Charles Barkley Breaks Down Why Family Loss Doesn’t Shake Him

[@bobbullethalf]

Charles Barkley is a modern day stoic. His ascertain that good and bad things will happen throughout life is great.

[@evelyn7881]

There's alot of emotion underneath. Thats why he has to keep it under control.❤

[@bonnydaise8112]

I am not a very emotional person at the beginning, I will do what I have to do at that time but I will get a little emotional after everything is over. It could be the sign and environment we were born. I am a Pisces too born February 20th too.

[@harrissr.615]

@@bonnydaise8112your zodiac sign had NOTHING to do with that lmfao

[@bonnydaise8112]

@@harrissr.615 Thanks for telling me.

[@MeMyself-p5z]

​@@evelyn7881Absolutely.

[@SayBroTogether]

BRO, Charles Barkley really be dropping wisdom, and it’s so true. Life throws curveballs, and learning to stay composed helps you navigate through them.

[@groovelife415]

I get accused of the same thing. My mom and dad abandoned me when I was 6. I had to grow up fast. I learned quickly to look out for myself, because the system wasn't going to. I don't get emotional when bad things happen because as Chuck said, nothing good comes from it. If I am emotional, I cannot think clearly and make rational decisions. As a kid/teen, it was critical that I had my wits about me. I get exactly what Chuck is saying here.

[@Triggercut92]

You should have your emotions, but never let your emotions have you. That side of you helped you when you were young, but it might not be needed now. Some parts of yourself need to die too for you to be who you truly are

[@dxtremecaliber]

@@Triggercut92yep its okay to have emotions but do not emotions eat you go rise and learn from it

[@SuperRobertoClemente]

What I hear is, he knew he was responsible for others and didn't want to burden them when they needed his help. I have mixed emotions about this. "Stiff upper lip" can get you through some harsh times, but it's going to catch up to you one way or another. In his youth Chuck was one of the most openly angry dudes in sports-- he got in fights with fans, on the court, in bars, all kinds of situations. You can't just make pain like that disappear. Today, however, I find Chuck to be one of the most genuinely empathetic people on television. Yeah, he doesn't panic, but he CLEARLY feels for others-- and if reports are true, he helped protect the TNT crew and staff from "Inside the NBA" getting canceled.

[@jakemccoy]

I’ll be your dad.

[@mikewhitman578]

That's a real man

[@chadkiddck]

Not being emotional is different than not feeling emotions. He's not saying you should stop feeling things, but it's just about how you handle it and express it. Emotional intelligence is key.

[@bundown5463]

I was the leader of my family at age 14 when my mother died. I skipped my teenage years and went straight into adulthood. I have never cried and have been accused of being emotionless: had to find the right woman to appreciate who I am. Our children are now grown and I thank God that they never went thru what I went thru.

[@JustAWriter12]

God bless you man

[@jakemccoy]

I’ll be your dad.

[@raymondqiu8202]

Where was your dad? You didnt have any siblings?

[@bundown5463]

@raymondqiu8202 I was the eldest of 4. My dad didn't do housework: I did; wash (by hand, I'm Jamaican 🇯🇲), cook, clean, food shopping, I did all of that.

[@MeMyself-p5z]

I commend you for your valor. May TMH and Yahawashi bless you abundantly.

[@factmeee]

its somewhere deep in his heart he just keeping it there

[@1984gcode]

I feel the same way. I lost my mom, dad, 2 brothers and sister. Life doesn't stop for no one. Gotta keep going

[@dannyhernandez265]

I’m sorry man for what has happened to you man. I think if I had no one else in this life, what would be the point of continuing? Call me weak, but I’d just give up.

[@1984gcode]

@dannyhernandez265 thank you. I believe my son and wife gives me the strength to keep going and keep a smile on my face

[@MeMyself-p5z]

​@@dannyhernandez265You're not weak in my opinion. I utterly understand your perspective.

[@tigrengbisakol8280]

Thank you Chuck. That was inspirational 🫰

[@CinHalCedHerChance]

Nothing shakes him because he's made bank, he's living the life. He's far from "unemotional". Don't feel bad for this guy at all. There are kids suffering all over the world with no hope of a future at all, he's one of the luckiest guys to make it to where he has.

[@walkdeep]

Stoicism is amazing tool for anyone. I still grieved though and cried. But once I couldn't cry no more I reminded myself there's nothing I can do to change what happened. To accept that it is what it is. What can I do that'll be productive rather than wallow in my grief.

[@Steve-mp7by]

Great advice. When my mother passed a sibling had a total emotional collapse and is now on disability for mental illness

[@PennyWhysTV1]

damn

[@Steve-mp7by]

@@PennyWhysTV1 It's really sad. I had to go to therapy for a month and talk it out I never had a family member with a mental illness. Thank God he's getting medications and smokes weed

[@esils]

But i bet the sibling wasn’t mentally strong to begin with……you don’t see this happening to president, CEOs, or leaders. Some people are just built different

[@Steve-mp7by]

@@esils umm I already know that Einstein

[@IramCoercere]

@@esilsmental ILNESS has nothing to do how strong somebody is like the word ilness already says its an ilness. Are cancer patients less strong because they have cancer?

[@SonicBoomC98]

When you've experienced enough loss and setbacks, you no longer get emotional and out of sorts over everything

[@Drogas3653]

Yea i stopped caring long ago. People pass, it is what it is. No sense in trippin about it

[@MeMyself-p5z]

That's not true at all. The Most High is the King of terrors. He can get you to be emotional if he desires so.

[@SonicBoomC98]

@MeMyself-p5z He can be, but a lot of people come to understand that death is part of life, and they don't act like their whole world is falling apart every time

[@202One]

Everybody will past, most will never reach 100+.. 🌱

[@themohas3243]

Agreed but at the same time, if you dont let it out grief and trauma will corrode you (e.g. anger, self harm, addiction etc)

[@johndavila5096]

As a man, it's your responsibility to be the pillar of your family in situations. I couldn't cry when my old man passed away , I needed to make sure my mom held it together. I had to be what I know my old man would want me to be. Stay strong, boys .

[@justgamingbro1305]

😂😂 you could've still cried

[@johndavila5096]

@justgamingbro1305 YOU coulda still cried. Some people can handle tragedy better than others.

[@justgamingbro1305]

@@johndavila5096 if a mf wanna cry they can cry🤣 look at you stone cold killa tf outta here

[@esils]

Age and maturity matters are factors too. There are levels to crying…..

[@justgamingbro1305]

@@johndavila5096 can still cry dumb dumb but your made of steel apparently 🤣🤣🤣

[@icetray2727]

That’s how my father is. Never in my life have I seen him cry even at my grandfather’s funeral in 2010.

[@davidlwatsonjr]

Yep. And in the moment of that bad shit happening, as a leader, people are going to look to you for if it's ok. By keeping your shit together, you give them the freedom to grieve how they need to. You'll always have a chance later to break down and express your feelings, but in that moment, you just gotta keep going.

[@dannyhernandez265]

Chuck speaking truth. I’m still slightly depressed over my car that I lost 2 years ago. I poured blood, sweat, and tears into fixing it up, and to lose it in a crash. Left me devastated. I can’t imagine losing someone I love.

[@chistoso1985]

My father always told me the same. Keep composure and let the others freak out

[@esils]

Getting upset and freaking out are two different levels tho 🤔

[@MeMyself-p5z]

Your father is right under some circumstances.

[@M0J0-RL236]

Yeah that sounds very unhealthy even if he meant well. That's how you become emotionally stunted and contributes to worsening coping strategies. You can still be composed and resolute and understand that you should feel your feelings when they come up. Training your mind against that is not something to be proud of

[@MeMyself-p5z]

@@M0J0-RL236 No.

[@thomasconnell1556]

When I lose someone close I never break down and cry in front of anyone. I try to keep things light and crack jokes because that’s the way I cope with it and I don’t think me melting down is going to help. I do all of that on my own time

[@MeMyself-p5z]

Just break down and cry bruh. Let it go. You lost someone lol.

[@AphelionFox]

Great message. Also, he had to squeeze in a "likka say". 😂😂

[@listeningviayoutube7229]

I am not crazy about C.B. but he is spot on with this topic.❤

[@99Michael]

Stoic men were seen as a plus, a positive attribute in the past.

[@mazzb305]

And often those men were/are suppressing the most pain.

[@99Michael]

@@mazzb305 We all have pain in this life, and it is inevitable. How it is dealt with is up to the individual. ( To a degree, we all have different thresholds.) Either you carry on or drown in self-pity, alcohol, and drugs, or lash out violently at society. Someone has to navigate when the storm comes.

[@soliquidsnake3990]

@@99Michaelit really does depend on how it is handled internally. Being stoic isn’t bad at all, but some stoic men are stoic for the wrong reason and deal with their problems in a toxic way.

[@novelaego2404]

stoic just means incel

[@M0J0-RL236]

Stoic men of the past were often alcoholic, abusers, addicts who put on a veneer and dominated the household because economic factors were favorable and women were "meant to stay at home" Don't romanticize blindly ignoring your emotions in order to appear strong. Real strength is knowing your emotions and processing them in a healthy way so you can get back to being your best self, not suppressing them so you trudge rough life as a shell with unhealed trauma that you make someone else deal with for you. Young men are being indoctrinated by toxic people and there's a lack of opportunity and purpose in their lives, this can lead them down rabbit holes where they are taught to not feel their emotions and bitter

[@Aloneat777]

Great perspective from Charles.

[@TBJ1993]

Yes. I completely understand where he's coming from. I've always lost people from the time I was 3 years old up until now. Family members, relationships, failed marriage. I've always had people walk out on me and lost people. You hate to become emotionless snd cold hearted. But life will make you that way.

[@Onelove-Oneheart-h4c]

I have been at the opposite end of his philosophy on grief. It is bad. You fall apart and are good for no one. I have since become more equanimous in grief and crises. This too shall pass...

[@MeMyself-p5z]

Boys 2 men talked about this.

[@T3l3MuNd0]

At the end of the Day Charles even says he's NO ROLE MODEL but, his attitude towards serious things, being able to laugh & joke at himself without getting mad, & knowing u gotta do what u gotta do to keep your head high. . .

[@MeMyself-p5z]

...is not sustainable. Those who laugh profusely are the most hag-ridden.

[@taemac10]

I needed to hear this 🙏🏼

[@truthmayhurt4488]

Plus are loved ones who had passed would want us to keep going

[@Nettamorphosis]

Sitting in my driveway, drunk… & I actually needed to hear this. Never thought I’d be saying this when I woke up this morning but thank you Charles Barkley. 🥹

[@eppskevin]

I don’t always agree with Charles, but I’m with him 100% on this. I’m the same way and people accuse me the same way. And I’m also the leader of my family. I get this so much

[@kgbaby1466]

Why do people have the put it out there they are leaders of their family. It's not like Chuck is going to see this man. Everyone else is in the same boat. Blow my mind how people seek attention.

[@eppskevin]

@ chill out man. That may be others intent, but not mine. Perhaps I could’ve kept it to myself but I guess that was something already on my mind and I saw someone stay exactly what I’ve been feeling. And no everyone is NOT considered the leader of the family. It depends on dynamics, resources, personalities, mental situations, .etc. it’s not a one size fit all kind of statement. At least for me that’s truly my situation and my family will tell you the same thing. It’s not a flex man. I just understand what it means being the person everyone depends on. Not complaining or anything either. Just stating fact. Can only speak for me and no one else.

[@kgbaby1466]

No one is reading that novel man. It's not that deep lol

[@eppskevin]

@ deep enough for you to comment. But all good.

[@CoolF-jd7rr]

I'm getting emotional just reading what you've written.

[@Noeau]

So much wisdom. The family leader needs to show strength for the others members of the family. If the leader is not strong and provides the pillar for the others members members to lean on, then they all will be in a less optimistic place.

[@MeMyself-p5z]

Cliché.

[@bayoutapes]

Charles Barkley Never Says the wrong thing. Every time I hear this man speak I naturally agree with him. Im born in 1992 and I just agree with everything this man says.

[@bonnydaise8112]

I have been agreeing with Barkley every since he said when you see him on the basketball court he is doing his job and for parents to be their children role model not to look for him to be.

[@MeMyself-p5z]

That's idolatry right there.

[@jacquelineperry8515]

I agree with Charles have to keep fighting

[@supernotnatural]

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” ― Winston S. Churchill

[@mik3ymomo]

Probably the most important statement he has ever spoken.

[@barbaratucci797]

He’s the best!

[@eltunazapata5986]

You’re best friend of your whole life is your mind. It also can be your worst enemy. You choose who you want to be with.

[@claraberry7806]

This is why Charles will always be my role model

[@mikewhitman578]

He took care of the whole family

[@christinebryant8354]

My parents use to tell us when we were young. Life is going to move with or without you. Everyone is going to leave this world 🌎 one day. It’s five of us & I’m the third born, but all the weight is on me to make sure funeral arrangements are made, always have life insurance, make sure the bills are paid etc…

[@RevealedFilms]

I grew up in an abusive household so from age 7 I was forced to grow up and be the protector to my younger siblings. You also realise no one is coming to save you. So I built myself up physically, mentally and financially so I’d never have to rely on anyone and could be effective as a leader. Since then tragedies have happened like we’ve all experienced and I wouldn’t say it’s easier to keep going but you it’s like muscle memory…you just know what to do.

[@jakemccoy]

I’ll be your dad.

[@decafmocha211]

Charles makes a lot of sense...Respect

[@indigenousnetger5355]

needed this

[@allofthenames77]

He is 100% right.

[@sammajor2075]

Stoic. Pragmatic. Thank you Sir.

[@deedee-zo9fh]

Usually death hits harder for a person when you're dependent upon them. Whether it's emotional, financial, etc💔

[@Spirosbotos]

I wish I was tough like this

[@BigstickNick]

That was my sister…she would never want to admit when she’s had too much. I could see through it, so I knew.

[@marks2053]

Its just better to keep going, and yeah, sometimes it means you wont talk about it. It gets to a point where you really could talk about stuff forever, because life is constantly taking things away, over and over again as you get older. People need to realize that we really cant be talking all the time.

[@lalogarcia6811]

i loved this

[@homoerectus744]

Death ( a recent one) has made crazy,pictures from 2 yrs since I can also see the difference.

[@jameswallace8202]

it's not a fault, it's a strength

[@alxiong]

As a main tank in WoW, you do have to man up and keep trucking. I agrees Mr Barkley.

[@RDX1981]

Good advice. Winston Chruchill gave the same advice to the people of england in WW II

[@cazu2479]

Neither do I life goes on.

[@darrellmitchell4338]

No emotions is actually a emotion people just want you to react like them when they call you emotionless and vice versa people will call you emotional when you express your feelings…

[@zekerton7262]

Amen 🙏

[@Kware56]

This is also known as the 2 arrows theory. Well said Chuck

[@genghis7670]

That’s why chuck is my second favourite nba player behind Kobe Bryant. This man is a national treasure.

[@mikegaunt837]

dam chuck, modern day Marcus Aurelius over here

[@CinHalCedHerChance]

Na, if he was broke and on the streets, he wouldn't be saying the same shit.

[@HumptyMcFly]

⁠@@CinHalCedHerChance If Marcus Aurelius was broke and kingless he wouldn’t have said the same 💩

[@Valmoorer]

@@CinHalCedHerChance money is not everything. youu will learn that soon or maybe never.

[@CinHalCedHerChance]

@@Valmoorer "Some people are so poor, all they have is money" Val dude, I know about money, I've been around it, I loathe it.

[@ryan25bb]

Men do not be emotional learn from Charles Barkley .

[@tordkarl]

Jiddu Krishnamurti once said that his secret was that he didn’t mind what happens.

[@dennismcdaniel1]

….he didn't mention Father? the absence of the Black father in the black family is incredibly devastating!

[@2eightfoesmitty]

Yeah fr

[@jeannejansen4023]

No, his Dad wasn't around. He did have a step-father for a few years, who died in a car crash when Chuck was 11.

[@Meazy5nine]

Aries spears messed it up for EVERY time Charles talks. 😂😂

[@delonjames7849]

💯💯

[@Zoodie234]

I look at life different then most. You get to live🎉🎉 but you HAVE to die😢😢. Just doesn't make since why death is the end. Nobody on this earth ask to be here but we gotta go through all the pain and suffering so at the end we can finally experience true peace.

[@danielarrate669]

Exactly!

[@minhajghayur6437]

How did his brothers die

[@myselfandeye3884]

I get emotional thinking about the fact that I won't witness how my child's or grandchild's lives will develop and play out. The thing with dead is, you can greave now but eventually your number will be up too. And don't think you have time enough because first of all you don't know when your number is up, and second, life blasts past you with the speed of light. So, enjoy the here and now stop worrying about the past or the future. You're on a runaway train; you can't reverse it or stop it so enjoy the ride while it lasts.

[@LoyalOpposition]

When you lose someone at a young age (6 or 7), you become accustomed to it.. Lose your brother at 40 and then get back with me. Making 40 million/yr doesn't hurt, as opposed to some who have nothing and no one and have to spend every miserable moment with it.

[@Dave-fh4jw]

❤❤❤ 100%❤❤

[@tjp-re4du]

Class act ALWAYS

[@PraiseGodyt]

"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7

[@MeMyself-p5z]

He only cares for the Israelites (Matthew 15:24).

[@ManfredRS]

"But I do not want you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning those who have fallen asleep, lest you sorrow as others who have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so God will bring with Him those who sleep in Jesus." Thessalonians 4:13-14 Chuck actually demonstrates Christianity in a nutshell. What a great guy he is.

[@johnthegreat]

I'll see my loved ones again, I'm absolutely 💯 positive, Jesus Christ is God and savior

[@JimClark-m7j]

People are complaining about him and questioning this or that. However, what good does getting over emotional accomplish? It doesn’t stop the death of a loved one, it’s doesn’t stop the loss of a job, it’s doesn’t stop the loss of a relationship. The only thing it does is prolonging the suffering.

[@CinHalCedHerChance]

Nothing shakes him because he's made bank, he's living the life. He's far from "unemotional". Don't feel bad for this guy at all. There are kids suffering all over the world with no hope of a future at all, he's one of the luckiest guys to make it to where he has.

[@lokey6315]

I need you sit back and think about what you just said....that's your viewpoint of having alot money ...that's not necessarily his viewpoint you think like a female

[@elai3147]

nobody feels bad for this guy, and he doesn't want anyone to feel bad for him either

[@TorukMakto-i7p]

It's not how much money you made, MJ and Shaq made their bank full and there is bunch of meme's crying from them showing their emotional sides. What he is pointing out is something else that you need to figure it out by yourself.

[@blackhawk6615]

He is still a human being!

[@RevealedFilms]

So you’re emotional because you’re broke? C’mon stop being ridiculous.

[@Jimson90]

1:04

[@thomcarr7021]

He's way off here. He doesn't show emotions but he's still there for his family. That is how emotions should be. No matter how stressful life becomes , you're there for those who depend on you. I have a brother who fathered 6 children with 5 woman and wouldn't know their addresses. That is being unemotional. That is heartless and cold.

[@GoGetYourShinebox]

I’m blue and I agree

[@alhoward4099]

Humans' beings get emotional. You have a choice to show it or conceal it. An individual is more likely to suffer a nervous breakdown by hiding their emotions. Therapist and/or psychologists will confirm what I'm sayin...

[@Hoesas]

You jus gotta appreciate the time you have with them and memories, I feel bad when I never got to know them I’m burdened by the what if but if i knew you personally it’s cordial

[@azsegrxdhtfgvijnkomlewrhtg9508]

I think it just depends on the circumstances.

[@esils]

In fairness, there are levels to being emotional and Barkley definitely moved the goal post by saying “ get emotional every time bad things happen” 1:30. Nah, bruh, it’s possible to grieve and not go crazy.

[@TTIOTT]

Not what he said

[@azsegrxdhtfgvijnkomlewrhtg9508]

How did they die though and how was his relationship with them? Was it good or bad? Suicide, illness, accident?

[@blackhawk6615]

Don't matter it happened!

[@MeMyself-p5z]

Sacrifice? I don't think so. That highly unlikely.

[@Imisambi]

He conflated or put ‘something bad’ happening = to ‘death of close person ‘ Yes they’re both bad ...but one ranks higher on the psychoemotional scale

[@CoolF-jd7rr]

You are not making any sense.

[@CrazyLinguiniLegs]

Charles: “Oh my God! Why, God?! Why?!” Ernie: “Charles, what’s wrong? Did someone die?” Charles: “Why, God?! Why?! Why did Russell Westbrook think that outfit looks good?!”

[@JackFlaps]

Wow

[@Blt-rr2lm]

This advice should be taken by all of the cultures that claim oppression from the past has irrevocably changed them. First Nations in Canada. Native Americans. The Black culture in the US. Bad stuff happened. Move on. And yes, it is as simple as that.

[@antoniowalker4569]

Chuck is right

[@incognito9909]

Weren't his mom and Shaq's mom friends?

[@antno_2064]

🫡

[@chess4090]

Definitely not that intelligent

[@Drillsmart88]

It’s a cover up to succeed

[@kazman_6899]

"Too a fault" -- he doesn't know what he's saying. He's just speaking gibberish

[@quentinwooten30]

Shits going to happen.

[@MeMyself-p5z]

Bad things transpire. What you gonna do when that comes for you?

[@kwootamuckbear9294]

Bootstrap talking like he had a can of white paint to patch the White House.😮

[@beverlykelsey956]

Not true!!

[@MrMathoks]

So that is it. Always thought something was off about him He would be extremely dangerous if he were intelligent but thankfully we don't have that to be worried about

[@2eightfoesmitty]

Nah he cry n private

[@hristijandimitrovski8664]

I understand everything that he said, but it's not that easy... I'm sorry, but that's not normal if you don't act emotionally on anything that's happeninf in your life. We are humans, we have emotions, you can't act like robot and not being devastated if someone extremely close to you die, that's not good to feel sorry and sd for rest of your life, but it's definitely nit good to never get emotional on anything, that's psychopatic if you ask me.

[@MeMyself-p5z]

We don't have the same brain. Some people are naturally mentally tougher than others.

[@hristijandimitrovski8664]

@@MeMyself-p5z it's not about being mentally tougher or not. I question his empathy, I question if he really has emphathy for others and understand different situations for maybe he cares only about him and doesn't react emotionally when something bad happens to other, even if those other are closer to him. People who think all about themselve will never be emotional that's true, but thst doesn't mean they are mentally more tougher than some people who feel sorry about some situations.

[@YvngGoat_]

That’s what happens when you sell your soul