How To Be Nice Without Being A Pushover

James Corden - How To Be Nice Without Being A Pushover
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James Corden has the fastest growing Late Night channel on KZbin thanks mostly to the massive success he has had with Carpool Karaoke on the Late Late Show.
And while it is certainly fun to watch your favorite singers rock out to their most popular songs, a big contributor to the success of those videos is the dynamic James is able to create in such a short time. He’s able to get people to open up and really enjoy themselves. And if you watch closely, there is a moment where these stars who were previously bored or skeptical, seem to really begin to like James Corden. James Corden’s magnetism comes from the fact that he is able to make people feel good, without losing their respect. That is what we are going to learn how to do in this video.
01:44 Make your compliments more specific and direct
02:06 Push-pull compliment to avoid the vibe of butt-kissing
02:54 If tension arises when complimenting, follow up with a joke
06:01 For certain groups, don't get walked over by dishing it back out
07:55 Set boundaries at times too like what James Corden did here
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[@christinew1644]

Make your compliments really specific? Okay. "Your left eyelid is looking great today!"

[@akileaf4029]

Christine S On that point you might have to add that compliments about a hair style, outfit, occupation, archievements etc are really good compliments that usually work out in your favour. But compliments about things that people are born with and can’t change about themselves, like eyelids or generally a body type or something, can come across really creepy or annoying. So, it’s safer to stick to compliment topics that people choose to represent themselves with.

[@sourpuss5951]

😂😂 Honestly, since my eyes are slightly irregular and I hate how droopy my left eyelid is, I'd probably feel truly complimented.

[@sourpuss5951]

@@akileaf4029 damn that joke flew over your head like a jet aircraft

[@CocoaBeans101]

"Finally someone noticed!"

[@masterchief5437]

Thank you sincerely, you have chosen wisely! - Tony Stark & Cpt America

[@katie98711]

Man interacting with people is hard

[@heyitzme3936]

Zuzanna Kwolek Said everyone on Tumblr 😂😂

[@samdhom898]

yeah

[@ricky93100]

Zuzanna Kwolek not that hard, it's more about doing more things right than wrong.

[@clariecec9101]

Yeah, imagine being born male.

[@fightmeonclubpenguin7748]

Marchie Monroe I made such a bad mistakes talking to a girl that I used to know like 6 years ago. I'm watching a lot of these vids now because I really need to improve myself :(

[@sophiem7791]

These videos make me feel not-human and like everything is scientific and everyone does a mathematical equation before they say a joke when the reality is that some people just have charisma and smart people like this guy know the science-y stuff behind it.

[@evanforst7272]

The more you practice the sciency stuff the more natural it becomes and soon its just a part of your charisma

[@SongofaBeach2012]

I think charisma is something some people are just inherently born with. That's why they call charisma the IT factor. Some people have "It", and those of us who don't watch videos like this to learn something we'll never be good at 😭😭😭

[@putikeswarasudarsono]

@@SongofaBeach2012 you only need to practice one at once and you'll be used to it. Even Hitler practiced to deliver speech that was full of nonsense to be convincing enough.

[@StephJ0seph]

It's more analytical than mathematical, but yeah I can relate to what you're saying :T

[@marumariww]

Well it's true. But i think this is more like breakdown on person character and their specific traits that we can apply on daily lives.

[@ElodiesLife]

I feel like psychopaths by out here watching these videos, taking notes 🙄😂

[@chrisyoung109]

Well I wouldn't call myself a psychopath 😂. We don't take notes 📝 we replay the video▶️😅

[@MMmm-bg9li]

Christopher Young you literary just called yourself a psychopath by saying “we”

[@SabrinaJohns]

Elodie Dinkelberg lol right 😂

[@TheStarBlack]

Nah psychopaths are some of the most capable people when it comes to being charming and charismatic. That's how they operate- by manipulating everyone around them for their own benefit. You've got far less to fear from non-charismatic people tbh.

[@jamesmilner9093]

Elodie Dinkelberg I was watching this video to see how somebody can even think that James corden isn’t a pushover

[@benjaminpoli8425]

This is basically a walkthrough on how to talk to people.

[@shredgod6394]

Benjamin Poli A lot of us need that lol

[@salmaakhayadmourabit5958]

Still not working for me

[@arikakarin2323]

Which I can't

[@sophiebailey8558]

honestly i'm here for it, talking is hard tbh 😂

[@chacko]

Wtf this is so complicated pls just give me a charisma pill and I'm happy

[@MrJustyoutubing]

Chacko If only 😂😂

[@otakuMistake]

valium helps

[@TehCheeezyPoofz]

6 shots of vodka and ur golden

[@wikwayer]

WRONG YOU NEED LSD

[@chacko]

Seventh Swell will try thank you

[@amyduong9423]

his chubby-ness makes him more friendly looking (like a teddy bear lol)

[@kevinconnor6035]

@@PanzerVII-df8hg I don't think it's just that he's overweight. I think the fact that he seems genuinely comfortable with who he is. Even good-looking people can come off needy and insecure, but James Corden does seem genuinely at ease with himself and enthusiastic about life, which people find very endearing. I do think the fact that he is overweight amplifies that because it is so rare to find big people who feel that way about themselves with the messages they're always getting from the rest of us. People who really like themselves and radiate joy are rare enough. Big people like that are even rarer.

[@Cocolicious1111]

Joke: But if he was bald-OH BOY. THAT WOULD BE A WHOLE NEW CATEGORY .>

[@linnetteresendiz]

Kevin Connor Yes!!! He’s so nice to everyone on his show ☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️

[@barbarastroud4102]

Just saying noone knows jock faces name. But everyone knows James Corden. Also explains why douch went from Shazam to JC Penny commercials.

[@jennaalhadi4041]

Bruh i think you might be right

[@kristinallysonlim]

I really liked how James took control of the conversation and set boundaries in that last clip. I wish I had that kind of quick thinking and wit

[@udunknow2172]

9:00 I like how Matt Damon stays silent here. He doesn't agree with the mean comments, but he gives James the chance to defend himself. Says a lot about Matt's character

[@A-small-amount-of-peas]

Try saying that to the #metoo movement. Poor Matt got raked over the coals for being reasonable

[@A-small-amount-of-peas]

@@valhar2000 it's the only thing he could do at that point

[@fenecofeneco19]

that he's fake and knows how to play humble confident.

[@A-small-amount-of-peas]

@@fenecofeneco19 and how well do you know Matt Damon?

[@existinguser7788]

Pat Tanackered how well do YOU know Matt Damon?

[@SuperAvocadoo]

Only compliment a person when it`s a GENUINE compliment. Some people can see right through you if you`re faking a compliment or not. And while not everyone can do that, everyone can subconsciously feel when a compliment is genuine or fake.

[@no_peace]

I think it's more important to give compliments because you like people and want to bond with them

[@godswatching2863]

I don't think being genuine is all that important. If you're talking to a stranger or anyone for that matter and you compliment them it immediately makes the person realize you have respect for them and they will put their guard down. A person with their guard down that has respect for you is 10 times easier to speak to than a person that is trying to figure you out. Compliment somebody on anyting and you will be better off. Try it

[@Ludifant]

I just love how genuine your compliments feel.. would be a great compliment, then.

[@Ludifant]

@@godswatching2863 I like your username..

[@AristonSparta]

Be genuine in everything you do.

[@daiseymova2337]

That fact that he looks like a huggable marshmallow has a lot to do with it

[@ojaspathare7163]

so true lol

[@ilovenycsomuch]

“If self-deprecating humor is used by someone who’s already on the outskirts or seems to have low self esteem, that can rouse feelings of pity rather than laughter” Ok so that’s why things turned really awkward & uncomfortable when I’ve tried to make the same kind of jokes everyone else makes all the time... ☹️

[@ItsMe-mw1ds]

I said “ugh I wanna die” as a joke and my friends were heavily concerned

[@mutawi]

@@hammaslanka69 No, it's more likely that they think YOU actually think of yourself that way.

[@mhuntprofessional]

Delivery matters in those cases too. If you're self depricating and its a subject that could be concerning for those around you if context is unclear, make sure to sell it with a smile or exaggerated gesturing so those around you know that its a joke and that you don't actually FEEL bad about it. If that part is unclear, it may seem like you're crying for help or airing some personal problems, which for sure is important when the setting is right, but not when a group is trying to have fun.

[@Cookivirus]

@@ItsMe-mw1ds i wish that was me Being able to say that as a joke And having friends that cared But that's life

[@ItsMe-mw1ds]

@@Cookivirus i hope you're doing okay love , i know how it is to feel helpless and scared, u aren't alone in that. if you're feeling depressed and need someone to talk to im here .🤞🏾

[@sharkmagnets2742]

Being genuinely "nice" without being a pushover/manipulative is called "kindness".

[@PokerFaceZero]

not really

[@mechelle9851]

G-Aaron I'm quite offended by your sentiment about the subject. I'm guilty of being too nice, people take advantage of me because I couldn't say no. I hate myself for fearing conflict and for taking the effort of pleasing everyone. I can't help being nice,it's natural for me to do so. Until one of my friends pointed out that I'm being fake. It hurt because I just want to live my life, happy and spreading kindness. I hate it when people call us "buttkisser" or "weakass" you don't know how much of an emotional torment it is to challenge what is natural.

[@PokerFaceZero]

Pissing us off is a big mistake too because since we are so kind we know what people want and then we can flip it on its head.

[@MysticMadelaine05]

Mechelle Huna It's called The nice girl/guy syndrome. Or sometimes called being a people pleaser. Help yourself bc none will.

[@MysticMadelaine05]

PokerFaceZero being kind means one (you) has to have no agenda behind. So you're just bieng nice because you want something back. Really fake.

[@SaltiBebe]

So....the key is... - Be respectful - Be nice - Be caring (observe people and be genuine) - Have some self-respect, and able to take jokes - Don't attack personally - Express your bubbly self ? If these are right then, noted

[@lilyy.503]

Thx ☺️

[@robinsarchiz]

Meanwhile, my compliments sound like -You consistently fail to disappoint me.

[@thewizard-edits]

I’m gonna use that as a joke compliment. Thanks!

[@Kaori57]

"You're always in such a great mood!" - Honestly that puts too much pressure because now I HAVE to be in a great mood or people like that immediately point out when I'm upset and don't stop pestering me. At least that's how it's often happened in my experiences. Just hearing that makes me stressed, hahaha.

[@Esabelle]

I have the same stress. I kinda prefer compliments about things that are more constant, like a past accomplishment or a deeper quality I value in myself- mood is too variable and I don't want to feel obligated to always feel a certain way or be in a specific mood.

[@NotesfromaFailedComedian]

Could you do a video on apologies? Like... when apologies are helpful, and when apologies make one look bad? Love your videos; thanks!

[@acharich]

💥💣

[@matemoonka]

And talk about what is a proper apologies ? When you : -Mention where you are wrong ? -Acknoledge your fault ? -Promise to not start again ? -Announce your need to repent ? When you need to deal with only one of these four ? The first three of these four ? And all the four ? (my english is approximative)

[@maxkho00]

@@matemoonka Most of the time you just need to understand the other person's point of view and talk a little bit from that point of view, especially commenting on your own actions and, given the other person's pov, how these actions make you feel, perhaps exaggerating a little. A useful template is "If I were you and someone did that to me, I would've [describe how you would react and how that reaction is similar or worse than the reaction of the person you are apologising to]" Adding details specific to - especially thought processes emerging from - that pov is very convincing, as it proves that you genuinely understand it. Distancing your current self from your former self which did the thing that you are apologising for - especially using hyperbolic vocabulary - is also effective. Once you've convinced them that you have taken and understood their pov, all you need to do is simply say that you won't do that again since the you now understand their pov, while you didn't before. Lastly, never excuse yourself and brush away any hint of a potential excuse by further admitting that you were by all means in the wrong or by insulting your former self. The key component is, of course, being genuine - or, if not that, find as many things that you are genuine about and concentrate on them - the rest should flow naturally. Here is an example: say, I played a prank on someone and it turned out to be unnecessarily mean. Here is what I would say to them: "Look, I have NO IDEA (hyperbolic vocabulary) what THE HELL (hyperbolic vocabulary) I was thinking when I played that prank (distancing from former self), but, if someone did that to me, I'd punch that guy to DEATH (hyperbolic vocabulary) without hesitation (assuming the person's pov). I literally went ahead and ruined your day for no reason (thought emerging from pov). Imagine thinking taking someone's phone and running away is funny, wow, what a douche I was (thought emerging from pov + distancing yourself from firmer self). Look, I know that you probably don't want to talk to me right now (thought emerging from pov), and you HELLA (hyperbolic vocabulary) shouldn't after what I did to you (embracing the pov) - hell, I don't even know how you resist from punching me atm (embracing + exaggerating pov) - but, for what it's worth, just know that I won't THINK to do this EVER again and still can't believe I EVER did that (explain that you won't do this again). I didn't think about how my actions would affect you - because I was a douche, of course (brushing away hint of excuse) - but now that I know (explaining how you are different from before) - and should've known - I won't even think about doing something like this ever again (always useful to reiterate that you won't do this again). Once again, I'm sorry (don't forget to say sorry!). Have a good day."

[@oregonangel1962]

@@maxkho00 wat z pov mean please??? ❤😇

[@nic-fz1dg]

Angel Dana Forster point of view :)

[@qabandiman]

his chubbiness has a lot to do with it

[@duncansiror5033]

I believe it is a factor.

[@InfectedoOG]

I believe James Corden would be considered handsome if he lost weight, but yeah since he's fat and all he's cute. #nohomo

[@simplenough]

You don't have to believe; if he worked out like Chris Pratt did for Guardians, he'd look like a soldier on Game of Thrones

[@stanen]

qabandiman if he loses the weight he'll lose half of his charisma

[@shawnartero]

this had me laughing for too long

[@cecilialeotta8661]

I feel like a robot trying to understand how people work

[@natelolz11]

Same af

[@Raccon_Detective.]

Shy people, social anxiety people, autistic people, ADHD people exist and not everyone was born with social graces.

[@user-gd7mr5bx1l]

His personality works for him even more because it fits the sterotype of the jolly ol overweight guy.

[@DuffPaddy1]

YourReputationIsOutThere.com who doesn't know that overweight guy who overcompensates by talking a lot loudly without saying anything?

[@headcold7250]

🐺 let’s hope he doesn’t fit it THAT well...the stereotype often includes substance use addiction and an early death

[@justynamaria0333]

It honestly just works because he's human

[@Kiwinnit]

I've realised that watching all these videos means nothing if you don't write a list of how you need to start working it into your life! Take one video at a time and work on it to become a habit, in my opinion

[@noche6758]

I'm trying to do that. taking notes is very important

[@trinitylawrence5099]

so true.

[@daniyalk713]

thank you for the imp tip

[@akileaf4029]

That’s actually a really good method!

[@tffpcw9998]

true

[@mrsmufflez]

I find this guy's videos quite interesting. It gets me curious about the guy himself like his deep personal goals, dreams, thought process and personality. Also, how his analytical thinking would be like for negative thoughts and/or getting back at someone. Just curious is all, to see the positivity coin flipped with those same analytical skills.

[@chuckray5543]

I don't. I have just watched a few and I have seen more informational dense PowerPoints. As market for his paid courses, these teases are completely inconsistent and simplistic. I Don't see how anyone would want to pay for more of that.

[@ZephyrusBlue]

C. F. Yeah but we’re not here for PowerPoints; I’m pretty sure some of the older videos that were exclusive to their course have been slowly added to the KZbin library. There is a well of information here to be had, there’s most likely more in depth stuff behind the scenes with their program but these videos here are a great help regardless.

[@foodank_atr817]

Mr Smufflez what you ask at the end of your comment is how sociopaths operate. Either consciously or unconsciously.

[@shredgod6394]

foodank_atr That’s so surface level. Everyone struggles with how to think and act. For example, I have no charisma because I have severe depression and I have severe depression because all of my thoughts are negative. For some of the people who think differently it’d be nice to get a look inside their head to try to be more like them.

[@mrsmufflez]

@@ZephyrusBlue I agree, I think it would not be as watchable to the broad audience if these were complicated and packed with information. Some of these are basic, but it's still quite effective, and helpful.

[@caomhan84]

Ouch, Zach Levi being "that guy" in the video as an example of mean-spirited jokes.

[@JavierPerez-cx4jw]

caomhan84 IKR! I love Zachary Levi, and I didn't think he was being that mean. James makes fat jokes all the time about himself, so it seemed fine.

[@VanielDeeform]

Javier Perez Yeah I think it's the difference of the way JC make jokes out of yourself as opposed to the way that guy did it it. It does come off wrong in that situation. MD feels it too.

[@VanielDeeform]

caomhan84 Thanks was wondering who this guy was!

[@pureocd7227]

That guy?? =)

[@___Mal]

@@VanielDeeform Completely disagree, as a nice person myself who jokes about my bad sense of style often and my ripped shoes, I find absolutely nothing wrong with people roasting me on it, even if they're grilling it, it would just be hypocritical.

[@Cocolicious1111]

Specific compliments eh? Nobody: Not a single soul: Me: "I love the way your left pinky toe bends ever so slightly under the moonlight when you wiggle your toes in the grass. That nail makes it simply shimmer while amplifying the glory of the movement."

[@chihayafuru1929]

LmFao

[@sahithyavika9686]

Omg u deserve more likes😂

[@merlokiii]

What if you're introverted and sometimes it seems like you don't like people (or be around people)? I'm usually kind and nice, but I'm not able to make people comfortable in a brief time... I guess it's because I'm not easy and, if I don't really like the person, I usually think (in my mind, obviously 😂) "shut up and go away".

[@dondemitri3760]

a bit of a necropost but that's where you gotta change your attitude, really.

[@TheStarBlack]

@@goldenyuri3556 just "start becoming sociable", it really is as easy as that! You think if we could just turn that on and off, we'd be asking for advice on the internet?!

[@wuestion9473]

Don Demitri I’m not sure how being introverted is an attitude problem.

[@ekd4594]

There's a video about charming where he talks about how to smile genuinely. A smile that comes across as genuine goes a long way.

[@madelinecarper1485]

Same but the thing is I want to make friends and be nice but it seems like everyone thinks I’m fake but I’m really just being respectful and no one want to be my friend. I feel like I am unattractive in my personality. My friend finds it so easy to make friends on the contrary! She just knows what to do and say to put a smile on someone’s face. That’s something I envy. But I’m glad I have her because she’s a very good friend either way.

[@dontask3497]

Haven't watched the video yet so I don't know if you go over this but I need to vent because I've been thinking and that's never good. No one has to read this. I've gotten a reputation as a 'good girl' a 'nice girl' and this has led to me being a pushover. I can't stand up for myself. And when I finally get the courage to say what's actually on my mind, people attack me. I have friends who can be as rude as they want and they still have tons of people who want to be around them. They're never positive, they're super judgmental, they refuse to help with anything and just don't care. Yet, people want to be around them. I try to be nice. I try to stay positive. I help whenever I can. And if I see someone in need of help I try to help. So why am I the one who gets used? Why I am the one who is the butt of everyone's joke? I don't want to stand up for myself because that's never ended well. I know I should. I know. But I just can't. I don't want to be alone. I don't want to lose my friends. It's already happened the last time I tried to stand up and called confront the people who hurt me. I don't want it to happen again.

[@imadinowithoutaname]

Don't Ask I say drop your friend group( if you don't feel good about them change who you hang out with. Perhaps people who you won't even need to stand up to.), and start saying hello to other people in school see if you have anything in common then become friends with them.

[@MissSushi123]

they're just doing it wrong. they don't have 'good CLOSE friends', but more like 'people that they can use to make themselves feel better and move up socially'.

[@hush64]

Try to hang out with a different group of people who are nice and real and care about you

[@ViolettaVie]

Don't take this the wrong way but, you may be nice but you are spineless. You have every reason to treat yourself well and expect others to do so if they are counted as your friends. My advice: Drop them. You do not need people in your life who are mean and rude. Make friends with people who appreciate that you dislike conflict and know how to be civil. If you care more about not being alone, you will always be this way and never change. You need to surround yourself with people who can help you boost your self-esteem by treating you well at the very least. Don't be a victim. You do not need to live like this. Because before you know it, this will be your life when you are in your 40s and you will be miserable.

[@luccagiovani]

How old are you? These kinds of things change a little depending on your age. The advise I am going to give you is the following: Standing up for yourself is a NEED in your life, this way you draw lines with people and they learn when something is too much. Even more important is that you understand that you are special and you have worth, that you are loved. By defending yourself you are not only protecting you, but also your worth and the love other people have for you I can tell you are a great person, and find many things in common between you and me, and let me tell you: you are halfway into becoming an even more amazing person, someone who loves, is loved and genuinely cares for other people, someone who is also strong willed and has big ideals she thinks are worth protecting. Because you ARE these things. Or at least thats the feeling I get. If you want to talk, vent up and maybe recieve some specific advice, send me an inbox and we can talk, i will listen.

[@sif_2799]

I wish I was socially blessed. Be it abt kindness, joking, conversing, meeting new ppl. Im bad at everything 😐

[@laurikotila5813]

can you non-chalantly go to a restaurant and order something or listen closely to people while they talk? if you can do these things, you do have social skills! these interactions are like building blocks that you can use to develop your social skills further. as with most things in life, success doesn't come easily so you need to get yourself out of your comfort zone and keep trying what works for you. take it as a form of experimentation that can have lots of outcomes. don't worry if you make mistakes; that's part of the learning process after all!

[@alan5496]

I've done most of the things you've talked about in your videos before I ever seen them. I'm introverted and never really liked being around people all the time and I never understood why people liked me everywhere i go until i watched your vids.

[@cosmodious1755]

Oh Zachary Levi, why?

[@AwesomeCandy244]

Matt Damon and Fat Damon was pretty fuckin funny tho

[@annipsy2185]

Basic Bird yeah as he said funny on someones expanse. its like making fun of someone in a bad way, might be funny for many.not funny for the guy who gets disrespected for his weight.

[@HxH2011DRA]

Basic Bird Rhyming is magic

[@ekcsl]

Basic Bird who was the guy who said that tho

[@johnarends6693]

Anni Psy and honestly a form of bullying

[@360.Tapestry]

most people tend to think of themselves as good people. they might laugh, but they probably feel like assholes afterwards for laughing. they generally don't enjoy that feeling, so they'll start to develop a negative association with people who make jokes that are purely mean spirited.

[@kt7629]

1. compliment on specific/genuine things 2. if the compliment is too much, make a joke at it afterwards to ease the tension 3. don't joke on sensitive subjects ; joke on strong subjects instead (could be absurd) 4. don't be a jerk

[@toby5596]

Your voice in this video is very clear and sounds concise, with some good annunciation skills. Kind of like someone who narrates fast food commercials. How was that!? Now I just need to try on someone live.

[@n00dl3]

Great analysis. James is a guy that us normal folk can identify with much easier than the typical hyper-masculine, super charismatic A-list celebrity like The Rock or Robert Downey Jr.

[@tlstgrlnthwrld]

the zoom-ins on the faces made me laugh because it felt like chris ray gun :')

[@cheesesteakjimmys7374]

yeeeeeessssss!!!!!!! Chrisraygun is the best

[@TheOutsider69]

Crispy Baldy

[@chocolatepudding6146]

Love chris ray gun

[@acharich]

😂 or an episode of Dragon's Den..

[@kasey_068]

1:40

[@xXJAng3lXxx]

This video reminds me of the live stream where BTS said that being on James's show was the most comfortable they've felt in an interview in a long time

[@amnesia8228]

Golden rule: if you are trying to be nice just to impress people or make them like you, then you already failed. try again

[@OpenMind3000]

Great video. James Corden really seems like a very nice person. I for one am not a very big fan of those carpool videos, because I don´t like most of the songs. I would prefer if it if they just talked in the car :D

[@ichbindoofhihi1]

OPEN MIND du hier? 😳😂

[@OpenMind3000]

Fabian Mango Na, klar :) Hier kommen richtig nice Videos (Y)

[@ichbindoofhihi1]

OPEN MIND dem kann ich nur zustimmen 😊🙌🏼

[@luc2660]

Fabian Mango ich auch

[@philzeo]

Deadmau5 does videos where they just talk in the car. They're actually amazing, and I've learned a lot from them haha

[@UzairMuhammad786]

Rumor has it if you're early enough, Charlie responds ;)

[@bltotrs92]

or say smart things or give him love for his effort with his videos

[@merlokiii]

Uzair Muhammad too late man

[@dvl973]

is that a rumor you picked up in skyrim?

[@UzairMuhammad786]

Violet Anyone there?

[@Charismaoncommand]

Uzair Muhammad haha it has some truth to it 😉

[@abigailbreden3152]

Video Topic: How to Recover from a Bad First Impression

[@rociogallegossanchez3147]

I like how people feel when I compliment them. It makes me happy

[@aidanokeeffe6221]

Matt Damon's face in the frozen picture is so awkward and funny lmao

[@LeviSlaton]

Great examples, buddy. Your teaching is easy to follow along to.

[@Dianimations_]

James is amazing, i think he's special as a host, he certainly stands out! idc if he's faking these compliments, he makes them sounds genuin and that's something a lot of other hosts have failed to do !

[@embodiedauthenticity]

I love the tips. Especially the more specific the (direct) compliment, the better it is received. I feel it is because people can feel that it is genuine and not just some polite phrase. Thanks for the great video :)

[@SpeakLifeNotDeath]

Great video and great channel. I just finished watching a 2pac interview... he had a lot of Charisma, can you do a video on him?

[@SkinnyGirl125]

Yeah do tupac

[@mobieeelliot4945]

Thank you Charlie for another fun, insightful video. A topic I'm keen to know more about is the definition of "dry humor" and the appropriate time to use it.

[@razakhan23465]

This one is the one I've been struggling with my whole life. I'm glad I found this channel. I'll work hard on this.

8:23 Matt Damon was sooo awkward. He picked up the mood righttt awayyy :

[@goodday4221]

You: Be specific in your compliment. Me: Wow, the 7 hairs on the exterior sides of your bottom eyelashes are beautiful!

[@SM-kk1xs]

Charlie what's your secret ? how do you analyse everything so well ? deconstruct everyone's personality?? another great video !!!

[@chandler5135]

I very much appreciate all of the videos you make

[@abramhagstrom]

Charlie, thanks so much for putting these videos together. I'm sure each one takes quite a bit of time and effort, and we all benefit from your insights with no money down. I hope your time in Brazil is turning out to be even more enriching than you hoped, even if that sometimes entails unexpected challenges.

[@misslyntheena]

James is such an idol for me, you don’t even know.👏🏼

[@KagXm1]

Thank you for this! I love James Corden! He looks like such a fun person to be around. Not a big fan of carpool karaoke but I think it's awesome when animals go on his show. He seems genuinely interested in them and excited that they are there, unlike many hosts who are / pretend to be scared. Can you please do a video on Conan too?

[@hdihiiehei]

this is great ,youre really insightful and helps alot of people like me.tnx

[@anewloveofficial9137]

It's really nice to master the art of communication because it gives you the tool to attract the people you liked. I know it's hard to catch the heart of the people you just met but putting humor in the conversation will make you look more interesting. You just have to practice and be prepared because you'll only given one chance to make a first impression.

[@birgerkiller]

Great vid as always! I suggest you to watch the series Vikings if you haven't already. Please do a video about the main character, Ragnar Lothbrok. It would be very interesting to hear your perspective on it. Keep killing it!

[@Max-bo3di]

And the moral of the story is, Its Nice to be Nice, Bitches.

[@Ladyrosieparks]

Great advice...love the analysis! James Cordes is adorable. ..thanks for explaining why!

[@Sudstah]

I love these videos it just shows the true talent a lot of celebrities people overlook have, their talents are really complicated and difficult to see but you shine the light on these type of people!

[@enthusiasticagnostic7318]

Charlie's videos have helped me with my own videos while I'm just starting my channel! Thanks Charlie!

[@ourochroma]

This was in m recommended *KZbin, are you trying to tell me something?*

[@shorfan]

Thank you, really needed this video

[@Smileyyy21]

I have a friend who is like this and i'm always trying to figure out what does he do that attracts everyone to him.Even I can't help but want to be around. He reminds me of James Corden. What I have learned is he's very detailed when he talks. He describes everything like a picture.

[@Primedlifestyle]

You're a true inspiration. Thank you for helping me reach 3 subs!

[@creemyice]

Primed 3?

[@MysticTurtle]

Huh

[@pixie9255]

Wow your verified now

[@saraline9]

hey, i really like your charisma breakdown videos. maybe liza koshy would be worth a video, in my opinion she has a very unique charisma :)

[@bethanysmith8409]

I recently started watching your channel. I've really enjoyed what I've seen, but this video is by far my favorite! I love the specifics and how you broke down each technique.

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Glad you enjoyed the breakdown!

[@roberthenryscott8176]

James has that humble spirit which makes him likable and comfortable to be around them

[@coolvania]

It's also good to remind yourself that it's perfectly okay to say NO!

[@AliceQuinnRose]

Can you do a video on richard ayoade

[@TheCameraLuvsMe]

Im gonna take notes on this video haha. One of my major struggles. I'm glad you covered how to respond when someone teases you. Sometimes I have a quick retort (usually leans towards the mean side. I don't realise how mean it sounds til others comment on it, because me and my friends usually tease each other more strongly than other people would). Other times I fumble. Sometimes depending on the person I go into my fake crybaby kid mode "You're not my friend anymore!/I don't wanna play with you again!" just to brush it off in a cutesy way (which works cause I have a great baby face/voice lol). Then we'll just laugh it off. I find this one girl at work who's always able to spin any joke at her expense into an even funnier joke and I just respect her so much for it. I really want to learn how to make fun of myself but as you pointed out it's hard to make self-depreciating jokes when you're already insecure. I think it's also harder to practice this the larger the group gets. But thank you so much for the tips and your great analysis!

[@davidw5388]

Great topic for people who have a hard time giving compliments to people which could be arguably be one of the most important things we can do especially if you’re of working age. This has been highly practical for me in my workplace I’ve been getting better relationships thanks.

[@XPrincess30]

if someone compliments me and i dont know them i immediatey become suspicious and mistrustful

[@iexist1738]

I’m just socially awkward so someone’s like, I like your hair. And I’m like, you’re welcome.

[@goldenwolf7154]

Same here wow.

[@mysteryguy793]

you're right to be mistrustful. There are many psychopaths out there that may take advantage of you. And there first step usually is when they meet you they compliment you if they think you are important.

[@anhi5164]

I exist MEEEEEE 😂

[@Feer--bs4pp]

mysteryguy you’re cynical.

[@meiji4785]

I love James Corden!!! He seems like such a nice guy!

[@EAteearsehole]

Hes not, he is a double bag

[@alicemarion2127]

This is my new favourite video, you blew my mind !!!! thank you xxxx

[@dorigutman6217]

The genuine compliment is a BIG deal in this world. I always tell kids look for the true and unique compliment - don't dare fake it. Make it a practice to spot the good in people. Every person has unique talents. Not only does it make that person more confident but it also makes them see they are valued enough for you to actually pay attention. They are not invisible in this world. When they know and trust that you are being honest, then you can reach a whole new level of cooperation on a team... and in life. As a leader, you will be better able to find the right role for the right person. And people want to live up to your admiration as well as a matter of pride. This is true for all types of people - children and adults alike - even people that others may consider difficult to get along with. Added (tremendous) bonus? It actually gives YOU a better, more positive outlook on life because you are training yourself to see the beauty in people and in the world around you. That is infectious! The more you practice the more you are able to spot these things naturally. And it comes back to you as well: in loyalty, dedication, team spirit, reciprocation of appreciation. Win-win! Try it for a while and see. Again though - can't stress enough: it cannot be fake. Don't be lazy. That undoes all the good you are trying to achieve.

[@stillherebicth2734]

i think this was my problem i was way too nice and being a pushover with out knowing just too make people feel good and people took advantage of that Nd now im facing anxiety and fear due to traumatic experiences now idk how too deal with people the only place i feel sort of good is in my room with the door closed i guess heavily smoking weed didn't help either im a month sober now how do i overcome the anxiety and twitching?

[@Fly6lights]

SNOS Death riders try affirmations, it seems silly but it has a crazy impact on the way you view yourself and others, it rewires your brain to think positively.

[@stillherebicth2734]

Losal Chiodak im going to the doc tomorrow whats cbt? yeah man i appreciate that!

[@stillherebicth2734]

Fly Lights affirmations? what is that a program?

[@OMIMreacts]

Yeah I used to be at a similar point. Affirmations are basically just nice things you say to yourself on a repeated basis to interrupt negative thought loops. It's all about reframing your thoughts, as your thoughts shape your surroundings. Google it, they can be quite helpful! Plus, you made a great decision to come to this channel. I can only advise you to get heavily into self improvement, get books on it, podcasts, videos, visit websites etc. In the beginning, absorb as much as possible. Stop wasting time on whatever you're wasting it on (for me it was video games - several hours each day and unhelpful youtube videos - also several hours a day) and invest it all to absorb self improvement material. Just listening/reading/watching all this stuff will take you into a different state of mind. Then, when you feel ready, take action. You won't truly change without taking action. But first of all worry about ditching all your unhelpful habits and introducing new, helpful habits into your life. One at a time. Changing your life around takes a massive amount of time and you might feel bad because you feel like you don't change as much as you want to, but if you take small, TINY STEPS EVERY DAY, then you will be a completely different person in a year!

[@OMIMreacts]

SNOS Death riders Yeah just as Renton said in t2 trainspotting, to get off addiction you need to find another addiction. So try to add small things to your life. Maybe 5 pushups after getting up, maybe a short walk or one helpful youtube video after each game. www.menprovement.com/mpp035/ helped me a lot in building better habits. Listen to it! :)

[@madhumathimb4036]

How about Zendaya?

[@alaynal.4556]

I love these, it’s like you’re exposing people in the best way possible. 💕

[@mob5613]

More than anything I watched this video out of curiosity. This was very well done and clearly laid out, well-done.

[@IrishFriendsFan]

0:45 Ooooooh OK I'm gonna give it a go *clears throat* I REALLY LIKE YOUR CORNEAS!

[@cottoncandy113]

Someone: "You're always in such a great mood!" Me: "Ha!"

[@thegathering2049]

I feel it’s just a question of being genuinely kind as well as truthful about what you feel is wrong with whatever is going on with someone or in a situation

[@oppositeofbatman]

You never talk about yourself dude. You must either have great charisma or great understanding of other people. How are you feeling today and what’s been up with you lately.

[@bromatter5930]

7:54 what if a group of friends are making some jokes and it carry's on till the end of the conversation

[@AWSAM335]

I've heard stories of Corden saying "Do you know who I am?" and "I could buy you" to interns behind the scenes. So if you ask me he's only a nice guy for the cameras

[@TheStarBlack]

The those sound like things he would say as a joke. Who would ever seriously say "I could buy you" except maybe someone like Trump!

[@veronikapurplesfinx5348]

Your videos are so great,thank you💗

[@thebeebuzz]

Thank for the awesome video dude, much appreciated! Cheers! 😊

[@piyasukhani]

Love your videos! Pleaseeee make a video on Benedict Cumberbatch xx

[@larryl.ian.]

Charlie, didn't you mention last video that you would make a video on Conan O'Brien? Or did you mistake him with James Corden at that time? I want to know because Conan O'Brien is pretty much my idol and I was pretty stoked about you uploading a video on him :P

[@Charismaoncommand]

Larry I didn't finish my video on Conan so I switched it to James. I'll give Conan his due in time 😊

[@AGS363]

Do you know who needs a charisma analysis as well? Inspector Columbo (played by Peter Falk)! He is different then anyone else, almost crossing the border to the bizarre. Yet he still has something magnetic about his personality.

[@MichaelAres]

Charisma on Command love your channel. I just started a new job today, and I've implemented a lot of what you've said in previous videos. I made a lot of people laugh upon first meeting them and they really seem to enjoy my company. Thanks for your tips!

[@averageasian5462]

Hello fellow Conan Fan. Who's your favorite, Jordan Schlansky or Matthew Kramer ?

[@TheObserver37]

Captain Impotent Jordan is so funny I remember see the first segments he was in when Conan first moved to tbs. long live Getty lee!!!

[@Jazzitiswhatitis]

3rd video of yours that I've watched in a row, all of them were wonderful you've earned the subscription 3 times over. Keep 'em coming lol

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Welcome to the channel! Hopefully, we'll have more good stuff for you soon. :-)

[@Fatecreated]

You have a great smile. Thank you for the content. Much love.

[@tracesizemore6736]

I just started watching this video already know it didn't age well

[@amagicman]

can u make a video breakdown of harvey specter?

[@ALZlper]

I like you explaining a compliment and then chow the example.

[@jeffreyzie]

Would love to see a video by you on "How to be relaxed talking with anyone". Your videos are fire man. Thanks for the help

[@MistaSmith]

In my experience the conversation leader is actually the one who has to take the biggest jabs because unconciously others try to take that position from him. Maybe that's just local culture, though.

[@fluffysugakookies9580]

me: you're always in such a good mood when I see you friend: thanks me: I got that from a James cordon video, I'm tryna learn how to be charming friend: *laughs* (hopefully) me: but you are always in a good mood.

[@TheStarBlack]

Actually sounds good to me!

[@singinglawnchair]

If I was that friend I'd find that really charming :)

[@asstanley8438]

great clip! You have good ''how to'' information in here! helpful.

[@vxxiii4160]

I just discovered this channel, thank you for making these videos.