Matchmaker Shares WHERE to Meet Men AND Women!

[@shawngilliland243]

Carey, you are such a social butterfly! Your true stories are GREAT, as well as quite inspirational.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I’m glad you find them inspirational, but it might help you even more to know that I am a huge introvert. Not shy but definitely find it exhausting being out amongst people for more than a bit.

[@lindafry8015]

Hey, I collect those old haircut books! I even brought it to my stylist & she liked it. Asked if she does roller sets (no).

[@CoffeewithCarey]

That’s fantastic!

[@sethtenrec]

So let me get this straight, I can meet interesting single women who lie to me and tell me they aren’t! Lol.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

It wouldn’t matter because anyone not interested in you is not someone in whom you are looking to invest resources. I’m not looking, therefore not single in the way he was questioning. Also important to note is that you don’t owe detailed explanations or your “story“ to people until they have earned the right to your personal information.

[@azmike3572]

I don't have a problem starting a conversation with a woman, usually pertaining to the reason we're both at the same place. What I DO have is an unfortunate problem with every woman I do talk to and later ask them to have coffee some time is that they all say they're sorry, but they're already in a relationship, regardless of age.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

That’s OK. What did you lose in the interaction? Absolutely nothing. Talk to MORE people!

[@shannonriley8299]

@@CoffeewithCarey you lost time

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@shannonriley8299 Speaking briefly and connecting with another human? Not a waste for me.

[@hoobeydoobey1267]

@@CoffeewithCarey He lost his respect. Another woman who only sees thru her own eyes. At some point one of those women are going to yell and he's going to be in trouble. I said hello to a woman in passing once. Next thing I know I'm being asked why I hit on her by her husband who naturally upset. He didn't like hearing I didn't. I came to realize she used that simple, passing hello to make him jealous. Maybe women should minister to women on the nasty, evil things they do instead of bending men to their will on how to be a suitable dating partner? Paul wrote that.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@hoobeydoobey1267 yikes

[@Ed-b178]

Great video Carey. Love is in the air, everywhere you look around. If your telling people in line at Costco about us, I would prefer that you tell the ladies rather than the gentlemen!!! LOL I would like to encourage you to resume helping those that are less fortunate. I know that it always gives me an added sense of purpose and accomplishment. Always a 👍for mom. ☕

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Message received. 🤎

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@CoffeewithCarey Nope, nope, nope - you got to tell the men, not the women. The women will find you on their own, men are stubborn and bone headed - and most can't find sh*t on their own! Ask any woman when it comes to him getting lost and asking for directions... You can only hope he filled up the gas tank before they went for a drive, and that there is cell service while he's searching for the right way! The one thing I don't get, is why the voice they select for their GPS is female and they actually listen to her! Go figure!

[@cathy_clarinet]

Your videos are interesting to me. I’m guessing I’m a bit older than you, but I keep myself nice. I’ve said before, I meet men that like me - But if I get past an initial conversation and want to see if there is something substantial there, this is what I find: 1. Most are married, but initially hiding that. I have several married men that have giant crushes on me (a total no go for me). 2. Men with drug or alcohol problems that they are initially hiding that 3. Men that already seeing 2-3 women they are juggling. 4. Men that are rabidly in the other side of politics from me. Just nobody that has any potential I do have a guy I talk to and date. We talk most days, but he doesn’t want a relationship. Ever, not just me. So I just carry on with life and hope 🙏

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I’m 62. It sounds like you’re doing so many things right. At some point. It’s a numbers day game. The more people you meet the more likely you are to meet someone you connect with.

[@cathy_clarinet]

@@CoffeewithCarey oh we’re closer than I thought. I wish we could hang out and have a conversation. I’m going to try to get time to do that before school starts up again

[@cathy_clarinet]

Btw, Starbucks is the #1 place I’ve had conversations with men that led to a date or 2 or 3, but not anything more

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yeah, it’s pretty relaxed and conversational in there!

[@ssiegreen5292]

Loved this! I live in a rural area [by choice - love the laid back country life!] - with very little of the big city convenience, clubs and entertainment, and things to do - if any [other than churchy stuff]. Ever since I made up my mind to actually go out to look - and more importantly take my time to look, rather than to rush through my errands, I realized men are literally EVERYWHERE! I still drop the ball too often [or catch up on someone's interest too late, because I'm still in work & get-things-done mode a lot of the time, but I am getting better at it. Practice for sure makes it easier and more fun too! And hands-down - it's the grocery stores for me! I need to hit up our Lowes this weekend - I am ready to buy a small handheld torch for a new jewelry making project I want to give a try out, and things like that I prefer to buy locally where I can compare several models, types etc side by side, so I can see the actual size and weight, how they fit my hand and how difficult it is to get replacement cartridges etc. I wonder if there'll be someone to ask there???

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Wait till you see my episode next week!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You too! Wait till you see what’s coming next week! Lol

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@virgiljohnson6484 The starting up the conversation to begin a talk - not a problem. I can chit-chat and/or BS with the best of them, all day long if I have to, but it leaves me drained with the feeling of having wasted precious time and energy with shallow talk or superficial conversations that drag along and in the end - go nowhere. On the other hand - I thrive on good, spunky, deeply satisfying, intellectual, wicked sometimes naughty, sometimes educational, knowledgeable, always invigorating or mind blowing conversations with just about anybody - male or female. And I love to talk with ppl from whom I can learn new things, but also with peeps that know about some of the things I know stuff about - so we can actually have deep subject matter talk. And about your shopping cart - - - if they look - - - it's not so much about whether you can cook, it's about how many ppl you are shopping for 😉

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@CoffeewithCarey I hate cliff hangers! You gotta do better than that!!!

[@ssiegreen5292]

Case in point!

[@user-ov4wr5yu4r]

I bought the plastic container of cat litter (2 on a sale) in 1999, and I've been refilling it ever since. It's very convenient. The original kitten we adopted that year grew old and passed away. Our current two are elderly now. We've still got the litter containers, and the same plastic sand box.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

On behalf of the planet and my grandchildren thank you very much! 😍This is fantastic! Can you imagine how many huge plastic tubs would be sitting in our landfills for 600 years just from your three beloved kitties alone? Wow.

[@hump1953]

I really liked this video- I meet women the old fashioned way- at my favorite supper club..lot of single, older ladies there, they even go alone.. it’s a comfortable ambiance…

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Love it!

[@ssiegreen5292]

Supper club??? That sounds so Humphrey Bogart-y. 3 piece suit, fedora, Stacy Adams. Cigar or cigarillo. So 1950ish... But then you look more Dean Martin-ish, so I'm thinking Mr. Blue Eyes and the RatPack? Tell us more...

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@johannamiklos4352 Where are you? Also here in GA???

[@hump1953]

@@ssiegreen5292 the name of the place originally started out as a “ supper club”… about 10 years ago the changed to “ steak and seafood”… they used to play soft Dean Martin music and had a crooner who would come in and sing 🎤 on Fridays during Happy Hour…

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@ssiegreen5292 You really are a romantic, aren’t you?! ;-)

[@Antiqueexcavator]

Such a fun post!! I have found over the years if you present yourself in a non-threatening, open and friendly manner (all while reading body language and respecting when it’s signaling no interest) it’s possible to meet people almost anywhere. This was one of the most unusual for me. I was pulled over by a female state police trooper, and given a ticket. I found her quite attractive and could not stop smiling, which at the time because of the bonehead reason (on my part) that she pulled me over, was clearly irritating her. The very next day I saw her driving her squad car (she patrolled a stretch of highway that I frequented). I was able to pull up next to her and get her attention. I smiled and waved. She returned the same so I signaled for her to pull over. She looked at me like I was nuts, but did. We both got out of our cars on the shoulder and she asked if I was crazy (in a very cute way) and I responded that I was, but not in a bad way. After apologizing for the aforementioned bonehead maneuver and a short conversation, I asked if I could take her out to dinner. She agreed, at which point I asked if SHE was crazy. She, too, said yes and we both laughed. We ended up dating for several months and remained friends for many years. As Carey pointed out, if you leave yourself open and approachable you can meet people almost anywhere!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@Antiqueexcavator That’s a great story. I have a an episode upcoming sharing pick up lines and tips for meeting people at the grocery store and one of the key points is illustrated here … you just have to realize how absurd the situation is and if you are both in on that joke, then it is suddenly not awkward at all.

[@hump1953]

Nice story, but I wonder if that type of scenario is possible in this day and age…

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@hump1953 ... and why not? Not every woman has lost her sense of humor, and not every woman is trying to crucify every man she runs across.

[@sheilasheila2709]

@@CoffeewithCarey We need pick up lines for sure. I'm an introvert, retired and want to be in a relationship with a wonderful man.

[@Antiqueexcavator]

@@sheilasheila2709 pick up lines can definitely be fun but aren’t always necessary. With or without a pick up line the key is sharing a warm smile combined with slightly extended eye contact giving off a vibe that you are approachable and interested.

[@Chris-hp2gg]

Wherever you are, act like that's the place to be.😂

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Wherever I am IS the place to be! Is my opinion. Lol

[@Private-GtngxNMBKvYzXyPq]

I’m guessing you at least smiled or said hi. Decent men don’t want to inflict unwanted attention on women these days, but if you show us you are ok if we approach, we still remember how to be friendly.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I have a permanent smile affixed to my face in public.

[@Private-GtngxNMBKvYzXyPq]

@@CoffeewithCarey 🙂

[@cosmicalchemist8219]

Exactly, no one talks to strangers anymore. I’ve lived in a state other than the one I’m from & I’ve been here 9 years & have no friends or boyfriend. I don’t see that changing any time soon. 😂😂😂

[@cosmicalchemist8219]

@@CoffeewithCareymakes sense. I have to wear dark glasses so there’s zero eye contact happening & I don’t speak to, look at, or talk to anyone unless they approach me first, that’s only polite. Probably why we have such different life experiences.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@cosmicalchemist8219 😔

[@anhpam9205]

Post divorce for many years, now in my 60's, fit, active attend shows, movies, concerts, lectures etc,.Take classes where only men there are married. Others I see around are considerably older or very unkempt or frail. I have no trouble striking up conversations with other women. Seems i am invisible to men, altogether. Dating sites hav been a mine field for me, even when I have initiated with men I thought were so compatible. No interest whatsoever. It is like I have been in a men free zone, a.k.a. a convent!! Help! S- O -S

[@CoffeewithCarey]

If we were working together, there are lots of things in that story that I would investigate and likely change. ;-) Point being you need to investigate each of those and optimize for meeting potential partners! 🤎

[@cosmicalchemist8219]

Yeah right, none of those are places that I’d ever talk to anyone & I’ve definitely never had anyone ever talking to me at any of those places before either. People are busy doing their own thing, they don’t want to be bothered, especially by a woman! 😂😂😂😂

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thanks for bringing your negativity to my channel. I hope it made you feel wonderful inside. But I doubt it.

[@louisetaylor6952]

Even if you are rebuffed by everybody, you're still feeding the kindness gene within yourself...

[@dian277]

i don't approach men i don't know any background of, unless i actually need help, or i see someone need help. i've also never been approached by men at these places, although I do smile and am polite.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You do you! 👍

[@bluedogjackiepoo]

Never ever has anyone talked to me in these situations

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Perhaps it’s your demeanor? I always have a little smile on my face, and if people don’t talk to me, I start a casual conversation with… Everyone! Unique, interesting and surprising conversations everywhere I go..it’s a joy!

[@bluedogjackiepoo]

@@CoffeewithCareyI agree!

[@alikidimitriadis5138]

First like…! 👋🏼

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Hahaha 😉

[@charliefox9573]

I have no problem initiating a conversation if the situation feels natural, but a lot of what you're referring to are essentially cold approaches with very little context. Even if you do manage to make a comment/observation, it can be difficult to keep the conversation going, especially if they're in the middle of shopping etc. Evenings I find the most challenging. Sadly Meetup groups, speed dating etc seem to be full of the unattractive or awkward people that life left behind. And who feels comfortable going out on their own to a br or to see a show etc? I'm at a point where I'm almost resigned to never meeting someone again unless I maybe travel in retirement, where at least you have the initial icebreaker being from somewhere else.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Nothing wrong with the cold approach you’re just trying to start a very brief conversation and get a phone number. I’m not recommending that you hang out and talk for 20 minutes. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@JamesParus]

Home depo and car part stores are good because women usually dont so those alone when in relationship. Just look lost. Its easy for man to approach too.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Women can definitely be found wandering the aisles while in a relationship. So be curious and don’t assume. 👍

[@virgiljohnson6484]

The secret. Don't be a snapping turtle.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🐢🐢🐢

[@ssiegreen5292]

... or a chameleon... 🦎🦎🦎

[@virgiljohnson6484]

@@ssiegreen5292 I am a chameleon. I think it is foolish for me to remain adapted to something that has passed.

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@virgiljohnson6484 I didn't think chameleons are all that adaptable - their superpowers are in their camouflage, no? What's your superpower?

[@virgiljohnson6484]

@@ssiegreen5292 Staying alive this long.

[@nancygee3137]

did you get a facelift?

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I wish. Lol

[@CoffeewithCarey]

If you’re just talking about the thumbnail, I edit them. 🫣😂

[@Nurse_Kathy]

@@CoffeewithCarey😅

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@Nurse_Kathy If everybody else doing it and you don’t, you just look crazy! Lol

[@chrisdavis8830]

Basically a list of where to meet men. The title should have reflected that. Would have been nice to know where you and your girlfriends go and appreciate being approached by a man.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

The title did reflect that. Literally, did you actually watch the video? I’m guessing not.

[@chrisdavis8830]

@@CoffeewithCarey I did watch the video expecting to hear about both how to meet men and women not just where men are. How many women deliver appliances? I have been to a bunch of home Depots and find a bunch of men and women with their husbands. Not really a good way to meet women

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@chrisdavis8830 those are all fantastic places to meet men or women. My POINT was EVERYWHERE is where you will find both men and women. Like I did. And some will be single!

[@chrisdavis8830]

​@@CoffeewithCareywant to find women quit your job and deliver appliances? Why not tell women to enlist in the Marines a bunch of men there? I was hoping to hear locations where there are women to meet. Like a zoomba or spin class. There has to be an equivalent to home Depot a location that has a lot of women and few men.

[@pace1195]

@@chrisdavis8830 Yes, complaining on Tik Tok about not being able to meet good men. Personally, I don't drink, including boxed wine, and I don't have any pets, so I'm just as lost as you, friend.