Coffee with Kari- Live Evening Chat with a Mortician

[@denisegriffin156]

Kari , when we buried my mom it was pouring. We had a large tent over us to keep us sort of dry. But as I sat there I watched a stream of water flooding over the fake grass and non stop pour into mothers grave. Mom never learned to swim as she was terrified of running water. All I could think of was that mom was going into a vault full of water. It was heartbreaking. It bothers me still many years later.

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes i bet that was hard

[@denisegriffin156]

@@KaritheMortician yes it was. Why would a cemetery sell my parent grave sites but not tell them that in heavy rain the ground was soggy , spongy? Laid my dad to rest two years ago. In the same double vault. Thankfully it wasn’t raining but it still give me bad dreams every once in a while. I most certainly won’t be buried in that cemetery.

[@pyewacketpeggy8329]

@@denisegriffin156 That was no longer her. She went to God.

[@denisegriffin156]

@@pyewacketpeggy8329 yes I’m aware. But I still wish her mortal remains weren’t in water. I wish that the cemetery had not sold my parents a plot in a flood prone spot.

[@pyewacketpeggy8329]

@@denisegriffin156 Don’t torture yourself.

[@Luluisraging.86]

I would LOVE to be “introduced” to the new boyfriend! You seem much happier! And I’m so very glad for you!!

[@KaritheMortician]

Yay! Thank you!

[@wandamassengale7654]

I have learned how to deal with death better than I used to. Two weeks ago one of my grown students died from a car wreck. I taught him in second grade. Thank you.

[@KaritheMortician]

Heartbreaking :(

[@wandamassengale7654]

I taught so many of his family including his brother. I watched his Mother and uncles grow up. His brother dug his grave and covered Marcus up. Breaks my heart in two.

[@karachickering6769]

1000% agree that there is a job, a place for everyone. Soooo many jobs i could NOT do. In my healthcare job, patients frequently ask how I can do what I do. Well, the subject matter fits me perfectly, my temperament is well suited, I am intellectually stimulated, and the interaction with people is in my comfort zone.

[@KaritheMortician]

Agreed

[@denisegriffin156]

Kara I’m with you. Some of these jobs are more of a calling I believe. Health care was my thing too.

[@auntjosie756]

We had a service outside during super bad weather including tornados and when some of our family returned to their home it was gone.

[@KaritheMortician]

Interesting thanks

[@denisegriffin156]

😮

[@maluwa6957]

Kari, I am not from the US, but I came across your channel by chance about two months ago.. Your words and videos have reminded me of how short our lives are, and encouraged me to live fully, joyfully and learn to be a more kinder, better person. Thanks so much for inspiring me, and answering my questions.

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you!

[@ovabarton2810]

When my Mom passed in July , they were calling for severe weather during graveside service . So as much of the service as possible was held at the Funeral Home. When we got to the grave site , the weather broke and was very calm for our graveside service ! I think Mom was looking out for everyone !

[@KaritheMortician]

Oh very nice

[@davidneil3864]

The last funeral director from the 1906 funeral home passed away a few days ago. The community is mourning the people who have buried its loved ones for decades

[@KaritheMortician]

That is amazing

[@denisegriffin156]

Wow that’s really something. I sorry for your communities loss.

[@francespearson1260]

Hi, Thank you for your program and better understanding

[@KaritheMortician]

You are welcome!

[@stellastanley7198]

Glad you are feeling better praying for a healing

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you for that!

[@luannwilliamson9070]

I still remember my Sister-in-law's Brother's funeral. It was graveside during a blizzard. The cemetery was on a hill with the wind blowing and icy snow. We were all miserable.

[@KaritheMortician]

Yeah that is how brutal it is right now here just bitter cold

[@luannwilliamson9070]

This was many years ago.

[@aprilburnett2275]

Talk about wakes.for 2 days in the home and the cooling trays or dry ice or whatever you use. I really liked you'll's discussion on the paranormal too!!

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you!

[@robertflower9642]

Wonderful chat Kari! Thank you 😊

[@KaritheMortician]

You are so welcome!

[@robertflower9642]

@@KaritheMortician I hope you get 100,000 subs, Kari I remember when you had 20,000. 😊

[@jamjames1971]

You are so right hun the Nicolas sparks movie yes. In fact here in st.louis we had the real 2 in the stars tonight here in the city

[@jamjames1971]

Yes we love you down here

[@greatnate1684]

Kari, Brian, and Ryan should have beers and discuss people they've buried who they would have liked to get to know before they died.

[@KaritheMortician]

Oh that would be fun!!

[@yikezo]

Groundhog Day!!! Fav Bill Murray movie!

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes!!

[@kirjhurry1361]

God bles your family always

[@KaritheMortician]

Thanks

[@dougcoonce]

CONGRATULATIONS ON 100K SUBS.. Very well done Kari.. Much love from Missouri

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you!!

[@duanejmelvyn5804]

Do you do hair&makeup with the body sitting up or lying down? Kari you always do a great job,glad your feeling better.

[@KaritheMortician]

Laying down

[@robruther106]

Great coffee talk.

[@KaritheMortician]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@davidneil3864]

My hometown has 2 funeral homes, one owned by a funeral director since 1966, the other by a family since 1906, both were purchased by the same funeral director in the last few years as the former owners stayed on as emeritus directors. The 1966 director passed away last month. The lastr of the 1906

[@KaritheMortician]

:)

[@leonardsolt6543]

Awesome video

[@KaritheMortician]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@charlenepinola4310]

When my uncle passed it was raining really hard for a week so we had the services but they couldn't bury him until two weeks later when the ground dried out a little.

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you for sharing

[@ryan_torres]

You should call the party cake with Kari!

[@KaritheMortician]

Oh I love it!!

[@stellastanley7198]

Good evening Kari love your channel

[@KaritheMortician]

Thanks so much!!

[@Luluisraging.86]

Darn I missed the live! BUMMER!

[@KaritheMortician]

Thanks for checking in though

[@fredrickearl6687]

Wish I would have sen this live.

[@KaritheMortician]

I will do another one soon!

[@mumbler5644]

Looking good Kari :)

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you! 😊

[@brendawhaley7094]

YES THEY DO MY MOTHER-IN-LAW WAS BURY THE SAME DAY WE COULDNT GO TO THE GRAVE SITE CAUSE OF ICE BAD WEATHER

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you

[@rethablair6902]

With all these delays, apparently this is no time to be dying😖😖😖 also so glad ur all better now Kari🤗🤗🤗

[@KaritheMortician]

:)

[@erinholba5761]

Soo close to 100k!! 🥰

[@KaritheMortician]

I am holding my breath!

[@johnbelin1787]

Hi from pennsylvania

[@KaritheMortician]

Welcome!!

[@Ritterkritterz]

Do you have a video on a mosoleum tour? The inside of a new mosoleum vault and the piping system you were talking about on a different video. That would be neat.

[@pamgladden66]

Hi Kari

[@jessalynlambert1942]

The first to answer a random question and get a free mug was cool! Should do this once a month or something...

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes I think I will. How well do you know Kari lol

[@teresavale2517]

Someone I know pre-planned their funeral with Cheap casket & their kids said that would Reflect on them at Real Funeral!!!

[@KaritheMortician]

?

[@jess4metoo]

I believe I might have shared this with you but my Dad loved the rain. The day of his funeral(April) showers were forecast, rare for California. When we left the FH it was sunny, as we reached the cemetery clouds developed overhead, when his casket was moved from the hearse into the mausoleum it sprinkled just enough to cover his casket with droplets. I just gazed at his casket during the service thinking how beautiful and fitting. Edit..hey you reached 100k!

[@KaritheMortician]

How cool! Thank you!!

[@tiffanymims8691]

@ida on the sunken grave question you asked, it takes anywhere between 6 months to a year or more for the grave to completely settle. When you dig a hole you cannot get the ground packed back in as well as it was before the hole was dug and over time the grave will sink, meaning the dirt compacts more, and the cemetery will need to add dirt to the grave. I work at a cemetery and we check graves regularly for the first year or so. There are times we will add dirt to a grave 3 or 4 times over the year. I hope that you see this comment and if you do please let the cemetery office know that you think that the grave needs more dirt added to it so they can take care of it.

[@Luluisraging.86]

Oh yes please! Do a live video at the cryogenic lab! That would be cool!

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes!!

[@jengeary7394]

Nope. When my uncle passed it had snowed. Yep. Everyone got stuck going in the cemetery. And getting out.

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you

[@marypalmer1062]

Great coffee. If you do a party don't socialize and have a party together. You don't know us. Protect yourself and your fam!

[@KaritheMortician]

No it would be virtual

[@maluwa6957]

Kari, In one of your videos you mentioned that the cremated ash consists of only grounded bone fragments. Now what about the ash from the Casket , clothes and flesh and hair? Is it collected separately and disposed privately by the funeral home?

[@KaritheMortician]

All burned away

[@maluwa6957]

@@KaritheMortician Thanks Kari

[@lynallwimer5672]

Good evening Kari how are you doing

[@KaritheMortician]

Great thank you!

[@brianwarren9486]

I know you have heard of Tri State Crematory. Huge problems for families in this area and many funeral homes. Have you heard or seen where a cemetery in the general area donated space for the remains found and the marker that was put up in their memory? It's about 15 rows down from where my mother is buried.

[@jennicatrent1018]

Hey Kari, I have a question for you. My boyfriend passed away in 2019 of diabetic organ failure. But when it was time to meet the funeral director and handle paperwork and decided to cremate him we were asked if we would like a last private visit with him before he gets cremated. We agreed for it and found out it was going to cost $150 extra for this last private visit. We walk into the viewing room and see him on the table and I look at him and his eyes and mouth are glued shut. I never heard of funeral homes doing this. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ why glue???! It was messy on his mouth almost like lip gloss.

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes we use glue to close eyes and mouth but sounds like they didn't give any attention to detail because it should not have been showing :(

[@revocatacrocker5105]

Kari I will gladly share a flash drive of my husband's Naval burial at sea

[@KaritheMortician]

Yeah!

[@revocatacrocker5105]

Where would i send it to? Or could we send VIA email?

[@kristibradford302]

My grandmother on my father's side died in 2009 on april fools day. We had her funeral services a few days later. The night before her services we had a huge snowstorm and below zero weather. When we got up that morning and saw snow up to our thighs and ice everywhere we didn't think that we would be able to have her services that day . But fortunately we were able to do everything on time and then have her burial. Gosh i just remember snow and ice and slipping when we got to the cemetery to bury her. The same thing happened when my sister died a year later only this time it wasn't snow . It was 100 degrees outside and it rained that morning so the parking lot and streets were flooded. My mom died in 2015 in march .same thing . Big snow storm the night before and snow and ice all over . But fortunately everything went smoothly.

[@kentbloxham3826]

Hi Kari, it’s Kent from Melbourne. Are you still Live??

[@KaritheMortician]

yep are you :)

[@kentbloxham3826]

@@KaritheMortician very droll , good call!! What I was hoping was that I finally got to get to see you while you were actually filming. Because of the time zones between Australia 🇦🇺 and USA 🇺🇸 It’s not always easy to coordinate and this I think was as close as I have ever got.

[@fred5150]

They are canceled if there’s a hurricane or tsunami…. OR you can’t climb over the flood wall. In that case, phone Noah. If there are houses twirling in the sky or the casket coach has to be pulled by eight tiny reindeer. I know a wonderful funeral director and they are very prepared with proper provisions and they extend every kindness. Services can be adjusted accordingly.

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes the water surge we don't deal with up here in Michigan :)

[@cindycox2786]

dark red 💕

[@KaritheMortician]

:)

[@dalethompson6952]

A number of years ago I watched a series on tv about making kids school lunches more nutritious. One episode dealt with burying an obese person. At that time they noted that transport to the cemetery had to be on a box truck. Is there a more dignified mode of transport these days?

[@KaritheMortician]

I know people who have used flat beds, uhauls, whatever can work

[@kentbloxham3826]

Dear Kari, I am sorry you got Covid am Galadriel you are improving, do you have any idea how you contracted it from?

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you

[@teresavale2517]

The Hard JOB is with the Living!!!

[@KaritheMortician]

Very true

[@dave_dave]

Hi Kari! How are you feeling? Did you get your taste and smell back completely?

[@KaritheMortician]

I never lost it thankfully

[@greatnate1684]

For long bone donors, can they still be placed inside a full-couch casket?

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes they can just takes more effort

[@sarah2.017]

Did I hear someone ask about tissue donation from a person with leukemia? I don't think they would allow that tissue to be used for transplant or implant, although it could potentially be used for research.

[@KaritheMortician]

They accept tissue from many many scenarios

[@glenperry9048]

I just delivered 12 urns to He Knows Your Name in Indianapolis to be used to bury the cremated remains of babies left at the funeral home they work with. They have 8 babies that have been left at the funeral home over a period of several years. He Knows Your Name works to give decent burials for babies that have been abandoned and will bury these 8 in dignified manner.

[@KaritheMortician]

Aww so sad

[@tiffanymims8691]

Glen that is a beautiful gesture to make sure the babies get a proper urn for burial.

[@marypalmer1062]

We follow you because of your content. Revealing your personal life puts your fam at risk...

[@sarah2.017]

She knows how much she's comfortable sharing.

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you!!

[@kevinfinney79]

Do you ever have nightmares of the images of the bodies that you see, because I have a really hard time after I go to a funeral.

[@KaritheMortician]

No I don't

[@kevinfinney79]

@@KaritheMortician You are just made for this!

[@cathywestholt5324]

My cousin's father-in-law died. Leaving their house to go to the funeral home, his mother-in-law collapsed dead on the driveway. His viewing was already in progress, so continued that night. The funeral home canceled everything after that so she could get embalmed and have her viewing. Then the funeral and burial was done together for them. And hello from St. Louis 🙋‍♀️

[@krisfultz4819]

My burial plot is paid for but my funeral ain't paid for at all except for $50.00 of it. So if I was to die right now, how or do I get put into my plot!?

[@KaritheMortician]

You have to pay through a funeral home to get buried

[@krisfultz4819]

@@KaritheMortician so that means (I guess) I have a plot I can't get into until at least 10,000.00 is paid to a funeral home and even then my wishes might not even be carried out!! Right!!?? If that's so I'd better live for a very long time!!

[@tiffanymims8691]

@@krisfultz4819 you can do a less expensive funeral. Check with some of the local funeral homes where you live about the costs of the various funeral options. You can get a plain casket, not be embalmed, and just have a concrete liner if the cemetery requires a vault or box. There will be a grave opening fee that the funeral home or the family will need to pay for digging the grave.

[@johnanderson3700]

I understand there are new methods for cremation not requiring burning; as I understand it they are using water. Have you heard of this? Do you think it will eventually replace the burning of bodies? I understand there is one place in Florida but do not know of any in other areas.

[@KaritheMortician]

yes they are! I don't think it will replace but gives another option

[@jenng3649]

🌻

[@francespearson1260]

Can you have a viewing even if you are cremated before cremation

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes of course!!

[@kristinenickley1755]

So when a coffin sinks like that, you were saying maybe a true root... Can that be fixed??

[@KaritheMortician]

yes it can...possibly

[@carmenbehringer7218]

My step mom cream and father-in-law buried mom was put in same grave

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you

[@sharihebert444]

Nothing to do with bad weather, but how long does a funeral home keep a body before an actual funeral has been planned? Will they deny a funeral if you don't have enough funds to pay? Thank you

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes they can deny a funeral if you can not pay.

[@johnbelin1787]

Do u prepare the body the same whether casket is opened or closed?

[@KaritheMortician]

It depends on the funeral home

[@maluwa6957]

Kari, do you personally handle dead bodies, such as dressing the body, washing the body and placing it in the coffin with an assistant to help you? If not are there specially trained people for that job? Thanks

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes I do

[@odilonalvarez127]

I have a question wha do you do when a person dies in a car accident and his or her face is disfigure and the family what’s to have a viewing

[@KaritheMortician]

We can reconstruct them

[@tay.s.735]

Party tomorrow?! 🎉🎂🎉🎂

[@KaritheMortician]

Just some cake!

[@tay.s.735]

@@KaritheMortician Awesome!! Congrats 😊

[@MrBigtomtom06]

My Cousin was killed on his birthday. 😔

[@KaritheMortician]

So sad

[@heatherrice7983]

Just out of curiosity have you personally seen or heard of an increase in blood clots with a strange blood with a white fibrous stringy material while blood draining? Other embalmers are reporting odd looking clots? If you have can you recall the first time (date) and is it becoming more frequent?

[@KaritheMortician]

Blood clots yes

[@maluwa6957]

Kari, I heard that there have been very rare occasions where the two leather straps fitted on to the lowering device have slipped and the coffin fallen in to the grave causing distress to the family members at the grave site. Are you aware of such incidents ?

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes it can happen but not very common

[@joettecollyard3823]

Do you have to have continuous education for your job?

[@KaritheMortician]

Each state sets the rules for how much we much achieve

[@JamesJones-kr9uv]

TEXAS, has continually

[@joettecollyard3823]

Thank you for answering my question

[@joettecollyard3823]

@@JamesJones-kr9uv Thank you for the answer

[@joettecollyard3823]

@@KaritheMortician Thank you Kari for the answer

[@stephaniehowe0973]

100% my Grandmother died. My Grandfather died 3 weeks later they still would not let their daughters have that $255 Also this was 1996

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you

[@patricia2964]

Why do funeral home always have there drapes closed or very thick glass on it. Please reply to me, I hope you fell much bett real soon

[@duanejmelvyn5804]

dark red wine , Iwant a mug....

[@KaritheMortician]

:)

[@maluwa6957]

Kari, when a homeless person dies with no-one to claim the body, does the state pay for the funeral?

[@KaritheMortician]

Check out my video yesterday on unclaimed bodies

[@maluwa6957]

@@KaritheMortician I will thanks

[@nataliecassidy4298]

Red wine

[@bill_nye_the_russianspy_9642]

I buried two people here in ohio today during the big snow storm we had...not fun

[@KaritheMortician]

Cold to the core

[@brucehaney7954]

Would be possible too have my wife was cremated or is there a law against that

[@brucehaney7954]

I'm sorry I ment too say would it be possible to have my wife that was created too have her ashes buried with me or is there a law against that

[@ritashustitzky2934]

I just saw this scrolling you tube but I didn't listen to it. No to my knowledge, funerals don't get cancelled. On the day my husband's funeral there was an ice storm. We went ahead with funeral but we didn't go outside to the gravesite. We had the service inside at the cemetery and the priest and the funeral director went to the gravesite. I'm assuming this would be the case with other funerals but I would think it would have to pretty bad to cancel a funeral.

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you

[@cathywestholt5324]

If your blood relatives have pretty much dumped you, can an appointed friend be in charge?....or would the estranged family be allowed to call the shots? Would they even have to be notified of my death?

[@cathywestholt5324]

Maybe mugs. A mug with the images of 20 different coffee mugs going around it..... or casket around it...or Kari, Kari ... or 20 Great Years Undertaken. I am sure we would all love to buy mugs and show you some love!

[@KaritheMortician]

Depends on the state and if they were appointed legally prior to death

[@cathywestholt5324]

@@KaritheMortician in Missouri. They are cousins and their children. No documents have ever been drafted. I have made a friend the beneficiary of my life insurance through my work.

[@lindap.p.1337]

Kari…….what is your opinion on the extremely high cost of funerals ? In SWVa. You can’t really have a service and get someone buried for less than $11,000. That is a lot! My family has a tradition of using wooden caskets. We have been unable to honor this since the 1980s which means my grandparents were the last generation to have these.

[@KaritheMortician]

The cost to run a business is high and it’s not just funeral homes

[@zonadaniell4584]

Situation with father's current wife who was the balking at every turn from we siblings was so stressful. Even though our father had a will that was clearly stated, current wife was uncooperative. Things my father bequeathed clearly, she "could not find" items. My sibs and I took the high road in this unfortunate situation in order to avoid conflict...wife asked the three of us to make arrangements for graveside service. Agreeably we did so. However, at last moment wife changed arrangements to a full service in funeral home. Anyway she could cause conflict, she did. We still took high road and gave her what she wanted. Her actions during funeral were so bizarre it was almost laughable..what widow buys a paper shredder, large safe, new security system when one was in place? And expected Estate to cover expenses of all..still with no conflict from us. I'd never experienced such as the grief she caused...there are greedy folks out there, even during a time in which the family is grieving they're father. It was a terrible situation, even though my father had left her a lifetime estate in his beautiful home....the prenup was never located....hence a shredder? I'm just glad my sibs and I remained the gracious people we are...well known, well respected... sometimes we have to protect our own integrity and move on..even when it's a huge nightmare...just food for thought....

[@828enigma6]

A woman who was a year ahead of me in high school had both her parents expire less than 24 hours apart (very elderly). Does the family member's grief increase by a factor of two,, or are they ready maxed out on grief.

[@KaritheMortician]

Oh wow! Well it can be one big grief and move through rather than twice. Depends on the person.

[@sarah2.017]

Everyone deals differently with things like this.

[@kirjhurry1361]

Hi

[@KaritheMortician]

Hello

[@kirjhurry1361]

@@KaritheMortician I want to be a embalmer

[@stephaniehowe0973]

Nuts missed it.

[@KaritheMortician]

Thanks for catching up!

[@juliabullock853]

Kari (Beer with the boys) idea movie funeral seens for example My girl Mcculley culkin character's funeral whats right and wrong with funeral and how each of you would care for them

[@KaritheMortician]

Oh yes that would be a good one!

[@juliabullock853]

Theirs lots of old movies with funeral seen and Preparing body's seens i think it would be a fun video

[@greatnate1684]

I'm assuming/hoping that you have seen The Office. Have you ever had moments that made you cringe where you would have looked at the camera like Jim does?

[@KaritheMortician]

lol I could never get into that show

[@celesteautokier]

As I am watching you are at 99.9k

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes it is so surreal!!

[@Ritterkritterz]

I would think celebrities or not you would need legal family permission to discuss specifics on there embalming care/case. ???

[@carmenbehringer7218]

I toke a photo sent to m_ son in military so he could have closer

[@KaritheMortician]

Very nice

[@rosemaryheckathorn7094]

So you're 20 years do a casket cakes and have everybody just talk with you about the experiences you've had over the years

[@KaritheMortician]

Casket cake would be fun!

[@kristinenickley1755]

RedWine

[@KaritheMortician]

yum!

[@curiousgeorge1556]

or do they wake up by accident lol

[@KaritheMortician]

?