Can Catholic Girls Ask Guys Out? | Catholic Girls Making the First Move

Can Catholic Girls Ask Guys Out? | Catholic Girls Making the First Move
Can a girl ask a guy out, or is there something innate about men making the first move? The fact that people ask this question indicates there is a difference between men and women, but it's important not to exaggerate those differences. So, should a Catholic girl make the first move?
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[@Tommymore11]

My husband and I met on a dating site - he initiated the conversation and we soon realized we had so much in common despite being raised in two different countries that I just had to meet him in person asap! I asked him out to attend mass and dinner with me to which he promptly replied yes! We both knew within weeks that we had both finally found our true love and almost a year from our first date he proposed! We are now happily married and I’m so glad God had placed on my heart to ask him to mass and dinner!! 💕💕

[@crohunter100]

The man should ask the woman out BUT BUT BUT the girl shouldn't be afraid to start a conversation You're welcome

[@rightbrainintrovert7764]

Would have never guessed that Christopher West's wife first asked him out! Never! Had to hear it in the flesh to believe! God is hilarious! You 2 rock!

[@1deecee12]

After being friends with my male friend for 7 years I am contemplating asking him if he is interested in pursuing more than just a friendship. He is always there for me and we have gone out many times but I am the one who usually calls him. He is shy and takes care of his family alot. I may be making a mistake but either way, I will know where I stand.

[@maxbarton1313]

Do it! 7 years is a long time

[@veddermn8]

It doesn't matter who asks who out first. Just learn about each other and find someone that brings you some joy and peace. Don't make it hard.

[@maxhess3151]

My girlfriend in college asked me out at synagogue. I said the exact same line: "Let me pray on it." That only took me a few seconds though lol.

[@trinidadraj152]

I was happy to see how you both approached this topic with a lot of balance and nuance, sharing some wisdom without answering with black-and-whites. The "exaggerated" approach you alluded to is something I've often seen come from surface level interpretations of TOTB, where my Catholic friends gather from some talk that the women simply cannot express any direct interest in a man, which just leads to resentment later because men are unsure of whether or not to ask without offending a woman, the woman feels bad no one asks her, but she's not openly sharing that she is open, and the man is all confused about what is appropriate or inappropriate. :P A vicious cycle, haha. Better for people to communicate well while also acknowledge that there really does seem to be a good "dance" between masculine and feminine complementarity that tends to show up in healthy relationship patterns. Theology of the Body helps guide our thinking, but in real situations we can't expect to have "perfect" answers. Being open to the mystery of relationships also lets us remain open to the mystery of how God works even in the messiness of our relationships

[@2555Edu]

as a man I don't expect girls to approach me and ask for my number or something, but it would be great if a girl who have interest in me and I don't notice it, to be the first one to make a move. As a man I'll approach the girl I want to know, but sometimes I won't notice a girl who might have an interest in me.

[@betmikael28]

This is so interesting. I always thought if you dont notice someone its a sign that you are not interested. Maybe I dont get this because I notice everything😁

[@cbentler4528]

I want to hear your full love story!!!

[@magnifisquish]

Thank you for sharing your own story! How beautiful :~)

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

Thank you for watching!

[@dranerane4912]

My heart aches 💔 when he said no 💔

[@paulgibbons2320]

Always found asking women out frustrating. There's so many pit falls an if you get it wrong it's embarrassing an leads to frustration. It's much more rewarding to go out with the girls who are into you. They are more loyal and make you feel more secure about the relationship. I find it's a much healthier outcome. If your lucky enough to be in that position.

[@rightbrainintrovert7764]

And honestly, I feel like maybe it's a possibility that you Wendy knew in the depths of your heart that God's plan was for Chrisopher and you to be each other's spouse; but just maybe it's possible that your young little self at the time got 'ahead' of God's plan (because we women have our intuitions and not always patience) and in a small sense, grasped for what was going to be made possible from God through the man (Christopher) within a year later. Obviously this is just a thought and may not be the truth. Food for thought!

[@leonoracosta6490]

Great advice! I love how you do this intellectual dance between masculinity and femininity based on your personal experience and under the light of the theology of the body. Thank you for opening up! I struggle with that, and this episode showed me that, even though God designed masculine and feminine roles in a certain way, there's some flexibility within certain boundaries. That's why prayer is so important to discern those boundaries. That's the key you guys wisely stressed.

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[@lauradahlus]

Thank you. 😇🙏

[@larrymelman]

Make no mistake, responding to a simple request for a date with "I need to pray about it" is 100% Grade-A Strange. But apparently it made her want to (gasp!) pursue him even more. A very interesting tactic.

[@betmikael28]

If someone is really praying about everything then it actually is not strange....but I agree it can sound strange to someone who is not deep into prayer

[@larrymelman]

@@betmikael28 Being "into prayer" does not mean that prayer is required to make the simple basic decisions of everyday life. The Church does not teach that, and never has. Speakers like this are leading young people astray.

[@nobodysperfect06]

Interesting that she asked him out first, unfortunately that normally doesn't happen often

[@eoinMB3949]

I think it's a worldly construct to say that a man should be the one who asks the woman out. But theres nothing in the bible to back that up. I think if you want anything in life you gotta step up and go for it, whether you be a man or a woman. Society has put women in a passive position so that they sit back and think that the man should come to them.......I know so many women who liked a guy but didnt go for it, instead they sat back and ended up some other dude who, truth be told, they didnt like as much as the first guy. That's having your power taken away and it doesn't have to be that way.

[@christophercuomo4348]

I disagree, women are more passive than men by nature, it’s not a matter of societal pressure. However, i don’t think women should just sit back and hope for the best. I think that a woman should express interest in the man, but I think the man should ultimately ask her out.

[@betmikael28]

Wait wait did he say no to the first invitation? So what happened that in the end you still got together? How did you Wendy react after that 'no'? Would love to hear the rest of the story❤

[@annawesolowski2016]

Women may discreetly introduce themselves to a chosen man, in the past a lost glove or a thrown handkerchief. Not a rule, but discretion and femininity are key to attract a good man.

[@cj7girl280]

You two are cute. 😊

[@Lauradahl-creations]

Can a girl ask a guy out? NO! I agree with Chris.

[@patrickjoeodwyer]

Women or girls can always initiate relationships, but with subtlety. If a signals her interest, and if it’s mutual, then the male will ‘act’. There is no need for the woman/girl to act or take action. Her role is to offer invitation, but not overtly. IMO

[@betmikael28]

Can you give an example of 'offer invitation but nit overtly'?

[@thelayprayloslaicosoran6390]

An exaggerated application. Nice 👍 thanksss God

[@thelayprayloslaicosoran6390]

Nice, I don't think it is cultural conditioning.

[@annaelizabeth5471]

I do not have a preference for a man proposing marriage to me. I am happy to propose!