HOW TO TURN A SITUATIONSHIP AROUND | GAMES MEN PLAY | CHENGI'S WORLD

Situationships are a dark and difficult place to be as a woman. This video is a deep dive of the psychology behind how we find ourselves in this situation.
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[@Yikkoofficial]

This just made me realize I’ve never had any real relationships in my entire life. They were all situationships.

[@SharlenesJourney]

Same here it sucks just wanna experience true love atleast once in my lifetime hopefully we will find our true lover soulmate 🙏🏾

[@bjoshawty]

😢🙏🏾

[@capricorns1st]

I was in 3 situationships and the last one I was able to narrow it down - I was a hoe. Once I stopped having sex, all my situationship problems went away. You will see just how much you are worth to them once you remove the sex. To me, I think that I was just someone that made them feel safe? Idk. But yea, I don’t have sex for fun anymore.

[@Aphroditesdaughter2222]

😂😂😂

[@lou15176]

I’m 48 years old and learnt this the hard way 🙈 xx

[@niyanisimone1082]

The guy I was talking to changed after around 7 months of talking went from calling me on the phone and seeing me every week … to becoming distant . He doesn’t call me on the phone or text me anymore . The only time communicate it’s when he wants to see me; It wasnt like this in the beginning So I’m ending this . I don’t like inconsistency it’s annoying

[@orubek355]

Inconsistency is definitely annoying!

[@SharlenesJourney]

Same and I brought this up to him and he told me that the phone works both ways.. however I tend to get ignored so his little comment showed me he doesn’t care and want to try and put it on me too

[@joyejohnsonauthor]

If you wanted to see about a certain doctor becoming your physician, you would make an appointment. Then you would talk to him about your health and set up another appointment for an exam. And you wouldn't subject yourself to an exam until you were his official patient. What if a doctor said 'why do I have to label you my patient? can't we just see where this goes?' You would question his ethics and leave immediately. If we are this discriminating with a doctor who will access our physical body, how much more careful should we be when our body, mind, heart and spirit are involved? How many women let themselves be examined by men who aren't even doctors??? It breaks my heart.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Great analogy ❤️

[@Aisha_babii]

Zaaaamn I've been in two situationships this year. They both lasted about 3 months though so I'm glad I have enough self worth to walk away but damn I gtta start telling these men from day one that I'm looking for long term commitment leading to marriage. I'm so afraid to scare them off but look where being quiet gets me anyway! At this point I got nothing to lose and everything to gain!

[@Yikkoofficial]

Sammme boo. It sucks having to tell them because it comes off demanding or rushing. But, men these days love playing games and wasting time. We can’t waste our time

[@zazberry]

“If you fall into the hands of a narcissist…. God be with you” 😂 thank you, we all desperately need that protection

[@hollyharte7831]

😂

[@ahoufebambi4173]

Wow! This blew my mind. I just realised I’ve been in a situationship without really knowing. My God!!! I’m ready to disrupt the pattern. 🙈

[@franchescaserrano9912]

Hearing this really hurts but it’s needed

[@Aisha_babii]

Also, when you really think about it, why would you want to change a situationship anyway? He put you there for a reason. You ain't the one and that's ok... Take your dignity and go.

[@monicamuchindu]

😢😢damn

[@Bewtsie]

He ain’t the one either, he’s low value as hell.

[@chloeyin6602]

Thank you so so much for the content. It really fits my current situation. The main attribution that traps us into such situationship is actually our own ambiguity for our own desire.

[@alisonrobertshaw9252]

Chengi your videos are so helpful! They have really helped me do some inner work to help me weed out a lot of low value men and reverse my masculine energy into feminine energy. My life is so much happier without self serving men in my life!

[@barbarabanks5823]

Thank you Chengi, women need your perspective. Pastor Blake Thank you also for bringing her to us

[@kelleybright3113]

Amen.. crowns adjusting

[@kristenglamour4023]

All Situationships are different though. We get each other bday gifts and everything and communicate every day

[@zarkkkz]

This is exactly what I need in my life right now... thanks girl 😘😘

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️

[@alisonrobertshaw9252]

You are right! I do not want him back in my life!

[@STAUG2001]

Just found your channel via RC Blakes Jr. Gotta say you've explained what I stepped away from a month ago. I have had this inkling he'll resurface so I've been doing some self care so I'll have the stand with all to not fall for the smoke and mirrors again. Men have tried to date me and get offended when I tell them I don't want to date right now. Crazy!

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Welcome Swan ❤️💕

[@specialh8646]

He is on a self serving mission...

[@Healthycellph]

Girrrrrrlllll read my whole life why don’t you?! It hurt me deeply because he literally picked a new girl to make his official gf and tried to turn me into the situationship! 🤯 how? When I was there first! Lol 🤦🏽‍♀️ it’s like love me or leave me! ... but I agree, you must do inner healing and rebranding so you become a new person. Somehow I know I may outgrow him and I can’t save him because I don’t want to deal with his inner resentment in secretly not being on my new level. Growing pains I guess 😕🌻

[@kristin8270]

Same thing happened to me smh

[@phalynwilliams4119]

Girls! What Chengi said is correct about these narcissistic men. While I was going through my divorce from my narcissistic then estranged husband, he tried to treat me like me like a situationship! I knew that he was seeing other women but he was lying to me about it. SMH. After he left me, he would come back to the house and asked me for sex, dates, send romantic emails and texts, etc. I refused all of his advances and told him off. After that the real h*ll began. He was so evil and vindictive. SMH. During this process as well as after the divorce, I had to do a deep dive and look at myself and access how I wound up in my situation/ marriage to a narcissist. So, ladies, be aware of their energy as well as your own. You can be married and find yourself in a relationship/situation that you don’t want.

[@monstersmomma8594]

Hi I’m new here. Found you through Bishop Blake. I’m in a complicated relationship and heard so much value in that conversation

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Welcome! We love the Bishop 🙌🏽

[@idaresitjohn5287]

@Monster we are in this together found her with Blake's

[@Glamrocs]

I did also and I’m going to bing watch all the videos

[@ladyzinada5341]

Me too. Thanks Pastor BLAKE'S for giving us Chengi. We can run both y'all numbers up.

[@jasmineweiss1097]

I just watched that video and came here also!

[@phalynwilliams4119]

Finding Rev Blake’s and Chengi has been a tremendous blessing.

[@Camillehas4hearts]

Chengi, may the good Lord continue to bless you❤️God sent you for a time such as this

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️❤️

[@shynes23sh]

This video really hit & helped me to see some of my behaviors that contribute to situationships. I am going to get to work on these. I may get coaching too. Thank you.

[@chloeyin6602]

same here

[@Bewtsie]

I sought out a situationship after a breakup and two years of celibacy to explore my sexuality and it was the best decision for me at the time, but for us women it is not sustainable long term. Naturally at some point we will need more.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

💯

[@Asya13888]

Thank you for pointing it so clearly, I’m totally agree with you that it’s not healthy situations. In Europe and America it’s kind of different statistics it’s more or less equal man and woman, I mean in quantity. I live in Russia , here woman two times bigger amount than man, plus in that age 25-40 it’s rear to find not married or in a relationship guy. I’m agree that if the man is not investing in a relationships but creates only a situationship is better to leave him and find the other guy, but here not same market, so it’s kind of difficult to do, because or you will be completely alone or with the same situations but different face ...

[@myevu29]

Thank u Chengi. Your content is precious. It's been helping me a lot.

[@cherylcelestine-foster9054]

I have just recently found your channel and i have found it quite stimulating and informative in addressing the problems we women face in love and relationships.I am hooked.Thankyou for your guidance.

[@cherylcelestine-foster9054]

I can identify with this video.Thankyou so much for your advice.

[@bookworm8815]

It has been twice six weeks already (almost three months) since I purely intuitively took this step, but unfortunately, nothing changed by the time. He still acts that nothing happened and carefully avoids any questions or conversations on our relationship. He openly considered me his girlfriend though and was always available for communications and help, yet I always felt like I'm in the situationship. So finally I gave up and started dating another guy who is way more serious about me. But in these three months my ex didn't even give me a chance to speak out and clarify what have happened between us and why I ever pulled away! So weird...

[@abrilthom895]

I absolutely love your content You exude being a high value woman in the way yo speak and the life experience You got. Want to be like You

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Ahh so glad you love our content and you can indeed be high value too. Check out our website for resources www.blackswanrelationshipacademy.com

[@ndyndy2785]

I tried so many times to get out of it,but Everytime I do that he comes back ,he refused to let go but not stepping up

[@ronnie3288]

And glad to know that you are from London like me bless up sis

[@cortney6025]

Perfect timing Chengi. Thank you ❤️

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️💕

[@immasoxfanbaby]

Great timing in the body of christ n 2021

[@claudettelaureano6682]

YOU are beautiful. Thank you for your insights. It's a very hard thing to navigate but, you are on point!!!

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️🌸🌸

[@layladankha3923]

i would never enter in my age any situationship...! personal boundaries. if you are in any just let him know what you really need and see his reaction this will help you to move on 😉

[@thegrace-basedstudent5701]

HI, Chengi. I saw your session with RC Blakes. It was great and full of wisdom.

[@kelleybright3113]

Omg for the bishop thank u 💓 Wow factor truth hurts Now heal and move on time 2 shine bright

[@virginiamurigwa3650]

Just came across your channel n it's great. Not sure I can call it a situationship, we met on fb n met up one time then l dropped him for 3mths coz of his bad communication. He came back the comms are better and we chat daily We have not been physical. He says he likes me. I really want to avoid it turning into a situationship, not sure what it is

[@loisntein1623]

Wow this was really needed, thank you coach chengi . What if it’s a long distance situationship and his excuse of not fully committing is the distance, can this still work?

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🙏🏾💕❤️

[@Glamrocs]

Thank you this was so helpful

[@Milliondollamamma]

Great information!!!

[@intentionallyqueen.478]

Would you share the hair unit you're wearing gorgeous. You're so brilliant.

[@verat.6339]

Another great video 👏👏😃

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thank you boo

[@ericasarmiento187]

Hi, i can say that im in a situationship but i can say also that im in love with him for almost a year but the problem he is just out from 10 year relationship and he said his still not ready for new relationship. I want to go out in this situation but im in love with him already and i dont know what to do. Pls help me.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

I recommend you download the BLACK SWAN RELATIONSHIP app and book a call with a coach ❤️

[@Efalonda]

1. Ideally set a boundary from the beginning so you will not end up in the place 2. Recognize you are an addict and that you are in a situationship and you will be the one hurt and broken 3. what is the need he is meeting where else can you find it 4. Cut off his supply, become distance to create mystery and reattraction (6weeks) kill the old relationship- reinvent yourself (looks - inner work) create new relationship. Blow him off until you have done the work. 6 weeks.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Wonderful. Now to put in action

[@Efalonda]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy Lost 2kgs, got Botox lip flip and nose tip lift, did lash lift, henna brows & brow lamination since writing this 😂. Also created my fine arts website and posted it onto my instagram, painted my best ever piece + had job interview. Was not physical w him since 2 weeks. Do I pass so far my BlackSwan Queen👸 But now he is asking me when I am free next week. Will have to figure out if I will call him out out (hey you said we are not in love with each other so I guess I will not have to figure my feelings for you anymore, you can write me in case you happen to find any feelings see ya) or just say I have no time, or just ignore. He is really stubborn and will try to get girls as retaliation for every time I say no. Just sharing, not requesting free advice;)

[@Kgothatso_Lenkopane]

Hello it's Kgothatso from South Africa ❤

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Hello lovely ❤️

[@QueenHill4118]

This was really helpful.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️🌸

[@Urla398]

Chengi once you made the self transformation journey after those 6 weeks what are the next steps to turn the situationship around??? Where can I watch that!!

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

I am working on the Masterclass. Visit my website and subscribe to my newsletter where you will receive notification when it is ready xx

[@Urla398]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy will do!!! 🌠

[@kelleybright3113]

The situationshiper OK got it queen note taken

[@nadaonpublic4424]

Newbi here! And i love your accents so bad🥵🖤

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thank you ❤️❤️🌸

[@ronnie3288]

Hi have you got any tips for men I was listening to you on Bishop rc blakes today it was so deep

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

I have plenty but I work with women and happy to share about masculine energy if I were invited on a man’s channel or if you have a specific question?

[@ronnie3288]

I understand. But u got a fan now I am going to subscribe to your channel. Because I can pick up bits I need GOD bless you my sister I don't know u.but I am proud of you. And you are from London bless up

[@immasoxfanbaby]

An American Ethiopian queen speaks. Wow

[@sharonmitchell6810]

Hi Chengi God lead me to you. I don't know nothing but would like to learn.

[@pat4733]

What if i was more interested in a situationship and he wanted more or was acting up as if I was working hard to get his attention. I recently removed myself from that kind of situation. I am after single woman and want to take some time simply because I love it that way! What do you think I should do?

[@imeobongumoh6766]

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[@ruthkaunda3343]

🙌🙌🙌

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Hope you found this video useful. If you would like further help feel free to check our resources on www.blackswanrelationshipacademy.com/shop

[@clara7920]

Hello it’s Clara from NYC

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Hi Clara!!! 😘

[@stopandsmelltheflowers26]

My sister ❤

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Hello dear ❤️

[@stopandsmelltheflowers26]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy I appreciate you hun. I know this stuff but I love the way you broke this alllll the way down and a reminder is always needed! I also use this video as confirmation that I've done the right thing ( before even watching it 💁🏾‍♀️). I've almost had this particular video on replay the amount of times I've listened to it. I currently live in NYC, visited London twice, loved it and almost moved there. If I did, you, me, and Greta would be hanging and eating these men for breakfast, lunch, and dinner 😂

[@gpfeia]

Situationship = it’s complicated

[@jennyw9656]

Why would men do this? It’s cruel

[@maaarryle]

Hello it’s Mary from Vietnam💕

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Hello Angel ❤️

[@immasoxfanbaby]

Worldwide prophetess

[@thedropqueenshow]

thank you so much

[@ButterCookie1984]

Subbed👍

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Welcome ❤️❤️❤️

[@xXcLuSiv3GriNgA]

oh man this hurt xD

[@mind8906]

Whyyyy are all these relationship talks about what the guy needs 😭. What about us ladies? So exhausting.

[@taalizi]

True, but going by the comments you realize there's demand and men never take relationship advice anyway...

[@kamraninferno9101]

What if she moves on from a situationship in just one day? She used to love me to death and because of certain things I said she told me she lost interest. Surely she couldn’t have lost feelings right?

[@itsaplantlife9850]

Infatuation can end so quickly. But I'm glad she ended it since you didn't state in any way that she was of value to you other than stroking your ego.

[@kamraninferno9101]

@@itsaplantlife9850 what do you mean you’re glad she ended it? Something is wrong with you like why would you say that. And no she wasn’t for my ego I genuinely liked her you jump to assumptions way too quick young lady

[@SP-ck9ix]

@@kamraninferno9101 the fact that you had her ina situationship is what communicated that to her. either lock it down or miss out 🤷🏽‍♀️ not everyone gonna run on your timeline

[@orubek355]

She forgot about you, move on!

[@SharlenesJourney]

Maybe she didn’t want the situationship she was probably looking for more

[@victoriarossetti999]

❤️

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️

[@mrs.giavonnikenyatta152]

Hello

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Hey girl!

[@immasoxfanbaby]

U need jesus

[@immasoxfanbaby]

Just another gossip and drama page. Wow. Ur not a queen. Queens bring us together not separate us

[@specialh8646]

😂😂😂

[@specialh8646]

You are not making sense

[@orubek355]

@@specialh8646 Not at all !

[@SharlenesJourney]

😂😂😂