Can you be TRAUMA BONDED in a LONG DISTANCE relationship?

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[@GaryStewart2]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it..

[@peterwilliams6361]

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@GaryStewart2]

its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

[@peterwilliams6361]

this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.

[@NarcSurvivor]

If you are with a narcissist, they will keep you trauma bonded for as long as you’re with them. It’s how they maintain control and manage their fear of abandonment.

[@terrirobson9043]

Oh my God I cant keep this up. I am struggling more than ever the trauma bond runs so deep and has affected my whole life I have to get it gone--out of my head--thank you

[@keddy5627]

It is a process of unlearning and self validation…takes time but it can be done. Pray and ask God where you are hooking in and awareness is the first step. Be well, my Sister! 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽

[@yeaiknow]

I'm praying that you get back to being You again, in a safe and Peaceful environment where you don't ever have to deal with a narcissist ever again! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@tonifonseca9178]

My mom is a hoarder in a narcissist and what Dr Romney said about trauma bonding as a child which is why I keep going back into relationships I don't belong in😢

[@BillyLintzenich-wf7sk]

Yep terri. I didnt get to start my winter job until the 3rd week of january 2024 instead of before Christmas. I dont drink but i do go to a biker bar and eat some food w/ice tea. This december i was there almost every day for the last 2 weeks. I had to be around ppl and i knew that if i didnt live till new years day then i knew where i wouldve ended up. My narc/raging alcoholic ex-gf filed false assault & battery charges on me at the end of october. Then the week of thanksgiving she dropped them. She also admitted to riding her new bf's harley in october. She loosely admitted that the weekend she claimed she got a fractured ankle when she left my house that the next day she had rode on his harley. In short she lied. I never laid a hand on her or hit her in any way. She started a arguement because she thought i was going to keep her from seeing her new supply. Although i loved her very much i knew there was no way i would be able to stop her. Since i spent most of 2023 having a relationship with her i found out what a narcissist was and that it is possible for someone to say they love you and not mean it at all. Just please hang in there. There is light at the end of the very dark tunnel. I know you feel very alone right now but you're not alone. There are others like us who have made it out alive. Stay strong.

[@BillyLintzenich-wf7sk]

Hang in there Terri

[@danielaroth281]

Thank you for the sentence "a lot of a relationship is taking place in your head". Now I understand why when ruminating over my ex feels like still being stuck in this relationship. We broke up 4 months ago, but it seems like my brain still doesn't get it, that it's over for good.

[@christelleny]

Intermittent reinforcement is the glue that keeps the trauma bond together. Hope is what feeds it. We're hopeful beings. Healing from narcissistic abuse means becoming more realistic, and not investing our hopes in unchangeable situations. ❤

[@leilagomulka5690]

Thank you being a part of our lives. KZbin is a healthy place to learn , long distance… my deepest appreciation

[@user-io7kz4kv3z]

Dr. Ramani you are saving Sanity and you are Saving Lives !!!! What a Blessing to humanity you are Thank you for Sharing this Knowledge !!! Setting people Free, one precious Life, at a time !

[@darcyroyce]

Absolutely... Most of the time, the not so golden cage is psychological and emotional. 🙏

[@R.E.STAR24]

Absolutely. I lived it for years. Not fun. Never thought i would be bonded like that to someone long distance but it happened!

[@rubberbiscuit99]

The trauma bond is maybe the #1 thing to understand if you have any entanglement with a narcissist, in any area of your life: family, friends, work, leisure, spritual community, etc. We must understand the trauma bond to be able to free ourselves from the entanglement. (I call it that because it's not exactly a relationship when there is not a level playing field.)

[@preettyp]

I was for 3 years. No contact for 10 months for me. Of course they still try and reach out

[@erinward2983]

I still couldn’t see any of it despite the fact that he’d already done horrible things to me. There’s so much indoctrination, manipulation, coercive control. The trauma bond definitely intensified when I went away to school in my 30’s. To meet my father’s needs, I traveled to stay there 3 days/nights a week to spend time with him, get groceries, fill the fridge w premade meals, clean...He went to new lengths, telling me how special I was, said all kinds of lovely things, convinced me he wanted me to do what I needed to do for myself. (But I wasn’t). When I found someone and fell in love, he talked to him all the time but my s/o felt too bad to tell me all the horrible things he was saying about me because I convinced him my father was a wonderful man. He tried convincing him to break up with me when he knew I was in love. He was always only concerned with himself and what he needed. Never my happiness in life. It’s unreal to reflect upon the way trauma bonding works and the things narcissistic people do to keep us under their control. Even a parent.

[@OliviaYolanda-oj4uf]

That is interesting insight on how it played out for you, thank you for sharing as well.

[@AimsCarm12]

I’ve come to realize it will never be enough

[@digitalversatilediscjockey3465]

Nothing ever is enough for narcissists

[@gitaschweitzer9682]

Thank you Dr.Ramani for this video. Yes, I am trauma bonded to my long distance relationship, 4 years ago we met online…him in the US and I in Germany. We had the most exciting first three months and after that it changed quite suddenly, he stopped sending loads of emojis, stopped calling me his Queen, his beautiful classy lady…..( I admit that I liked that first but felt like it was a lil too much), his texting became one word answers and very soon after that he told me that he thinks I’m too lovey dovey and became more and more harsh, he increasingly didn’t like to spend so much time in calls, which I understood, but if we were on calls, he talked and it was all about him, I tried to put my own thoughts in but was interrupted and the topic was back to him. I went through three intense and mostly painful circles, I’m trying to detach and detox now, reading your book. He blocked me after a seemingly small argument on all social media and messenger. Yes I miss our 10% and at the same time fear his possible hoovering, I always went through such grief and even depression, and I know that this relationship is unhealthy. Sorry for the lengthy comment.

[@gopremiummedia29455]

Even when being physically apart, the emotional manipulation and the bond that was formed can still be a tough situation where it’s hard to break out of. Like it still feels like they’re physically present with you and making your life miserable. It’s like being stuck in a maze where even the exit sign seems to lead you back to the same toxic cycle.

[@danettecook2709]

I was LD with my ex. Yes yes yes. Very trauma bonded to him. He would false promise me that he was moving here. Dangling that carrot. Little lies everywhere, but I hung on to see it happen - even though I knew it wasn’t ever going to deep down.

[@ndahiya3730]

Crux : *"It's all in your head."* Means - The relationship does not exist (at least, as you think). Thank you Dr Ramani.

[@chess.6507]

The abuse changes your brain physically , specially the size of the hypothalamus, where your memories are. It explains everything

[@claireh.7605]

I was trauma bonded by a disturbed licensed group therapist with a PhD CGP credential who claimed to teach people at Harvard..

[@analiviaplurabelle2171]

As a victim of narcissist in a long distance relationship, I can tell you that the trauma bonding is as strong as being two feet away from the perpetrator. The cage is mental & emotional so makes perfect sense.

[@stl2nola72]

100% yes. I was out of state caring for my dad for 2 years and the narc was awful to me the whole time while I was feeling that addiction feeling to her. I missed her so much I could hardly stand it while she was breadcrumbing me the whole time. It was so pathetic and the cognitive dissonance was insane. I came home and after a few months, I discovered Dr Ramani and Dr Les Carter and found out what I was dealing with so I kicked her out of my life. I am so much better off without her.

[@TimetoWonder222]

Absolutely. It's a surprise box I hope never to open again. Was awful.

[@keddy5627]

My last relationship had ALL of those factors at work…today I can see the gift of looking back at my thoughts and behaviors and identify where I hooked in and refused to acknowledge the one-sidedness of the “relationship”…🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@PS-vm3we]

I’m trauma-bonded with a long-distance friend whom I have come to realise is a narcissist AND himself trauma-bonded with several narcissist female friends in his town. We’re both survivors of child sexual abuse, for him it’s a recent discovery whereas I’ve done a great deal of processing and come so far but obviously not far enough not to fall into his trap, which I bet he’s not even aware of. One of his friends was harassing me, and all of a sudden he was totally oblivious to everything he had told me about her stalking and love-bombing and defended her. Help….

[@aprilwilcox5065]

OH YES !!! I'm trauma bonded to my ex husband who lives in a different state . If I tell him I left work early I get flack from him because he thinks I'm going out... I was recently invited to a wedding and I didn't ask him to go with me and all hell broke loose.... I last spoke to him the morning of the wedding (Saturday)... I don't know where I've got the strength but I've been no contact since because it finally hit me how much he's still controlling my life and how much he's upsetting me

[@user-if2wl7hs6w]

You definitely can! I experienced it. Literally! Took me two years to free myself - psychologically.

[@kieranoconnor333]

I was in a LDR with someone with high narcissistic traits for 21 months, 5 of which was spent with her. Those 5 months are probably why I was so strongly trauma bonded to her. I’m 4 months out and healing with some relapses in the last two weeks, but I also look back and I ask myself “What the hell was I doing?”. It was one of the most amazing experiences I’ve ever had, whilst being the most dysfunctional, confusing, stressful and painful times of my life. Would not recommend.

[@sudarshanravi1565]

I recently bought your Book "It is not You" i am loving it. Though i myself havent been in one, my dear sister is suffering by being in a narc relationship... She has been isolated completely. We are from the "happy" family, best parents, best cultire, best upbringing. We never knew about this, and how wicked spouses can be... Verily the Devil himself she has been married to. And the In-laws there, to support the devil!! My godd... She has been estranged from our family. Competely loss of contact - blocked, no messages, no emails, not even allowed to step outside house. She has two kids.. Just praying all is welll with her.. I just want to gift her this book.. But how..!? It will be intercepted by them... But u have really come as an angel in my life, in understanding why and how she is caught up there.. ❤😢😢

[@oceanp1]

Yes and the connection always turn toxic when the there is no other connection or common vibes💙

[@marconius2020]

It happened to me, unfortunately. It’s been tough to detach from it.

[@user-yw5hm4fy2i]

Regardless of whether or not it is long or local relationships, if THERE IS NO TRUST==ZERO & NADA RELATIONSHIPS..For those who are POSSESSIVE & OBSESSED with their partners wanted "local relationships" for surveillance 👀 purposes, U might want to reflect back to your own selves and NOT TO PROJECTS your INSECURITIES ONTO your partners..PERIOD..

[@moniquejackson7741]

Brilliant. Learning so much!

[@SanamJanamian]

Can trauma bonding happen in long distance relationships? Yes, you can!!!! Very very easily! As I did for over 8 years!

[@nonawolf7495]

Thank you for this, Dr, R - it certainly explains a lot.

[@jadepham6451]

Thank you so much for your advices, Dr Ramani

[@eringay8965]

Yep! I was in one for almost a decade and didn’t know what it was at that time.

[@jean-pierrep6844]

You explained my life

[@PeppermintPatties]

You most certainly can be trauma bonded in a long distance relationship! I am proof of this. We moved abroad together. I had to come home after a number of years. It took 3 goes to leave and stay away. We stayed long distance after that, and I did all the work. A year ago I said 'no more' to myself. 'I'm done being taken for granted.' It took a few years together to know I had to get out, and over a decade to leave - by increments, most of it in separate countries. The grief is excruciating, and I keep feeling like I'm making the worst decision of my life, and turning my back on a friend. Thing is, I know this is the best decision of my life. It's traumatic now, but I will thank myself later. ❤️

[@cherjimenez3261]

Dr Ramani, you certainly articulated my experience before I married my nex (narcissistic ex). Took me 11 years before I managed to leave and even then didn’t know anything about this type of personality until I saw your video. He moved on quickly after finding another victim through LDR and improving his love bombing styles. Thank you 🙏

[@zoesmith6127]

Yessss !!! I thank you Dr . I went through trauma bonding in longtime relationships. I went through that a face to face couple goes through relationships. It is aweful the Narcissists are evil creatures with no soul. I’m so thankful I waiked away from that. Will be 12 months since I blocked him I deleted emails and I went No contact I’ve not looked back. And the bad thing about it in the middle of dealing with that my beautiful 27 year old daughter pregnant was killed in an intentional car crash.My ex Narc acted like he cared and it was only a charade with more reason I decided to dumped him if he didn’t care for my suffering why I should keep helping him when he never did anything for me . I’m taking one day at a time missing my daughter it’s aweful painful 😢😢😢💔💔💔💔.But as far as him concerned I can careless about his doing.Appreciate your teachings Dr Ramani 💜💜💜💜

[@TheLove1Makes]

Good Advice Thanks

[@Anivasion]

I wish I'd heard all this 10 years ago, but from looking at him, you'd never realize the depths he was capable of taking us to. Two years of long distance relationship was a great way for a narcissist to handpick the experience of their victim. One week in person showed how much was a lie but you're so right - a lot of our relationship was made up in my head, of all the things he gave me to look forward to, and it sounded amazing ❤ but it was all part of the love bomb lie. You don't know what they're really like until you're living with one and they can't keep the facade up 24/7

[@maevebutler4641]

I feel like I have ended the trauma bond between my narcissistic elderly mother I was being baited over the phone & reflected back on each telephone conversation & I could understand & literally feel that old tug from the trauma bond I actually feel so free & she can't manipulate me anymore Therapy & your videos, DrRamini, have set me free She no longer has any power or control over me

[@reneelibby4885]

I'm guessing yes! they really get in your heads.

[@user-yw5hm4fy2i]

Definitely, long distances of traumas bonding could become as soap opera drama's 💣 bombing💣 no differently from nearby drama's bombarded since nowadays the main methods of communication R via emails, WhatsUp to Downloads viruses freely 🤣😂, and Zoomed out or Skyscrapers 😆😄..Period..

[@mariehughey5390]

I’ve managed to go no contact with my narcissistic parent and sister and their enablers. Can’t make myself go no contact with my daughter who sides with the rest of the family. So, yes, long distance trauma bond. I’m getting better. But it’s still hard.

[@PenninkJacob]

Thank you !!! 👍❤❤❤

[@Librarian322]

This long- distance narc trauma bond-> was way worse! 😫😊 long distance made me more insecure. Serial cheater now begging wife 2 back. Says grass is not greener after her! Personally, I am greener. His wife b/c stud addict during my marriage though clean now.

[@Alex-js5lg]

The long distance also gives time for self-doubt of your own recollection of events creep in before seeing the other person again. Especially for someone with a bad memory, that was hard to deal with. I felt like the same problems kept coming up over and over, but I could never put it all together until we moved in and I lived it daily.

[@jessicabsbaron17]

Doc, can you please talk more about a narcisist #mother relationship? Thank you so much for your work. ❤

[@OliviaYolanda-oj4uf]

Most definitely thank you all very true in the reflection of my life currently. 🙏 10:10

[@carolynjaynes9094]

I spent too much time trying to please the unpleasable. I've stopped. I feel SO much better with no contact.

[@AimsCarm12]

They keep trying to manipulate, control and hurt

[@chad_mackinson]

I'm so trauma bonded, it sometimes feels like I could introduce myself as "My name is Bond, Trauma Bond". No, but honestly. I'm healing though! :)

[@glawrk2861]

I wonder if at some point you can make videos talking about survivor's guilt in narcissistic relationships

[@TheKrispyfort]

KZbin channel 'illymation' shares her experience with narcissistic long distance abuse. Not for the feint of heart, and definitely why parents should prioritise more intentional time with their kids

[@laurad1487]

Yes. Phone calls mean that voice directly takes up residence on your head, and they can get at you day and night, once they know you will always respond. The way it escalates is from words on a screen to phone calls to video chats to wanting to travel to your door, and from a gentle friendship to sweet romantic overtures, to the mask slipping, and then wanting to act out his darkest, most frightening desires, eroding all my ability to act in a manner of self-preservation. I was slowly losing my sense of self. It was like a drug, an addiction, that was quickly going out of my control. Finally, it became a matter of whether or not I would allow him to physically destroy me, or if I still had enough agency to block all access, leaving emotionally and mentally nearly destroyed. It has been a long road to recovery, I'm still not free, and maybe I never completely will be. My trust and self-confidence are gone, and there is so much shame over being caught up in it. I self isolate a lot.

[@KC-ns9do]

This almost happened to me but got out early thank goodness. He continued sending atrocious messages for months after relationship ended. Horrible experience.

[@matthewclarki]

Healthy people, heal people. Unhealthy people, hurt people. I’m an unhealthy person. It’s so strange. It’s so damaging. I want an easy way out. When a person’s been hurt sometimes they don’t know the things they do and they proceed to hurt others. How is an unhealthy person supposed to heal without healthy people, when the unhealthy person does not know how to relate healthily…

[@kognitivescientist]

It’s a pendulum. Or they will succeed to heal you (with secure attachment, and helping you reflect on stuff patiently and gradually in relations), or you will succeed to make them anxious and traumatise them. Depends who has more resource, whether you are committed to become more healthy or will just continue to act thoughtlessly based on your traumas (and how much resource needed to reach the depth of your own trauma). Everything is possible with dedicated effort - mostly yours toward yourself.

[@kognitivescientist]

Dr Ramani, I’m surprised nobody’s talking about this yet: the recent Taylor Swift album looks as a manuscript on relationships with avoidant (who have been there, can relate to album a lot, and knows how similar the trauma left by avoidant is to the one left by narcissist). There is some distance kept in relationship, some secrecy, possible infidelity with random partners etc, they disappear when you chase them and so on…There is a big difference however between intentional narcissist and just self-absorbed independent avoidant person. That can lead to many avoidant people mislabeled as narcissists. Can this topic of this difference be discussed, please?

[@ruthtroast8057]

Oh Yes it can! And here I thought the distance would be a good thing since I was calling the shots. Not so. I was, in fact, facilitating more abuse. 😢

[@AimsCarm12]

Yes!!!

[@ohhmyyken]

YES!!!!

[@Fer-vq6ru]

It happened to me although we were continents apart! I can see it now, but then I was totally into a relationship that was one sided (he of course was never truly committed).

[@R.E.STAR24]

I'm glad I'm not the only one! I was actually too embarrassed to tell anyone about my previous relationship bc he lived thousands of miles away, and I was judged and looked at funny when people would ask how we met... it was awkward and I'm so glad its over.

[@R.E.STAR24]

I'm glad I'm not the only one! I was actually rather embarrassed about my previous relationship with my ex narc due to how far away we lived. When people I knew asked how he and I met, I'd get the weird looks and judgements would come from those who asked. I was so trauma bonded while with him, I thought I'd never get away. You'd think it'd be easy to leave a L.D. relationship but it's not, especially when being psychologically tortured.

[@vickyl1010]

If you keep answering the phone, you can get in a long distance trauma bond😢

[@daykibaran9668]

Hey 👋🏻

[@pinkmeadows]

👋❤️

[@youngblood8540]

Hi 👋

[@user-um9um5op8y]

Wow.

[@GLWise-om6rt]

Can this happen the opposite way when a child does larry this to a parent?

[@pascalbro7524]

I've trauma bonded parasocially with several narcissists and even gave it the term 'parasocial trauma bond' as, if you look at the literature, even though categorically you can tell the difference, not so much for your subconscious. We treat those relationships pretty much the same on a subconscious level or any relationship for that matter. That's how fandom manifests, not necessarily because the performer is a narcissist but, it can be a matter of familiarity and relatability as well like you see with Taylor Swift. They're not technically your friend but there is curiosity and emotional attachment. Couple that with the addictive tech baked into your devices and social media and you have a potentially hazardous recipe, especially if you're at a vulnerable stage, if the person you are bonding with is a narcissist and find yourself having more time to engage with such a product. I'm now dealing with chronic depression, as a result of that experience. So, I'd say yes to the question regarding long distance trauma bonds and they would be more prevalent because addictive tech can reinforce it through fomo, intermittent reinforcement - basically the same things narcissists to to keep you engaged.

[@lb2229]

Hey 👋

[@pinkmeadows]

👋❤️

[@daykibaran9668]

Hi 👋🏻

[@youngblood8540]

Hi 👋

[@Poppy-yx8js]

Get out of my phone!! Now!!

[@amtulrehman]

Can there be a trauma bond in a situationship ?

[@nickijames5122]

It’s the trauma bonding that gets you to stay in the marriage, even if you were planning to leave, and other things of course. The longer you stay the harder it is to leave, in my case anyway.

[@neommutle8033]

Has anyone had their items, disappeare then reappear again 🤔 ? To make you feel like your crazy 🤪. Like clothes, devices etc. What is with that Dr R ?

[@jarenkoelzer1994]

I found out yesterday morning that my narcissistic ex passed away suddenly. I am struggling greatly with euphoric recall. Could you please do a video on this? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you.

[@unknownentrappment_ed3522]

this,ain't fair Doctor Ramani...?

[@kkryz]

Yes

[@copyandme]

I was going to share my story with you of living 4 months with a woman who was trauma bonded in a 15 year LDR. We loved each other but she couldn't break off the bond. Was going to share because it details the effects of 15 plus years in this situation that I had become aware of, and I haven't seen you discuss the effects it has specifically on long term abuse victims. I only realized what was going on once I left, and learnt all about this social science mainly from you Dr R.😊

[@nawbrah2841]

I hope you can find the time to read this @DoctorRamani, but I am a narcissist. I’ve been dealing with it (or rather, failing to deal with it) for years now and I’m at the point where my marriage is close to collapse. My wife is devastated by everything I’ve put her through. I came to your videos for understanding but I was truly crushed to find that you’ve never seen a case of genuine turnaround from someone like me. And that’s frankly not what I wanted to hear. I want to make my wife, who never deserved any of what she’s gone through, happy. I want to see her confidence and mental health restored. And I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want to still be in her life as her husband. But I still have trouble listening, still lie over completely stupid things, and am still generally selfish. I still get angery when my self image is challenged. Is that hope for my wife and I something unrealistic? Can I actually change my perspective? Do I need an ego death? I guess I feel lost and hurt by how much hurt I’ve caused, and I don’t know what’s best for the people I love.

[@MonikaBochanska]

Lektor Polski plis 🙏🙏

[@janesmithe6457]

❤

[@LiveFaustDieJung]

It’s very complicated when a narcissistic parent dies. They get you enmeshed and now I’m left what the hell is my purpose now? I felt like my purpose was emotional support animal. Now I have no purpose. I know logically that isn’t true, but emotionally I was raised to be totally bonded to my Mother. It’s kind of embarrassing. 40 years old still crying about my Mom. I’m healing and getting better, but it’s not easy. And it’s kinda of funny, because when I was a kid I prayed to be adopted by a beloved teacher or elder. Now I’d almost take the emotional abuse to have her back. That’s also embarrassing. This isn’t a pity me thing. Just saying how does one recover? It’s like I have constant Stockholm syndrome.

[@Freedom-2BME]

😢

[@dabbler1166]

Psshhhhhh..... I'm totally burned out on anymore videos on KZbin about: A) Trauma bonding or B) Attachment styles Its time for a New topic.

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

I have been TBonded in all forms of relationship, even long distance with ‘friends’. It’s so messed up. Learning to stand up for myself, communicate, see truths, express concerns as needed and step back when I see how they respond and if it feels unhealthy for me. Prioritizing my well being and giving myself lots of space grace and freedom to not try so hard. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[@OliviaYolanda-oj4uf]

She is a true blessing 🙏 10:10

[@user-yl6qg2gf7h]

Viste? Trauma bonding. Anja

[@merlinwizard1000]

12th, 22 April 2024

[@user-yl6qg2gf7h]

An old case. That's it.

[@awakenu_1686]

How does Trauma bonding relationships with your child work😍

[@trayl06]

😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔

[@georgirancour198]

living in a narcissistic relationship is like living in s communist country. ( hopefully without the desth threats snd literl prison threats). there is constant oversupervision, someone is always listening, telling you what music u can listen to, whst movies u csn wstvh, who u can talk to. being out is Heaven in the Bahamas on Christmas after winning the Lottery.

[@user-um9um5op8y]

Bahamas on Christmas after winning the lottery is such an awesome imaginary someday. Tysm for this loveliness

[@mags7848]

Even though I agree with your simile, I find it rather narrow; I would replace "living in a communist country" with "living in an authoritarian state"/"living under an authoritarian regime".

[@ysmithriley]

OF COURSE YOU CAN BE TRAUMA BONDED IN A LDR!!! Ask me how I knowww!!! 😬😱😱😭😭🤨🤨🤬🤬

[@heleneisotta4288]

❤

[@trevorvaz7109]

Where were you 10 years ago 😂😂😂

[@totonow6955]

Yes trauma bonding long distance - look at Ukraine now. Perhaps Imperial paternalistic relationships are not good especially in light of ongoing climate collapse. Perhaps we are nervous due to our own trauma bond but we are going ro need to take the keys folks because some narciscists are drunk driving this whole ship. We know the outcome needs to be for life so we all need to be ready. We are not weak. The particular life situations we are understanding are mirrors of the universal.

[@b8akaratn]

We don't normally say "long-distance marriage" & with this video, i now wonder if we should - because we're too used to just calling it "marriage" and marriages as a whole may be more prone to proving the existence OF trauma bonds. Matrimony is always subject to Patriarchy in a Capitalist economy. This is why the Wife is NEVER 'always right' UNLESS She is a Customer completing a financial transaction. #$hoes&$hopping, Girls!!!! ❤💙❣️👗💪

[@valeriyav2009]

Yes