IF YOU WANT TO BE CHERISHED BY ANY MAN DO THIS ONE THING

[@hs-qk9qf]

Advice starts @ 4:09.

[@freespirit8635]

THANK YOU.

[@estrellaverbeck]

You are so going to heaven. Lol thanks a bunch

[@pbcman1]

Lol

[@mutalico]

You're an angel 💯

[@carlas3145]

Thank you.

[@Trustedhands33]

This is what I learned from reading the Bible, I figured out how I'd been getting it all wrong my whole life. Women need love and men need respect. I had always been trying to get respect and giving love to men with no success, I had it reversed.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thanks for sharing!

[@janicejackson9228]

Wow...That's good Sis❣

[@sakuraesther6309]

I am not fully getting you.....so are to not be respected and are we not to love them ??

[@Trustedhands33]

@@sakuraesther6309 More that men NEED respect more than love, to them that shows love

[@strivin4excellence09]

Please be careful with this line of thinking. I’m not saying you’re completely wrong. I’ve just seen the Christian church use this idea of men wanting respect to justify poor behavior from men and not hold them accountable for mistreatment of women. There is a popular Christian book out there that promotes abuse toward women all in the name of “respecting” her husband. Personally I think love, respect and honor should be mutual for both genders in a healthy relationship.

[@Jen.zenfinance]

Step #1 he has to be a man capable of cherishing a woman to begin with! Not all men are capable unfortunately. Weed them out ladies…save yourself a lot of headaches! Get yourself a man who has a solid relationship with God, is emotionally healthy & able to effectively communicate out the gate.

[@tj4787]

Yessss ! Amen to that 🙏🏾

[@kerriehew8664]

100%! I am speaking with a man currently who is naturally triggering my respect! He cares for his immediate and extended family, he's kind, intelligent and sincere. A King as far as I'm concerned. I will keep my masculine energy in check and respect him and be his confidante. So far I'm enjoying our exchanges. There is a flow.....

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@2blessedanna]

Literally same !!! It’s a process after having to be masculine as a woman for so long but YES he deserves it !! We got it !!!

[@mjj5642]

I love that! “Naturally triggering my respect.”

[@Softsoul.]

Im having the same experience and im fully enjoying it. He truly adores me after dating 3 months.

[@BelovedRebekkah]

Omg friend enjoy this! So happy you found a King hopefully he is sent from God!

[@donnetted]

We can show respect for disrespectful people by not stooping to their level and engaging with them. We can show respect by for them and ourselves walking away with dignity.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

💯

[@SueHerr]

This is true! I've practiced giving respect to my neighbors and have noticed this with my older male neighbors. The other day my 60 something year old male neighbor thanked me for being neighborly and pleasant lol.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Incredible 🌸🦋

[@ayomibh]

3 or 4 years ago this would have triggered me But today 🙂❤️ , I totally agree with you. Respect is give him the standard he has earned and not at the detriment of your own value. I also learnt this from the Bible. This sort of woman has her worth beyond rubies.

[@Imokay1695]

This is so true... I attracted my husband when I've learned how to respect people. although I know I still lack a lot sometimes and there are times I would let my emotions and ego take over instead of my clarity. But thanks for reminding us to keep learning. This reminds me when we went on our vacay trip to Bali how I was surprised how I felt cherished by a lot of people other than my now husband. Our rental drivers, the people in the village, the waiters, the security and even strangers that we get to know along the way. This content is gold ladies 🥰

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️🌸

[@aworlds1]

Stable internal self respect automatically garners respect for other beings. Man, woman or child. Without respect there can be no love.

[@bethel3147]

I agree with this entirely! You should respect your partner because that's how relationships grow. One thing that is equally important to understand too is, in the early phases of any relationship, you'll go through a honeymoon phase (6months-1year) where everything seems perfect. You respect his masculine and he cherishes you. But we must be really discerning not to gloss over subtle toxic behaviour. Love-bombing is a real thing that happens early on with toxic individuals. Just make sure you guard yourself well and not fall into the trap of respect= healthy cherishing.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🌸

[@Radtech2002]

I give respect to all persons I come in contact with. I acknowledge every persons opinion and, if I have a different opinion, I share it, If I am interested in that person. Otherwise, I continue on my way. I don’t make every comment a debate. Opinions are just that, not discussions. Discussions can be heard on tv, debates, panels, etc. Listening is far better than revealing all your opinions! That is where respect is found.

[@nthabisengmagalefa7106]

This is GOLD,as a person that has massive attitude problems. I really love how you talked about respect dispite who they are. Listening to how soft spoken you are makes just makes my heart happy and i wanna be that

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️❤️

[@bellakim9404]

You're absolutely right. Mutual respect is the key to coexisting. & It can feel great to put down the sword, push the ego aside and speak from the heart and say 'I was wrong' You deserve more too and I was a contributing factor to some of our pain.' Men want to know they are not the only one to blame. We are all responsible for our own happiness. This was a Great video and a Beautiful message.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Absolutely ❤️❤️🌸

[@MoonSeven-gf8jz]

I want to thank you so much for this video. Very great advice. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@evamurillo4817]

Great information. I will start being respectful today.

[@ninc2518]

thank you Chengi! i needed this. When a man initially was cherishing and then he changed, we can think that we did something bad :/

[@goddessbychellierenae7960]

The last point she made about showing respect and if he plays with that he's not the one is something that I already do and see and she just confirmed that I'm on the right path... thank you so much 💖💖💖💖 I'm patient to find the one

[@ladyboss2944]

Correlates with what the bible says 👏

[@khantsemahlatsi9175]

Thank you Chengi. This is so beautiful. You touched me, when you broke down how men struggle in the world and how they need the respect. You have changed my perspective for sure. 🥰

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️❤️🌸

[@donnetted]

Thanks Chengi! I will try this with my son too😀

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Please do!

[@blessingeritemu2132]

Am putting in to practice thank u God bless

[@emmabeluchi3442]

I like your insights and perspectives Chengi... They are so different from the usual contents on KZbin and I deeply resonate with it.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@TheLibraQueen]

just found your channel and subscribed immediately!!! 💕💕 I'm learning more to become a softer woman and a better woman for the next man in my life

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Welcome ❤️❤️🌸

[@TheLibraQueen]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy thank you babes 💕💕

[@TiffaneyGraham828]

This was GOLD!! It's so simple yet we don't do it. I'm sitting here thinking about how much I interrupt and don't listen wanting to win in conversation. I am executing on this immediately. thank you!

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

You are so welcome 🙏🏾

[@natashadika2177]

Same with me

[@PreetiGopal]

Golden advice!

[@mistykaikai]

Thank you for your inclusivity in the advice - I like that you to include women from every religion and culture.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️💕

[@shaimod1145]

If a man doesn't see your value and can't appreciate your worth as a woman for whatever reason(s), you can respect him from now till the end of time and it still wouldn't work. He has to choose you and esteem you first.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

It’s not about choosing random men and respecting them to they cherish you. It’s about choosing to respect everyone and removing yourself where your respect is not valued. Try to comprehend the difference

[@adj5767]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy Exactly. Ladies please avoid the 'random man' analogy. Clearly Jesus meant what He said about casting pearls before swine. Obviously if a man is NOT a good person at core, he will stomp on your goodwill. Simply remove yourself and your pearls. You can't make anyone do anything. You are only in control of yourself. Cheers!

[@shaimod1145]

No where in my statement did I say anything about random men.

[@jjones391]

Always remember this, you can still respect disrespectful people but MUST separate yourself from them !

[@ruthkaunda3343]

Renewing my mind every day 🙌

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Well done and keep it up. Thanks for commenting too

[@yeaitsmae6277]

It all depends on what kind of man. This doesn't apply to narcissistic men.

[@phalynwilliams4119]

Or to feminine males. However, Chengi is only talking about masculine men.

[@ninawestlake14]

Right!

[@ActressAyannaTene]

Correct!! I respected my ex and he just abused it.

[@EudoraPrice]

Exactly 💯

[@EudoraPrice]

@@ActressAyannaTene yes!!It depends on the man!! Not Every Man!!. Sone are abusive even when they have a good Woman!@

[@dominiquelarue1982]

Thank you so much for this video, I unconsciously was having a major disconnect & what seemed like a break down in communication with men t I've interacted with for not undersyanding these simple steps.. I started it but realized I need to take it 10 steps further... yes the modern mindset definitely conflicts & will definitely have u second quessing,, but I get it now!! I don't lose ground by maintaining consistent respect.. it actually makes life more easier for me because I can talk less and listen more!! I've even resorted to using the NOTES app on my phone while in mid conversation with men so that I don't interrupt them and can revisit my personal opinions without feeling like I'm being silenced. the delicate balance of respect vs peasantry I'm excited to experiment more with this. Thanks again

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Wonderful feedback! Well done and thank you 🙏🏾

[@bonnielee598]

This truly blessed my soul! 🥰

[@fabiennepdt4898]

Thank you for the truth! Be blessed Chengi.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️🦋

[@mathehanyane6246]

U have no idea how much u've just helped me. Thank you ❤️

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🌸❤️❤️🤗

[@acd1168]

This is FACT 💯. Tell them Coach Chengi

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️

[@natashadika2177]

Thank you very much for your golden advise. May God bless you and family sis.

[@OrangeTulipss]

May God bless you for this amazing way of talking so beautifully. You have a great way of sharing your great energy. And therefore a BIG THANK YOU! ❤️❤️❤️

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@sheilapendley1716]

Thank You!

[@princessdeshong2906]

love your makeup!♥

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thank you 🌸

[@CanIgetanAwoMen]

This is fantastic content! I am going to put into practice immediately

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

So proud of you Swan ❤️❤️❤️🦋

[@joyousbeing]

@blackswanrelationshipacadamy you're so intelligent

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@afg6605]

If a man doesn’t know how to respect a woman then how a woman can respect him ??? If a woman disrespect a man for sure it’s a reason for it . because most of the time most of man disrespect women doesn’t matter how much the woman is nice and helpful. It’s sad but it’s the reality. Respect is earned by your actions.🌸

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

A woman who knows how to respect herself and others would not be in the company of a man who disrespects her

[@purplelily6950]

Very helpful and eye-opening, as always.

[@HouseOfAliShali]

Yes! Thank you 🤍

[@juwelanceowolomo9293]

Wow thank you

[@Jas-bz3qi]

Wow this is such an amazing way to say this. Thank you💕

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Welcome Swan 🦋❤️🌸

[@sharronlee5202]

Thanks for sharing this knowledge

[@dahveedandsarkis2123]

Great speech. Thank you

[@CDot300]

Great insight thanks beautiful Queen love your channel

[@gventour_22i32]

Most of these men don’t even deserve your energy to begin with, this is 2022. Times are really different my dear.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Yet you are here. Perhaps you need to wake up and start to think for yourself instead of what culture tells you. You may become a Black Swan

[@elaineroyal2785]

@Gventour_221 She was speaking in general and not so much as the wrong choices you may have made in your dating choices, or the wrong men you may have attracted, yes THOSE men don't deserve your energy. She was essentially saying that you can catch more bee's with honey.

[@ThiaChiammy]

You've got a new Subscriber here mama Black 🦢. I love your Channel🥰❤️

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Welcome Swan 🌸🌸🌸

[@jayak8217]

Wow, thank you. I really needed this🙏

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️❤️

[@thegrace-basedstudent5701]

This advice is golden!

[@andream420]

FUNNY HOW WE'VE DISMISSED THE BIBLE AND CALL IT "OLD FASHIONED/NOT FOR OUR TIMES", ETC., AND LOOK WHERE WE ARE NOW...

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Exactly 🌸

[@missmg888]

My person of Respect is the Dalai Lama

[@justinelockhart5509]

A man cherish the things that he loves.dont have to do nothing special

[@itarah1]

Thank you 💕

[@AndreaDanzie]

I think when I am initially dating a man all of this is given but if somewhere along the relationship path if he does things that hurt me, the respect starts to become less and less. I have conversations with the man about the state of this but they don't seem to care and the relationship starts to go downhill.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Sorry to hear it. I sense there is more to your story as you indicated this is a pattern so it’s needs a closer look. Please book a call with any of the coaches

[@asaliyamahusiano7661]

Very nice I 'll surely paractice this

[@gamorirene9309]

Thank you so much aunty. God bless you

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️🌸

[@laundrybest2290]

Women need forgiveness only have hope men need love. Man need character for a wife to forgive for her own good.

[@Chillalot]

Great video…. Women and modern culture have grown so disrespectful of men and masculine energy… please show and teach your daughters to respect men

[@kimberlyj9785]

New subscriber

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Welcome 🙏🏾 🤗

[@onuwabuchi]

super good info

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️🌸

[@chidinmajudith7679]

Please how can a man feel respected from a long distance relationship?

[@nanaabenadarkowaah1800]

Thank you for the question

[@jsh3223]

1000%!!!!

[@lydianicole872]

Respect is worth giving wre its due... u cant respect a man who doesnt show respect...it goes both ways

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

No one is forcing you to interact with a man who doesn’t respect you and respect is always due

[@MsP0624]

Maybe I don’t understand you, Lydia. Why are you with a man who does not show respect? I believe Chengi is referring to men in general but not disrespectful ones. I don’t think she is saying to respect a man who is disrespectful as though you’re supposed to be some sort of martyr. That’s not the black swan way and it’s not the way God created us to be.

[@Inprogress_of_newbeginings]

I'm sorry, maybe I'm not understanding something. I'm a South African (& willing to bet for most African bred people) and Respect for All is a cultural value we live by. So what did I miss? What more is needed. I mean the word maron is not even in my vocabulary ( I probably misspelled it) ?

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Hahaha I know you believe this but it’s not true from one African (Southern) to another.

[@Inprogress_of_newbeginings]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy oh hello Mkhaya. What I'm saying is I just needed perhaps more clarity or differentials between respect given to parents /elders to the respect you are referencing for a man, etc. I hope I'm clear.

[@tstar5944]

Male worshipping. Respect is earned naturally.

[@danicaharley6273]

Respect should be automatic but trust needs to be earnt

[@teresaj.974]

💯

[@Denisebemmett]

Amen

[@patty9101]

I hope you’re on Candace Owens team.

[@sabinakhatoon9755]

This video is too long pls make videos short n understanble

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Nope, but feel free to find short abs understandable videos elsewhere if you wish

[@sabinakhatoon9755]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy Thanks for advice

[@aussieleah3377]

Please add markers in the video timeline for the “marketing” portion of talking… I, like many, want to skip over this part and if it becomes too annoying then we just don’t come back to your videos even though they might have nuggets a valuable information… I don’t wanna have to sit and listen to infomercials. Other than that I do like your content on the parts that I fast forward to in this video

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

It’s a minute long and you can fast forward. If it’s too much for you we understand. You are loved 🌸

[@maskrosesable7878]

A man has to go out and fight for survival everyday? A man doesn't live in a world where he is constantly told he is good looking and valuable? Sorry, but neither do women. I have to work a 7-5-job everydag and fight for my survival. I rarely get told I'm beautiful or valuable, it's more like the 1 % of women who hit the genetic lotterly who maybe lives in a world where they are made to feel that way. I get constantly rejected by men for not being percieved as good looking enough and this is not by handsme men by any means, loks matter more to men and at the same time men will not only judge a woman for her looks but also for things like what job she has, money, ambitions and so on. I agree we should respect everyone, but please stop making it sound like all women walk around in the world like princesses and that somen are somehow being made to feel pretty and valuable all the time, that is not the case for most single women at least.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

You are loved 🤗

[@luciamartin6412]

Whatever

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Oh dear

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

I’ve been married for 20 years and I fully agree with your advice.🤍

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thank you Julia ❤️🌸

[@lb4397]

Thank you ☺️

[@nicolemarie151]

Great advice