Can I Call You Cis? | r/AreTheCisOk

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[@SorrySod]

Men are not from Mars Women are not from Venus This whole entire binary Was pulled out of Uranus There, fixed it

[@Mel.H_]

HAHAHA 😂 😆

[@carebear6036]

Just realizing the dichotomy of this goes even deeper bc Mars is represented by Ares & Venus is represented by Aphrodite

[@amypieterse4127]

Love it

[@bloodgutsandangelcake6079]

@@carebear6036 and the word "hermaphrodite" actually comes from hermes (and aphrodite.. for some reason). that was the word for intersex people, but mercury is represented by hermes. so there you go. enbies are from mercury.

[@carebear6036]

@@bloodgutsandangelcake6079 yeah! Hermaphroditus was the son of the two gods! The gods united his & Salmacis' bodies, hence the current meaning of hermaphrodites 😊

[@carololiveira4831]

“It’s dehumanising to call women people” is always a hilarious take

[@Nate5]

Calling someone a human makes them not feel like humans /s

[@InevitableSecrets]

These are the same people who can get offended over terms like Mankind lol 🙄 It’s like, make up your mind!

[@TitaniumTronic]

Who the fuck has that opinion bruh? I just wanna talk.

[@iamtheportal]

Ok birthing person… who talks like that?

[@bloodgutsandangelcake6079]

@@iamtheportal basically what the guy said that the end of the video. a mother individually could still call herself a mother, but only in medical contexts would they be referred to with a term that would describe them as "birthing", because that's literally what they're going to do, no? as a cis woman who's been pregnant before, i still referred to myself as a pregnant woman, but not everyone who gets pregnant is a woman. as for birthing person, that only sounds strange because it's not been used before lol. anyway what do you suggest then if not that?

[@m0L3ify]

The "feminists" who claim that you have to look a particular way in order to be a true woman have _completely_ missed the boat on what feminism is actually about. It cracks me up every time.

[@CorwinFound]

Gender critters are the epitome of toxic femininity. They say they support gender nonconformity as an alternative to being trans (it isn't btw). But then pick apart women for not being gender conforming enough as proof that they are trans. It's ridiculous and deeply toxic.

[@littlecatfeet9064]

Like not an erect penis or a beard? How horribly transphobic!

[@nickwittednonpareil]

I wish I had the strength to laugh at it. Watching JK Rowling destroy her legacy and a series I cared about as a child is painful, and I'm just a cis ally. I can't imagine how hard it is for actual trans kids who once looked up to her. It makes me furious.

[@Jane-oz7pp]

Especially when they reduce their womanhood down to their ability to breed 😩 like hun, you're more than a uterus.

[@Anonymous-sq6eo]

Feminism, rights for women. Men dressing up as women have absolutely nothing to do with it.

[@sharonsomers5342]

People have looked at my pictures from my youth and said I'm a transfemale. I always wonder about their mental health because there is a picture of me in the hospital holding my baby and looking exhausted. There is a picture of me pregnant. I was clearly AFAB because I had a uterus. I just have a bit more testosterone than normal and I'm okay with that. It doesn't make me trans, it makes me myself. And if somebody else needs a bit more or less testosterone to be okay and normal, that's cool too. Somebody accused me of having breast implants. I said "they are 2 different sizes! Gravity has had her way with them! Look at my car, does it look like I got a multi-million dollar settlement for the mistakes a plastic surgeon made? No? They were installed using factory settings. Get over yourself."

[@mammoneymelon]

that's one of the funniest ways to respond to someone making weird uncalled for comments about your body tbh i will never understand why people are so obsessed with whether or not someone "looks trans". the features they look for are all features that some cis women have as well, i don't understand why that's such a hard concept to grasp lol. it's almost as if human bodies are incredibly diverse are there isn't some kind of "default" body we're all supposed to have - this is why representation for ALL people is so important

[@hypatiakovalevskayasklodow9195]

how to tell on them they've never experienced boobs 🤣 naturally they rarely are symmetrical omg

[@arenlykos2421]

My favorite version of the planets one goes something like "If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, that implies at least 6 other genders just within our solar system."

[@swimmyswim417]

Lmao that’s where I was hoping it was going. The Uranus punchline got a chuckle out of me, but I definitely prefer an entire solar system of genders.

[@SomeOnlinePerson]

Incidentally, there are at least two space-themed gender "charts." They're remarkably thorough.

[@sarahr8311]

My only issue with that idea is that I still don't like that Pluto isn't a plane any more. So there should be 7 more genders besides the Mars and Venus ones.

[@eklectiktoni]

The weirdest part is that apparently both men and women are aliens. So which gender is native to Earth? 🤔

[@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos]

@@eklectiktoni Enbies ofc

[@PrrrKitten]

This one is hitting home. My trans child just came out to her grandmother. Grandmother is looking for people to blame thinking my child couldn't make up her own mind on things. Jammi, thank you. You are helping me understand more about what my child has gone through and will go through.

[@MR-nn5iu]

I wish you and your kid all the best!

[@Confused_Artist5150]

Hope you and your kid have a great life

[@anwenrees6234]

Your text just sent what my trans son nana (my mum) did to my son and me saying have a good life too us as I support my son so I had to block her and cut her out of our lifes

[@SylviaRustyFae]

The sad part is that grandma here will no doubt learn one day that her transphobic actions of today have consequences when that child chooses to distance themself from the hate of grandma. The ppl who love us, they accept us entirely no matter what, they love us unconditionally; any less that and their love is an empty promise that they wont keep. Every family member ive cut off has been bcuz of their failure to love unconditionally.

[@momamiandkiddokelsi9027]

I so understand you! My enby kiddos paternal family blames me for "putting idea's " in their head. I just shake my head and guides the relatives to Jamie's channel. I love my kiddo and will always respect them so I will fight everyone who tries to belittle my precious kiddo! You go mom! You are wonderful who stands with your child!

[@Kattlarv]

"Eating vegan makes you a girl! - I'm trans, so thanks! - Wait, NO! YOU ARE A MAN!" It's both sad and a bit hilarious how quickly they flip on a dime.

[@LunarEcho-rt9jm]

they have too many uno reverse cards up their sleeves

[@MeltedBrains89]

Ok, I'm cis but if anyone throws a "get well soon" regarding any part of my identity they're getting a "Oh, I'm much better now, thank you" in response. I like making people mad by purposefully misunderstanding them while still looking polite/calm. Too many years of customer service taught me this

[@nikoletahanakova8573]

That would be a lovely reaction :-D

[@CorwinFound]

Excellent response! I'll use it in the future. It's a form of malicious compliance. "Thanks so much! Since transitioning my mental health has improved dramatically. I appreciate your concern."

[@DeathnoteBB]

I usually say that to bigots cause they clearly need genuine help

[@sevans8784]

Pro gamer move: when someone obviously religious makes some "holier than thou" comment about my identity, I wanna say, with complete sincerity, "I'm praying for you!" I just haven't gotten up the guts yet lol for real though, if they really think my existence effects them whatsoever, they need all the prayers they can get...

[@CorwinFound]

@@DeathnoteBB I do that and get intense about it. And really specific. Like if it's a guy bitching about Elliot Page I start with a comment that they must be really insecure as a guy if Elliot triggers them. Maybe they should see a therapist about that. I stay supper sincere sounding and no matter what they say I just keep going with it. They usually just shut up within a few comments because denial starts looking guilty. One tactic against the phobe trolls.

[@dneug5053]

As a male metalhead with long hair I'm slightly offended by people assuming that men don't care about what products they use on their hair. Out of all my roommates, out of which I'm the only cis-person, I'm the one using the most products for his hair. Does that mean that the transphobes can't stand cis-men who take care of their hair either?

[@noahluppe]

I only have shampoo, but gone through a few to find a good working one (and that also changed over time). But I probably should get some more stuff, my hair would maybe not get as damaged, especially as I normally wrap it relatively tightly.

[@marnenotmarnie259]

some of them unironically are like that

[@keeratkahlon9035]

These people will be like "Real men don't care about their appearance" and than show a picture of bodybuilding model who has starved and dehydrated himself with a strict fitness regiment as an example of "Real Men" (Nothing against models, beauty, fashion and film industry has abused a lot of it's workers who are just trying to earn a living, through near unreachable standards which change very quickly, while further perpetuating bodyshaming misogynistic and transphobic ideals to the rest of the population to sell their products. That being said i find the irony of the "Real men don't care" crowd rather funny)

[@sophiejones3554]

@@noahluppe I’m guessing from the mention of wrapping that you have very curly hair, so you definitely want a conditioner. It is worth noting though that conditioners come in two varieties: wash-out and leave-in. You may want to try just using a leave-in conditioner first. Apply it when you wrap your hair rather than in the shower.

[@noahluppe]

@@sophiejones3554 Nah I have straight hair. But loose they can get in the way so I have a kinda bun, but I don't care for looks, so I just wrap it around itself tightly to some form of bun/topknot. But thx much for the help ^^ I had wash out condisheners a couple times but I'm mainly just too lazy to apply and buy :)

[@brilliantchaos5397]

I think most cis people that refuse the word "cis" just don't like the implication of them not being the "standard" or norm and therefore feel like they shouldn't need a prefix. Since they are "regular". I think that's why they get so riled up.

[@passionate_possum_pal]

They were so used to having the privilege of being considered default, that now they don't want to give that up, because it feels like oppression to them

[@MR-nn5iu]

@@passionate_possum_pal That does sound plausible yeah. Especially with the repeated "special treatment" schtick they tend to repeat as their justification because the treatment doesn't directly affect them positively

[@passionate_possum_pal]

@@MR-nn5iu It's the same thing that people used with gay marriage and the like.

[@MR-nn5iu]

@@passionate_possum_pal Heck, they're STILL using it. Old habits really die hard with some people.

[@amarisfrede2]

Yeah, I'd like them to read a text where things are switched, like: "We welcome all men and cis men, whether they are in a marriage or straight marriage, all are valid." Wonder how quick they would think it's stupid to just prefix one and not the other.

[@Lorena-eh5cl]

This doesn’t have to do with being queer, but it does have to do with labels. I’m autistic and I said “neurotypical” on a chat once. And someone replied “I din’t have to know what neurotypical means to know that that’s a slur!” 😐 I was literally speechless lol

[@commandercorl1544]

...why

[@theedenadventures]

That’s like the non autistics telling the autistics what language to use regarding their own diagnosis and being offended on their behalf.

[@Montesama314]

"I'm the default! Labels are for THOSE LESSER people."

[@AstralArbourSys]

@@theedenadventures oh my god don't get me going about person first language. it's all well and good if that's how you as someone with a disability want to be described, but pushing that on others isn't cool especially if you don't even have the disorder they do to begin with. i'm an autistic person, not a person with autism, don't make it sound like a fucking disease.

[@_gorillazfreakinc._2]

Yet they're probably the same people to casually use the r word, which is an actual slur.

[@BambiTrout]

Apparently the whole pink and blue thing goes deeper than just switching. Before around 1918, there were no gendered colours or even gendered clothes for children. All children up to the age of about 7 wore the same clothes in neutral colours - largely because people could only afford a limited amount of clothes, dyes were expensive, and this allowed parents to use every item of clothing as a hand-me-down regardless of sex. This changed after WW1 largely as a marketing strategy. In the post-war market, clothing manufacturers realised they could double their profits by pushing consumers to buy two separate sets of children's clothing, so style magazines started to promote the use of pink and blue to designate boys' and girls' clothing respectively. By the mid-1920s they had started to more aggressively push for fully differentiated clothing for boys and girls. The colours eventually switched in the 1940s, which held for a generation, until the 60s and 70s, when women's liberation movements started to push for unisex children's clothing once again. Gendered clothing only came back into fashion for babies in the mid-80s, when it became possible to detect the sex of a fetus, allowing parents to splurge on blue and pink paint again and excitedly tell everyone about their unborn child's genitalia. I think it's really interesting how these things have always been presented to us by our parents and grandparents as just "the way things are" when THEY were the ones who changed it to be like this. They act as if gender is a scientific fact, unchangeable from before birth, when in reality, they've been switching the cards for years. Fucking doublethink. Pink is for boys and blue is for girls. Blue is for boys and pink is for girls. White is for boys and white is for girls. The past is alterable. The past never had been altered. There is no war in Ba Sing Se. Oceania has always been at war with Eastasia. No but seriously, gendered clothing for kids is bullshit.

[@commandercorl1544]

Hah, I never knew this! It makes sense that they lost dyes in WWI (Had to use those for uniforms and various war related things) but I didn't know it switched more than once.

[@electronics-girl]

I suspect the meaning of pink and blue has gotten "locked in" now that we have color photography. I doubt it will switch again.

[@m-vi-yoh]

1984

[@Prence]

As a trans woman, I started to carry both a pad and a couple Tampons in my purse. Obviously I don't need them but if I'm in a stall and someone who does use them needs one, I will have them on me.. I learned to do that from another trans woman on the internet. Plus, it makes me feel affirmed when I go through my purse and I see that I carry them as any other woman would.

[@yippee8570]

Aw that's so sweet! I love this💞

[@Tree-House69]

Absolutely, it's a life saver to have them around when someone else is stuck in a restroom without anything aside from TP, before I transitioned (trans masc) I always carried spare that I wouldn't need if I was out just so I could hand a smaller pack off to someone who's stuck or similar. Now I still sometimes carry a small pack if it's possible, mostly to offer to a friend of someone who's stuck, one of my cis woman friends or in the far-off chance that in trans friendly spaces another trans masc or NB gets stuck when their periods start.

[@LesRealLlama]

Oh thank you this, could come in use for me in the future ❤️❤️

[@Prence]

@foxymoron I’m a trans woman, are you saying I’m transphobic? I’m just trying to do something nice for other people. And just so you know, men can have periods as well. I’m not transphobic, please stop trying to make it out as I am.

[@actualgoblin]

@foxymoron I get that you're trolling, but you should be able to understand that not all people belonging to a group possess certain traits while still recognizing that there is a statistical association between the two

[@time_keeper2244]

As a trans person and genetics student, I would love the ability to see chromosomes with my bare eyes! INSTANT KARYOTYPE?! PLEASE!

[@m0L3ify]

As a former Research Assistant, I can definitely say that would have made my job a WHOLE lot easier! "Look at all you plebs with your ethidium bromide and your agarose gels! I can see that mouse's heterozygosity with my BARE EYES!!"

[@dianapovero7319]

@@m0L3ify Yes! just yes.

[@m0L3ify]

@@dianapovero7319 This entire convo is even more fun when you read it in Ryan George's voice 😄

[@kevinbatfan1989]

If you’re truly a genetic student, you would know that you can never be the gender opposite of what you were born with. It’s called common sense

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

@@kevinbatfan1989 The appeal to "common sense" is a logical fallacy known as the argument from incredulity. Not only are you completely ignorant of genetics, you also fail at formal logic.

[@friendbright5375]

I think I actually disagree with a point you've made in this video: You CAN misgender someone by using gender-neutral terms, but only in specific contexts. My parents started calling me "they" when I came out to them despite my pronouns not being they/them. They thought they were making a compromise, not using my AGAB anymore but refusing to call me by my name and pronouns, but they just found a new way to misgender me. Degendering, depending on the context, is just as bad as misgendering Edit: Just to clarify, since somebody in the replies pointed this out: Gender neutral language IS important, especially in the context of law and medicine, this comment is referring exclusively to a specific statement Jamie made and not the actual post it was addressing. People give birth; this includes women, men, and nonbinary people.

[@SailorSaturn1994]

yep, exactly this. they/them is perfectly good in situations where you don't know the person's pronouns, but only as long as you actually don't know. and ofc when the person's pronouns *are* they/them. I'm really sorry your parents are misgendering you and I hope they either learn to do better or that you can leave as soon as you can and it's safe to do so.

[@komaedakat1583]

my mom did this to my brother when he came out as trans. It's lazy, especially since they/them are my pronouns by my mom decides when she wants to use them to talk about me to others :/

[@Nakia11798]

It's about context. If people are using they/them for people they don't know the gender of, or that person doesn't care about what pronouns someone uses, it's obviously very different than your scenario. Sorry that your parents suck btw, that's not compromise. There's no compromising in respecting your child.

[@tra12048]

That just sounds like a blatant attempt at an insult tbh. It shows that they _are_ capable of using new pronouns for you, but they don't want to bother actually using the correct ones lol. It's even worse if they don't even need to use new pronouns for you (nonbinary AMAB keeping their he/him pronouns, for instance). It's just outright disrespect at that point.

[@delfyinc]

Jamie's point was about inclusive gender neutral terms. Like, it's not misgendering to use they/them when talking about a group of people. In your situation, with singular use towards you specifically when it's not your pronoun, it absolutely is. I hope your parents figure it out and come around soon

[@BinturongGirl]

The person who posted the tweet at 2:08 went on a full twitter rampage, posting a whole thread of pics of old and current friends, acquaintances, their kid's teacher, even their children's friends etc, claiming that they were all trans. It was really fucking creepy and probably criminal. They were ranting about how the trans are everywhere. It was honestly deranged.

[@draalttom844]

Great he didn't try to fuck any of them at least, they all get a place at our table

[@foxinabox5103]

WTH?!! That fucked up...

[@sophiejones3554]

I mean… yeah, that literally does sound like it could be a symptom of a mental illness actually. It think it’s called Capgras Syndrome. Literally, sufferers think everyone they love has been replaced by imposters.

[@draalttom844]

@@sophiejones3554 imposters, not transitionned

[@enbyarchmage]

The creepiness of that person's actions only proves one thing Idiscovered pretty quickly, after I dove into the gender rabbit hole: it's pretty freaking easy to "headcanon" ANY person as trans. One only has to ask themselves "is this person trans?" in order to find a whole lot of ways with which the person in question fits gender stereotypes that do not match their AGAB, whatever that may be. My own mom, for instance, is transphobic and very much cis, but she was a huge tomboy as a child and, since that time, her personality can be so stereotypically masculine that a therapist once criticized her for it several times in their first (and only) session.

[@RedSunsetDK]

As a cis woman who is calling myself and other cis gendered people cis, oh definitely yes I'm okay with being called cis 😊

[@-Aquablue-]

Same!

[@lauratroy13]

Same. If it's relevant in a conversation i refer to myself as a cis woman. Don't see a problem with it

[@chazbertino6102]

I prefer real or normal, but to each their own lol

[@RedSunsetDK]

@@chazbertino6102 well since trans women are both real and normal women, that doesn't differentiate between cis and trans women or same for trans and cis men.

[@passionate_possum_pal]

@@chazbertino6102 trans women are real and normal, pal.

[@kristi6274]

The one thing I've see and hate the most are the "I was a tomboy, it would have be horrific to be "forced to transition". Like???? I was a tomboy but didn't feel or identity as male, all you have/had to do is ask 🙃 Nobody would just start calling you trans if that's not what you identify as like what are some of these people on??

[@overworkedwarlock94]

Well, they need to find SOMETHING to complain about.

[@kristi6274]

@@overworkedwarlock94 oh definitely they aren't happy unless they are complaining but still aren't happy because they weren't oppressed

[@sammy-the-haze]

But also, I was a tomboy and would’ve been THRILLED to know that I had the option to transition before I was 15 and all the way through natal puberty

[@kristi6274]

@@sammy-the-haze right, like a simple 10 minute conversation might save save a lot of confusion for the child, but to assume either way is just wild when the person is literally there to be asked

[@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos]

@@kristi6274 Uhg, so true. Growing up in the 90s and oughts was just awful for trans awareness. The number of times I thought, "Well shoot, it sure would be great if I had been born a girl. Oh well, nothing to be done about it; as everyone knows, t****ies are not in their right mind. Although, again, I totally get why they would want to transition. Men really did lose the chromosomal lottery." Like, just being brought up in a culture where being trans wasn't a punchline would have saved me a _lot_ of unhappiness and anxiety.

[@lizf1353]

The person who said "everything we've seen from the LGBTQ community was planed in the 90's" was right! We did have a evil plan in the 90's to try to be treated as equal, have our human rights respected, and be treated with dignity. 😯😱🤣🤣

[@jengerbreadhouse]

and the planning only started in the 90s! every bit of progress before then was an accident

[@uta6280]

@@jengerbreadhouse except for the gay pirates, people wouldn't be civil so we did what we had to do, and if that's traveling the high seas with a loving partner so be it.

[@eklectiktoni]

I thought they were talking about climate change 😵‍💫

[@lizf1353]

@@jengerbreadhouse Hahahaha

[@lizf1353]

@@uta6280 🤣

[@bitchenboutique6953]

The folks who insist they can SEE chromosomes annoy me so much that a few times I’ve said “so you are 100% sure you know what mine are?” (I’m a cis woman) and they say yes. So I press “you’re absolutely sure?” and they say yes. So I smirk and say “Really. You’re positive. You are 100% sure I was not only born female but my chromosomes are definitely XX.” And I just stare them down. Because yeah sure I happened to have been born with typically female bits and I definitely have the secondary sex characteristics associated with females, but I have no idea what my chromosomal makeup is. I also have a bit of a deep voice and am nowhere near “dainty,” so it doesn’t take much to get them to question that 100% they were so sure of a minute earlier. Just for grins.

[@wordforger]

Lol. Reminds me of the first transwoman I ever met. Her daughter was giving her a bit of hell about not being able to sing high because she was transitioning later in life... So I couldn't help it. I sang my lowest note. Yeah, I'm cis, but I've got a deeper voice for a woman and have been accused of sounding like a baritone when I get down there because I know I how to make it sound mannish. So I figured that would make her feel a little better. A lot of standards we hold for what makes someone a woman are total BS.

[@bitchenboutique6953]

@@wordforger In high school even though I was in the soprano section of the choir, I stood behind the tenors… and whenever they struggled with their part, I’d switch to help them out!

[@sanityshattered]

Person: "Saying 'people' is dehumanising." The same person: "Why not say 'women, trans and nb PEOPLE'?" oh.

[@tidepodpadthai2633]

Also they said "we are women, not "people"" as if you aren't both? i doubt they even thought about what they wrote before they posted it but they really should have thought about the implication there

[@sileudies]

Voidpunk people:

[@FaunaturaleOG]

Same for those who are iffy about they/them YET those same pronouns are used casually for past tense settings. Just wild

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

It has the same energy as when people get offended by "Happy Holidays." The language is meant to be more inclusive, and nobody said you aren't allowed to celebrate Christmas anymore. Similarly, nobody ever said that women have to stop calling themselves women.

[@carlairving]

Being legally considered as "persons" was one of the biggest first-wave feminist fight in Canada. Now, TERFs cry when we are included as people...

[@MichaelMann-hg5kv]

8:31 well... As a trans guy, I'm sorry to say that it's kinda true. I don't pass at all, so when I went to get a *men's* haircut that I got an appointment for *in advance*, the hairdresser wanted to charge me for a *women's* haircut, which is a lot more expensive. If I was born male, I would've been charged for much less in the first place, but instead I tried to explain to him that I appointed a *men's* haircut and that I'm a *guy*, all while trying to suppress a panic attack. And after all that I only got a minor discount accompanied by the most condescending tone and him acting as if I'm a child that he's trying to calm down like "here, does that make you feel better?". I'm so freaking tired of all the inherent misogyny in society, from big to small. It just drives me crazy, and every time I experience it myself it reminds me that we live in a messed up world and also that no one will ever truly see me as a man. So yea, fun (Anyway sorry for the long rant, guess I just had to get it out of my system)

[@calamityjean1525]

I'm sorry you had such a hard time. Maybe the next time you need a haircut, if the hairdresser insults you like that you consider just getting up and leaving. Go to another establishment that treats you better.

[@amarisfrede2]

Sorry dude, that sucks. I had something similar happen to me once. Although I'm a cis woman, I did go to a hairdresser to get a man cut. I had long hair, and just wanted all of it shaved of. So, nothing complex, I thought. And they did advertise for a mashine cut for 10€. However, the hairdresser started by making my hair wet. I asked why, and they said that it's standard for a woman's cut. I told them I just wanted everything shaved off, for the 10€ they advertised. They said they couldn't do that, because I'm a woman. I said, then I don't want it, and left with my wet hair. Ended up shaving it with clippers myself, and have been doing so for over a decade now. I'm sorry the hairdresser was rude to you. If it helps you let off steam, write them a review, cuz basically the hairdresser just disrespected you, assigning an identity to you that isn't yours. It's like he'd suddenly dye someone's hair black, because they 'looked goth' to him, instead of the red or pink the customer ordered. The hairdresser should have treated you and your wishes with respect, but he didn't, and that's on him, not on you! And the people that matter will always see you how you are, and respect your identity as a man. It shouldn't matter, how well you 'pass'. Nobody is forcing Madonna to look like a Madonna, but they respect her name and identity all the same. So, no matter as what kind of man you are presenting or appearing, you are a man, and that's all anyone needs to know to respect you!

[@dianeb-r8512]

I feel you bro... that's exactly because I fear something like that would happen that I haven't come out (as transmasc) to my usual hairdresser yet. For context, my parents have moved away from the place where I have grown up a few years ago, and they now live in a flat. One of their greatest joys is that there is a hairdresser literally next door to their building, and he does a really good job. As I am a student, I got the holidays during a part of which I go to my parents', and then, since it's very convenient and practical, I go get my haircut there. The problem is, as the appointment has to be done in advance (like, at least 3 weeks), my parents do it for me... so, they get an appointment for their "daughter". So I get to pay the "woman price" and to be misgendered all along... I tried to explain to the guy why I wanted a short haircut the first time I came (I had very long hair for most of my life), but I was just so scared that he would judge me or make any bad comment (more the fact that I am very shy) that I ended up not saying anything. And my parents don't even understand the problem...I feel so tired sometimes. Like you said, the world is messed up. Stay strong bro

[@muriel5826]

@@dianeb-r8512 so sorry to hear this. I hope you get to claim your true identity in all aspects of your life soon. But I also understand that you need to feel safe before doing so. I hope that makes sense

[@Anonymous-sq6eo]

Of course people will never see you as a man, because you’re not a man. The sooner you learn to live with it, the better.

[@ariwillis4845]

Damn the daycare one hit real close to home, as I am a nonbinary childcare provider who uses they/them. Kids always ask me “are you a boy or a girl?” and I struggle to answer because I worry that word may get back to parents who do not approve. My default response at this point is “I’m a mystery.”

[@Otakugatothequeen]

I'm cis, but sometimes when people ask for your gender out of nowhere it can be kinda weird so I usually just reply with, "I'm a genderless blob of Autism and hate." ...I have Autism and social anxiety...

[@mammoneymelon]

my mom teaches first grade and every year the kids get confused and ask my mom if i'm a boy or a girl (i'm a stereotypical nonbinary person with an odd name) and she tells them to ask me, so when they ask my go-to response is "what do YOU think i am?" because i think it's funny watching them try to decide lmao

[@IdaMSG]

I watched the Baymax episode last night with my two children (6 and 3 years old). I had just briefly explained periods to them when this scene came up and the oldest said "That's a man" and right after he said "but men can have uteruses!" I did something right. ❤️🏳️‍⚧️ Then we talk about what being trans means and how I knew he was trans because of the flag on his shirt. 🏳️‍⚧️ I don't keep anything from my children and see these topics as the most natural thing. But I'm so happy they are having these stories in cartoons ❤️🙌

[@Am-uj6qn]

The most natural thing? Is there annother defenition for natural that i don t know about? Because natural means that it happens in nature and i don t think any other animal is taking hormones and doing surgery because they feel like they are in the wrong body. Being trans is far from natural.

[@shezedks]

Based parent story, hope they're enjoying the series 👍🏳️‍⚧️

[@quantumgroovytime]

incredible, thank you, your kids are lucky to have you :]

[@quantumgroovytime]

@@rhymerlegend2717 ok??? and i don’t, they have an incredible parent who is raising them to treat everyone with respect and dignity.

[@quantumgroovytime]

@@rhymerlegend2717 you have make 1K+ comments on this channel. yikes.

[@vadskamanta]

The pregnancy part really got to me. Was at an amusement park today, and naturally they had rides you're not allowed to go on if you're pregnant. However they stated that "pregnant women" aren't allowed on them, so I assume it would be totally fine to go on them if you're male or non-binary and pregnant! It's not even that hard, just say "If you are pregnant you're not allowed on this ride". Interestingly enough, the statement about pregnant women was also only in the english version. In the native language they only stated 'pregnant' without any gender attached. They also only had diaper changing stations for kids in the women's bathrooms so tough luck if you're a male (cis or trans) and there with a kid who still wears diapers. Honestly, fine I get that they don't think inclusive language is necessary (I obviously don't agree since I reacted to it), but it can't be that 'woke' of an idea for a male to go with their kids to an amusement park?? Can it??

[@PlatinumAltaria]

These people think that fathers are dangers to their own children, so actually they probably do think it's weird for dads to take their kids out.

[@VJ2099]

Come on friend, have a bit of common sense. Regardless of whether the sign says pregnant women, men, or non-binary, the keyword here is *pregnant* so if you’re pregnant anything, you obviously shouldn’t be going on certain rides.

[@VJ2099]

@EC Lowe good point

[@alexabaxter6658]

In Australia, major shopping centres have "parents' rooms" for that kind of thing, so neither the standard male nor female needs to have diaper tables or accommodate wheeling in a pushchair. Realistically a guy alone with his kids might get weird looks or worse, but the signage doesn't enforce it at least. The women's bathroom is just stalls and sinks plus menstrual product disposal bins, so kids are only in there once they're old enough to attempt to use the standard facilities or wait for their mother to. I'd hope a dad can do that too! There's the disabled bathroom if the normal options fail, that's roomy and has a change table, but you don't want to use it and make disabled people with no other option wait.

[@eclowe6594]

@Marianne science disagrees but you do you

[@omni-one376]

just wanted to share a token of trans joy about finally finding the courage to use the mens bathroom for the first time a few days ago. these videos really helped in building up that courage over the last half year and i wanted to say thank you anyway have a nice day everyone and I'm sure any of you who haven't found that courage yet are going to find it soon ✨️🏳️‍⚧️✨️

[@Rene-is-confused]

That’s so great!!! I’m so happy for you!!!!

[@omni-one376]

@@Rene-is-confused thank youuuuu ❤️

[@charliesmith2797]

I'm so happy for you!! I'm a trans guy and I hope that someday I'll be able to do that too :)

[@omni-one376]

@@charliesmith2797 I'm sure you will. little piece of advice: try to go to some place where there are really few people so its less likely to run into someone in the bathroom, takes away a lot of stress ❤️

[@gonewitht]

That’s amazing! Glad to see some trans joy :D

[@EvanNeedsTherapy]

You know, I just realized when people do the whole “phobia means irrational fear of something” I’m not blankphobic! They really aren’t saying they aren’t afraid, they’re saying they aren’t IRRATIONALLY afraid. They believe their fears are rational, because they believe queer people are predators, which is entirely statistically baseless, they are irrational but they’re justifying it with fear mongering. Wild

[@catherineshaw3462]

Yes, I have seen that directly argued. ("I'm not homophobic, I'm not scared of gays.") Unfortunately for them, the definition of phobia includes irrational fear and/or hatred of X, and their actions are pretty hateful,

[@shawh6937]

True, they definitely see their views as rational. They also ignore the fact that phobia can mean "aversion to" and not just "fear of" and I think it's safe to say transphobes certainly have an aversion to trans people.

[@sophiatrocentraisin]

While what you say has merits (they think their fears are rational), people who play the "litteral definition of phobia" card usually say they aren't afraid. Right before revealing how afraid they are. And if you think "not being afraid" and "being afraid for rational reasons" at the same time is incompatible for basic logical reasons, welcome into the mind of the "facts and logic" crowd

[@catherineshaw3462]

@Marianne So would you be happy with Jamie coming into women's spaces, then? Genuinely curious.

[@catherineshaw3462]

@Marianne Thank you for answering and for being consistent. I agree it's often about passing, and given that most people would read Jamie as male I suspect he would have problems getting in to women-only spaces if he wanted to. (Also, the route he took to physical transition didn't involve having anything carved out of his arm - he has a number of videos about what he chose to do, some of them posted within the last couple of weeks.) But to address your other point - the vast majority of transwomen aren't a threat to other women. As far as I can tell. Or are you referring to something other than a physical threat?

[@cayk481]

4:32 "i'm not afraid of trans people!" *proceeds to explain how scared they are of their supposed plans*

[@theomegajuice8660]

The "I wouldn't be offended, I'd be annoyed and insulted" responses to being called "cis" are really weird... that basically IS being offended but they've had it drilled into them so hard that "people who get offended by things are irrational and bad" that they're dancing around the word.

[@Tree-House69]

It's a more specific version of offended, but to them they view offended as "The thing irrational hysterical people do" due to the language in recent popular politics online and IRL, so since they see themselves as the "Completely rational logical and morally correct ones against them there Crazies(tm)" they look for a way to still try to separate themselves from the concept of offense/taking offense.

[@CorwinFound]

"Not offended but annoyed and insulted" = "I'm not a snowflake but I fall from the sky and melt with minimal heat."

[@happyanonymous9789]

Well, it's the same as when trans men/women are told that they're not real men/women. Trans women are trans women. They're not the same as biological women and they will never be that. Same for trans men. If a trans person can't accept that they're trans and instead gets offended when someone doesn't see them as real man/woman, I don't see why a cis person can't be offended over being called "cis". Hypocrisy by LGBT as usual.

[@Jane-oz7pp]

"to hurt the feelings of or insult - She uses language that offends people" - Merriam Webster definition of offend.

[@happyanonymous9789]

@@Jane-oz7pp Goes both ways really.

[@thalianero1071]

I think the “people who get pregnant” backlash is in part due to more transphobic branches of feminism that include misogyny and reproductive oppression as experiences that are essential and universal to women’s experiences. Then, to say that pregnancy is for “people” instead of “women” flies in the face of these theories

[@theomegajuice8660]

The point I always make about "people who can get pregnant" that no one else makes is that it's important because GIRLS, who are NOT women yet, can also get pregnant. It's actually really important that you don't automatically assume that everyone getting pregnant is an adult by defaulting to "women" even if you're anti-trans. But trans-exclusionists seem to care more about excluding trans people than they do about acknowledging this issue affects cis-girls

[@m0L3ify]

@@rhymerlegend2717 I'm pretty sure there are a lot more girls under the age of 18 than you're accounting for

[@CelestialScribbler]

@@rhymerlegend2717 Trans men and non-binary people who can get pregnant may be a minority but they are people and not women, what's the harm in including them. And even if you want to be transphobic, are 10 year old kids really women just because if assaulted they can get pregnant? It's not about changing the entire language, it's about small changes to be more inclusive when appropriate.

[@m0L3ify]

@@rhymerlegend2717 Not really, but have a nice day anyway

[@shadowsimp697]

@@rhymerlegend2717 the term "people who can get pregnant" refers to people with a biological ability; not every person who can get pregnant is a woman AS WELL AS not every woman (cis included!) can get pregnant. this term serves the purpose of talking about a certain aspect, where gender simply doesn't matter.

[@biggiechungus784]

Cis is an adjective, not a slur. I wouldn't expect the people who don't know what a pronoun is to understand that though

[@bloodgutsandangelcake6079]

actually it can be a prefix too ^^ but agreed.

[@oonooooooooo]

literally, second grade english would beat their a$$ up

[@jojo-digidestined4073]

@Marianne so you would deny somebody a comfort just because there different that's fine along as there aloud to miss gender you other wise that's called being a hypocrit

[@lucienfortner841]

@Marianne The truth is that people are the gender they say they are. They're the ones living as themselves, they know what gender they are. You, as a complete stranger, do not know other people's gender better than they do.

[@vanessadisco6643]

It goes beyond the word Cis... it's what the word represents. You are shoving everyone aside and insisting that women and men (99% of the world) identify themselves as "not you" in order to feel included. Just like you're shoving your way into bathrooms and sports without even a considering thought to the fact that there are real perverts in the world who are already capitalizing on all of this and disparities between women and men physically... no conversation... just, "this is how it is and if you dont like it youre transphobic... and you have no idea why there is pushback?? Videos like this are for people who already agree with you... to the rest of us it's just another example of how self-indulgent this community is.

[@glitterbug5678]

Everytime someone says they can "just tell" when someone is trans i think about the articles i read that tried to shame a trans athlete and SHAMED THE WRONG WOMAN BECAUSE HER OPPONENT WAS SO TALL AND MASCULINE

[@saltedsword8852]

I’m so glad that there are KZbinrs like you who I can look up to even as a transwoman

[@BahamutEx]

Same

[@Tree-House69]

I had mostly known and seen trans fems throughout my younger years, Jammi and Ty were the first trans mascs I got to see, I'm so happy that Jammi's channel has grown as it has since otherwise it felt like a lot of creators like him were underdogs.

[@Im_Iconic-Youre_Ironic]

Idk any mtf trans youtubers but ik noah finnace (probably spelt his last name wrong) is like Jamie, hell they both even met up and know eachother 😂

[@BahamutEx]

@@Im_Iconic-Youre_Ironic Samantha Lux and Riley j. Dennis are 2 that come to mind

[@sluttyMapleSyrup]

@@BahamutEx Riley can be hit or miss but she did make some great analyses on Brooklyn-99's LGBT+ representation. Also Philosophy Tube, Conure, and Miss London (but Idk if she's still in the Blaire White sphere of influence).

[@kierawoonarowicz8636]

Someone from my old school called me a “soy boy” once at school, I was super in the closet as a trans person then, but that made me super happy just because someone called me a boy. Didn’t even know it was an insult. I was just happy to be known as a boy.

[@xerxeskare6452]

For further context the thread made by "[blank] is a REAL woman" was about accusing all of her past college affiliates of being trans when in actuality, they were all cis. Even the cis teachers were clocked.

[@Eloraurora]

...I guess this is a hair better than her betraying an actual trans woman who confided in her, but still trash.

[@thats_a_cat6902]

I never understood why people find it dehumanizing to be be called a "person"

[@eclowe6594]

I just wanna go Mandy Patinkin in Princess Bride on them when they do that. "Dehumanizing. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means."

[@thats_a_cat6902]

@Marianne well if you are a Cis woman that is pregnant I will use she/her pronouns and call you a woman but if you're talking about pregnant people as a whole which means ANYONE who is pregnant including cis women, Trans men, non binary people, and other non gender conforming people I will use a gender neutral term such as 'person' or 'people' I am not refusing to call you a woman, you're just looking for an excuse to be angry Also 'cis' is just a term used for saying not Trans, yes Trans women are women but in some cases its important to clarify that this person is Trans and this person is cis.

[@thats_a_cat6902]

@Marianne you don't have to agree with me but I don't believe that Trans women and non binary people are erasing women they mind their own business mostly. If you can get pregnant then you have a uterus that doesn't make you a woman

[@thats_a_cat6902]

@Marianne Trans women go into women's spaces because they are women, Trans men go into men's spaces because they are men, you have probably shared a bathroom with a Trans woman more than once without even realizing it, they play in women's sports because there is no advantage that they have against cis women

[@thats_a_cat6902]

@Marianne you say that as if all Trans women are muscular and tall when most try not to workout too much in order to be more feminine

[@thalianero1071]

I would guess they’re annoyed because “cis” is not an identity term; it’s an exonym for people who are not trans. Same with almost any label for a privileged group; eg. white. It’s natural to be annoyed at having a label used for an aspect of oneself that one doesn’t consider important, but accepting that labels for privileged groups are not up to privileged groups to decide is something people should accept

[@theomegajuice8660]

I'd argue that "trans" isn't really an identity term either, it's purely descriptive. You identify as your gender (male, female, non-binary etc.) and then "trans" or "cis" describes whether that gender matchs with the one you were treated as when you were growing up.

[@SimonClarkstone]

"exonym" is a good word.

[@transgenderguineapigguy]

only that 'white' people aren't actually white... we're pink

[@KaiHenningsen]

"cis" works exactly the same way as "hetero" does. Are people just as annoyed being called "hetero"? No? Why? Because transphobes have been telling them that it is a bad word, that's why.

[@Mudblood77]

“but accepting that labels for privileged groups are not up to privileged groups to decide is something people should accept” Wow such privilege you have there putting labels on people they don’t want or didn’t ask for. So opressed 🤣🤡

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Moral of the Story: We’re all SHOOKETH that the ‘90s was 30 years ago.

[@m0L3ify]

I will live in eternal denial

[@transsexual_void_fairy]

............................................

[@rachelppython]

No no no i refuse

[@lamcb.9476]

I was watching the Baymax series and when that scene in particular came up I was like “awh that’s sweet I wish I had had all that kind of support when I first went buying pads” and then I paused and rewinded with “wait was that a trans man?” Because I honestly didn’t focus on it, and I smiled with “oh right of course not only women can have periods that’s real nice that they included that. The house of mouse is making some progress”

[@DisneyFanatic2364]

5:01 Well the first part is right. Crossdressing doesn't automatically make you trans. Could just mean you're a boy who likes dresses and makeup. Or an aspiring Shakespearean. The rest was ridiculous.

[@runic_raptor]

On the last one, it always feel like it's "Women aren't 'people' they're women," Which is uh... a little off. Women are included in people. If you think they're not included for any reason, that's weird and kinda wtf

[@austinfranklin417]

If I had no choice but to put my child in daycare. I'm worried about the quality of the facility, how well-trained the caregivers are, and how well my child gets along with the caregivers. I don't give a shit what the caregivers look like, who they love, their gender, their sexual identity, or any other thing that's none of my business. So if I had to put my child in daycare, if the best facility around is exclusively run by trans humans, then that's where my child would go.

[@dianapovero7319]

Me too, I actually said yes to the screen as if theop could hear me.

[@kevinbatfan1989]

That would actually be The worst type of daycare I’m pretty sure the trans people will try to indoctrinate your children into their beliefs and forcing them to use pronouns. Just my opinion…

[@moonlightnymph7975]

@@kevinbatfan1989 they literally wouldn’t though also, pretty much everyone uses pronouns so idk what you’re even trying to say here

[@dianapovero7319]

@@kevinbatfan1989 You do realize them is a pronoun...

[@Vroomvroom82]

@Kevin Garcia

[@hope-hk6oy]

4:12 well, that post got one thing right - queer people shouldn't get "special treatment". so I guess that means we should stop being persecuted, be able to marry who we want, adopt kids if we want to, and see ourselves represented in media! look at that, a common opinion lol

[@Dabloon-god]

Saying "Get well soon..." to a trans person also could be interpreted as, I hope you can get your hormones and/or genderaffirming surgery soon, so you feel better 😂🤌

[@finmiles965]

I really needed this after my best friend of a decade just said he’d now be deadnaming me cuz he couldn’t lie to god anymore.

[@MR-nn5iu]

Yikes, so sorry to hear that

[@passionate_possum_pal]

Goodness I'm sorry

[@eliotrix2955]

If there is a God then "he" knows your trans and I hope "he" tells your friend that your deadname is the lie

[@VeryGoodDad]

Sending hugs

[@RebelWvlf]

That "friend" sounds like he is in the cult and I am so sorry.

[@PinkPuffball1992]

As someone who is also a part of the B, I accept everyone that is a part of the community! Also, I watched the entire first season of the Baymax show, and it's basically a series of shorts where Baymax goes around and helps people with their physical health but also their emotional health as well. It's really cute and great if you just need a feel good series

[@twiggledowntown3564]

Did you change your icon? I swear I've seen you before.

[@PinkPuffball1992]

@@twiggledowntown3564 Heh, yeah, I changed it

[@twiggledowntown3564]

@@PinkPuffball1992 It looks really cool!

[@PinkPuffball1992]

@@twiggledowntown3564 Thanks! I just found it on Google images when I came out as bi and was like I wanna still be Kirby but also show off my bi pride, so yeah

[@beardiemom]

One of my letters isn't even in the commonly used acronym, but idgaf, T belongs there. 2 of my closest friends are trans and when they came out, I just responded by asking what name they wanted me to use going forward and told them that I couldn't care less what gender they were as long as they are comfortable being themselves.

[@SquisheeDog]

As a cis person the only problem I've ever had with using cis is that my mind keeps thinking it's sis. Similar to being confused when my friends kept going to a restaurant called Chi's and I thought they just liked eating a lot of cheese.

[@extrantice]

would definitely go to a cheese restaurant

[@CodaBlairLucarioEmperor]

I'm a cis guy guy and go through the same thing, but for me it's also worse because my brain then turns sis into sissy into sister like most people.

[@littlegoat713]

6:44 "Get well soon!" My response to that would be, "thanks! I'll try, but its kinda hard when you're forced to live as someone you aren't, y'know?"

[@Laura-ir7nj]

I'm offended by the words "creamy pink" I never thought there was anything worse than "moist"

[@lauratroy13]

To the vegan transphobe: my best cis male friend is vegan and is so hairy and probably the most 'manly' looking guy in our town, but sure. Eating soy makes you a girl

[@BahamutEx]

If that would be true I'd be eating tons of soy lol. (trans woman)

[@amarisfrede2]

Yeah lol, as if meat and dairy wouldn't have much more hormone residue, come on. 😁

[@BahamutEx]

@gr1mmr34per gaming probably the whole "real men eat meat" thing 🤷‍♀️

[@BahamutEx]

@gr1mmr34per gaming indeed

[@LesRealLlama]

@@BahamutEx yeah haha yh. Ima do it and i expect to be a women in the next 24 hours.. or else

[@gaypenguinhaslimes4190]

My mom is a Anthropology professor (study of humans, specifically she teaches Cultural and Physical), and when I came out as non-binary, she sat me down for a lecture, but about the statistical likelihood a primy (a baby born very ahead of due date) will later identify as trans/nonbinary, and about how gender is made up and a very well researched history of how the binary is fake An odd response to someone coming out sure, but nice nonetheless Thanks for the free collage lecture and the wonderful love and support Mama ❤️ (Just wanted to share some ok cis people as a pallet cleanser for everyone lol)

[@user-guigui01]

About the primy.... 😮😮😮😮

[@jhivarr4202]

Also born a premie (so many different ways to spell it :D ) at 23 weeks. Also trans. Always wondered if there was a connection! Looks like I will have to do some minor searching! Thank you for this comment!

[@CombustibleCake]

so i work retail currently, and when a coworker and i were stocking shelves we saw a “5-in-one for men” bottle that claimed to be shampoo, conditioner, bodywash, facewash and shaving cream. we started our male coworkers if they’d ever use it and most of them said something along the lines of “hell no, there’s no way it does all of that, what did they even put in there”

[@probably_not_garfield]

No, Jamie, we are never prepared. Precisely why we love your content 🤌

[@flasche.]

Exactly, it’s always a pleasant surprise :D

[@Commentingstuff]

Especially with all the things cis hets have going on

[@SD-uz1cc]

This was the top comment for me and I read it as he said “are you prepared” and I very much laughed at the contrast 😂

[@Commentingstuff]

@Marianne bro idk if you even watched the video but cisgender = not trans, and Heterosexual = not gay, normal = someone who doesn’t waste their time commenting that they made up a slur Hope this helped, go read a dictionary

[@Commentingstuff]

@Marianne Sorry for misgendering you with a gender neutral word, it must be so hard to be a cis woman 😖 Cisgender and Heterosexual are terms only used when necessary. I’m not going to see someone and be like “Wow they are such a cis het!” Because it’s just a term used to, your right, sub categorize. But guess what? People are “sub categorized” all the time. Is the word INTP a slur? No, it’s just an adjective used to describe people, and cisgender heterosexuals shouldn’t waste their time talking about how it “offends them”

[@lawrencescales9864]

Oh no the “I don’t know trans masc people are real” line of reasoning for pads

[@GenderFluidDragonKing]

I think what's funny about the whole soy thing is so much food has soy in it and also soy doesn't increase or decrease the amount of testosterone in someone's body by any meaningful amount. Even then estrogen isn't negative everyone has a mixture of testosterone and estrogen so it's not that big of a deal

[@amarisfrede2]

Also also, most soy is being fed to livestock, so if it did change those who eat it, shouldn't meat have an even higher concentration?

[@draalttom844]

It does change you a tiny bit, nit enough to notice but what makes me laugh when they cry about soy milk is, do you know what has a lot more oestrogene and transfers way more easily in your body (still isn't significant) cow milk.

[@Jupiter-ng1yi]

Little rant: my parents told me school is brainwashing me simply because I believe rape rates aren't going to go up if we let trans people use the correct bathroom. No way I'm going to ever tell them I'm nonbinary :/

[@Werevampiwolf]

Statistically, more Republican Congressman have been arrested for "lewd conduct" in a bathroom than trans people. There have been 0 recorded instances of trans people doing such but 3 Republican Congressman

[@amarisfrede2]

I'm sorry you're forced to live with such closed-minded people. As if the rates of trans people getting harrassed by being forced in the wrong bathroom wouldn't go down instead... And a greater acceptance in general would also reduce the hate and harrassement tomboys and femboys are currently getting, using the right bathroom. But I guess your parents don't get their 'facts' from scientific journals or newssites, right?

[@LesRealLlama]

Oh, that really sucks. Hope you get someone u can talk to about it

[@transsexual_void_fairy]

i'm so sorry.

[@muriel5826]

Thank you for sharing your identity here. I hope you find a community in person you can share the real you with, even if it’s one carefully chosen person at a time. Hugs!

[@taigathesilly]

"would you be offended if i called you a 'cis man' or a 'cis woman'" well yes because im a trans woman

[@lorifiedler13]

You could blow them a kiss. 😘 You passed the test. Congratulations 🎊

[@ke3oy_]

nicely done

[@kanyoje]

You had us in the first half not gonna lie

[@commandercorl1544]

Take my like and run off with it, along with your hilarious comment.

[@katyj6058]

This is it. This is the best comment with the read more format.

[@yippee8570]

Well, you can call me 'cis' if it's for context, why not? Otherwise just call me a 'woman'. Same for trans women. Only necessary to use 'trans' before 'woman' if we need context, because trans women are women. It's a learning journey, I admit. I did wonder the first time I heard the term, having already been a woman for a long time, why I needed to add 'cis' to it. But I thought about it, talked about it, asked questions and learned why it is indeed sometimes necessary to say 'cis woman'. Up until a few years ago I was very ignorant about trans issues (other than that I felt compassion for people forced to feel vulnerable and excluded just for wanting to be themselves). Now I'm the parent of one trans kid, one cis het kid and one cis gay kid. So we're all colours of the rainbow in our house! 😀

[@luxlloyd5805]

Perfectly worded. As a trans person, I don’t mine if people refer to me as a “trans man” in a relevant context, but if it’s irrelevant (as would be the case most of the time,) I don’t appreciate it. I’d imagine it’s the exact same for cis people.

[@CorwinFound]

I had a friend (past tense) who threw a hissy fit any time I referred to him as cis/het (or just cis or het). "You always use that as an insult." My response, "No. I tend to use those terms when you are being trans or homophobic. Because you so often are." As context he would use the t and f slurs because he thought they were funny and that he was "allowed" to say them because he had a trans, bisexual friend. I eventually gave up on him.

[@passionate_possum_pal]

That's so great! And I fully agree. I'd rather just be called who I am without a prefix, unless there's a need for clarification. Ex. "Do you need a pad" "You don't sound like [x]" this like that.

[@Anonymous-sq6eo]

Trans women are not women. Women as a word has a meaning, and men dressing up as women doesn’t fit that meaning

[@foxinabox5103]

@@CorwinFound good for you! I think You've dodged a ballistic missile there

[@eckoschreiber]

30ys ago, I went through my school asking people what they thought about heteros... Reactions by pupils and teachers alike not getting they were (presumably) asked about themselves were hilarious;o) And that's why I think the coming out process is important and enlightening even for the (alleged) defaults^^ Thx Jammi, much love!

[@storyspren]

If men are from Mars, and women are from Venus, then I must be nonbinary because I'm from Earth :p

[@icaruish]

ah yes, the two genders : creamy pink and light blue-

[@theradioestofbois]

The two colors, girl and boy. What about the creamy buttered popcorn gender

[@Ava-wu4qp]

The word "creamy" being associated with a person's gender is just off-putting imho

[@cat_clawz9473]

The rest of the color wheel: am I a joke to you? ;-;

[@LesRealLlama]

(And maybe trans) - the other thing

[@maayanona]

9:51 ... You do know that soy doesn't have real estrogen in it, but cow's milk does, right?.... because a female cow actually has estrogen while soy is a plant...

[@bastienfelix4605]

I’m a cis man. I like to occasionally wear dresses or makeup. This is only because I find them pretty. I’m cis and feel perfectly comfortable in my masculinity. I actually hate that there aren’t any big brands of dresses for men. Dresses are usually very droopy around the chest when I wear them so…

[@epichoagie5999]

If someone needs to cling to a "simple binary", then it is pretty clear they are simple-minded. Frankly the whole gender spectrum thing is not that difficult of a concept to grasp. So I have to figure that, if someone is unwilling to learn it, they must be rather smooth-brained.

[@anti-usernamesaltaccount3623]

Oh, to be a mouse unaware of the social construct that is gender.

[@haha-lj5sq]

Nah I’ve studied it a lot but I disagree.

[@epichoagie5999]

@@haha-lj5sq Define "studied". Do you mean you actually looked into scholarly resources and did research? Because you seem to be disagreeing with mountains of research from scientists of multiple stripes.

[@gustavohermandio1440]

its not about learning xD people just disagree with your spectrum idea of gender. its a social construct, meaning that society gets to decide how it works. the leftist academic lunatics that want to separate gender from sex do not talk for society as a whole. when most human agree that gender is a spectrum, gender will be a spectrum. for now, the humans of earth do NOT agree with your progressive idea of gender.

[@epichoagie5999]

@@gustavohermandio1440 You do realize the same academics you now decry as "eeeevil leftists" (I'm assuming you think they're evil somehow) are the same ones who used to think sex and gender were the same thing, right? Science changes and grows as new developments occur. Hell, if not for the German Nazi regime, studies about this sort of thing would have already been widespread. The Nazis destroyed an institute that was studying the phenomenon when they took control. Anyway, it's not like this is a new idea. Trans folk of all stripes have existed throughout history. Yes, gender itself is a social construct and always has been. That doesn't make it any less real. Money is a social construct and it controls all of our lives, much as I wish it didn't. It's not a matter of opinion. As I said before, this is thoroughly studied and researched fact. I can link you a video made by an actual biologist who talks about all this with over 200 cited studies. It's 30ish minutes long and quite educational. Been meaning to follow up on his sources, come to think of it.

[@AliceIsSleepy]

I mean, I'd rather not be called cis, since I'm excessively trans, unless it's the right gender.

[@EveryDayALittleDeath]

Saaame. I'm nonbinary though, and not intersex* so calling me cis and gendering me correctly are mutually exclusive. But like, if I was called cis I wouldn't be offended, I'd just explain that actually, I'm not, because I'm not exclusively female even if I present very femme. *not that you have to be nonbinary if you're intersex, just that intersex people are the only ones who could potentially be nonbinary and cis at the same time.

[@elvenbugs]

‘EXCESSIVELY TRANS’ IM SCREAMING

[@Jane-oz7pp]

@@EveryDayALittleDeath no, not really, you could be male or female and still be cis nonbinary. It's a fairly new thing, but you can elect not to gender your child in some places now, meaning that they are assigned nonbinary at birth.

[@EveryDayALittleDeath]

@@Jane-oz7pp I guess legally speaking, that's true, but I meant more in the sense of "your gender aligns with your sex". Just because you choose not to register a child's gender before they can express it doesn't make their sex not exist, you're just deciding that you don't want it to have any bearing on how they are raised or treated by others. Which is definitely valid, but not exactly what I was referring to.

[@foxinabox5103]

@@elvenbugs okay but, how much trans is too much?? Hmmmm /j

[@iriandia]

At 6:00, yes, the first terf I knew literally told me (several times!) that trans people were kidnapping girls & forcibly injecting them with T. As in, children. It was so wacky that I pushed back immediately, and kept pushing - and pushed my way right out of my egg! Joke’s on her!

[@thetea4093]

I wish someone would forcibly inject testosterone to me wth

[@iriandia]

@@thetea4093I mean when you look at how hard it is to actually get T, it makes her ravings even worse.

[@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos]

Ha, that's a great egg-cracking story. Not the transphobia, but the poetic irony.

[@commandercorl1544]

If only it was that easy for trans kids.

[@floreya67]

Yolk's on her! (Sorry)

[@luccamalualves8261]

A week ago I was talking to a woman that works with my mom, she asked me why my mom uses they/them for me, I explained what is non binary to her and she said "your generation is complicating things, I have a brother that is trans and with him it's easier" I said it was cool that she had a trans brother but she answered saying that her "brother" even did a surgery to put breasts, I tried not getting angry and just asked if she meant she had a trans SISTER then, she said that her sister (she misgendered her again) died a while back so the family were using her deadname and masc pronouns now, but it wasn't a problem cause in life they tried using her pronouns and chosen name

[@amarisfrede2]

What a bigot. 😞

[@transsexual_void_fairy]

oh god

[@purple4596]

Dear lord people are stupid

[@akitokutikabanae7010]

Im just horrified i have no words

[@muriel5826]

So awful. I mean it’s not gonna hurt any of them to remember her as she wanted to known. Jeez

[@latronqui]

I have used the "kids do weird things" narrative in support of trans kids. I'll share it here in case someone finds it helpful: When I was 3 years old, I told everyone that I was a character from an anime series and named the people around me like other characters in that universe. When I was older, I met a boy about the same age (3) who behaved like a dog. So how will I know, if my boy ever says "I'm actually a girl" whether it's a phase or I have a trans daughter? Well, I can do the same my parents and the parents of that dog boy did. They treated us like we were demanding to be treated and we soon grew out of it. If my kid doesn't grow out of it, then I guess it means I have a trans kid. But I don't have to force anything.

[@dustind4694]

Someday I will reconcile how Jamie reads like Daniel Radcliffe and David Tenant got in a pleasant looking teleporter accident with some sick body jewelry, but it is not this day. Also @2:07 did... we just get amateur cis phrenology? Ew.

[@Ava-wu4qp]

They need to go back to the 1860s

[@ilikechococookies342]

HOW did you manage to perfectly encapsulate Jamie’s vibe?? Incredible job ❤

[@caspianrobins7756]

You're so close to 1 million subs. You deserve it! Hope to see you get there soon.

[@possums154]

0:49 I’d be more offended if you called me a cis woman considering I’m trans, but if you called me a cis man I’d thank you

[@lukescastle]

Ayy dude same

[@lycaptain]

same, i’d be so happy if i could pass as a cis dude

[@heythere4732]

As a cis woman, I have no problem just being called a person. Because I am a person.

[@bloodgutsandangelcake6079]

same! and when i was pregnant, i had no problem being called a pregnant person. i was (and still am) a person. and i was pregnant. sure, i was a pregnant woman. but is a pregnant woman not, a pregnant person?

[@heythere4732]

@@bloodgutsandangelcake6079 exactly. To me, its dehumanizing.

[@bloodgutsandangelcake6079]

@Marianne what are you hoping to accomplish by deliberately spreading misinformation online? intersex people, including some born with testicular tissue or even an entire penis, can be pregnant. a penis makes someone a man by your logic lmao. if you’re gonna be a complete bellend, at least do it in a way that doesn’t completely fall apart the moment natural variance occurs.

[@dapper-ant2634]

Damn guess I'm a girl now, I knew I should have bought the 6-in-1 wash at the store.

[@the_alien_1239]

this is amazing to watch- I love how comforting your videos are. I felt really dysphoric today (I’m a trans guy) but your videos have really helped. Loads of love Jamie, thank you so much !!

[@amarisfrede2]

Hope you have a wonderful day, king! 🤴

[@akitokutikabanae7010]

Sending you lots of love boi ❤️ hope your day went better brother

[@qnkendra1523]

Slowly people around me have become comfortable with me labeling myself and them cis. The ones who were like "well if there is another label needed they need to come up with a different one" finally got it when my response was "until that label exists I will use cis if a different label comes up then I will adjust". I just can't get over how ugly and ignorant people get not just about trans but about gender presentation. I ended up forming my opinion on that long before I even knew transgender was a thing because of fights with my parent as a child about skirts/ dresses vs pants. I wanted to spin on the juggle gym stuff and use the slides without gross male children chanting about seeing my panties. And later as I got older it was also about my ability to move during that time female clothes often had silly things like pencil skirts where you had to learn how to take baby steps. then having people who in general are allies try to tell a known trans person they are supposed to care about that they didn't count as their true gender without sufficient presentation just reminded me of my childhood. Being called a boy because I was wearing pants

[@astrinymris9953]

9:25 I agree! Being able to tell who's cis and who's trans is a lame mutant ability. Go for telekinesis or teleportation instead; those are much cooler and more useful superpowers. Or the ability to transform into a dragon. 😉

[@book-obsessedweirdo8677]

You're thinking much too small, the ability to turn into any thing!

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

Shapeshifting FTW. Of course, that's how you can tell who's trans. Anyone who would pick shapeshifting as their special ability.

[@book-obsessedweirdo8677]

@@FrozEnbyWolf150 or a furry

[@muriel5826]

I love that list which randomly ends with “turning into a dragon”. I mean, who doesn’t want to be a 🐉 if only temporarily?

[@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos]

@@FrozEnbyWolf150 tfw you didn't even go with shapeshifting full-stop, but instead settled for sex-swapping...and then took >20 more years to crack the egg 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@SylviaRustyFae]

10:50 That person still forgets about cis intersex folks who may not be women but can get pregnant nonetheless.

[@zehrverygood]

A person who has both female and male chromosomes pairs (47XXY, 46XX/46XY, 46XX/47XXY or 45X/XY mosaic) can also have both testicular and ovarian tissue. Previously, these persons were diagnosed as "hermaphrodites" but the nomenclature should be changed: There is no complete consensus yet which terminology to use, but **disorders of sex development**, abbreviated **DSDs**, or intersex are being discussed.There are many variations and some hermaphrodites have more male genitalia while others have the opposite. Whether an intersex person could get pregnant and carry the pregnancy and have a baby depends mostly whether they have a more complete set of reproductive organs. So if there is a fully functioning uterus and ovaries, then it's theoretically possible to get pregnant and have a baby.However, most if not all true intersex persons have incomplete reproductive organs and a pregnancy would be rare.

[@theomegajuice8660]

8:57 Honestly, kudos to that particular transphobe for finally coming up with a 2nd functional joke. Maybe after all these years they've finally broken the cycle of rehashing the attack helicopter meme over and over and over again!

[@commandercorl1544]

Oh my god, they're getting out of the loop!

[@tameniai]

I never cared WHAT was in my daycare workers' pants as long as they could watch the kids and not murder them. I double checked with my daughter (in regards to my grandchild) and her words were 'If they would watch him at night so I could sleep I would pay for them to transition myself'. Just an FYI.

[@thewickeddevilofthewest]

Agreed

[@Fruityflootloops]

My wonderful grandma came across an article on Facebook claiming “they” want to switch Mother’s Day to Birthing Person’a Day and we had to explain to her that’s just from some conservative propaganda and the only reason we do that is for specific situations and parent is often better anyway. She immediately became upset the article was trying to rile people up like that.

[@birdieblue812]

I honestly just started watching Jamie's videos because I find him soothing, but after watching quite a few I started thinking to myself "how would I handle it if I have a child and they turn out to be trans?". I have never considered this before, partly because I don't see myself having children, but the best I can come up with is; go to a medical professional and get puberty blockers until they are old enough to decide if they want to transition or not.

[@BahamutEx]

👏👍

[@amarisfrede2]

Congratulation! 🎉 You passed at one of the essential pillar questions of: "am I suitable as a parent", that sadly many parents don't pass yet.😞

[@harrypotter2700]

I’d recommend a gender specialist before a doctor to get puberty blockers. At a very young age you want to be sure, because if your child is trans then a gender specialist can just ensure that they’re doing what’s best for them. Of course young kids can most certainly know at a very young age, but it’s always good to be sure that they’re getting the best help and treatment possible.

[@soniarodriguez8737]

@@rhymerlegend2717 Yeah agreed, why not just allow them to grow and once they're an adult have them make their choice. I mean they still are just kids.. PS. Just a suggestion, don't get mad

[@tinnie75]

@@soniarodriguez8737 I'm not trans but from what I understand, using puberty blockers helps them with the possible transition later because they won't for example develop breasts or get periods. Which I assume should also help with gender dysphoria. But if they get older and realize they're not trans and are in fact the gender that matches their sex, they can stop the blockers and go through puberty as they would without it. No harm done.

[@suzannax]

Somehow I'm more bothered that they called magenta a "creamy pink"

[@jolenemiller1]

I have family members who think I am the worst mother on the planet because I support my teenage son who happens to be trans. Like I didn't do any research or talk to doctors, therapists, or my own child, before signing off on gender affirming therapy. I get unsolicited advice all the time. It is VERY difficult to bite my tongue when intentions are good but knowledge is not.

[@sunnalyn]

As a cis woman, no most of us are not okay please hELP THEYRE CHASING ME DOWN-

[@cat_with_a_rat]

short answer: no.

[@ElizabethPayet]

long answer: definitely not

[@MynameisnotRenold]

Short answer: sometimes

[@SimonClarkstone]

Yeah, I was thinking that for like half the commenters here the answer to "can I call you cis?" is "no, because I am trans".

[@RebelWvlf]

Being surrounded by them, I can safely say that they are definitely not OK and I just wanna wake up in man's body and not care about anything that is forced upon me and seen as "FeMaLe GeNdEr RoLe".

[@cat_with_a_rat]

@@SimonClarkstone i was referring to the “are the cis ok” but tru

[@TheOriginalDarcAngellover]

It was the Victorian period when the colours were changed round. Pink was seen as an Energetic colour and therefore was associated with Boys while Blue was a calming colour which is why it was linked to girls. 😂 the shampoo one was funny, though I have to say I either go for smell or colour not so much the others. Lots of CIS people scare me with the lack of education and/or thought processes they have. My favourite is the ultra religious CIS people who can believe in a magical man in the sky, but not that someone could be trans 🤭 (No offense intended to anyone who is religious, I know not all religious people are like that)

[@Tijggie82]

"If you wish to label someone, you owe them a cookie." As a baker, I agree. We have some lovely oat or peanut butter cookies 😌

[@gintarenorv905]

7:19 I mean... if I didn't know Jammi was a trans man, I would simply think he's a very cool man. A day care with trans people wouldn't look much more different from normal daycares, would it?

[@isuccatdrawin8057]

I really loved the inclusivity in the baymax show :]

[@My_mid-victorian_crisis]

I was conversing with my son's father a while ago, and being trans came up. I flat out told me that he would have been made to transition because he played with girls as a child. He was abused at home and bullied at school; girls and their games were safe. He is a manly cis/het, not the stereotypical overcompensating of women who transitioned in the 80s and 90s and is open-minded about LGBTIQ+ (his middle child, my son's halfsibling, had come out as Neby). I've tried so hard to educate him better, but...

[@idklol8610]

Did you or your husband say that? I'm confused

[@My_mid-victorian_crisis]

@@idklol8610 my son's father, no my husband, we are not married. He is convinced that he would have been forced to transition. Because he played with girls. Even though he had a enby child and I'm enby.

[@TessuDraws]

"It genuinely feels dehumanising to read "people who get pregnant"." you can't dehumanise someone by calling them a person jesus christ go back to English class

[@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos]

Clearly they want to be called a *_"human_* who can get pregnant." Smh my head, they said it felt "dehumanizing", not "depersonizing".

[@wordforger]

I think it has something to do with the fact that we live in a society that pushes pregnancy on 'people who can get pregnant' from the moment they're born, and now even if they don't want to even consider pregnancy an option they have fewer options to avoid it. I think many would rather use a term that has fewer references to what is considered 'a woman's purpose.' I mean, I totally get inclusivity and all, but there's some messy patriarchal associations we have to unpack before terms like 'birthing person,' 'people who get pregnant,' and 'people with uteruses' gain wide popularity.

[@flipperflipper-eo2gp]

it's disgusting to undermine women hood .

[@flipperflipper-eo2gp]

@@wordforger are whole lifes are revolve around our hormones .there is more to a women that just a look 👍 it's insulting

[@Dexy83]

I'm so offended! How dare you point out that the 90's is 30 years ago! I can't even! 🤬🤣

[@Sol-Kage]

Also for the last one, it also covers underage girls who get pregnant to use the gender neutral term.

[@bloodgutsandangelcake6079]

hmmm, idk "women's rights to education" does/did also cover a 4 year old girl going to kindergarten as well as a grown up woman going to university. but agreed, yes. and they can all miss me with that "it takes away from our motherhood", because i can categorically say that when i was pregnant, not one single person told me i couldn't be a mother. not one. i had more people saying i absolutely HAD to be a mother even tho i detested the idea of it.

[@zehrverygood]

@@bloodgutsandangelcake6079 Why did you get pregnant?

[@noooodianoodles]

I clicked as soon as I got the notification bc Jamie is just what I needed rn :)

[@boneenthusiast2052]

I had to clarify to my ex-brother in law what cis meant because he thought i was calling him a "sissy" every time i brought up gender :] (i was the first trans person he'd ever met)

[@purple4596]

LOL

[@Amara87387]

“Everything has been planned since the 90’s” ok if this is true, then where’s my handbook or creepy robes? What? Am I not trans enough to be contacted by the gay masterminds?

[@byecatsstacey7467]

As a cis woman it is simply depressing how so many cis truly are not ok. I cannot roll my eyes hard enough sometimes. Thanks for the humor, as always, Jamie, keep up the shining, positive attitude!

[@OneTopic]

😳

[@passionate_possum_pal]

OT!!

[@cat_with_a_rat]

hi OT

[@saltedsword8852]

Oh my god it’s him. Hi OT

[@bluejayfinch]

Omg, OT :D

[@xxibjrosek]

HI OT!!!

[@v-cassinova9007]

Cisgender: Cisgender describes a person whose gender identity corresponds to their sex assigned at birth. The word cisgender is the antonym of transgender. The prefix cis- is Latin and means on this side of. Cis is the short hand.

[@tomatogoose4426]

I just clicked away from a scary video that was starting to make me feel anxious, and the instant I heard “hey spuds” I immediately felt better

[@boredsandwich_2]

Reject humanity, become *potato*