Can you KISS or HOLD HANDS in public in CHINA?

Why can you almost never see couples holding hands or kissing each other on the streets of China? What if you were dating a Chinese woman or a Chinese man, would you be able to show public affection in China? Although it isn't against the law, it is seriously frowned upon in China, especially if you're a mixed couple! I'll tell you all about it in this video!
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[@youaremopped]

Spit on the street all you want, just don't hold hands. 🤦‍♂️

[@ThePhantom712]

I wonder what happens if u spit on Maos statue is that the same as spiting on the ground?

[@manyy5287]

@@ThePhantom712 If someone had filmed it and posted it online, he would have been blamed by everyone and possibly even taken to the station by the police for investigation.

[@jeygee3736]

Put up posters soliciting BJ's in public while kids around.. no problem. Holding hands... DISCUSTING!

[@Fiaw1]

80% of the people around you are coughing and without covering their mouths, and then you get sick. Was it poor hygeinic practices of the people around you? Nah, it must be because you drank cold water or kept the air conditioning on during the summer. Yep.

[@krollic]

Marry young, immediately have kids and the parents in law move in permanently? sounds like fucking hell

[@ty-ke7tu]

not really true for all family, my grandparents didn't move in with my parents.

[@emmanuela.2932]

At least they are very conservative people. I like that.

[@nodosa994]

Does not sound too different from Mexico.

[@fenglincaihuo]

Not really, i'm a young Chinese man, according to the tradition in my region, I married at 23, have child in 25, my parents moved to our house to take care of the child and household, I quit my first job and get a fund from my father-in-law for my start-up, now I' m a 30-year-old entrepreneur, my parents are still healthy and my son has grown up and my wife can tales the relay, I plan to retire when my son will go to univ. at my age of 45

[@FoodforThought12345678dsds]

joek - it's called giving and teaching your kids how to be independent and have their own lives. Something you will never know

[@ilovethismightyfineplace]

Watching your videos often give some insight into my wife's seemingly odd behaviors. Thanks for that. My wife was like this when we're in China. I was so offended when she would act like we weren't together, but I married her anyway. When you talk about the ins and outs of interracial marriage, it resonates with me so much. I can attest that what you said is generally true.

[@thegrimyeaper]

Oh my God, he's fixing aspect ratio with his bare hands now.

[@CaptnJackHammer]

Winston my friend, I know exactly where you are coming from. I had very similar experiences with my chinese wife when we first got married. But as time changes, attitude change also. Now we don't even get a second look anywhere we go. A very good vlog indeed

[@gyrocompa]

When we travelled through China with my Chinese fiancée (who now has been my wife for 15 years), a few Chinese people that she had never seen told her she was a whore. She was really upset and sad. At that time I couldn't understand either what they said or their mindset, but all you mention in this video is right (although I would have thought the situation had changed). In Beijing subway she wouldn't let me hold her hand or kiss her. And when she told her family, they strongly disagreed our marriage. As always, your videos are 200% true and accurate, and after 15 years of common life with a Chinese person I still learn from them. Thank you for such an awesome job !

[@THEBIGGESTSCUMBAG]

I'M DATING A CHINESE GIRL & THIS EXPLAINS ALOT

[@JHall-dl1sb]

You nailed it again. It’s culture traditional mind set. Affection, loving, kissing, hugging is behind close door. It’s already gradually changed, relaxing a bit according all the Cdramas are showing. I am even shocked, really? The scenes in dramas showing in public just like western world.

[@tyfowler3155]

Another quick tip: When you are in a relationship with a Chinese girl and things are getting serious to where you are contemplating marriage, after the engagement is not the time to be introduced to the parents. You should go to meet the entire family during Chinese New Year, stay in their town for the holiday (bring gifts for the parents and others) and show the parents you are respectful and have good intentions. You must win them over! If you can't, move on and try again.

[@chunye215]

I also feel like showing affection in public is wrong just because of how I grew up, but at least here in Beijing you see younger people, maybe below 25, while kissing and holding hands in public more and more. Maybe not the same as in the west, in Germany I felt like seeing it everywhere. Don't underestimate the speed of change in China.

[@bjv311]

i love the little emperor behind you at 7:07. he even throws a tantrum after he walks away from you. LOL

[@sunnynexxt]

Brandon Van Zandt Hahaha I spotted him as well 😸

[@Tmidiman]

Brandon Van Zandt that was funny!

[@ethanpaul878]

lol I saw that to and I was like lets check the comments to see if any one saw

[@donpardo1]

well spotted, mate!

[@shannonsutherland2450]

Lmao

[@AlbertCloete]

Love how open minded you are with understanding people and their motivations when they behave badly towards you.

[@ThinWhiteAxe]

You kind of have to be when you're a stranger in a strange land...

[@petey6655]

I bet they'd be a lot more vitriol if the aggressors were Caucasian. Lots of double standards out there.

[@Shrapnel82]

"In this whole traditional society, childbearing is, of course, incredibly important" *cut to shot of insane overpopulation*

[@Cortanasboyfriend]

I personally hate when couples hold hands or show signs of affection in public, mainly cause I'm jealous and single, and it feels like a slap in the face.

[@colin9174]

Fairly certain thats sarcasm

[@Cortanasboyfriend]

Piatequila that’s definitely not a narcissistic trait, a narcissistic trait would be thinking that those couples must be miserable and worthless and it’s better to be alone

[@Cortanasboyfriend]

Vlad the Inhaler or maybe everyone else is not sensitive enough. 🖕🏻

[@Cortanasboyfriend]

Colin nope

[@Cortanasboyfriend]

Starseedspirit sounds great. Does it come with more sarcasm?

[@Math617261273]

As I watch your videos more I realize how close China is to Japan, I'm a brazilian of belgian descent and I'm currently living in Japan and a lot of what you said in your video could be applied to here as well, I guess it's the influence of those confucian values that were imported to Japan from China a long time ago, but relationships (especially marriages) between foreigners and japanese are also frowned upon here, the whole left-over women is also something in Japan (they call these women christmas cake here), although because of the more relaxed economic situation due to being a first world country and being more heavily influenced by western culture (especially american) Japan seems to be in a more relaxed situation where these social dogmas, despite still existing, are not so big anymore as they were in the past. Because of that I don't think it's fair to blame this entire situation on the lost generation. Japan and China have a lot of common cultural concepts regarding love and relationship, however China seems to be living in the Japan of the 1970s/1980s when it comes to those issues.

[@warrenknight9276]

This is very important to explain, as I found out this in the 70s, as I meet my future wife in Singapore, 37 year's together definitely was a extremely great life, sadly she passed away four years ago now,

[@ashjones2627]

Sounds like you had an awesome life together, I hope you're happy in a different way now.

[@MrMajsterixx]

this comment really got me a lot, i dont know why, i really dont, probably because i have a very hard time to get over what girls did to me trough my life, but imagining i could find a good one and she would pass. that would be the end of me.

[@Welshkathy1]

Get well soon Winston! Love watching your videos especially when your sense of humour comes through.

[@X-Gen-001]

I think Chinese Nationalists actually have a lot to thank you for. Making the rest of us aware of how interesting China is. I have more fascination and respect for China in seeing how we differ in culture but also the amusing ways that we're are the same with our human fallibility, regardless of race.

[@AndalusianPrince]

How much did the ccp pay you for this comment

[@X-Gen-001]

@@AndalusianPrince A lot.

[@dfonseka2120]

lmao why am I hooked on serpentza, prozzie and laowhy88 videos

[@courtneybush9769]

Same here

[@kwickdrawdindonufin2269]

A touchy topic explained very well, Nice Winston

[@denispasanen9237]

Same issue, bro. My first girlfriend in China rejected me holding her hand, and I thought the problem was me)

[@elliemanchenwang3903]

Very enlightening! I am from China, but spending my young adulthood in Europe, I almost forgot how these things work in China until I watched this video.

[@dhrubajyoti3]

is your parents member of ccp ? ccp hides the tiannmen square massacre and the uyghur muslim killings in the xianjiang province

[@TheSoloExpat]

Do you have instagram???

[@thelovegan8635]

Extremely creative in the simple effects you do in your videos, funny and lovely as your personality. Stay Awesome as well!

[@TheColonelKlink]

A value system not too far removed from what you might find in 18th century England. It was a woman's primary task when younger to marry and marry well. Lest she become a spinster (left over woman) and a "burden" to her family. Oh ya. I have read Jane Austen. I admit it.

[@ludara8697]

Women failure rate is 20% male 60%.

[@MegaWarell]

True, it was actually rather common with lifetime bachelors 100-200 years ago in European countries. I think there are more couples now than back then. The only difference is that people who actually were married back then just gave birth to more children compared to today.

[@Cortanasboyfriend]

@@ludara8697 what do you mean by failure?

[@Cortanasboyfriend]

Only reason they are left overs is cause of the other ass holes in society

[@ludara8697]

+Lord of Cinder spreading genes

[@araistel1980]

Great video Winston :) I agree with you about kissing and holding hands but I must say (as I'm a foreigner living in China too) we can't say that it is everywhere like that in this country. Each province, even city is a little bit different from another if not more. I've been to many cities around China and in some of those cities I've met very unfriendly people where even my wife has felt very uncomfortable and she is Chinese. We couldn't even hold our hands because people gave us nasty look. However there are cities where Chinese & Foreigner couples are something normal to see. They kiss in public and hold their hands like Chinese couples ( I do it often with my wife) and people around don't really care or at least don't want to. I live in Nanjing and people here are not that traditional as in other cities. Don't get me wrong, they still are but seeing a Chinese woman with a foreigner boyfriend/husband it is something normal here. You should visit Nanjing someday :) All the best and stay awesome :)

[@megarory1985]

AT 6:55 You can see a little emperor just watch him react and have a mini tantrum. He's got a green shirt.

[@Zirc0nium69]

I love people who are like you. Just authentic, no holds barred honesty and authenticity, which is probably why you feel at home in china. Too many people think in extremes. CHINA IS GOOD vs CHINA IS BAD. I love that what you do shows that china is first of all a place like everywhere else, including a lot of awesome stuff and a lot of terrible shit. I also love that you can both see negative aspects of cultural behaviour and some strenghts others have without drifting into racism or worship. I often have the impression that for people who already are from two cultures its easier to see these things neutrally, even intelligent friends of mine will often have opinions clearly clouded by some form of patriotism or chauvinism that they have simply because they have only experienced one point of view. Kind of off topic here, sorry for that, but after watching something like 8 hours of your videos within a short timeframe i had to express how impressed i am. Keep inspiring people to be less scared and more open to the world, i firmly believe we need this kind of thing now more than ever.

[@maaifoediedelarey4335]

Everything you said is right on - I've also been in China for about 7 years now, and got married here. Though I have to say, personally I'm also not really a 'public display of affection' type of guy, so it suits me just fine. However : Yes, my wife also had this thing about not wanting to make it obvious out in the city that we're together, which at times kinda pissed me off a little, but I found ways to deal with that by anticipating it beforehand and act accordingly by myself. That has diminished by this time, now she doesn't really care much. Guess it's tough on them as you said, and they also need to work it out for themselves and get used to it.

[@littleshoeshopper]

You will probably get more hate when the woman is pretty like his wife.

[@azzinny]

In a university campus, I can see Chinese students hugging and kissing everyday.

[@bludclone]

honestly even in the west i hate public displays of affection its like there's a time and place but in public is not one of those

[@zoeyanaqvi-zn7482]

good

[@FlatEarthTruth611]

I agree, I'm a white-anglo Australian and even I think intimacy should be a private thing. I don't really like seeing it in public either. That is one thing I think Asian cultures do right imo.

[@andersonboy620]

Man, i really want you to release a video on talking about the problems of dating ladies from the older generation, like over 30. It would be very useful. Please make a video about it!

[@lineage13]

When I walk around China with my white American GF I get thumbs up, smiles, and intrigue.

[@user-jn1ts4wl1c]

Maybe its the stigma that when men do it, its ok. But when women do it, she must be desperate for a greencard or are left-over or some shit.

[@Hobypyrocom]

good old "stability"... yup its something from the past, nowadays you can easily loose everything in a second...

[@zhanghaoze]

almost no stability unless you work in government.

[@AbsoluteMiniacGena]

😉 Lose not loose

[@chriswilson8584]

This video is very true. My wife, when were dating, was the exception. She told me the reasons why we were getting so many looks, it was 2005. I was also lucky that my parents in law saw that I was a good man and would always be looking out for their daughter so they were really accepting. At the same time, many male friends were in love with their Chinese girlfriends and the girlfriends were basically forced to end the relationships because of their parents.

[@tiaopiak]

As for meeting the parents, Chinese has a POV on this. Children do not a bring a boyfriend or girlfriend home unless you are serious about the relationship (possible marriage). Thus that is why during Chinese New Year, a lot of pressure was given to children to bring someone home in China. Another reason is that if your family liked your current boyfriend or girlfriend however you decided to break up, the process becomes infinitely more difficult because it's possible that your own family will take their side.

[@worldcitizenra]

Seems that my experience is different. I had a couple of long term relationships in Guangzhou & Hong Kong with Chinese women. Never had a problem with holding hands and never saw any negative responses from people around us. That said, kissing in public, except for the occasional light kiss on the cheek, just didn't happen. However, I don't remember seeing Chinese couples, except for young college kids, holding hands at all. I guess the women I dated were more independent and were approaching middle age. However, never had anything but positive interactions with their friends. Never experienced anything negative over general, not extended, displays of basic affection.

[@numanchoi]

I'm a Chinese Hongkonger in my 50's but I always hold my wife's hand when we walk down the streets, sometimes with my 18-year-old daughter. There won't be any problem in Hong Kong if a couple kiss or hold hands in public no matter the couple is foreigners or not. But I do agree it's comparatively rarer with older Chinese couples holding hands in the public. Traditionally, old Chinese couples tend not to behave intimately in the public or before their children.

[@barrelrolldog]

i never had a problem either but nosy bastards will stare.

[@onwun4292]

That's mostly true! I was born and grew up in Guangzhou and i'm a college student. Couples holding hands are very normal, but kissing, it depends, light kiss, yes, becaues a light kiss or holding hands doesn't show much affection. But generally, Asian, young and old, stay distant from each other which is very different from what I see here in France. I heard that in Northen Europe the public display of affection is not a thing neither.. don't know if it's true.

[@stonebreaker950]

Being a "left-over" is not necessarily a stigma. That depends on your circle and social connection. Some of my female coworkers are still single at 30ties, they are capable and workaholic. That's the reason they have not got married. Financial independence is more important for the younger females. Depending on men, that's stigma.

[@ErikPT]

Stone Cai now the tides have turned its left over men

[@mrmatt2466]

The joy Winston got from swoosh sounds and camera effects is amazing

[@wirthmichael5098]

Great that you put chinese subtitles for the chinese public wich don't understand english so well ! Hope this keeps the trolls away and will understand you more !

[@lancethrustworthy]

There are not many people today that I would be willing to sit still for 15 minutes to watch talking about stuff, but you pull it off time and again. Bravo! Stay awesome!

[@JSunBurns]

Explain more about dating older women in another video. Especially the part about the different thinking and how to get along.

[@CaseyinTexas]

Luckily, not only was my wife was divorced and in her late 30's when we were married, she also worked in Vladivostok when she was younger. There she was impressed by the fact that Russians had no problem showing their affections in public, so unlike her Chinese husband who she likened to being like a dead fish. So when we were married, she had already been westernized and was completely comfortable with openly showing our love for each other.

[@daryllandel7097]

When i have been to china, i have seen that everyone dose not hold each others hand while walking or kissing. I see they don't hang off from each other as western people do. Yes i do have a chinese fiance, and she wont let me hold her hand when walking together. But she will be happy to have photos together at places. When in the hotel room, she will give me lots of affection. Watching these small videos has answered many of my questions and knowing what my fiance is trying to tell me. Thank you Wintson for making these short videos. They have been a very big help.

[@NoJokesPlz]

It's because you are a guy. The older Chinese are willing to see their sons hand in hand with a western girl, for it is viewed as "glory".

[@danluzurriaga6035]

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[@Theveganlaowai]

corporate world woke slave just..no 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@corporateworldwokeslave3589]

@@Theveganlaowai lmfao

[@just_ella17]

So true😱 Since I am in China (3 months) I got introduced to so many Chinese boys and their parents all were like talk to her, you learned English in school... I understand a little Chinese so far but I can't speak at all

[@yin_xing]

風清 I guess you mean only in the firstier cities, maybe 2nd, in China and for some families, generally have gotten high quality studies or have traveled abroad to study?

[@bowmanc.7439]

1. Kissing in public causes people to avert their eyes in most countries including USA and UK. 2. You say traditional, I say shy and reserved.

[@carlharris2808]

i am 61 and my wife is 46 married over 1 year now. in public we hold hands always she is happy to be loved and married she has no worries about it. we live in beijing and have found the north maybe is more open than the south? live your own life do not worry what other people think enjoy every day and keep happy.

[@meilingliu6530]

Love and sexism are within the four walls not in public. It's all about faces !

[@douglassaayman4361]

Love your videos.I lived in China but still learned a lot from you!

[@Lokdei]

Hey Winston I remember this from when I was in China, There was a girl and we both liked each other. After some time we went out and I was kinda scared to flirt with her. Mainly because I had never seen anyone flirting in a way that was normal to me (West-Europe) but also because all eyes are on you as foreigner. How do Chinese people flirt? Can you do it 'outside'? And can you give hugs in public? It made for some pretty funny situation.

[@michaelyun2407]

Things are different now. Been dating this girl she is 35 from China and i am 36. It was her who grab my hands first everytime. Sometimes is hard to walk when holding hands so I let go and she would grab it again. Of course i am a CBC so I do look like an Asian.

[@andywu8558]

Michael Yun same with mine. Shes from kaifeng. Not all chinese women the same.

[@yuchincheng6327]

they dont flirt. sorry.

[@francayub]

I must say that your English is outstandingly good

[@kcanyon9108]

Working on a university campus in the US, most young people who are holding hands are from China, but I have never seen them kissing in public.

[@jblondon1327]

It's true, she would not hold hands and wanted to walk a few metres behind her! I was shocked the first time, just like you.

[@sunnynexxt]

Ahahahahaha Winston thinks he's in the younger generation group hahaha😹😂

[@barrelrolldog]

lol yea. i'm not even as olllllllllld as he is but i recognise the young kids nowadays are way different than me.

[@xiondFirst]

No, I think he means he's mind belongs with the younger generation.

[@zentet3738]

Sunny Nexxt oh come one. You guys are mean lol

[@NotY0urHeroo]

When you compare the mentality of the culture he comes from and china, he certainly fits better with the younger generation of Chinese mentality. Maybe in America or other slightly more advanced (accepting?) national areas (Canada, most of Europe, South Africa) he's in the *transition* to the older generation sure, but that's not what this is about at all.

[@sunnynexxt]

zen tet lol I was just pulling his leg😹, I knew what he meant. Age is just a number.

[@johnash1263]

I met my Chinese wife via online dating website October 2014. She is of the older generation you speak of in video. I can verify that what you have said is true, at least through my personal experiences. I traveled to Anshan 3 different times to visit with her as my fiancé before she moved to America where we were married. While in China I made the decision to show respect for the culture and not make waves. The Chinese people were very friendly and at times very gracious. Meeting my wife's parents, siblings and other family members was a pleasure with no downside. Truth be told, because of my approach to working with the culture and using it to my advantage, I was treated like a Rock Star. I look forward to my next trip to China. Thank you Winston for the many informative videos.

[@clickurway]

Here in the USA I am married to a 43-year-old Chinese Lady, I am 65 with a 9-year-old daughter. The Daughter will hold my hand and hug in public but not Mom. This video helped me understand this a little more. At first, I thought she was embarrassed by me and almost divorced. So thanks for this and your other videos.

[@bigbigfizzi]

Same here in Tokyo, Japan. However, holding hands is common/normal with boyfriend/girlfriend couples. When married, I wonder why but, the holding hand thing stops. Go figure. Kissing in public... Well.. maybe if you are drunk. Sometimes, in dance clubs and romantic spots.

[@mysterio5837]

It's like this, when dating or newlywed, sex happens quite frequently .. after getting married, having kids and 10 yrs + sex doesn't happen that much . You've experienced much do

[@chrissmithson9489]

My wife that comes from Aksu likes to walk holding hands but never kiss in public

[@itstheoz1]

i have a chinese lady friend when she sees me she gives my a hug and calls me her friend,one time i seen her first i gave her a hug she was very mad and walked away ,so i did not talk to her in about 4 months i thought she was nuts, then i seen on the internet it is disrespectful for a man to hug a china girl first it makes her look cheap, so i found her again we talked , she was very friendly ,we did not hug , and when i left i said bye my friend and her face lit up like a light bulb with happiness

[@mohmoss3194]

cool but wierd but cool

[@hanygamal3580]

I can't believe that, It's like you're talking about Egypt. we have the same exact things you mentioned about china : when a woman reaches the age of around 30 they start to be called leftover women , same rude remarks and dirty looks and even worse in Egypt is that you can't even date a woman, you should go straight to her home asking her parents to marry her without knowing her at all and that's the reason why I'm still single at the age of 22, but to be honest most men in Egypt are kind of playboys and that's why women are usually afraid to be with men I think I'm going to learn other language than Chinese because It's hard for me to leave my country to live in another similar country thank you Winston verrrrrrry much for enlightening me, you're one of my best youtubers

[@jhlucky1]

Winstons videos are the best. He never tries to bs you

[@FreddyYUL]

With Sasha channel, I count 6 KZbin channel: - Serpentza - Hu Knows - laowhy86 - Vivi Vlog - ADVChina - Prozzie I am missing any ?

[@serpentza]

+FreddyYUL psp traveller, masters of mobile

[@Nilguiri]

Raising Shanghai the JaYoe Nation

[@DreaMeRHoLic]

Austin Guidry... but i think the best channels have been listed. BusanKevin (first korea... then Japan for a long time and now China) moved to China last week with his Japanese wife and kids. He made 3 videos and now doesnt upload anymore... i wonder if he left after 3 days..

[@mrmayhue3976]

Wode maya

[@obsoleteprofessor2034]

Wow! Marry a guy who can provide for his wife? How radical! Strange that now here in the United States that almost no longer applies. Finding a rich guy is usually for the ultimate plan of divorcing him for the alimony and child support. .. example.. I told a young woman that I noticed unaccompanied old ladies at the Cadillac dealership getting their cars serviced. The girl said they probably went alone to get a better price from the mechanic. I said "No.." I asked her how an old woman could afford a Cadillac. She said "Alimony?" I said.. "No.. they're alone because their husbands have died and in a Cadillac because their husbands were successful and left them with income from wise investments".

[@andreashauschild7757]

My experience is different. I am 52, my girlfriend is 51. She is from Jiangxi and we have been together for 5 years now. We have held hands from the start when we walk on the street, and even in her little home town that is filled with old people holding hands or giving a quick kiss in public has never been a problem. So certainly there are people that dont do it, but pending on your relationship, it is possible to do. Of course heavy making out or such in public is frowned upon.

[@mariorossi6861]

i've just realized after 200 videos that you've got a bit of almond eyes

[@shang-hsienyang1284]

Is it common for the parents of the wife to move into the house? I always thought it is the husband's parents that move into the house.

[@krollpeter]

Was hardly any issue ever when I lived with my family in Guangzhou. Holding hands was always ok, and a gentle kiss on the cheek, too. I had never any feeling of disapproving people around me. But what amazed me is how distant many couples in China are.

[@stargate4698]

This answered a LOT of questions I have wondered about for a Long time. Chinese women married to foreigners, very strong self assured women. I take my hat off to them.

[@Nilguiri]

Sasha could have called her channel Dr. Hu knows. I'm guessing that's not the first time you've heard that!

[@Dowlphin]

Timeless joke.

[@DiscoverMVP]

LOVE is to stop making demands on people and give them room to grow.

[@thelovegan8635]

Loving and tolerant people are everywhere, but one intolerant person full of hate and anger can spoil the whole peace and oneness.

[@locals420]

Those editing jokes you pulled in the beginning were so lame but you did them so deadpan they were hilarious haha

[@serpentza]

+Raoul Duke lol, glad it worked

[@bl4d3runn3rX]

I moved to the USA 2 years ago and I got a chinese GF here, she came couple of years here to study and now she is working here. Guys I tell you, dating a chinese girl is way different than dating a western girl. I'm still not used to it and I don't know if it is the right thing for me. She is very demanding and her parents push her to get kids... We had so many fights about financial stuff, stuff you would never argue with a western girl. I guess it is much better to get an american asian girl friend who grew up in the western world.

[@bl4d3runn3rX]

DavidRsaid I'm in the USA since 2 years, she lives here since 7 years and she has a green card.

[@shamanic101]

Oldschool Gamer Rick : Excellent real and personal example .

[@huhu6759]

my brother, chinese gal is exact replica of satan....they have no love in marriage , all they want is money, car, house, bank account.....they are bitter pills cos they never believe in God....they only believe in friends and luck.......

[@andis9076]

Holding hand is totally fine. Short kiss on chin is acceptable. Kissing mouth for few seconds raise goose bump for old chinese people.

[@tink_a]

But sneezing into the hand and then grabbing the handrail is fine. 😅

[@joec.743]

I like the added little humor, makes it not look so serious.

[@ryanbutler4432]

I've only lived in China for two years, but I've seen couples holding hands all the time. Not too much kissing, I must admit.

[@FoodforThought12345678dsds]

I know this one couple who kissed on the great wall

[@johnmckenna5782]

Serpentza I love your videos! :)

[@antoniocastello5016]

I came across your channel two days ago and it is better and more informative than national geography. If I were to travel to China, I am prepare to what to expect.

[@MrTruth-yn7pq]

Winston: No wonder the Evil Uncles/Evil Aunties of China are so (for lack of a better word) frigid (or cold) in public.... Congrats to Sasha's impending new channel, will be sure to like & subscribe!

[@pyromannyac]

thank you bro!! great info,I am dating online and she is 49 this info is very helpful.My only concern now is I hope she is a real person.I have seen the video on dating sites and the fraud thats involved!.anyways much love to you and sasha.GREAT COUPLE!!!

[@detrickguillory7537]

Manuel, me & my Chinese girlfriend were hesitant because both countries do get scammed. One of the first barriers we broke through was neither one of us asked for money or gifts. Next we told of our entire past ( good & bad ). We were both married 2 times & had children. However, I have never experienced love more grand than with this amazing lady. Mutual respect, support, love, ... We met I 48 she 46 & will get married 49/47 2021 once our K1 K2 VISA are approved. We have visited each other’s countries & families. Being open minded & 100% open about both concerns are the key to a solid foundation for a strong future. Best of luck to you & yours.

[@FamousByFamily]

i'm married to a chinese. we live overseas and my mother in law lives with us. we have 2 children. house is clean and everything is done all i have to do is work.

[@FoodforThought12345678dsds]

I'm sorry to hear that your mother in law lives with you. Must be a fucking nightmare with no privacy.

[@danielyu6399]

FoodforThought you are a nightmare to yourself, again your parents should raise you better , do they know you are a loser ?

[@danluzurriaga6035]

@@FoodforThought12345678dsds Shit man, that's what they do!

[@FoodforThought12345678dsds]

Steven Lai - I'm so sorry the whole world is disgusted at how badly your people behave. Please try and be like Taiwanese or Japanese.

[@bimbobaggins7658]

taiwan is awsome ! i plan to visit one day !

[@dkaustin98]

I wonder if it is the difference between Southern China and Northern China? In Liaoning Province there was never an issue for my wife “ to be“ and I to walk in public holding hands. Or her holding onto my arm. Or stealing a kiss in public. Or making out down by the river. I never encountered a problem with the local men. There is a family photo of my wife, her parents and I taken the day of our engagement where she is sitting in my lap. Her parents didn’t mind at all. This is the moment her father thanked me for loving his daughter and gave us his blessing. We had a great time in China! Her friends treated me great. In one of the restaurants for one of our dinner engagement parties many of her sister friends held the dinner. I was the only guy in the packed private room. They wanted us to kiss. It became a chant. After we kissed, she was all embarrassed and her sister friends cheered. In another restaurant, we were about to depart, we were in the fancy entrance, her friends wanted a photo of us, her sitting in my lap. They cheered. On the flip side, the sister friend that introduced us, was married to a British guy of small stature. Much smaller than me. She was short too. They had married in China after a 6 month fling. When the four of us had dinner together in Shenyang he spoke about the problems of Chinese men threatening him. He was getting bumped into. Things were being said. He complained about it. Then while our ladies were talking in high speed Mandarin, he starts in on how how he hates China, he hates the food, the dirty cities and on and on he went. He didn’t have a kind word to say about China. I remember thinking, “Why did you marry a Chinese woman?” He tried to change her appearance, her clothing style and how she wore her hair. Though they resided in England their marriage failed. My wife and I took 2 years to get to know each other. We asked a lot of questions of each other. When we did get married we knew each other well. One of the things Winston doesn’t talk about, but that I discovered, is all women in China are considered “girls” or “young girls” until they marry. A woman is someone who is married or has been married. So, if you are dating a young single woman you can insult her by calling her a beautiful young woman. They take that seriously. Try a beautiful young girl instead. High praise is when you call her a lovely young girl. Calling her lovely is taken literally and will score you big points. BUT, beware, you call her that and you have started a serious relationship. Once you marry her she is a woman. You can still score big points with your wife if you tell her that she is still your beautiful young girl or lovely young girl. Give her praise. You can still flirt with her after you marry her. Tell her she is your hot sexy, beautiful girl. She will love you more for it. The pressure to marry didn’t exist from her family, but it did with her friends who knew me. They put the pressure on me. It was a constant barrage, “She has met a guy from Australia, you had better hurry up!” Or, “another guy is paying her a lot of attention!” The was no guy, but they were pushing. She did have a few friends who were against us marrying. Yet, it has worked out. It is almost ten years since we married. Everything is great! I still flirt with her. I think because of equality in the U.S. women value the quality of the marriage. Chinese women value the marriage. Getting divorced in the U.S. is very common. In China, though divorce happens, getting divorced can be the cause of her family “losing face.” That is one of Winston’s videos.

[@jabberwocky1969]

I'm 48 and gf is 30. Yeah, we stayed pretty straight laced but held hands in public, nobody took note of us. I will say this, the Chinese are modestly and very well dressed.

[@cornheadahh]

It's fine. I'm more a fan of private displays of affection anyways ;)

[@alanh4471]

Love your videos. Could you do a video on how/why you started to learn Chinese? Or is a situation whereby you had to learn it to 'live' in China. As there are many dialects and a few other languages in China (assuming you don't have many differences in the main cites), do you have the ability to 'know these' dialects? Thanks, Alan.

[@Ryndika]

Chinese seems to be very family/relative oriented. How hard is it to get into being integral part of the whole circle if you are foreigner? It'd be nice to hear whole bunch of stories about this!

[@benec5816]

That's something we sort of noticed great explenation on a touchy subject well done and still love those shorts at the end over the city fantastic views stay safe and enjoy

[@garrycole9187]

This culture is exactly similar to any Asian culture really. Yes the thing you don't want to be is a divorcee with kids whether it be male or female. Of course there is always a hypocrisy with women and worst because older Asians are very sexist, they see women not as helpless but as the main child care taker, cook, house cleaner, and even often times a provider too. There is no stay at home moms or not many because if you are a stay at home mom, you are being lazy that is how my mom saw it. So Asian women have a lot of more responsibilities than the men and often abuse by a lot of them. The older ones and single usually are more independent and already lived with the bad stigma that they usually look for foreign men who will help them and not be a burden on them. Many think these women who are looking for foreigners are poor helpless girls, they are wrong, these are the women who said the hell with it, they want an opportunity beyond what they will get with an Asian man in the old Asian culture.

[@cooliipie]

GREAT!!!! I'm an American moving to China and I HATE PDA, the girls I've dated here complain about me disliking it and if I'm gay?! 😂 I'm going to love China

[@MyChannel108]

Winston and Laowhy86 however always emphasize that it is the man that needs to provide an appartement, great job and car, not the woman. Men who do not have that do not qualify for marriage in China. This is a great burden on the side of the man. A woman that doesn‘t have an appartement, great job and car is however perfectly fine. It‘s not that the woman have all the responsibilities and men have all the privileges in China. It‘s simply that they have different sets of responsibilities and privileges.

[@DarkSygil666]

@@MyChannel108 Well said!

[@DarkSygil666]

Thank you for your insight. I love reading informative comments.

[@novaksvrkota3694]

On what dating sites older women looking for foregin husbands?

[@ashtardpikamons4817]

Same website that foreign loser go to.

[@chasetonga]

You can't trust the pictures on those sites. They alter them.

[@cooliipie]

Asian mingle

[@mohmoss3194]

@@ashtardpikamons4817 its so wierd how brave chinese men are online but in real life they to scared to even look at u why is that

[@PigHunterExtreme]

I think I got the gist of it. I already knew that you shouldn’t openly show signs of public affection at least in a Chinese person’s perspective as opposed to a Western one as I’ve seen with my friend, who doesn’t seem to get that anything’s wrong with doing that when he’s with his Chinese girlfriend. I always tend to look away in those situations and pretend like it doesn’t exist because it’s uncomfortable to look at such public displays of affection. The thoughts that ran through my head were that I should show him this video to get him to better understand how it is, and I hope he’ll understanding and will willingly accept the fact that it’s not as normal in the Chinese culture to do so. Thank you for the video, Winston. You really did your research and brought up insightful information about the topic.

[@DavidisDawei]

I understand these challenges. It takes time and sometimes cannot be overcome. I have some priceless shots of Chinese guys' faces

[@anthonys4159]

OK... but WHY is kissing or hand-holding in China such a sigma. I understand it is a cultural taboo... but why? Why are public displays of affection such a taboo?... especially with older people (40+).

[@barrelrolldog]

its not as bad as winston is saying. basically people stare as it is, they gonna be even nosier if your with a girl and kissing ect.

[@brucetan66]

GoldenHawk this is very true from my personal experience

[@MegaWarell]

True. IT IS A HUGE STIGMA, hence, many do not marry for love, they just marry the first best person appearing in front of them, at least when they start to get close to 30, and especially so for women who are not wealthy. Wealthy women with careers might even wait until they get 35+.

[@raphaelzhou5422]

Cuz that's never a thing. My wife and I hold our hands in public constantly, even my parents who are in their late 50s hold their hands in public. Though they don't kiss in public that often like we do. I feel so sorry that serpentza has become so biased and wildly inaccurate.

[@shihaiwei5738]

Hand holding is fine. In fact that is the way to show you are in relationship in China. But kissing in public kind of thing is not, it is viewed as inconsiderate and making other people uncomfortable.

[@iceberg789]

why is it important to kiss in public?

[@genli5603]

iceberg789 many westerners greet loved ones or even friends (depending on the country) with a kiss on the cheek-that’s pretty normal

[@mohmoss3194]

@Lol with all do respect if some Chinese would com up to me or say something if i kiss my wife i would make him a bitch in front of everyone who dont know why chinses put their nose in other peoples life

[@duberlyguarnizo3328]

This is the first time that I comment in one of your videos. I've seen most of your videos, and let me say that I really appreciate your videos. I'm thinking of moving to Shenzhen with my son thanks to you. Stay awesome, you really are!

[@serpentza]

+Duberly Guarnizo really happy to hear that mate!

[@obsoleteprofessor2034]

I am a 60yo dark skinned Hispanic dating a 56yo blonde white woman near San Francisco. I haven't noticed it but she tells me that people stare at us. So much for tolerance..

[@obsoleteprofessor2034]

Davidr.. What I have found so ironic/hypocritical is that the City of Peace and Love can be so intolerant.

[@thankfulheart4266]

I got pushed down onto the ground by a drunken guy with a big group of other 9 - 5 white collar guys in suits after work hours in a major public area near kyungbook Palace in S. Korea in 1988 because I was a young female from Far East Asia with a white person and I was pregnant. I knew they were looking for trouble and I was never so scared. I hope and pray things will get better with time. Thank you for sharing your experience and being real with us.

[@TimmyME]

Try doing it in Dubai!:)

[@rajeevarts398]

No , its pretty good place ! But don't do it in Saudi Arabia or tipical middle East

[@zeroic2]

Heads roll there for looking at females in a funny way.

[@ThomasLeComptable]

cutting off a head isn't a culture lmao

[@Cortanasboyfriend]

@Larsson how about those countries realize that their rules are bullshit and we don't need to respect them and they can gtfo with their shit

[@cooliipie]

I'm an American moving to China and I HATE PDA, the girls I've dated here complain about me disliking it and if I'm gay?! 😂 I'm going to love China

[@smallpaulissmall5582]

Props for the intro gags. The more I watch of these the more similarities I see between China and The Philippines. If there are so many similarities between those two Asian countries ( like no PDA- my Filipino gf would not kiss me when we met at the the airport and ya I was confused and angry until I learned why) it makes me wonder what other similarities there are among all other Asian countries, perhaps excluding Japan for some of the issues caused by poverty.

[@smallpaulissmall5582]

I made the mistake of kissing her left hand and she told me not to kiss that hand.. I found out why later on lol.

[@AnotherPointOfView944]

When my Chinese wife was very young, she got married to a man (in Mudanjiang). They had a child, but unfortunately it was a girl. So her parents-in-law forced her to divorce her husband, even though they loved each other very much. The child went to the ex-husband, as did the house and all the possessions. So unfair. Anyway, much later when I met her in the UK and subsequently married her, she didn't tell ANY of her family. Only the day before we arrived in China (1 year later) did she tell her mother that she was married to me. But it had a good end, her mother liked me and I liked her. This is the same kind of thing that you received from your wife and in-laws, I think.