Well yeah, I kinda thought that was normal

Pre-empive action to prevent hurt and anxitey based on catastrophic thinking to the point that everything is going to be catastrophic.....

The only aspect that carried me through life as my being scapegoated in a narc family as a child, is praying and walking with God.

Algo won't let me even finish vid. I'm upset.

Dr. Eilers. Thank you so much for this video. This is the first thing that has given me hope in a very long time. I deeply appreciate your humility and your total honesty. Without without going into a lot of detail, I have been at the worst point of depression in my entire life, to the place of thinking about suicide daily. One of the biggest things that connects with me is that your comments are rooted in a deep acceptance of what you have to deal with, and that acceptance is what enables you to take the steps that you need to take to be whole, even though, as you said, much of the time you don’t feel like taking them. But the alternative is so much worse. Thank you so much again.

What if one meets the other?

It’s always hard to imagine someone speaking into a camera so relaxed and easy ever had real anxiety. Seeing it is inspiring to say the least.

The defining trait of my life since birth. Never knew anything else. Counting down the days, waiting to finally get out of this flesh prison

I am currently getting over a mysterious Illness that involves a productive and unproductive cough + sneezing , mucus, bright red sore throat, earraches, chills and congestion, x ray was negative for Pneumonia and they ruled out strep, covid, and flu and said it wasn't caused by viral/bacterial infection... Though they refuse to tell me what IS causing symptoms if it's not allergies...I'm coping with my choir director of three years leaving without offering a replacement and it's really hard to process, he's gonna be at the end of the year party, so I bought a cheap yellow dress online to match a headband to wear to it, for fun, I also recently came to the understanding that the person I have a crush on will never be interested in me as more than a very good friend, because even though we're the same age, she is WAY more responsible and emotionally mature and truly sees me as nothing more than a child (makes perfect sense) ... I've come to the overall conclusion that most if not all people I care about are going to come and go for whatever reason, and while I previously thought that I can't handle it, it turns out that I can, and it just takes a stupid amount of time to mourn the loss in comparison to everyone else, for example... Relationship with any person in particular, friend/platonic/aquatintance/romatic whatever, knew them for at least 2 years, it would take most people I know, a year tops to get over it and stop missing them...takes me 5-7 on average.. I also currently have feelings for a guy at work who has a gf that I've never met.. Anyway, all this to say, I'm looking at myself in a picture of a dress, my double chin and uneven, untoned, broad, wide shoulders on full display, and my overbite lvl 1 fat bottom lip smile that, while I'm thankful it hides the damage of the work I need to get done, nomatter how joyful I truly feel, I still think looks fake and forced... and I think to myself "I'm not too bad-looking for being someone so fucked in the head!" I hope the feeling lasts. 😁

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Skillful distraction for generalized anxiety; study language, like russian, arabic or cantonese which are infernally difficult and you are never going to use any where, and maybe even switch the target language every other week. 😂

In nursing school/clinical I learned a whole lot what I wasn’t going to do and how not to treat patients or fellow employees

I got to move back to a rural beach. The ONLY place that heals me.

I haven’t done my taxes for he last 3 years.

I do keep my mind ocupate and it dosent work for me ones i stop or try to relax it comes back

I merely am a machine. Force myself everyday to function. Good day maybe once a year

I couldn’t go to a job interview for a job that would have been perfect for me. The employer tracked me down, I wasn’t looking for a new position. The day of the interview I just couldn’t do it.

Yup

Suicidal ideation, passive or active, is literally a living hell! ☹️

I wish I could fix everything but I can’t, I’m only 23 my parents had a very nasty divorce. It lasted a couple years but in that time a lot happened. Watched my mom hold a gun to her head and pull the trigger when I was 12, thank god it wasn’t loaded. I watched both my parents become heavy alcoholics and separate and had been with my dad hasn’t been the same. He always could fight, when he went after my mom’s boyfriend. I was there was about an hour I didn’t hear from him waiting in the car, I thought he killed him. I have had a problem with drinking for a few years and I was just recently in a dui accident where me and my best friend were on some backroads I was driving , I don’t remember anything from the accident but I had hit something and flew into the ditch.no other cars, but my best friend passed away at the scene and I’m here with a bad head injury and still needing surgery on my clavicle and healing from broken ribs and my leg. a few months later still battling through it knowing my actions caused it. Feels like it’s impossible knowing the pain I caused because of too much to drink and not being able to remember what happened kills me . I don’t want to cause any more pain to my family I have to make myself work through this, I have to try to do something in his memory.

I do. Constantly.

Most creative people are prone to having fantasy. But I think the best/ most cathartic works of fiction have a maturity and immersiveness that comes from real experience. If anything, it is the interest in and love of other people that craft meaningful characters. I really urge fellow artists out there to just go out even if it might be painful sometimes, because growth is beautiful.

We're hardwired to attract and reproduce when young. Not a priority when older - health goes to first place.

What happened to me. Is that i feel like everything is my fault

I’ve stopped watching most of the “free” webinars . It became overwhelming and usually about money in the end , a lot of money . I get more out of your conversations and appreciate what you do . Good advice !

I left my job of 21 years almost three years ago. Today I was on a zoom call and some of my former work mates were on it as well. I felt home sick. I did actually feel like I belonged when I worked there but administration changed and it had become hell. So, I couldn't stay but I still feel like I got evicted and I haven't found anything even remotely close since - six jobs later. I've been at my latest job for a year now and I could walk away and not even remember anybody's name by next week I'm so detached from it. I definitely don't fit in there and it's kind of soul crushing. It makes it very hard to even care. I'm just trying to hang on for retirement in hopes that something will seem worth it when I'm free from the rat race. The only thing that keeps me sane at this point is nature.

It's extremely taxing......

Yep

can't thank you enough for all that you do never the less. Thank you Dr Scott.

Never give up, have faith,use your brain, think outside the box,follow your heart. learn to love yourself!

I remember feeling terribly homesick at home, in the presence of my family, as early as 4-5 years old. I'm now 65 and am more certain than ever that this world is not my home.

This is how I am feeling all the time since my husband died in 2021. I’m a solo mom to two kids and nothing in my life has changed except that now there isn’t another adult to take on 50% of the parenting, financial burden and responsibilities. I enjoy KZbin as a distraction!

I am having this issue atm. They are claiming I have cancelled to many times but have previously had this issue & it has been my psychologist that has changed my appointments. & to top it all off I don't have the $ to pay the late fees & really should be going as I keep losing time lately & can not account for hours 🤷‍♀️

I seem to live majority of my life like that atm 😢 I just watched this for the 2nd time & still didn't catch all of it bcos I zoned out 🤦‍♀️ I am literally losing hrs. I know I have not left the house but can't remember what I have done,it is a horrible feeling when you can't work it out. Or I have so many things I want to get done but can't stick to just one thing so end up with half a dozen half done things, if anything at all 🙄🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

That sounds scary as hell.

Very true. You can't say that enough!

Everyone needs someone to believe in them.

I can relate to this. After 10 years of depression I left my home town and did a 5 week solo sailing. It was an ok trip, but stressful. But the reward after has been really big. Its hard to believe it was only 5 weeks, cause it feels now that it was like several months. It also opened up new doors for me jobwise. :)

I have every one of these symptoms and more, have been getting help for 6 months and it’s a struggle and can get worse at times but I am still working on it, hopefully will be improve eventually. It is so stressful that people invalidate these symptoms. I’ve been going to the doctors for these for 13 years before I got answers, so frustrating

Thanks!

This explains a lot i am sure it will help me. I wish i knew this 3 years a go .. 🎉🎉Any way better late than never thanks man i think i hve something to celebrate❤😂😂