my mum has recently started a new business and she spends every single day away working. i’ve never thought about becoming my own mum but it clearly seems important now more than ever. i also love that you made a culturally widespread/fusion dish- i’m a mix too (half korean/quarter spanish/quarter english) and i will definitely be making it with my mum sometime soon. i'm so grateful for every minute you put into this, had me tearing up right from the beginning. i hope to meet you one day, maybe as a dentist, maybe not, but completely and wholeheartedly happy and satisfied with myself.

[@CafeMaddy]

Thank you issy for responding! :) glad it was helpful in any way, and i was so surpised you were 15 bc you seem so mature beyond your age. Good luck with all your studies! You're doing great and i know you'll find your way

[@po_gz]

Somewhere out there, your heart beat is perfectly mimicking someone else’s heart, someone out there is seeing the moon at the same angle as you, somewhere out there someone is as stressed as you, someone feels your pain in some way, you are not alone in this. I hope everyone feel better after listening to this podcast.

[@CafeMaddy]

Thank you :) :)

[@rajnandanirao390]

Maddy when you said how you harboured anger in your heart without letting in the love that was poured out on you , I had to stop the video because it felt so so familiar. You not only talked to Essie but so many of our teenage (and sadly , in some cases, present ) versions too. This was so beautiful and much needed as always. Sending love. Take care ❤️🌟

[@CafeMaddy]

Thank you so much Rajnandani :)

[@shraddhasen6042]

I listened to all the episodes last night and my heart is so full. Thank you so much for this beautiful podcast. Now I am waiting eagerly like a baby for the new episode on Friday 🥺❤️

[@CafeMaddy]

Thank you!! 🥰🥰

[@ratchl]

Omg that 15 year old is more emotionally mature than I am as someone who’s more than 10 years older LOL

[@po_gz]

😂 it’s ok, I’m pretty sure you’re emotionally mature in your own way.

[@danieljung8046]

So heartwarming. Such a simple yet hard reminder… Speak kindly to yourself. Thank you

[@mmebougainvillea]

i've stumbled upon this channel yesterday and i'm absolutely hooked! i love these podcasts so much. thank you for this, maddy!

[@mlodge1972]

This was so touching and heartfelt. You are wise beyond your 29 years. We can all relate to those feelings that Issy expressed. To parent and nurture yourself is great advice. Love your cooking and thoughtful words.

[@huecosenvezdeojos]

im also 15 years old, this was very helpful. Your voice calms me a lot too, sincerely, thank you

[@mattwinick7659]

Hi Cafe Maddy My name is Matt Winick from A2 Michigan and I have autism with a learning disability. Having a disability is hard in my life because I get teased along with facing judgmental from other people including friends about having a disability or not meeting their standards, have difficulty with social settings, and many others. Also I feel down about myself and feel like don't belong in the world. I have struggles in my life, but I wanted to reach out saying that your work on creativity including sharing motivational videos of you working hard to overcome challenges is inspiring to me and helps inspire me to work hard on my disability when there are challenges. You are an inspiration to me and I enjoy your content. I hope that I can meet you in person or get to talk to you sometime because you inspire me. Keep up the great work and inspiration.

[@elizaclaire468]

Thank you for this 🙏🏼 I’ve struggled with this for some time now. Such a beautiful reminder and a great way to start loving yourself. At the end of the day, no one will care for ourselves but us.

[@mariella1298]

This is such an important topic i think everyone struggles with at some point in life. I’m only 16 years old myself but i was lucky enough to realize how important self-love and confidence is throughout the pandemic and since I was stuck at home for such a long time, i was able to work on it (a journey with many downs since i spend way too much time on social media and compared myself to everyone). These days I feel way better about myself and my future but there are still days on which feeling insecure hits again which i thought might be something i will just have to get used to but after listening to this episode, i might try treating myself the way the mom-version of me would treat me and honestly, I’m pretty positive it’ll work on me :) Thank you for sharing your advice, Maddy, i think will enjoy this episode! And also thanks to Izzy for sharing her story, you are absolutely not alone in this!

[@jane0711kr]

I've been really looking forward to this new episode! I wish the podcast came out on Mondays so I have something to look forward to when the weekends end :)

[@CafeMaddy]

:) maybe season 2 will release on mondays. Thanks for tuning in

[@mk-gs9be]

this was heart warming. And I almost teared up. 😇 Thank you again Maddie 💓

[@CafeMaddy]

💕thanks for watching

[@marisalow1185]

dear Maddy, thank you so much for sharing your stories, your food and your culture with us. every post you make is like chicken soup for the soul. sending you love from singapore!

[@bbisordi]

This actually means a lot to me. I have always found it hard to live myself because how can i love myself when nobody else does. Throughout all these years I've become able to no longer hate myself, but be contempt. Contempt in everything. Having an inner voice motivating myself just doesn't work with me. And that's the same reason why words of affirmation is lowest of my love languages. I can't believe what history has proved wrong. How can i believe when someone says something good about me if there isn't anything good about me. This also reminds me of a relatable quote "when actions speak words mean nothing" nobodies actions showed love so how was i supposed to believe them. And in the end everyone is gone and I'm all alone. And even though I'm christian doesn't mean i see god loving me either. History shows he doesn't love me. So overall here i am. All alone with nobody in my life. But I've learned to be content. Content with life, content with being alone, and content with myself.

[@Will140f]

I love this series so much but I want to say one thing to you, Maddy (and I only myself learned this when I became a parent for the first time ever just last year): it is a parent's job to protect and love and care for and educate their child, not to insult, demean, and be harshly critical of them - even if it is allegedly "out of love." I had very narcissistic parents who did not give me the love or attention I needed as a child and I always blamed myself. "Maybe if I'd have done ___ differently" or "if I had just done better on that test" or "if I do everything they want me to do all the time they'll be happy with me" - but no matter what I did or how well I did or what I achieved in life it was never enough. Always more criticisms and gaslighting and disrespect. You are not "cherry picking" when you focus on the negative things your parents said to you. The fact is that you did not (and no child does) deserve to be spoken to or treated like that. You should not overlook the negative impacts your parents have had on your life and your mental health as an adult just because they also did love you and say good things to you sometimes. Would you accept verbal and emotional abuse from a partner just because they also did nice things sometimes for you and said they loved you? I'm not saying you need to be angry with your parents but I think you should hold them accountable. A truly self-respecting adult will not allow themself to be treated so badly by anyone, regardless of whether it is family or not. And like it or not: we are who we are (to a point) because of the things our parents said to us and did to us growing up, both good and bad.

[@asawari1328]

This is the first episode of your podcast that I listened to! Thank you so much for sharing your experience and knowledge with us - it was quite eye-opening for me! I cannot wait to watch the other episodes and the future ones!

[@brianna5278]

Thank you for sharing I love the advice you gave in this video it really resonated with me

[@joyceannlavapiez4253]

💖 I can relate to your experiences Maddy *hugs*

[@winniethepooh.]

the reason why i look forward to every Thursday is because of your podcasts ๑·̑◡･̑๑ ‼️

[@CafeMaddy]

🥰thank you always

[@WuCandice]

I love your podcast ❤ you are wonderful.

[@keelyhasim952]

really miss your podcasts 😍

[@user-vq8dv6vu7h]

I love these podcast so much

[@aljavaddmaruz695]

I don't know why but I just started watching your videos this day and it's so calm. Thank you so much. Maybe you don't know but you make someone happy in the other part of the world. INDONESIA🇮🇩

[@xxdluvsjiroxx]

Thank you for this. I love that your podcast isn’t just like any random podcast, you share experiences and lessons we all can take from them. 💕

[@chinglanlie639]

I feel better.

[@graceholmes9219]

this is such a sweet podcast, thank you so much maddy for being you and spreading positivity in the world

[@sumnimarai5962]

This podcast really touched me. Thank you so much for this 😭💖

[@viktorijaivanovic2543]

In my country we have the similar dish and we call it sarma, my favorite 🥰

[@jinhokim8335]

Your an angel. Love this video. Please continue the vibe.

[@3078mik]

Mark!! noticed your hair style. I luv it!!

[@the1betterpodcast84]

i guess this is now my new favorite channel

[@fernandaribeiro3059]

Everything changed for me when I started to do things for myself, not for others. I don't care about what my husband is doing, what my friends are doing. I get up, do some exercise, drink a good coffee, take a good shower, go to bed smelling delicious and I feel so fulfilled with myself only. ❤️ Too bad I learned it so late, I was 27 when I realized all of that. Now I'm 31. 🥰🥰🥰🥰 Living my best life.

[@CafeMaddy]

So happy to hear this! It was around 27 when i started to change the way i spoke to myself too. We have the rest of our lives now :)

[@anitasu76]

hi maddy, thank you for sharing your insights/stories. i've been doing therapy recently and my therapist reminds me i need to be more kind to myself at the end of every session but it's only until hearing your episode on adopting a self-parent mindset, i really understood how i can achieve an inner dialogue filled with kindness and compassion. thank you for teaching me that.

[@CafeMaddy]

glad it helped you as it's helped me a lot too :) thanks for watching Anita

[@lisachanggg]

Love this episode and really want to try the recipe! Do you have a written recipe you can share? Thank you Maddy!

[@CafeMaddy]

Thank you lisa :) I'll be sharing a recipe video soon

[@leoljillian]

loving these podcasts :) is this recipe available somewhere?

[@CafeMaddy]

Yes will be posting a recipe soon!

[@sanianoor5048]

I bitter cried here🥲 Thanks maddy

[@CafeMaddy]

💕💕thanks for watching

[@oneasteroid]

I just realized how rude i'm being with myself and it really touched me, the idea of my mom talking to me just made me cry. I'm working on my self-love and it's been so hard since everything seems to came out pretty bad, eventhough I try so hard. I really felt this, now I have a better idea to be kind to myself and forgive words and actions that keep on hurting me, most of the time. I think it's never late for giving myself another "second chance" and do things the right way. Thanks Maddy, I really needed this for starting my week the best way possible ❤‍🩹❤‍🩹