Chinese Wedding Customs (三書六禮 - Three Letters & Six Etiquettes)

Thinking of doing a traditional Chinese wedding? Then you would need to follow 三書六禮 (three letters and six etiquettes). These are the steps followed by Chinese people throughout history.
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[@Eclipse807]

I've been to five weddings during my time in China. I even played a song in one wedding. And in my neighbors wedding, I got to see behind the scenes (from the brides side) b/c she asked to borrow my apartment to help house guests.

[@TheInfinityPrincess]

I would like to see a video about the rituals! I love learning about the culture aspects of China. Thanks for your informative videos!

[@MuhammadArshad-tc2bw]

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[@fizzysherbetfun]

Wow I didn't know it wasn't this complicated, I love how you make these videos so we all learn about our culture and customs. Seriously I don't think my parents even know some of these customs. On a side note, your dress is so pretty!

[@FilipinaHoneyTV]

I just married a Chinese man.. :) I am now a YAP.. But we kept it as a Filipino/American wedding. Nice video! I learned a lot!

[@GenevieveAutumn]

Thank you so much for uploading this! LOL I didn't realise how much goes into it, I knew a few of the customs but not all of these, please upload more so that when my Chinese bf does propose I can have a traditional wedding lol just hope I remember everything! :)

[@kauemoura]

Your videos have been the most informational videos I've seen on youtube. :D

[@hiei1290]

I think this informative focus is a good choice! Since the videos are short, you can keep our attention while also presenting info without distractions. By the way, PLEASE do more videos detailing the wedding process! And maybe something recommending a few trusted vendors for wedding products?

[@denderfurger]

oh! i had to follow some of this steps with my wife when we got married , even some things like my wife had to eat rice before i walked her out from here home with a red umbrella, and things like this and all the red envelopes was confusing to me first but i think i got a hang of it in the end. So now i'm a happy married Swede married to a wonderful Chinese wife from GD.

[@cristinawong5856]

What about the more modern HK customs of the groom "knocking through the door", where the bridesmaids not only play games and tricks, but requests large sums of money. i.e. $9,999. My poor Caucasian brother-in-law never knew what hit him

[@taransage]

Went through some of this ... interesting to hear it explained! My wife is Chinese and I am American

[@tatya8044]

I just love your channel! I am so happy I stumbled upon it. I am a Anthropology student. I have to do a research paper on Traditional Chinese Culture in my Family Kin & Groups class. I was looking for Traditional Chinese wedding practices and found this video. Then I started watching more of your videos. I love them all. I will probably eventually watch them all. I even know what you mean in a lot of them because in Middle School when I lived in California, my best friend was Chinese. We always tried to get paired to do projects together and I would go to her house all the time after school. Her parents were a lot like you describe. Her mom was always making us eat food. I mean talk about afternoon snack. It was like a pre-dinner dinner. I remember we are at the table and she ask how many eggs I want. I said one please. And she put two and said. You eat two. It is good for you. She would always give me double of what I said I wanted. ha ha I was never able to eat dinner when I went home. Well I would really like to learn even more about Chinese weddings. The rituals. :-) Thank you for sharing your culture with the world. :-)

[@margaritagutierrez2504]

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[@GenevieveAutumn]

This is brilliant! Thank you, although I know a lot of your videos are for comedy, the informative side of them is priceless for me as I am dating a Chinese man and hope to marry him one day and so with me being white I have a lot to learn about Chinese culture and I want to embrace it all and pass it on to my children and these videos help so much! So a BIG THANK YOU! And I hope you are able to make many more for many years to come!

[@juq6971]

So..? update? - the comment section wizards

[@verledenmoos]

I was on a half european-half chinese wedding this month, we also had a tea ceremony before the wedding ceremony :)

[@kesia10123]

I remember after the wedding (I believe) they would go back to the bride's house and make the grooms and his friends show some silly act or do something funny so that they could go into the house. Will never forget that since my neighbors would do that for their 3 daughters...

[@LadyFlameSniper]

Yes please do a longer one. I'd love to see it.

[@pekkle0724]

Wow heard these terms here and there but never knew what they mean till now. Love ur vid, I always learn something new

[@scott59405]

This is really fascinating. I would like to see as many videos on this as you can make!

[@hiei1290]

YES! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO MORE VIDEOS WITH MORE DETAILS! Specifically on the ceremony :)

[@enaj4]

I would love to see a video on modern Chinese wedding rituals! My sister did a tea ceremony but that's all I know.

[@darkflower21]

Please explain it all further, so so interesting! I love yor videos guys.

[@boinkidyboink]

Yeah. I always see that when a family member gets married. For my family, the tea ceremony starts with the bride and grooms mother and father then from eldest to youngest.

[@jaqlynbentz8603]

I would love to see a video more about modern wedding traditions! Thanks, you guys are awesome!

[@NTDOffTheGreatWall]

Thanks for your feedback! I think we were just focused to try to condense as much information as possible in a short time so it may come across as all facts. We will try to incorporate our humour in whenever we can. But I think for RMVs it will still have more of an educational focus than our other videos.

[@MsMostlysunny]

Love your videos! Very helpful for us ABC's to get back to our roots!

[@SirAgravaine]

Definitely want more info on modern Chinese weddings!

[@vivusloh]

Maybe you can even delve into how different dialects/regions of China have slight difference in the type of gifts etc for marriage

[@awkwardk28]

Yes please describe the meanings of the different gifts!

[@james22442]

Wow this is very interesting!! It's good learning more about the heritage I never got to learn. Thank you so much!

[@daegudiva]

Carmen!!! You made this video 7 years ago, but it is new to me😎 I find Traditions so fascinating. BTW, speaking of old content: I loved when you played the most adorable "Cat Woman" and Dan was a lactose intolerant Bat Man. Also the Kung Fu melodrama is another favorite.

[@NTDOffTheGreatWall]

You’re just going through all the old vids! Thanks for watching

[@AndromedaAiken]

Would be interested in seeing the different gifts as well!!

[@CaustosSeraphim]

Would definitely love to hear all the details! I'm also curious what sort of difficulties there might be if a foreigner (man or woman) is interested in a native Chinese. Thinking more if they were in China themselves, more so than the potential ease of bending the rules in the US or another country. Would parents approve of their child marrying a foreign woman or man more? And is the stereotype fairly true, that they would object fairly forcefully to it?

[@xbarbiepink]

Please do more chinese wedding related videos!

[@lillogadget]

The modern version would be great- looking forward to it thanks

[@tuffy82]

Would love to see a video about the tea ceremony!

[@MsCuteBuzz]

I'd love to see the videos you mentioned ^_^ Thumbs up !!

[@Sriwanti]

oh yes if u r chinese u do it that way.. i'm chinese and i'm also the 4th generation to live in Indonesia (never been to China). I went thru all those for my wedding :)

[@godsakes]

I know not every video can have high production values but there is good material here for a sketch. I'm thinking puzzled boyfriend catching gease in the park, bribing the fortune teller to say their number match then in the end saying getting fed up and calling it off

[@JenniferJiang2013]

Please explain it further, its so so interesting! I love your videos!

[@bigbong9453]

I had been given the assignment to make a presentation on Chinese traditional Marriage, I actually need to know the difference between the ancient and modern steps of marriage for Chinese people etc

[@alliearnold59]

PLEASE make more!

[@mirjamleesalu5188]

That's such a pretty dress, Carmen :) Chinese weddings seem crazy - too many traditions and rituals...

[@virivasquez7587]

more videos on this especially on modern rituals....p.s. Sounds like a lot of work

[@sweetgirl1106]

yes do the modern version please!

[@sasutomato]

I wanna see more please please please. I wanna see Chinese wedding dresses too :) plwwwwwweaasee

[@perlavazquez8148]

realy like thi video is verry imformative and interesting

[@MyStuffedRabbit]

Ha. Lucky I am Chinese American. Born in Taiwan grew up in the U.S.

[@bobalaicha]

I wanna see modern Chinese rituals!! Please make a video, thanks :D

[@hiei1290]

Agreed!

[@ronnelshepherd5184]

I love Asian cultures

[@chrisxtine]

This is great!! I needed this because I'm getting married next year :)

[@JLun-wk2ff]

Very good videos, funny and informative

[@MikeTrieu]

Please please please! More Chinese wedding videos! My brother got married in China, but we're wondering what the traditional customs are when she comes here to the States =)

[@SYSan86]

Thankssss it is so informative!

[@michaelhongng]

You guys, it's actually EXTREMELY expensive. I saw somewhere that the average wedding in China is $30,000 USD. When I told my aunt that lives in Shanghai, she said that that number was completely wrong, and that my cousin's upcoming wedding is going to cost more than $100,000 USD. My mom said that they spend their whole lives saving up for this kind of stuff..

[@robertrahardja]

Love your videos. Keep it up! :)

[@chloechang8810]

You should do Chinese birth traditions!! Apparently when I was born my mum didn't wash her hair for a whole month. Please do more chinese traditions/legends, I always learn from you guys! Always learn from you guys! XD

[@alliearnold59]

That would be great!

[@Peachie0583]

loved the video!! ditto on doing the second part!! Thanks!

[@GenevieveAutumn]

Oh yes and please do a Cantonese one lol for those of us that will need to speak it on our wedding day! ;)

[@oliverli1486]

nice job!

[@kachaka17]

Please do the modern version!

[@raymondzhao6015]

I never understood the ceremony of Chinese weddings... Thanks for the info!

[@fred10418]

great information, thank you

[@BeautyWithin]

I also heard that the girl's family has to give the guy family gifts as a way of saying "sorry to trouble u, since u will need to look after my daughter from now on"

[@augustterran]

One more thing guys , Chinese from around e world comes fom different clans n dialect groups , so diff groups will have different kind of wedding customs ....Ty

[@SpringOfYuki]

My favourite part about chinese weddings is the part right before the groom can see the bride. (the bridesmaids get in the way lol) will you include that in the next vid?

[@P3arlJang]

Your dress is so pretty! :)

[@DragontacosLMAO]

Please make more Chinese wedding-related videos ^^ thank you

[@haoweishi1340]

Its so sad that this doesn't happen much anymore in china cos its all westernised

[@minnwong3004]

What a nice video ...

[@d0cipx]

forgot so many things! What about the games (& the 999/all nines rule), the small roasted pig, the bride & groom toasting at every table, the candles, the red umbrella!

[@marilynnguyen3176]

Did they ever do any of these other informational videos about Chinese weddings, bc I will watch them all

[@Livelovelaughlila]

@_@ so many traditions and rituals. i always see them on tvb dramas!

[@miriammerin]

More!

[@GenevieveAutumn]

Yes please, that would help people like me in a relationship with a Cantonese Chinese. Thanks :)

[@NaughtyNinjaBears]

have a big thumbs up. please elaborate!

[@NTDOffTheGreatWall]

wow.... you literally read our minds.... we already recorded a video about this. HAHA! It will be up soon, stay tuned! ;)

[@jenchen1873]

love your vids :)

[@rebeccao9712]

I'm really interested in the modern wedding customs! But I hear they also differ by region/province :O!

[@XiaoKyonko]

More! I want to know more about these things! I'm too ignorant cause my parents didn't know and couldn't tell me much either..

[@anniehua2967]

Do the modern version!!

[@randomfreakXP]

Can you guys do a reenactment of the whole wedding? :3 Also can you include the part where the bride gets ready and I heard the father needs to comb the hair of his daughter. Please :3 pretty please :3

[@raymondzhao6015]

Can you guys do BTS (behind the scenes) on all your skits, or most of them, because i wanna see you guys making it.

[@Saphira4Q]

very informative. is done here in the US?

[@belencucci]

huge thumbs up!

[@charlenemayers7806]

I would like to know more about the other traditions during the ceremony and wedding presents :)

[@chenvivianxinwei5353]

I really like your videos!! Can you make a video about Cheongsam?

[@TalulaBell84]

I would love to know more of the details!!

[@ruisu6010]

Modern version please :D

[@biology165582379]

Carmen is so pretty!!! :)

[@maiiitje]

I would like to know the do's and dont on à Chinese wedding. Like giving à gift in à white envelop.

[@LittleAmyHe]

I want to know everything! :D thank you

[@ICatchTheStars]

is Carmen from GuangZhou? Her mandarin is good!

[@fergustam8935]

Chinese wedding is way more than that..... You should do a whole video on the whole wedding procedure, it would take 3 hours to explain...

[@henrymucci]

For some english learners like me, it would be perfect if the video subtitled. Hope u guys can work it out!

[@NTDOffTheGreatWall]

we will work on it

[@henrymucci]

Off the Great Wall Cheers

[@LarryYork]

Off the Great Wall likewise subtitled with pinyin under the characters! now i feel bad my wife and i skipped half of these. her parents are very accepting of me though and we had a nice ceremony in her home village where they 'gave her away' to me. like giving the hongbao to gain entrance, finding her shoes, eating an egg! i felt really good to share that with them. i wonder if i can still give them these letters next time i see them just for fun?

[@matleboss94]

please do go on with this theme :D

[@WittyKittyRitzy]

Any videos for western women/men on impressing the Chinese parents?

[@andrewmediauk]

If you actually want to see a Chinese wedding in China - check out "The Ultimate China Vlog BTGW Season 2 Episode 3" and skip to 2:27 in the vid ^.^

[@NTDOffTheGreatWall]

Actually the gifts are a lot of food and household auspicious stuff...so it's not too expensive, will make a video so you can see.

[@miniClover1]

can you please make a video on the birth date/ 8 letter?

[@howaama11]

What are the wedding traditions like in Hong Kong? I have a Hong Kong boyfriend so I'm very curious to know~ :) thank you~