Can I Watch PORN? - Porn And Long Term Relationships

[@antoniometevelis9294]

love the fact that its not a "porn is good or bad" video but has dis and advantages..

[@VideoTalesV]

After reading several papers on the risks of porn rewiring the brain; your ideas are amazing and each one allows to avoid exactly those potential negative effects. Thanks a lot !

[@tammy2855]

Really good video. A very balanced and mature view.

[@vanessaandxander]

Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!

[@petmom74]

😆 I spilled my coffee when she asked, “What kinds of porn are YOU watching?” Him: “I don’t know?” 😂 But, seriously, thank you for this video. I’m not into watching porn at all. It makes me uncomfortable and a bit jealous. Those are MY problems.l/issues. But he’s asked me to watch with him and we have a very intimate relationship. Instead of telling him a flat out NO! I’m going to try it with him and see if it’s different than it’s been in the past with previous partners. Thanks.

[@ProdigalBeard]

During the 2-4 week porn break, what about stories or pictures you may have taken with/of your spouse? Healthy or no?

[@weezerwookie]

Thanks for this. So many articles and videos out there just say "porn is bad. period." in my opinion that just drives people deeper into the closet where the bad habits grow or get worse. I think pushing a your partners head down as a way to get oral sex is a porn move that many young men think is normal but it's very disrespectful, unless its done consentually that's not cool.

[@number1186]

Hello! Thank you both for a great video, and thank you for taking the time to share. I am struggling, and could use some advice from the two of you! My fiancé has recently revealed to me he has picked back up on his old porn addiction. He quit for some time, but I recently found out for the past two years, he has been watching. From the beginning of our relationship, porn has always been something we haven’t allowed each other to partake in. It’s been a boundary for us. While some are okay with porn, we have both always agreed it isn’t something we think is healthy in our relationship. Finding out he has been doing this has been a big shock to me. Could you please give us some advice as to how we can move forward. He wants to stop watching and change. For me, it will be hard to be intimate with him again or to trust him because for years I thought he was a different person. We would greatly appreciate some tips on how to move forward healthily. Thank you!

[@b.b.2167]

ughh you've got to open your mind and be free is my suggestion. Discipline is possible through moderation you can excite the hell out of your love life with porn and other fun stuff.

[@PAJA63]

Curious about "porn addiction" as a notion. Do you equal it with "porn usage" or is it something else?

[@owembabaziprudence3799]

Does porn increase someone's feelings

[@jessicafrogge8023]

Do you feel there is a difference in between watching porn videos (not live/no chat option) vs live/with chat option porn when in a relationship?

[@gargisasmal8034]

Very nice information

[@gargisasmal8034]

Very good and different insight

[@laurastutz1620]

This was so helpful. Thank you for making this video. I do have a question, what if your partner is watching porn and not masturbating? My so said he watches porn but doesnt always masturbate to it but frequents it multiple times a day. What is this best way for us to approach this issue? Is this something that he needs to work on individually? Or is this something we need to approach together such as counseling? It has caused a lot of problems and I would like for us to get past this and approach this in a healthy way instead of resentment. Hope you can help!

[@williamhsquireiv661]

I think I'm a responsible porn watcher on accident. Pretty much all of these guidelines I've been doing on my own. Like nobody has ever told me these things, but I pretty much do them, all but 1.

[@valeriegagoroye591]

Do you have advice if your partner wants to watch it but you don’t want them too at all? Thanks

[@vanessaandxander]

Hi Valerie! Great question. As with so many things in relationships, our #1 tip is to communicate! Have a conversation where you explain how it makes you feel when your partner watches porn. See if you can come up with some boundaries *together.*

[@tacticalbt1023]

Short term yes long term no..

[@caprail]

My wife and I have been married for 45 years. Sex was great a couple of years ago but has diminished since. Plus I suffer from erectile dysfunction. A year ago I saw a doctor who came up with a compound injection in my penis that worked ($10,500) 70 percent of the time but ran out. Should I rely on pills? Get more injections? Got any ideas? Should we see a sexologist?

[@functionatthejunction]

Why does porn bother so many people these days? We are regressing into puritanism.

[@kippetjes4]

Because the internet removed a lot of hurdles you had to cross before getting to a place of overconsumption, immorality, and addiction

[@functionatthejunction]

@@kippetjes4 Who decides what's "overconsumption" or "immoral"?

[@kippetjes4]

@@functionatthejunction overconsumption is when you consume it more than healthy for you, which is viewed on a per case basis. Immorality is largely dictated by general consensus, tho ofcourse it's subjective in the end. However the majority of religions and other forms of moral compasses agree that there can be immorality in the way we approach sex.

[@functionatthejunction]

@@kippetjes4 So who decides what's "healthy"? And you can drop religion as a source, it has no meaning for people arent a part of it. Just let consenting adults do whatever they please sexually and dont worry about it as its no one's business but theirs.

[@kippetjes4]

@@functionatthejunction science decides what is healthy, health is a measurable thing... I didn't use religion as a source, i used religion as an example to show that some things are considered moral or immoral almost universally throughout the world. Comming back to it being largely general consensus. Surely your "let consenting adults do whatever they please" does not apply to them watching pron of minors... i hope? Otherwise you and i have a different view on what is ethical in general. Tho tbf, nobody here is trying to dictate what an individual should or should not do, they are just sharing views for those who do care about it. Why are you so bothered with a video or subject that is apparently not directed at you?

[@eversunnyguy]

Can you do a video on Porn induced ED ? please

[@blakejohnson2736]

Thanks guys you are the best ❤️❤️

[@victorduarte3987]

Worse move is slapping her yoni

[@shubhamsaurav7480]

Great video✨✨✨✨

[@vanessaandxander]

Thank you 🤗

[@Missingyouforever10]

My one question would be, how do you introduce it into a relationship To watch together? My partner and I have been together for a very long time and I have been told it might be fun to introduce it to watch together but I’m not sure how to go about doing that

[@americano1976]

who told you this?

[@1yearclean173]

Trust me its not a good idea

[@Madeintheusa1]

Don’t do it

[@sannehol6942]

Communicate! Just tell him that it might be a nice idea. If he turns the idea down, than you don't do it. If he reacts excited/curious, you can explore the idea.

[@Edoc-kc9mn]

@@Madeintheusa1why?

[@donalddepaul2736]

Enjoyed listening and watching y'all being open together.. erotic.. honest and pure:) thank you...

[@rodneymorris2695]

Awesome

[@mariapinedacuevas5405]

I find it really interesting how you had to submit an apology email for the topic of this video. I’m curious to know what prompted the follow-up email?

[@vanessaandxander]

Hey Maria, we accidentally sent out an email with the word "porn" in the subject line. When you originally sign up for our email list, we say that we keep our email titles tame. Years ago, I got feedback from some people that they were worried about a notification popping up on their phone that another person could see, so that was my original motivation for deciding to keep the subject lines PG. We didn't "have" to apologize; we chose to because it's important to us to honor our commitments to our community, and be transparent and honest when we mess up!

[@mariapinedacuevas5405]

Thank you for responding!

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