Cleaning my burnout house: Part 3

[@jadadallas5891]

My son forgets habits. I have watched it happen. He will have completely lost the habit from one day to the next. He's 26. Late diagnosed ADHD. He checked off so many of the internal ADHD symptoms as a child. But they weren't talked about when he was young. And he wasn't externally hyperactive. So I had no idea.

[@remiclog]

@@jadadallas5891 this is such an important thing you bring up!! There are different types of ADHD, inattentive type doesn’t manifest as hyperactive so it’s easy to miss in a lot of people who’re still massively struggling day to day!

[@kristinaatgreenmeadowswede6714]

Hello from Sweden!🇸🇪 I was 55 when I was Diagnosed with ADHD (inattentive, or type 2) People having type 2 are not hyperactive on the outside but way more on the inside.. I really struggle to quiet my mind whenfor example, going to bed and My energy is very low all day long ( if I do something "boring", on the other hand I have loads of energy when it comes to do something that I am very passionate about....) I still forget thing from one day to another or even after 10 min if someone interrupts me😉😄 I am not perfect but I do as good as I can and that is enough..💖🤗

[@LoraHumphrey-x7n]

Me too!!!!

[@rodezadelacruz5606]

I was teary eyed when you said you can’t change how the outside world would treat your children, but you can be their comfort.. plus the hugging and the kissing… 🥹 bless your heart! Thank you for uploading this beautiful video ❤

[@MidwestLori77]

@@rodezadelacruz5606 I'm teary eyed also. This was a very moving video for me.

[@katihack6212]

I'm a 48 yr old mom of 3 boys. They are all grown and out of the house now. I wish I had you back when I was struggling with all this. I just adore listening to you

[@WendyDingle-c2o]

I totally agree with you. My house looks like this after 30 seconds.

[@Natalie-qu2ue]

And I wished that I spent my time doing more playing and not cleaning so much 😢..

[@Skaterbun]

And they don’t get any easier when they are teens! In fact I find they make more mess!

[@yas1880]

Time to celebrate when there's a new Remi video!! ❤ Thank you for keeping me going x

[@remiclog]

Oh bless you!! I really hope you enjoy this one! ❤️

[@Elizagrace9]

Yes, time to celebrate!! 🎉🎉

[@Elizagrace9]

So glad to see Part 3, Remi! Your gorgeous accent. Just sat down after my chores, and then, OH! It's Remi! Yay. 🎉 and went to get my huge pile of laundry to fold as I spent time with you.🧡🤍🤎

[@lmack6596]

​@@Elizagrace9Me too! 😄💕

[@yolas123]

LOVE YOUR VIDEOS HOW YOU TAKE THE TIME TO TALK WITH US I PREFER THIS OVER LOUD MUSIC AND YOU KEEP THINGS REAL 🤗

[@remiclog]

@@yolas123 thank you so much!! Glad you enjoy them 😊

[@lmack6596]

Me too! 💕🎃🤗

[@adminadmin3287]

Right?? I prefer this to music because it keeps me on track with the ADHD lol ❤

[@hannahz6848]

I’m literally tearing up hearing you talk about this. I have adhd and I think my oldest son has it too and I have really been struggling with things like this, especially recently. I want to help him, but it’s very hard to do. Hearing you talk about this has really helped me today. Thank you.

[@cathyprosser1050]

Great job, Remi 👍 I think you're an awesome mother to those adorable, precious sons of yours. ❤ ❤ ❤

[@edieboudreau9637]

Admitting responsibility and feeling like you failed is very much a huge step. You will continue to improve! I know because I, too, have had to learn to do the same. You have come so far... remember until you die you are still growing and improving.

[@remiclog]

Thank you! Absolutely ❤️

[@bri4940]

The brushing your teeth thing is soo true. I struggle with it too. Love your videos!!!

[@remiclog]

It’s comforting to know it’s not just me!

[@teresamoore4126]

​@@remiclogright guys, what helped me was hearing a dentist say this, don't wait for the right time to brush your teeth, so don't wait to do it after breakfast or after your evening meal because knowing people like us, it won't happen, just do it at random when it pops in your head, so I've just done mine at 4pm cause I thought about it, will I do them before bed, no. But at least I did them today. 😊

[@teresamoore4126]

❤

[@remiclog]

@ that’s actually an amazing idea!!!

[@teresamoore4126]

​@@remiclogI hope it helps, I still forget but I'm better than before. ❤

[@julejustjule]

Life is so much easier when 80% of our stuff and clothes go out the door. We only use 20% of it anyway, Neurodivergent or not. ❤ It took me over 50 years to realise this.

[@GulliBrannholm]

I have followed you for some time now and I´m so impressed with you being so young and yet so very wise. I´m more than dubble your age and I wish I had been this wise when my child was young. Your children are indeed blessed with you as their mother. Greetings from Sweden.

[@CaliAnimalLover]

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, you are wise beyond your years. I wish that there would’ve been someone like you that would’ve explained my kids world in this way to me. So I could understand what was happening. And WHY! I think I was probably a parent who did more harm than good when it came to this. And I regret it so much!

[@gettingtidy2495]

You can't regret it, we all do the best we can at the time.

[@CaliAnimalLover]

@ but i do regret it. I know my daughter especially has suffered because of being made to feel lazy all her life when she wasnt. And our relationship has also suffered because of it. And believe me, I’ve apologized to both of my kids. And I think on some level that apology has helped. But it didn’t undo all those years of us shaming her. And I hate that.

[@gettingtidy2495]

@CaliAnimalLover sorry to hear that 😔. But great you talked to her

[@justineyounger7675]

Yay! You're back!! Love listening to you Remi xx

[@remiclog]

Thank you so much ☺️ x

[@EmmaHawkins94]

i've got a burnout house right now and it's very overwhelming. watching your videos helps remind me that i'm not alone, and i can in fact tidy my own house. so thank you.

[@Undercover_Pineapple]

I would take all of those pens out of those cases and have them all in one big box so they are far easier for the kids to put away themselves and if they can't get in to the routine just now, or ever, it'll make it easier for you as well. I struggle to clean my teeth as well. It takes so much effort to motivate myaelf and remember. I do it every night without fail but the first clean of the day is where I trip up. Largely because I have chronic illness with crippling fatigue and throw in autism executive disfunction and it's not as easy for people like us. You are such a bloody incredible mum! I've said it many times! I see it so much in your videos! There is no such thing as perfection and all the skills you do have and all that you give to your boys gives them some skills that a lot of kids of our generation didn't have. You're doing so much good and deserve to be so proud! I'm currently studying my 2nd undergraduate degree, this one is Psychology, because I'm also fascinated by the way brains work! I spotted the "My Body" books in the boys' room and it made me smile because I loved those books growing up!

[@cheesey42dude9]

As soon as I got the notification for this, I yelled, "YUUUUUSSS!!!!" and had to wait til my babe was asleep so I can fully enjoy it 😅💖

[@clairegebhart2570]

i appreciate you being vulnerable with your dental hygiene habits. That is something that I have also been struggling with for a long time and I feel really shameful about it but it feels comforting to know Im not alone.

[@Desert-Dweller]

I'm the same. When we went in to COVID lockdown I was happy not to leave the house and didn't look in a mirror. When we ran out of food I went shopping in the car and noticed a thing on my tooth. I checked it in the mirror and it was brown plaque! I was horrified! After this really started to work on this and I am much better at it now but it certainly doesn't come naturally. (57, AuDhd)

[@KateIles-n7e]

Another fab motivational and honest video, thank you for keeping me going, I have 3 adhd and asd kids and your videos make me feel so less rubbish about my home thank you ❤

[@etresiabooysen752]

I am so glad you posted. 🎉🎉🎉 You have been my body double for a weeks now. But I am that point where I have been though your Facebook shorts and your KZbin channel. Now I can fold the laundry while listening to you.

[@jhutch1681]

In case you might like some tips that helped me: - Ditch the marker /pen trays and use a clear bin instead. It's faster when putting them away and lets you see inside without dumping everything. User friendly storage and access made a world of difference for me. It has to be easy. - In my kids room, I had one spot as sorting station where things could go until they were put away. Folded laundry, books, etc., got place in piles, but the deal was everyone had to spend five minutes (or 10 or whatever) or put away five things (10...) each morning and /or each night. I would wander the room gathering things off the floor, sorting as I went, and cheered them on as we all put things away. - Having all the costumes in one bag guarantees that if anyone wants to play dress-up, the bag will be emptied and left on the floor. Wall hooks for fewer costumes that can be seen might save some mess. - Same with the teddies, if you can't find the one you want, you're going to dump them all. What about a teddy hammock in the corner? - The cars in the hamper would be easier on an open shelf, without necessarily taking up lots more space. No dumping everything out to find the one you want. - Again for books stacked in a drawer or squashed into cupboards. - Instead of books leaning on a dresser that fall over when a few are removed, I really like cubby shelves (like the Ikea Kalax) for kids books and things. - I also make lists for each member of the family each day - and it includes things like tooth brushing, which have to be checked off when they are done. - The other thing I notice with my adult daughter is that screen time is her absolute undoing for getting things done and being able to focus. Screens and technology were not a regular part of her childhood and for her the problem got much worse now that she uses them everyday. - Instead of a box of toys inside a drawer, I would put the toys in the drawer and toss the box. - Staging the kids toys like the cute little figures stuck with stick-tack is lovely, but not practical for play or for clean up. - For me, I had to skip all the extras like Easter decorations and Hallowe'en parties, etc., and stick to Christmas and birthdays only. For the rest we might do something fun, but it couldn't be a big project that put me behind again. - I always try to prioritize the chores that will get worse if left undone. Laundry and dishes, for instance, will take longer to do if they pile up. Vacuuming or scrubbing, however, take about the same amount of time no matter how bad it gets. Regarding kids sleeping alone. I had a family bed and nursed my kids beyond the average length of time. My first didn't sleep through the night until she was five and a half. My second was the complete opposite. When #1 moved into her own bed, I put #2 in with her so she wasn't alone. It worked beautifully. Toddler slept through and the big sister was comforted by her presence. There is a HUGE gap between children understanding the expectations and being capable, and them being ABLE to reliably take responsibility. The first, they can learn quite young. The second can take decades. My mom had PTSD from childhood trauma and NEEDED the house to be nearly perfect at all times. Despite that, my room was always a disaster, and I could not stay on top of my chores. I tried very hard with my kids to be tidy and to teach those habits, but it was hard. The mess was stressful and the days were busy. As adults, one is tidy and the other is messy but anxious about it. Same house, same parents, different kids. I wonder if there are any strategies to avoid burn out and avoid getting behind in chores at the same time. Hiring some help - house keeper, mother's helper, babysitter? Doing a work bee with a friend? Having a monthly sleepover for the kids with a family member? Tips from a life coach to help with accountability and brainstorming? It is SO hard to be a woman /parent /working mom! And even if you put yourself out there on social media, no one has the right to judge you. Being messy is not a moral failing. It may be frustrating, disappointing, uncomfortable, anxiety inducing, overwhelming or inconvenient, but it's nobody else's business. You are a good mom and a good human :) Beautiful job with the clean up and with Rudy 💜

[@RahYisrael99]

I have 3 clear shoebox bins 1. Markers 2. School pencils 3. Crayons A non see thru bin meant everything was dumped out just to find the blue pencil. Lol. So annoying.

[@Witchofthepurplerealm]

My father was an army drill Sergeant. Our house had to be spotless and be able to eat off the bathroom floor! So like you my house always looks like a tornado went through it. Love your videos!

[@jesswatt5824]

I'm mostly neurotypical (As far as I know) but I grew up in a VERY dirty house and I'm still struggling to find routines that work for me at 40. But I have gotten much better over the years and I am able to keep a generally tidy house, which I'm grateful for for sure. Thank you for sharing with us!

[@marianneb.7112]

Love you! Thank you for your videos. 💕

[@jilllunceford4114]

Remi, you are a wonderful Mom and don't Ever let anybody tell you otherwise. You are the mom your boys are meant to have because you understand what they are going through and can help them. I loved you and your son hugging when you got through folding the clothes.

[@NiNitosix]

Just had a chance to finish the video. Rudy, NiNi is so proud of how you helped your Mum. You folded clothes really well. 🤗♥️

[@seemaraniga4113]

I think everyone is different and hats off to you for prioritizing your children's childhood above everything else. There will always be chores but they won't always be little ❤

[@fabienneroure9995]

Well said!❤👍🤗

[@samantharoberts4519]

Thank you for your honesty. This video brought back memories of tidying up my son’s room!!! ❤

[@LorraineIvers]

Remi I cried listening to you talk about Rudi. What a fantastic mother he has with you by his side. I'm sitting in my 14 year old daughters room giving it a clean while she's out with her friends. I tell my kids every day of their lives how much I love them as I didn't have that growing up. My parents fed and clothed us but I never felt truly loved by my mother. You are AMAZING. You have two very lucky children X😊

[@NiNitosix]

Im serious when I say you are my mini me. I’m very fond of you and enjoy your content. I’m a mom of 2 boys. I sure miss them being small. I love your tips. THANK YOU. 🤍🤗

[@remiclog]

Thank you so much 🥰❤️

[@NiNitosix]

@@remiclogyou’re so very welcome. ♥️

[@BetsyAllen-tp5ii]

Two happy thing s I saw...the not water bottle. I have one too! I saw how great Rudy can fold clothes.Please tell him how good of a job he is doing! You are a great mom and little step can be made each day. Allow grace, and forgiveness to enter your home. Can't wait for the next episode. Thanks again.

[@LAURAPHILBIN-tc9gj]

You keep me trying to overcome this. It is the hardest thing I have ever dealt with in my life and so, so discouraging, depressing. Anxious and crippling anxiety. Therapy, medication and still overwhelmed and mentally beating myself up. Best thing my therapist ever told me is pick my battles with my kids. Our relationship was great, i was able to get them the help for their own mental challenges. Including with the school. I picked my battles and cared for the most important things in their lives. Thank you, Remi they are in their 30's now and it is my time to take care of myself and improve my life.

[@pattiwilliams9144]

Your boys are going to remember you and Charlie always being there, always being loved and always standing up for them. Those (things to me anyway) are the most important things. I think you both are doing a wonderful job!! Much love from Kentucky, United States 😘

[@arlenecollins7279]

Wow! What a fabulous topic for this video. You’ve done a great job again! Kudos! 👏

[@MidwestLori77]

Anytime I watch or just listen to your videos, it feels like giving my childhood self a big hug and telling her it's going to be ok. Thank you for that Remi, you are a blessing to see many. Your kind voice soothes me when I'm beating myself up for the state of my home and how I'm raising my kids. I can't thank you enough. I hope your little family had a lovely Halloween!

[@lmack6596]

💯 🤗🤗🎃👻🕸️✨

[@adminadmin3287]

Not all families are the same; your children are great with donation and my children will go to battle to keep a ripped sticker from the bottom of a soccer shoe. You're leading magnificently ❤

[@semieschmidt5240]

I can only suggest: BINS 😂❤ It changes my life! No, it's not perfectly organized. But it takes away the barriers! It's super easy to throw stuff into them and: • the floors are free • you find what you're looking for So just bought Ikea Kalax boxes and put them on the floor against a wall. NO NOT A KALAX! Only the boxes, next to each other ❤😊

[@nicholetteburris3925]

I totally agree. Lids and drawers are my nemesis. My mother used to get so frustrated with me that I didn't "just clean". But even at 40+ I still struggle with anything that has a lid or a drawer. 😢

[@adrianne550]

Hello remi my son had ADHD ,it can get overwhelming constantly repeating basics things of life, Your video make me cry ..Thanks for your story 😢

[@remiclog]

I empathise totally. Every morning repeating the same simple instructions over and over again, only to turn round and have to do it again. It’s so overwhelming. ❤️

[@nanholmes9229]

Yay. I’ve missed you good morning from North Carolina

[@remiclog]

Good morning! It’s just coming towards the evening here 😊

[@rileygabriel6700]

As a 20-something with only a cat to care for, i still struggle with keeping on top of my home. I find your videos so helpful in giving myself grace and building systems to improve over time and honor where I'm at day to day.

[@bethfeger8409]

You are just precious and wonderful. I wish people would lay off the mom guilt and shaming people for not being perfect. You are a great mom.

[@melaniapina6368]

Mi biggest problem is I’m so slow…I have to mentally program every action and try to do things in a certain order and end up loosing time and getting very tired. I started noticing this things about myself thanks to your videos, you’re an endless source of insight about neurodivergence, thanks a lot for what you do ❤

[@lmack6596]

Ooh, interesting insight. Me too. I've spent most of my life wondering why I can't keep up with everyone else. I think for me I loose a lot of time transitioning from one thing to the next. I can't just switch from one thing to another like so many other people seem to be able to. I've decided this winter to try to do less. Embrace my inner cave-person!! 😄 Instead of pushing through, and getting exhausted, I'm going to try to pair down my commitments and have more cosy evenings in. That's the plan anyway - so far I've not managed very well and am still shattered!! 😅

[@jhutch1681]

I get easily overwhelmed, so I need a written plan - a to do list, sometimes even with timeslots filled in. I have to stick to routines, and mostly do things in the same order so I can focus. If I start trying to 'decide' what to do, I get lost in decision paralysis.

[@lorenstribling6096]

You are a great Mom. All those people who criticize you have their own major problems. They just choose to project their inadequacies onto you rather than deal with them. In the end if you and your family are happy that is what matter most.

[@carolbreeden8854]

Quickly came to see your video Remi great job on the room. I just love your videos keep them coming. ❤❤small town Butler,MO USA love listening to your calming voice. Have great rest of your day

[@talliyahrose]

I love that you are working on making sure your babies have good self-talk. I am coming up on 53 and still struggle with negative self-talk. Though not officially diagnosed yet, I am, without a doubt, ADHD and grew up being criticized for messiness, fidgeting and inattention. My older sister called me space case if that says anything. I too struggle with things like consistently brushing my teeth, sensitive gums along with not being able to form habits, so definitely don't feel bad about that. You are amazing and are doing fantastic. I did notice that your son's pens are in a box with multiple trays. I was thinking, it might be easier for him, and you, to just get rid of the trays and put the pens in the box. I have some pens that I have in their original packaging, and it's driving me crazy not having them at easy access. I'm looking into stackable drawers for mine, but I have a full adult desk. So, just thought maybe it would help keep putting the pens away easier if they were just stored in the box without the trays. Looking forward to the next video.

[@thepitofdespair]

just starting the video now but just wanted to say how thoroughly appreciative i am to see your upload!! i’ve been in a really bad spot yesterday and today - i took one bad interaction way out of proportion and have been frozen and spiraling because of it. i’m going to take this video as a sign to get up and make some small progress wherever i can. ❤ cannot say enough how much your videos help me, i watch them over and over and over again to get through my daily tasks. sending love to you ❤

[@thepitofdespair]

also just want to say - hearing you speak about your struggles with dental hygiene is soo relatable. you are NOT the only one who has a tough time remembering. i set alarms for AM and PM to brush and floss and tbh, some days i still forget to brush, and it’s even rarer that i actually do floss. it’s hard. it’s still worth making the effort. it doesn’t mean that you or I or anyone else is unworthy of love and care and respect. we will keep trying!!

[@thepitofdespair]

one last comment - i am a single woman in my mid-twenties with no kids, living alone in an apartment and i find it incredibly difficult just to maintain my own living space and daily habits. i can’t even make more than one meal a day. ANY person who sends you hate is off their fucking nut, you are working incredibly hard and are doing a great job raising two sweet young boys to be confident, kind, and happy. just making it through a day of parenting is an accomplishment in my mind, and i give you so much credit for battling all these negative comments while clearly putting so much love and thought into your parenting and childcare. i love these videos, and would happily watch you clean the same room every day just to have the company and chatter from a likeminded soul. while watching your video, i cleaned up some of my kitchen table, stacked up my dirty dishes, got dressed, made coffee, and fed my pet shrimps ❤ thank you for the company and motivation and i hope you’re having a happy halloween!! sending love ❤

[@flooferdoofer]

Starting therapy next week, thanks to you. In a good way! 😂 Struggled so long to explain what I need help with, until I found you and you explained executive dysfunction. Lifesaver! I don't have ADHD nor ASD, so most therapists assume I am depressed or traumatized. I did have a burnout, and survived cancer, but that was two years ago and I never lost my smile and the capacity to enjoy things. I could also get stuff done if I really had to. 😅 But with every day stuff I just got.. stuck. Hopefully therapy can support me while I build up new routines, develop triggers to get off my ass, rewards to keep it fun, and a goal to work forwards to. Your videos got me started, hopefully therapy gets me the rest of the way! ❤ So thank you, Remi.

[@teresamoore4126]

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[@remiclog]

Wow you’ve been through so much!!! I’m so excited for you to start your therapy journey! It sounds like you’ve got a brilliant, positive attitude. Sending you all the luck and love in the world ❤️

[@jhutch1681]

Such a great and healthy approach! All the best :)

[@joandrummond524]

Thank you. Remi love watching your videos. You are a star x

[@stevenleabon8032]

Hi Remi your such a beautiful person. Your boys and Charlie are great as a family. You instil in them good values, respect, love acceptance. It looks so tidy ❤love hearing your voice. Never feel alone, many are rooting for you. My prayers are for you to find more peace with how you were are made. I struggle with adhd, Autism. You are brave, don't listen to judgemental comments, try not to its hard. Parenting is the hardest thing ever. You are a good mum 😊all my love Jess

[@emilielantz826]

I love your videos, I’m expecting my 2nd child and lost my job 1 month ago so I am feeling very hormonal and overwhelmed, your video brought tears to my eyes 🥹💜 you are a gift! Keep staying strong and loving your children! Someday your children will be able to watch these videos and see how much they are truly loved! Now, onto the cleaning 🙌🏼 kitchen first!

[@GinaAdams-tw7lh]

You're a great mum, nice to see you and Rudi working together on the laundry 😊 I have 3 grown sons and 2 grandchildren now, I relate to the struggles but when I was a young mum I had to muddle through. I find your chats so relatable and comforting ❤

[@paulinecrawford139]

Ruddy is so good at folding bless his wee heart ❤

[@edieparastatides9403]

Wow! Rudy has grown SO MUCH! And look at how beautifully he folds clothes!! He’s doing fantastically! Good for you Rudy and Mom!!

[@summerrain7466]

Thank you so much, Remi! People who don't have neurodivergence just don't get it. You've created such a safe and understanding environment here!

[@catherine6977]

Little Rudi helping to fold the clothes melts my heart ❤

[@sonyagair1219]

Nonsense Remi! You're an awesome Mother. Don't be so hard on yourself 🙏

[@SusanBuckingham-ut2ez]

What a lovely chat we just had with you! I was happy to let you take the floor and run with it! Your lovely voice is soothing and calming in nature. You have developed a beautiful outlook on your situation! Luckily, you have done your homework and have much knowledge and wisdom to impart on your kiddos and how important it is to be, 1st of all, a loving parent! Kindness, patience and guidance go so much further than being a drill instructor. Thanks for sharing your life with us! Love your channel! See you again soon! Hugs from Michigan in the USA!

[@andreapantoja3092]

Your videos and so inspiration and motivation thank you for helps us out 🫶

[@Desert-Dweller]

You're definitely not the only one who struggles to clean your teeth. I'm the same. Im 57 and not officially diagnosed but i believe i have AuDhd. I've thought for about 3 years i have ASD but there were some things that didn't quite fit. Now im seeing the adhd too. I loved seeing Rudy fold clothes. You can tell it's not the first time he's done it. You're doing so well! ❤

[@CindiBernat]

YEAY! A new video! Can't wait to find a little time to myself today so I can watch and listen to Remi!❤

[@Levandetag]

What a beautiful humane human being you are, and with a lot of wisdom from inside your heart

[@AriLo-d9g]

Yes!! Totally agree with all the positive self-talk in this video! Being emotionally available and supportive of your children is the most important job anyone can have! And you’re doing that. ❤

[@danielasauer3356]

Your voiceovers ❤. You always safe when I feel bad and Not enough. Thank you

[@Kacey420]

I needed to hear your words today more than ever ❤ thank you! I am so grateful for you ❣️ you have truly blessed me. By sharing your story and being vulnerable to spread this awareness, you have significantly improved my healing & overall mental wellbeing. I can never thank you enough! Learning how to finally love and care about my own self had much of your assistance with your videos! You’ve changed my life ❤

[@OldGreyMare60]

Outstanding job,Remi! I love how you are raising your boys! ❤❤❤

[@ChristianAnneSmith]

Beautiful, Remi.❤ Feeling that pep-talk and those sentiments there at the end deeply, both in my own heart and my parent heart. ❤❤❤ just diagnosed with ADHD two months ago, And learning to be easier on myself and my family. I listen to all you said twice .

[@elizabethschmidt9594]

You are not failing...you are learning, adapting and doing ! You are the best person I have seen on this internet and I love your video's and family and I get inspired every time I see you. Thank you.

[@antzieisme]

Thank you Remi for teaching me to be compassionate and more patient with myself ❤

[@tiebekidane5469]

I needed these words today. Really, thank you ❤

[@janeenellington9669]

You are an AMAZING Mom and an even more AMAZING human being!! Your family is SO fortunate to have you!! Such an inspiration!! 💐

[@TheGhostlyone182]

All so articulatedly explained Remi regarding your family dynamics. Your house is full of love and you have learnt your own techniques for coping which you are now passing on to others 💕

[@lindanewton1142]

Beautiful family xxxx

[@crowcalls]

I found this video on my recommended and will be sticking around! It is so heartening to hear about your parenting, avoiding shame and working to find strategies that work for you and your kids. I have a very similar problem with toothbrushing, sensory issues, and daily habits, and I know just how hard it gets to convince yourself. Lots of love to you on this journey!

[@sharonwengler3225]

My son, now 22, has ADHD but I always feel that is just the label given to him. His anxiety can be through the roof and so can his abundance of kindness! As parents all we want for our children is for them to be accepted. Thank you Remi for putting words to what so many parents struggle with while trying to raise happy, healthy productive humans!

[@sanjanasarwar63]

I check everyday KZbin just for your video! I love watching your video and it helps me to clean my burnout home!! Love you remi❤

[@heatherjolly8389]

I'm OBSESSED with your channel and genuine message you always gift us with.

[@dasimcgough4745]

I'm currently getting checked for adhd. I find it easier to pick up clothes followed by paper followed by soft toys followed by hard toys. Collect any pots by the door. Or I make doom pile in the middle of the room and pick it apart. ❤❤ much love I love your videos xx

[@sharonwest1602]

Remi I understand you doing a great job the house looks good

[@janping5247]

What a fantastic achievement at the end,all neat and tidy again, just brilliant.

[@remiclog]

Thank you so much 😊

[@kikacre]

Hi Remi, I deeply admire your mindset, your patience, your wisdom and your resilience. For me and so many others you are really an amazing and inspiring person. Greets and hugs from an older lady 😊❤

[@lisajones542]

Hi remi great vlog so lovely seeing your son help love your bedding ❤

[@anelleroux4882]

You are a wise young woman and truly inspirational! your partner and children are blessed to have you as their partner and mom.

[@banry1174]

You're such a wonderful mum!❤

[@marystrenke3050]

Thank you!!!❤❤❤❤ Your words really resonate with my heart ❤

[@deborahlang2417]

Remi, thank you for your videos. It reminds me of when my boys were little. Working and so many things to do in a day and only 24 hrs. Something is always left out. Better the house than your little ones🥰

[@tylerfrench7845]

great and insightful video as always! i'm sure your kids have learned (and will learn!) a lot from having such introspective and empathetic parents

[@remiclog]

Thank you. I very much hope so 😊

[@amyleavitt1430]

Remi you're doing great. I never was good at training my kids in cleaning. I always struggled to stay on top of anything in life .😂 My adult children turned out great. Their apartments are clean and tidy, granted they don't have children yet. I think there are only a few rare people out there that are perfect in parenting and house keeping, yet the rest beat themselves up because they are not. Keep smiling 😊

[@somerandomperson7741]

I will share how I am dealing with forgetting to brush my teeth, just to put it out there. I am a late diagnosed autistic (33y), super forgetful and terrible with habits. I read somewhere that it‘s helpful to attach new habits to existing actions. I take medicine in the morning and evening, so I „attached“ the habit of brushing teeth to that. Taking medicine is attached to going to bed/getting out of it, so it has been working well for 98% of the time. I still need the reminders on my phone from time to time, though. And it is waaaay worse when I am not at home. What also helped is the phrase „if something is worth doing, it is worth doing badly“ - so 30 seconds of brushing is better than not at all. Anyway, that helped me, maybe it will help someone else. Progress not perfection!

[@Elizagrace9]

So glad to see your video today. Love you, Remi!

[@eifffieelephant3381]

I have adult boys with the same issues and felt the same struggles you are dealing with, just remember that you want your adult children to remember how they enjoyed the game times and the love you give them more than how often you dusted

[@CynthiaMiller-cc3qj]

These are the best explanations of neurodivergence & ADHA that I have ever heard ❣️🎃🎃🎃

[@zarabijara8111]

Merci beaucoup pour la motivation.

[@remiclog]

You’re very welcome! ❤️

[@kristinaatgreenmeadowswede6714]

Hello from Sweden!🇸🇪🇸🇪 Great to se you Remi! You are so sweet sharing your home with all that there is. All the mess!!!😉 I have the same piles like you and your family, but me I live alone, and until I was 55 I always felt the guilt and even shame for not being able to have a tidy home. But then, back In September 2020 I got diagnosed with ADHD type 2 and then "all the pieces landed in the right place in the Jigsaw Puzzle". I still forget my to do habits, but today I am kind to myself and do what I have energy for... Some days it's a lot of energy, others not so much!!! Ans it's OK! Lots ov love from Sweden!💖🤗🇸🇪

[@brianamullins9979]

Yay, a video for my lunch break!!! ❤ Thank you as always Remi

[@remiclog]

I hope you enjoy!! ❤️

[@brianamullins9979]

@remiclog I did. I think I find you talking through things so comforting so I always appreciate the chats and it helps to learn things from different perspectives.

[@LindseySawbridge]

How lovely ❤

[@minnamae25]

Once again, you nailed it. I'm 45 and just understanding my malfunction within the last couple years and my kid's. I've got 4 kid's and every one of them are different and yet check off many of those ADHD boxes. I also think we have a touch of aspergers. My husband and kid's are ALWAYS asking me for something when I'm in the middle of doing something like making dinner, then i feel obligated to do what they ask, even though they don't need it in that very moment. It still feels like pressure and it makes my head get all out of whack and my chest heavy. I am trying hard to get my husband to understand that when he asks me for something when I'm already busy, it feels like pressure and overload, please stop. Please either figure it out on your own, or wait for a better time. The older i get, with everything already on my plate, I just can't handle being overwhelmed anymore. It's a horrible trigger that hurts and then i eventually lose my shit and start crying.

[@suemax231]

I’ve missed you. Seems like forever since the last one. But burnout is real and I want my KZbin creators to be well in mind and body. Hugs.

[@herhomemakingheart]

I can’t wait until you release your book❤ I could listen to you talk for hours lol!! You sound just like me as a child (and an adult now lol!!) we are doing our best😊

[@lmack6596]

Love it!!! 💪💕 Thank you Remi. I'm struggling more than usual at the moment (wonder if I have SAD? 🤔). It's been a tough few weeks and my housework feels overwhelming. But when I saw this video I decided to potter and tidy up what I could while listening to your reassuring, insightful, warming thoughts. 💕 Only halfway through and my home is already looking much better, and I'm feeling calmer and more in control. And reading through the comments, I know I'm not alone! 🥰🧹🪴💕🍁🎃🍂💕💪✨

[@collettemcquaide1662]

Due to your posts I have spoken to my GP regarding my life long "messiness" and "carelessness". It appears I wasn't "idle" and incapable as I was lead to believe. Awaiting ADD and ASD formal assessments. Thanks for making me reconsider my "faults" are not faults. Xx

[@samscrazylife07]

Kids are kids and need to explore the world their way. My daughter is ADHD she hates a clean space but has at the age of 24 is trying to keep everything clean and tidy. I'm not diagnosed ADHD but I'm obsessive about the cleaning. It's the shame that people forget that kids need to do things their way and people need to look at how everyone is different every child is different. You are amazing and Ur family are as well. Your doing what's right for your family and that is amazing.