Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: We should all be feminists | TED

[@shadhaebadhy7913]

"the problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be..rather than recognising how we are"- that literally spoke to my face!

[@DalezzStumble]

That makes 0 fugcking sense

[@TheCatBiscuit]

"What if, in raising children, we focus on ability instead of gender. What if, in raising children, we focus on interest instead of gender." yesssss

[@hazard4574]

Pretty sure we do that already for the most part

[@heeyoungabc8688]

@Kilavan Sethupathi not everywhere

[@internetgremlin7171]

I think we should just all be decent human beings that respect each other

[@Erick23679]

Yes

[@lucavicentini795]

sure

[@Wet_Fungus]

Meh, idc really

[@SierNotsruht]

There are a few human beings you should never respect like: hitler, Donald trump, Sudan hussein, Osama bin laden, stalin and many others

[@adityakumar-ni3rp]

@Louis Tea Enjoyer lol

[@madeleineleblanc5874]

'I was afraid if I looked too feminine I wouldn't be taken seriously.' The story of my life...

[@babyamyxo-o6c]

Relatable.

[@Erick23679]

Nobody cares if you are women or men so plis stop with this bs

[@madeleineleblanc5874]

@@Erick23679 Like nobody care if you are black or white, right?!

[@Erick23679]

@@RanchDressingPop-Tarts oh you want to change sides? Men are dared to fight someone if they are challenged to a fight or else they get bullied and laughed by women, a women can easily scream rape and blame a random guy and they will arrest him, everyone has there disadvantages and its as hard to be a men as it is to be a women, feminism nowadays is telling men to not rape which i get why its bad but it is as illegal as murder, there is consequences to it, women and men from all races (at least at the majority of the world) have the same rights, they are not the same but everyone has the same rights, you cant just protest to the government to stop rape when they already have bad consequences to it

[@user-oe4wr9tn2n]

Any evidence to back up this claim? For examples, we can actually see race based descrimination, when companies look at names.

[@BalkwillWL]

Hey guys... this person is making a pretty valid point here and isn't really being unfair here. She's not talking about anything extreme... She's actually being rational... So why all the hate?

[@swimdownx6365]

So MRAs are feminist. Talk about Injustice towards men. Menism could mean the same thing

[@toshimohamed3689]

She talks about a lot of anecdotal points which aren’t very valid. You only know the one sentence she says about the situation

[@rustyspygoat4089]

Yea the point she made in the beginning by stating that in the past men used to lead because they were more powerful and that made sense. And now times have changed and physical power is not the determining factor as to who makes a good leader in society today. Well she either forgot to include or she is blindly unaware that to become a leader takes more than just 'intelligence' as she put it. In fact many highly intelligent people make extremely poor leaders. What makes a good leader is someone who is driven, logical, courageous and assertive. These are still masculine traits that have a very strong link to higher testosterone levels. It is biologically natural that men are designed to make good leaders. Of course not all men, but the few men that do have this trait, seem to be in a greater number than the few women who share those traits. Just like there are some exceptionally gifted females who are stronger and faster than me because I am an average man, but there are far more gifted male athletes compared to female athletes that we make it a point for them not to compete against each other. Now give a woman a fair shot to become a leader or president, Im all for that, but if she does not succeed don't blame that on some evil plot by men trying to keep women down

[@isitalwaysero1367]

This is actually good feminism, not the radical extremists we hear more about on online, while yes therw are bad feminist, but there are good feminist who are fighting for real problems for women, not stupid one's like "mansplaining" and "manspreading".

[@Dawid-kn6mv]

If it would be realy about equality it wouldn't be called feminism.

[@frgtment8]

This was an amazing TED talk. I'm disappointed in the people that disliked without even watching because this could have opened up some of your closed minded thoughts and feelings.

[@wolfstar675]

Deborah Ward Nah we just hate idiotic feminists telling us how all men are evil.

[@aa6aa3a]

Enrique Godinez nobody said that lmao

[@asabernier]

ok boomer

[@YourMoonJoy]

Funny thing is that this is an old video, it's just been reposted. Speaking to mostly about feminism that's needed in African countries. Most people didn't even listen to this fully. So what exactly has she said that you object, or is it just the term feminism that makes you dislike something that isn't radical, or insulting to men?

[@davidsevilla-chiang3546]

The amount of dislikes = People hate to hear women talk. I'm a man, and I am a feminist.

[@wolfstar675]

David Sevilla-Chiang No you're not a man you're a mangina.

[@ed1567]

@@wolfstar675 You don't believe in equality? Are you racist too?

[@LqudIccub]

@@ed1567 Modern day feminism is the equivalent of saying "female supremacy". Modern day feminism is worse than cancer. David Sevilla-Chiang is just a 'Simp' or 'Incel', if you will. I personally fight for the constitution and equality by my serving in the US government. 'Feminists' do not fight for equality anymore, just supremacy.

[@alanamcknee9517]

Are you still a feminist?

[@toasted_peanuts]

Whether you agree with the talk or not, it's vital to listen to it before you spread support or hate.

[@ghostinlovewithaflower]

Yes

[@MultiDiscoMonkey]

This was a wonderful video and she spoke eloquently and intelligently. Shame on all the people who downvoted because of the title without even watching it and listening to her points! Idiots

[@yourmajesty7012]

I saw the title and only came for the comments, the only thing I wish I could do is get the demographic information of the people commenting

[@renate4997]

Why are there 5k dislikes?? She is absolutely right I loved this. I hate how feminism is misunderstood. Feminism is for equality and yes a lot of feminists take that and make it about females being superior but this woman emphasised that this is not how she sees it and she gave valid arguments about why feminism is still needed, at least in Nigeria. Feminists also want to stick up for men who are treated unequally, they just want equality. How can you be against that?

[@wolfstar675]

renate Western women aren't oppressed.

[@JeSsE10mCcOy11]

@@moniamonika7896 what's so funny about that? What he said is true

[@eritafinds]

sadly we don't have the patients anymore

[@silentruth]

always happy to see Chimamanda on TED, she's a fantastic story teller

[@AmakaMbanefo]

When I watched this I felt a lot of things and at the top was utter shame with myself at the fact that few days ago,a man asked if i was feminist and I utterly denied feminism. Let me now declare that I am wholly feminists.

[@saj_5961]

Can people forget about the title n just watch the talk, it's actually a lot better than I expected

[@darksindraco]

People read the title and dislike the video without watching it...

[@abolfazlzolfaghari3596]

because peopel dont like feminists

[@kjullthedemon]

If someone made a video "We should all be Nazis" would you watch the video, or just leave a dislike? Feminism has destroyed so many innocent people's lives, and guilt tripped so many young men and boys. no one wants to listen to you lunatics anymore, just go away.

[@childofflesh1591]

Can’t blame them most people think of the type of feminism that hates men and don’t wanna waste time listening to another feminist who they think will just talk about how women are oppressed and men should bend over for them

[@TheVirtualJenesis]

@@kjullthedemon yes because the holocaust correlates so well with people having common sense in trying to erase artificial gender norms?? I watched the whole video and not once did anything even remotely close to the Nazis cross my mind. The only reason feminism is being compared to something so crude nowadays is because of ppl with ur mind set giving it some atrocious definition by nitpicking "man-haters" etc and calling it "feminism".

[@TheVirtualJenesis]

@@childofflesh1591 wow. How primitive are human beings to still be viewing feminism in such a way.

[@cameronsipka3352]

do people just search feminist and dislike any new video?

[@user-pv7vc9kp9k]

Hmm I Wonder why

[@civilizedgangster8024]

No, most of them actually watch the video first, instead of denying anything against your narrative ( this goes for right wing and conservatives as well ) you should listen and take out the best out of their narrative and reflect on what you are saying, think about it. I know i’m very late but still wanted to write this, btw, don’t mind the spelling

[@2010amoryfe]

Thats what im doing-

[@uj12678]

rent free

[@eleven3079]

To those of you who disliked the video, I suggest you watch it. This was a definite like from me :)

[@sampatkalyan3103]

LOL

[@k110091]

The LIKE to DISLIKE ratio in this video is so telling of the world we live in. Even the most reasonable take on feminism is met with this level of resistance. We have a loooonnngg way to go, world! Catch up already!

[@halosainswavvy9202]

K N we don’t need feminists silly.

[@MikeStofmeel]

Guys calm down, the title and description isn't very representative of what she has to say. She is not a radical tumblr feminist.

[@lisa3965]

how people dismiss this video and its message entirely and complain without having watched it is beyond me. so ignorant

[@sgaxnikolaix661]

Lisa Because.....

[@CrisPM]

Just reading the comments section you can realize why feminism is important. Maybe some of you should watch the video to understand what it is about. It is a fight for rights, HUMAN rights. Some people are so focus on the word itself that they can't see how important it is. P. S: Thanks TED for finally uploading this talk to KZbin, been waiting for it since I saw it on your webpage. Great talk!

[@Thytos]

This comment section… As soon as somebody mentions the word _feminism_ everybody gets triggered 😱 And the video is so good, reasonable and comprehensible. But it seems like most of the commenters didn't even watch it.

[@nautilusbelauensis6292]

The comment section of this video proves why the points made in this talk sadly still have to be made.

[@rustyspygoat4089]

That is an overgeneralization.

[@rednoodle67]

@Samuel Shin and there are many men out there who think women are incapable of doing anything. Not to overgeneralise

[@swaroop2518]

Many feminists are saying here that men have no problems and they are most privileged persons. OK so IF you want to know about men problems so listen CAREFULLY. i will elaborate. first of all i want to say that- I know really well what are the real issues of women and we should fight with them also. but i will elaborate men issue here because generally most people are unaware of it and ignore it. i am a guy and i completely believe in equality. i hate all kind of discrimination of anyone on any useless grounds. a lot of men also faces a lot of problems like misandry(men bashing), fake accusations for rape and dowry and violence, but no one believes them and everyone considers that women are always right. mostly men are the human beings who faces police brutality, get killed at war.etc . there are many men whose whole life got ruined by fake accusations because everyone believes them to be wrong and women are always right. suicide rates of men are double than women. women are given reservation in almost every field. ALL hard threatening works like cleaning sewers etc are done by men. according to many surveys which you can search yourself on internet says that 25 percent of domestic voilence victims are men. but have you ever heard any news of this?? i know women faces more violence but that doesn't mean that you should ignore men's problems. generally people laugh when a men faces abuse by women and women is praised for that san said to be strong. but the opposite is considered to be evil by men. why this double standards. violence with both the genders are wrong. on public if a men slaps women then it is evil but opposite is funny and everyone will support women. why? see proofs in social experiments- kzbin.info/www/bejne/fZTGdIqllMqNmtk kzbin.info/www/bejne/jn_ViKiQi5idoNk kzbin.info/www/bejne/a6GvYX2njL6lZqc kzbin.info/www/bejne/mqW5eaGQjZ14a5I in movies and serials and songs also abuse against men by women is considered funny. MOST OF THE COURT LAWS are women BIASED, whether they are rape laws or domestic violence laws or marriage laws. do you know if a men takes divorce then he have to give up alimony and child custody to women due to this if men faces violence then he can't even take divorce in fear of these laws. there are many cases where women uses these laws as an opportunity to earn money. women have at least laws and reservations but men haven't any of these. if some one says all women are powerful he is right but if someone says men are powerful or both are powerful then he will face a lot of backlashes. women receive respect in general but men only get respect if they are rich. women are taught to be proud of themselves and men are taught to respect women and improve to to match women's status. if you will ever try to respectfully criticize a women then you are said to be misogynistic and everyone will say you "respect women". and even if a women abuses you, everyone will still support her. every time society says that you cant hit a girl but they are ok if you hit a boy. women in first sight are never considered to be criminal but boys are considered to be criminal. in schools also we are always taught that women are superior and smarter than men. punishments in our schools and in most schools are very harder for boys but girls are never given any punishments. in my opinion, intelligence depends on person to person and from field to field. Generalization of any gender is bad. Violence and abuse with every gender is bad. Respect should be given to all genders equally. at last i want to say that i know that women suffer more due to patriarchal mentality but ignoring men problem due to this doesnt make any sense. sorry if i have offended you because i am not a toxic person.

[@thefin4lb0ss]

Most of the dislikes probably did not watch this video. It's hard to deny the experiences she brought up, especially living in Nigeria where these backwards views and behaviours are the norm against women. Experiencing these developing cultures first hand really show how we limit the women in everyday life.

[@gamegamer9523]

I most like how she mentions how they alway expect men to be a certain way and expect them to take the responsibility like paying the bill.

[@gamegamer9523]

How I wish she can understand that men have to deal with a different set of problems.

[@notmartin-v2k]

People who have disliked this video are too narrow minded to even watch it.

[@tessayoung7076]

Nope. We are open-minded, and thus watched the video, and came to the conclusion of disliking it.

[@brendanmorin9935]

Tessa Young yeah OK lol

[@wycliffepoet5201]

😂😂​@@tessayoung7076

[@clarak.mallah4137]

"Culture doesn't make people, people make culture." Excellent.

[@lucavicentini795]

lol....geography make culture

[@piggperson]

Ain't gonna lie, I felt like this was gonna be some generic "lemme talk about oppression and racism", but her anecdotes and jokes paired with her foreign experience made this video very enlightening.

[@jennellem.1406]

This was amazing! Such a captivating speaker and great storyteller

[@greaterthanaccra]

Thank God I listened before jumping into the comment section. Nice talk

[@MKGirl317]

Um... why are there more dislikes 👎🏾 than likes 👍🏾. That’s scary to me. What is there to dislike about what she is saying. It’s crazy.

[@likeithardy]

Because men on KZbin are intimidated by strong women and feminism. It's pathetic.

[@MKGirl317]

@@likeithardy they like their narcissistic Power over women; the true gods. They don’t like being hit with the truth; Narcissist never do.

[@user-oe4wr9tn2n]

@@MKGirl317 Tell me what rights do men have over women(doensnt just have to be laws), and once you tell me, I will tell you problems men have, and if you convince me through the list that feminism is required then I will become a feminist. NO one is arguing that women don't deserve equal rights, all men are saying is that we have already reached that, and we are moving in the other extreme.

[@ellenplum4271]

Excellent! I'm a single female over the age of 50. I'm a teacher. Almost daily I'm asked by my students if I am married, if I will get married, do I have children, have I ever thought of adoption, do I have a boyfriend. I always thought the marriage question was sexist because they perceive that women have to be married, especially as a teacher. I think the question of having children is either because that is expected of women (sexist) or they like to imagine what kind of parent I would be to them. All of this I think of as sexist and I challenge their perceptions. After listening to the presentation, I will add a question -do you ask male teachers the same questions and if not then why not?

[@juslmao5683]

I watch this video every year & I'm still blown away by how much Nigeria is similar to Kenya. The number of dislikes on this video is evidence how important feminism is.

[@pieynot9084]

Any argument against feminism is proof of why we need it? I don't understand your logic.

[@wycliffepoet5201]

​@@pieynot9084it makes perfect sense

[@joan98610]

This woman is an amazing writer. All her fiction and non-fiction is AMAZING

[@nancystitt1364]

What an absolute queen, loved this!!!!

[@juliz2500]

I love this. One of my favorite TED talks. Also enjoyed her books a lot. She is really on point!

[@yalda8005]

I love how the people on the comments are making fun of this through a screen while sitting on their couch with potato chips and a Starbucks they only bought to take an Instagram of And she is up there, who started as a child in Nigeria, and now is standing on a stage giving a TED talk But they are making fun of her? Wow

[@gabrielafernandesgallieta4200]

gente, esse discurso foi feito há um tempo, inclusive já virou livro. foi feito por uma escritora africana renomada, cujos livros já foram traduzidos para várias línguas. é um discurso incrível, diga-se de passagem. Como é possível que tenha mais dislikes do que likes? essas pessoas que deram dislike sequer assistiram ao vídeo? ou fizeram isso simplesmente pelo título? de qualquer forma, isso mostra como discursos assim são necessários. Machistas não passarão!

[@idm1991]

*OKAY* I just finished watching the whole video. I wonder why the video has so many dislikes...even when I first opened it around 10 minutes after it was uploaded....weird! *Anyway*, I like how the speaker pointed out the cultural barriers both men and women face, and how it's seen as "that's how our culture is" rather than "we don't think this is right and we should change it" type of thinking...seeing how "cultural" things are defined by the people, not the other way around. Overall, I'd say this is worth watching as it addresses problems both genders have in our current societies, and it also gives us an idea of how different cultures (Nigerian in the speakers case) see genders, and how toxic it can be. The part about how "big rules" are given to men in the past based on physical attributes (for wars and whatnot) is an interesting bit that I've never heard about before. *I'd advise anyone who's hesitant to watch this because of dislikes to do so.* And to you who disliked it without watching...try listening first before automatically disliking for no reason. It just might give you a new perspective on things you didn't think of before.

[@guidoferri8683]

Please, tell me what specific part of the video you didn't like, I'm curious

[@owuinator1326]

Where she said for all the Nigerians here

[@kabil1994]

@@owuinator1326 hhahahahha

[@HansTheGreatestApocPlayer]

where she said the word feminism

[@xyzasdfg1567]

wow. i loved this speach. she made her point very clear without leaving the struggles for men out. she talkt about men and women being equal and expressing their feelings and passions equally. I thought the comments are about people agreeing with her because she talked about mens issues in society, too. how can you say women try to take mens power away? did you even listen? this is not what this is about? it is very hard for me to understand that so many people do not understand even though it is for their benefit...

[@swimgirl24]

Yes, only men and women together can create a world of gender equality. I'm proud to be a feminist and to be marrying a feminist. Some people seem to be scared of the word feminist even though they support gender equality. Let's bind together and not fight over a stupid word.

[@karlielynds]

It's so heartbreaking to me that a woman can be so articulate, so brilliant and (I'm sorry) chest-beating dumb men say "uuuuugh no" and they're respected more. This culture is sad.

[@JeSsE10mCcOy11]

So I'm dumb because I disagree, huh? If I flipped the coin and said what you said, everybody would tear me apart

[@swaroop2518]

Many feminists are saying here that men have no problems and they are most privileged persons. OK so IF you want to know about men problems so listen CAREFULLY. i will elaborate. first of all i want to say that- I know really well what are the real issues of women and we should fight with them also. but i will elaborate men issue here because generally most people are unaware of it and ignore it. i am a guy and i completely believe in equality. i hate all kind of discrimination of anyone on any useless grounds. a lot of men also faces a lot of problems like misandry(men bashing), fake accusations for rape and dowry and violence, but no one believes them and everyone considers that women are always right. mostly men are the human beings who faces police brutality, get killed at war.etc . there are many men whose whole life got ruined by fake accusations because everyone believes them to be wrong and women are always right. suicide rates of men are double than women. women are given reservation in almost every field. ALL hard threatening works like cleaning sewers etc are done by men. according to many surveys which you can search yourself on internet says that 25 percent of domestic voilence victims are men. but have you ever heard any news of this?? i know women faces more violence but that doesn't mean that you should ignore men's problems. generally people laugh when a men faces abuse by women and women is praised for that san said to be strong. but the opposite is considered to be evil by men. why this double standards. violence with both the genders are wrong. on public if a men slaps women then it is evil but opposite is funny and everyone will support women. why? see proofs in social experiments- kzbin.info/www/bejne/fZTGdIqllMqNmtk kzbin.info/www/bejne/jn_ViKiQi5idoNk kzbin.info/www/bejne/a6GvYX2njL6lZqc kzbin.info/www/bejne/mqW5eaGQjZ14a5I in movies and serials and songs also abuse against men by women is considered funny. MOST OF THE COURT LAWS are women BIASED, whether they are rape laws or domestic violence laws or marriage laws. do you know if a men takes divorce then he have to give up alimony and child custody to women due to this if men faces violence then he can't even take divorce in fear of these laws. there are many cases where women uses these laws as an opportunity to earn money. women have at least laws and reservations but men haven't any of these. if some one says all women are powerful he is right but if someone says men are powerful or both are powerful then he will face a lot of backlashes. women receive respect in general but men only get respect if they are rich. women are taught to be proud of themselves and men are taught to respect women and improve to to match women's status. if you will ever try to respectfully criticize a women then you are said to be misogynistic and everyone will say you "respect women". and even if a women abuses you, everyone will still support her. every time society says that you cant hit a girl but they are ok if you hit a boy. women in first sight are never considered to be criminal but boys are considered to be criminal. in schools also we are always taught that women are superior and smarter than men. punishments in our schools and in most schools are very harder for boys but girls are never given any punishments. in my opinion, intelligence depends on person to person and from field to field. Generalization of any gender is bad. Violence and abuse with every gender is bad. Respect should be given to all genders equally. at last i want to say that i know that women suffer more due to patriarchal mentality but ignoring men problem due to this doesnt make any sense. sorry if i have offended you because i am not a toxic person.

[@holypicklesmofo]

....wait, why are people disliking this? She seems really cool and the talk is awesome.

[@andreconceicao9237]

She is amazing. I loved her books.

[@seakingslicer2417]

Before you dislike I reccomend watching it through before assuming shes the majority. I really think the reason humanity is so unbalanced is because of putting someone in the majority the majority makes feminism look like Riots and men hate but really feminism is advocating womans rights.

[@geethug6910]

I keep hearing how women are paid so much less. I worked 12 hour days with one day off ever 2 to 3 weeks for months on end to learn as much as I could. I moved up several positions and started a business. All my women supervisors complain about working over 48 hours a week and dont want to go on installs. Men at the top are a very small fraction of people willing to sacrifice so much for work. I worked so many of my kids birthdays and have been out of the country for more wedding anniversaries than home. This woman just sounds so out of touch with the real world that she doesnt understand the mechanism at play. I am constantly looking for people. I would hire every woman that walked the door with a bonus if they put in the hours we require. They just dont want to sacrifice so much of their life for work.

[@jes8432]

love how most dont even bother to watch the video but automatically assume its gonna be stupid very open minded.

[@theaterguy720]

I don't understand why people are so quick to say we shouldn't do something because it directly opposes the views of society. So many times when you talk about sexual assault or sexual harassment people will say that it is expected because, "that's what happens when you put woman and man together". They say it like it isn't worth trying to solve the problem. We all have been gifted with free will and control our impulses, so why should it be okay for someone to sexually assault someone, or harass them, even if they are your significant other. Men (not all, but those that think as i just described) especially need to start thinking of women as humans, that means trying to find a middle ground with them on all issues, and trying to see the world critically in their eyes rather than dismissing their problems immediately. Really what i'm trying to say is that men tend to dismiss the problems of women more than what should be, because either they don't try to understand or because men benefit more from dismissing their ideas and this really needs to stop! To all men who read this and disagree; Mature up and understand that a weak mind is one that listens to their impulses rather than reason.

[@calllen]

if you watch the whole video she isn't wrong at all, and she focuses on men issues just as much as female issues, don't dislike the video please

[@alexandertheurer4618]

Media intrusion has completely ruined what feminism truly is, it's also horrific how people dislike the video and connect this brilliant woman to the ignorant women you see in triggering videos. This video does not target men or gloat about women, it is a truly neutral video. Also, if you believe feminism doesn't have a place anymore then you need to put down your phone and go experience the real world, where gender gaps are so apparent. I personally do not identify as a feminist, I don't feel it necessary to label oneself under a cause, but I am convinced there are too many preconceptions of how men and women are supposed to behave within society. And she is right it needs to change 👍🏻

[@dentondeckgaming4751]

Which world buddy, I would really like to know.

[@alexandertheurer4618]

The real world? You did read my comment haha?

[@UltraRik]

The talk is actually really good guys watch before rating

[@marisabel5500]

@Gaz your loss.

[@mikaildt]

Gender equality should not be called femism anymore. Femism has a whole new meaning 2017...

[@ludvigthebirb7131]

Mikail Yilmaz thats the comment i have been looking for

[@is0zy]

Found the feminazi.

[@hihihi45ify]

Mikail Yilmaz not really

[@corkhead0]

Nope. Still means gender equality. You shouldn't let misogynists define what feminism means.

[@mikaildt]

corkhead0 you have a point but they've spoiled it beyond recovery

[@angiedaza123]

Imagine how much happier we would be how much freer to be our individual selves if we didn't have the weight of gender expectations... This speech was powerful and inspirational, thank you very much Chimamanda.

[@daniels.os.]

Some men are just afraid of a woman that is not afraid of them. Some men just don't want women to confront their views. Some men are just afraid of a woman talking them straight to the eyes, equal-equal. Some men are just afraid. Some men are just not enough men.

[@rnrose1922]

Oh please TED, don't pay attention to those stupid people! Keep up fighting for a better world please! Thank you again for this great video!

[@therainbowlyon9980]

@Cole DeBeer I agree, that red-pill ted talk was so cringey

[@erikduvald6703]

I LOVE feminism! 💗 It has made my life SO much easier. - I don't need to open the door, pull out the chair, pay for the date, pay for any gifts, comfort her when she is sad, lend her my jacket if she is cold, listen to her boring stories, repair her car, house or appliances, or give her ANY special treatment at all. I don't need to be sweeter, kinder or softer to her, than I would be to the hardest men I have ever known. It is absolutely awesome! I can treat women EXACTLY as I would treat a Russian oil rig worker, and if women don't like it, there is nothing they can do about it. They cannot even complain, because this is equal treatment! I do not have to do ANYTHING for women, that I would not do for a coal miner, or lumberjack. It is absolutely fantastic! Feminism has saved me SO much time and money. I LOVE feminism!!

[@MultiLangerhans]

I'm just blown away by the comment section in this video... It only reinforces the fact that we DO still need feminists and feminism

[@samkowing9728]

I never thought about it this way... thanks for changing my view.

[@susannefruhling9559]

What an amazing person and author! I loved the talk and all the hate this video is getting is completely unjustified!

[@kellysaunders7155]

This is a beautiful talk; full of kindness, love, reason, and inclusivity.

[@Future_Pheonix]

Excellent talk, and an excellent speaker, very charismatic and charming too. She brought up a lot of good points, but I'd like to refer to one in particular. 14:54 -in my language "husband" also means "owner", and in my country the establishment in control of marriage and divorce treats women as inferior and insignificant beings. For example men are the ones who give permission for divorce. I've even seen cases in which even after some men had left their wives to have other families abroad, so long as they refused a divorce(for their own selfish reasons), their wives would not be granted divorce and can't remarry and have all sorts of rights. These women are known here as "divorce refused(women)" (not sure how else to translate it). According to said establishment, that's fine, because a woman who cheated has committed adultery (the literal term is "has whored", for a lack of a valid term\word in English) and a man who cheated "has tripped". They are(that establishment) also very good at taking a lot of money from people. For a lot of my own reasons, I never wanted to get married anyway(find a partner, find mutual love, maybe even live with them, sure. But not marry), but it's things like this that make it seem even more pointless to me, I feel like even if I'd gain a few more rights, I'd also be selling a part of my soul and existing rights to them, so thanks, but no thanks.

[@joshuasaliba7826]

This video is great, I am saddened by the amount of dislikes this video has. It further displays the need for this video to exist

[@mellobabey1668]

I really loved this talk. Being a young nigerian american woman myself, I really look up to her. Keep doing great sis!!❤️❤️

[@davidsw92]

I view women and men as being equals--neither gender being inherently superior to the other--however, I can't help but feel guarded against this movement whenever it is brought up. I feel that feminism spends more time condemning me for being an oppressor and a villain rather than include me, a man, as a complimentary and essential counterpart to women, within the human race and of society. Men and women both ultimately desire equality and and even playing field--I just can't see feminism ever being successful when all I hear about is 'the injustices women receive from the villainous, power hungry men, who need to be cast down.' That said, I think Chimamanda brings up some very interesting points in this talk, and does so without so much of the condemning nature I hear from so many others. I was surprised when I finished this video, that it had received so many dislikes.

[@marisabel5500]

Well you are, by defenition, a feminist. However many people out there have plagued the meaning of it unfortunately and tainted the name in to something it isn't. It is true that so many atrocities, statistically and culturally, happen more to women/children in the world, usually done by other men, but ofcourse women are also involved, but statistically less. Of course the highest problem is the one that needs more focus, but that should never exclude men. But ask yourself, do people in your surroundings listen more to what a man has to say? Or a woman? Or does gender ever matter? Analyse that in you surroundings and you'll see. Do we treat women and men differently? If so, how? And why?

[@jliever1785]

I actually loved this, you are awesome. great talk!

[@s2hp]

Her point comes across as smooth as butter. Preach girl, preach!❤️

[@joannot6706]

*What you are doing is amazing and you are raising important points and questions!* Thank you :)

[@adampickard9880]

my favourite TEd talker

[@MariamTheAlien]

Everyone who disliked without watching I'm convinced is less than intelligent because to generalise with pre existing feelings from the title is to be taken with crowd and lacking in personal curiosity

[@dragonbones3885]

Assuming makes an donkey of only you sir.

[@JeSsE10mCcOy11]

@@dragonbones3885 good one!

[@davidpar2]

MARIAM good thing your virtue signals aren’t worth squat, babe...

[@aleschalupa64]

I dislike that because I don't have any respect this propaganda bullshit

[@damrong3444]

if boys said this girls would flip

[@greigmonkpics]

Excellent work!!! Great great presentation. Strangely I was just speaking on this. I am a man but this opened my eyes a little more. Funny but poignant.

[@bigpiratelive]

An erudite speaker brings up important issues for both genders... but everyone just came to dislike it and then left without watching it. Are people stupid?! This was a great talk!

[@tusharvaswani8588]

I totally support feminism.!! And I agree with all the things, she said.! Yes, I am feminist.! Men have to come up to do for feminism

[@JeSsE10mCcOy11]

Why should men come up to feminism?

[@tusharvaswani8588]

@@JeSsE10mCcOy11 why should not?

[@JeSsE10mCcOy11]

@@tusharvaswani8588 read it again: FEMinism

[@tusharvaswani8588]

@@JeSsE10mCcOy11 the word feminsim has no relation with any gender..!! It is the name of mentality that women should also get each basic right, thats it.!

[@JeSsE10mCcOy11]

@@tusharvaswani8588 women? Women only?

[@dusanpetrovic2720]

I found this to be a well put, well presented and amusing speech about something you could label as gender equality if you really have to label things. I'd prefer not. And shame on everyone who came, made a negative comment or disliked and left.

[@johnfortner357]

Despite the abundance of hate for this video, I suggest giving it a chance. This speaker was enjoyable to watch, and is not representative of the negative side of feminism. I stand behind the message of this video 100%.

[@MrGdog11]

It's certainly sad to see people so opposed to any idea that conflicts with their current view. This is an idea worth sharing, it may be uncomfortable to some of us at first, but we must open up to it or at least give it thorough consideration.

[@rhyolite_777]

The original video of this had 5M views with nearly 150K likes, a positively acclaimed one. The fact that this excerpt has so much downvotes and lack of views in this date in time is morbidly alarming.

[@swimgirl24]

One of the most famous speeches on gender equality. ❤️

[@Paganel75]

People are what is in their head and heart, not between the legs.

[@supershinigami1]

how about u all actually listen to it first?

[@debashrutichakraborty6840]

not even once did she say anything bad about men. still there are men who hit the dislike button because of their fragile male ego. It's sad really to see that.

[@lurud7613]

This woman inspires me.

[@burrito7650]

I'm not big on 3rd wave feminism but I really enjoy her TED Talks!

[@katecoll2519]

Published author making good points. What's up about the hate?

[@joevaldez2107]

Love this woman. Funny and good points. Unfortunate that the title got so many dislikes. It's misleading

[@mrrohitjadhav470]

If feminism is about equality, it would be called EQUALITY.

[@dylansolay1903]

that's embarrassing. shuhhh !! 🤫

[@guguinha280564]

There's so much more things that worth fight for, that only gender equality. Feel sorry for her, for so many negative commentarys and dislikes, hope she use these episode to rethinking and go even further in her conception.

[@beautyfiend83]

I love her! great topic as well!

[@magdarose4629]

Wow, this is an amazing talk! She is great!

[@davidmuch6440]

She's a Genius!

[@jordangreen7567]

I love TED talks but i'd suggest that you all post your comments before they block the comment section on this video in a day are two.

[@RyeinGoddard]

How about we all are just humans and we treat each other with dignity and respect and drop all these labels that separate people?

[@brendanmorin9935]

If you think feminism divides people then you must not be treating ppl with as much respect as you think you are

[@leomignonneau1765]

@@brendanmorin9935 Brendan Morin Please clarify. How does him thinking that labels seperate people mean that he doesn't respect other people enough?

[@josephyang4997]

She addressed that in her talk. We cannot just treat people as people because clearly some people suffer more discrimination and oppression than others. This is the same argument people use when they say all lives matter.

[@brendanmorin9935]

Joseph Yang say it louder!! You’re so right

[@swaroop2518]

@@brendanmorin9935 so should we respect women more than men and give them more good things than men. Or should we treat everyone equally????

[@adeabon4973]

Greatly illuminating presentation! Thanks for sharing your genius on a very important topic. Life gets better with more empathy.

[@maryal.9208]

My favorite ted speech of all time; she touches on the movement so well and explains the issue while also considering intersectionality as a factor -- brilliant.

[@user-rg7uz8of9r]

Using the word intersectionality makes you know what you're talking about, right?

[@silkyjay869]

if this is your favorite ted speech of ALL TIME then you need to watch some more damn videos. I'm embarrassed for you.

[@thedude7319]

Look people like jargon to sound to know what they talk about but this is almost always wrong because if someone knows about something truly they can explain it without jargon and in ever reducing complexity. Like a great teacher

[@davidmenezes7903]

lol gay

[@ChidochaMwari28_]

I read this book and i can relate to a lot of the incidents articulated. Just today ,i quoted one of the phrases in the book and i got in trouble for it. The points are rational if you interpret the video from a gender equality point of view. Keep winning Chimamanda!

[@stevenledingham5004]

This is an excellent presentation. Honest and thought provoking about a universal world problem that places all manner of burdens on woman and sustains the unreal culture of male masculinity.

[@marcelloursic424]

ATTENTION ALL: Alright, I gave this video a go even with all the dislikes and it was quite good. It was informative, engaging, and drew from the speaker's life experiences. I'm not looking for a flamewar or a long argument, but please enlighten me into why you disliked the talk. PLEASE DON'T BOTHER REPLYING IF YOU HAVE NOT WATCHED THE VIDEO thanks!

[@dylanpatera4440]

why are people disliking this? I really don't get what people find offensive or "bad" about this video, she's just explaining gender equality, why would anyone take issue with that?

[@chareliza5259]

Dylan Patera because they are ignorant and crave to be edgy because they're boring

[@alexandrebolot1338]

Because they should have named it "gender equality" instead of "feminism". And also, most people are subscribed to TED because they want Science and New Technologies. This is why they complain about this video

[@1234oni1234]

It's exactly as Alexandre Bolot says. the term"feminism" itself is problematic. Feminism nowadays does not discriminate between equality and privilege for women. They, in fact, do not even recognise the latter, nor do they see the necessity for men to have rights, but they make groups that claim that all men are rapists and exploit the term of rape to mean any possible contact or glance (by men only of course). Feminism has become discriminating itself, but does not publicly acknowledge this. So, bad choice to promote feminism as a whole.

[@mostump1362]

J M Schmidt nice generalization of a movement you know nothing about

[@1234oni1234]

+Mo Gunn I've taken several feminist courses at university and spoken with feminists in feminist forums and in person, too. Mo Gunn, it's easy to tell people that they don't know anything if you don't bring up any arguments yourself. I don't see any feminist out there saying that men are not the only rapists, that women can be abusive too, that feminism used to claim equality and now claim privileges for themselves on a political level. While Wollstonecraft wrote fiction portrayed women imprisoned without any solid evidence into asylums by their husbands ("The Wrongs of Woman"), today women advocate the same treatment for their husbands (courts in Israel and some in America do not allow any defence to husbands accused of sexual abuse - they are automatically condemned). Men have to pay for their children, but are not allowed as often custody. Courts charge lesser punishments on women than on men for the same crimes. Domestic violence on men is not acknowledged, and yet feminists around the world have the audacity to claim to fight for equality. Where are the feminists when it comes to these issues? No, feminism looks for equality only when it can gain something out of it. Playing always the "victim card" for their own rights, they have simply become abusive.

[@padenzimmermann1892]

13:12 the applause break and the cheering for this line is absolutely seeping in irony.

[@Vixctor13]

Did anyone watch the video or did they just read the title and give it a thumbs down?

[@TalexxAltava]

I think I'm in love.

[@davidmenezes7903]

I think your gay

[@therainbowlyon9980]

@@davidmenezes7903 being attracted to women? Idk bro that's pretty gay /s