Finding Hope After Losing a Child

[@mnshorten]

I’m so sorry you lost your daughter. I lost my son in 2005 to a severe heart defect. I can totally relate to this story. I had a blessing given to me and I wasn’t told by the Spirit “Your son will live.” Instead I had this overwhelming feeling of comfort that no matter what happened my son would be okay, and that I would be okay. Now he’s in Heaven waiting for me. And I can’t wait to meet him there. Bless you and your family.

[@jacquiday4489]

Monique Shorten thank you for these wonderful words , I lost my son when he was 9 week and 5 days old over 30 yr ago , reading your words has helped me , once again thanks

[@sarahbucket8037]

Aw bless you honey x

[@gladec3896]

Thanks for your testimony. I'm so sorry for your temporary loss. Man's search for happiness helps me. Though old the Spirit and message really help me. I too have felt that Comfort. Thanks for reminding me of that. God bless you

[@debjr45]

I’m sorry for ur loss I was born that year Bless you and your family and sharing ur loss

[@Cimfamlover]

Monique Shorten message from 14 old young men me Rest In Peace you’re son

[@thatonetallguy9586]

I haven't cried in over 5 years. I weeped at this because I too have a daughter! God is kind to us all, we just needed to see his kindness.

[@novellacauley1483]

Thank you for sharing your wonderful testimony with us. We in our family have lost young ones and the pain is very real but Heavenly Father Love helps us through.

[@mohammadkabbani8786]

Sorry for your loss, never lose faith in the Lord! For his plan is always in our favor. Whether we see that or not, the Lord truly works in mysterious ways.

[@tiialahde]

😇 Helou. Auuja

[@maddieheninger3120]

I am so thankful for this beautiful message:) Sending My Prayers💕

[@ABurraHobbit]

I can't say I know what it's like to lose a child, but I do know that a trial such as that could easily cause one to leave their faith, and it's so strengthening to see this story, and how it strengthened your testimony in Christ. Thank you, for sharing your story

[@Gooch7714]

The amount of strength you have to share this story is amazing! God bless you

[@j.pearson6483]

Losing someone you love can be painful. It can challenge your faith. But, I know that our family and loved ones who have passed on can be close by. They are with us. We can see them again and be with them again. Just as this man expressed. Death is not the end. Seek The Lord. Stay close to Him. He will send peace.

[@jessicaroberds594]

losing your child is extremely painful. so painful that i now doubt

[@raquelcanas156]

ressurrection is part of our lives

[@kimberlytousley3450]

I just sobbed and felt such peace and healing watching this. I appreciate your vulnerability in sharing this sacred experience and your testimony. I was 2 months old when my 3 year old sister tragically passed away. My father said he had a similar experience before, knowing she was going to die. I love knowing I have an angel sister. I have felt her watching and protecting me from the other side. It doesn't change the past but it makes the present bearable. Truly sorry for the loss of your little girls life and her fight with cancer. Her story continues to inspire and motivate others to find peace and come unto Jesus.

[@joyfuljoyful6598]

Your testimony brought tears and pain to my heart, I am sorry for the loss of your gorgeous little girl, I can't imagine the pain and sorrow this has caused you, God bless you and your wife. Its comforting to know the Savior has her in his tender loving care.

[@cristinaortiz340]

Sending love to all who lost a loved one❤️

[@trinsicatolman930]

So sorry for your loss! It’s so true! Christ is there for us during our trials and when someone dies, it isn’t over. ❤️

[@dianegreen6142]

May Heavenly Father Guard, Guide, Bless & Protect You and Your Family Always Until You Are Reunited In His Presence.

[@lalalollypop2010]

Trinsica Tolman I know poor people I hope who ever haves it gets better

[@technokubix4473]

People who disliked the video they don't have soul and their life.I cried because of this story. ;( This is so sad and it's all true ;( I wish if there was chance for her ;( Thanks for showing us this story.

[@wolffang3044]

Me to, but remember there is hope! She is now with her heavenly father! :D

[@lizzyhall1551]

This video is so amazing. Everything happens for a reason 💖 thank you for sharing

[@melaniedelorme7728]

I'm so sorry for your loss. There really is nothing compared to losing a child! After my 8 year-old son was killed in a hunting accident, I found comfort in the stories of other bereaved parents. Knowing you are not alone is so helpful. Thank you for your video.

[@chrisa6455]

Thank you for sharing the story brought tears to my eyes

[@billonesardel5621]

Chris A me too

[@angfreeman28]

I needed this. Thank you Prayers for your family and sorry.

[@samibrockway4995]

This touches my heart in a special way cause I myself have had a brain tumor that caused me to have seizures and then I still have another tumor on my brainstem that still needs to be removed and I live in constant fear of another tumor growing that will end up being in a fatal place. I have a genetic disorder that causes tumors to grow anywhere on my body they can be inside or outside of my body. (Neurofibromatosis)

[@greatgrades3364]

praying for you Sami and let me tell you that I just felt that it was the most beautiful pray I have ever felt, my eyes were closed but I had a extraordinary vision and feeling peace, I felt Love, the most and great love ever, and I have a big and hot testimony of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, I love to be called mormon I love to read the Book of Mormon I Love my brother Jesus Christ I hope to do more even though I know I cannot, but it is just that He had done too much, that is why I want to pray for you, and I am sorry if you think that I am crazy or if I am corny but I know you are my sister because we both are daughters of Our Heavenly Father and I love my sisters and brothers, and this is weird for me but I am feeling so happy because I have the Gospel of Christ and I have no doubt it is real in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

[@rachelcoltrin4934]

D&C 121:7-9 " My son, peace be unto thy soul; thine adversity and thine afflictions shall be but a small moment; 8 And then, if thou endure it well, God shall exalt thee on high; thou shalt triumph over all thy foes. 9 Thy friends do stand by thee, and they shall hail thee again with warm hearts and friendly hands.". This is one of my favorite scriptures ever. I have a family member who has nerofiberomatosis type 2. I know that you must be really really strong even if you don't see it because God gave you this challenge because he knows only you CAN DO IT the way he wants it to be done.

[@kryssiewoo51]

This is giving me hope as I go through the loss of our angel Kei-Mahli last month. The hole is a gaping hole that seems like it is consuming you. I have gone through so many emotions with God and now it's like there is no more left but gratitude.

[@churchofjesuschrist]

Thanks for sharing your experience, Krystal. We are so sorry for your loss.

[@TK-ex4uk]

Thank U soooo very very much 4 sharing your story. I promise U god is alive & he listens & answers our prayers! I am sending prayers 2 U & your precious family. God bless U 💕💕💕

[@MissShadowheart101]

This story made me tear up so much. God does understand us unlike anyone else and I know that our spirits are eternal. We are so blessed. God doesn't give us perfect lives which is a common misconception but he promises to always be there for us. :)

[@leikanuiokalanituinei5921]

so sorry for your loss but that message was so inspiring and helpful because my mom actually has breast cancer and it has been very hard lately but now i know she will be ok ;)

[@alchapratama9220]

I'm an Atheist. But I could feel the love sparkling in our heart. No offense. Spread love immensely ❤.

[@sandylmcallister]

I am so sorry for your loss. To me that has been the greatest trial, tragedy and heartache is losing ones child. I look forward to the day that I will see them again. So grateful for the Lord's tender mercies. So thankful for the gospel plan!

[@kimsondrup5664]

This video just answered a question I have had for 38 years. In 1984, twelve hours after giving birth to our 4th child my husband was diagnosed with cancer. He had no symptoms, so we were taken completely by surprise. Eight months of fasting praying and Priesthood blessings followed. Everything pointed us in the direction of a full recovery. One priesthood blessing promised him that he would live to see his children raised to adulthood. He died 8 months later. I have often wondered and been asked why we were told in a blessing that he would live yet he died. When you said that you would have grieved too soon if you had known 14 months before your daughter’s death, I instantly knew that he why myself and our families spent the last 8 months of his life believing he would live. Thank you for providing that insight.

[@millyashby3419]

Beautiful words of wisdom spoken from you my brother and it comes from your heart to comfort each and everyone of us who has witness a precise child taking there first breath oh what joy it gives each and everyone of us that it fills our hearts with love joy happiness and sunshine but it saddens me to know that there is a child I won't have that privilege to see take that first breath and it gives me great pain Amen

[@joannemercader9346]

I thank you for your willingness to make and share. Just know this fact you will not ever get over it but you will get use to it. From my own loss of my much loved child I have learned there is those two silent and holy nights. That beautiful first breath. That final heartbroking breath. To outlive a child is almost sorrow unbelievable. LAMENTATION. peace. AGONY. JOY. i wish you the parent abd child reunion. That comforts me. You too i hope

[@Ray-lb4rc]

Normally i wouldn't cry so easily but when i was watching this video, i got an ad. It was about this and i just forgot about the video i was watching. Other bad-hearted people would've skipped this but this ACTUALLY brought tears to my eyes. I can Imagine losing a close family member...Her spirit will rise to god.. Im so sorry about what happened

[@jeaniemoore673]

I lost my oldest son 4 weeks ago. Luckily I had 39 wonderful years with him. I miss him everyday and I grieve for him. If it wasn't for the knowledge of knowing that I will not only see him again but be with him for eternity I would be truly lost! Thanks to our faith we have that knowledge so this is only a temporary set back. That's the way I have to look at it. This is only temporary. Our heavenly father knows best.

[@earthstranger14]

The book Bryan wrote about this story, Meant for Heaven, is absolutely beautiful.

[@jacquiday4489]

Thanks for sharing, sorry for your loss. I know the pain you go through my son died at 9 weeks 5 days, since I joined the church 11 yr ago I now know I will see have a chance to bring him up , we be together as a family, remember the good times , really on the atonement, and the love our Heavenly Father has for us

[@orioniic256]

Thank you for sharing your story. My second son lived 10 days. It is hard. God is helping me continue with my life and be there for my family.

[@Mormon817]

I am dumbfounded by your testimony, and crying as you tell your story. Thank you for being faithful to God.

[@moiramiraziz2295]

Sharing your experience is good and will help others going through this. Lost only baby I conceived so I know how hard this can be but continue to pray and know you will see your little daughter again and you will have a joyous reunion later

[@cnohero]

Wow, this video is too close to home. It's very well done video.

[@d.levichestnutwoodboillot8022]

I have 3 daughters, ages 4-2-6 months. I think I died inside watching this video. But the brother made a good point, our peace does ebb and flow. And all it takes is turning back to Him. Great point. Very true. We are all appointed to die, as it says in the scriptures. We have to trust that.

[@paulaiacone3801]

Finding design this gives me faith in gid once again. I ls tour 23-year old daughter who had down syndrome suddenly on Thanksgiving Day. I spent 7/5 weeks with her in children's hospital one year ago fighting endocarditis and a valve replacement, Through prayer, God told me she would not die n the hospital even when she coded twice. I had 1r great months with her ad suddenly without warning she died in our home. Thank you for sharing your story and your strong belief in God. We ar Catholics and y wife teaches in aCatholic school raised and belief in God had gotten us through this ordeal but loke most its been a month of crying, anxiety, and pain that now feels better since I saw the video and ordered your book. Michelle is with the Lord and we know she is free and happy.

[@churchofjesuschrist]

@Paula Iacone, thanks for sharing your experience and faith. We're sorry for your loss, and we hope you will feel comfort and peace through your trust in God. We know you can be with your daughter again! www.comeuntochrist.org/beliefs/family

[@clairelivefreeordie2551]

I'm so very sorry Paula...though you never get over some losses, I hope your heart is healing!

[@Freedom0rBust]

Bryan, you're so strong and I'm truly sorry about your loss. Holland's story will help bring light to people's soul, where currently there is darkness. Her story gives hope of an afterlife for those who may at times doubt. Thank you.

[@Katekagood]

She is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing your growth through your trials. Tears, tears, tears.

[@g_mason8867]

I lost my son to sids, thought “god” would never let anything would happen to him but he took him, for that I don’t believe in god no more

[@sulianatongs2749]

Thank you for your story! I’m struggling with the recent loss of my 21yr old son to suicide. Although they passed in very different ways the pain is still real. I too have hope n feel connected!! Soooo true about turning back to Christ!! He gives me the peace I need n daily He blesses me with special gifts... today this was my gift! May the Lord continue to bless n keep you!

[@churchofjesuschrist]

Suliana, thanks for your comment and for sharing your faith. We're so sorry for the passing of your son. Continue to rely on Jesus Christ and we know comfort and healing can come. He loves you and can mend your heart and give you peace. Take care! www.lds.org/topics/grief

[@sulianatongs2749]

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints thanks so much may the savior continue to bless you with the knowledge to guide n direct His children

[@angellakirabo5275]

So sorry for your loss, I know time can't heal grief, I have now lost my two sons, May their souls rest in peace. Amen

[@johanijs3102]

Thank you for this message... You are very strong as your father and daughter 👣

[@LuxuryPads90]

I know what it's like to lose a child. Mine wasn't born yet, but it still hurts a lot! 😢😢😢 I, like you, kept in close communication with Heavenly Father. Most of it initially was just weeping with Him being there with me holding my shoulders. He didn't take the grief from me, but He comforted me through it and never left me. He was just there with me, upholding me. I will be forever grateful for the power of prayer, the Holy ghost, and ultimately my knowledge of the plan of salvation. It's the sorest trials that teach us the most!

[@churchofjesuschrist]

We're sorry for the loss and pain you experienced, Bethany. Thank you for sharing how you felt God's love and support in such a difficult time. comeuntochrist.org

[@MarleeCraig]

Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey with us, I am so sorry for your loss, God bless you and your beautiful family ❤️

[@joanlantis4497]

i lost my youngest son in a tragic auto accident last year. i can testify to the truth of God being there for the broken hearted.without the strength felt from the Holy spirit i would not have the strength to go through this. it is so very hard to lose a child. nothing worse could happen. i also know that the prayers of others were felt and so appreciated in a way i have never known before. God bless and keep you.

[@jacquiday4489]

Thanks for sharing this , it has helped me , my son died age 9 weeks 6 days I was not a member then only over the last 11 years , it's over 33 yr so ago , knowing that I be with him again one day is a big help , once again thanks am so sorry for your loss, keep holding on to the iron rod , remember you will all be together one day

[@shapaller8756]

Losing a child is the worst. the pain will be with us parents, until our last day here on earth💔 I lost my baby daughter too grief is my constant companion but I believed in God's promises I know I will be with my baby again👼🙏💙

[@viviancampos8017]

My heart ached with the pain your family must have felt. Although I may not understand exactly how you feel, I know Heavenly Father and our dear Savior can. Thank you for sharing such a difficult story and for helping so many of us remember that God is our friend and He will always succor us.

[@arnoldronning5471]

Our Heavenly Father sent His own first-born to Earth, knowing that he would be rejected, suffer, and die. I do not mean to minimize your loss, only echo what you shared, that God himself knows and grieves with us in difficult times.

[@Awetopsy1703]

i understand !! i lost my 10 year old son , my best friend my minni me to type 1 diabetes in april of 2017 it has shredded my soul and put my relationship with God and the afterlife at a halting chaos , i watch these videos to help me see how others handle the most devistating thing that can happen to a person , there are days i beg God to kill me so i can go wherever he went and others i search for why im here , Thank you for sharing your story i wish much peace and love for you and your family

[@EloraSelah]

God after losing grandma I feel so scared and alone, I can't feel u anywhere with me .please don't abandon me at this trying moment of my life. I pray you show ur presence in my life and tell me hope exsists.

[@churchofjesuschrist]

@shrishti bhattacharya, we're so sorry to hear of the passing of your dear grandma. Grief is a heavy burden. Seek God's help, and seek help from friends and family, from your brothers and sisters in the gospel, and from professionals. We know Jesus Christ loves and is aware of you. While we mourn for loved ones we've lost, we do believe there is hope-- death is not the end, and we can be reunited with those we love because of the Savior, Jesus Christ and His resurrection. Besides the promises of life after death, faith in Jesus Christ brings great meaning, purpose and joy to our lives now. You can learn more by visiting www.comeuntochrist.org/beliefs/purpose-of-life Take care!

[@EloraSelah]

@@churchofjesuschrist thank u so much for ur kind reply......

[@angelalackey3521]

I can't wait to get to Heaven to see them again. This world loses so much of its luster when you long for the next. Thank God for the next. Thank you Jesus, for dying so that we all may be reunited.

[@dougdwyer8879]

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing that. May you continue to be surrounded by the peace of Christ.

[@tysondavis8704]

Amazing strength from amazing people. Love to you and your family Bryan! Grateful for your example of faith.

[@riosowden9489]

So sorry I hope God be with her she needs to live a wonderful life in heaven. Listen we will all ways be by your side.

[@ErickytheArtist]

I lost my daughter 7 months ago. She was a month away from being two with her twin sister. She was born with heart defects an I prayed an prayed I felt she would be okay an she was every single day as if she didn't even have heart defects. She played hard, danced, sing, she was so loud an outgoing an sassy an so helpful an loving. I just knew she was going to be okay an one day out the blue she just woke up like any other morning an she was fussy an just collapsed an our life changed. It's hurts so much cause we were literally dancing an singing right before bed that night an me trying to make her an her siblings to go bed cause they like to wake up late an play an they would not go to sleep as usual an they eventually did an she climbed in our bed as usual an that was her last time sleeping with us. I wish i just held her that night. I know she's in a better place an I'm just waiting to see her again one day.

[@churchofjesuschrist]

Hi @ErickytheArtist, we're so sorry for your loss. We know comfort and healing can come through prayer and by relying on Jesus Christ at this difficult time. He loves you and can mend your heart and give you peace. www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe/life-has-purpose/grief?cid=42001274

[@timothybarnes3598]

Thank you for teaching us this.

[@camerongeorgegregory3940]

We went to church for 12 years and one day after school we came home and everyone was crying because my 67 year old granny had died. It was the worst thing that has ever happened to me.

[@redfearnb]

Love you guys, Bryan. I will never forget experiencing this unfold in our ward.

[@poppyfoxclub6993]

I’m so sorry about this. This video made me cry and I never cry over videos. When you lose a child it must feel awful but it’s good your staying strong and she is in a better place now.

[@donnadotson7916]

My daughter died six years ago. I think of every day every single day. I wish I could’ve died before she did. I won’t know why heavenly father took her until I get to heaven myself.

[@aroundnevaehandabbymyersan5826]

I'm praying for your lost daughter and she's not gone she's there with you,right beside you.Im so sorry what happened. I loved you to the moon and back and we're all praying with you.

[@jelisaprettyeyez1687]

So sorry for your loss. 12 years ago I lost my new born son at birth. 4 years later I had a daughter and I thanked God for her everyday. Now 6 months ago I had a second son. He lived for 9 weeks and past away on October 15th, 2019. I ask the same question.. why me? To live the pain all over again is so unbearably. I'm praying for better days. I don't know where i would be if I didn't have a daughter to go on for.

[@churchofjesuschrist]

Jelisa, we're so sorry to hear of the tragic loss of your sons. We know comfort and healing can come through prayer and by relying on Jesus Christ at this difficult time. He loves you and can mend your heart and give you peace, and because of Him we will all be resurrected and can be reunited with our loved ones in the next life. www.comeuntochrist.org/beliefs/purpose-of-life/there-is-life-after-death

[@jelisaprettyeyez1687]

Thank you

[@danj13511]

You can always find hope in the Lord. Even if the thing that you want to go away gets worse like in this video but trust in Lord, he will do the right thing for you even if you think its not the right thing.

[@gmbappe2077]

thanks for sharing glory to God

[@claudetemolesin4759]

Thank u for sharing. It's so comforting hearing people's strong testimony of the Lord's love.

[@alisamateaki2537]

You remind me that God has a unique plan for each of us. Sometimes we might think “Why would God put me through something awful like this?” Or “why is this happening to me? I’ve been good and been doing everything I’m supposed to be doing.” God knows each of us perfectly and knows exactly what struggles to give to each of us.🤍 He knows what we will benefit from and what will help us become stronger and better. You remind me to be wise and follow Gods plan, and to not be a fool and try to follow my own plan.🤍Your story is so beautiful❤️ Lots of love to you and your angels baby girl🕊🤍

[@churchofjesuschrist]

Beautiful comment. Thank you!

[@sdl-lds]

Thank you for sharing. Lighting the world with your beautiful story.

[@lindamoses3697]

My sister lost her first baby when young. We both are Seniors and we still she'd a tear talking about her sweet child. We are so thankful for him and the eight months we got to know him. He was called on a special mission and she is thankful for her celestial child.

[@churchofjesuschrist]

Linda, thanks for your comment and for sharing your experience. We are sorry for your sister's loss, and hope you both feel comfort and peace from your faith in our Savior, Jesus Christ.

[@urfavlatina557]

I am soooo sorry for your loss god is not dead her spirit is always with you

[@zaramarland8402]

Im sorry for your loss... :( i know it's hard but be comforted by the knowledge that we have by the seal power.

[@DenaL112]

Sometimes I look at my life and I think how did I ever survive all my ordeals? Then I hear a story like this and I feel like the world's biggest crybaby. I cannot even fathom that kind of pain. My heart breaks for that family. Whatever I have been through does not come close to losing your child. I am happy that they have found peace through Heavenly Father. They deserve that.

[@atvovedka]

❤😢 Powerful story

[@samibrockway4995]

Thanks for sharing this

[@SarahJones-zc2zf]

This made me cry I give you hope her spirit will come back and talk to you like my great grandad tucker did to my mother xxxx I send my love

[@mindymeyers6205]

We lost our daughter to a similar diagnosis. The miracle was that we had her 3 1/2 years when the prognosis was 6 months. The Lord does bless us, and we also call him Friend.

[@churchofjesuschrist]

Thanks for sharing your experience and testimony, Mindy!

[@angelicaangeles9578]

I lost my 2 1/2 year old baby to brain cancer a rare aggressive one At/rt for short. She fought for 20 months she beat it once a long aggressive treatment. Surgeries, chemo, transplants, radiation. It came back and took her in a matter of few months. She passed in my home, in my arms, on September 14, 2019. I miss her every day. It hurts so bad but I do believe God helps ease my pain when I cry out that I can't anymore. It hurts so bad my heart could burst out my chest. I wish this wasn't true. Im so sorry for your little girls loss. My little girl has joined her. 💔🙏💛

[@churchofjesuschrist]

Sending love to you and your family, Angelica. We're so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby. Thank you for sharing your faith in God despite this real challenge. www.lds.org/topics/grief

[@allredbub]

I can't imagine going through that without having the Savior to turn to. I've hadn't lost a child, but I have gone through my own trials, whether be divorce or addiction, and though it took time the Lord was always there for me. When I prayed, He sent me comfort and peace through the Holy Ghost. I love my Savior! He made it so we will all live again and we can be together forever.

[@dorahernandez7685]

Thank you for your video. In searching for answers as to why my son died I found your video. My son died 14 weeks after being diagnosed with glioblastoma on December 9th. I know how what I need to do. Thank you! I am so sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace now. 🙏🕊

[@nathanbanks2935]

Thanks so much for sharing! You are a great example of perseverance in Jesus Christ, even though His will for His beloved daughter was much different than what you wanted. He loves you and I so much, and we can be with loved ones forever because of the holy sealing power binding families and hearts together forever.

[@AnaliliB]

Beautiful child of God. She's waiting for you on the other side.

[@travisleigh1451]

Our daughter had seizures all her life and was special needs. She passed away at 4 years. Our bishop told us Heavenly Father sent this special spirit for you to love and care for. He has taken her now and your test as parents in caring for her is over. My final father’s priesthood blessing to her was thanking Heavenly Father for sending her to us. Krisene, I’ll see you again someday.

[@invisibledreamsmusiccentra4063]

This toached me becuase when I was5 I lost my mom. My dad lost hope. The lord is my friend thanks so much. I cried while watching this

[@familytones]

2:41 This is difficult for me to understand. I've had a very strong prompting that has guided my life for years that has yet to be fulfilled. Part of me has asked and tried to write off this prompting that maybe God just told me that because I wouldn't have been ready for the real information so I needed to be told something else in order for God to get me to where he wanted me, so I could be ready for XYZ blessings in my life, blessings that I already enjoy as a result of these very strong promptings. I had a bishop tell me that he doesn't believe God lies to us to get us through to another point. That rings true to my heart and mind and I don't see how it could be otherwise. I am not sure how I could ever trust a God that doesn't tell the truth to me because I couldn't handle it. I do believe God can and does prompt us to do one thing in order to get us ready to see a bigger truth. Which is not the same as him telling us a something false in order for us to feel peace until he can tell us the real truth. No doubt God will withhold truth because I am not willing to ask the right questions or be comforted in my deep grief. If I couldn't trust what he said then how do I know there is a next life or have faith that Jesus really did suffer and die for my sins? This is a touching story no doubt and I certainly don't want to downplay it or criticize it, and I apologize if this post may come across that way. I know the last thing I would want is putting my heart out for all to see only to have it dissected and/or misunderstood. It is clear this video shows that God wants to be close to us if we let him, that there is a bigger plan at play, that we lived before we came to earth and we will live again, among other truths it witnesses to. Is it possible that maybe you felt peace that everything was going to be alright and you interpreted that to mean your daughter would live? It seems that sometimes things we think are truths as a whole, may not be the big picture. For example, Doctrine and Covenants 19:10-12 comes readily to mind with former truths being clarified www.lds.org/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/19.10-12. There has been more revelation on temples and being sealed to our families and not to prophets ("let every man be [sealed] to his father. When a man receives the endowments, [seal] him to his father; not to Wilford Woodruff, nor to any other man outside the lineage of his fathers. That is the will of God to this people. …" www.lds.org/manual/presidents-of-the-church-teacher-manual-religion-345/wilford-woodruff-fourth-president-of-the-church?lang=eng). Doctrine and Covenants Section 138 after President Joseph F. Smith was mourning the loss of his son Hyrum Mack Smith (www.lds.org/manual/doctrine-and-covenants-and-church-history-study-guide-for-home-study-seminary-students-2014/section-7/unit-31-day-4-doctrine-and-covenants-138?lang=eng), and and many other examples of God giving us truths and then waiting for us to earnestly ask and then being ready, so he can give us more (Alma 12:9 www.lds.org/scriptures/bofm/alma/12.9).

[@bryanyoung900]

Thank you for your comment, and I want to make sure that my experience is not misunderstood. I never said in the video that God lied to me. I said, "Why have I been living my life as if she was going to live? and He said if I told you she was going to die more directly you would have started to morn her too soon." They had to edit down what I said quite a bit, but in the book Meant for Heaven I explain that answer that the lord gave to me in quite a bit more detail. Here is an excerpt from the book that hopefully clears up your confusion: He immediately answered, as if cutting me off in mid- thought, “I did not lie to you, you just did not understand what I was fully saying. You do not understand this life as I understand this life. When I said that she would live, I mean eternally, when I say that she will be a mother I mean she will be a mother to worlds without end. When I say that she will be an adult I mean that she is already an adult spiritually and that she will eventually grow to adulthood in the resurrection. When I say your wife will never have a child die I mean Spiritual death, when I say she will greet them in the Celestial Kingdom I mean after the resurrection of all things. I did not lie to you but I knew you would not understand what I was saying to you because you do not yet see things as I see things. If I had told you more directly that your daughter would die you would have begun to mourn her too soon and sheltered her and she would have lost opportunities to grow and would have not been able to fully enjoy and learn from her life. I do not view life and death as the space from your first to your last breath. I view life as eternal, if my children will but trust in me they will have immortality and eternal life. I bless you to remember that you agreed to do this with Holland before this life.” And then almost as if a distant memory had begun to fade into my mind from somewhere else. I saw a scene where Holland and I were standing at the feet of our savior and we both said, “We have and idea we have been studying and we think if I come down first as the dad and then she comes down as the child and then she get’s sick we can help people draw closer to You. We can be an example. She will teach people on that side of the vail and I would serve people on earth and we would show people how to turn to God in times of trial.” Christ looked at us and said, “This is a good plan, it will bring many people unto me on both sides of the vail and will help each of you grow. But it will be harder than you think there will be much pain and suffering and grief and sorrow with this plan but if you endured it well it will bring to pass much good.” And we not knowing anything of death, pain, cancer, grief and suffering gladly said, “If it will bring souls unto Christ we are willing to take on these challenges.” We said that naively not knowing how hard it would be but just trusting that what Christ said was true and we trusted Him and wanted to serve Him in bringing souls unto Him in any way we could. The Lord than continue and said, “I told you from the very beginning that she may die from this but if you trust in me everything will be OK. And now is the time for her to die.” I replied to the Lord with, “But, you told me last December in this very room that, if it had not been for my faith and the faith of my friends and family she would have did last May. What has changed, between then and now? My faith has only grown from that point, how is my faith not enough to allow her to live now when it was then?” He kindly responded with, “If you had walked out of that Temple last May and not trusted in what I had told you and not had the faith to grow from this trial it would have begun to make you bitter and callous to My will. You would have turned your back on the very faith that was keeping her alive and I would have had to bring her back home at that point because the plan that you presented to My Son would have failed due to your lack of faith. And her continue life would have only served to make you more angry and upset. But because you left the Temple that day trusting in me, you were able to build her up with optimism and faith that not only allowed her to grow and heal but allowed you to grow and heal and that spirit spread to your family and friends. And so I granted you 14 more months to allow that spirit of faith to continue to grow and spread to more people. And look at the lives you have touched. Think of all the people who learned selflessness by serving you and donating of their time and money for the many fund raisers you held. Think of all the people who have been inspired by the thoughts you have posted online. Think of each doctor and nurse who were affected by your families hope and optimism in time of trial. Think of each ward member who showed up to church and were inspired to keep coming to church because they saw young Holland happily showing up to primary despite having just had brain surgery days before. Think of every testimony that you bore in personal quiet conversations with friends, family and coworkers. This is just a taste of the lives that you have brought closer to your Savior because of this trial.” “Because of your faith I have extended her life, but now because of her faith I must end her stay on this earth. She has completed the mission I sent her to do. But now your mission in many ways is truly beginning. She has completed her part of the plan with courage, faith, enthusiasm and infectious energy that has been a light to all who knew her. Now it is up to you, as you not only agreed to but helped to plan before this life began, to continue to bring souls unto me. Trust in me and I will give you continued opportunities to learn and grow from this trial and to help others do the same. You will be a light to those who know you and you will be an example to them of how to trust in The Atonement of My Son. If you doubt not and fear not you and Holland and all of your family will continue to be the means to bring many souls unto me. Now go and be with your daughter as she is prepared to enter back into my presence and now that you are prepared to let her go she can finally be made whole as you have blessed her so many times to do.” I hope that helps to clear any confusion up.

[@cameronmoore1826]

This helped me more than you know. Thank you.

[@MrAlexoip2150]

I cryed all the way..stop...and get help.tell someone pray for others.it isn't over yet. she's watching over you when ur still alive. God try to keep u alive.he died for all of us she's not gone.but she's in a better place now.hope.care.care about everyone.everyone will try to help.it will never help a lot.but she tryed to be in life.when she's alive still but she's not over yet.pray together.never over.!❤️

[@aresroyle7809]

whether christ is with us or not her spirt will remain at your heart no one deserves this pain but god gave you your life because you are strong enough to live it

[@giamehlos5087]

My heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with you.🙏 My only child passed 1-2-21 💙

[@damarisaguilera4273]

So sorry doe parent's loss. This made me cry. Beautiful girl.

[@peace.love.n.blessings]

We had miscarriage today, and I also found out my parents are getting a divorce. I know that's not like losing a 3 y/o, but I have a 2 y/o and I couldn't imagine losing him. Thank you for this video. I also had reassurance it was going to be ok, and today no baby in my wife. I think I have a lot to learn about spiritual impressions. I am confused, but not without faith in God's plan.

[@Chinoantraxx777]

I had a miscarriage last week I can feel his pain . But the lord knows why he dies things have FAITH! For he is with YOU don’t complain prosper!.

[@mohsinahmad5190]

Sorry for all of the pain man

[@alice-po3wm]

I'M CRYING! I'm sorry for you! * Crying like crazy *

[@jasonm.shepard3641]

I'm going through this now. My nephew had several parents, and I was one of them. I helped raise him for the first 4 years of his life. He was more of a son to me than a nephew. Now, he's 15, and he suffered a horrific accident that destroyed about a quarter of his brain. When we saw the scans, his dad and I broke down and held each other. We knew he was gone, but other family members held on to hope that he could come back. When we were told officially that he was dead, it hurt just as much as when his dad and I first learned it. This video has helped me because I see how easy it is to blame God for things happening. My nephew was a genuine light for everyone, and he was always volunteering and giving of himself. His wish was to be an organ donor, and his organs are being donated to children his age that really need them. I prayed constantly, but Heavenly Father never once said he would live, only that he was in a better place. It was hard, but we came to terms with it. It's still fresh, and the funeral hasn't even been scheduled yet, but I'm glad I found this video. It helped.

[@churchofjesuschrist]

Hi @jasonm.shepard3641, thank you for sharing and we're so sorry for your loss. We know comfort and healing can come through prayer and by relying on Jesus Christ at this difficult time. He loves you and can mend your heart and give you peace. www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe/life-has-purpose/grief?cid=42001274

[@blessedforever3325]

So sorry for your loss. Praying for your family.

[@ashnikfield4224]

I’m so sorry for the loss 😢😭 she looked like a sweet loving little girl. The onions have officially been cut in my house 😭

[@clintonwatkins3718]

My son was 3 when he was diagnosed with a tumor in the same location and similar size. I was crushed and had a very hard time reconciling his illness and suffering with faith of any kind. Through chemo, surgery, radiation, great doctors, and the grace of GOD he is now 13 and healthy. I thank GOD everyday for that blessing but i don't think my faith has ever really recovered. It is a strange combination of emotions.

[@churchofjesuschrist]

We're glad to hear your son is healthy. Life is full of challenges, and at times choosing faith is not easy. We hope you continue to feel God's love for you! This weekend, April 6-7, apostles and prophets of Jesus Christ will share messages of hope and faith at our Church's general conference. Tune in at churchofjesuschrist.org!

[@jleewillemse5466]

Your story is so true i lost my brother 4 years ago due to lung disease and i always knoa he is always still there

[@vendingguy47]

Thanks to all those who have had a hand in this video. It means so much to me in ways I can't fully express at this time.

[@wintersoldier8474]

I’m sorry for your loss!