Clinical psychologist teaches you how to get out of negativity and use your pain for good things!

Negativity can consume us entirely.
It can feel like a universal truth pulling us all down into the abyss, but it doesn’t have to be.
I’ve gone from being barely functional to getting my doctorate and being one of the most accomplished psychologists in the world in just 6 years of being licensed.
You can use your pain to do the same thing in your field.
Get my book: For When Everything is Burning
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Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

[@GerreWolff]

After ten years in a paralysis state, overcoming inertia had been a problem. Then you said::"If you do not start, the pain will never go away" WOW!!! So simple,

[@avathemis9878]

I think I have a really wide gap between the lowest point of my life, and the highest points. I never ever believed, in the first 40 years of my life, that I could be the person I am today, or that I could have been so fortunate.

[@jeannineterran2621]

I grew up with sibling and parents that thought it was funny to keep telling me I was ugly, stupid, lazy etc. I don't think they meant to be unkind - they just thought it was funny. Pointing out good things or possible talents was a no no. So I grew up believing all those negatives, and feeling that my achievements were nothing. When you talk, it's like you're able to read my mind. I'm nearly 70 now and still find it hard to believe people really like me, that I'm not stupid. I've never really achieved happy. But I'm working on it.

[@judymiller5154]

You described that very well and gave the speaker a nice compliment. I hope you keep writing, expressing yourself, if only to internet strangers. I wish we were neighbors and could have coffee together. God bless ❤️🙏❤️

[@le_th_]

Here's the ugly truth. Narcissists DO mean to be unkind. They feed off of other people's suffering. Putting other people down is how they feel better about themselves, so please...quit making excuses for those awful human beings who do that abusive, harmful stuff to others (including YOU). Get the hell away from the people who say those things to you. People who truly care about you will never treat you so unkindly. Instead, they will work to help lift you up, not put you down. I'm so sorry you were raised around narcissists. They are very toxic human beings who thrive by putting others down, and the sociopaths like to steal joy from others just because they're incapable of feeling joy. Don't let these sick individuals destroy you. You deserve better than that. You deserve kindness and compassion.

[@joanndeck4315]

They sound like narcissists

[@HLPiepgrass]

Wishing you a good day and to remember that you are strong.

[@coquinbuddha]

I've watched many of your videos and I just wanted to say this: I've been in therapy continuously for 20 years for chronic major depressive disorder and complex PTSD. I've had many therapists in that time. Some were amazing. Many were not. You are one of the best (I consider you one of my therapists at this point. The check is in the mail). Your communication style - - your whole approach to the field - - is fantastic. I really appreciate the constant effort to remember the struggles you've had and preface your advice with an acknowledgement that this stuff is hard. Too many times I've felt talked down to. Too many times I've felt even more discouraged because I couldn't just "stop it". Your transparency about your own journey offers hope and a sense of understanding. These are valuable assets to offer a client. You are helping a lot of people. Thank you for what you do.

[@DrScottEilers]

I really appreciate these incredibly thoughtful words ❤️

[@patriciamharris5664]

@Coquinbuddha Could nt have said it any better actually. Thank you ❤

[@user-vy6xw5lb5l]

Thanks😊

[@42ayla]

Talking about being born unhappy was so spot on. Looking back I can see that I was depressed as a child but 50 years ago that wasn't a thing so I was labelled moody and lazy instead. If I made friends I couldn't keep them which meant lots of opportunities for bullies to come after me which only increased the problem. Sometimes I wonder how I got through that time.

[@nancybaumgartner6774]

I am an LCSW therapist and have been in the field for forty years - private practice now. I moved out of a crazy, violent house at 14 and - in a nut shell- wanted to become the person I needed. No regrets ! I love what I do - though I do not like the direction the industrial mental health industry has taken- it’s too medicalized. This is a great testimony. Thanks !

[@CMoore8539]

Yes it is and so is the physical health industry. It’s sad.

[@chanazinger7560]

There is nothing, and I mean NOTHING worse than being your own worst enemy, and seeing NO LIGHT at the end of the tunnel. Listening to you feels like listening to someone who "gets it". Still don't see a light, but feels good watching your videos, thanks.

[@lakecountynaturalist7617]

You are very wise and all doctors should be like you. You are the only medical professional who understands and gives common sense advice on how to deal with pain. Most will just give you drugs to make you feel better and then send you away. Thank you. And if you lived nearby, I’d definitely be one of your patients.

[@worldview730]

Glad I found a group of good people in these comments I can Identify with & benefit from. Good fortune to all here.

[@worldview730]

The fact that you were able to achieve some of your educational goals & climb out of the dark hole you were in, says a lot about your character of resilience & determination. Glad I found your channel.

[@shehlatanveer2731]

I am so overwhelmed that I cannot say much except thank you. Thank you so much for your honesty. That is so brave and so kind. I feel motivated to try to help myself. Thank you so much.

[@DrScottEilers]

Thank YOU so much!

[@catalystcomet]

You are going to go very far. Please, please don't choose to change for any reason other than what you know to be a truth for who you are at your core. We need you. -The world

[@Lyn_Marie_]

I’m celebrating myself for another accomplishment I get to check off my to do list…. I found a Wonderful new Therapist ! ✔️ Thank you for sharing about your life. Your honesty is what makes you so likable and relatable. Looking forward to catching up.

[@ruthanneluvsvacuuming6653]

Too many people know how painful life can be and yet lots of them still don’t understand others feelings or pain

[@margaretdonovan1649]

Thanks Scott. For most of my 65 years if dealt with crippling depression and anxiety. My mom was a naturally positive person then at 18 I married my naturally positive husband. That is challenging! In just the last three years, as I have overcome some of my depression and anxiety, I have come to realize that I am not a naturally positive person. Not super happy. It was a helpful epiphany to realize the difference and not feel guilty that I am different than them, but that I am ok and like myself the way I am. I know what causes me to feel happy and positive, and that is great but not being super happy most of the time doesn't keep me in bed all day like depression did.

[@dtlphuong]

Thank you for making this video. I always felt bad for ignoring bad news on the internet because some parts of me felt like I running away from facing harsh truth of reality instead of protecting myself as I’m a little more sensitive.

[@tranzorz6293]

I might have to try this as i have no other choice... all i have st this point is pain. I experience no other emotions.

[@haylay78]

So glad i watched this.. you are so real and its nice to get to know a Dr /Therapist that is totally honest and being real about their own struggles. No B S . I like it . Thank you for your honesty 😊

[@DrScottEilers]

You are so welcome!

[@stevec404]

"Natural innate happiness." I believe we are born that way. Early childhood trauma takes it away.

[@lizybe28]

Dr Scott, you are describing my condition in a nutshell. My happiness has to be worked on daily.

[@therealdeal3672]

Really great video. It's both an encouragement and a sharing of yourself. Thank you. I did reflect on the fact that as somebody with PTSD and GAD and MDD that watching true crime videos is a "rep" for my brain and feeding the ideas of the dangers of the world and people. I did delete my next door and citizen apps just to help myself engage in less doomscrolling. The True Crime thing is a harder quit, I think. But worth reducing at least. And you gave a good reminder to get out and do the things that we like to do. A lot of times I just don't. Sometimes inertia is heavier than inspiration is a wind beneath one's wings. But I don't like that and I want to get myself to do more each day. ❤

[@esthermaggard8682]

Omygosh yes i absolutely understand what your saying, I was just thinking last night about volunteering somewhere at least part time to prove to myself that I can get out and do something and have that be a start to something more productive and enjoyable because I’ve always enjoyed being able to help others and that helps me so thank you so much for posting this video !!!!

[@DrScottEilers]

That sounds like a great idea!!

[@anonymouse790]

That was a powerful, motivating message right there. However, I am pushing 40 and spent the last two decades trying to overcome the painful childhood trauma and all the problems that came with it, such that I no longer have the energy to function like a 20-something and pull myself out of this very deep hole. What would your recommendation be for people in similar situations?

[@KittyBeats85]

Makes so much sense about having certain traits of your brain work out when you feed yourself with thoughts. I've heard people say that what you take in effects your thinking, and I know that to be true, but the visual of something being too strong, such as anxiety, and starving it out while you work on another part is so powerful. You have wonderful illustrations. Great video, Scott. Thank you!

[@miadodson1938]

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, it helps me to know that you have those experiences, because it means you have first hand knowledge & know what a person may be going through when they come to you. I don't like being around anyone if I am not experiencing positive feelings, joy, because I don't want to have try to explain to people the bad feelings, I don't want anyone to know or see me in a miserable state.....I can only be around others when I am feeling positive, happy and jovial, hence I became a recluse 16 years ago.

[@breigesheppard8339]

I am soooo very happy I have found you I am going to watch every one of yr videos for the 1s one to the last as I have suffered from depression after I gave birth to my 1s born he is 45yrs now (off and on) but this past 3yrs have not been good at all god bless you kind Dr S,E Thank you for yr amazing TIME 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️⭐️⭐️💐🍀

[@breigesheppard8339]

Ps I feel so sorry for you I hope yr family is really proud off you because I am Dr S- L 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🍀

[@breigesheppard8339]

Ps happy you have a lovely life now love to you x yr family 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️🍀

[@christineclements9321]

Hello Scott! I just “found” you. You’re terrific and are going to be one of my favorite persons. I need you. Thank you for these podcasts❣️

[@DrScottEilers]

Wow, thank you!

[@Blueseachelles]

Just viewed this and I feel completely validated and heard. Thank you so much 🥰

[@DrScottEilers]

So glad!

[@lucyjackson9408]

Been listening to your videos for a couple a weeks. Think you’ve hit the nail on the head for so many that struggle to keep our head above water. Appreciate your desire to reach out and bring insight hope and tools for change to people that otherwise might not have the drive or ability to access otherwise.

[@FG-ie7cu]

"hit the nail on the head" Yes, he hammers straight and true.

[@charvankerck9617]

when you spoke of your hurts became a drive in your life, I had an AAAHA moment . I realized my successses are a result of the need to overcome the pain. thank you. 😊

[@trinitywright7122]

I started watching you just a few days ago and it was somehow by the grace of God you popped up in my viewing feed but, strangely enough the algorithm is not bringing you back to my recommended things. So I'm not sure why that is but I am seeking you out. I watched three of your videos and they all helped me tremendously and then this morning I got up and once again I feel like I'm worthless piece of crap but I'm going to watch your morning routine video. It's so on again off again. Intrusive thoughts and what I want to tell you is. I'm so glad that you're on KZbin. There are no good therapists in my area. There's just really not. I went to a couple and it was ridiculous joke, You obviously actually have been through things and you love what you're doing and your skill at it. And you want to help people who suffer from depression and all the chronic things that go along with it. I'm chronically critical. I have CPTSD. No one wants a list of the things I've been through. They've been through their own. My stress level is very high and yada yada. So at least now I have you to turn to Dr. Scott when I need to and a friend of mine said but that's only one way therapy and I said ,". Let me tell you something, one way is better than no way." Something very traumatic was going on yesterday and I had watched two of your videos and I made it through everything with a sense of calm. I know this is long. Sorry. I watched a video where you said to celebrate ourselves and I had no idea what you were talking about and I'm 63 years old. And no, I never heard that before. Nobody ever taught me that my parents never taught me a darn thing. They were busy too busy. Just say anything helpful ever😢 and after I heard you say that I tried it several times this morning. I can't get myself to do it but I will and I guess I can celebrate just that no one that I'm going to get there sometime this morning. So anyway thank you. You really help I hope and I'm going to pray that the KZbin algorithms change to send you to hundreds of thousands of people because we desperately need you and what you said about you can't fit anymore people in your practice. So you're doing this while? That is a very selfless loving and wonderful thing and thank you very much.

[@andriyt23]

Man, i have no family, i have no home, i have no love and i have no friends, no proper job in my life, but honestly listening you sometimes i want to soothe you and calm you down like "Dear Scott, it is ok, everything will be alright, please do not worry" :) I am so sorry, but i really feel that way watching this particular video

[@ChristineDaae3]

Thank you so much Dr. Eilers for your raw honesty! Seeing your kind eyes and hearing your reassurance made me feel hopeful about the future. Your videos are incredible, please keep going and never stop.

[@DrScottEilers]

I sure won’t 😁

[@alexjapanski6806]

It was actually so helpful hearing that. Thank you ! KZbin is such an ocean of information that often times I feel like perhaps I am just another lost soul drifting in a life raft. So far your channel after 3 videos seems like my raft has finally touched either a friendly ship or the shore of an island of hope. And right before I start initial therapy. So far my friend has been my guide and savior through my darkest time, as a veteran with PTSD he has shown me that therapy is the true way forward. It did take him 2 years to find the right psychologist, he has in many ways been mine. And now I also found your guidance to a seeking a good one, in a country where the health care system is so chaotic to what I am used to living abroad half a lifetime and here mental health (especially psychiatrists are only for rich) looking for a suitable psychologist with so far untreated PTSD and ADHD has been simply overwhelming to think about...even scary, in my late 40's. Again thanks as this so far is extra light to what has been a very dark and long tunnel. Looking forward to many more of your videos and perhaps finding the right therapist sooner now. I will try get your book also, when a little more chaos clears here... I am thrilled to share this with my great friend and others who I know need it .

[@rosiephillips839]

Thank you for not giving up! I needed this. Be well!

[@DrScottEilers]

Thank you! You too!

[@leonieabson7706]

12 Nov 23, 3.30pm, New Zealand I have just stumbled across your channel and want to thank you for your authenticity. Your teaching resonates realism! Im sure I'll be learning much!

[@s.r.t.5123]

Thank you, Dr. Scott. I’ve been enjoying your podcasts since finding your channel. This one really connected with me today. Not that the others didn’t. They did, but today’s show helped me to look inwardly more. Thank you for your work.

[@muskaansodhi8735]

You are God sent. You say things that we know exist in our lives, somewhere in the background. But we ignore them coz facing them is painful. You kind of make us encounter them in a non-threatening positive way that gives us hope and makes us think we can do this. You keep us strong 💪 thank you so much ❤

[@wildatrahan6401]

Thank you for you transparency....I can so relate to your videos....I am a 62 yr old man and navigated my entire life with the motive of avoiding pain....not a true path for me, resulted in plenty avoidance, self loathing, & what I learned from you, tons of ambiguous grief! Spent plenty of time in the "freeze" mode, while life has passed me by. Would like to engage you as a professional phycologist...is that possible?

[@davemathews5446]

I am SO grateful to have found Dr. Scott! Finally someone who is genuine, open, and relatable. I plan to binge watch this whole channel. Thank you for putting this out there!

[@GingerBiPolarBear]

Thank you so much for this. That last part especially really hit home. Knowing I'm bipolar and knowing how hard life can be if I even start letting my life spiral out of control is the only thing getting me out of bed in the mornings. I never want to go back there!

[@DrScottEilers]

Right there with you 💪❤️

[@tracijurkiewicz9517]

Hi Dr. Scott. I just found your channel and I want to thank you for this first video, in which you introduced yourself. I look forward to viewing your other videos. I have a question, which may not be in your wheelhouse. However, I thought that I would give it a try. I’m a 60 year old female, Enneagram type 2, and have always been a very positive person. My cup is always half full. However, due to various circumstances, I have also battled with depression. I have a 36 year old daughter, who is an Enneagram type 6. She has always been insecure, and her cup is always half empty. In June of 2022, she decided, out of the blue, to simply remove me from her life. Since then, I have tried to regain my bubbly personality, but I am always so sad and depressed. How do I regain my sense of self and not put so much weight on another person’s opinion of me? Thanks again for posting your video. Take care and God Bless.

[@ericlopez3585]

Speaking of bicep curls/repetitions you’re looking good ! But just to recap what I got is to be careful of what you engage/interact w/ (negativity) and just to remember/acknowledge such pain(s) to steer clear of the reinforcing negativity to sort of create new paths to achieve goals/greater well-being

[@DrScottEilers]

Pretty much!! Make conscious decisions about what parts of your mind need strengthening and then seek out anything that reinforces it

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

@@DrScottEilers You are a very good looking man, and you are quite fit. I am happy for you that you're blessed now w/ a wonderful wife and children.

[@le_th_]

What a sincerely beautiful, heartfelt message that will help so many.

[@Mgt44411]

Your thoughts and words are incredibly encouraging! Thank you! If you could only know how grateful I am!

[@paularowe1574]

Thank you for this extremely encouraging video!! Looking forward to more!!

[@Quasihamster]

That all rings true and sounds very relatable. Any advice on how to stop attracting the kind of people who'll grab your whole arm up to the shoulder when you want to reach them a hand?

[@beverlytaylor1745]

This is incredibly helpful. Thank you for sharing part of your story. Godspeed.

[@kimgordon3695]

Your mom's mental health during gestation & the overall home you came into has great impact on it. I appreciate your willingness to talk about these personal experiences.

[@you_dont_wanna_know1969]

I'm so glad this channel exists...!! ❤

[@Just_Tired]

So, takeaway from this is to be surrounded on all sides by insanely positive people. The very same people that seem the least genuine and annoy me, lovely.

[@christinechild822]

Thank you for your honesty. Much respect.

[@KH-nn4tr]

❤ I appreciate hearing part of your story

[@Gypsywandering400]

Enjoying your down to earth content. Keep going! 🙏🏾

[@deni7457]

I love you man. Thank you bro I can relate with you. Being honest and sincere is best way to connect millions.

[@FG-ie7cu]

You are an excellent straight-talker.

[@s.m.2535]

Very powerful video. Thank you so much.

[@imenekh2211]

I struggle with existing too, I am trying to keep going, work hard for what i want, and just try to make something of what i have Thank you for the video I admire what you do ^_^

[@jomckee4447]

I love this. Thank you.

[@Mushroom321-]

GREAT point outs !! 😮😮

[@Renee1110]

Awesome encouragement!

[@mariatriantafillou1549]

Thank you for this inspiring video!

[@SR71GIRL]

Great stiff doc. Thank you. I wish you well. ❤

[@mariagoodey1153]

Thank you Dr Scott, I needed to revisit this today. 🙏

[@clipsahoy1]

What a wonderful post! Thank you! 😃 it was honest and hopeful, which is enormously comforting to anyone going through tough times and dealing with dark feelings. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for providing hope 🙏

[@DrScottEilers]

I really appreciate that! ❤️

[@kdjourney51]

Great videos. Very visceral, driven by context and actionable.

[@fire12731]

I’ve struggled with depression since childhood for a few reasons. I can relate. Sometimes I wonder why I was born

[@sda141]

Dr Scott, thank you.

[@yuka-coco]

This is one of the best videos I've ever watched on KZbin. I'm currently trying to become a clinical psychologist myself. But I've been thinking that maybe it's not the right fit for me since I experienced a mental health issue. Though I'm still second guessing myself, I feel a bit encouraged after listening to your story. Thank you.

[@Coffeecup.0110]

I just bought your book in audio form! 😊😊😊

[@eleanorcanty4650]

You are seriously unbelievable the way you explain it the average person like myself can understand. This is the second time I have listened to this as I feel I can learn so much from it . I imagine so many people can relate to your story ☘️☘️☘️☘️☘️

[@DrScottEilers]

Wow, thank you!

[@marshabroers6518]

Thanks. 🙏

[@oftenwrong.]

I’ve had major depression and general anxiety disorder for 36 years. My depression went away about 13 years ago without therapy I now face overwhelming anxiety and it stops me from doing almost anything

[@ninafelicitas973]

Thank you so much! ❤

[@OrionFilms]

10:30 Oh the validating advice I wished to hear

[@catherinem4130]

thank you so much

[@priscilafreitas9989]

Thank you so, so much for sharing a little bit of your experience! It means so such for people like me who are just starting the path... it does give so much hope! Thank you! I really appreciate your honesty and I wish you could be my own therapist but somehow you are! 😊 P.S: Sorry, English is not my first language!

[@DrScottEilers]

You are so welcome!

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

Your English is pretty perfect. Never would have guessed, except that you mentioned it.

[@priscilafreitas9989]

@@saintejeannedarc9460 Thank you so much for taking the time to write this nice little comment! I hope you're doing well today! 🩷

[@esthermaggard8682]

Do you think working with your patients sometimes affects you in a negative way ?

[@DrScottEilers]

People ask me that a lot. It’s reasonable to think that it would but it doesn’t. My clients are always trying to get better so there’s always an element of hope and optimism to our work together even during dark times.

[@esthermaggard8682]

@@DrScottEilers ok yes that makes sense , and thank you for answering have a great day :)

[@cody3504]

Okay weird thing. I see positive quotes and I instantly dismiss positive stuff. But bad stuff I believe is true and an more likely to resonate with

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

You've fallen into a bad feedback loop. The good thing about that is something compelled you to admit it and get it out into the air, so someone could see that and be able to give you better feedback. You can change this, but it will take work. It's possible to start believing some of the positive things you see, and to one day post your own positive things. I say this as someone who has been in a bad depression, and faced one helluva a last few years, so my life isn't pie, roses and platitudes.

[@9xqspx6]

Thank you

[@julinyas]

Or you can just fall into despair. I have been apparently depressed my entire life; living thinking this is normal. It is my normal. Yet professionals have told me that it's "interesting" that I've been depressed my entire life. Medication and therapy haven't helped much. You cannot be happy. Happiness is a fleeting emotion; not a goal to be achieved.

[@clarencehart8686]

thank you

[@ilenekuhns3463]

TY❣️

[@inira7418]

Happened to me the same, it could be seen at km distante that I was in a bad place on during school.

[@KH-nn4tr]

How do you feel your family dynamic impacted you? Was it toxic at all?

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

From hearing other videos and bit and pieces, it seems he had pretty good parents and didn't have a toxic or abusive upbringing.

[@andrewamata]

You been there. I can tell.

[@ascgazz7347]

As a learner, and sufferer of mental health for decades, I don’t get low stress vibes from you at all.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

I'm a bit murky on what you meant by you don't get low stress vibes from him. Does that mean you get high stress vibes, or that you aren't really getting stress vibes and he deals w/ it all well?

[@ascgazz7347]

@@saintejeannedarc9460 watch the video and see what you think, because that matters more.

[@Hamless_Kiwi]

Use me as a “here before a million” button

[@SmileFreestyle-hx2rc]

I have that exact shirt. It fits crazy well and doesn't wrinkle. I just don't like the mini transformer face up in the corner

[@loquacious_lisa]

Do you have any videos you’ve made on trauma?

[@DrScottEilers]

Not yet but I sure will soon! I haven’t made very many videos yet - I’ve got a whole notebook full of ideas ❤️

[@ruthanneluvsvacuuming6653]

Sadly when someone says I can help you my first thought is what do you want Even more sadly (sorry for the lack of grammar skills) is most of the time I’m right to be skeptical

[@TheMinot60]

Im an RN and i bet youve been complemented on your arm veins!

[@DrScottEilers]

Mostly by recovering addicts 😂

[@sarahengland1843]

You are ypung enough to start over. Many people are not. For many of us, it's just too late. Our lives are ruined and we face a future of poverty.

[@enigma220]

⚠️What and where are the Intensive Outpatient Clinics located?? ⚠️

[@DrScottEilers]

Eastern Iowa

[@enigma220]

@@DrScottEilers I've found your Mercy clinic. Do you do Zoom sessions? I'm in Omaha, Nebraska

[@enigma220]

@@DrScottEilers For some reason you gave me California of Pacific Northwest vibes. I dont know why though

[@rosea164]

Why no video helps me deal with my depression I see the comments where people say they benefit from the videos but I absolutely don't Nth excites me For me life is not worth the pain of living

[@timmothycopeland4866]

We'll have to agree to disagree on this one. I was raised with no father, in a religious cult (Jehovah's Witnesses) by an abusive schizophrenic alcoholic, who forbade me from interacting with or making friends with anyone not a JW. Those years where you learn to make friends, k-8th grade, I wasn't allowed to. I was taugh the end of the world would happen before I was an adult so any higher education was not only pointless, but outright discouraged. A ward of the state of California for all of the 11 high schools I went to which was nightmare after nightmare. There's no surprise I'm 52, quite single, zero friends, zero family, borderline agoraphobic, diagnosed C-PTSD, bipolar, unable to keep a job, on social security. I'm surprised I'm not in a bell tower.

[@fattidiliberta]

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[@peterbelanger4094]

Just empty chatter on a video screen. In this atomized, isolated, lonely online world, this 'advice' has all become empty noise. If it's not spoken in person, it's pointless. But that doesn't happen anymore, it's all online now...... just loneliness and internet isolation. I hate the 21st century.

[@LHydro]

My dad killed himself for thinking this way - he wanted to live in the pioneer days. He wanted to stop having regrets. He couldn’t. I think this dude is super attractive as a human being not hitting on him he’s married but he knows his stuff from both technical and personal experience. To be able to look and talk this well. Shoot. Goals. I’m 37. I dropped out of psychology even though I love writing , ha, and went back to math and environmental science. Math is easier in some respect. It’s a hard science with hard answers. Speaking on psychology, a soft science, is difficult. There is crap on the internet. This is kind of intimate and rare. Respect. God bless.