Can You Get Stuck in the Dark Night of the Soul?

[@InnerResearcher]

Hi dear ones! In my previous video '4 Dark Night of the Soul Stages Explained', there were a lot of comments asking for a support group/forum/community so everyone could share their knowledge, experience, and ask questions. I am currently working on this. If you are interested of being part of a dark night of the soul community, you can sign up for this newsletter, so when I launch the support forum/group, you can join: mailchi.mp/1d1a816d7c89/inner-researcher

[@3rinityivysage292]

From a child I haven’t wanted to be here, I’m 41 now and I’ve tried so many tools to get my head straight and enjoy this experience but every time I think I’ve made it the dark night of the soul comes back to bite me in my arse!! I have a wonderful life, beautiful children and an amazing partner but I just can’t seem to grasp happiness here. It’s really draining and I’m at the point of seeing a doctor to numb it with medication. I have nothing to be sad about (I think) yet everyday is a drag, a loop, same old story. Tired is an understatement. Yet I smile and laugh each day away like a crazy woman 😅

[@h.l.d.p.l.d...]

I recognize your story. Not that it directly helps, It's no short cut. But looking up your human design may give insights on where your energy is blocked and tools to work with. Much love... Xhilde...

[@3rinityivysage292]

@ thank you ❤️ I have looked up my human design but I haven’t studied it properly so I will look into it deeper. Love, light and blessings to you xx

[@Bekindonelove-channel]

Thank you for your incredible videos on the Dark Night of the Soul. You’re the first person I’ve heard touch on the underlying framework of the process, and it really resonated with me. You mentioned having a mentor or someone to share the experience with-could you speak more about that? I went through my own Dark Night of the Soul, but I didn’t realize what it was called until now. My experience lasted for three intense months-an overload of emotions and sensations, encompassing every possible experience: the good, the bad, and the ugly. During this time, I also perceived a lot of information that seemed to be on a universe level. Is this normal? Do these experiences actually hold meaning, or are they simply the mind’s way of processing and outputting the data being received? You touched on some crucial points that helped me push through to the other side. I’d love to share more of my journey because I can still remember almost every detail of what I went through. It would be amazing to connect with someone who truly understands this process.

[@Flux06-dy3ru]

you are describing depression and then awakening.

[@thesunshineblissproject]

This video speaks to me on so many levels. Thank you.

[@thesunshineblissproject]

Grateful your channel popped up today.

[@InnerResearcher]

Thank you! So glad to hear it resonated. 🙏🏻

[@BeakerInShortShorts]

It’s too bad that not as many people have seen this video as your most popular one. Hard work is hard work. 😔

[@InnerResearcher]

Hard work is hard work indeed… 😔

[@patriciadeoliveira4126]

To come across your videos on the dark night of the soul was the light and hope I needed in this moment. I have been going through it intensely, doing a lot of spiritual and psychological work etc but needed someone more human to actually feel it is possible to come the other side. Thank you so much for sharing such precious information. I also wanted to know how that affected the way you look at relationship after that. I feel I based most of my identity on that and as it’s now collapsing I wonder if it’s still possible to be in relationships with other people specially if it’s someone who didn’t go through the same process. Thank you

[@InnerResearcher]

Thank you so much for your kind words & thank you for sharing your experience with me. Trust me - when i was in the dark night i felt so hopeless & didn’t know if it was possible to get to the other side (at one point i was sure i was loosing my mind). But its so possible. About relationships: great question & maybe another video to make to discuss because it’s a big topic. It is possible to maintain relationships but also the same as your sense of self is shattering & changing, many of my friendships/relationships changed or ended, too. Sending you all my love ❤️

[@patriciadeoliveira4126]

@@InnerResearcher Yes, I feel my world is shaking in that sense too. My relationship already ended a couple of months ago and I believe I was already in the Dark night since I started therapy again last year and realised that relationship was coming to end. I’d love a video on this topic. My concern is more about how we will find new relationships that match our new way to be, but I guess this is all part of the process and will come naturally (with a lot of pain 😅). Thanks for the quick answer and amazing work.

[@InnerResearcher]

@@patriciadeoliveira4126 I so hear you on this! I had the same concern. I honestly thought that even when I exist the dark night, I won't find anyone... Well, lo' and behold, and life works in mysterious way... A match came... :) Thank you for the kinds words. and to clarify - you wanted a video on the topic of finding new relationship(s) after the dark night?

[@TheDWZemke]

Nice job... we have people that get stuck in low vibrations for life times.... I was lucky it has been a year... Wake up everyday being greatful. Blessings to you.

[@InnerResearcher]

Gratitude always! Blessings to you as well.

[@RitamBuchwald]

There is this scene in Lawrence of Arabia that I love, it kind of illustrates something that can be applied to strong emotions, when viewed through the proper lens. Lawrence puts out a flame with his finger tips without flinching, then another guy tries to do the same, and says, 'That dam well hurts. Whats the trick?' Lawrence replies, 'The trick, is not minding that it hurts.' That could be taken in multiple ways. But I think the healthy way to look at it is, when it comes to strong emotions, is allowing them to exist without labeling them as something negative, but as something that our body/soul is telling us that we need to be with to understand the message that it's telling us. A person can break a lot of mal-adaptive survival strategies if they can learn to be okay with the drowning feeling that comes when facing these things. What I'm learning is that those feelings are often trapped energy that needs a positive mode for expression. And when we take the lid off ourselves it can set us into a panic mode because suddenly we feel our survival is at risk, because we are revealing more to ourselves and the world who we really are.

[@InnerResearcher]

couldn't agree more with everything that you said!

[@RitamBuchwald]

@@InnerResearcher :)

[@mantvydasluk9522]

Thank you for this video and video before. It gave me some clarity where I am and what I'm going through. It is hard. You can get tricked to follow old paterns and lose your way to the illumination. So many distractions. Is it possible to move between three stages? Sometimes, I feel that way. I found a deeper connection with Mother Nature. It helps me to be grounded every day. Very often only in solitude and feeling that connection with nature helps me to move forward and keep myself on the right way. I could feel support from higher spirits also. Anyway, it doesn't matter how hard it becomes. I try to stay positive always. Thank you so much once again 🙂

[@InnerResearcher]

Thank you for your kind words & for sharing 🙏🏻 i believe it is possible to move between the three stages. Great to hear nature helps - keep leaning into that! And higher spirits are always around us to support. There is a reason you were invited to go through this experience!

[@mantvydasluk9522]

@InnerResearcher I think here is a reason for all of us to communicate and share that inner wisdom. After all, everything comes from the same source - life itself. From that beautiful inner feeling of connection with all life. We all have different spiritual journeys, and at the same time, we are looking for the same thing - to connect with our true self. Here are no coincidences in life. Everything is so closely connected and can't exist on its own. Your video was one more piece of puzzle sent to me from those higher spirits. Just to say that everything is okay and support is all around me. Around all of us. You just need to have faith in higher power. Explore ourselves and get a deeper understanding of life. As you said, pain just helps us to grow. It is very uncomfortable and can feel like torture, but in the end, we are all living imprisoned in our minds. Controled by neurotic self maniac. Only we can decide if we want to break free and take control of our inner world. Leaving the outside world to unfold in a miraculous way. Get yourself surprised by every moment of your life. Thank you so much for replying. I really appreciate it. One love to everyone! ❤️

[@InnerResearcher]

@@mantvydasluk9522 I couldn't agree more with every single word that you wrote!!! 💙

[@Asd.653]

How do we know when DNOTS is ended?

[@baaraanzahedi5036]

What if you try to detach from old negative beliefs but everything happens to you makes those negative beliefs STRONGER? What if you feel like all the universe is against your efforts? Once I believed in free will but everything happened in a way that I realized I have no control on the important aspects of my life. Now I believe that life happens to me. What if you have no one to talk to about your emotions and feelings because they criticise you for feeling those emotions? Even my therapist couldn't help me and decided to stop the therapy!!! You see how I'm trying to get out of it but the universe stops me! These are my experiences. Am I really experiencing a spirituall path or I am just a loser in life?

[@InnerResearcher]

First thing i want to say is that you are DEFINITELY not a loser.!!! And i sooooo know what you mean. I have so been there & honestly lost all my faith in life, thought that everything was working against me, and also felt like i have no free will. There is an excellent book called 'the untethered soul' that really helped me. essentially, when we say 'i will be happy no matter what', life starts to test us and gives us EVERYTHING that can make us unhappy. it tests our commitment. it asks us to transform and let go. I promise you there is light and there is hope. The hardest thing indeed is if you don't have community or people that understand, i struggled with this too. I suggest to join groups (online/offline), seek out meditation groups, etc to meet individuals that might be going through the same & can offer support.

[@baaraanzahedi5036]

@@InnerResearcher Thanks a lot for your heartwarming response! I really appreciate it. It's actually the second time I've seen that book mentioned today, so I'll definitely give it a read. Thanks again!

[@InnerResearcher]

@@baaraanzahedi5036 Highly highly recommended it!! If you've seen it for the second time, perhaps it's a nudge to get it!! :)

[@Bluebyyou3405]

I think I’m stuck in the purification stage .

[@InnerResearcher]

Keep moving through it 🙏🏻

[@Flux06-dy3ru]

​@@InnerResearcherkeep moving through what what are we purifying?

[@thesunshineblissproject]

Same here. Had challenges feeling my emotions.

[@vyndria5267]

Thank you first in foremost for these videos they have been helpful. I was wondering if you had any advice on how to combat anxiety during this process. I feel like I’m constantly stuck in my own head and while I don’t believe I deserve to be in this place of pain and discomfort I’m definitely fearful of not being present enough in it and prolonging the period of intense grief and confusion. Any thoughts?

[@baronbullshyster2996]

Dear Gabie May I ask if you use meditation as part of your daily life or not?

[@InnerResearcher]

Yes! I try to meditate every day 🙏🏻 Whether it’s sitting in silence, reciting a mantra, or doing a guided meditation.

[@baronbullshyster2996]

@@InnerResearcher 👍

[@waelfaraj6705]

Spirituality is detachment from this world and deep connection with the formless , timeless spaceless and infinite eternally ... Everything shall pass as a wise man advised a king ..." This too shall pass " , is a statement written on a ring and given to the king , All we know is that Divine bring Grace that would neither change or swing , Love is constant with eternal wings, Giving you life with water spring, To transfer all into a greater thing , Do not be attached to anything , Open up to God in all and everything ...

[@InnerResearcher]

Do not be attached, yes indeed :)