"Coffee Dates Are Disrespectful, I'll Block You..." Black Woman Offended At Black Men, Low Effort

[@AntonDaniels]

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[@Richard-Reloaded]

Alot of women base their value on what a man is willing to spend on them. That's why they are so easy to finesse with the facade of financial stability.

[@ContextReallyMatters]

🎯

[@zayinseven7923]

Manipulate the manipulator

[@Mira-gu6we]

To state honestly. If she is a lawyer and you are a janitor, you aint compatible. Unless you have something extraordinary to make up. Sure, she can pay for herself. But should something happen, in her future, that she cant pay the bills, can you still maintain the lifestyle?? Growing up in poverty and penury aint fun. Only a stupid woman will birth kids into poverty. Paternal income matters. No nice way of saying it.

[@universal3024]

I can take you to dinner, but if you won’t go to a coffee date with me, then you’re not the woman for me. Sorry ..

[@marawashington3280]

Agreed....(and I'm a woman...lol)

[@cwoherem]

​@@marawashington3280Women like you who understand this are the humble women that are out there.

[@Mira-gu6we]

​@@marawashington3280 forgotten birthdays, forgotten anniversaries... he benefits from your free domestic labor while you rot away at home in marital slavery.

[@sir1junior]

She could easily say "Hey let's go to a restaurant, I'm hungry, I'll pay my own tab." She broke and hungry.

[@jw5163]

yep department of labor doesnt lie, bw are some of the lowest income earners in the country. some of them depending on dates for basic sustenance

[@bigfoot7323]

Maaann this generation is wild. A man will take a woman out to a restaurant and expect her to pay for her own meal.

[@blablabroz9772]

@@bigfoot7323 To be fair man are playing the game that women play. Have you heard of foodie date? Where women go on date to eat not actually for her date. Using men for free meals than go and do the same to other man.

[@bigfoot7323]

@@blablabroz9772 if they are trying to get to know the woman at some point they are going to have to go out. Men back in the days didn't do that foolishness

[@blablabroz9772]

@@bigfoot7323 because women back in the day didn’t do this foolishness too. No actual you evolve with how women move. First you ask a coffee date then if she say yes for the second date you go for food or whatever. You don’t want a girl that talk down to men if he propose a drink date do you?

[@3-dreticle826]

What’s funny is my fiancée suggested a coffee date as our first date when we met. Even now most of our dates are boba tea and cafe date. If she really likes you she would make an effort AND not want to run your pockets dry for trash superficial dates.

[@victoregglestonn4166]

Why dates have to be food ...park...zoo..art gallery. ..over weight...

[@Bynairee]

She has her own custom emoji: 🤓

[@GameN3rdz]

😂😂

[@KT-cr1nf]

🤣🤣🤣

[@elfromthabay1989]

Damn😂😂😂😂

[@AnomalyBelleza]

Lololol

[@ericlee7402]

🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓

[@JUSTSAYING-dg4hu]

Me sitting here 4 years after a coffee date with the love of my life that I got it out the mud with lol...

[@taridean]

6:17 She just told on herself that she refuses to LISTEN to what men are saying from their point of view. Fast forward a decade and we'll be seeing her asking where all the good have gone 🤦🏾.

[@bigpaul80]

She doesn't care about the person she cares about the opportunity. If you into someone it don't matter where you go for a first date. She don't look old enough to speak on majority.

[@zayinseven7923]

Shes a red flag for instability in commitment

[@Mira-gu6we]

She cares about your achievements. It matters.

[@flexspec]

If you can’t go on a coffee date you don’t want to get to know me. You have told me all I need to know.

[@billfortune1978]

The coffee or $20 (tariq nasheed) budget date helps you weed out gold diggers and undesirable black women.

[@QZigZagg]

@@billfortune1978Tariq Nasheed said that?

[@RayGee3000]

Going out to eat is a terrible first date bc you’re trying to get to know each other. There’s not much conversating between courses. My city has a coffee shop that serves tea, craft beers, wine etc..The best first date I’ve had so far was on the beach! You don’t have to dress up, you’re relaxed, you can drink your cute lil margarita and we can conversate without feeling rushed compared to eating at a restaurant

[@TiffanyMoore-ze2hs]

So going to the movies is not a good date either which is what a lot of people used to do.

[@RayGee3000]

@@TiffanyMoore-ze2hs I agree

[@marawashington3280]

Exactly!!!! Agree with you 100%

[@bryantworley2922]

This woman is saving a lot of men from a headache. She may not realize this, but starting off negatively would reflect in every aspect of a future relationship, as you will have many expectations and be inflexible. And I know her looks shouldn't come into it, but I'm looking and thinking, "You don't look good enough to have those high expectations, as I KNOW there can't be a lot of men clamoring for the attentions of an 'Average at Best' chick'.

[@cwoherem]

Damn! you went in!

[@michaelh370]

"I'm too expensive for a coffee date." This B

[@THIZZAVELI]

That's what this was all about. She made up that other crap. Just to take the heat of of herself. She's basically the average at best girl all over again. That colorism crap is just a defense chocolate chicks use. When they overvalue themselves and get told off. She talking like she Normani. Or a young Naomi Cambel or something. The brothas talking about her color wasn't even black Americans 😂 She got mad because they told her she wasn't above coffee date level.

[@Reezy12333]

These passive aggressive gaslighting mfs swear they deserve everything because they exist.

[@Illtechnica]

That's code language for, _"I don't know how to properly evaluate men. So I'm going to use money as a barometer to weed out men I don't want."_ She doesn't realize she's sabotaging her dating success.

[@Mira-gu6we]

B s live well. The women say yes to cheapness suffer. The less effort a male is willing to spend on you, the less he gives a damn. He will go above and beyond for 'the one'.

[@tooneov]

Shorty is a fool. Does she know that 90% of her actual existence with her partner will be a lot more like a coffee date than a nice dinner out? These women are ridiculous. This is a glimpse into the next generation, so you can see things aren't getting any better, just escape while you still can and utilize the blue book.

[@RoyPeters1]

#bluebookgentlemen 🇱🇨🇰🇪🇨🇻🇩🇴🇨🇴🇧🇷🇯🇲

[@patty9868]

Anton she is a product/result of today's media programming. Both men and women are saying really strange and sometimes horrible things about each other online. It lays a foundation for initial mistrust before the date starts. A coffee date is most times a first date. An opportunity to see if the people "in flesh" is who they are online. Everybody just wants too much too early.

[@kooolio007]

Notice in the comments, most of the first dates that were "coffee dates", go for a walk, to a park etc ended up in marriage..

[@RellLife78]

I don't think people realize that coffee dates doesn't necessarily mean you have to have coffee. It's really you being somewhere like a coffee shop to get to know someone. Without all the distractions such as a movie or a restaurant. Getting to know someone is free. Both parties talk and listen to each other

[@AnomalyBelleza]

She’s crazy! Young for sure. Coffee date is a great opportunity to actually dialogue and for the male to pay attention!

[@joelpenigar]

She’s saying she will not date American Black men but also said that she *has never* dated American Black men and claims to know how Black men operate on these dates. How does she have an opinion on something she’s doesn’t do and has never done? How does she have such a deep opinion of a group of men she’s never interacted with on such a level?

[@dannyphantom3090]

It's always the average looking people expecting alot. Why the hell should i pay top dollar for someone who i don't know if i like also if I'm paying for it keep your mouth shut and be grateful.

[@TruthandRealityUndefeated]

Why should a person put in a lot of effort for a total stranger? 😂😂

[@JD-ge9eb]

Facts! We talking about a first date here. And a lot of women version of putting in effort on the first date is getting all dressed up and looking good with makeup and nails. That’s something they’re gonna do regardless like wtf 😂

[@latinafever6974]

A modest or (cheap date according to women) is the man's version of "I don't sleep with you on the first date". So we don't spend big on the first date for the exact same reason why you don't sleep or kiss on the first date. If the chemistry is there and I feel like we are going to end up with some sort of a relationship rather short or long term, I will step it up, but if she thinks we are going Lobster on the first date, just so she can say no kiss on the first date, she's delusional! If I'm going to spend up front, I can go anywhere in Latin America, Asia or Eastern Europe and find a beutiful lady who will give me either short term pleasure or long term relationship without me spending a fortune. It's funny how modern and career women are the ones who want a man to go over board. Men, go find a woman that came from nothing. You will be happy!

[@cwoherem]

Precisely. It's very ironic that they don't see the same logic. The reason can be because there's a deeper reason that they cannot admit outwardly, and that can be that the real reason they don't like coffee dates is because, it puts them at a significant disadvantage in the dating game: i.e. she can't extract as much as she wants from him and she cant finesse him if she wants to. She wants to retain the highground at all times so she can benefit as much whether things end well or not, Because women like attention, because of it, theyre willing to go out with guys they even dont truly like, just to recieve validation from them, which is like currency to them. The idea is that Coffee dates are supposed to make things equal for both parties, in which no one can take advantage, because if the man wanted sex, he'd invest more into the date, and if the woman was more concerned on seeing tf they're compatible or not, she would welcome the low investment date. As you and many other people stated, it's meant to be about getting to know the other person, so it's meant to be a win-win. But the irony is that some women will still not like the idea, which is funny lol!

[@latinafever6974]

@@cwoherem lol

[@observelearn2345]

Only the underclass and least desirable of society are the ones you hear talking this way Smh

[@sakibfuseini891]

If you produce underclass people if you gave birth right now what does that make you

[@richpower07]

“Some women are so smart, they’re stupid.” I’ve been saying this for a couple of years now. Anton is 100% correct.

[@Wholesomewarriortv99]

Coffee dates are a test to see if the women is really interested in the man and not just trying to use him for a free meal 💯💯

[@jessyxavier2874]

Going on a date is not a Job interview and if it was even Job interview doesn't give you more than a coffee. Think about that.

[@TruthandRealityUndefeated]

In her mind she’s doing the MAN a favor because she comes looking decent !!😂😂 that should be the default setting

[@JD-ge9eb]

Exactly! A lot of women will use that dumb reasoning and act like that’s them giving effort. We already know you’re gonna do that anyway to try to attract the best man you can 😂

[@cwoherem]

​@@JD-ge9ebIt's a flimsy excuse to use to 'compensate' over the fact that the guy is paying for the date.

[@rahgaborx7809]

Four eyes will be eating left overs at home alone with her dog 🐕🐕🐶.

[@davidgoodall7]

😂😂😂

[@handleyobusiness]

She got four eyes like Mississippi 😂😂😂

[@bensisko-theemissary4940]

She’s average at best. I have my PASSPORT ✈️. She doesn’t have to block me, I’ll save her the trouble. 😎

[@Casual_Talk]

Coffee dates I support all the way cause you can see a womans true intentions and true colors. Trying to gaslight men to pay for an expensive date just to ghost or block them isn't worth it. Its stupid just like someone shooting themselves in the foot.

[@donneopepe]

Anton, you need to do an even deeper dive and go check out her other videos on her page. It seems like she is a divester and seriously can't stand black American men for whatever reason. This was just an attention grab to get more American black females on her side... I doubt men were even saying those things she said men were saying, go to the comments and they're not even there.

[@paulolele579]

Listen I agree with you. I think she’s lying about the people insulting her. She just thought to use this moment to project her anti-black male hatred. She has a strong bedwench vibe honestly.

[@jaydalegendsports]

Looking good on date is a standard not optional because its coffee date

[@steveyj3002]

I'm not going to insult the women like her but , part of dating is getting to know each other and mutual interests. So if she's being difficult in my opinion before the 1st date then there won't be a 1st date and if she doesn't want me , so be it and no feelings are hurt and goodbye and good luck

[@lavonnealexander6936]

Yeah I don’t like coffee, I like tea , beer or wine. I would rather take that, so me and the date can move on easier and faster.

[@Boxofgravey139]

My first date with my husband was at Dave and Buster’s and we played arcade games and ate dinner. It was nothing romantic. He said he wanted to do something different and I was cool with it. This was 15 years ago. It’s not about where he takes you, it’s finding out whether or not y’all have common interest and goals.

[@jaysmith3257]

Coffee dates are a choice but if she wants to go to a expensive restaurant on the first date says alot about her.

[@khrisstake2210]

I wonder what they expect from everyday married life.

[@JD-ge9eb]

Prolly to go to expensive and extravagant restaurants multiple times a week every week 😂

[@omarr44_]

I wish modern women can just openly say "Please pay for our time, here's our min/max cap amount for dates, select yes or no".

[@handleyobusiness]

Just like slimy car salesmen, you know they'll never sell you the minimum. Only the maximum and bullshjt add ons. 😂

[@nicholasm.browner6651]

Her father never took her on a coffee date.. and that there lies the initial problem.

[@CoachKen10]

How much “fake up” does she actually slather on to look decent?

[@autumnrose6370]

Thank you Anton for offering sound advice to the lost. I highly recommend men keep your money and focus on building wealth and save it ..Most high earners will spend money without thought - Stop it men! I also, recommend men vet women and consider a more sound date like a charity event or fundraiser.... I speak from a clinical standpoint - 2024 men seeking wise counsel with solid careers loose their homes, savings, and mental status due to a woman jezebel - a thief. Be careful.. try the coffee date to vet her if you suspect she is a fake one.. Test the spirit... Test the woman... Pray and fast.... never be a dummy

[@rlmiller2010]

Word salad.

[@marawashington3280]

I love coffee dates (Probably because I love coffee...lol)!! Its a great way to meet someone without too much pressure. 😊

[@ericrobinson1789]

If the point of trying to get to know someone, key word being "know", should it matter if it's a coffee date? I mean really! Some of these chicks be having a lot of damn nerve I tell ya. Putting a price on dating is ridiculous as hell.

[@BlackBiker1017]

Another bird brain... Not shocking.

[@Just-theory]

She’s what you call “Top Level Manipulation”. If you give her a dinner date, best believe she’ll finesse it lol.

[@Cahluvca]

Nonhelpmeet mindset

[@grinchwork]

7:50 he nailed it

[@The_Truth-]

Anton you took the words right out my mouth, I have said this about certain women. You are so smart till you’re stupid. I’d love to see how that’s been working for her 2 years from now.

[@dacianbonta2840]

problem glasses don't lie; exhibit 425,848

[@keturaequalizer]

I dress for myself. Its very important to me that I always look sharp. I don`t dress for any man, woman, child, animal or anybody in society for that matter. I dress the way I do coz it makes me feel good and it boosts my confidence. What?! You only dress appropriately coz you are going on a date?! That`s just preposterous! 🤷🏽‍♂

[@zinc74jr]

These young women have to stop ✋️ listening to Cynthia G.

[@tshuntae9693]

I dont drink coffee

[@Vantitas]

Modern women seriously need to use their common sense whenever men tell them to come as you are on dates, which doesn’t translate to coming out the house in ratchet attire.

[@gmoore326]

She said she don,t beleive men when they say the date is about connection.... she don't think it is either. Otherwise, coffee date wouldnt matter.

[@Rayjack-m9o]

She can make suggestions regarding date locations But she must also expect to pay her share of expenses It's the 21st century its about True Equality.

[@TRAEPOUND1000]

She tripping on the coffee date. Coffee date is a place where you can have a great conversation with a person and to get to know them without any alcohol involved. This doesn’t mean you’re trying to be cheap. Also you don’t have to get coffee it’s other drinks you can get. Me and wife still do tea 🍵 dates.

[@DionDetroitLion]

These women are literally outside the Midwest. Im usually fly anytime i leave the crib. I dated a chick from California and she constantly asked why i always looked good leaving the house. Just in observation she later put more of an effort in her appearance. I've never been on a coffee date. Ive kinda had interactions with women at bars which is literally not much different other than Alcohol. So this weird standard of not going on a coffee date is weird as hell. I mean Starbucks is like $10 a cup and they got food. Soo.......whats the problem?

[@donp3635]

Don’t the restaurant sells coffee ?

[@nicoletara353]

coffee dates are the best. quick and youre not trapped there

[@curtmagee]

Well, this were we going😂

[@chrislegend382]

I guarantee y’all she doesn’t do this with interviews: you don’t get a drink or food or even a guaranteed job but she shows up dressed appropriately. That effort argument is baseless or doesn’t stand on fact. Let alone, what takes so much effort about planning a reservation at a 5 star restaurant

[@Hersheydimples]

She's Nigerian Anton, she has 2 parents.

[@bigmemer4398]

Parents values went down the toilet the second she drank black feminist koolaid

[@lavonnealexander6936]

Exactly, those parents probably have careers like doctor, engineer or lawyer. Nigerian’s don’t play

[@johnh1532]

No, this standard is for black American men. She would never say anything like this to a Nigerian man.

[@handleyobusiness]

​@@lavonnealexander6936 Who cares where she comes from, she's obviously been westernized.

[@TheRealTVA2]

There are plenty of Nigerian single mothers 😂😂

[@smitht1988]

Every day my flabber gets gasted by the things black women say and do on the internet. They take turns upping the ante on embarrassing shxt they say and do 😂😂

[@damonsanders8877]

Loosely translated “I want to take a sh!t ton of pictures and pretend to be a celebrity”

[@vwhoo6073]

I am a lesbian that is single and doesn't date.

[@Tarz2155]

I’m fresh even when I sweat my ass off, you’re supposed to be so clean and fresh that your odor should smell like old spice and body spray. That’s the smelliest you can get. 😂

[@darrienglass4058]

My question is the term coffee date is it really a date that involves just drinking coffee or tea or water, to get to know someone, or is it just another name for a lower tier restaurant in which they do server coffee or is it a lunch or dinner date? because if it is, then she shouldn't mine going Dutch, so there will be no expectations on his end and no disappointments on her end. but with that when they tell their friends how the date went a 100% of the women will talk bad about him, where 80% of the men will support him

[@Tarz2155]

I’m a gym rats so we’re going squatting on our first date how much can you squat? Can even keep up with my lifestyle and then I’ll give you protein shake after😂

[@ContextReallyMatters]

Why bring a chick i barely know on a dinner date when i can go by myself and probably will meet someone. I meet women all the time at reataurant bars.

[@tshuntae9693]

I dont drink coffee I would like a picnic in the park by the lake that’s low cost

[@RomarioAllison]

Tell me your selling 😺😺😺😺 and cut the bullshit

[@ebonyskye2964]

For the people who don't listen: she doesn't drink coffee.

[@QZigZagg]

But she said “besides me not drinking coffee.” She gave other reasons why wouldn’t go on a coffee date.

[@1mikebiggsmusic]

Speaking to other women from a hurt place but she has never been with an American Blk Man?? Sounds like Chad got her

[@emperorcesar8208]

But why is love and connection based on food 🍲?

[@AL-ALady]

🤣🤣🤣 wait she said $5 bean juice 😭

[@VON-92]

😂😂😂

[@darrienglass4058]

Wasn't Lori Havery doing this B.S. just finessing men for a come up and isn't what her mother did. went from Dope to Jokes, from Caine to Comedy.

[@JetLagWorldTravel]

I can't take any of these modern women serious in the states

[@QZigZagg]

It’s mainly black American women, bro. Other types USUALLY don’t cause these problems.

[@darrienglass4058]

If I was on the date with her friend and she came like that, I've would have blown the date out of the water her look wouldn't have fazed me but, i would have been totally dressed out for the occasion and enjoyed the moment and treated her well plant that seed in her head thinking if he that good with just coffee, she's wondering how the lunch date is going to be and or the dinner date and now you Ghost her. like KDOT said sometimes you got to pop out and show them.

[@ladellmimms]

What does you putting on makeup 💄 which is deceptive have to do with a cost of the date 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@Breeze-g5t]

I would say it’s more likely a man is trying to date you from a coffee date than an expensive date

[@paulolele579]

You know what if she’s doesn’t want a coffee date - fine let’s go to the mini golf place, let’s go hiking, let’s take a walk across the park. I bet she still will say NO because she’s programmed to think a date = take her out to dinner. Really and truly I don’t care honestly it’s not like I am trying to shoot my shot at her so let her have her silly preferences. One day she’ll realize at 40 why she’s not married with kids.

[@rebecabrown8392]

Amen!❤🖤💚

[@joshuatruvillion3044]

I'm so glad that I date a white woman Me and her do not have this problem

[@ogcasino2046]

🤣🤣 i aint mad at cha

[@marcust6479]

Straight from the trailer park lol

[@gueundhrb1702]

this comment is unnecessary race has nothing to do with this.

[@bigmemer4398]

@@gueundhrb1702it dedinitely has a lot to do

[@charlesxavier3489]

@@marcust6479lol 😂😂😂😂

[@cornelldavis6703]

She’s talking?? Iam I missing something??? And where is she from????

[@user-xj3ve7wt8k]

She would never go to date in Europa 😄

[@bigfoot7323]

Nowadays these dudes won't even pay for a simple lunch. Smfh

[@JD-ge9eb]

Nowadays a lot of women expect the world from guys and won’t even give anything back in return smfh lol

[@tyreed.pettis8528]

Why do these regular women want bad girl things?

[@ronaldholloway5258]

She's young

[@kuulgee4361]

Guys please don't feed these vultures.

[@MemeOfficial954]

why not just ask her what she likes & plan a date based off that? me for example coffee gives me extreme headaches & the smell makes me nauseous so coffee dates aren't my thing. there's plenty of things you can do that does not require spending much money since that seems to be what the issue is for you guys. a picnic,bowling,the beach,art class,candle making,aquarium,etc stop being lazy & put in the effort it's not about the money it's about the effort.

[@JaydenHolland-wo4fd]

The issue is that this woman would think all those kinds of interesting dates are low value. They only want restaurant dinners.

[@mdavisblack8263]

you are doing him a favor. by, blocking him ! Go look in the mirror. when you wake, up !

[@SmokeOnTheWater108]

Didn’t you also review her “Glocktavious” video a few months back, AD🤔?

[@jayheha0053]

Who and what is Glocktavous? Do you or anyone have a link to it?

[@RoyPeters1]

Pookie son 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Rich.D]

What letter does her first name end with? Take a guess 😀

[@ToneKShoneMackDavie-ij5qo]

👀💯👍🏿

[@Splashgetcash]

See I can’t relate to these convos and the ppl I grew up with cant either.. I understand how she feels cause a person like me wouldve dubbed her for even expecting me to take her out if I haven’t hit yet… im 31 I never needed to take a girl out on a date to get to know them and smash but I don’t got a problem shooting my shot at 50 woman in a week so if men want to stop getting finessed out of meals start talking to more woman and improve your image so they won’t demand a date before you hit

[@johnh1532]

She's nigerian, enough said.

[@bigcohiba298]

I'm not surprised at all

[@jenkinsiii3829]

where do these women come from....guess they save a lot going on 2 or 3 dates a week.......not coffie

[@TheKenHundreds]

Young and dumb.