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How To Be The Life Of ANY Party - feat. Jim Carrey
If you want to be the life of the party, there are really only two things you need to do
First, you need to be able to captivate people who you might not know
And second, you need to be able to make people with senses of humor laugh
The problem is you might not know how to captivate strangers or make people with different senses of humor laugh. Wit might get some people but be lost on others. Amazing storytelling can hook a group, but it can be hard to get people to listen in the first place.
So in this video, I want to cover 6 easy ways to become the life of the party and make people with lots of different senses of humor laugh. These are things ANYONE can do, you don’t have to be a comedic genius
To illustrate these principles, we’ll be looking at Jim Carrey, because his style lends itself to learning quickly. We'll learn to:
1) Create a character
2) Use specificity
3) Commit
4) Use surprise
5) Find the funny philosophy
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[@itaysror6591]

"you dont have to be a comedic genius" *gives Jim Carrey and Bill Burr examples*

[@laessencia5960]

Who better to learn from than the best?

[@lloydjoseph4370]

Itay Sror haha nice joke but Chantal is right

[@lloydjoseph4370]

Chantal Doubleday yup

[@JPCPSeto]

The fact you don't have to be a comedic genius yourself to become the life of a party, does not mean he shouldn't make use of comedians to make his points.

[@dited358]

@@JPCPSeto ​ You must be fun at parties

[@roddydykes7053]

An easy way to do it, is to hang out with people nerdier than you

[@shubhbrar7303]

true

[@Topstutorials]

Roddy Dykes alright so if you want a challenge then you do the exact opposite

[@mrsean44]

I've always been friends with many groups at once, it's kind of strange, most people in highschool would just hang out with one group at lunch 5-10 people or so, but I would usually do like 2-3 groups every day and alternate beetween like 6 groups. 1: party dudes/ drug dealers etc 2: jocks 3: nerds 4: preppy kids 5: ghetto dudes 6: more nerds, instead of the video game kind more like the study kind, aka my study group.

[@DXXXVIII]

Yes, but why would want to become the life of the party if its a party of people even nerdier than you?

[@EirikXL]

DXXX, yeah why become the life of the party if there is no party?

[@IamZedX]

'you don't have to be a comedic genius'... 'lets go ahead and analyse this comedic genius' lololol

[@thelolmaster1997]

Well he's not going to analyse some regular jack off.. you learn from the best

[@Shri100percent]

Aim high, shoot low

[@tylerh2548]

Wow dude, you are a comedic genius they should be making videos analyzing how to brighten a youtube comment section using the Zed Method. P.s. love your music

[@JoseHernandez-xy8mj]

whats ur suggestion or are u here just to mock what you cant do?

[@hermesmercury]

The most important thing if you wanna be "the life of the party" is to enjoy the party as much as you can. The second most important thing is to share as much as you can your joy with the rest of the party. If this two things don't happen, the rest is unnatural crap. Of course, this applies to life because life is a huge party.

[@Charismaoncommand]

Nicely done! Thanks

[@samarthsingh8735]

That is seriously so good, and I realize after all this time that I spent on trying to improve myself that what we, as learners try to just learn as concrete steps to achieve a goal is actually not so effective. So when I want to get a result x , I'll should do step y is flawed not because it may not get you the results, but because it misses the point of having done something like that entirely. So when I was trying to 'learn' how to be funny, and trust me, that was what I searched the first day I came back from a new high school, somebody should've told me to pursue the why, and not the how. So thanks for this comment man, it really reminded me of such an important fact . BTW the 'why' I derived from Simon Sinek's - Start with Why, you could check that out. Happy new yeaaaaaar :)

[@nihilism6226]

Hermes Mercury Shittiest party ever! I am going home.

[@wulf67]

…or you could just bring some coke.

[@camilaaguirrevalles9386]

Be the life of the party: 1) Play a character. This allows you to enhance any story, even if it's not that interesting. It can also be a safe background for sarcasm, because people know you're not hurting them. 2) Specificity: details, comparisons, characters, etc. 3) Continue the joke, drag it > drop it. Commit to your humor. Don't hesitate, involve your whole body and take your jokes to the next level. 4) Surprise: purposefully misinterpret other people, or do something dumb unexpectedly. Or put on a serious face to enhance the unexpected 5) Admit you want acceptance and ask yourself acceptance from whom. Look for people who care about you, make them laugh, make them happy and joyful!

[@Manray098]

This comment is honestly better advice than the video itself 😂👌🏽

[@kshitijrahatekar2147]

Thankyou so much! God Bless You :)

[@yoavsigler4457]

I like how you make people think they're just gonna learn how to be funny, charismatic, fun or whatever, but you always end up teaching them how to be better people. Because at the end of the day that's what makes​ you a desirable person - being good and kind, no tricks required.

[@dirtandweeds]

Yoav Sigler best comment

[@gregg4]

Telling people to stay committed to the joke is dangerous advice to give. There are lots of jerks out there who are not funny and don't know when to stop. A bad joke can be tolerated for a short while but if one insists than it quickly becomes an annoyance or worse.

[@geraldwood5863]

Bad jokes and good jokes come from the same place

[@Chronically_ChiII]

Maybe they will learn when they fuck everything up 3:)

[@deathpresent101]

+Gerald The Terrible from your ass?

[@geraldwood5863]

+deathpresent101 Just pay attention to the video. I can tell you need it more than most on here.

[@deathpresent101]

Gerald The Terrible it's just a prank bro

[@PiromancerFreak]

Can you do Gordon Ramsay and his Alpha personality?

[@mirnoyevolkodav8036]

Second this, it'd be interesting, hahahaha

[@PiromancerFreak]

He's a nice guy, great guy, if you've seen his other shows. Yet somehow he knows how to dominate people in almost any environment he is in. I think it's worth looking at lol

[@forcemajeure1146]

Yes agreed!!!

[@ironmantis25]

Alpha personality as in screaming at people's faces?

[@PiromancerFreak]

ironmantis25 No.

[@27POP27]

I'd love some more of that Billy Boy Burr analysis

[@dennman37]

I'd be delighted with some more analysis on O'le Billy Freckleface

[@drewpeterson4741]

I love Billy Redface!

[@BibleBeliever-hv8du]

+Drew Peterson Eh how ya doin how are ya

[@BibleBeliever-hv8du]

+Drew Peterson Eh how ya doin how are ya

[@drewpeterson4741]

+Aaron Frank hey

[@brandonwiebe2647]

this is the second video ive watched on this channel and im already addicted

[@Charismaoncommand]

°Appreciate the kind words

[@PaulLange-PC_BEAST]

I went through the same thing just now

[@michaeldemaio4034]

"You do not have to be a comedic genius..to illustrate this point we'll look at Jim Carrey"

[@prince_sach50]

ikr

[@anomonomity]

That last bit of the video was simply amazing and eye opening (despite hearing it so many times, this was just worded so well).

[@Charismaoncommand]

Happy to share :-)

[@KelleyBroussardMackaig]

It really was....

[@PhenHarrison]

I LOVE Jim. He was my role model growing up and the reason why I'm pursuing a professional career as an actor. Thanks for the upload.

[@arianrahman5886]

You really are something else, keep up the good videos man, it helps so much

[@Charismaoncommand]

Happy to hear that!

[@haotongjiang6893]

Arian Rahman watch improvment pill

[@danthemanyt7960]

The improvement pill has some good content

[@skeptikai]

Man, this channel is so great. I saw it sporadically until recently. I realized after a while that I haven't seen a single disappointing video of yours. In fact this is like the perfect channel for a psych geek like myself. Keep up the good work!

[@Charismaoncommand]

Wow! So grateful for that. Will definitely work on more!

[@Emiliapocalypse]

Great comment, I feel this way too! Most videos promising to help you improve something tend to be more fluff than useful and actionable. He definitely puts a lot of thought and work into his channel!

[@hesham0000100]

Lucifer from the Tv show Lucifer. A charming character that is worth talking about.

[@chasearowe]

Can you do a Muhammad Ali breakdown of his old interviews and pre-fight talks

[@shilpthapak7823]

yes man please do this one. "how to be confident like Muhammad Ali" you also have to think about his religious beliefs as a factor of his confidence

[@salimyar]

agreed 100%

[@robertomata5744]

W

[@uncledemort527]

suddenly you give a fuck baout him only when he died

[@tomez1243]

Absolutely not Muhammad Ali was loud but he was an amazing character and is said to be the most well known person in the world EVER! This is because he is a true model as he stood up for what he believed in without hesitation while putting everything he worked hard for on the line. Definitely not just loud and obnoxious

[@kimanihinds9817]

this is one of the most honest, non-bs, informative channels on KZbin. Bravo bro, I love this channel and all you're work. Don't stop making em :)

[@evilmonkeyontour]

Jim Carrey + cocaine = charisma

[@somecitrus7561]

For once I'm glad that KZbin's suggestions function exists. This channel's phenominal!

[@MegaFunky007]

"you DON'T have to b a comedic genius" uses jim carrey as example 🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️

[@JoseHernandez-xy8mj]

you come here just to say that lmao

[@Gloriankithsanus]

I mean at least Jim Carrey managed to become Jim Carrey, so I am sure you can do that too!

[@anarki777]

I think your videos must have helped me somehow. People just seem to like me a lot more now.

[@Hairy_guerrilla]

no they don't

[@anarki777]

Mikael Verstegen - Haha, good one. :'(

[@HappyHills1011]

lol we like you really Anarki :P

[@anarki777]

HappyHills1011 - Thanks, HappyHills1011 :P

[@viktorsilva4017]

10:04 man, that hit *way too hard* That's core deep real Jim Carrey level talk there

[@justjoe233]

wow Bill and Jim are polar opposites. Bill backs out of bits all the time. I love it when he calls out how weird and quiet a crowd are being.

[@billytessio6326]

Hey Charlie, you should do an analysis of Neil Caffrey from 'White Collar'

[@TheCalculator32]

i second this!

[@N1B3A]

I don't know what comes after seconded (thirded sounds weird) but i'm down for it.

[@xingli9205]

+1

[@milarose275]

I've just discovered your amazing channel, new subscriber, and at the perfect time! I'm currently sitting my A-levels and after I'll be going to University, so these videos a) help inspire and motivate me during a boring revision period and b) make me feel more prepared to meet new people at university. Thank you for this channel, very unique and very inspiring!!! :)

[@javifabela]

Thanks for all the help

[@kushsheth8772]

Had a bad day thus far and this video just brightened up my day and now inspired me to tackle the rest of my day despite where the earlier half went. This video gave me a TON of optimism. Thank you homie!

[@jamaljackson2781]

Absolutely, have no idea why Muhammud Ali has not had any of his interviews broken down. He is most definitely the most charismatic man that the world has ever seen...

[@exenzer6007]

I just found your channel today and after watching just a few of your videos, I want to thank you. Ive always struggled a bit with social settings so Ive naturally just tried to avoid them. Truth is is that I have also always wanted to be better in those situations. You do these videos in such a way that it makes us feel like we can actually improve our skills and were not born to be hopeless in those areas. So thanks from the entire shy community

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Appreciate the kind words :-)

[@jessefry7492]

Thank you so much you making feel a lot more confident and helping me work that confidence up.

[@jeffsmall956]

Charlie! These videos are getting better and better, love them! Some of the best content on KZbin... no beating around the bush, all objective analysis

[@Upscent]

This is such a great video! I have been binge-watching since last night and taking notes. I see where I make mistakes in communication, but I also see how I nail a lot of the situations. Yes! it's such a great thing being able to deliver difficult topics so flawlessly and easy to "process". I am working on becoming a more confident speaker and watching your videos really helps. Thank you, Charlie, and I'm gonna keep commenting here and there, so be prepared! :D

[@TylerJeray]

Hey man, just wanted to say thanks for your videos. I appreciate the way you explain you material and the way you go about it in these videos. This was a really good one for me and I just wanted to say thx.

[@Charismaoncommand]

Appreciate the kind words

[@crieverytim]

I started watching this as a party, full volume. They ate it up!!!!! Thanks CoC!

[@Torementz]

I stumbled across this video totally on accident. As someone who's told daily at work how funny I am and how they don't know how I come up with the stuff I say, I can agree that this video is 100% accurate. I come from a funny family and we've often had discussions on what we think makes people laugh naturally, and you named all of them. Oddly specific details is one of my go tos

[@marco1824]

Amazing narration. Your analysis is pretty spot on!

[@shiffterCL]

I don't need to be the life of the party in order to have a good time with close friends.

[@robertbones326]

I doubt a KZbin video would help much anyway. These kinds of things can't be taught.

[@MrVibriocholerae]

+Robert Bones they can deffinately be taught, but require alot of commitment. so much that it stips being worth it

[@brinckau]

***** I don't go to that kind of party.

[@Alumiss682]

Yeah, even if you study these kind of videos a hundred times over, you won't be able to apply them perfectly the first time. The key is to constantly apply these principles (if you want to call them that) or in other words, just open yourself up a bit more and talk to more different kinds of people.

[@Gloriankithsanus]

You can always choose to be the muffin dispenser of the party. Or the cocktail provider. Or the dood that brings the music box. Or the guy who orders free pizza for everyone. When nothing helps, piss on a giraffe and call it a day.

[@dainerystargaryen]

Charlie, i cannot stress enough how useful your tips are!!! You're doing amazing job! Usually, the advices on "how to make people like you" are: 1) be confident 2) be a good listener 3) make them laugh , but WHAT EXACTLY to do to show that i'm confident or open or whatever? And only you structures material also providing good examples!

[@TheChanagal]

That last part about mindset really resonated with me. It was touching for some reason

[@elishareynolds782]

I've always used "The Confused Response" reply. And everyone loves it. Like when Carrey said, "Oh, we walk in, we sit in the theater, etc"... People love it, every single time I do that. But, I never do it too much. Just once in a blue moon. If you do that too much, you'll come off as trying too hard, and not natural. People I really know, like family and friends, totally get my humor, I thought I invented that. They crack up every time. I've been doing that since I was like 10 and although it seems corny, it comes totally natural, and I get a genuine laugh every time. I went to a 3-Day Charisma Arts seminar in NYC for a thousand bucks like 10 years ago (luckily my friend paid, I didn't even want to go, but he wears hearing-aids, and needed someone to explain what was happening after each session at our hotel), so anyway, at the end of the first day, we all had to go out to a club, and then the next day report on how it went, positive/negative, etc, and learn from each other. So, we could improve on our mistakes and learn from others. Probably a great idea for the comment section on a channel like this.

[@gianni206]

Please study Chandler Bing and share his humor with us.

[@ChunkOcoal]

Jonny Lupus still waiting

[@sorryforwhat1528]

What humor?

[@gina1525]

his humour is scripted, but it's meant to be read as 'witty', so it's fake-witty.. hard to analyse, as it's just an illusion

[@CrissAssasin7]

Acting like Chandler won't make you popular, in fact, it will make you less popular, sadly speaking from experience.

[@buggydclown7724]

Cryope how do you know you didn‘t just do it wrong

[@alexanderSnilsson]

Loved the deeper message in this one. Good job Charlie.

[@manuelfernando9729]

It all comes down to your vibe or your frequency that you radiate from verbal to non verbal communication....all u got to do is to be in sync with the vibe thats needed of the place and people you are associated with

[@srivatshavsinha911]

I am funniest in the circle,. but there are times when people got hurt with my sarcasm, THIS EXACTLY is the video I am looking for ever since your first upload,,. thank you very much dude

[@sebbeaux3889]

Cool that you included Bill Burr. He's an amazing storyteller. Been addicted to his podcast for a while now.

[@MrXsnareX]

The philosophical underpinnings of your videos are quite insightful. I appreciate that as one looking into your products.

[@superturtle64]

I wish you would have posted this 2 days ago! I was just at a party on Saturday night with a lot of new people, and while your previous videos helped me connect with the people there, it would have been good to have seen this video first. Thank you though Charlie

[@dayswillburn777]

When I was younger I was a Jim, but as I get older I'm becoming a Bill 😂

[@sarahjane9354]

Watching your videos has helped me realise the sheer amount of social, culture differences there are between the UK and the US.

[@paulreuer867]

Sarah Jane how so

[@lorcankeane8092]

Honestly I’ve such a short attention span, the fact you jumped right into this is brilliant. Not too fast, not too slow

[@thewayoflovepodcast]

great video, thank you so much

[@shonkysidewayssam6134]

I love the Dumb and Dumber scene where Loyd is daydreaming of being the life of the party at the Ski Chalet, igniting his farts etc. Classic

[@akosmolnar8038]

This analysis just blew my mind! superb vid. thanks.

[@Charismaoncommand]

Thanks so much!

[@TheColeTruth]

I don't really rely on stories or being "ON" ... But when I'm in social butterfly mode (i'm pretty extroverted) I just kinda work the room and keep convo light and up beat. I am genuninly curious about other people and not afraid to make fun of myself. Being quirky and telling jokes comes naturally, but I also don't force them. I don't have too many inhibitions especially when drinking. So i am not afraid to sing/dance or be silly. BUT only if I want to. You don't need to perform for validation. I think people tend to gravitate towards me because I don't really care. Look you are never truly free until you stop caring what people think. Just go ahead and put yourself out there! By doing so people will like you and think you're super fun. My fav part of this video is surprising people. Cool video!

[@elvinac8514]

Thank you for this. And the work that you do. 🙏🏻

[@jesserivera9704]

Great videos man, Thank you.

[@Charismaoncommand]

Appreciate that!

[@RSidd]

I really enjoy these videos. Not that I ever wanted to be the life of the Party, but I am really fascinated by human behavior. Good job. Can you do a video on Louis C.K's sense of humor?That man never fails to amuse me. He has a certain way of talking that captivates people. Always wanted to know the secret behind it.

[@mrUnknownIdetity]

Dude I've been watching your videos for about 3 months now and I have to say this is one of the greatest channels on youtube and its continuing to improve. I think that this is one of the best videos you have done (for me its between this and the flirting one with Russel Brand). Thank you for doing this bro. Keep up the awesome work! Peace

[@nicole-secondaryemail-mort9617]

Really thoughtful ending at 11min.. the perspective on being funny, or rather, or really caring about making people have a good time.

[@shawnclaros]

I thought he said "or to date the married person you want the most" lol 12:11

[@michaelverlinsky4036]

it worked for me Charlie!!! everyone at my new job loves me

[@derica818]

What did u do pls tell me

[@AustrianEconomist]

There is no better feeling than clicking on a channel you love searching for a new video and realizing there is a new one from 10 minutes ago. Amazing content, as always. Keep it up! :)

[@imran.alshabazz]

so thankful of this vid Charlie! it's cool!

[@codebreakerowns]

Harvey Spector from suits would be a great character breakdown

[@FuriousFurricane]

To be the life of the party? Be the most fucked up person there.

[@JoeySehn]

1 9 8 4 way too true anywhere

[@dontforgettosmile611]

Spot on! Loved the "don't try to fit in, just be yourself" part

[@terriblethoughtshaven577]

Thanks Charlie---and you're exactly right about dedication to the character. I tend to lose assurance in my ability to act outside my own self-schema. I think another tidbit to be derived from Jim's behavior & knack in being the "LOTP" ; is that he remains engaged minutely (entrancing the host or other person of power, standardly) and easily tuning-out that environment.

[@catht9653]

I'm enjoying your videos, thanks!

[@Charismaoncommand]

Thanks milady :-)

[@deadcow444]

*Tips Fedora* Haha but for real I love your videos! Just curious what is your background? Psychology?

[@WildChief1031]

A Muhammad Ali video would be fantastic

[@dave45032]

already done

[@livedontdieknowledge4297]

+OnlineNamesAreStrange Where

[@You4ix]

10 hours ago.

[@gerudobombshell]

Ace video - thank you for doing what you do!

[@YaseenMKNoorani]

I'd absolutely love to see your breakdown of Muhammad Ali, his interviews have been some of the most captivating I've watched and from the people that have met him, they all say he had some charisma and aura about him. Loving this channel btw!!

[@jee888qc]

To be the Life of a Party: Step 1: Be Jim Carrey

[@thesciencer1]

"You do not have to be a comedic genius... to illustrate this were going to be looking at Jim Carrey" lmao XD

[@sedul2006]

Your channel is AWESOME. I joined TM recently partially because of your influence! Keep up the good work

[@tatemcilwain1775]

Thank you so much. This pretty much changed my life

[@enclavesoldier769]

Charisma +1

[@Lonestar512]

Raise them Stats!!

[@alekvillarreal3470]

Enclave Soldier I had a focus booster and got Charisma +2 ^_^

[@nathanielstein8904]

ENCLAVE HERE WHY ISN'T YOUR VIDEO FEED WORKING

[@hipnhappenin]

All of the Jim Carrey clips had me chortling. I'd like to see a video on how to deal with a group situation in which another party is overly boisterous or just really chatty and you don't know how to get a word in edgewise.

[@hipnhappenin]

This isn't the best video but I'm thinking of the Graham Norton Show episode with Michael Fassbender, Sarah Silverman, and a drunk Mark Wahlberg.

[@axelhammerbo3370]

Great video. The last couple of minutes was brilliant, Charlie! They really rounded the video off and made you think.

[@truelion92]

the ending was the best part. Thank you

[@Aimix]

Awesome Channel!

[@adamclancy694]

I agree with an Ali video!! My 2nd request would be a detailed breakdown on Russell Brand and how he stands out among every single person in the room.

[@danag5610]

"You need to figure out whose acceptance you want." that's quite the golden nugget🙌

[@Domdrok]

Jim Carrey and Robin Williams were instrumental on my childhood and lifelong sense sense of humor. Great, funny people who can be serious and deep when needed.

[@FacingKC]

yesss

[@libertybiberty8182]

My problem is that I’m good at first impressions, but once I know someone I seem to lose my uniqueness. I’m just not quite as funny later on.

[@sayno2lolzisback]

How can I brighten someone's day... What an eye opener

[@xkap9]

I was watching for the golden nugget, and as I was watching I was like "nope that's not it... that's not it... that's not it," but then it came. We've all heard things like this before, thousands of times, but we always need reminders. Thanks mate!

[@CaspianCEO]

If he kissed that woman in 2019.... 👀👀

[@dfsakmojndsfakoj]

Fuckin love this channel

[@MisterSatisfied]

I liked that part about 'conviction' (around 5 mins.). Made me reflect on recent mistakes i may have made. Reminds me of the same epiphany i had after reading a quote in one of Robert Greene's books, which stuck forever; "Going Half way with Half a Heart, digs the Deeper Grave." Thanx for sharing your valuable content! :D

[@gnitejim7400]

I like these and have been trying them out as I moved to a different country and without great language skills I´ve found that your tips are just as useful, thanks-

[@qtip3998]

Can you do a video on the secret to happiness and fulfillment?

[@Floral_Green]

Heroin

[@sugarmagnolia7647]

Jay Mazella lol

[@doudeau1988]

*How to be the life of the party... "Be Jim Carey."

[@allisonmartin3982]

Step one cut of his face and wear it as a hat.

[@emanekaf8653]

Just this video alone contains far more useful information than any book I've read on Charisma. (maybe you distill it down very well and don't pad anything with fluff) Thank you for making these videos!

[@itsuno2969]

This channel is so awesome! Due to you, I'm improving myself and also English (not native-speaker), thanks a lot and wish you luck and growing

[@nithinthomas5295]

No one but Jim can play Jim Carey! Darn, he's legendary for being the "life of the party".

[@Gloriankithsanus]

I'm sure they're gonna release a sonic game sometimes in the future in which you are going to be able to play Jim Carrey

[@ronaldson57]

Love Jim Carey very very very very very funny guy

[@bornjusticerule5764]

love these videos, some of the best on youtube. hands down.

[@MazzEffect7]

As a HUGE fan of both Jim Carrey and Bill Burr, I couldn't be happier to see this pop up on your channel!