Child loss : How to cope with the really bad days

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@saltybeach403 8 ай бұрын

My daughter passed away suddenly on Nov 11,2023. I’m just going into my 4 month without her and still I cry and cry and ask what am I supposed to do with out you! And I just forgot everything I was going to say. I do want to say thank you so much for sharing your story. For sharing for sharing. I can’t believe this is happening that it happened I’m still saying and thinking what and why. Please continue with your videos

@pippenlapue9643 Ай бұрын

My daughter, Jenna, beautiful, kind, loving, smart and always giving. Passed on Mothers day. 12th of May in US. I did finally scream. It happened without warning. Once I started I couldnt scream loud enough. Im alone on this path. I love your video. You can hear it in your voice. Seeing you gives me hope.

@suetaylor5758 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. You are 8 months further in your journey of grief and it’s helpful for me being 9 weeks in. Giving me some hope in my despair

@Airmaiden63 9 күн бұрын

I lost my baby son at age 31 with lung cancer. He has been gone almost 3 months. I am finding I suppressed a lot of pain and grief to be strong to get through all you have to do. Husband completely shutdown and has been of no comfort at all. I think I started grieving 19 months before he passed when we learned our healthy 29 year old son had a terminal cancer. But things are bubbling to the surface. I actually just exploded and screamed at my husband in voices I have never heard come out of me. I was building up resentment of him not showing any compassion to me. He didn’t come to the hospital when I sent him messages he was getting worse. He didn’t watch his horrible last 2 days and the last 5-10 mins on this earth. It plays in my mind constantly. I am no stranger to death. Worked in healthcare and took many people off respirators. But he suffered. Then he didn’t help pick out the casket or go to funeral home to plan. He started vomiting day of funeral and didn’t go. He didn’t see them close you baby in that box forever. He didn’t see them put him in that ground forever. I think those things needed to be said. He had told me he was happy I was able to get over it. HOW ON THE FACE OF THIS EARTH WILL I EVER GET OVER THIS. I WILL NEVER GET OVER THIS. ITS A NIGHTMARE

@angelawilson2929 Жыл бұрын

I found out that there are places called smash rooms (I’m in Colorado, USA so I’m not sure if they are elsewhere). For me, since there was really no one to blame for Samuel’s accident, I could get out some of my anger with a sledgehammer and a crowbar.

@huwinheaven 7 ай бұрын

wow that sounds amazing.

@MG-xp9si Жыл бұрын

thank you - I find your videos very helpful.You asked what other find helpful - for me it's gardening and exerting myself digging, etc.

@angelapage4927 Жыл бұрын

First of all Thank you ❤️ for your video x Not sure if this will help but when my beautiful son Lee Simon ❤ transitiond on the 5 /3/21 . It wasn't one minute or hour or day at a time it was one breath at a time. To calm down the only thing I could do was too listen to my breath one breath at a time still do this on really bad days and there are lots. Found colouring adults book's helped and knitting. This was a few months after though . Because at the beginning it takes so much energy just to get up and brush your teeth . Not sure if anyone else finds this too painful I just can't say how long it's been since my beautiful son ❤️ transitiond in real time . Also I feel like I'm on a different planet and everyone's speaking a different language . The only comfort is taking to other people who are wearing these shoes no one else understands this cruciating pain . Sending my heart felt condolences to you all ❤️ x

@kimmefford2814 10 ай бұрын

I feel the exact same way

@Eam1213 9 ай бұрын

Me too

@moonbuim4787 4 ай бұрын

Thank You for Sharing, My son Age 34 suffered from phsycosis and bipolar passed away 9 June 2024 Sunday. It has been very difficult for me to except his death suicide. I Got myself a journal so I can pour all My feelings the good and Sad Memories I read the bible on days I cannot cope sit outside to clear My Mind.

@jeannetteterhark7647 Жыл бұрын

Ty for another great video. Can't wait to see the next one.I play w my Cats.I listen to a playlist I made for my daughters Celebration of Life.When she passed away this 2-15-23.😘❤️

@saltybeach403 8 ай бұрын

I am also grieving for my daughter. And I too pour myself into my cats, one of which is my daughter’s and I also have my big dog who loves to cuddle. I also find peace I believe?…in listening to a playlist from her memorial that her kids my 2 grandkids and me made. I pray for sunshine in your days ahead❤

@kimmefford2814 8 ай бұрын

@@saltybeach403 I also have my daughter’s cat 😿

@stephaniechappell8143 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for doing these videos. They are very helpful to me and I admire your bravery

@sonjarethy8339 4 ай бұрын

Make more videos please if you’re up to it. So helpful

@gemmadavey3681 Жыл бұрын

This video help me

@angelapage4927 Жыл бұрын

I find since the transition of my beautiful son Lee simon ❤️ x In 5/3/20 . I still find it difficult to sleep so i don't go bed till around 3 o'clock in the morning manage a few hour morning's are really difficult my body feels like it's too heavy to move which my weight is now around 7 and a half stone so it not my weight . This pain is cruciating every second of everyday still . Just wondering if anyone else has experience this . May one day we find some sort of peace 🕊️ xx

@artiemcfly4832 Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son 5 weeks ago on 10.13.23. He was only 15. You might have complicated grief, which I've read about in some of the materials people have given me. It is when you continue to experience the original freshness of the loss years afterward. 💔 I pray for your comfort and serenity.

@kimmefford2814 10 ай бұрын

Yes, I feel the exact same way. I lost my only child, my 19 yr old daughter on 11-15-23. Can’t even remember if when I shower or brush my teeth or sleep

@Eam1213 9 ай бұрын

Yes, same here. I lost my first born on 7/27/23 due to an automobile accident. He was 42 and we were very close. I have not been able to get to sleep until well after midnight and I used to be asleep by 9. I feel it’s making trying to cope worse for me. My pain is great with some days being worse than others. I am a different person💔. Hugs and prayers to all.

@saltybeach403 8 ай бұрын

@@kimmefford2814 I am so sorry honey. I lost my babygirl on 11-11-23 she would be 39 this coming June. My only child. I’ve gone days especially the first month, without eating sleeping bathing brushing my teeth my hair which I finally had to cut off again because of the tangles. There are no rules. There can’t be…I mean I thought I was alone n this and I know now that I’m not alone. If not for the children, my 2 grandkids that she blessed me with I don’t believe I’d be here. I could feel my heart dying with her