Can Men Be Emotionally Available If They Lack Emotional Intelligence?

[@philippebontemps9321]

There is no room for black men to be availably emotional. No care to listen and understand us. And when we open about our emotions, we get called all types of foul names.

[@thesteviemcnasty]

FACTS!!!!

[@greezythumb]

Very true but let's not put ourselves in a box alone because white men get the same shit. After all, who started the whole feminist BS? White women. It's typically white women from a liberal background that are like that. White women from conservative backgrounds are far more traditional and respect men. But our women are 99% liberal and they have been indoctrinated most of all the races of women. This is Western culture now. Outside the west, men are still upheld with respect. But black men on the whole and white men up north and the Pacific... Are catching hell with this feminist shit.

[@greezythumb]

Bruh, my wife understands when I don't want to talk, leave me be. I'll talk when I'm ready. Men are problem solvers, this is what feminist women like these chicks don't understand. They're so busy trying to be equal to us. But they aren't trying to be equal by RISING to our level. They want to be equal by bringing us DOWN to theirs. This is what all this babble talk about emotions is all about. They want to turn us into chicks. Naw bruh, not me. I hold on to my masculinity with a death grip. No broad is gonna make a Will Smith outta me.

[@thechubbypuertorican917]

BM are punished for emotional availability by BW. That’s why you don’t get it from them.

[@asanitheafrofuturist]

Chubby Puerto Rican has a point. I have experienced this firsthand. Obvs everybody has different experiences

[@SpiritSoulSense]

I’m not seeing that point about black men being more emotionally available to non black women. Who? Where? I agree with the comments that men in general aren’t socialized and properly trained by both their mother and father to regulate their emotions. But by adulthood it is each individual’s responsibility to learn to get in touch with their emotions. Therapy, a healing class, journal, meditate. ♥️✨

[@tygon13]

Roll reversal:. "I agree with the comments that women in general aren't socialized and properly trained..." Does this sound sexist to you? It sounds sexist to me.

[@SpiritSoulSense]

@@tygon13 It doesn’t sound sexist, just inaccurate. The fact is that men for generations have been told to suck it up, be a man and not cry. The same message has not been given to women. We are told women are quiet, demure and can’t do anything without a man. Both need to change and have been changing. People in today’s generation parent very differently than they did 50 or 100 years ago.

[@tygon13]

@@SpiritSoulSense long story oversimplified, you did *not* trigger my trap card. 😉 What you're explaining is in fact sexist, but not on your behalf for explaining it, on society's behalf for designating and judging based upon sex whether that be male or female. But, my hats off to you. Bravo, great answer. 😁

[@SpiritSoulSense]

@@tygon13 Fantastic!

[@kojoboateng6755]

@@SpiritSoulSense you live in America so you can afford to say idiotic statements like "men don't know how to regulate emotions". Go to Ukraine, when the Russians came in it was the men who were told to suck it up and fight fur their country. All the women were treated like children and asked to run for safety with their children. Women like you are clueless how men are made.

[@thecurator2626]

I think the issue is less about emotional intelligence and availability and more about who people are choosing for their partners. I think one of the guys in the comments made a valid point about having a conversation about and around men but leaving a man’s point of view outside of the conversation. It would also have been interesting to hear about the subject from couples or married people to see if there is any experience with growth in these areas. I understand the platform is for women’s voices, but I’m not sure where the conversation helps to solve the issue.

[@bobbym1799]

It does not and that's the issue. Especially if you gonna say something so wrong to paint blk men like we treat other races better than our own.

[@tinabaygboe6879]

Jessie brought me here. Always here for great content from a black womans prospective 💕💕💕💕💕

[@fredyvergara7597]

Girl hello Babe how are you

[@JM-kq3so]

I love this. Started watching initially because of Jessie Woo but I appreciate the entire cast. They have conversations that are so necessary in my opinion. What I like most is that thus far, the tone hasn't been divisive.

[@raharmonnelson7537]

One day we need to talk about how the emotions are socialized out of men.... but yes I agree....

[@EbonySeraphim]

One day? That's a pre-requisite for this conversation.

[@seauxsouthern504]

They briefly mentioned that, but I do agree, that another convo that needs to be had on its own time.

[@imanigordon6803]

@@EbonySeraphim It was kinda brushed under the rug

[@amamawithhobbies]

They are...they are told from a young age don’t cry and don’t show any type of vulnerability because it’s a sign of weakness...I have three boys and their fathers are very manly and they tell them don’t cry. I try to let my kids express their feelings

[@raharmonnelson7537]

@@EbonySeraphim I haven't seen it happen....

[@diallo6197]

The reason why black men don't open up emotionally because we don't want it to be used as a weapon against us whenever you feel upset or triggered. Most black women are known for doing that.

[@cvzdez]

All women people do this when angry

[@bobbym1799]

@@cvzdez here's the issue the statement was we are there for others so let's not act like this video was being genuine.

[@Mrjonezzz]

Had it happen to me several times. I will never open up to a woman again.

[@glidkomer]

@@cvzdez nope that's a lie

[@diallo6197]

@@cvzdez All women aren't being represented in this video only black women. Stay on topic and stop deflecting!

[@pamk1967]

My Beautiful insightful Young Sistas, I could have used this in 1986 when I met my ex husband or 1997 before I married him, thinking my love could heal what it NEVER could that was broken in him and it Never did. I learned you can't fill in gaps that their parents or they couldn't or didn't chose to or want to or even recognized, althoughyou saw it all and spoke on it to deaf ears. . And people can only offer what they know. I am not A or THE Savior! This is blessing sooo many women more than you know! Thank you all! 💕💕✌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@nim3408]

You'll find that issues surrounding Black men are RARELY discussed.

[@sheeriohs]

Was loving this until "alpha" vs "beta" male breakdown. Theres toxic masculinity in those terms.

[@1227weaverb]

How do you bring up a statistic saying 35% of men(of all races) aren’t emotionally available and then ask “should black women explore outside the race? Didn’t that statistic prove that you’ll find emotionally unavailable men in all races?

[@Shane-ju7op]

Brother! KZbin is about gossip not common sense. How they going throw all black men into one basket! Also your correct, if 35% of men are emotionally unavailable, then the answer is not dating outside their race. The real topic is these women want date outside their race!

[@TheeJessieWoo]

Because the statistic gets higher if it’s focused on just black men

[@Shane-ju7op]

@@TheeJessieWoo All due respect, where are these statistics? Please post! I always hear yiurubers quote statistics, but hardly hear anybody verify them, or who, where and how the statistics are put together... Kevin Samuels quotes alot of statistics that are actually incorrect once anyone looks into them...

[@kojoboateng6755]

@@TheeJessieWoo you look and sound like the kind of woman that any sensible black man should avoid.

[@imanigordon6803]

@@TheeJessieWoo You proved though you will have to face unemotionally available in all races though? Also y’all never went deep into why that is.

[@designzbyjulez9838]

Thank you sis, for defining what emotional availability means. I am dating and find that as a season women even in my age group; I have discovered the season Men are not emotionally available or mature.

[@ruckes13]

Right. It's worse.

[@seauxsouthern504]

The answer is HELL NO! I’m going through it now with my husband. He’s emotionally unstable, doesn’t make him emotionally intelligent/aware.

[@Shane-ju7op]

Alll due respect that your husband, that not reflective of all black men. I'm tired of all black men being thrown into one basket, i'm sure black women are tired of being thrown into one basket.

[@morrickushuff1148]

@@Shane-ju7op Sir, Don't worry about people or black women in this case just love yourself and stand on your own principles. Don't never let a woman take you out of your manhood and this is why men must not have emotions. You are worrying about some basket that this lady put her husband in, Which had absolutely nothing to do with you but the emotional side in you for a brief moment had you acting unmanly and out of character which is never good in the eyes of a woman because you responding the way she would which mean you're acting like a woman for a makeshift period.

[@30jersey478]

I don't understand how women think men are supposed to be emotionally available when we are taught to suppress them all our lives. It's like outside of being happy or mad, any other emotion is considered being soft or weak. Most of the time when women say they want their men to open and talk about how they feel, they just want to be nosy. They want to know for sake of knowing, opposed to trying to help bring about some type of emotional resolve/security for their partner.

[@nobodynowhere21]

Easy. You don't date women who make you suppress your emotions. If it means you can't find a black woman for this reason, so be it. Honestly you don't want women like that raising your boys anyway, they'll turn them into more NPC dudes with no personality.

[@kole3737]

Men are more logical than emotional just accept it

[@nim3408]

Men, especially BLACK men, are NOT allowed the luxury of emotional vulnerability! So.....count your blessings!

[@EbonySeraphim]

I consider myself a semi-recently emotionally intelligent, not always emotionally available, black man. I have a good amount of dating history with women of all colors (mostly non-white, but not a majority black). This chat has some serious holes where I don't see this conversation being useful for black women or black men trying to get together. In many ways, the ideas pushed here produce emotionally unintelligent men. I'll address what I found problematic: First, this conversation lacks the most obvious and important part of the issue: dating and social expectations of black men during and just before dating age. To everyone who's non-white, there's very little acceptance that we (black men) have emotions. We grow up navigating this world knowing no one responds to our emotions positively for us. More than any other race/gender combination, the world doesn't give a shit, and more often poses a threat to our survival and can easily set us back. This is true in all major aspect of our lives except potentially close family: friends, crushes, education, work. When we want something, we better be smarter, funnier, more charismatic about it. There's no space to be sad, angry, super happy in our success. Some of the topics in this very conversation reinforce the ideas that make us devalue emotional maturity starting with this first one: 1) "We've all had those men that are a little too open" and the response of "we're not your therapist." That was an ugly conflation of being open and actually putting your problems on someone else. Putting your problems on someone else means you're forcing a response that requires a lot of work. It looks like engaging in a debate where you have to convince them of something; or excessive complaining/venting about something with no way for the other person to end it. If no seriously hard work in a response is needed or expected, then "being open" isn't a serious emotional problem as it was discussed here. I find it silly this is even a point because why discuss someone who's telling and showing you who they are? Keep it moving if that's what you don't want to interact with. This is women lacking self-awareness that their dislike for too-open men is their own preference. 2) Then I don't get how this pivots right into men having to listen to women who say "I can spot a trauma problem and we have to get to the root." Didn't you just say you're not the therapist? There's validity in this point, but the path there was ugly. It further comes up where these women are diagnosing men after saying "I'm not your therapist." Sorry, you can't have it both ways -- you can diagnose someone for needing an therapist trivially but you strongly assert "I'm not a therapist." I agree that other than a therapist, heavy emotional burdens with complex personal history should not be expected to be shared, but social contacts are supposed to have some capability to respond to needs of those they supposedly care about. 3) The woman who mentioned that she only dated "beta" males. Wow. Regressive. I can't believe this term was allowed in a conversation about emotional intelligence. Beta males disguised as alpha males? If you subscribe to this idea of alphas, betas, and omegas, then you should already know every "beta" is out there trying to look like an "alpha" so the only issue is you not being able to tell which is which. I think the bigger problem is women who reinforce that ideas of alpha and beta, are behind the expectation that grows boys into men who don't want or see use with their emotion. Nothing about the alpha gives two shits about the emotional needs of the group. At least with wolves, pack survival is relevant. As humans, we're operating entirely for status so an alpha's disregard for anyone else's needs is entirely for their own status. Don't conflate alpha with success. 4) I think the discussion around "men have always fallen short for us" needs to be qualified and dive deep. What failures of the men in your life has forced you to be strong? Analyze survival for that black man who failed against realities of this nation and his situation. Many do mess up, but to call it out as "just a clear fact" is a presumption of our worthlessness. I'd ask you ladies to come up with a reasonable solution for how to acquire resources in a community that only has drugs and guns to sell. 5) One woman mentioned poking her man to see if he would show emotion. This is a red flag for me. If you're consciously poking at emotions in another person, you're liable to get no response because the other person intuitively, and unconsciously detects that it's not genuine and it generates no response. I very much hate anyone who's doing something just to get a response. That sort of behavior is like training someone *not* to trust what is happening and suppress their emotion because they are just being poked. 6) There was a sequence later when they say they are happy to die alone. That was interesting because I saw an exposure of values come out and it was extremely materialistic. Unless it was a bit of a cheeky moment, it was disturbing. It's hard for me to see such high levels of desired materialism and status display and believe that there is also a good bit of emotional intelligence. Though it's more of a value difference up front, emotionally intelligent people would be more focused on either being able to claim their own peace alone, with their friends, or some balance between the two. No part of me claims I am, or going to be, happy because I can afford to own something, travel somewhere, and be on a boat. 7) First date asking her to see his therapist story is an orange-red flag and it's hilarious she doesn't even see it. An emotionally mature and intelligent person knows a first date is not a serious relationship, and stastically isn't likely to become one. They can accept they feel that they want you around for a long time, but it's FAR FAR too early to ask someone to engage with their therapist. That's not appropriate to ask until there's a real relationship there. You know the other person likes you, and you two plan to be around each other for more than a minute. 8) The example for self-awareness: guy doesn't realise she's not listening and compliments her for being a good listener. The issue is you weren't interested in what he was talking about or how he was talking about. You intentionally didn't mention disinterest in the subject and he didn't pick up on it. Yeah, that's a reason not to want to date someone, but it's far from emotional immaturity. The emotional immaturity I see in that situation is not being able to manage your emotions of wanting to end the interaction. Instead there's this passive engagement wondering when he's going to be disinterested and fall out. Emotionally mature people take steps towards their intentional exit of their own situation. The bear responsibility for their chosen path, and potential mistakes rather than being passive. They won't blame the other person for the flaws they don't like, and further blame the other person for not noticing ending it for them.

[@imanigordon6803]

You went in on this one great analysis my dude 👍🏾

[@Aquafis]

One of the best comments I've read in a minute. You did a really good job digging into this video and it's great to see from another perspective.

[@cvzdez]

Pretty dark skin Jessep , Haitian women here.. Let me come watch this Get my Sour Sap juice,.sit repost play... Mezami.Melamine.. Vin wè Jessie

[@imanigordon6803]

Story time as a black man: Once I was dating this black woman we were still in the talking phase and she was dealing with things mentally and I was always there to be emotional support for her, but there was one thing she kept doing, which was telling me stories about her job and how she wanted to violently attack her managers and employees with bats and other items. I understood her pain but it came to the point where it affected me mentally. I finally told her to calm down on the violence, because it was affecting me mentally a bit. She said to me “you are kind of acting like a B**ch right now” after we talked she didn’t care then I blocked her and to this day never forgot how that shaped my emotions as a man.

[@jasminefrichtl806]

Not all women act like her there is a lot of none violent women out there of all differ races I knew a black women & her son kept punching other dudes & she told violence is not the way use your words calmly so dont give up

[@jasminefrichtl806]

Also when you've been through trauma growing up a lot of times your aura will have that trauma embedded in it and you can attract toxic people into your life and I mean you can be a non toxic person but still attract toxic person once in awhile cuz there's lots of toxic people in the world but if you only attract toxic women that's a sign that you have issues of your own that you need to work through and you can go to chakra healing yoga healers and there are progressive guided hypnotism you can get from a yoga teacher I don't like therapist I don't really trust them I have met some nice ones but a lot of them are not great and have narcissism but yoga chakra healers are very humble and non bureaucratic but the hypnotism can reverse brainwashing that a lot of people have been through a lot of people have seen bad media that teaches them an unhealthy relationships styles read Inside the Minds of angry men why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft explains why domestic violence and sexual crimes are so high in America it's usually men but women are starting to catch up but it's still mostly men I'm not saying men are bad it's just there's a lot of bad influences that teach men to treat women badly especially our government I mean Donald Trump Bill Clinton and the Queen Elizabeth one of her sons was than one of Epstein photos on his Island where he had underage prostitution no wonder we don't have good Role Models Even in our government also sexist religions abuse p*** and strip clubs all contribute to sex crimes America and it's extremely high lisset istics of how often it happens The Gabby petito Foundation wants to have domestic violence education in schools before kids start dating to know what a healthy relationship is and cuz there's just too many people getting divorced and too much domestic violins

[@jasminefrichtl806]

The woman that was not even validating something that you were saying that was affecting your mental health there's a book you can read on how to deal with people that are like that and you can help them not be like that without being obvious that you're trying to help them not being like that it's just you have to talk to them in a more particular way like what I would have said was I validate what you're saying what could I do to make your situation better so that you're not feeling so stressed out at work maybe I can help you find a different job where you can get treated better cuz you deserve to get treated better maybe we both can take classes on how to deal with difficult people at work cuz if you say you'll go to the class with her and then she won't feel like you think you're better than her cuz you're not violent cuz even if you're not violent there's always something new to learn cuz I'm not piling but I read some books that had to deal with difficult people and I learned a lot more really it methods than I thought there were especially because I used to work for the government and there's a lot of gaslighting there cuz it's better to show her how to act rather than tell her how to act and if you do this and she still doesn't change then you need to move on spend some time for yourself and heal from the whole thing and then find someone less toxic cuz you can't force somebody to change course but it's okay to try to inspire someone to change before you let them go and she doesn't want to take a class you can just recommend a book that you already read that way she feels like you also struggle that one point with dealing with difficult people and learned how to deal with them so she doesn't feel like you're better than her she just got to work through that relationships are never perfect and there's always going to be some challenges and you can't just give up every time you run into a challenge if you do everything you can do to fix the challenge and still won't get fixed I mean of course you have to move on but I think you gave up way too fast alright good luck with you

[@EbonyHoopGyal]

Maybe you took her expressing her anger a little too seriously like be real you think she was really Finna do that? She was venting to you because she trusted you you ain’t gotta pretend like you care about somebody and then get upset when they show you their true colors… At least she was real and honest and kept it G 100 with you straight up from the get-go didn’t play around and pretend to be some little nice sweet girl. Maybe you should learn to respect a real woman. But yeah like the girl above says not every woman is like that so why don’t you find you a little sweet little Sally

[@imanigordon6803]

@@EbonyHoopGyal I did find a kinder girl the point is that women vent, but don’t care how their actions affect others and her behavior to my simple request was uncalled for and then women wonder why men lack emotions. You can’t treat men horribly then wonder why we become emotionally like brick walls. Women have a hard time understanding men a lot of the time because you don’t try. In the end I made my choice and cut her off, but that still shaped me in being less emotionally involved around women. Yet your response proves my exact point… 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@erolfox]

Is it "emotionally unavailable" or more like the book, "He's just not that into you"? Pushing people into therapy so they meet our needs means we shouldn't be dating them. Or, we should first ask what they want us to fix in ourselves. ❤️

[@Akeem86]

Facts!

[@erolfox]

Now there's a new dating con being called "therapy baiting" where people lie that they've done therapy etc to make you think they're self-aware or gaslight that you have a problem, not them. Watch out kids! 🤔

[@kole3737]

Translation have emotional intelligence to handle the high impact of my emotions as a woman. Not for your betterment but to be her emotional rock.

[@sudzsutherland8495]

Excellent discussion. We got a lot of work to do. This is important work that our parents did not have the time or the resources to do. You all talk so much sense and look incredibly beautiful while doing it. Keep on in 2023!!!!!

[@crystalrubbie9383]

ok y'all look goodttt

[@tawongak5864]

Emotional intelligence is a made up construct. Its not like iq. Its best to call it social intelligence or social awareness. The question the panel posed is also a leading question. Thats like asking 'can a person with one leg win a race with two legged people?' A good point was made by the lovely lady on the left. Being emotionally unavailable is not equivalent to having no emotional intelligence. Most men are stoic, meaning that they dont allow their emotions to dictate their actions. Acting on your emotions or displaying your emotions does not also equate to high 'EQ'. This was a great discussion with all the perspectives. Cant wait for more.

[@manyrubies]

No it’s not. It is called “EQ” and it can be measured.

[@ItsKells]

SET OUR PRICE AND LIVE OUR LIFE ✨

[@kelvinnyaga-online9055]

Lady on the left just low key described a beta male as a man who was same height as her, same income as her and basically not a bad boy. None of those other ladies checked her. And black women wonder why they are single.

[@isx9046]

Great conversation! Men are optional. 🌸💃🏾🙌🏽🥳.

[@juniorleslie4804]

You don't need an emotional black man; you need an emotional available women for your girlfriend. Emotions due not reduced stress, because depending on the emotions, they create the stress. I am a Vulcan, therefore I suppressed my emotions. Why? I am not female, and therefore I prefer logic to emotions any day.

[@conscienceone1983]

These three Women ( minus Chris Miss), cannot see where the Problem lies....They keep blaming the Men...But over 90% of Black Men are taught by their Custodial Mothers....Who are fixing the women, to be better Moms whom are able to raise HEALTHY Sons and daughters to have healthy relationships?? Further, it's a hole in the bucket to blame a Man or father who is not in the home...That father did not lead nor guided his children to adult success or failure, the custodial Parent DOES.

[@alitabbicca2772]

I wonder if these women believe their walking green flags.

[@cholli4141]

PLEASE, date outside the race. Y’all would be doing black men a favor.

[@morrickushuff1148]

Most white men love to be treated with extreme disrespect and still worship the woman. It's very hard for me deal with most bw because I'm not angry enough or don't complain enough about being a responsible adult and prefer peace over being disrespected by most bw.

[@redbandittt]

White girl all the way

[@cholli4141]

@@redbandittt 🤣😂🤣

[@EbonyHoopGyal]

Nothing’s goofier than to sit around whining and crying to a man about his emotions and issues. If he isn’t mature or grown-up enough to handle his own emotional issues, to treat you with respect and dignity that you deserve, there is no amount of whining and crying that you can do to change it. You’re wasting your energy and time and you look like a goofy child. Focus on you.

[@edot6911]

I always wonder do white men sit around and discuss “there’s so emotional available white woman around maybe I should date outside my race” I can guarantee they don’t. These convos always circle back to whiteness and finding whatever I lack in life being tied to white approval/acceptance

[@Shane-ju7op]

Facts! 100% true,,,.

[@tygon13]

I love the role reversal test to see a different perspective to a topic.... Role reversal= A group of white men sitting around talking about how white women are not intellectually availability if they lack intelligence capability. How women just aren't smart enough to cope with their own lives, let alone interact socially, and if women would just "do the work" they might be capable, but they just aren't willing to. "White women specifically are not smart enough so, maybe I should date outside my race” . So... Thoughts on that? Lol, I do find it full circle and such. It's amazing as to how things like this really do always tie back to our stereotyping of things like race and sex etc.

[@diallo6197]

This whole conversation sounds like a divestment commercial.

[@glidkomer]

@@diallo6197 It is.....low key.

[@kimchapman5844]

Men aren't completely void of emotions. The unfortunate truth females continue to forget is that it's now common knowledge that men are conditionally raised to not show or express emotion and not be so soft, don't show weakness etc. Which is more accurate to state that yes, men are capable of emotional maturity, they are simply better at HIDING their emotions better than us women. Not only that, mens DNA does not have the same amount of chemical hormones that make the female gender more emotionally fueled and driven, which means men are already at a disadvantage to hold up to womens standards of being emotional available. Damn women, give these men a break god dammit! Read a book. Educate yourself on the male species for once. Try, try to understand them better instead of puttin all the blame on something else. Check ya self ladies!

[@MrAndremalcolm]

Lmaoooo it’s funny how most of these topics are about black men but yet there’s none to speak 😅, 1. Emotional intelligence, being emotionally vulnerable, and having the safe space to express these emotions is important as a black man unfortunately black women for the most part arent patient enough to address these issue long term. How do you teach men to be open when for the most part men especially black men have been thought that we shouldn’t be, so you have to now un program our brains to really do that heavy lifting.

[@Shane-ju7op]

Yes Sir! I noticed the same thing.....

[@growthmindhub5008]

What the hell is two truths can exist at one time?

[@johnkiser1410]

I think this is sort of a broader question than just men. Many people lack both emotional intelligence and emotional maturity that comes with it. As far as men go I think a lot of it stems from toxic masculinity that pops up in all of our communities no matter our skin color. Getting called things like a pansy, fairy, homophobic sluts, being threatened etc for showing emotion by other men doesn't help and women at least when I grew up would stand by and largely let it happen or join in at times Times are getting better, but for people to be emotionally intelligent and mature they need to grow past it and be exposed to new ways of looking at things. It took a suicide attempt in my teens to change how I viewed a lot of things and showed me how emotionally stunted I was and how bit expressing myself caused a lot of issues to build up. People also lack emotional control in general and are far to quick to anger and do not look at things logically.

[@ferraribuissereth9118]

I agree with what Jessie woo was saying about guys suffering with father issues they really aren’t emotionally available .. same as Chris miss was saying they made very good points and it’s super true

[@EverythingisH8speech]

Black Me and this black men that, why kids black men have the same conversation without being disowned . They go out of their way to chastise black mean I am genuinely confused

[@cholli4141]

No accountability among these women whatsoever. Sad.

[@Watchangiewrk]

Jessssieeee💕💕💕

[@thechubbypuertorican917]

BW to often sanction BM for showing any emotion at all. Too much, not enough, it’s an impossible target to hit. And after while, what’s the point of trying for BM? What’s the benefit to BM if BW make such sport of insulting them?

[@tyronewise4358]

I really find very interesting that these women are telling the world about men in their emotions their thoughts without having any men on the panel. Women switch their moods emotions every thought always starts with I feel and making life decisions on based on feelings but men lack being emotionally availability and intelligence. Funny as hell

[@bc6354]

Can women not be narcissistic while being narcissist?

[@ruckes13]

I agree 100% I have been there. I have to take up the slack. Then I am called too independent.

[@tygon13]

*sigh. This video is hate speech. Image if the video was asking if women could be intellectually availability if they lack intelligence capability? And the premise of the video was about how women just aren't smart enough to cope with their own lives, let alone interact socially, and if women would just "do the work" they might be capable, but they just aren't willing to. And in addition to this, let's add the racial perspective that black women are just not intelligent. Anyone see how this entire topic is sexist and racist? Because you should be able to see it. Because this what hate speech looks like and sounds like. 🤷

[@msceandra]

Here for Jessie Woo! 💛✨

[@bluelivesmurder5696]

I tried telling the woman that I'm dating how I feel about wanting children, getting married, and her not seeing me for my birthday. I want children and want marriage, but she doesn't. My birthday is coming up in 2 weeks, but she told me she probably won't do anything with me. Her response was to hurry up and get off the phone with me, but she sends me pictures daily of things she wants me to buy for her. Women shut out men who are emotionally available is what I've found.

[@lynnw2953]

so you two have huge FUNDAMENTAL differences in life plans, and that's your gauge of "women" and emotional availability? what a way to prove the point.

[@TheeJessieWoo]

This isn’t a emotional availability issue. She’s clearly just not into you.

[@mawnee3000]

Move on please!

[@iamlaurengill]

Find you another girl. Unfortunately, patriarchy has poisoned all of us; however, you can find a woman that appreciate you.

[@overproof1460]

Red flags all over

[@EbonyHoopGyal]

yup at 16:45 definitely we should not care. They will label us as anything negative they can no matter what we do. So why would you even care? Do you protect your peace protect your energy protect your sanity be alone

[@teddkatiku2703]

THERE IS NO HEALTHY AMOUNT OF EMOTIONAL AVAILABILITY FOR MEN IF YOU CAN SAY THAT YOUR NOT HIS THERAPIST. YALL LADIES ARE MISLEADING FELLOW WOMEN. YOU DONT UNDERSTAND THAT THE FACT THAT THE MAN WAS ABLE TO ATTRACT YOU IS BECAUSE HE SUPPRESSED MOST OF HIS EMOTIONS AND NOT COME OUT AS "TOO EMOTIONAL"

[@patriciareese9851]

Great job ladies ..y’all hit all of the issues that I’ve had with Brothas for a long time ..y’all did it in a mature knowledgeable way ..grownass beautiful confident Sistahs ..really enjoyed the conversation..am now a Subscriber 💯🖤🤎

[@JohannaD7288]

I’m so glad y’all did this.

[@ahmirmcclarin807]

I’m not finna touch every emotion for you I already don’t feel like being mad wtf do I feel like being sad after I’m mad for u

[@bilalcarguy]

Women Having Conversation with Women About changing Men 🙄 😒 😕

[@cj10109]

I see Jessie. I click lol. Love the conversation 💗 Men are not emotional period.

[@ahmirmcclarin807]

No home boy is in my shoes ,individualist

[@ahmirmcclarin807]

I’m telling white woman it’s cuz she wanna see me at my lowest for nun

[@nim3408]

I think you should look at a culture that does'nt allow men to express their God given emotions, ( to be completely Human). Sadly, this culture of non emotional men, is often enforced by women.

[@ahmirmcclarin807]

Oh yea I’m definitely not hitting the gym to make u sick me at yo own demons

[@morimusic2012]

GREAT PRESENTATION BUT THERE ARE SOME MISCONCEPTIONS HERE - BLACK MEN NEEDS PEACE - SEX - QUIET - GOOD FOOD AND SUPPORT .ON THE OTHERHAND OFTEN BLACK WOMEN ARE LOUD - DONT WANT TO COOK - DONT NEED NAGGING . OTHER RACES OFFER THESE THINGS HENCE OUR LOVE IS BEYOND RACE BUT OUTPUT

[@chantillylace1369]

🖤🖤🖤

[@mgtowbro917]

Was your father emotionally intelligemt?

[@ahmirmcclarin807]

Sooo do more work emotionally so That I dont dring u any emotion

[@groovvy11]

Really just came across this these women don't have a clue

[@Wabazanga]

Bisous ma chérie Jessie.... You look fabulous as usual.... Ton homme Noir.

[@ahmirmcclarin807]

Patmahomesnastion

[@jasminefrichtl806]

Read Inside the men of angry men why does he do that by lundy bandcroft I really like this show because it shows women supporting other women and there's not enough of that women really need that support from other women they talk about real subjects that people go through and I agree with them what they're saying about the different Generations and the next one is trying to do something different but it's hard cuz the generation before it was not as great and that people have to work through that

[@tygon13]

This video is promoting sexist and racist views that are derogatory against one gender and one race. I love the role reversal test to see if something is sexist or racist, so... Role reversal= Women are not intellectually availability if they lack intelligence capability. And the premise of the video then is about how women just aren't smart enough to cope with their own lives, let alone interact socially, and if women would just "do the work" they might be capable, but they just aren't willing to. And in addition to this, it would be about black women specifically. You want to take the roll reversal even further? Then think of it about "white women" specifically not being smart enough.

[@ahmirmcclarin807]

Uh commincate

[@LRamey]

I love that brown on Jessie skin🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎 You ladies are doing a very good job hopefully new episodes will drop soon