SIGNS OF LOW VALUE BEHAVIOUR

[@oneofyou6773]

I stopped smoking, drinking and eating junk food/sugar. Best thing I ever done in my life! I have been living clean for about seven years now. Took me three years to kick those ugly habits. My friends say I haven't aged since then. I feel my health is a lot better. I wasn't aware of all the issues I had when I was a smoker. Now that I stopped smoking, I can smell that nastiness on other smokers and wonder how the heck did I ever not notice that on me?!!!

[@lalaheart76]

Just because someone has money does not make them high value👌🏿. Like the fact that you highlighted that. Kevin Samuels needs to hear this 😂

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Facts👌🏾

[@mzcain1521]

Do you listen to Kevin Samuels? He repeatedly says having money is not the only thing that makes you high value. There are six criteria and money is only one of them.

[@lalaheart76]

@@mzcain1521 glad he changes his narrative. I follow him but barely watch him now.

[@Talkswithtee302]

@@mzcain1521 Kevin Samuels has been divorced twice! And allegedly is on the down low! I would never take his advice! Please! He demeans black women, all the time

[@mzcain1521]

@@Talkswithtee302 are you also going to say that all of the good black men are in jail or gay as well????

[@tabitaeguangs]

Chengi I learnt something...rich does not mean high value.

[@virginiavirginia45]

I learned the same at Chloe channel 😍😍

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

💯

[@kierasthoughts2480]

I love this video, not because I'm trying to improve myself for the game of love (I'm fresh out of a relationship that went bad) but to improve myself for myself.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Hope to see you in the Black Swan Nation 🦋

[@kierasthoughts2480]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy what is the link? I am finding it difficult to find the group. Is it on FB?

[@lightlydark416]

Wow..I am 1 of these while I went through anxiety. Clingy, and it does come with abandonment issues I had no idea I had, wow. People would always leave me to entertain pretty girls, thank you for this connection.

[@empresserica]

Wow. You are so deep my Sister. I just saw you live on RC Blakes and I had to have more! Bless you for your divine works!

[@Melanatedminimalist]

Me too loved her with Bishop RC Blakes

[@yonibodytv]

You're so on point with this! Smoking is NOT sexy...most addicts don't believe they have a problem unfortunately. Great video!

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️

[@chichimamushka5851]

i’m going to sleep now but tomorrow i’m watching every video you ever made right through the weekend

[@latoiyabradford9029]

Hi Chengy, I came to you from Bishop Blakes virtual community. This video stopped me in my tracks!! I felt the presence of God, I felt his correction. Phew 😮‍💨. May God bless you🙏🏽

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thank you, welcome and I am so glad to hear you have come from family. We love Bishop R C Blakes

[@VonnaBlessed]

I can't believe it..I do ALL of these things..but the difference now is..Im ready to change. Thank you..this is truly life changing advice that I wish I would have known earlier..but better late..than never.

[@bonesnharmony3422]

wow, her feminime energy made me....... grateful

[@wanjam7488]

Thanks for being you! Love all your videos....Binge watching them right now. Sending you love from Kenya.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🤗🤗🤗

[@mlndmccoy66]

Thank u very much for this video. I have to stop showing low self esteem. I had a couple of these problems you've mentioned but I do not have the money to just keep myself up on the regular. I am a very natural woman but I do try to keep up staying fit and yes my body regarding body odor, unwanted hairs, teeth and etc on point but as far as looking diva is that a false advertisement on my part if I am not the type to wear eyelashes weaves and etc? Because when I do meet a well deserving man while I am wear those things out in public when he met me and sooner or later he is going to see that I cannot keep those regimes up because of not having the money to constantly keep my toenails professionally done or my hands, which it does look better to get them done other than you doing it yourself at home. Love your videos though. stay Beautiful and Real

[@patricejohnson6313]

I lost my job during the pandemic and all the things that I loved to do for myself went right out the door with my paycheck. But God has been good, still is good. What I started to do was start buying the nail polish and remover which is not expensive and learnt how to polish my toenails myself. All the pretty colours that I like I have to use more than once. I learned to colour my hair myself. What I did was get a low maintenance hairstyle that looks great all the time. Looking great helps my confidence level so I could not have let that slide. Had to find a way. Good luck to you. Be blessed.

[@mlndmccoy66]

@@patricejohnson6313 thanks for that. I 2 do those things. I can count on one hand the many times I've gotten my meds and peds done in my whole life and I'm 55 almost. I feel confident and sexy with my head cut bald, mohawks and short short hair cuts. I just have to stop caring about men of what they my not like about me when they see my thick thighs dark skin thick waist and humph he's going to approach this white female chick the same age as me or older and shaped just like me or bigger or approach a much younger woman that's got a great figure that's youthful looking. So I am trying to be more confident and STOP having those thoughts in my mind and walk around with confidence. So whatever I feel in my mind it can come out with how I present myself and they may feel that vibe. I still smile and etc but deep down I still feel that I am not going to be approached and yes now I don't even look for it to happen. I just do me and 4get about it. Thanks for responding. Have a Beautiful day😊

[@elyciachanel8840]

I’ve missed this good teaching. I am back in class now!

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Welcome back!

[@Talkswithtee302]

I definitely have issues of abandonment! I admit, that I’m oblivious about my actions until now ! Thank you ☺️

[@YoutubeTeasipper7856]

It so sad that we really learn different as men and women growing up.... I always thought of value as to what you thought of yourself but it is what what both people think of each other? My mother taught me what the image of being a lady looks like and how to respect myself but I really had not view from the man's Interpertation... As I have grown I often feel like men don't care about a woman's interpertations of them and it's hard dealing with the one sided effects of that feeling or understanding... Thanks this was still good information in creating new foundations moving forward...

[@kaoshi_kutie]

Chengi your impressions leave me creasing 😂🤣❤️

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Hehehe

[@trenty2012am]

Your expressions are everything 😆

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🤣🤣🤣

[@NisiJ28]

Darling!!! (In my British accent!!) You are my spirit sister!!! I do declare!!!

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️❤️🌸

[@l.christinejones8164]

@Chengi's World Oh Sis I agree 1000% about the drugs and drinking. What a turnoff!! The drunk, drugged, weed smoking vibe....a hard no.

[@samara7607]

Love you mam...learn many things from you..I am a bengali girl.. Send you love from india...❤️ Lots of respect for you..🙏🏻

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

My pleasure 😊x

[@alisonrobertshaw9252]

Thank you Chengi your videos have really helped me see the worth within myself.

[@unbelaneablebeautyy]

Please go into acting. I LOVE your expressiveness. I act the same way 😂

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

😂😂😂👀

[@magsstyra2304]

Thank you Chingy. I appreciate you

[@BeingRashmi43]

Chengi 🥰 after watching you on Greta s video I have subscribed you.. U are excellent.. Here I want to tell you something.. you what I feel it's shameful to watch video when guys teach us how to be high value woman.. Why girls don't understand this?? They are simply chase to the men 😭 No self worth noting.. they spend on them.. why?? Your videos should get millions of views.. Thanks 🙏

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Welcome and thank you Angel ❤️

[@paolaorellana2375]

True sister recognize low value behaviors 💗😌

[@bellydanza85]

This is really good, Chengi! ⭐️

[@gigilove4808]

I love your advices

[@nurtured-channel2953]

Getting drunk is the lowest....to be honest

[@olayinkaadebola4384]

Thanks for your video. I wish I had watched this long before I got married . Is there any hope for me if I have married a feminine man and also change my masculine traits

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Always hope 🤗❤️

[@olayinkaadebola4384]

Thanks for your kind words You are a blessing to us all

[@olayinkaadebola4384]

Also kindly let me know if there is anything you would like to recommend for me .

[@Healthycellph]

Wow 😳 you just read me my rights. Loved this video 🙏🏽 new subscriber!🥰🌻

[@mundeb14]

Thank you I really need to hear this.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🙏🏾

[@MountNebo93]

Love your videos! Your so cute and you give such great advice.

[@coconutwater4531]

What’s a feminine way to give back in appreciation? Like paying for 1/10 dinners? Small gifts?

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Hahaha start with appreciation and thoughtful gifts that are not to expensive, cooking SIMPLE meals. 1:3 ratio x

[@Elinal23567]

It makes the situation more problematic when you both are young 🙁

[@kittyloveswheat8062]

You are brilliant ! I am binging on your videos :).

[@gerberdaisy2388]

Does it swing that way for low value men? "clingg-eee"?

[@dianehamilton9208]

Love this lady😊💕

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️❤️

[@simonasimona6574]

I would have two questions, if possible: 1.What would be the steps in order to discover our identity, please? 2.Also, how can we forgive ourselves if we have been toxic in a relationship? Amongst other things, by toxic I mean that I was not sure if I should marry that man and that confusion of course affected the relationship and led to an unpleasant behaviour but after a few months I ended the relationship although the man wanted me in his life apparently but he also became very indiferent and kept telling me to end the relationship even from the first signs of insecurities from my side. Thank you

[@marimary6879]

The same happend to me, i push man away saying: i am not worthy of you. Crazy i know. I think all this mess comes from our wounds. Me, personally pray to Jesus to heal me. Our identity is in Christ, we are His beloved.

[@co_bell_]

You such a character 😂which why I subscribed

[@oneofakind2276]

What if you have FAILED ☹️ miserably in these areas? Is there redemption?

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Always boo! Just book a call with me xx

[@lightlydark416]

🤎💜

[@mayda2060]

Okay ..I have a question, what are the "appreciations" a feminine woman should give back??

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Start with thank you and consider meaningful ways of giving back x

[@adaariina7175]

Wao you nail it. Thousand Like on this Vedio.

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thank you Angel!

[@chichimamushka5851]

Thankyou Chengi!!! Thankyooooooouuuuuuu

[@harshtruth3023]

Everyone's entitled to their opinion I love smoking especially weed and cbd. Guess I'll stay single and free

[@Abbaschosenone]

So true!!!

[@youmnaamir9389]

love ur sense of humor 😂😂

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Hehehe 😝

[@mayda2060]

Thank God for this feminine training 🌸🌸🌸Chengi💓💓💓

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️❤️

[@sofiapaladino5172]

What if you already displayed some low value behaviors and caused him to pull away 😩

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Give it space ❤️

[@sofiapaladino5172]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy thanks for replying. Is what I’m doing. Today is the first day we haven’t spoken in a year of relationship. It’s super hard not to reach out and say something to kind of pull him back to me but I know the right strategy is to leave him alone 😞

[@missempressloveandlight15]

Hair!!!!!🥰🥰

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@itzaliadenizard1933]

Loved this video. Thank you ❤

[@vivaanvaria3482]

Wht if we made all these mistakes coz of fear of abondonment ....can we change to high value?

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

Ofcourse you can ❤️

[@vivaanvaria3482]

@@blackswanrelationshipacademy I’m very very confused, trauma bond, going insane, I think he is narcissist and i was people pleaser and wen he discared me he called me narc! It’s been two years and I m still figuring out whether I’m narc or he is . I’m scared abs feeling dirty for my low value behaviour, he used me and lied everything! I m stuck and suffer ptsd ... how will I come out ? He has blocked me everywhere! Should I too block him ?

[@Hazel-qs1te]

Hmmm 🙄 those eyes🤔

[@dianehamilton9208]

What if its the man behaving like this..?

[@sabreenwilson7276]

Same thing....I can't stand these things in men

[@dianehamilton9208]

@@sabreenwilson7276 not sure hun.. But sometimes you just have to let go... Set some goals & Boundaries if you haven't already and concentrate on them sister 🙏🏽🥰

[@amydamjanovic9183]

One thing I don’t understand is women who have extremely low self esteem about their appearance and wallow in self pity about it, but they make absolutely no effort whatsoever to take care of themselves, and straight up refuse to do it. They refuse to go to the gym, refuse to clean up their diet, refuse to do anything to look after their skin, their teeth, ect. And on top of that, some of them are extremely resentful of women who DO make an effort to improve their appearance and wellbeing, and therefore have confidence about how they look. I know it sounds harsh, but it just doesn’t make sense to me. A former friend of mine was like that, and I ended up having to end our friendship because of it.

[@sierrarashaan]

It’s a sign of depression

[@amydamjanovic9183]

@@sierrarashaan yeah, I thought so.

[@sierrarashaan]

@@amydamjanovic9183 I used to think the exact same thing until I went to therapy and learned that it was a sign of depression.

[@amydamjanovic9183]

@@sierrarashaan good to know, that makes sense.

[@user-dv9xx3yy8v]

Malamang dimo magets kasi iba kau sheunger. Diba pwedeng mas gusto lng nilang all natural and ok na sila sa itsura nila at least di peyk or artificial. Kau nga ata insekyo kasi need pa over over effort pra lng maging confident kuno hala

[@taghazoutmoon5031]

How can you not snoop around when you see his phone? I think it's natural to snoop

[@blissreframed1681]

Snooping is sooo low vibration sis!😥

[@Gabi_Garcia_is_the_GOAT]

love uuuuuuu

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

❤️❤️💕

[@keniasharpe1610]

This was good

[@blackswanrelationshipacademy]

🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️

[@ninaelisabetheitrem8368]

Very funny and very true! :-)

[@graceagenda5937]

🤷‍♂️😁😁😁😁😁🥴🥴🥴. CERLLingyyyyy