Coffee with Kari- Live Weekly Chat with a Mortician

[@angelbasham6631]

Kari your so kind and compassionate your a blessing to the funeral home industry

[@KaritheMortician]

Such a nice compliment!! Thank you

[@brucehaney7954]

You re such a wonderful person and caring person

[@brucehaney7954]

What about a perso with central line dose this create a problem

[@jenniferkwapisz4694]

Kari I just have to tell you that you have given me so much comfort as I just lost my mom. She was evdrything to me but I was curious how she was treated when out of my hands. And the rhetoric, voice tones and expressiveness you use is all your videos has erase the preconceived notions I had of bodies being tossed around, bones broke in handling etc. You have a gift that transforms a cold dead body to a client that deserves respect, care and feeling. Thank you so very much!

[@KaritheMortician]

Such kind words thank you!

[@emilyborthwick6215]

Kari I wanted to let you know that because of you I’ve felt so encouraged and I’ve managed to secure myself a job in a funeral home here in England! X

[@KaritheMortician]

That is so amazing!!!

[@kathypetersen6614]

Wonderful video, Kari. You are so cool and kind.. Thank you for sharing with us.

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you

[@rosemaryheckathorn7589]

Kari you are such an amazing person I love watching coffee with kari

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you!

[@evelynfoster2706]

My husband was an amputee as well. I wondered about this but was so intimidated to ask about it. Kari you have taken away the fear of death for me. I wasn’t afraid to die because I know where my soul is going to be with my Savior but I was afraid of what happened to my body during the prep of it.

[@KaritheMortician]

Always ask!

[@evelynfoster2706]

Kari, would you en am the full leg first or start with the amputated leg first? Love you sweet friend !!

[@cloudweemes9716]

My grandfather was a mortician, he wanted me to follow in his footsteps and I was trained some by him, I was in my 20s (back in the 80s), I wish now, I took him up on that. But I worked beside him , went on recovery runs at hospitals to funeral home, declothed ,washed etc and even helped with the embalming, mind you this is before the get ups that ya'll wear now. HE'd tell me stories, of the families having the "Wake" in their homes. Clear the dinner table and lay down a sheet and have the wake. I know it sounds weird, I also enjoyed hearing about those things from him, it was really a learning experience. Being that I sucked at math, is reason I didn't push to to train as a mortician. I do admire all that do this job. He taught me how to separate " the job" and the not job attitude. HE taught me a Great deal in the time I was his shadow at the funeral home. (He owned it at one point then, co owned it )

[@KaritheMortician]

I love hearing the old stories

[@kaydee4296]

I would love a video on the difference between mummification an embalmed. I can't really wrap my head around what makes a mummy-a mummy...even though i have looked it up. Thanks for another great video, Kari!

[@KaritheMortician]

I will do one!

[@evelynfoster2706]

Yes please Kari !!

[@kaydee4296]

@@KaritheMortician i cant wait but i will....😁

[@Debdiencal]

My uncle Joe is still embalming in his nineties . I thought of him when you said dumping the blood out behind the barn back in the day. LOL! His dad is gone now but for sure His father must have. Never gave that a thought till you mentioned it. It was a simpler time for sure

[@KaritheMortician]

I bet he has some amazing stories

[@davidmckinney6577]

Wonderful video Kari I hope you and your family have a wonderful blessed Thanksgiving day. I played the part of mortician when my aunt called me and said that her dog was sick he was fifteen years old and suffering from kidney failure but he passed away when I got there she was very distraught over him passing away.. so I set his features before rigor mortis set in I cleaned him up and combed his hear and I made a casket for him and even put a lining in it...it turned out good but I have done it several times throughout my life with my past pets..it sure is hard to give them up.. my dogs Bigfoot is on the left side of my profile picture he is 14 years old and has cancer and it's inoperable and he has severe arthritis he is on pallative care now..I'm lucky to still have him my vet said that three months is a long time to live and he has made it almost a year and a half and still going.. he suffered a stroke last week and she said that he probably won't be able to walk again and I have been working with him giving him therapy and I have him walking again thank God 🙏.. he is a pit bull mixed and Arnold is a beagle he will be 10 years old Xmas day..I love my dogs Bigfoot and Arnold..

[@dalesmith9424]

Very educational 👍🏼

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you!

[@jimmclaughlin1229]

As a RN in surgery for 38 years, blood was always considered as a bio hazard due to the no fact we never knew what disease might be there, ie hepatitis, aids virus etc

[@robertganley313]

Thank you, Kari. Robert Ganley

[@KaritheMortician]

Thanks

[@katiestar5245]

Love your videos Kari. Stay safe!

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you

[@kevinlee583]

How do the Amish community care for the deceased and could you possibly make a video on it?

[@marieg3865]

this is a great question!

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes I have made some connections on this. There are many variations on Amish communities just like any other communities.

[@marieg3865]

Kari, I have so much respect for you. You're the best, do you know that?

[@organrick]

It’s good to have a forum like this. I think some of the questions are ones that I’ve had, but I think that I would feel awkward, asking a funeral director (usually the only time I have contact with one is when someone passes, and I’m at the viewing, playing for the funeral, or attending the funeral-outside of here, I mean.)

[@marieg3865]

@@organrick yes. I mean, I consider myself an educated person. But I am not going to expect the obituary to be ready by morning HOWEVER, studying psychology we know the human brain reacts different in such a deep emotional state. If I was going to the funeral home to make arrangements for say my parents who I am closer to anyone in this world, I am sure parts of my rational side of my brain would not be working because I am so overwhelmed with grief.And I may just ask about the obituary for the morning, I hate to think I would but I have never been in that position, so I may just be someone who asks. Forgive me 🤷‍♀️😉

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you so much for that!

[@KaritheMortician]

Feel free to ask anything you would like

[@kathycowan2221]

Never had a clue about full couch.

[@KaritheMortician]

:)

[@robindoll8795]

I respond to deaths in a hospital and I had a question asked of me that I was not able to answer and that was do any mortuaries in town do liquid cremations. This is a new one to me and I have 14 years mortuary experience. Can you elaborate on liquid cremations please?

[@arlynpage7491]

Kari- why is the word “couch” used regarding caskets?!? Been wondering- Thanks.

[@organrick]

The only thing that comes to mind is the couch you sit on, and the casket, when fully open, looks like a couch or a sofa (of course, you have to use your imagination, but it’s the same basic shape.)

[@arlynpage7491]

@@organrick kzbin.info/www/bejne/jIOlepiba7OkrqM still don’t get the “couch” term but check this out! Couches made from coffins ⚰️.

[@organrick]

That’s at least my idea, but as I said, you have to use your imagination. I don’t know where they came up with that term either.

[@KaritheMortician]

It is a couch of sorts

[@KaritheMortician]

As a verb it means to lie down

[@jimmclaughlin1229]

As a RN in surgery, we always considered blood as a bill hazard.

[@thinkcorrectly407]

I've been at a funeral in Houston that ran a bit long, the motorcycle police escort started revving their engine's, then once on the Highway, we really hit 100 mph at times.

[@KaritheMortician]

Oh my!!

[@organrick]

I remember, with a couple of family funerals, it seemed like we were going that fast. With my grandmother’s, the pastor had gone over, and she had to be buried by 12 (this was on a Saturday, and apparently, the union for the vault company said they had to be done by that time. They stayed but we had to pay out more money.) Anyway, during the procession, I looked at the speedometer, and saw we were going 50 through the downtown of a tourist town in Massachusetts, and I think we were going even faster when we got to the road that takes you to the road that goes to the cemetery. We were going fast enough that some of the attendees had to ask directions to the cemetery , and did anyone see a funeral procession... (they were people that went to our church, or had worked with my dad, but they were from an hour away, so they weren’t familiar with the town. The lead car literally ran in front of someone that was driving on the busy road that intersects with the road the funeral homes are on, and the driver from the funeral home (I think it was the owner in his personal vehicle) got beeped at (fortunately, the other driver was able to stop.) Then again, there are some where we probably went only 15-20 MPH (probably some of the funerals at the church I play the organ, where the town cemetery is only like a half mile away.)

[@thinkcorrectly407]

@@organrick , I've never had an experience like that since, but hey, it was Houston.

[@cloudweemes9716]

When I worked with my grandfather, I was 7 mon preg. Grandpa,had me right there, I didn't have any issues and my OB Doctor knew my grandpa and knew he wouldn't put me in harms way and sometimes he would just me go wash someone or brush their hair etc. sometimes a bedridden person from nursing home or hospital ,neglected their hair for whatever reason, so I'd wash their hair, brush tangles out etc and then left it til the person that handled the hair styling came in. They were appreciative that they didn't have to do that prior. Grandpa also knew a lot of about the make up, etc. When my brother died of what said to be suicide (he was 16) he had this huge goose egg knot on his forehead , black/blue and dark black/blue. By the time he finished my brother's make up, you couldn't see the ugliness of the bruise, or the rope burns on his neck. He was in one of those state schools for trouble boys.. Prior to my grandfather taking care of the bruising and rope burns, the funeral home director had done the make up but yet didn't cover any of the brusing, just left it.

[@KaritheMortician]

That is so special you were able to care for him

[@12yearssober]

Sorry I missed you Kari!!

[@KaritheMortician]

Thanks for checking back in

[@MrBigtomtom06]

Hopefully you see this to answer.. Can embalming be reversed or corrected?

[@KaritheMortician]

It can not be reversed by you can try to embalm more

[@Tracymcgrath-p3e]

Do directors ever use assistants? Thanks 🌹

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes they do

[@shorty38]

We have some in halifax ns Canada

[@KaritheMortician]

thank you!

[@3SoulsParanormal]

Kari if you ever do a live stream here on KZbin like on a Saturday night we definitely would love to interview with you about the LeMoyne Crematory the very 1st Crematory built in the United States and our investigation

[@KaritheMortician]

Yes that would be fun

[@3SoulsParanormal]

@@KaritheMortician ok any Saturday night would be fine just got to make a date

[@colleenkelleher393]

My mom was a below the knee amputate and her prosthesis was buried with her

[@KaritheMortician]

I didn’t think to mention that part of it!

[@MikeMercury]

xcellent as usual

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you

[@colleenkelleher393]

I visited the graves of Titanic victims on a tour in Canada

[@KaritheMortician]

Very cool!!

[@cindyrodriquez5226]

Have you ever done a green burial?

[@KaritheMortician]

We do not have cemeteries that allow it right near me so I have not been able to yet.

[@cindyrodriquez5226]

@@KaritheMortician, I worked for Hospice of Northwest Ohio and was able to prepare the body with the family. I understand there is one near Columbus. That's where he was being buried at.

[@charlescram3425]

One of the reasons I started listening to you isn’t for morbid reasons. I wanted to know and understand to put my mind at ease about death and what happens here on Earth after one dies. My career aptitude tests suggested mortuary science. I don’t think that was correct. I have worked in a mortuary as a grunt when I was younger. I never knew about what happens behind closed doors. They didn’t say and you weren’t allowed to see. But listening to you has helped me know or understand about what happens and what options are there after death. I was so angry when my brother in law had my sister cremated after she died. He just wanted to dump her as quickly as he could. 2 days after her death she was cremated and I had her ashes at my front door the Friday after she died. She has died by suicide the Tuesday before so 4 days later her ashes were delivered to me by mail. I was so hurt and angry at her. Angry at my former brother in-law. I still don’t understand it and why. I went into therapy for 6 months due to the trauma. She was 18 months older than me. We were close. But seeing a retort and understanding a little about death I still find myself hurt and angry but I feel I have a better idea what happened to her physically.

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you so much!!

[@craigs.546]

Shouldn't the cost of cremation be rated upon what percentage of the body is left to be cremated? I'm just trying to see if money can be saved somehow. 😀

[@jackieburns9307]

You keep referring to removal, what do you mean?

[@KaritheMortician]

When the body is brought to the funeral home

[@frklein1]

What about PICCs?

[@KaritheMortician]

Same sometimes we leave and sometimes remove

[@dianaerno9204]

How long does it take for somebody to decelerate when they're in their coffin when they are buried

[@KaritheMortician]

There is no timeline.

[@willkiser3926]

Still the best my friend

[@KaritheMortician]

Thank you!

[@jackieburns9307]

How do we know we get our loved ones ashes when their cremated? I've heard all the ashes goes into a barrel and you just scoop some out and put it in a container and hand it to us.

[@patheydon7655]

Have you ever had a multiple deceased service? What were the circumstances?

[@carmenbehringer7218]

Why is there mostly 3 day turn around for a funeral

[@KaritheMortician]

Just the natural course

[@jackieburns9307]

Can someone observe an autopsy?

[@KaritheMortician]

No

[@normasaldivar1882]

Kari, when you show up at a viewing, should hands/ fingers-look al curled up? No arthritis on this individual. However, he was found dead in his car 9-12 hours later. From so many videos I’ve seen on ut- tube that’s where massaging can be done. True or not. 🤔

[@KaritheMortician]

Might have been heart attacked and he clamped his hands down or something and they locked.

[@normasaldivar1882]

@@KaritheMortician one last question if I may. He had a small amount of blood drawing from mouth. It was really a weird death and feel there should’ve been an autopsy. Should a medical examiner have picked him up first? Funeral home picked him up 3 hours after family notified FH. That’s really a long time to leave a body just there.

[@lindathorpe3299]

Hello girl how are u today

[@brucehaney7954]

Is there a law on having my wife's ashes with me because that's what I want

[@michaeldickens7493]

I'm sorry but Thats crazy to to ask for blood or teeth omg

[@KaritheMortician]

Agreed

[@williammason7100]

No oxygen no blood just plates

[@KaritheMortician]

:)

[@charlesbailey9412]

Good morning beautiful how are you doing

[@KaritheMortician]

great thanks

[@8359563]

Why would anyone want thier family blood

[@KaritheMortician]

Some people choose it

[@davidmckinney6577]

Wonderful video Kari I hope you and your family have a wonderful blessed Thanksgiving day. I played the part of mortician when my aunt called me and said that her dog was sick he was fifteen years old and suffering from kidney failure but he passed away when I got there she was very distraught over him passing away.. so I set his features before rigor mortis set in I cleaned him up and combed his hear and I made a casket for him and even put a lining in it...it turned out good but I have done it several times throughout my life with my past pets..it sure is hard to give them up.. my dogs Bigfoot is on the left side of my profile picture he is 14 years old and has cancer and it's inoperable and he has severe arthritis he is on pallative care now..I'm lucky to still have him my vet said that three months is a long time to live and he has made it almost a year and a half and still going.. he suffered a stroke last week and she said that he probably won't be able to walk again and I have been working with him giving him therapy and I have him walking again thank God 🙏.. he is a pit bull mixed and Arnold is a beagle he will be 10 years old Xmas day..I love my dogs Bigfoot and Arnold..

[@davidmckinney6577]

Wonderful video Kari I hope you and your family have a wonderful blessed Thanksgiving day. I played the part of mortician when my aunt called me and said that her dog was sick he was fifteen years old and suffering from kidney failure but he passed away when I got there she was very distraught over him passing away.. so I set his features before rigor mortis set in I cleaned him up and combed his hear and I made a casket for him and even put a lining in it...it turned out good but I have done it several times throughout my life with my past pets..it sure is hard to give them up.. my dogs Bigfoot is on the left side of my profile picture he is 14 years old and has cancer and it's inoperable and he has severe arthritis he is on pallative care now..I'm lucky to still have him my vet said that three months is a long time to live and he has made it almost a year and a half and still going.. he suffered a stroke last week and she said that he probably won't be able to walk again and I have been working with him giving him therapy and I have him walking again thank God 🙏.. he is a pit bull mixed and Arnold is a beagle he will be 10 years old Xmas day..I love my dogs Bigfoot and Arnold..