Caregiver's Journey: Navigating Life After My Husband's Stroke

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@bekayezme 5 ай бұрын

Good to get an update. Just told hubby we haven’t heard from you. Your hair looks cute that way. And yes, caregivers have short fuses because we are physically and mentally exhausted. We just ask for half an hr downtime. I have learned to let stuff go. I don’t worry about a sink full of dishes anymore. A nap for myself is more important. I’ve learned to fit the dishes in when I have energy and a moment. You might have to sleep when he does and do your chores when you get the time. Sorta like having a newborn. Sleep when they do. Chores when they are awake. Other caregivers understand exactly where you are coming from. You don’t need to apologize. PS…yes about nicks and dings. My husband gets in his wheel chair at night and rolls around the bedroom banging the {what was nice}moldings, walls with wall paper and has destroyed it. I’ve nicely asked to be more careful, then yelled and now I have surrendered. It was causing me such anxiety that my house was being destroyed. I can’t control him, so I just control myself.

@AnnieBrownlll 5 ай бұрын

@@bekayezme yes it's important to make them do some things on their own, to help them get stronger. It's tough being a caregiver in so many ways. On top of everything else, you often feel guilty voicing your frustration. But don't because you are BOTH living with a stroke in a sense. I keep hoping you'll reach out for Respite Care if they have it in your area. They can provide short little breaks for the caregiver by coming in and taking care of the disabled person while you get a bit of space. It helps a lot. Will continue to pray for you both.

@barbaradamron5293 5 ай бұрын

Hi Sheila, so good to see you. You are doing a great job being Misters caregiver. You have every right to feel frustrated at times, you are human and not a robot. Caregiving is a job no one wants but has to do for their loved ones. I sure wish I lived closer just to help you with the small stuff so you'd have a little time to breath and rest. I do always keep you and Mister in my prayers. You hang in there, better days are ahead. Mister will continue to get stronger and more independent and your burden will be lightened. God has been and will continue to give you strength and courage to see this through. There is light at the end of the tunnel! Take care and God bless you both. {{{{Hugs}}}} ❤🙏

@callmepr117 4 ай бұрын

I wanna also say sit down with him and you both hold hands and feel a comfort come over you. My husband taught me that once I slowed down for a minute. ❤❤

@CherLou1 5 ай бұрын

I can’t imagine how hard this is on you. I’ve taken care of family members, but not to this extent. And even then, sometimes I felt overwhelmed. It’s so important to share Sheila, and let out your thoughts and feelings out..They say a lot of times it’s harder on the caregiver than the patient (loved one). My heart goes out to you both. It’s too bad there isn’t some (free) agency that could send someone to stay with Mister, just for you to get away for an hour or so.. Love you both. 🙏🏻💕🙏🏻

@debbiepipes2408 5 ай бұрын

There should be a senoirs assistant program. Hopefully, I can look into it and find out or find out from one of the physical therapists that visit.

@callmepr117 4 ай бұрын

Hello, I hear your story and you are 100 percent correct, being a caregiver to a family member is 24/7. YT is a good release for you and the person receiving your message. Thank you for allowing me 15 minutes of quiet time, as I am a caregiver to my husband as well. I hope you take a few minutes out for yourself wherever you can find it. My heart goes out to you.

@WattsUpYall 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for your kind words and understanding.

@KG-uc2qm 5 ай бұрын

Shelia, you’re in my prayers. God give you strength and peace. It’s so hard to be a caregiver. 🕊️🕯️🙏✝️🩷

@tammyhalderman2031 5 ай бұрын

Hang in there Sheila. Been where you are with my hubby and God healed in his time. Now the roles have reversed and he is my caregiver through this chemo.❤🙏

@shirleypowell768 5 ай бұрын

Praying for you, as caregiver is rough and challenging to help the one who is sick, but as a caregiver you need to take care of yourself as well., you don't want to get sick and then you both will be sick. So rest when you can and don't beat yourself up. Take care.

@jennifervalentine7519 5 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I pray God gives you strength to go on! Love ya Sheila! Hugs. 🤗 ❤

@WattsUpYall 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@lisalong71 5 ай бұрын

Nice to see you Sheila missed you

@joyceharris7845 5 ай бұрын

I was just thinking about y'all today!❤

@AnnieBrownlll 5 ай бұрын

Hi Sheila!!! Nice to see you! Tell Mr hello!💕

@WattsUpYall 5 ай бұрын

Great seeing you too! I sure will tell Mister you said hello!

@berthabyrd6898 5 ай бұрын

Hey Sweet Friend,y'all have been in my prayers and will continue to be,My health is not getting better just worse,i was hoping and praying with this new wound dr. things would look and get better but nope and never trying something different.I go soon to get a 2nd. opinion where the other cardiologist is saying my heart is enlarged and have chf.I'm now being told my kidneys and liver are looking bad,All i do is cry and under so much stress.Praying things get better for both of y'all!

@vicster52 5 ай бұрын

I hope you never feel bad about having a short fuse or being frustrated. You are doing a fantastic job. It would be nice if you could get some help. Please don't condemn yourself, you can only do so much. Lilly is so cute.

@tracihughes2151 5 ай бұрын

Just a thought: Can you ask his doctor for a glucometer that he can wear on his arm? It will eliminate the finger sticks and alert him if his BS gets too high or low. Will continue praying for you both.

@AnnieBrownlll 5 ай бұрын

Please check into Respite Care. They will come in just to give the caretaker a break

@lisalong71 5 ай бұрын

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️

@susanslay227 2 ай бұрын

Search caregiver in the state of Virginia or ask your social worker doctor

@quadenarhodes4859 5 ай бұрын

Can you not get a home health aid to help a few times a week?

@WattsUpYall 4 ай бұрын

If I have Medicare.. but we have Medicare…

@lattymom1 5 ай бұрын

OMG.. It sounds exhausting what you have to do. I hope that you have help. My 30 year old son moved back in with us. I am 70. He has physical and mental challenges. I don't have to care to the extent that you do. But I'm having a lot of panic thinking that I'm going to be doing this until I die. Thinking that my life is not free. Thinking that I am a prisoner. I love my son and we will do what we can to make his life better. But I am extremely sad . I'm sorry for your lot in life. One day your happy and hopeful , and the next your a care giver.. Hugs from Northern Canada.