The 60-Second Trick To Stop Social Anxiety Fast

[@noone-re3zp]

i once heard someone say “ppl aren’t thinking of that embarrassing thing u did. everyone is too busy thinking of the embarrassing things they did.” and ever since then, everytime i do smth embarrassing, i tell myself that and i kinda feel better:D

[@castitatis3976]

I always care about what other people do and secretly cringe

[@castitatis3976]

But it doesnt change anything,you dont have to appeal to everyone

[@xhmbx9548]

@@castitatis3976 well then you suck!! Cringe on this 😂😂😂

[@crzydwrf]

I actually thought like this too even in real embarassing moments, and like 3 years after i just realize it was actually embarassing and keep thinking about it lmao

[@castitatis3976]

@@crzydwrf ahhaha

[@eliezerzimet3307]

My problem is more that I don't actually have anything to say....

[@friedbraincells9414]

I relate to this on so many levels like are we the same person.

[@shaziaayub3256]

Same with me, in my geography class I sit next to this boy and my crush sits behind him and I'm just silent for the whole lesson cause there's no one to talk to, and I can't start a conversation. And even teachers ask me a question I panick and just mummble and everyone starts taking about me, everyone knows I'm the shy Lonley girl, but at home I'm like a boss I'm so load and crazy, I'm a different person at home and a different person at school. I wish I could fit in, #shy Squad

[@briahershey3822]

SAME

[@Adam-xd8df]

Then dont agree with people opinion all the time I have the same problem

[@comradesam3382]

This

[@RufaelSolo]

How I overcame shyness. 1) No one cares if you're cool or uncool. They got themselves to care for. 2) Everyone is anxious about something and that gave me a major relief about mine. 3) Just talk your mind out. it's a burden if you didn't.

[@bstandsforbuilding5567]

8) Bip boppity oodele goo.

[@RufaelSolo]

9) Hakuna Matata

[@RufaelSolo]

+Alexander Delarge 12) People who care about who's gay or not are probably gay themselves.

[@chris-ws7fb]

lol you say that like being gay is bad don't trigger people

[@danethenice]

+SeagullG don't be so negative about your sexuality man.

[@sarah-dq5rl]

It's so annoying when people say, "That's the most I've heard you talk before." I really try so hard to be more social, but I just can't. 😟

[@frankiemffocean]

Ikr i just say "i talk i just dont talk to you" and most of the time they stand there in silence and being awkward. Im working on being more confident. Being social was really hard and is still hard for me, but you got this and i believe you can overcome this💛

[@sarah-dq5rl]

@@frankiemffocean Thank you.

[@tasoskarampetsios8310]

Since I'm being told that a lot especially by people who don't know me that well I can tell you that it's a pretty good set-up for you to say something funny to keep the conversation going so I really haven't had a problem with that you can try it

[@anilliteratefuck4747]

I know every time I’m with my mom if I do anything like say something a little bit quiet and a person goes say that again, my mom will go sorry he’s shy. And that messes with my head so much and then I feel even more self conscious about it.

[@nicolecastro6714]

istoleyachristmascookies yes,just because I don’t talk to you doesn’t mean I don’t talk,like you feel more comfortable talking around other people than the rest

[@YokoshimaSTAR]

I am greatly confident with shy people. So greatly. But with confident people I shrink. What I do is I imagine anyone I am socialising with is shy. Therefore I'll feel the need to listen to them and help them feel accepted. After all, everyone fears to be judged. It's not only you, it could be the person you are planning to approach themselves.

[@kime5776]

Woahh, I always have the exact same issue, thanks for the tip!

[@aimeeastorga210]

I Thought I was the only one Lol, Tbh a lot of my friends are introverts and I become confident when I'm around them. Lmfao xD I can do a lot of craziness/wildness since they got mah bacccc ~ ^^

[@esther9210]

I’m the opposite. When ppl are talkative, it causes me to become talkative

[@mallorielouann546]

Wow, I am the same way. This comment just opened my eyes. I had no idea that others are like that around people too. I am going to try and convince myself to get into this mindset. Thank you.

[@marinasironiabad4207]

Oh good I relate to that in a whole other level,also if there is a group of 4 people I stress easily because I’m quiet.

[@TomEpQm]

It's actually amazing to find someone on KZbin giving advice that doesn't feel like they're talking out of their ass and really makes you feel like you're walking away with useful information.

[@Charismaoncommand]

Appreciate that!

[@noneofyourbusiness8252]

Tom!? Agreed. I can't tell you the amount of vacuous crap found in many educational/instructional/motivational youtube channels. Stuff like: "Tip #1: Greet people with a smile." Charisma On Demand will sometimes tell you the obvious but will also put it into context and explore the subject with more depth. I appreaciate that it analyses the mindsets behind these issues of shyness, lack of confidence and self esteem. Great channel.

[@pushpas.6679]

Tom!? ,search alpha m, 👊

[@amaracea]

Tom!? Is that you Tom!? omg!

[@BLMeredith87]

coltonw83 jr. Problem with Alpha M is his videos are guaranteed to have huge waffle about sponsors, sometimes you can just tell instantly his videos were made just for his newest product plug.

[@isabellab7326]

The more people who call me shy or ‘quiet’ the more I act that way. It’s really annoying cause I can’t control it. Like when I finally open up to someone and am talking, if they suddenly mention that I am talking for once and not quiet I will close up again. People always say to me -Omg you’re taking for once -The quiet girl is talking!! -wow you actually have a voice!! UGH I NEED HELP

[@mattthegamer144p6]

Isabella Bedford same here I really don’t like the attention, every time I end up actually talking to someone, someone else would be like He’s actually talking

[@princessfluffybottom1933]

Exactly guys. I used to get people do that to me all the time. Just forget about all the people that you 'think' are judging you. It's all in your head, they perobably have better things to do lol. That's how I stopped feeling bad when people did it. On the other hand, it's not their intention to actually make you feel bad. They are probably just judgemental and ignorant. They probably judge so much that they are immune and don't realise that what they are doing is bad.

[@doodgeslagenmug]

Isabella Bedford same. When i said something once someone just said: it is talking. I was like :(

[@Pau-il6mg]

OMG somone that understands me this literally happens to me since 1 grade and now I’m in 7 grade :(

[@chiaraguillen2324]

So relatable hahaha

[@mandymoe12]

What really chokes me up is when I'm in a social situation and I feel like I'm doing really well... And then somebody calls me out for being 'too quiet.' I almost never recover from that.

[@elsaa_arg]

I feel you...

[@omidijioyinkansola]

Well everyone has their own opinion. and that shouldnt limit what you feel about yourself, you are bold confident and strong even in your silence. Never try to be like anyone else be you and improve on being the best of you.

[@neverstopaskingwhy1934]

ur putting there opinion about u on a pedestal think about how much u value other over urslef

[@brinplsplsplstextme-jaiden7223]

What I do is make a joke around it.However way someone calls you out for being quiet, everyone’s attention diverts towards you. So take the opportunity to be funny, have a laugh about it.

[@kassard1]

I had to learn to throw wit at those kind of comments. Sometimes, depending on who said it, I would say I was absorbing all the information everyone revealing about themselves for future use and then give an arched eyebrow and an evil grin. Later when I became more confident and loud people would comment when I went quiet asking if I was okay, "yeah, I'm just being quiet to freak ya'll out." Again depended on the person who makes these comments, friends who KNOW you know it's anything they need to bring to your attention, people that mostly say these thing are saying that THEY are uncomfortable with your quietness and that's THEIR problem, not yours.

[@scarlotraven6193]

I wish I was as socially confident as my dog.

[@narasimhahm321]

@@jlinus7251 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@LalisaManoban-qp4wt]

@@jlinus7251 😂😂😂😂

[@cinesterg6444]

Take some actions bro no one said you can't be socially confident!

[@heatherg1296]

Lol if that was your opener to me irl, I'd be your friend lol.

[@janina873]

Scarlot Raven 😁

[@MinYoongi-my9wr]

I have a tip. Just don’t care what anyone thinks. When you have a thought in your head, don’t replay it over and over to make sure it’s perfect, just say it. Also, if you want to make a friend, just go for it. Who cares what they say? Who cares what they think? It’s your life. Gain confidence

[@shaziaayub3256]

Min Yoongi thank you, I just remember this comment and I start to be me, I'm slowly getting better, thanks so much

[@livvy177]

Easier said than done haha

[@nicholasnoel01]

yeahhh👏👏

[@s4muraik290]

You just helped me gain 3 friends in my first day somewhere new ty so much

[@user-sx7fu5ir2f]

That works until someone actually walks up to you and says something

[@KeyEpic]

Confidence is literally a mindset that you can force

[@possibilityyz3351]

Hey

[@gachadaisy]

Heeyyyyy~

[@rotting_mind]

Heyyyyyyy~

[@MrNikkiNoo]

Heeeyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!

[@JJ-qh5yc]

Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

[@aconfusedalien1491]

I talked to a stranger yesterday while in the elevator. No kidding i feel really proud about that. Slowly but surely cracking that shell!!😁

[@spiritoftherain5852]

If that would be me I would pass out on that elevator

[@enniswhalen2428]

BWN - Great that you felt some sort of progress, but, please, be careful . . . .

[@spiritoftherain5852]

@@enniswhalen2428 THAS IMPORTANT

[@nikfarah9036]

social anxiety club : we are proud of you

[@sonicfx5431]

@@enniswhalen2428 what do you mean? Like seriously I'm interested

[@drewstephenson8346]

I wasn't shy when I was younger... but all the sudden I kinda just shut myself out. Sure I'm going through that middle school time where you feel kinda insecure, but it seems worst for me. I'm basically one of the quietest people in my grade, and that has some benefits, I don't get in trouble, but my range of friends is kinda small. There's a somewhat odd group of people that I'm kinda just nice to, but when I sit with them because they seem lonely, I act like an idiot for a hour before I tell myself, calm down.

[@midniteriko2231]

Drew Stephenson me 2 but now im anti soical

[@swissairguh9493]

MidniteRiko I'm just to busy worrying about me and what to say I don't actually say it so most of the time i don't say anything

[@toastaex9679]

Drew Stephenson i can relate to that so much

[@savbaddie5425]

Drew Stephenson OMG SAME. I’m just so shy. It’s hard for me to open up to anyone anymore. And the people I hang around aren’t the people I really want to hangout with. I just hang with them because I don’t want to be alone at school. Idk what happened to me. I stress because of the fact I can’t even be myself anymore💔

[@ChapulinMarijuano]

Savbaddie1 Xxx same

[@bangelz0949]

Step One : Reset Step two : Open up Step three : Creative in conversations Courage is key word

[@ThySheepie]

BAngelZ 09 But you see, that doesn’t just help everyone. That comment can help people that are quite new to this, but resolutions don’t just happen as easy as this. For example, me.

[@yingqiuzhou133]

Grunge Lord it is true

[@uditchakraborty7741]

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[@dm7539]

BAngelZ 09 no, save it and if you fail, load up ur previous save

[@jimenamorote3105]

I can’t do that

[@apenafitshop3022]

this is how i defeated shyness: life is short

[@cristianocurbelo616]

Expose Child that is effective

[@trollvidde]

life is too short for memes

[@gautekjelstadli553]

Nothing is too short for memes....

[@gautekjelstadli553]

except for your "business" (p*enis, if you wondered...)

[@stef3927]

Expose Child yeah, and the quote "you only live once" xD

[@dr.oxygentekseng8062]

I can't even poop when someone standing outside my bathroom door

[@roshi1645]

DR. oxygen TeXseng I can’t even go toilet when someone is at my house, or I’m at someone’s house , I get so shy I just wait till they leave

[@snowflake8629]

OMG ME TOO😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭

[@skkzzzz]

SAMEEEEEW

[@sey8893]

DR. oxygen TeXseng , i relate so much

[@itskylierae]

OMG SAMMEEE😂

[@thestrangefishlikeentity9967]

So, my friends dared me to introduce myself to someone randomly on the street (because I'm really socially awkward) so I walked up to this girl and said, "Hey, I've never met you, you're really pretty, I'm shy, and my friends dared me to do this. Can I get your name?" Now we're friends, and I don't know how to end this comment.

[@Spacemanfilms2002]

Princess TNT are you guys more than friends

[@ValoriumStudios]

Princess TNT your balls just got bigger in that moment

[@glassunicorn1525]

that's awesome

[@siencetalk7470]

damn you have a big one there man.

[@MrFox_Adventures]

raggex X good luck! definitely can be hard to make friends if your not used to doing so. biggest part is the continuous effort to get out of whatever is holding you back, and getting out of the comfort zone into what is actually going to help you progress

[@greenhound]

0:08 "this is gonna be useful to you if you've ever been out" *oh ok* *closes video*

[@CaliforniaChurro]

greenhound lol ikr

[@Lunk42]

greenhound Lol I haven't been out either.

[@justcr00z1ng3]

XD nice. That's exactly like my xD

[@stickbodybighead]

greenhound I am such Ginny Weasley in chamber of secrets when she first meets Harry. I have the same exact problem just with stage fright

[@janisberzins2703]

Out? Like knocked out? I have never been too, but I did landed some sweet knockouts. Why suddenly he started to talk about shyness? I mean, wtf?

[@elle2630]

I had to act in front of my school. Most of the people were fine with it, and I was fine with it. I was expecting to get a small roll or just be a background character... but I got the lead role for some reason. I’m fine with speaking in front of people, doing speeches, things like that, but I’ve never had an important lead role. I was nervous and I literally couldn’t think that I could do it. Skip to the day of the play, I was backstage. I ran up to one of my classmates and told them that I couldn’t do it. I broke down and I got nervous. My friend told me that all I had to do was be myself and make people laugh. I couldn’t back out at the moment, so I just got on stage. Hundreds of eyes were on me, but I kept going. I said the first line... and then people laughed. I liked that my comedy and acting was making them laugh, so I kept going. Now I’m in drama club and a theater geek. I’ve been in so many plays and met so many people. Just take a chance! No matter if you’re scared or not. I took a chance and it changed my life. You should too!

[@liz.gracee_]

I hate it when you hangout with a group of people you know but aren't really close with, and you try to join in their conversation, but you can't relate to anything they're talking about. 😔

[@sarahibrahim8642]

Your end sentence is very relatable but I never hang out with a group of people . I’m around one in my bus and at school but it’s not like they had a choice to invite me

[@adamwyatt1902]

Just because you don't know how to relate, you can try to understand, and that means a lot to others. Especially if owning up to not knowing much about the subject and asking them to teach me more if it's something they enjoy talking about.

[@biollante746]

Uhh, if you try to look at it logically (probably not what you should do in this situation but I will), If you cannot join in their conversation/ talk to them, because you can't relate to anything they're talking about, that means, if they're talking about something you CAN relate, you will be able to join the conversation/ talk to them Now, how do you make them do that... Bring up the topics you relate to yourself? idk I mean, if they're hanging out with you, that must mean they should be willing to talk to you about stuff you talk about? Ugh, the fact that you aren't really close with them is making this difficult!

[@tfahad2051]

If they're laughing at something, ask them to tell you that story and they'll be happy to tell you because they also want to laugh.

[@TaxingIsThieving]

@@adamwyatt1902 Why would I want to be "taught more" about pregnancy or nails?

[@JustShotsForMeh]

How to stop shyness: Step 1. Do things that you don't do when you're shy Thanks professor.

[@mathew633man]

I don't think farting in public is such a good idea

[@Shireen-pj7rh]

Good one 😁😁

[@callum7081]

Matt shitting in public?

[@TheOfficialTeyloh]

I think you are missing the point...you're supposed to let yourself feel shy. So you will feel really bad for 30 seconds, because you're nervous and you have to let your body process the shyness. Once you do that, you'll naturally just feel better because you know it can't get any worse.

[@mathew633man]

***** i actually like your analysis.

[@zxida7272]

I'm just reading the comments because it's actually helping me have confidence lol

[@bastac2993]

yea it helps me see that ım not the only one xd

[@urmomluver1169]

@@bastac2993 Gucci Gucci flip flops something something in my socks

[@kgkomrin]

Where's that pfp from

[@nukar5193]

Wronggggg,. the comments will make you feel okay at being shy and awkward. And if your seeing this video, I don’t think that’s what you want. You can Try this, whenever you see a comment you can maybe relate to, say to yourself I can no longer relate to this comment and then don’t like the comment at all and process what just happened😌I hope this help

[@willtrojan8854]

Yeah same

[@reignwest7261]

“Confidence comes later, the actions of confidence come first!”

[@skyhunter520]

This is the best advise ive seen in the comments so far.

[@xRiPw0lFx]

This is fire 🔥 that was great

[@Brah-bb8of]

@@skyhunter520 so I have to be confident before being confident

[@victorskov3181]

“It never ceases to amaze me: We all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.” - Marcus Aurelius

[@mondraymondo]

Fascinating!!

[@scholaroftheworldalternatehist]

Because that is how we judge our worth - by comparing to others.

[@Savannahhh._.]

I hate being shy it keeps me from doing what I wanna do in life. I wanna be a dancer but I'm shy and people are so judgy. :( I hate myself sometimes.

[@danm1063]

Join school clubs, any job in customer service. It'll help a lot

[@elonstephen2321]

@Asia Brown ur nice

[@rouxisshiki]

I'm dealing with that right now!!! I want to learn hip hop but I feel awful.... and old...

[@yara4486]

“Judgy” .... HAHAHAHAHA-

[@Moana_moo]

Savannah Marshmallow i’m even more shy in social situations than on stage. Like stage is the only place i get lose. It’s just that too crowded places drain my energy. And many of my friends are so comfortable in big crowds while i love to party and dance i feel the best in a less crowded area of the club yet they want to be in the Center and it drains me...in less crowded places i am still shy but i feel more comfortable...I’m a performer though

[@ellawu4626]

When someone talks to me and I don’t have anything to say or relate to, so I just awkwardly laugh quietly and just stand there. Also when someone laughs behind me I always expects them to laugh at me.

[@mohamedkerouf3601]

(bad english i know) I used to be like you You just need to put this head in you head "nobody care's about you"

[@mohamedkerouf3601]

It helped me so much

[@bonbonpony]

@@mohamedkerouf3601 Thanks, now I have depression ._. Just kidding ;)

[@friendlyneighborhoodloser2639]

i get like that too but what you have to realize is that everyone else feels like everyone is watching them too. everyone is so focused on themselves and their friends and their problems that they’re probably hardly noticing you. if they are noticing you, it’s most likely for a good reason. like when i notice someone it’s almost always because i like something about their appearance or outfit or whatever. they’re not laughing at you, believe me

[@biollante746]

@@friendlyneighborhoodloser2639 People also notice things they don't like

[@alexandrelaflamme7332]

how to defeat shyness : *L O T S O F T E Q U I L A*

[@danielsuelzle4364]

this actually worked for me haha. Like I would get drunk and remember how I acted, then do the same at parties sober and I learned social skills lol

[@desertedlandz]

Daniel Suelzle yo why is that smart

[@HondaS-fk1mi]

YES

[@天使-k9v]

2 shots of vodka

[@maszamap3888]

Little bit of drugs

[@carlitosespinosa]

“How to stop shyness in 60 seconds” *video is **9:45** minutes long* My whole life is a lie

[@legends3ud]

Carlitos Espinosa LMAO literally

[@templarexemplar35]

He meant the actual process he explained should take 60 seconds

[@carlitosespinosa]

Templar Exemplar woooosh

[@templarexemplar35]

@@carlitosespinosa oof I got wooshed

[@strangechild]

That’s what I was thinking lol

[@raising3loricks57]

It used to bother me a lot when people say, “are you always this quiet?” or when I’m thinking I’ve been talking a lot or loud, and people say, “you are so quiet.” I’ve gotten over it. I once had a boss tell me, I need to stop being so quiet and speak up if I want to get somewhere in life. Well I’m a nurse, and my patients love me. I also have a wonderful husband and three beautiful kids. I get most of my thoughts out on my channel or through some type of social media or writing.

[@nova.miller]

Somebody that took some acting classes for a while said this "Our acting coach there would make us act 1 by 1 and ask us what the person's mistakes were. Everyone would say a few different mistakes. Like how they talked quite or something. And the coach would say 'there were like a 100 mistakes there. But you only noticed a few of them because you have those mistakes too" I don't know if it's true cause I actually talk pretty loud even though I'm shy but I notice when they are talking quiet

[@gustavsk6096]

hamburger

[@___Denis___]

yeah lol

[@fairytailrose6277]

Exactly my thoughts lol

[@evalolacookie]

Read more

[@masonpritchard4560]

Lol.....me

[@jarensprague5316]

Same

[@humudu]

Great now my boss fired me when he saw i looked like I couldnt care less during our meeting

[@kj5960]

IM CRYING

[@chrissabry7529]

Then you did it wrong

[@Whxyte]

humudu oh hey, you might wanna try to keep an attentive face (just keep your eyes on the person speaking even as your brain blanks out, nod a bit when the person pauses to take a breathe). like charlie says, to the degree that you can. there are certainly a lot of places where you still have to be uptight, esp work meetings. however if you can tweak and see how much you can get away with, then you can slowly adjust to the lowest level of energy state in the work meeting without getting 'caught' and use it as a reset time. or even easier is to take a toilet break and use the time to reset a bit.

[@oldaccount133]

humudu 😂😂 Sorry, but dude, not to be mean, but that seriously made my day. Have at least a little bit more interest next time. 😉

[@nataliecao9409]

Then ur boss sucks

[@callbettersaul]

His smile is bigger than my future

[@ems3599]

Everything is bigger than my future

[@YourSuzerain]

He's low-key hot

[@joshua_hurtado]

Andreas Viks LMAOOO STOP OMG

[@ejej_shej7958]

@@YourSuzerain i agree ngl

[@jupiter1852]

Lmao same

[@reqen7]

I don't want to small talk with people I don't know, without sounding rude, some times I just don't care enough to talk to some people, I'm quite a lot of the time, and only talk when it's about something i have good input about, I don't believe in just talking for the sake of it, but when I do talk about things, it's really coming from somewhere of truth and something I have really thought about and has meaning and that way I'm really being me, not just talking because socially I feel like I should, but this is just how I feel, but as you said in the video, i think for people that want to be more open.

[@shafwandito4724]

Zyprox in short: YOU ARE INTROVERT

[@Weloz92]

Same. Many have said to me that, when I speak, everyone feels like that my opinion means serious business just because I won't flap my mouth around all the time like a lot of people.

[@gorrillawarfair]

Same, i fucking hate "weather talk/small talk".

[@oliverford5367]

If you don't start talking to people, you'll never get to know anyone

[@JaTroll01]

At the club me: “hey what’s up! where’s the photo copier”

[@kaylafisher3691]

😂😂

[@kamimura8289]

😂😂😂

[@greeneyesracyfox3476]

Learn to live and act on your voice instead of analyzing and criticizing ur self before lift off.THAT WAS EXTREMELY HELPFUL TO ME.THANKS!

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Glad to hear you're finding it helpful!

[@jzrc7908]

i can do this but the problem is i may being too extra

[@pageturner72]

Some advice for people who get nervous in social situations: stop thinking about yourself as somebody who gets nervous in social situations. When you’re talking to someone, don’t think “oh god, I’m talking to someone right now, time to panic” instead, just take a deep breath, calm yourself. The other person really doesn’t care as much as you think they do, and I bet they’re feeling self conscious too. Instead, tell yourself that you’re confident and relaxed. Become interested in what the other person is saying. Focus outward, stop trying to see yourself from the other persons eyes. Ask questions, make remarks. If you’re relaxed, questions will automatically pop into your head.

[@asf1062]

Longest 60 seconds of my life.

[@lukemai336]

ikr

[@ahmadshabeeb9299]

😂😂😂

[@iirfaxxn3637]

Crownz LOL

[@thefriendsoffantasies8045]

Same 😂

[@andreasrs69]

Spartos That's bc it's 10 mins

[@h_dls7993]

I just have a question you are obviously amazing with the information you have, but the question is where did you learn all this?

[@Charismaoncommand]

Mostly from self study and observation. I wish there was a school that taught this, but I've yet to find one

[@h_dls7993]

Okay thank you for responding, and thank you for all the amazing videos

[@vangelicest4183]

Charisma on Command You're hot

[@exodos2499]

Vangelicest gayy

[@mschell350]

we spend like 5 years learning about the pythagorean theorem in school when we could actually be learning useful things like this !!! i am the definition of shy. I really needed this video. Thank you

[@KarKraftsman]

I can only imagine how many introverts you have made more confident to be social. You got a great channel and here is to 1 million subs!

[@Charismaoncommand]

Thanks for the encouragement!

[@pikachuu128]

“Anxiety is like not being able to live with yourself or express yourself” - Axel Dobbins

[@davidtendernuts6982]

how to eliminate shyness for guys. 1. Tell yourself "I'm not a bitch" and go for it. Sounds simple but it works. The harder decisions in life are normally the more beneficial ones. It's easy to be lazy, easy to fantasize about what you could/would do. Harder to take action and risk failure/rejection. It is the worst to let yourself down. That's probably one thing that leads to mid life crisis is you look back like "i should of/could of done this." Fuck all that, just go for it. You will feel proud of yourself. Hope this comment helps at least one person.

[@davidtendernuts6982]

penile 1 Actually yes, I do. Not everyone that uses the internet is an anti social house freak. I'm giving advice based on my own experiences.

[@davidtendernuts6982]

***** can't argue with that. amen

[@davidtendernuts6982]

Alexander Delarge you made the mistake of saying it out loud right in front of her my friend.

[@idontknowwhatmyusernamesho5540]

+David TenderNuts I have crippling depression

[@Slechy_Lesh]

+anythingnew If you're interested in shallow women - which you must be, else you'd have had more exposure generally - maybe you need to rethink things a bit.

[@JayHanju]

The problem for me is that I actually don't have anything to say .... I blank out or just stay silent.. like.. what should I say??, how do I maintain conversations.. I usually have really short conversations with strangers because I don't know what to ask ... this is a problem for because I want to do nursing as a career and *communication* is the one of the *MOST ESSENTIAL SKILLS* for this course 😢😭.. I Overthink a lot too which is soooooooo bad 😢

[@g.j]

ONCE FOREVER Twiceuu Just show interest towards the other person once you initiate the conversation,show interest to what they say. The other person will keep it going. Only hope it wont bore you though, so be sure you have genuine interests or maybe just practice it till it becomes your second nature. People like to talk about themselves after all.

[@hemanth1453]

same like me

[@edgar7456]

@@g.j But I try to talk with another introvert. It doesn't work because she doesn't talk, she's introvert or really shy idk but I can't speak with her because she just want to listen and I don't have anything to say

[@esther9210]

Ask a question, ask a question about their response and see if u can relate. If u don’t relate, repeat the steps.

[@hapalapa8762]

Does anyone else pick that shy person to talk to so u feel more confidence

[@melodyyork6578]

Thank You Mate I don’t have social anxiety sometimes I shake when I’m scared or freaked out or can’t breathe or feel like I can’t. And I’m learning how to be more social I’m really trying I know it’s not anxiety It’s just me. This helped a lot.

[@lqvxnderr5696]

Same

[@jemuzu0944]

Me too bro

[@jemuzu0944]

And i just use my phone to avoid shaking

[@riell.4021]

Same

[@Aveyx22]

Melody York Not certain about the points made but ,if anyone else wants to uncover shyness treatment try Renkarter Anxiety Method Report ( search on google ) ? Ive heard some super things about it and my mate got excellent results with it.

[@isabisawisa]

Is it just me or when I wear something covering my whole face or something like a mask, I have more confidence?

[@skyhunter520]

Exactly!

[@bonbonpony]

Well then now is your perfect time :q

[@daydreamer-ty8fs]

Same

[@sarahibrahim8642]

I have less my eyes just don’t look good and I feel like I’m the ugliest in my class .

[@iamsodone4299]

YEP lol its because nobody knows who i am under there.

[@matejastankovic7012]

When i want to say something i just cant say it ...

[@doodgeslagenmug]

Mateja Stankovic Me too, it’s awfull and depressing.

[@arelitorres2760]

Damn it happens to me too 😓

[@MinYoongi-my9wr]

I have a tip. Just don’t care what anyone thinks. When you have a thought in your head, don’t replay it over and over to make sure it’s perfect, just say it. Also, if you want to make a friend, just go for it. Who cares what they say? Who cares what they think? It’s your life. Gain confidence

[@doodgeslagenmug]

Min Yoongi you’re right! No rumination. Thanks!

[@savbaddie5425]

Min Yoongi I knowww but when I do say I’m not going to replay that thought again it eventually keeps popping up in my head and it’s just so hard to talk to the people I really wanna be friends with.🙁

[@jbrdbr111]

I tried the part about introduction, I walked up to some girl, said "Hi my name is your name" and she walked away awkwardly.. What did I miss here?

[@jhonjohnjonjondoe5011]

Because you don't just walk up to them hahaha. You walk up to them after you made eye contact and say something it can be nice or it can be about something you are acting like you are looking for which most likely works best since you can pick anything that you can make fun of or joke about. Doesn't have to be like what he said something you are really looking for. Example: I was a teen when I used to go to the mall just to have a social interaction with a girl. I intentionally had made eye contact but that was Obv. I then walk towards her and she tries to walk around you because I make it look like I was just gonna keep going but instead I move with her and she moves the other way then say hey can I ask you why you keep trying to cut me off? Boom it's pretty easy and always make it silly so it never feels personal and it is light hearted. That allows them to open up. Make sure something you do or say you have no emotions attached to it and that will make you not nervous about it. I always liked to make it a joke out of a normal everyday social interaction I have and she has everyday so they have some sort of connection or emotion attached to it. For instance how I did what I told you I did. Everyone walking in the mall tries to move out the way of each other so she never seen it coming but because she knows that it came from a perspective that has a emotion attached to it. I know this was long winded but explaining the WHY it works is what will make it work.

[@Eudomac99]

I don't think you get the joke. He literally went up and said "My name is your name".

[@axel253]

Ohhhhhh my god😣

[@blank9062]

jbrdbr111 idk I don’t see anything wrong...

[@horizon5677]

Well that's a pretty cool introduction. I woulda speak with you.

[@jeeves9720]

So I guess I'm not the only socially awkward person here •_•

[@publicacc4295]

Steve Yo what you have to say doesn't matter

[@fractionpassion]

If that’s you in the profile pic then you’re hot af.

[@WhatTEVER3459]

No...no you're not

[@nickyennerell]

Yep

[@Augkiyoo]

Steve Yo I'm also socially awkward

[@FlameRaven]

I just don't feel like the thoughts in my head are important enough to be spoken or engaged in a conversation.

[@taebae5410]

oh my goodness same.. thing is im into learning languages and this is sooo much more amplified when you struggle even being able to say simple thoughts. sometimes i just shut down and dont hardly say anything. i dont like it because it can affect others negatively, but i dont know of much else i can do

[@dylon4906]

He mentions that in this video tho

[@benlewis720]

It’s worth it, “chime” in as he said in the video! Just little bits of expressing your thoughts are great and get easier with “chiming” in

[@neverstopaskingwhy1934]

you're not beig yourself when you're shy think about it my man truth

[@fdb1539]

So? Listen to what other people talk about. I guarantee the conversations these people have are FAR dumber and more unimportant than the thoughts you have in your head.

[@doczero1296]

He makes it look easy af but in reality it's really not, at least for me.I'm too awkward.

[@camilledoodle6069]

iknow its hard but look your watching stuff like this means u value how to improve or learn n stuff don't give up

[@miszBEB0x]

camille doodle yes!!! we can do it guys

[@hunterparker9988]

DocZero hey me too I'm socially akward

[@FrenchWhiteBread]

DocZero same I gtg cry in my bed now

[@dollyri1995]

Hunter Parker yes DISTURBED!!

[@maximillianschauer1439]

this channel is just beautiful

[@maximillianschauer1439]

it amazes me every time

[@trevorhouff1173]

Bruh, being in school and not knowing where to put your arms is so fuckin true

[@resinds.p4898]

Trevor Houff what can i do for that .

[@MortyMortyMorty]

Resinds .P *Cut them off*

[@MortyMortyMorty]

Resinds .P jk dont take it seriously

[@brokencop7629]

WhiteWalkerPepe too late

[@saberfan]

typing this with my nose

[@yukiruikuta6500]

A friend of mine told me that apart from me,no one knows who i really am , so why believe what they say about me? She was right all along.

[@Jack1994hoo]

Because the way they perceive you influe ces how they trest you and if you have to interact with them frequently thst can be a problem?

[@moonchild3806]

thank youu i need this haha i'm so shy especially at school. i always watch the people that i've been wanting to talk to since like last year and i couldn't get a word out of me to any of them. then eventually two of the people i wanted to talk to graduated at the end of last school year-and i never even got to introduce myself :/ i think i'm gonna try talking to people now, usually i get so close to asking someone a question or saying "hello" but what stops me is: what if they ignore me? what if my voice cracks? what if they don't hear me? what if they don't like me? so then i just contain myself & i don't say a word.. it's just so much more easier to talk to boys than girls. i've had someone ignore me :( and one time my friend tried complimenting this girl on her sweater and she got ignored, it's really discouraging. SO PEOPLE, WHEN SOMEONE TRIES TO TALK TO YOU: DONT IGNORE THEM

[@glassunicorn1525]

It is really rude to ignore people, but maybe that girl was out of it. I sometimes accidentally ignore people when I'm thinking:)

[@edwintarucmasanque5286]

moonchild we're same.I'm a shy girl too!Ever sinse I'm elementary and now I am grade 7 I am shy.I cannot talk much.Because other might ignores me.I don't want to be ignored.I always think negative thoughts.I am not participating in school.And When the time i talked,they can't hear me because my voice is too soft. I feel uncomfortable when I am around with many people.Yes,I have a lots of friends,And yes I am lucky to have them,But now I don't know what to do because I am shy to join them. The one thing that can make me proud is to overcome my shyness!

[@JC111414]

I think about those same questions but I wished I would have said more to those people instead of being quiet.

[@lucywanjiku9723]

Ur not alone ave been going to a new school for a week and I haven't talked to anyone only this one girl who I keep following n now she thinks I'm weird

[@PatrickAllenNL]

1. walk outside 2. drop your pants 3. let them laugh 4. run away 5. cry it off cry it off

[@phoenixzappa7366]

cryy it offf

[@MrNeurodrive]

[@PatrickAllenNL]

8. Then get hit by a bus which catches fire

[@danieltownsend8085]

9. tell your mom's flirty friend that she looks really good

[@bcnicholas123]

10. get a restraining order placed on you

[@SwagScop3d]

I personally use the 123 method. Basically it's choosing to do something then counting to 3 and doing it straight away. For example Hmm, I wanna talk to that girl, in head, 1 - 2 - 3 and immediately go. This method is better than Hmm, I wanna talk to that girl, in head, omg what should I say? what if she has a boyfriend? I'm not even dressed nice. Does my breath smell ?? When you count straight to 3 and do it, theres no time for your mind to think about all the bad things that could happen, besides it's A LOT, I mean, A LOT easier to go with the flow in a conversation, since it is literally a feature we're born with. HOPE THIS HELPS YOU GUYS OUT

[@LIFE-dc5tn]

SwagScop3d based Zeus

[@ililoly8849]

SwagScop3d That is surprisingly helpful thanks mate 👍

[@palmistryslaps]

shyness is a quality that implies a divergent way of being that is undervalued & stigmatized for non-neutral, motivated reasons, ("everyone should be and act in the world in the same ways"), and the impulse to "kill" it is quite alarming, because it suggests shy people should... not exist? SHY PEOPLE ARE VALID AND VALUABLE. I want a video from a shy person teaching loud people to be more shy or self aware. Loud people are often grotesque to those of us with higher sensitivity.

[@TaxingIsThieving]

Exactly, why aren't extroverts the problem?

[@chuckaule6292]

i remember i saw this documentary about a guy that took shyness to the next level, like he got to the point where he couldnt even talk to his family. he had this psychologist helping him get over it, and one thing she had him do is walk a banana in public. i felt like i could take something from that, cause most of the time im afraid im gunna make a total fool of myself in social situations. i feel like everytime you do a little screw up, its just enough to keep you fearfull, what you really gotta do is fuck up so bad that afterwards your like, man, i dont think i could do something that bad even if i tried to recreate it, it almost desensitizes you in a way. i mean you could totally go and walk a banana down the street and i think it would help a shy person immensely. idk if i could do that hah, even tho i know it would help me. you know people would be telling the story of the man they saw walking a banana for ages

[@HeyVeatiful]

Chuck Aule ajajkakakas omg I actually wanna try this. It seems like such an icebreaker!

[@Sindruzzzz]

Lmao where can I watch that documentary?

[@TF80s]

@@Sindruzzzz you would just become the town oddball who everyone whispers about which will then make you feel like a depressed reject who's only friend is a bruised banana.

[@bingoing]

@@TF80s what a downer

[@Lynnvandenbrink]

I have a question: For some reason I have a problem with making eye contact, I will be having a conversation and it's all good when suddenly I completely freak out about when and how to make eye contact, as if I've forgotten how to and what's appropriate and what not. This will distract me from the conversation and I'll want to get out of it as quick as possible. I have ADD so it may have something to do with that, and I also find it happens when I'm talking to men more often than talking to women. Does anyone know how to fix this?

[@amarajrulla9365]

DelRey maybe you need to be more open with the person crack more jokes make more cheeky ones so ull feel more open with him. I used to be like this with another girl I had in class untill I got confident enough to like make some cheeky jokes (sexual or not) and now have no problem talking to her

[@Lynnvandenbrink]

thank you for the tip! I'll keep it in mind

[@amarajrulla9365]

DelRey np appreciate it if u wanna be cheeky u can look at their nose and they wont notice the difference but be natural so u dont have to think about it 😁.

[@THE7thz]

I'm not the only one with ADD :))

[@MarxHaven]

When I first started in sales I was told to look the person in their right eye to show you are listening. It takes you out of your head trying to figure which one to look at lol. Once you put it in your head that this is the way things should be in conversation it becomes the norm and you don't think about it anymore you just listen.

[@roberthoffmann930]

How I defeated my shyness: I imagine the person standing in front of me is a poop

[@vain.a]

Minabbit well a lot of people are pretty shit

[@SlothBird]

I imagine that they are dead corpses standing in front of my cold soul. All you have to do is shove a murder list in their faces, and make them regret ever asking or judging about you by burying their dead body when you finally found the perfect time

[@maryJaeJ]

😂 It may work....only if he woldn't be my crush and see him as a really cute poop.

[@petergalinari7118]

That would make me laugh so hard in front of whoever was in front of me haha. This definitely wouldn't work for me

[@jewelzthegemini1388]

Minabbit I lold

[@ShyamkrishnanNair]

Absolutely resonate with this! Social anxiety can feel like a prison, especially when you're caught off guard in conversations. I remember being at a networking event, and my mind just went blank-it felt awful. It’s funny how we often overthink things. That “shy voice” can be so loud, but I found that simply existing in the moment helps quiet it down. The Sense of Humor Improvement Program by Habit10x taught me that a simple sentence can break that cycle. Keep practicing; embracing who you are will open up opportunities, whether in friendships or on dates!

[@MrMMAJER]

It's weird, it feels like if you actually know me. I'm definitely subscribing

[@Charismaoncommand]

I know where you live. Just kidding! Welcome to the channel!

[@MrMMAJER]

Lol thanks!

[@GuyLogen]

He probably knows psychology. It's a great tool for understanding people.

[@MrPatrickbuit]

It's called the forer-effect

[@616Haggard]

Julian Ramirez That's called a crush, Julian. It means you want him inside of you.

[@michaelcutler5538]

pro tip: you can watch these videos all you want, but it won't do anything for you if you don't go out and practice what he says. "If you want something you've never had, you'll have to do something you've never done".

[@Charismaoncommand]

I concur!

[@bernaa1888]

Is that a Les Brown quote?

[@izzyblake2674]

omg this is what my theater teacher emailed me lmao

[@thecyberninja2708]

squishy mochi loll really thats funny af

[@noodlery7034]

Is that legal

[@lmao111yearsago9]

Let's just take a moment to appreciate his smile at the thumbnail.

[@DFrag-fx4xz]

Thank you man. I'm going to a new school this year and I'm pretty social awkward now in the beginning and you actually really helped me. Keep doing what you're doing

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ That's awesome to hear. :-)

[@alexandra_asya3884]

Oh my god your arms are amazing. How can person be smart and handsome at the same time? Good luck, I absolutely know you will be successful

[@Charismaoncommand]

Aaww, stop it! Thanks for the encouragement!

[@hkmsawwa]

*THANK YOU MATE!*

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Our pleasure! Thanks for watching :-)

[@patdesigns5369]

Hkm Saharan how do u make that bold text

[@bella7789]

PatDesigns *Idk mate*

[@hkmsawwa]

raggex X wtf 😂 I am not a bot

[@laurasmith2216]

Your a NOOOOOB

[@arthea1377]

Maybe some of us experienced being bullied that's why we don't have confidence and we always hide . Being shy or socially awkward sometimes misinterpret other people , some see you as arrogant , shy or mad.

[@Murk.mp4]

Is it me or does his mouth looks edited?

[@arelitorres2760]

😂💀

[@lifeashami402]

Narutske Umazachi no I see it too

[@Codemanlex]

Narutske Umazachi 😂😁😂😁

[@dezkightz]

its not just you lol

[@blazinbytes9099]

*glass shatters* himym fans will get this

[@DaNyAaLcEc]

I usually find that if I unzip my fly and flash my gear to the nearest person it helps a ton

[@melissapetraz2134]

DaNyAaLcEc haha best comment here

[@mikeymagic3739]

DaNyAaLcEc wut..?

[@ethanlaurette9185]

DaNyAaLcEc Just don't get that confident, or you could be charged with sexual assualt lol.

[@istarzgirl]

I appreciate you posting this. I'm no longer shy, but it isn't because of this. Freshmen year of college my roommate was occupied with extra curricular activities and usually wasn't around. I realized that I can't rely on one or a few people to hang out, so I just branched out. Today I even saw people who wanted to pet my dog and I just approached them and engaged in convo. I feel like being in a different environment certainly makes you branch out.

[@BX138]

I don't talk much in social situations, (parties, going out to eat, etc). So when I do talk, everyone listens to me.

[@anf4488]

I'm not shy but I'm a dope to door salesmen so I had to watch this just in case.

[@saladpits3349]

daamn you be slangin dope

[@yunglife1244]

Dope to Door? Wow 🤔

[@itztueazy5779]

😂😂😂😂

[@ItsNessaTho]

These comments are killing me 😂😂

[@joyitadarling5815]

dude, and you deliver too? my mans don't even deliver XD

[@maplesyruuup]

This is so helpful! I could relate to everything he said because I’m so shy. I’m finding school really hard because I don’t have that many close friends that I feel comfortable with just casually chatting to. I always find myself double checking everything I’m going to say and overthinking like *this is so embarrassing*, *omg she’s probably thinking how awkward I am* *whT do I sayyyyy* and end up speaking absolute blubber for minutes trying to fill the silence - then I end up being more annoying then awkward. Defo going to try this method UPDATE: this works!!! I saved myself from two awkward situations at school today 👌👌

[@cile12345]

ive gotten to the point where i dont want to fuck with anybody. i think im ok with being alone now. its wierd

[@marcudan3453]

Stony Tark you are like me bro.. i thought i'm the only one

[@poisonpotato1]

Same

[@Kittylover90]

Same, I hate talking to people looking at people and it's just ugh

[@isaacnewton2844]

Leah Howze Rip mate

[@Kittylover90]

But, still don't know why I have friends idk I weird.

[@misanthropic8459]

I LITERALLY WANT TO CRY WHENEVER SOMEONE TALKS TO ME LIKE .🧍‍♀️

[@macona.fortune3143]

I saw this video and immediately thought of how I overcome that state of shyness and holding back. The steps I thought of are exactly the same things you recommend. Youre the real deal, I am sure youre helping a lot of people. Awesome man! Here are my tips for never being "shy" again, or at least easily overcoming that state. First of all, just shut the fuck up and accept the situation, that you feel shy. Even when you are a man and shy with women. You dont need to impress anyone. Just let go and shut up. Then your contained behavior can even be interesting. Next stage is focusing on yourself, meaning *your body* and not the mental projection of yourself and your stituation. Just breathe deeply and stretch or as mentioned in the video move around, dance, swim, shout or whatever. I have found that stretching is something you can do almost everywhere and essentially no one will give a fuck. Often it makes others relax around you as well. Also dont be afraid of looking at people, also dont blink so often. You should only blink every 8-12 seconds in a relaxed state. Really focus your attention on looking. *See people for the purpose of seeing them*! Observe and you will not expect as much from yourself anymore. Then open up your body, lean back, if your standing lean on a wall, street lamp or whatever, keep your arms away from your body, move your body (arms, feet, head) slowly, loosely (but controlled) and with intend. Deep breathing is key and stretching relaxes the muscles that are essential for good breathing. *Good breathing is flow*. Pull your shoulders back and down, relax your neck muscles and breathe! Once youre completely loose and relaxed people around you will subconsciously pick up on it and will want to engage, to interact, to talk to you. If youre a man you will see that women will feel it as well...and feel attracted. Youre much more focused and present. Your voice will be more grounded, cleaner, stronger. Your words will come from a place of certainty and calmness, therefore will generate trust and interest. Again, breathing and posture is everything. Stop thinking by starting to breathe.

[@xSuperAssassin]

I did this in new job it work clever!

[@piyushmittal2427]

same experience what the video says I too got through the same phase awesome video bro

[@ox4tune]

"How to stop shyness in 60 seconds" Answer: get drunk

[@KADU1978]

It works wonders every single time but be aware, in office or professional situations alcohol is quite hard to mask and can easily backfire real quick.... Don't ask me how do I know ...LOL

[@mireyasalazar1784]

Dark Psionic 😂😂

[@Peter-200]

Worked for me

[@lourancia]

Dark Psionic So true

[@kcalhoun8944]

Dark Psionic no drunk i ain't officer

[@MateoMrtacos]

Step one: Reset Step two: Open up Step three: Be creative in conversations, confidence is key

[@icantthinkofone7125]

The job I wanna do kind of needs me to present once or twice a week.. Actually I used to extroverted when I was younger but then my parents taught me in ways where they completely shattered my confidence, now I’m 16 and I realize the problem which is confidence so I’m working on it. This is why I want people to know that it’s not them, or their parents, it’s the ways they were raised. Edit: pretty much what most people need is a boost of confidence. When presenting or speaking to someone and you feel shy, you may not realize it but you feel smaller than that person you’re talking to. This is why you have to tell yourself that you are the best and nobody is better than you. I did that during a presentation and it actually worked.

[@SirStunna205]

I've never clicked on a video faster in my life

[@Hyraladen]

Anonymous Peanut boooooooo

[@AlphaCentauri00]

One of my favorite channels on KZbin. Thank you for all your work dude!

[@Charismaoncommand]

That's awesome to hear - glad you're liking it!

[@kevinvazquez6120]

Hi Charlie! I love your channel and you've probably already seen the Frank Underwood requests. I just wanted to add on to that. It would be amazing to watch and I know that with the knowledge and insight that you put into all these video, it would be captivating and pleasant. Please Please Please make one soon :D Please!!

[@hinkenvarnamnet]

Awesome vids, man!! Love them!

[@Charismaoncommand]

Grateful for that!

[@JaxBoogie09]

For some reason I’m shy when my parents are near my classmates but without them, I feel comfortable to talk

[@KatyaGabova]

I never liked the word "Charisma", so the name of the Channel made me feel kind of skeptical. After watching some of the videos I can see how much helpful they are. I rarely suscribe to the Channels and quite seldom a video seems to deserve LIKE. But the channel deserves approbation. :)

[@Charismaoncommand]

Welcome to the channel! That means so much.

[@badassherbivore3338]

There are motivational channels that give tips, tricks, and steps on how to change bits and pieces of your life but all of them explain things very vaguely, this guy makes it clear and logical. I subscribed today.

[@Skiddleszsz]

Charisma sounds like Christmas. Just connect weird words with awesome shit.

[@Skiddleszsz]

this was kind of a joke btw, not trying to sound assholish :)

[@sephwatson340]

Gonna use all these, going to a new college soon

[@Charismaoncommand]

Good luck my man!

[@sephwatson340]

Thanks

[@raymeester7883]

What did you think about talking to Vox Day( Mike cernovich's publisher friend)?

[@gerunkwon2598]

Thanks

[@Hirsty566]

Good luck man, first years a bitch

[@fufu8174]

I’m shy, plus my English is not good, it made me even harder to express my ideas to someone else. But Thank you anyways!!

[@takmaps]

Don't beat yourself down many people like accents in fact it will keep the conversations going people asking where you're from etc.

[@romomacias9830]

FuFu Z go up to people and ask for directions even if you don’t need them

[@bonbonpony]

Or try language exchanges. You know, "you teach me your language, I teach you mine" kind of thing ;) Lots of friends guaranteed.

[@gii757]

Aye but us shy people are the best once you really get to know us and we break our shell😌

[@gldnsulz4264]

*_Am I the only one who always gets shy around people except for friends and family... Even tho everyone in school says that "don't be shy.. Blah blah blah..." I just feel... uncomfortable around people. Its not like I hate everyone or something its just my senses are telling me to avoid doing anything embarrassing and keep it to yourself. I don't talk much at all for my voice being so "not loud" or "soft" which is entirely the reason why I get shy... Long story short I need help 😥_*

[@edwintarucmasanque5286]

Gσldєn Sσulz just be yourself and think positive 😊you're voice is soft because you are not always talking.You get uncomfortable around people,why???because you make yourself feel uncomfortable. For example, you are performing,and there were so many people watching in you,You just need to think that those people are just like you,Eating,pooping,those people are just the same as you and same as what you do as a human.Overvome those shyness

[@edwintarucmasanque5286]

Gσldєn Sσulz Were just in the same situation.And i hope 🙁 That my shyness will overvome one day,Do you want to knoe whats my wish??"To be confident" and i don't know how to start

[@jejdaaacz8079]

Edwin Taruc Masanque Have you guys changed?

[@chimney5013]

Ikr

[@lynettewilson281]

Same 😣😔

[@tylerrandazzo6084]

your a good speaker

[@Charismaoncommand]

Thanks!

[@Chris-zi4rq]

you're*

[@adrian-ih4ng]

hes shy

[@LuckyLegionN7]

I should hope so for the guy who runs the charisma channel lmao

[@mariazotov5154]

Don't miss out on millions оf s*ху girls near уоu => twitter.com/5937a507b0cd6514e/status/801992405775826944 How TTТo Stop Shуnеss in 60 Seсonds

[@timitarecom]

You want to stop being shy, start a fight every day with a stranger and lose it like in the movie 'fight club '

[@bobwoww8384]

aziz adventures Sounds incredibly emotionally effective however; compellingly psychotic. Cant see prolonged success outside of the truly mental. Perhaps understanding exactly what you mean is enuf to classify me as mental AF but that actually makes sense

[@anaya1956]

I don’t understand myself, how do I know almost everybody in my school and everybody know me but I can’t even learn how to be social and maintain these relationships 😭😭 I just feel so out of place

[@fdb1539]

You feel out of place. The solution? Actually be out of place. If you feel even more out of place, go somewhere else. If you feel in place, congratulations.

[@TheRealTact]

@@fdb1539 what?

[@vandal.e6541]

I’m not the slightest bit shy when I’m around my friends. In fact I’m the most confident in the friend group. But when I’m not around my friends, my social skills fall apart

[@slemanramadhan6525]

Same broo💀💀💀

[@lukapetkovic4529]

Good lord ,you dont even know hkw much you helped me..Thank you!!

[@Charismaoncommand]

That's awesome to hear - glad you're liking it!

[@Chris-gu5lt]

Me: Hey this is totally random but have you read any good books? Person: yes Me: Hey this is totally random but...

[@SanDiegoSouth]

A response to that yes is: What did you like about the book?

[@blakestratton2382]

"Hey this is totally random, but have you considered the flaws in our country's tax code?" Yeah that's why I have no friends

[@bread5414]

@@blakestratton2382 just look for people that admire your quirks

[@brinplsplsplstextme-jaiden7223]

If people give a one worded response, ask questions that either draw them out or require them to elaborate. Do you remember the names on any of them? Oh great, could you tell me about the story? What was your favorite part, or what did you like about it? And then you could proceed to give your thoughts based on their responses. Or give the answer to your own question whether they ask you or not.

[@SinoLegionaire]

@@blakestratton2382they don't deserve a friend like you.

[@ZAINSIDDIQUI-e3m]

Man we need more people like you honestly your such a legend for creating charisma on command

[@MrMeowMeows619]

How to overcome shyness : be born a different person.

[@fattshea8085]

wrong

[@tehprotrollboi6472]

bam, you've officially given into effortlessness, if you want to fix your problems, then you have everything you need to do so, you just don't know it if you think like that

[@jkrollingsheep1463]

@@waseemshah3571 oi noooo

[@baldevkumarmohta8770]

@@waseemshah3571 shut up

[@xhmbx9548]

@@baldevkumarmohta8770 but he is right tho! LOL

[@elisanapolitano4437]

I'm extremely introvert but I think I got to a successful enough way of networking and meet people. The point is, you don't have to necessarily say much. People are super duper intrigued by people who can actively listen. You don't have to really storytell or anything. Just introduce yourself, and then ask a question. And not an "how are you doing?" one, but actually some that may interest them. Ask about something you are passionate about, and that leaves to the other part the chance of an open answer. You can ask about their favourite kind of music, if they've ever tasted that dish, if they know somewhere to go eat or stuff like that. Y/N questions are conversation killers, but if you are able to find a common ground it'll make things way easier. What also helps a lot is to go to events that revolve around a topic. For example, I'm a huge nerd and I know quite a lot about the indie gaming industry and community. I thrive in that kinda situation where I can ask about a certain controversial topic, network gathering opinions, etc etc. To talk about business or to ask people out there's always time, but if you need a good impression or simply want to enjoy your time, things will be soo easier if you find a common ground and try to move to deeper levels. Also, people will appreciate that more. Many just meet and chat about what they do, but what's really important is to get someone to talk about what they love doing, or open up about a concern, or something else. Sometimes I believe I don't find anything to say not because I'm just shy, but because what's being said is not really of interest to me, so I try to actively drift the conversation to something different, or limit myself to listening to what they have to say, or even better explain politely I don't know anything about the topic they may be talking about, but tell them I'd love to know more and if they can explain me that.

[@Appollochan]

This advice is actually helpful, I like the conversations starters. :)

[@Charismaoncommand]

Gracias!

[@supernova5290]

Charisma on Command XD OMG

[@roshan7961]

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[@beckysberries4441]

Appollochan Same, he was sooo right with not know where to put your hands I feel awkward with them right by my sides but also if they're on my hips or something 😂

[@jenny-us1st]

Im REALLY shy, theres literally no cure.

[@calioutuuiu6432]

iiSimplyBubbly maybe becoming someone else

[@mchelibob]

iiSimplyBubbly same brooo

[@neverstopaskingwhy1934]

you're not beig yourself when you're shy think about it my man truth

[@sznity594]

dont try to be a different person, afterall an original is worth more than a copy

[@ShadowWolf_]

Do you atleast talk at school?at all?I know I don't which is a reason I don't have any friends and never had...hopefully you have friends..