10 Keys to Support Your Partner from THE NATIVITY STORY

If your partner is pregnant, it's time to step up and be supportive! Follow Joseph's example from The Nativity Story, and strengthen your relationship and love during what can be a difficult time.
Licensed therapist Jonathan Decker and filmmaker Alan Seawright share 10 tips for how to support your spouse through a pregnancy, or any difficult time, or really just in general. Relationships are all about caring for each other and working together! Oscar Isaac sets a pretty good example as Joseph, being supportive, caring, and vulnerable with Mary. And being handsome helps too.
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Written by: Megan Seawright, Jonathan Decker and Alan Seawright
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Director of Photography: Bradley Olsen

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Hey Guys. Jonathan will be live during the premiere, and Alan will be joining in as @TelekinesisEntertainment his other channel on KZbin. Stop by and say hi to us! We'll try to answer as many questions as we can!

[@meggypeggy100]

Was this just John’s revenge for when Alan forced him to watch Twilight?

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

@@meggypeggy100 not deliberately, but that's definitely what it ended up being.

[@NovelistVampireGirl]

It's a beautiful film. Very accurate, biblically and historically, and I love it.

[@wwoods66]

Religious films, huh. You've already done _Groundhog Day._ What about _Dogma_ ? _The Life of Brian_ ?

[@AishaVonFossen]

@@meggypeggy100 Which is extra funny because The Nativity Story is from the same people who made the Twilight series. ROFL!

[@alljammedup6781]

"Sometimes good people are boring. Because they're boring. Not because they're good." We love this high quality passive insight

[@alhena11]

I resonate with that. Only after I realised the diffrenece between good and boring person I finally found my man.

[@nataschavisser573]

We have a saying in my country which translates into English as "that guy is dead good but also good dead", i.e. nice but a dead bore. There were quite a few of those type of guys at church.

[@helenl3193]

@@nataschavisser573 that's great! Which country are you from, if you don't mind me asking? I might use the phrase in the future and it's always nice to be able to give credit to the right source :)

[@RosheenQuynh]

Normally I don't brag about this kind of thing but it's not every say you like a comment and you see it change from 999 to 1k 😳

[@voyance4elle]

😂 wisdom

[@sjewel3444]

I’m really glad I’m not the only Christian that is okay with saying most Christian movies are garbage. This movie to me is good not great not terrible but good. This video however......fantastic. Edit: I do love veggie tales and prince of Egypt there is for sure exceptions

[@ritaruggerone4434]

Yes exactly 😁

[@sirenia1241]

I like them because I know they are garbage.

[@EtamirTheDemiDeer]

Fellow Christian popping in to agree. Christian media for the most part is made by Christians for Christians and that’s a pretty massive blind spot. Like, I’m thinking of the God’s Not Dead trilogy and just... ugh. Y’know what Christian media was well received? Veggie Tales and The Prince of Egypt. Not too preachy and can stand on their own even without the religious backing. More of that, please

[@girlikestacos52]

You should try watching The Chosen! I was actually pleasantly surprised by it!

[@mariematthews7571]

@@EtamirTheDemiDeer loved veggie tales growing up and the prince of Egypt is an amazing movie and I know a ton of non Christian people who love it

[@gabrielleduplessis7388]

Alternate title: Man crushing on Oscar issac for an hour.

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

You're not wrong.

[@MrManlify]

Well, that's just the human condition. Perhaps next time they could discuss the natural human psychology of crushing on Oscar Isaacs.

[@Msfr1sby]

Might be a good film topic "Competency Crushes: why we go weak in the knees when someone is really good at something"

[@Druzica18]

@@CinemaTherapyShow There's no man crush, there is only 'crush' when it comes to Oscar Isaac. If you're a human person and have a pulse, you have a crush on Oscar Isaac. He somehow transcends gender and sexuality entirely with the pure force of his Isaac-ness.

[@TehMomo_]

@@MrManlify there are just people that surpass anyone's orientation...Oscar Isaac, Chris Evans....Idris Elba....Lucy Lawless...everyone has a crush on them

[@sheadoherty7434]

I'm not christian but I always admired the story of Joseph, a man who stepped up to support the woman he loved in an extremely difficult situation and chose to be the father of her child.

[@alderblanco2362]

The bible is a fantastic storybook. It's filled with intriguing characters and dramatic plotlines. It's just the sheer fanaticism that I can't deal with.

[@sheadoherty7434]

@@alderblanco2362 indeed

[@sheadoherty7434]

@@gracehaven5459 I had a similar situation. You're right, anyone can father but it takes strength to be a real parent

[@alderblanco2362]

@Tesla-Effect Exactly how I feel. Once you start getting into philosophy and ethics systems and moral systems and how they interact with religion, it's difficult for me to be able to present arguments without framing them as my opinions, because I just don't have the training lol. But it's definitely something I enjoy thinking about.

[@fuzzlemacfuzz]

@Tesla-Effect faith is a good thing, religion is where it all goes wrong. And I am more scared of Christian fundementalsts that I am of jihadis

[@ashleymkott]

You should do The Prince of Egypt next. Best religious movie I've ever seen in my life.

[@Stettafire]

Interestingly I know a lot of non religious people who enjoyed that film. Not me personally, but ok

[@user-mf1li9lf8k]

I LOVE THAT MOVIE one of my favorites

[@jamaikas.3483]

Great idea!!!

[@Firegen1]

They are going to. They released a community post to confirming its coming into 2021. I'm not fond of it but I respect what they are aiming to do.

[@peacelove1945]

YES

[@ssjpanda8417]

"Meekness is not weakness." FINALLY

[@whychance9180]

What is meekness?

[@paintingdragons1828]

Quite,not to stand outish, never makes a scene. Is not the same as unasertive though.

[@fuzzlemacfuzz]

@@whychance9180 the opposite of what is normally seen as great. Quiet but determined, kind for kindness sake and not for reward or recognition, someone who loves unselfishly.

[@olivialim7541]

Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth

[@claralind9764]

yesssss, I thought the same. Meekness is "power under control." It's not "weakness" (not having power at all) but rather choosing not to let it all out, for the benefit of those around you

[@picklesthewise]

The amount of "Joseph was a simp for raising another man's baby" takes on this story nowadays are unreal. You have to remember that in the context of the story, Mary had no say in the matter. She was just a kid and she was scared. Joseph was progressive for the time in the way that he put caring for her over his pride, and raised Jesus as his own. She and Jesus would not have survived in that day and age without his love.

[@wandanemer2630]

Absolutely true

[@misseli1]

Do you mean to say that Mary had no say in getting married?

[@picklesthewise]

@@misseli1 no...in getting pregnant with God's baby. Context clues

[@alexisfernandez2399]

@@misseli1 Of course not. It was either that or she was stoned to death for something she didn't even do. I mean adultery.

[@alexisfernandez2399]

@Anonymus X How? No one had sex with her.

[@danteward-hunt6038]

Two bros, chillin' in a home theatre, 5 feet apart because they're not endangering the public health

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Finally, somebody gets it!

[@roxann222]

@@CinemaTherapyShow do YOU get the vine reference !! ☺️☺️

[@aiiiia9971]

@@roxann222 I did hehe

[@mrs.heathcliff7379]

@@CinemaTherapyShow 99.7% survival rate...just sayin.

[@cbizzybandamus]

@@mrs.heathcliff7379 source?

[@Jill-ih9dq]

Oscar Isaac’s Joseph is too pure for this world

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Agree. Agree so hard.

[@piratekid1]

Oscar Issac is too cute to be seen as a religious character, but I still love this movie

[@ellybean7354]

@@piratekid1 What is that supposed to mean?

[@Evija3000]

Makes sense. Everyone always talks about how pure and great Mary was, but Joseph had to be amazing as well for God to pick him as the man to rise his son.

[@rhonwynmartin3955]

My only qualm with this movie’s Joseph is his age. The Bible implies that Joseph was significantly older than Mary as he had another wife who died before Mary as well as having other children.

[@Shadowfate93]

I had a really tough pregnancy with my son. I threw up 3-5 times daily for seven months and that was on anti nausea medication. My partner was absolutely amazing. He would hold my hair and rub my back while I puked. He would take my throw up trash out to the dumpster even in the middle of the night in the alaskan winter. He constantly was going the the store to buy things to try and find something I could keep down. I remember breaking down in tears on more than one occasion and telling him "I can't do this" and he held me and told me I could do it. We now have a super fun 8 months old baby boy and he's an amazing father. I love my husband so so much

[@RosheenQuynh]

😭💓

[@misspriss2482]

You are a woman blessed beyond measure.

[@kxlot79]

Sounds like you get on the right horse! Mazel tov!🎊

[@Enyo.Speaks]

What a blessing!!

[@aiiiia9971]

Oh hello! A fellow Alaskan! What a beautiful story q^q 💕 your husband seems to be very loving and an example

[@genevarockeman9721]

"IF you're a decent human being, AND you do all these things, AND you look like Oscar Issac..." was officially my favorite moment of the day 😂😂😂

[@cassieosaurus_9217]

Calling out the "nice guys" on the internet made me SMASH that like button.

[@misspriss2482]

@@gracehaven5459 Or a relationship. The supposed nice guy who pretends to be a friend but secretly wants more; then he has the nerve to get angry when you don't fall in love with him and accuses you of leading him on. I don't think so.

[@jessica7263]

Saaaame! I loved it.

[@emeraldjolteon1472]

friendzone is myth after all

[@mykodibear17]

Honestly this is the first time I've ever heard it from a man that wasn't a nice guy trying to win points by bashing other nice guys and it's so nice hearing two grown men support both women and men consistently throughout their videos.

[@DarkLightHuntress]

With Keisha's characterization, it seemed to me they did try to portray a realistic image of a teenage girl having to grow up in that time period and culture. She starts off the movie playing with the other children, and her first transition into adulthood is unpleasant to be sure (having to witness a neighbor girl being sold to pay her parent's taxes and later being herself betrothed to avoid a similar fate). However, (with Joseph's help) she seems to have embraced adulthood by the end of the film, both its sorrows and its joys. To some degree, I think the filmmakers and actress might have felt constrained by the expectations of the role, because Mary is usually portrayed as a picture of serenity or with subdued emotions in religious contexts.

[@krystencabbage1032]

Yes, coming from a Catholic background, I’ve found they take the belief of “she was born without sin and committed no sin so she could be a perfect vessel for god” to imply she had no emotions at all. You can be a good person and still be scared/angry/sad, just because you don’t sin doesn’t mean you don’t get to express yourself.

[@KerKhent]

The beauty of Mary is that she was a normal girl of her time with sins and all. But she had something else. She had total complete faith in God. She tusted in God in the face of the unthinkable.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@krystencabbage1032 Yeah. It's like being holy means staring glassy eyed at the sky 24/7 with a permanent gaussian blur effect effect over you while someone follows you around with a lamp so you can always be backlit.

[@klawis]

I'm half agnostic but god, I love this thread. The problem with Christianity, Catholicism to be specific is that they portray Mary as a goddess when she was just a human. Upright hypocrisy. I like the take of the commenter above where she was just a teenage girl- scared but still she trusts God. That's indeed holier than being "sinless"

[@brigidtheirish]

@@klawis I'm Catholic, and we don't. A lot of Protestant denominations *think* we do, but we very much *don't* worship Mary as a goddess. Yes, we believe she was born without the taint of Original Sin, but that was God shielding her so she could become a vessel for The Word Made Flesh. She still could have chosen to sin, just as our First Parents did, but she didn't. She's the new Ark of the Covenant, the new Eve (who got it right this time), and mother of Our Lord. As we are adopted children of God, that makes her our mother, as well, so we honor her in that capacity.

[@joannedelapie3072]

"Sometimes good people are boring because they're boring - not because they're good" XD

[@aleece4]

“Meekness is t weakness, it’s actually a strength.” Agreed! My favorite definition of meekness is that it’s “power under control”

[@Orynae]

I love how they can be so open and honest about their faith, without excluding or insulting anyone. If everyone was so kind, we wouldn't be having all these recurring debates about "free speech" vs "the war on Christmas". Also Alan's disdain for the film's cinematography is hilarious... I know lots of Christians who eat up Christian films just because they're Christian, but I also know some who share Alan's higher standards XD

[@rockyblacksmith]

I think a lot of the issues like the BS "war on Christmas" are a byproduct of the fact that America has such a large percentage of practicing christians. At least, I don't see those kind of debates happening where I live (as a practicing christian in a society where christianity is largely in-name-only). In America, religious topics are politicised, because there is political gain in doing so. And whatever becomes political also becomes partisan, and quickly full-on toxic. And a similar thing happens with movies marketed towards christians; They don't really need to be good, since the movie makers already have a captive audience.

[@eclectic_nerd]

I feel so guilty when my parents buy me Christian movies, because they're never very good, and I'm just not interested.

[@justalittleturtle5600]

@@rockyblacksmith I actually think the “war on Christmas” started out as a good, normal thing that quickly spiraled out of control. There were areas for a time where I wasn’t allowed to mention Christmas or say Merry Christmas to others, even to people who celebrated Christmas too! So there really was a huge cancel culture on Christmas for awhile, and I believe that was very politically charged (I also believe this idea started out as a normal argument against Christmas that quickly spiraled out of control for the same reason I’m about to list for the “war on Christmas”). So of course people fought back. Why shouldn’t people be allowed to celebrate their holiday outside their homes? It like telling someone they can’t be Muslim or Christian or whatever outside of their homes. But then the argument became political, and everything went down from there. I honestly believe people, companies, whatever should be allowed to publically express celebration for whatever, whether it be Christmas, Hanukkah, and even the June Pride month stuff. If people feel offended by it and stop buying from your store, oh well, that’s your choice and theirs too. Let people wish others a Happy Holidays or a Merry Christmas. Luckily we’ve moved away from the insanity that was “don’t say Christmas” and just let people celebrate it. It is sad to not see as many businesses celebrate Christmas openly anymore, but I hope it opens room for other December holidays to be celebrated. I love walking into stores decorated for Hanukkah and getting to ask about the holiday. People shouldn’t feel forced to abide by politically correct rules, but we also shouldn’t force traditions on others. In the wise words of the Beatles, Just let it be!

[@anafigueroa4235]

i love that you guys chose this movie to talk about supportive partners. I remember being like 9 when I watched this,, the donkey scene in particular, and thinking, ‘Woah, if I ever marry someone, I’d want to be with someone like him.’ My parents always seemed to at war with each other. And seeing those moments in the movie, with her cleaning his feet even, really had a big impact on me. It’s wild. I haven’t seen the movie in ages, but these two always stayed in my mind. And now, i’m married to someone who definitely has this kind of warm, gentle strength about him. :)

[@nicomoist5336]

Is is Oscar Isaac? Jk congrats tho!

[@maeikaa4427]

@@nicomoist5336 hopefully 😂 but ditto, it's so nice that you've found what's best for you :)

[@jessicalaman4376]

As a non-Christian I was nervous going into this episode. But you handled it super respectfully and openly, focusing on the therapy/cinema aspects and I rly respect! You’re comments are insightful as always😊 .

[@nos5915]

Yeah, I have religious trauma and Chr*stm*s can be a trigger, but they handle it well and I don't regret watching this video

[@Jenni.P]

@@nos5915 I'm so sorry you've had trauma 🥺 Coming from a Christian girl I know that there are a lot of "Christians" that act more like pharisees and cult leaders waiting to crucify someone rather than loving Christ-like people. I wish you healing from all of your trauma 💛

[@nos5915]

@@Jenni.P they were mormons actually so it's not totally fair to blame christians haha thanks

[@eclectic_nerd]

@@Jenni.P ditto!

[@lifewitholga_]

Sorry to hear that. I’m a Christian and I was nervous about it but for different reasons.

[@ollekath]

"If you're doing your job, you're gonna be exhausted" when it comes to supporting your pregnant partner. I love you for this line.

[@quinnrice3475]

One thing I like about this movie is that they didn’t make Joseph/Mary/Jesus white because so made times they are portrayed as white when they really came from the Middle East.

[@TheMaloo424]

theyre still way whiter than they would be :D

[@TheFranchiseCA]

_The Chosen_ does a pretty good job with this. Interestingly, the Roman characters are all lighter skinned than people from Latium should be. Using pale skin as a symbol of foreignness is pretty unusual and quite effective in the show.

[@celseac8107]

@@TheMaloo424 Not exactly. Haven't you seen people from the region? The skin tones of the actors are fine

[@ambersummer2685]

Or with British accents.🙄

[@phylliskress2296]

@@ambersummer2685 Then again, "Western Hemisphere" accents (especially Hollywood, California "A-list"!)

[@jessicalaman4376]

Ah I’m so glad what you said about “nice guys”

[@Bane_Amesta]

Megamind is THE movie about the "nice guy" I hope you can talk about it in the future plz

[@mynameisbeech]

oo yes! megamind is a great movie (one of my favs) and I think it has a few great messages

[@ViridianVenus]

Yes Megamind! I literally just came here to suggest that one! But I was thinking more about societal expectations since that was a motivator for both Megamind and Metroman

[@dontburstmybubble686]

Or like the difference between enablers and support systems

[@sophiasmith7750]

Yes!

[@Kagomai15]

I just rewatched Megamind the other day and it's still *so good*, for many reasons, but honestly this time I was just surprised by how consistently the jokes land! But absolutely, totally agreed, the foil between Megamind and Hal and how they interact with Roxanne is truly something to see.

[@Alex-pb5rf]

Alan: It's filmed like an early 2000's Nike commercial. Me, who grew up in the early 2000's and knows exactly what he's referring to: *hysterically wheezes with laughter*

[@Piccadally]

Okay, but Alan likes The Prince of Egypt, right? Arguably the best movie centered around religion ever made

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Very much so. We're doing an episode on it at Easter/Passover 2021! Stay tuned!

[@IvonneRiVi]

I don't know anyone who doesn't have a crush on Oscar Isaac, so I totally get you, guys. Also, I would love for you to continue making videos about good masculine role models in movies, I love this one and I love the Aragorn one you did some time ago. Merry Christmas!

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

We absolutely will!

[@Msfr1sby]

I was just talking with my son about The Mandalorian and how amazing it was to see tender and humorous father/soon interacting. The part where Mando says "Grogu" a couple times and is just tickled to know his name and see him respond to it is so great and just a pure moment of healthy masculinity.

[@KuyuniTheMaasaiSon]

I also see a lot of parallels between Joseph in the Nativity Story and Jose in the 2006 movie Bella. I think Bella is another beautiful example of healthy masculinity😊

[@tinaperez7393]

Uh, Im a girl and don't have a crush on Oscar Isaac. But Ive enjoyed some of his performances.

[@professionalpainthuffer]

I love the symbolism of Joseph removing his yamuka. No hesitation, just showing that the Messiah is more powerful than the laws of Israel. Welcoming his king with tangible evidence of devotion to G-d. Baring his head in humility. So much meaning wrapped up in such a tender action, I am honestly flabbergasted. 10/10 moment.

[@marieindia8116]

But there was no law in Israel about wearing a kippah. If there was anything it was only a later, oral law, which Jesus described as making " the Word of God invalid". Matthew 15:5,6

[@eshbena]

@@marieindia8116 Jewish law requires a head covering in temple, or in mixed company. At home, by yourself, with your wife, it isn't such a big deal.

[@misspriss2482]

The fact that Joseph didn't want to publicly humiliate her speaks volumes about his character. I still get mad when I think about Much Ado About Nothing when Claudio thinks that Hero cheated. Instead of talking to her, he waits until they get down the aisle and he shames her in front of everyone. He was an ass unworthy of Hero's love. No truly caring person would do something like that.

[@Dawnpool93]

I’m agnostic. I’m not really into religious films, particularly modern day ones. Nativity Story is probably the best one out there because it humanizes the characters, particularly Joseph.

[@raapyna8544]

For me religious stories are only meaningful if the characters are human. I don't believe in saints, and I can't relate to why some people feel spiritually about them. I don't feel anything. I'm agnostic too. I believe in one or two gods, and I think the story of Christ is inspiring, but I don't feel a connection to the community. I have a hard time labeling myself christian if christians are going to call me heretic.

[@Butterflier00]

and still that just makes a good movie. like The Prince of Egypt is a VERY religious story but the main focus was of Ramases and Moses as Brothers. and The Nativity Story is really less about birthing the Messiah and more about a young couple going through some stuff and having anxiety about being parents. we can relate to that.

[@Mockingdragon]

Same - I can get WAY into religious stories if they delve into the power and emotion of such big, high-stakes setups. Jesus Christ Superstar is a good example, with Jesus having to reckon with what it really means to be tortured and sacrificed. Prince of Egypt is another great one that's as much about the relationship between Moses and Ramses as any other aspect. That's how you make a religious movie good, is by making a good movie.

[@jojo1DrSeuss]

I love The Chosen for that very reason. I am a Christian but was very wary of the show when I first heard of it because to be honest, a lot of Christian movies and shows suck. But when I finished the first episode I was near tears. The characters are human, they have issues, fears, hopes, dreams, and insecurities. They get angry, they laugh, they cry, they make mistakes. It is beautiful. Also, as a bonus, the Jewish characters are actually middle eastern, the Roman's are white, and they have other characters who are black and Asian which makes sense when you consider that Isreal is kind of a crossroads.

[@raapyna8544]

@@Mockingdragon Off topic, but your choise of words ("what it really means to be tortured and sacrificed") made me understand why Christ would never want anyone to experience that ever again - and why people would be able to use his death to plead to God. ("In you son's name, spare us") As someone who used to be bullied, the experience makes me even kinder and more passionate about justice. If I could be the last person to ever experience it, I'd love that. Jesus' suffering didn't remove all other suffering from the world but it might have made him and God more compassionate. Until now I've found the rhetoric of gratefulness for someone's suffering kind of weird and twisted. Nobody's suffering can ever be a good thing. But the things that come after can be. Good things can arise from the bad. (I probably cracked "the problem of suffering" as well.)

[@izzy1221]

Good strong marriages always make me tear up. I wonder if you guys can analyse Gomez and Morticia Addams!

[@princessazulaofthefirenati5870]

The OG perfect example of a good marriage

[@colorqueen_6473]

God I hope they do that it would be so good

[@bernadineguimary1062]

lemme just say (even tho this is going to be ab Joseph) Jesus is the paragon of non-toxic masculinity 👏🏽

[@gwendytequiere]

AMEN

[@skullgarden2417]

@@gwendytequiere lol literally Amen

[@infingirl8488]

Facts haha

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

That'd be a good Easter video sometime for us...

[@michellebyerly7763]

Yes!

[@tl5404]

"They're already in a committed rs, he's not trying to win her life through his actions, he's just trying to honour a commitment he made to her" wow. So deep and good. Thank you. Thank you for using this movie too. How encouraging to know that there are good godly men out there

[@caggles]

"The story is, well you know the story, everybody knows the Nativity story!" Yeah, man, I thought so too, but that's so much less true than I thought! Last December at the office Christmas party, I ended up telling ALL the best Bible stories to my co-workers because they knew none of them. Two are first generation Chinese immigrants, one is a white guy who came from a "militantly atheist household" (his words, not mine) and one just said his family wasn't religious and he just never really ended up learning these stories. It all started because we were playing Cards Against Humanity and one of the black cards was basically like "And Moses called down a plague of [blank] on the Egyptians" or something to that effect. And it turned out that I was the only person in that group who understood the reference the card was making. So I ended up giving a rather hilarious summarized storytelling performance of the story of Exodus to them, and they were like "Okay you're a good storyteller and I didn't know that Bible stories were this entertaining!" and I admitted that that was probably the best one, but then we ended up abandoning the CoH game (which was probably for the best because one of my ESL coworkers ended up asking questions like "What's bukake?" and nobody wanted to deal with that, lol) so I could tell comically summarized versions of my favourite Christmas tales XD

[@yeseniatecaxco7545]

That is hilarious! 😂🤣 It sounds like something that would come straight out of an episode of Community lol 😆

[@TehMomo_]

militant should never be in front of any faith or non-faith system...that's just YIKES.

[@eshbena]

Every Passover I give the stand up version of the story so my non-Jewish friends can understand why we're dippin parsley again. XD

[@brandonhey7797]

some stuff in the Bible is pretty metal, to say some Christians don't exactly like metal

[@meganweber5057]

I am also a Christian who doesn't like Christian movies. I liked this one though. Except for the childbirth scenes.

[@tomboyhns2643]

I actually don’t hate Christian movies, I more don’t like Bible movies made by non-Christians, because they often lack the spirit of the Bible. Prince of Egypt is the exception to this

[@mchjsosde]

@@tomboyhns2643 the sad thing is a lot of Christian made movies also miss the spirit of the Bible...it's used as a soapbox instead of an artistic expression of anything. It's sad because many people of the Bible are not "model Christians" because their experiences weren't crafted to lead up to a "checkmate atheist" moment.

[@f-xr9511]

As an agnostic lover of history, historiography, roman history (which includes early Christianity) and above all movies, I find that often the ''Religious'' movies are more about propaganda than storytelling. (Might help that I am from a Christian country, but not from the US.) Oftentimes the less preachy ones end up being the better ones, and I hope the more effective ones to convey faith. The Prince of Egypt, Silence, Last Temptation of the Christ, Ten Commandments, Ben Hur and Life of Brian are TERRIFFIC movies about that! What is strange about some of those movies is that they were often attacked as ''Left Wing Hollywood'' propaganda against religion, but they are pretty profound explorations of faith, and often times created by DEEPLY religious people. The message of (most religions) is about ''Life is hard already, how can we not be dicks to each others in that meantime'', so Jesus is a pretty good messenger for that!

[@morbidmanatee115]

I remember watching this movie (I think it was this one) with my youth group one year when I was in high school. When it came time for the childbirth scene the youth pastor fastforwarded through it and just announced "CHILDBIRTH IS PAINFUL."

[@meganweber5057]

@@morbidmanatee115 lol

[@kayisfish]

I gotta say, as a woman of faith as well, I can't stand "religous" movies most of the time.

[@moredetonation3755]

Really I think it's because a lot of them are made by really awful people to justify their own wealth.

[@Kristiekins2]

@@moredetonation3755 I think there's an element to a lot of religious films that are just like...very disingenuous for this reason. It's like, oh, I'm a good person because I made a religious movie. It's pandering and usually shown in a very condescending way. If it's not contributing something significantly artistic (i.e. The Prince of Egypt) I'm not interested.

[@Anten-Isy]

It's because everything is very in your face. It's like diverse representation in movies these days. It's good when it's there but it's bad when it's in your face.

[@istoleyoursugar2015]

Me: Watching this to learn how to be a good spouse Also Me: 15 years old😂😂

[@theopkingdom3433]

Good job. Take direction from success. It takes work. :)

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Never too early to learn? Definitely too early to practice.

[@fugithegreat]

Perfect time to learn!

[@jessicasmith1766]

This is good energy to take into all your relationships! All your partners will appreciate that you’re learning to be a supportive and kind partner.

[@micah2785]

To be fair, Mary was around fifteen or sixteen during the nativity story.

[@c.j.p.7607]

As a Christian single mother this story, and how it's told in such a way that it's about the way Joseph earns Mary's love and respect during the hard journey, just touches my heart. It's simple but meaningful and sweet. You don't see that very often, at least not done as skilfully as Oscar Isaac portrays it here.

[@misspriss2482]

Right. It's not like they were dating and got engaged. Back then the man approached your parents and they decided who your husband was going to be. I love how they fell in love as they got to know each other. Just beautiful.

[@c.j.p.7607]

@@misspriss2482 right? It was very pure how she could see his character and personality shining through the hard times. That's when a man shows you what he's really made of.

[@kristenidichandy]

I've never been this early before lol! Imagine getting a like from my favorite unlicensed film maker and licensed therapist :)

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

How about a heart?

[@kristenidichandy]

@@CinemaTherapyShow OHMYGAH!!! THANK YOU! (ﾉ´ヮ´)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧

[@catthidang6368]

Someone else already commented this, but Train to Busan would be such a good movie to analyze!

[@gwendytequiere]

Yes...AND Cargo. Martin Freeman just nails it in that one.

[@KatieT97]

Yeah Train to Busan has so many themes about Classism and also fatherhood, keeping my comment short because I could rant all day about how much I love Train to Busan

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

We'll look into it :)

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

@@KatieT97 Alan here. I LOVE Train to Busan.

[@aeb_captain4857]

YESS PLEASE

[@Ithenna]

Well, I know this wasn't supposed to get into theology here, but I just realized something about the scene with Joseph removing his yamaka (spelling?) to use as a pillow for Jesus. It actually is also a representation of Christ being the fulfillment of the old testament, where the old gives way to the new.

[@Jack-yf9bc]

You spelled it right. You could also call it a Kippah if you want if that’s easier.

[@Ithenna]

👍🏻 Ok, I was just spelling how it sounded, so it actually makes it easier knowing that it's spelled as it sounds. I've never heard the term Kippah before.

[@JustPilgrim]

Wow, I never thought about that

[@magdalena9405]

@@Ithenna It's Hebrew, whereas Yamaka is Yiddish. When I lived in Israel, everybody called it Kippah, so I found it super weird when I heard it being called Yamaka in the US.

[@janepappas1032]

It is actually spelled “yarmulke” , which is a Yiddish word used mainly in the US. In Hebrew, the ancient language of Jews, it is called a kippah ( key- pah).

[@ellybean7354]

I think they tried to make Mary more relatable to everyone, so they didn't give her a super specific/defined personality. That's probably why her character could seem flat.

[@f-xr9511]

Like Bella of Twilight: they are the old-school Player Character on a RPG, that anyone can project their views on. Can't have a personality or an identity that might turn off some people!

[@PrincessofEllabur]

@@f-xr9511 so Alice from Alice in Wonderland or Dorthy of Wizard of Oz? Both are "Flat" characters in the books

[@PrincessofEllabur]

@Tesla-Effect I disagree that the Bible Characters are "Flat"

[@nicomoist5336]

@Tesla-Effect one of them who isn't flat at all is Jonah from the story of Jonah and the Big Fish. He is *racist*, *ignorant*, and full of himself, but at the end he learns that a person is defined good by how they repent their sins, and not by their sins. So he's pretty cool

[@PacheGayd]

This was directed by the director of Twilight...

[@makennafarmer9590]

Hearing that you two have deep faith, love for psychology, and deal with ADD/ADHD helps me feel like I’m hanging out with a good friend when I watch your videos. Having all of those in common (I’m not diagnosed with ADD or ADHD But I live in a household where my dad and brothers have it and I often show some of the qualities too from watching their behavior my whole life) allows me to feel close and connected. “And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” - ‭‭Colossians‬ ‭3:17‬ ‭ESV‬‬ “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” - ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭10:31‬ ‭ESV‬‬ Thank you for tying in biblical qualities of a husband in this video❤️

[@marianneshepherd6286]

I'm a Christian and I always watch this film at Christmas time. Whilst its not perfect I love that it really shows how average Mary and Joseph were, they weren't wealthy influencers living in the heart of a major city but small poor country folk living way out in the middle of nowhere. I also love that they showed how dangerous it was for Mary to announce her pregnancy and for Joseph to claim the child meant he would also become a social outcast x

[@pakamausi]

I watched this episode 60% for Oscar Isaac, 20% for Alan and Jono mancrushing on Oscar Isaac, 10% each for Alan and Jono themselves, and 0% for the actual film, which I have never watched and probably never will. As for the tips on how to support a pregnant partner - irrelevant for me, but I will take the tips to heart when supporting friends and family and hypothetical non-pregnant partners during future hard times. Happy Hanukkah, Internet Dads ❤🕎

[@ZeldaWolf2000]

I would also put down, "A pregnant woman's feelings aren't always just down to hormones, so don't dismiss them just because she's pregnant." Also, how do you guys feel about DreamWorks The Prince of Egypt? Yay or nay? Personally, I love that movie. It's basically the only religious movie I've ever seen and that I've really liked. I think the soundtrack is great, the acting is all great, I love that they got an actual Israeli woman, Ofra Haza, to play Moses's mom, and, even though this doesn't apply to the English version, she sang her part in like 18 different languages, which is just cool. Also, I really appreciate that the relationship between Moses and Ramses is the core of the film. Also Hans Zimmer soundtrack. I fucking love Hans Zimmer.

[@tomboysquirrel]

That film is phenomenal

[@sophiasmith7750]

And same for a woman on her period: we may react more emotionally then we otherwise might to something during those times, but much of the time we have reason to be angry or sad or what have you. At least in my case, don’t want to blanket everybody

[@Line...]

Who doesn't love Prince of Egypt

[@simplyrowen]

Technically all emotions in all humans are hormonal chain reactions. Neurotransmitters, hormones all communicating and fueling our emotions. Notice how men doing steroids (hormones) to bulk up can become more irritable (emotional, hormonal), angry, be happy one minute, pissed of the next. Hormones affect us all and are the drivers for our mood/emotions.

[@surferdude4487]

"The Prince of Egypt" is OK, but it doesn't hold a candle to "The 10 Commandments"

[@reflastori]

Oh my ghaaaad!!! Mary and Joseph is the ultimate couple goals! This is gonna be awesome! Ugh when i reflect on their journey during advent season, i usually find myself teary eyed thinking about how much respect and support they had for each other through everything.

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

It's such a lovely relationship in this film.

[@samiam5703]

The "good is not boring" is so completely wrapped up in 13 going on 30. I watched it again, and so much of it still stands up

[@misspriss2482]

Are you talking about Mark Ruffalo's character? He kind of annoys me though. He spends time with Jenna and flirts with her behind his girlfriend's back, sees that she's changed, and then uses the "I have a girlfriend and besides, you were a jerk in high school over 10 years ago" excuse as to why despite wasting her time for weeks, he is still going back to his girlfriend. He just struck me as a judgmental ass who had one last fling before he got married to somebody else; then explained why she wasn't good enough for him to be with.

[@samiam5703]

@@misspriss2482 I am. I definitely hear what you're saying. I had forgot about that and wasn't the biggest fan of that angle, either. But at the same time, I kind of understand? He was absolutely mad about her in high school, she leaves his life, he finds someone that he doesn't absolutely love but is comfortable with who is generally long-distance, she comes back into his life like a whirlwind. She's the one he always loved, but thought he could never have. He gets caught up in, but then realizes that he can't just drop everything for a whirlwind that may not go anywhere, and he doesn't want to do that to his fiance. So though he loves her and definitely lost himself for a minute, his character is ultimately responsible and loyal and he can't do that to his fiance. So she realizes her mistake and becomes someone he can depend on and build something with rather than just being the whirlwind like before. They grow into a solid foundation together rather than just getting caught up in everything. But I definitely see what you're saying and I could definitely be getting caught up in that I really like Mark Ruffalo as an actor

[@meganhirschi6248]

My main problem with movies and fictional books about religious topics is the manufactured spiritual experiences. When you make the experience into a spectacle, it immediately takes the intimacy away. (That and most of them are done poorly.)

[@MrsOdie2]

When I was deep in post-partum depression and nursing my new infant, my husband would make me grilled cheese sandwiches, and it felt like the most loving thing he's ever done for me. He couldn't do anything for the baby at that stage. She needed me 100% of the time. So, he looked for what he could do, and that was make sure I got a yummy, comforting meal. When I'm mad at him (after 17 years, that happens a lot), I can feel softly toward him again by recalling this support and love he gave me and our daughter, when he didn't even have to be asked.

[@hypotheticalhippo2327]

You guys have talked about "nice guys" and the toxicity that comes with believing you deserve someone else's love a couple times now, and it is an incredibly important message that has helped me reflect on myself and my own past actions. I would also like to hear you guys talk about the other side to this coin: how does one overcome the hurdle and realize that they are not, in fact, owed the love of another? And more importantly, how should they deal with the overwhelming emotions of finding out their love is not reciprocated, and cope with the realization that it never will be? Then as an after thought, how can someone best deal with such a situation so as to possibly harbor a healthy friendship, specifically one where both people feel fulfilled emotionally from it? I ask this because I am good friends with several people that I have wanted to be in a relationship with, and it is incredibly painful to hold back on expressing my true feelings since I know it would make them uncomfortable, so I wonder if there are any better ways to cope with this, or a better perspective I should be seeing it from.

[@hypotheticalhippo2327]

And btw, thank you both so so much for everything you do on this channel. I binged all your episodes within a few days after finding your Inside Out video, and even in that short amount of time, I have taken huge leaps in understanding my own emotions, and more importantly accepting them and allowing them to be processed. I still have a long way to go, but you guys have truly set me on the right path. I can't thank you two (and everyone else behind the scenes) enough.

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Such awesome questions. We will definitely figure out a way to address this stuff in future episodes! I (Alan here) really feel for you. I definitely developed crushes or fell in love too fast in my youth, led to a fair amount of the pain you describe. I'll talk to Jonathan about it. He may have tools that I didn't as a teen/early 20's kid dealing with SO MUCH EMOTION. I can tell you that it gets better though. Getting into, then maintaining long-term stable relationships (healthy ones) has a transformative effect. Until then, patience, and we'll look for tools for you.

[@ker9714]

Thank you for disagreeing with the 'nice guy schtick' ! Having two grown men, one being a therapist, telling the audience that niceness is the bare minimum is sadly very fresh and kind to me. Grew up hearing dads telling their sons to never give up when the girl says no and I've always been felt sick when that happens.

[@ErzengelDesLichtes]

I wonder what you could tell us about the family dynamics in “How to Train Your Dragon” and “Shazaam”

[@aiiiia9971]

YESSS

[@elfteiroh]

How to Train Your Dragon is also a great piece for disabilities and overcoming them in an healthy way, and being supportive without being demeaning. I’m way too sleepy to write this in a coherent and best way...

[@rileyackison4495]

How to train your dragon please please please

[@rhiannon5313]

I admire the use of the gender-spanning term “partner” that they used throughout this video. It’s very heartening to see openness and inclusivity🥰.

[@MrDrumStikz]

Well, my wife is due in March, so this is great timing

[@aurea.]

Congratulations to you both, wish you nothing but the best!

[@sisuguillam5109]

Congrats!

[@aiiiia9971]

Congrats and well wishes!

[@sadpenguin8616]

congrats!!!

[@amfcapone]

Loved this episode. Joseph never gets enough love. What a husband, what a father. Many thanks, merry Christmas.

[@Serenity113]

So what you guys are saying is... that you have a massive man crush on Oscar Isaac. 🤣

[@anavasquezhernandez183]

Who doesn't, tho?

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

@@anavasquezhernandez183 RIGHT!!!???

[@dancechica]

@@anavasquezhernandez183 Agreed

[@MiracleWinchester]

Don't you? I haven't met anyone who's not

[@a.a.g.h.1679]

Who doesn’t?

[@willowisaperson2807]

I am about the least religious person in the universe and have never seen this film but you bet I'm going to watch and enjoy this anyway

[@jessicastovall2290]

Example of a servant-hearted male movie character: Alan Rickman in Sense and Sensibility

[@athenstar10]

Nomatter how many times I watch this movie, I never get tired of enjoying the moments of Joseph and Mary being "normal" couple, showing what love is really all about. It also reminds me to look for my "Joseph", lol.

[@elainabarbaree659]

"Deep faith and most religious films make me slightly ill". I'll second that.

[@tatianahernandez2865]

You should do When Marnie was There. It's a good story about dealing with abandonment and lonliness with a supernatural/mystical element

[@TheElyonBrown]

Oh I'd love if they watched it! It's one of my favorite movies.

[@mori6434]

Ah yes, the movie that utterly blindsided me and my friends with the twist at the end. Cheering for the supposed lesbian friends was, in retrospect, not the best of takes.

[@micahsnow346]

In my church this year we were reviewing the story of the original Joseph, the son of Jacob, and one thing that the pastor emphasized a lot was Joseph’s continued integrity. Through various trials, his integrity never wavered. I think it’s important in that way that Mary’s husband was also named Joseph. He also lived a life of integrity, and I think that Oscar Isaac’s performance really portrayed this very well.

[@nataliecarbone6997]

Oscar Isaac has rapidly become the kind of actor who elevates everything he’s in just by being in it wholeheartedly. Plus the smolder.

[@morgand.3809]

Civilized disagreement is so refreshing! I'm actually looking forward to more examples of it from you guys. As for the movie, I never had any interest in watching it (in spite of Oscar Isaac), and now I kinda feel I don't have to, because you already gave me the good parts of it. But I do wonder if Alan's stance on religious movies includes Prince of Egypt...

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

It does not. Every role has exceptions.

[@quinnrice3475]

You should do a video on the Lord of the Rings the Ring and greed and the allure of power I think it would be very interesting

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Great suggestion!

[@patrickramseyart]

@@CinemaTherapyShow To piggie-back off that, I would love to get your take on Thorin's descent in the Hobbit trilogy. Some would attribute it to simple greed, but I feel the motivations are far more nuanced than that. (Namely, his grief and trauma from the Fall of Erebor, and the way this personal sense of duty shapes his actions, eventually for the worse.) He's probably one of the most fascinating characters in these films, and it would be incredible to get your analysis. (Especially since so few people talk about what the Hobbit films did right, which in my opinion, is a lot.)

[@kassandragoldstein4661]

Patrick Ramsey Highly agree!! What I adore about the Hobbit films is the improvement and addition of personality and character design. That to me is the biggest stand out of those movies. I think if they did Thorin, they should also look at Thranduil as well since they’re essentially two sides of the same coin imo.

[@patrickramseyart]

@@kassandragoldstein4661 Yes! I agree 100%. Thranduil is very important in this discussion (and all-around a great character.)

[@mariahfleming1120]

What I loved the most about this video is the inclusive language. Not implying that only cis woman can be pregnant, and by saying that although Alan (I'm sorry, Jonathan, I'm not sure of your believes and don't want to offend by assuming) is strongly Christian, you have no issues with other religions and cultures and what they celebrate during the season. It's so nice.

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Thank you for this. This is Jonathan and I appreciate your not assuming. I am Christian, in that I try to live the teachings of Jesus, but I'm not super on board with how some Christians act. Alan and I both belief that loving others requires respect for their perspective and traditions :) And yeah, the non-gendered language was intentional. Thank you so much for watching!

[@aurea.]

I was way too young to appreciate Oscar Isaac's Joseph when I saw this movie in theatres. Seeing this notification 14 years later was a pleasant surprise, thank you for another well-done and touching video :) P.S.: I can't listen to Carol of the Bells the same way after _that_ scene... Anyone else?

[@jahsoka8307]

I love that scene when Joseph asks Mary if she's well. It's always important the baby is ok but that doesn't mean the mother is fine

[@brigidtheirish]

I really like Joseph. Here he was, about to be married, and he found his bride to be was pregnant and *not* by him. Legally, he could've had her stoned and publicly shamed. Instead he decided to quietly divorce her to spare everyone a lot of fuss until God explained the circumstances and said that it's okay to go through with the marriage. So here he is, likely much older than Mary, not only taking care of her but later *fleeing the country* with this little family to protect a child who isn't his. There's a reason he's the patron saint of fathers. Also, can't particularly blame Alan for his attitude toward religious movies. Most of them tend to be schmaltzy, preachy, and generally not fun. (Kinda like the religious fiction *books* Mom keeps trying to get me to read.) On defending your wife during pregnancy (and in marriage in general), well, with my parents, Mom was sick pretty much constantly for the first decade or so of their marriage. Longer, really, but it took about ten years to figure out what was wrong. There wasn't a whole lot Dad could actually *do* to support and defend her. He's hopeless at most domestic chores and isn't much better at emotional support (he tries, but it's a bit like getting a pat on the head from clumsy bear). But he did keep taking her to clinics and hospitals with quacks who dismissed the obvious signs that she was *dying,* resisted the urge to murder every last one of them, and finally found a doctor with an actual brain. So, kinda defense from outside people? Because the doctors would've just let her slowly waste away if he didn't have the combined stubbornness of Ireland and Norway. What my dad *was* good at was being devoted. Sickeningly devoted. Annoyingly devoted. Calling-her-beautiful-when-she's-bent-over-the-toilet-with-vomit-in-her-hair-and-wanting-to-kill-him devoted. He was so *excited* during all the births and amazed at each of us like he'd never seen a baby before. He gave baths, changed diapers (how many men are willing to do that?), and probably would've fed us if we didn't have to be attached to Mom for that. (Apparently trying to pump milk out for later use was incredibly painful.) He failed spectacularly at anything that required *quiet,* but he tried.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@gracehaven5459 Well, with Dad, it was less that and more a set of mental health issues that wouldn't be diagnosed for a couple more decades. Including Aspergers and PTSD. Mom's doing better, which, admittedly, isn't saying much. She still gets sick easily and has some less-than-ideal coping mechanisms likely stemming from her own mental health issues and upbringing (Grandma was a saintly woman, but agoraphobia is going to negatively affect everyone around you). Man, now that I think about it, it's kinda amazing anyone in my family is *functional.*

[@angieb976]

The way they talk about Joseph and Mary makes me want to be a nice person like them

[@HastyJane88]

I'm non-religious. Agnostic. And I often brace myself when something starts diving into religion but these guys handle it so well. :)

[@dropdeaddork23]

I love seeing debates that don't end in somebody taking something personally and attacking the person rather than the opinion.

[@darleehart9782]

Oh my gosh! I watch this movie every Christmas eve! I love how they portray the characters! I can’t wait for this video!!!

[@micaelagauthier4964]

Yeah, this is a Christmas must-watch for my family too.

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Annual watch for me. - Jonathan

[@trenae77]

Jonathan, the music you mentioned was a huge draw for me! I get why Alan and others dislike the disjointedness of the overall plot, but I chose to go into this movie to see how the story was told on the whole, and I was pleased with the outcome. It’s not cinema gold, but it’s a beautiful representation of the Joseph and Mary we never really ever saw, but knew somehow existed. Unrelated but sort of; a song that always went hand in hand for me with this movie is Joseph’s Lullaby by the group MercyMe.

[@JustPilgrim]

I love this movie also :)

[@shinigamiinochi]

I'd love to see you guys tackle the various relationships in Love Actually

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Not this year. But it will be a Christmas episode for sure.

[@16poetisa]

PLEASE I cannot stand that movie but everyone thinks it's amazing

[@fugithegreat]

Ugh that whole movie is so problematic from a relationships standpoint. Makes me cringe.

[@shinigamiinochi]

@@fugithegreat that's why I think it would make a fun episode lol

[@PacheGayd]

I get that it is problematic, but I think I love it because it was the first time a saw a movie that showed different kinds of love as equally valid: parent to child, old friends, new romance, fracturing marriage, unrequited, ect. What stuck with me was the message that my life didn't have to look like a typical 90s RomCom to have love in it. It was kinda validating. There are a lot of better examples of that, now, but, at the time...in a major Hollywood movie people actually saw... I think I'm willing to overlook the flaws because of that emotional attachment, but I'd be interested in their take.

[@chelseaparrott8983]

I’m currently 34 weeks pregnant with twins and everything you guys said is perfect. It’s so important to have a partner that cares about you and goes out of there way to help you and take some of the burden off your shoulders. I’m so blessed that my husband is so great and follows many of these tips. Also I agree, although I’m a Christian I don’t tend to like Christian movies or music. I just feel like the quality of it is never as good.

[@Butterflier00]

a movie that took me be surprise that " this is was a Christian movie" was Mom's Night Out...it's not preachy...and was made by the same people that did Fireproof and that one football movie (which were at times kinda preachy....so I guess they learned?)

[@angiespurs5773]

THANK YOU! Talking about the father side of parenting and being vulnerable, not knowing if you're ready/prepared for the responsibility of teaching your own child, that is SO INCREDIBLY IMPORTANT! My husband and I have discussed this show many times. Baby showers for moms, gifts for the mom to be and the father is left to the side as if his job isn't just as important. More older, experienced fathers need to reach out to "soon to be" fathers and teach them, share their lessons and how to's 💕

[@gwendytequiere]

YEEEEESSSSSS this is my favorite interpretation of the nativity story. What a lovely video to release during this advent season. :) Thank you so much for your awesome content!!

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

You're so welcome!

[@chettajohnson5261]

Future suggestion: Runaway Bride & Julia Roberts' character's avoidance and anxiety. Love your channel!

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Tune in around Valentine's Day, 2021 ;)

[@chettajohnson5261]

Way ahead of me! 😆 Can't wait!

[@Nixijokenzi]

@@CinemaTherapyShow yay!

[@stephenbarrett7875]

*How to model healthy disagreement *also this episode: this film sucks

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Jonathan here. I don't think it sucks, though. I love it.

[@user-rh1jo1yy9e]

@Sprink Sprink- ik you didn't ask for MY opinion, but I Rly like that all the characters speak their languages while communicating with each other. And also, the movie makes me cry every time. 😅

[@vdiitd]

There are a lot of channels which discuss philosophical and therapeutical elements of movies, but most of them go into overdrive mode and their analysis become too convoluted. The way you analyze movies is more grounded into reality and you share some practical aspects of psychology. I love it! Looking forward to see more movie analysis.

[@charlottelewis3038]

REVIEW THE CHOSEN!!! I would love to know what you would think of it Alen. I myself am a Christian, and i believe that it is the best interpretation of the New Testament on film

[@victoriaaleice]

I was totally about to say the same thing! Especially now that it has been in theaters they totally can review it since it has been in "cinema." LOL Love The Chosen and be curious too on their thoughts on the filming of it and even what therapy points they have.

[@alethearia]

The Hogfather by Terry Pratchet does an amazing job of telling like 5 stories that inform each other. It's also an excellent example of the value of belief.

[@sawanna508]

Terry Pratchet's book are amazing anyway.

[@ActiveAdvocate1]

Hmm...am I smelling an Oscar Isaac bromance? YES, that is exactly what I'm smelling. And I don't know exactly what that would smell like, but it's not a bad thing, for sure.

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

It smells like cinnamon.

[@hiiexist8569]

I'd love it if you'd do Brave! My favorite thing about that movie is the dynamic between Merida and Elinor

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Already in the works. Look for it in a few months.

[@hiiexist8569]

@@CinemaTherapyShow I look forward to seeing it! Love your videos ❤

[@Black-Swan-007]

I've made similar comments on other videos of yours, but THANK YOU for using inclusive language in respect to relationships. Not every relationship will be cis/het. This is especially important because of your faith. A lot of religious people will use their faith to cause harm to LGBTQ+ people. It's refreshing to see it used with love and respect. Thank you, seriously.

[@naomivonkeman3617]

Yup definitely crying 😭 "Strength from God... And strength from you"

[@Nyxira]

YES. THANK YOU. "Nice guys" who have to tell people they're nice guys probably aren't.

[@hiimgerbert4469]

Since it's the Holidays, could you please take a look at It's a Wonderful Life. The film is full of nuances to the trauma's soldiers faced in WWII, and it's a brilliant story about the conflict and connection between the individual and community.

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

Tune in later this week!

[@hiimgerbert4469]

@@CinemaTherapyShow Holy cow! I saw it and almost started crying! So excited!

[@hannahpense9973]

You guys should tackle I Can Only Imagine from the perspective of domestic abuse and forgiveness. That film is a Christian film, but watches more like a coming of age film. It shows how past trauma can hinder your goals and relationships, and the true difficulty that comes with forgiving someone of childhood trauma. It doesn’t have an overstated message, it realistically portrays the double life of going to church a Christian and coming to a broken home a broken man - I think you’d both love it!

[@strangeanomaly4411]

Not gunna lie as a young single mom who has seen the opposite of a good partner this made me cry a little. Seeing Joseph look at Mary with such concern and love. Its a good example of the type of man that would be good for you in the long run. Hope you guys have a Merry Christmas.

[@avantika_singh]

I hope you are doing fine now.

[@strangeanomaly4411]

@@avantika_singh Im doing a lot better, I have worked reallg hard to get were I am which has fueling my feeling of selfworth and a part of me knows that if I didnt have my son and didnt get broken up with I would've never gotten this far in my life already. Thank you so much to the thought❤

[@Lowenaaa]

English is not my native language, but every video I discover new words from Jonathan, which is a bless ! Thanks.

[@Mickeystwin33]

I'm thankful to have a partner that does all of these.

[@rachelgrinbergs]

Please react to The Chosen!! Such a good series so far - deals with very human relationships between Jesus, his mother Mary, Mary Magdalene, and the disciples. Proof that Christian media can be really high quality with great storytelling and not cheesy/schmaltzy.

[@ashleypenn7845]

Yaaas! I started watching the show with the expectation of "Oh, joy. Another stodgy, cheesy Jesus flick." Within 3 episodes I had laughed, cried, and had my breath taken away multiple times. When they did the miracle of the fish, I found myself literally laughing out loud. I paused it right there and decided I was gonna wait until my hubby got off work so we could start it again from the beginning because it was just too good to watch all by myself!

[@tgonzalezcrespo]

I started watching, I found it too slow for my taste...

[@hlf3769]

I said the same in my comment, totally agree, not to spoil it but they had an exorcism and near *un-aliving* in the first episode, this ain't our parent's church show lol

[@avalasialove]

I like the first two seasons and the first three episodes of season three. Unfortunately, I had to stop after episode six because *spoiler warning* The previous episode opened with a pretty graphic scene of Peter’s wife having a miscarriage, which really upset me since someone close to me lost her baby. I tried to give it another chance, but then Peter picked a fight with Eden and then tried to play the victim right after she told him about the miscarriage. I actually had nightmares about it, I’m not exaggerating. That’s when I knew I couldn’t continue with the show.

[@rebekahtablante327]

Do they cover shows like that? I’ve only ever seen them discuss movies.

[@bessieburnet9816]

Seems interesting. Tells the Christmas story and sheds light on Joseph, the most overlooked character in the story. Telling his side of it.

[@HoldtheWalnuts]

This reminds me of when I was giving birth in the hospital and my husband (not the nurses) helped me from my bed to the wheelchair and the nurses were in shock and complimented him for helping me

[@hhoi8225]

That is so sad that the nurses would be in shock over that.

[@QueenBee-xd1xk]

That's sad the nurses are used to such low bar

[@DeerHeadXiris]

Going off of the "doesn't like religious movies" thing, how does Alan feel about The Prince of Egypt? I'm not christian but even that movie is a top fav for me

[@CinemaTherapyShow]

I freaking LOVE it. We're doing an episode about it for Easter/Passover 2021. There will be singing.

[@DeerHeadXiris]

@@CinemaTherapyShow OH GOSH That's so exciting! My next question was going to be if y'all would discuss that film too, nice!!

[@hollyl5702]

@@CinemaTherapyShow please sing.

[@theladyamalthea]

Man, where was this video when I was pregnant! You guys explain and expound soooooooo well! I feel like my husband and I both bumbled through all three of my pregnancies with no idea how to support each other.

[@vaba8608]

I love how you make psychology more approachable and relatable through movies, while also giving us little cinematic insights to better enjoy our next movie experience. Now, speaking of commitment and sacrifice in partnership, I'd suggest LaLaLand.The ending had made me mad, because for me it was the refusal of sacrifice hiding behind the pretense of a poetic gesture. Would love insights on the balance between commitment, sacrifice and maintaining individuality in a partnership. Thank you for such well-thought episodes!

[@katmoore2151]

My husband and I had a surprise baby literally nine and a half months after starting to date. 😅 I had been told previously by my Dr that I could not get pregnant anymore due to a severe injury, so our baby girl was a HUGE surprise. I was sure he was gonna leave me. I asked him to meet me at the park after we got off work and had my mom watch my older two children (he hadn't even met them yet - I found out we were expecting at 12 weeks along because I was getting sick at work). His response was silence. I waited for him to storm off, to start yelling, to accuse me of lying to him, but all he did was sit there and hold me. Finally, he took the *biggest* sigh I think I have ever heard and said, "well, I guess I'm not getting that new car." And that was it. Three years later, we have had another baby (so my old Dr should probably seek a new profession), and he has been with me through so so much. He is 100% committed to our family, including my older two girls, who did not have a father figure before he came along. He is so gentle and supportive; there are many days I don't feel like I deserve him. Thank you for reminding me of exactly what caused me to fall so deeply love with him in the beginning. He is my Joseph.

[@ashtonreed1820]

Me: *unable to impregnate anyone, no plans to ever be pregnant, not old enough for either of those things anyway* Me: *taking notes*

[@TheFranchiseCA]

It's the right time to learn principles of good relationships! My wife is a therapist for kids in foster care and group homes, and a lot of her teenage clients have very harmful ideas about what relationships are like. Many are going to experience a lot of unnecessary pain because of it.