Capitalism Hits Home: What's Happening to American Men - Part 2

[@itzenormous]

As Parenti has said, "racism is one of the great success stories of Capitalism." And everything that Terry Crews said is absolutely spot on. As young men we are taught to flaunt our sexuality, to conquer as many women as we can, and to show no feelings at all. Men who have followed this template for most of their lives now feel an inability to connect with the opposite sex. I wonder why. I realized a few years ago that I had to be authentic with women, that I had to surrender to my true feelings, that I didn't have to suppress my human emotions, and that I had to simply see women as equal human beings and treat them as such. Men don't realize that they CAN compliment a woman on her looks and not be 'creepy.' If you're authentic when you compliment a woman, and just ask her if you can be honest before telling her she's beautiful, and really mean it, she'll sense that you're being genuine and will appreciate it under most circumstances. But men have to get rid of this toxic masculinity and learn to connect with their own human side. It's really not as complicated as they make it seem.

[@1LaOriental]

Big G Haywood Exactly. Well said!!!

[@Addeladle-St-James]

Being brought up in the christian church means being taught that women are subordinate and being required to declare one's belief in the truth as such as part of the deal to escape unimaginable, neverending torture from which there can be no rescue or escape.

[@Ed-Shibboleth]

Please watch the Whole thing

[@capncrunch7259]

Great video. Wonderful insight.

[@martintub1]

Amazing!! straight to the point all truth in less than half an hour. stay blessed

[@Monkismo]

People's egos too often lead them to associate with power and status, regardless of character or morality. Blind love for celebrities, the military, the rich and athletes are just a few examples.

[@LiberaLib]

Damn. Truth bombs galore.

[@roguecow4249]

Dr Fraad has helped me immensely with understanding my world & how economics effects relationships. (Here I invite grammar snob to correct my use of 'effect' if it is wrong. It's been like decades and I'm still insecure how I use it.)

[@Camcolito]

'Affect' = verb. e.g. 'Alcohol affects your brain' 'Effect' = noun. e.g 'Alcohol has an effect on your brain'. Problem Solved :)

[@roguecow4249]

Thank you. That actually helps. @@Camcolito

[@waltertheartist2746]

Thank you so much for your work

[@Donbd83]

I love how Christians love to say that their religion has made the world such a better place. But when I look back at these ancient times in many countries even Egypt women and men were treated as equals, woman were teachers, priests, and even leaders, took Christianity what 2000+ years to even get back to that type of equality, not impressed. See Hypatia to see the type of equality found in ancient civilization an equality that their religion destroyed and forbid and even placed the blame of the fall of man on the woman.

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

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[@MsAppassionata]

Donbd83 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💯%

[@matthewkopp2391]

You don’t have a very good knowledge of the history of Christianity, and you believe it as monolithic is if one thing. early Christians were socialists: And all the believers met together in one place and shared everything they had. Acts 2:44 All the believers were one in heart and mind. No one claimed that any of their possessions was their own, but they shared everything they had. Acts 4:32 And if you want a Pagan perspective Lucian of Samosata said the same they shared all in common and the religion according to him was mostly women and orphans. How is the sentiment in modern times? Rev. Robert Rauschenbusch fought against child labor, and Rev. Martin Luther King fought for civil rights and created a poor person’s campaign. I think many Christians do good things and improve lives, they don’t have a monopoly on good deed doing.

[@Addeladle-St-James]

@@matthewkopp2391 Being brought up in the christian church means being taught that women are subordinate and being required to declare one's belief in the truth of such as part of the deal to escape unimaginable, neverending torture from which there can be no rescue or escape.

[@Joda30088]

Great presentation! This stresses how much our society needs to change from inside out

[@larrysherk]

This show in a real cultural integrator. An eyeopener for many of us. Potent stuff.

[@DearSX]

Terry is 100% correct. Most of my friends and I where instructed to act horribly around women!

[@justinmcneil659]

Everything you say is true. Great speech. One thing you didn't mention is that toxic masculinity is part of the whole culture. I want to move forward as a progressive man, but what am I supposed to do about the fact that most women find a man who makes more money much more attractive? There have been plenty of studies that show this to be the case. Also, and I don't think you believe this, but for some reason there is an idea that feminism means women taking over as CEOs for oil and gas companies or any corporation that is part of the military industrial complex. That's not being a feminist imo it's just being a female patriarch. Which defeats the purpose.

[@spoonikle]

I was a house husband for 2 months. I was kicked out. 2 years of relationship gone because I was looking for a career instead of taking a random one in a grocery store - we had just moved for her careers sake, but she needed the new puppy now and wanted me to pay for it. I left my job to help her follow her dreams and I get thrown out for a dog and the 0% risk of me cheating on her after less than 2 months.

[@jojoadeyemi8239]

Toxic feminity is never spoken about.

[@winstonsolipsist1741]

It is the dichotomy between equality and hypergamy that causes "toxic masculinity", whatever that is. She wants a man that makes more money and then expects him to pay for everything, yet she screams that she get paid less. She wants her man to be more assertive then undermines and overrides his decisions. She wants her man to protect and defend her yet wants him to be kind and vulnerable. She wants men to boost her ego via praise and compliments yet yells "harassment" when a man does compliment her. They keep their men frustrated sexually until SHE DECIDES otherwise yet complain that he isn't open and sensitive to HER needs. She wants him to treat her as an equal while she complains he not chivalrous enough. Capitalism isn't making American men "toxic", American women are. Women will not be happy until all men, and more importantly white men, are grovelling submissive gutter rats. No wonder there is a MGTOW movement.

[@designhub360customapparel]

@@spoonikle 😥

[@projectmalus]

Justin McNeil It does resemble female patriarchy but that's the system in place, so whoever wants power must play that game. To change the system is a valid role for both men and women, but I think there's something men can concentrate on. This hinges on the perception that the way neighborhoods are structured affects the well being of the family. Design and build something that makes the family strong. Perhaps the traditional roles of building a house for men and building a home for women can be reapplied. Maybe women are waiting for men to build a better house that isn't made untenable by economic forces.

[@shellb1633]

Always interesting information ^_^

[@Addeladle-St-James]

Being brought up in the christian church means being taught that women are subordinate and being required to declare one's belief in the truth of such as part of the deal to escape unimaginable, neverending torture from which there can be no rescue or escape.

[@matthewcaldwell8100]

The world doesn't deserve Terry Crews. But damn if it doesn't need him.

[@joshuawatkins2708]

Great video!

[@phylwx]

Please, keep doing this videos.

[@MoranSE]

Amazing Harriet!

[@Holiday25832]

These women are just as bad. You never hear the phrase "toxic femininity" being used because that would be misogynistic but its cool to say "toxic masculinity" against men. There should be absolute equality among both male and female.

[@rickg672]

I agree 100%. The storyline here is somewhat lopsided.

[@Holiday25832]

@John Gregg its like the boy who cried wolf. They complain about rough, masculine men but then when there is construction work or any hard labour to be done who's the ones doing it?

[@B.Wildered]

Thank you for deprogramming the noise from right wing media.

[@AudioPervert1]

Society seems forever in decay... America, being a late-stage empire now in jeopardy within and outside...

[@branden525]

I believe we're reaching critical mass; the family is destroyed, indoctrination is rampant, and compassion is extinct.

[@AudioPervert1]

@@branden525 i believe that too. The point of no return is not some hollywood ball drama ... In every country its felt now. Sooner or later ...

[@Addeladle-St-James]

What continues to decay is your connection to virtue and a commonly shared reality. F.uck off to Florida, bootlickers. You are the vestigial, withered deformity of humanity, not to be remembered by future generations except with disgust. What benefit do you offer to anyone? What good do you do?

[@briandavis7999]

Thanks for giving the whole story in what is happening to us.

[@thisisnotausername]

I respect Dr. Fraad and everyone at Democracy at Work a lot, but I have to dissent from her categorical statement that men don't get emotional support from other men. It's less common, but it still happens. Even my friends whose consciousness is raised but slightly are willing to listen if I have a real and pressing problem. It's true that I'm non-white, middle class and millenial, but I've even known many Xers and Boomers who were willing to be my confidant and to encourage me. I'd say at least mild ups from my boys at least once a day.

[@Addeladle-St-James]

You got an encouraging pat on the butt by your coach

[@JamesOGant]

It seems to me that the toxic masculine is intrinsically tied to toxic femininity, and that men exhibit both of these sets of traits. It is increasingly more socially acceptible for men to exhibit the toxic feminine than it is for them to express machismo and sexual aggressiveness. And as far as I can tell men are often more likely to take on the toxic feminine than the toxic masculine in today's culture. Because personality culture enables passive aggressiveness, push/pull, social manipulation, and morality sanctioning based on status quo or the unspoken just world fallacy. In today's society when people say toxic feminine they think that this language describes women, but this doesn't really make any sense. The classic language isn't really speaking about men or women or gender, it's just a masculine and feminine like yin and yang. And the saddest thing about all of this men vs women thing is that it represents this false authenticity and false progressiveness which has now essentially tried to divert people from ever seeing structural violence, and the system designs which lead to the largest source of violence in the world, and the largest cause of behavioral violence itself- which is structural violence as James Gilligan has said and written about. It is economic war, artificially created famines, corporatism, industrial fallout, disaster capitalism, the shock doctrine etc which causes most of the violence in the world. But the corporate media has since the 2016 election really been doubling down on the propaganda that violence is fundamentally caused by one gender against another- men against women. That worldview although based in a very superficial truth is entirely self defeating because it never addresses the underlying problem- which is corporate fascism and structural violence.

[@Addeladle-St-James]

You're an apologist for rape culture and toxic masculinity. F.uck off to an InCel meeting.

[@Addeladle-St-James]

@@JamesOGant uh oh! Am I an idiot because you're fundamentally unappealing to women?

[@Addeladle-St-James]

@@JamesOGant or maybe I'm an idiot because women are so mean to you. Those bullies

[@JamesOGant]

@@Addeladle-St-James No because you seem to not understand the meaning of language and you're projecting in some extra meaningless way on the internet. If my wasting my time entertains me, then maybe I haven't wasted my time. But if somebody misunderstands something and then projects their own toxic education on to somebody else that's just extra pointless. You're saying that I represent some false archetype which is entirely low as low hanging fruit as original sin is. And you think that buggering other people, which people of all shapes and ugly or not will fing do, is how people find self worth. It's just Sad

[@JamesOGant]

@@Addeladle-St-James I attack structural violence and imperialism and personality culture and stuff in my stupid comment and you think that this means I'm a loser who can't get laid, as if that's all that matters in life. It's like you're some 80s bully chad or something. As if you have any power in the world, as if you are represented by the oligarchy. And you take on the exact toxic masculinity which you automatically try to assign to anyone who doesn't swallow your meaningless spin and reflexive language virus megac&*k sideways that you seem to have been taught hook line and sinker as they say.

[@stanzavik]

13:07 Have watched a good bit of Jordan Peterson videos. In which one does he blame men's problems on women?

[@jabberwock42]

Are you serious? That's pretty much his whole deal. Any problem with society he will boil it down to how it's the fault of feminists and "cultural marxists". He symbolically equates women with chaos and destructive forces, and then subtitles his book "an antidote to chaos" so you can put two and two together there. Tons of other examples

[@Godlike-87]

@@jabberwock42 as opposed to blaming all of societies woes on men... which is of course the usual script.

[@jabberwock42]

@@Godlike-87 did you even watch the video? It's not blaming men, it's blaming capitalism

[@thomasgurburger7580]

Atom please watch the video properly. It’s not men’s fault but a large amount of society has been “designed” socially and financially for men (and also detrimental to the majority of workers who were men) . There are changes both men and women need to make but changes men make have a greater affect on our world because of our standing as the default and the effects that history and society have granted us. It was the incentive of profit for the capitalist that has created the changes in men and women dynamics that have made the majority of men unhappy and unsure of their place. People such as Jordan Peterson have a completely false critique of the cause and his weird dissonant term of cultural Marxist’s and his hatred of feminism as if it is a monolith is strange. When his ideas are debated by anyone with any sense you see that his critiques are half baked and stem from a conservative Christian mind set

[@kayem3824]

@@thomasgurburger7580 Now capitalism has turned the two sexes into five sexes at least. For sure it gains something from that.

[@troypropes1182]

Whoa!

[@thebrokenbone]

the man exposed the reality of a sector of society so don`t generalize because it puts us all in the devil`s side. also don`t minimize and insult many great women that were the hub of the families they ran (and run) calling them sexual providers, men`s tools or whatever the sick term you used. my family history as many others has always had respect, great women and great men. i happen to be socialist but that does not mean i`ll take anything thrown in disguise in its name. generalizations are one of the many enemies we face.

[@Camcolito]

Agreed.

[@Acode7940]

As far as I am concerned, your talks on Capitalism hits home should be aired regularly on national prime time cable news instead of the endless saliavating over the pathological antics of our ex-president, Donald Trump. Too bad we are so far from such a reality.

[@dpersonal4187]

Richard Wolff is great. She's an old fart. So is David.

[@ti-lo5hy]

Better get in there then, buddy. The resistance needs fresh revolutionaries on all fronts.

[@dpersonal4187]

@@ti-lo5hy Agreed.

[@MsAppassionata]

D Personal Ageist much?

[@rickg672]

Dr Fraad is simply giving voice to a set of social conditions which she hardly understand and unfortunately is emotionally invested in as a woman. There are some good points and some rather awful error of judgement committed. However the "drama" is her own ...I rest my case.

[@Addeladle-St-James]

Little ricky, why would anyone care what you think? What good do you bring to anyone?

[@rickg672]

@@Addeladle-St-James ....it's called thinking for one's self. The world is full of mindless fools.

[@Addeladle-St-James]

@@rickg672 you want to be babied and indulged. You obtained your ideas from a thought surrogate

[@Addeladle-St-James]

You're not helpful to anyone in any meaningful way if we're honestly assessing the situation.

[@doktormcnasty]

We got democracy at work in the factory I own. Each morning I let my workers know that we've got us another really long & tough day ahead of us and that the only way we're going to get through it is to work together as a team. And that means they do what I say.

[@MsAppassionata]

Doktor McNasty Gee! I’m glad I don’t work in your factory. Doesn’t sound at all democratic to me.

[@Blackout300]

I agree with so many of your points on capitalism! However you can’t blame gender roles on capitalism when, gender roles have been around well before capitalism was ever even thought of!! If feminism is so great then why are men and women the most unhappy then ever in history?? This is the 4th wave of feminism and it’s still yet to produce anything of substantial value!! Communities that have women as the head or a smoldering crater! The reality is that every feminist talks about equality as they drive,speak into and use MAN MADE PRODUCTS! Men have not changed and neither have our gender roles! We still are expected to impose environment, build and protect!! So I’m not sure if your reasoning is very solid for the meat of this video! Masculine energy has created your entire world! Show some respect please!!

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

LMAO. Wow. You're one man who is full of himself. Women give birth to every single person on this planet. Show some respect. We are not post-patriarchy. Let me repeat, we are NOT post-patriarchy. There is still a lot of work to do. You expect for sexism to be wiped out in just a few decades. Women are still fighting for equality. Men are still objectifying women and exploiting them through porn and the sex industry. The Epstein case shows we still have work to do. Women are still fighting this. Men need to stop demanding that women thank them for the buildings and roads they built (btw, did YOU build them?) You don't get to accept praise for something men did years ago, especially when women were not allowed to partake in building up the world. We were delegated to stay at home and make babies as if we are machines. I think you need to read a few books by Robert Jensen, Derrick Jensen, and Andrea Dworkin.

[@MsAppassionata]

D Washington You wouldn’t be shit if it weren’t for women protecting you from killing yourselves and taking care of you, in general, when you were babies. WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO SHOW US SOME RESPECT FOR KEEPING YOUR UNGRATEFUL ASSES ALIVE LONG ENOUGH FOR YOU TO DO ALL OF THOSE THINGS THAT YOU CLAIM YOU’VE DONE ALL BY YOURSELVES? P.S. - I happen to think that creating women who are independent from so called men like you is quite an accomplishment, contrary to what you may say or think.

[@MeditativeMoments1]

Fraud!