Caring for Someone with Dementia: The story of Bruce and Jim

Jim Jabs met Bruce Evans have shared a strong bond since they met 30 years ago. After Bruce was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, their lives have changed, but their love remains strong. Jim shares how he has managed as Bruce’s care partner and how the Alzheimer Society has been with him at every stage. Bruce now lives in a care home.

[@amandaallen9460]

My beloved great grandma passed away from this in 2005 at 87.and now my beloved Grammy (mom's mom) is in the early stages of Alzeimers also..

[@lislenz670]

I was a caregiver for dementia clients and I totally understand your frustration and pain. Rule number one, never argue or disagree with someone who is suffering from this cruel disease, let them keep their pride and dignity regardless of what happens. They know that something isn’t quite right but they should always be treated as a human being and treated with love and respect. Xoxo love from New Zealand ❤

[@AndreDMalan1966]

I cared fory partner's mother when she had alzheimers. It has a lot to do with accepting that they are not being "difficult" and that YOU have to change the way you think and deal with it. You can't react to a "lack.of reason" with reason. Knowing this made it easier. Two years after she died, my partner was diagnosed with end stage renal failure. I cared for him and he died three years later. All painful but growing experiences. ❤❤🌹🌹

[@toddamtmann3528]

I hope you don't experience any more loss, for a long time. It's depressing, when you're surrounded by death.

[@AndreDMalan1966]

@@toddamtmann3528 thank you

[@dawndouglas922]

A very caring ,loving partner

[@johnwadsworth7086]

Wonderful story wish the best for the both of you. John

[@tinasavage674]

I cared for my dad the last two years of his life he had vascular dementia but the doctors said mixed dementia because of his behaviour I hated seeing the changes in him so hard he died due to other health issues in 2021 bless you both ❤

[@steviem5279]

Sorry for you loss...my mom and I took care of my dad who had frontal lobe dementia, he passed away July 2022 and while it was difficult caring for him I don't regret one day that I did and in fact, I wish I could take care of him for one more day. When he did pass, he passed away at home where we felt he belonged and where he wanted to be. It was a two year battle from when he was diagnosed in October 2020 and it wasn't until September 2021 when we found a med that was able to control his aggression and psychosis (the drug was risperidone) and once that started working he was calm but the toughest part was the long nights because he called out a lot at all hours of the night so my mom and I took shifts caring for him overnights. If there anything good about his disease it's that unlike Alzheimer's my dad never lost his memory, he knew exactly who my mom and I were all the way until the end of his life and for that we're thankful.

[@lynettesmith6971]

So sad for both of you, I am in similar position with my sister….it’s been over 12 years, exhausting for everyone, especially her.

[@lauracampa1838]

Sorry but I couldn’t help myself but notice his Jade plant and Crown of Christ behind him!! 😮😍🥰

[@tammierose3753]

dont give them the meds that prolong the inevitable . why drag it out.