How to Meet and What to SAY at the Grocery Store!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

All the SUPER passionate responses and conversations, but not one $uper Thanks?! 🧐 😂

[@burningcopper]

I used to be a checker at a neighborhood grocery store. This guy saw me talking to one of my regular customers. He handed me a note & asked if I would give to her the next time I saw her. He seemed like a nice guy & so I did. They ended up getting married. 😊

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You’re a matchmaker too!

[@AnthonyManzio]

@@CoffeewithCarey never cold approach. Do only warm approach.

[@AnthonyManzio]

​@@CoffeewithCareyLong -Term- Relationship is dead globally all due to smartphones. No one meets women anymore face to face like before smartphones came out. Cold approach is dead too. Today women don't even look or smile anymore, all on their cell phones 24/7 on dating apps for hookups. No wonder why men have given up!

[@AnthonyManzio]

@@CoffeewithCarey No man picks up at grocery store. I've seen old woman hitting an old man at Walmart

[@AnthonyManzio]

@@CoffeewithCarey Average men do not flirt.

[@brianbailey4577]

Hang out in the box wine and cat food section……it’s a target rich environment! 😂

[@crimestoppers1877]

I also check out the dog section.

[@_JimmyBeGood]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Muttinchopsforever]

Lol

[@waynehendrix4806]

Cats don't drink boxed wine. Who are we kidding here?

[@strangedays871]

Not me. I'm allergic to cats.

[@steveverdoo1859]

When I was in my early forties and married, women would hit on me a lot. One actually, in a elevator, in front of other people, a woman told me what a handsome man I was. I am now 65 and no one looks at me. Not even my wife. Beauty is fleeting.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Hopefully you’re making the most of what you have. And remembering also that beauty comes from within. What have you done today to be more interesting and a little bit brighter?

[@cbroz7492]

@steveverdoo1859 .a...and charm is decpetive..

[@josephschuster1494]

Everybody has their 15 minutes in the Sun. 😮

[@Leslie-es5ij]

Yeah, them young girls don't look at me like they used to either !😂😂😂

[@Michael-k4g]

What’s that way too stupid saying beauty fades love lasts.....yea right beauty fades and then no one notices you!

[@davidivey-entrepreneur]

After getting divorced, and knowing that I couldn't just stay home all the time, I thought to myself, "Where can I work that keeps my mind busy and that will also allow me to meet lots of other people?" Yep, I came up with the grocery store idea as I used to do that when I was young. I ended up working in a large supermarket for two years and met lots of nice women. I tend to have an outgoing personality so it wasn't that difficult for me, but I found that it did take seeing the same lady 2,3,4 times before the conversations became more comfortable and could exchange phone numbers without coming off creepy. In general, most women love to talk, if you can keep the conversation light-hearted, and be funny. As of right now though (9/13/24), I haven't found that soulmate...I'm still looking.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Well, don’t forget to use your skills everywhere you go! Thanks for sharing a great story!

[@LoVoltage23]

You stab anything???

[@mickeyaugrec7560]

Carey, I love this! Great suggestions. Grocery store flirting (bookstores back when there were bookstores, laundromats are bastions of single people, blah blah blah) is the best. Most people think of grocery shopping as mundane, drudgery - having the somewhat modest "cojones" to communicate with an attractive woman, and actually doing so without being actively inappropriate or creepy, almost always results in making her chuckle or smile, even if there is no phone number exchange, date or intimate encounter as a result. Encountering and connecting with people in real life is not dead. Thank you for the illustrative examples, they're spot-on and definitely achievable even for the most reserved of dudes. If you were my cashier at Dominic's or wherever, or shopping at Saks 5th outlet or wherever, I definitely would have chatted / flirted with you! Would do so today, but you indicate you are not single....no surprise there! Cheers MG😎

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I’m glad that it’s not dead for you, but it is for a lot of people who are refusing to put themselves out there until very strongly encouraged! ☺️

[@roadrules3671]

I Live in SE Pa. I tried this at my local Supermarket; which is only about 3.5 miles from me. My Court Date is next Friday.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I call BS. People are friendly if you’re not weird. Are you weird?

[@miket7184]

That's what happens when you hit on a heavily tattooed, pierced, green haired feminist!

[@matthewmarch8707]

I live in SE Pa. too. My court date is next Monday!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@matthewmarch8707 another weirdo? 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@AlanThomas-hp3fn it did not at all. And he literally just repeated somebody else’s joke lol

[@mbarkley33]

At 61, I've given up on flirting and dating. My home remodeling projects are my mistress. She appreciates the love. 😅

[@CoffeewithCarey]

YDYD!

[@rickypitman1035]

Limp? Ohmy!

[@Last_one_before_I_go]

A few years back I was approached by an older woman around my age, working a Kiosk in a major department store, who told me I was handsome...I don't get those comments normally, but thanked her. Of course we had some small talk when I'd visit the store, but I became turned off when she admitted (and women usually tell on themselves after a while) how she left her long term marriage to a very good husband and great father because she "got bored". She offered me her number, so we exchanged. I threw it away, deciding to not waste time on someone who threw her marriage over something so correctable....Women look at a mans future - but we guys look at their past. Still, was flattered by her attention, but I enjoy my financial security and peace.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Did you think that she was going to share the true and accurate details of why she got divorced with someone she had just met, and who had not yet earned her trust to deserve her most personal stories? Maybe she got bored with being demeaned in public settings or bored with all the time she spent alone because he was cheating. You had not yet earned the right to her story and I would fault her for sharing it with you as a stranger. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Last_one_before_I_go]

@@CoffeewithCarey - She said she got bored with HIM. She volunteered all the information freely, so I took it at face value. If she wants to lie out of the box thats on her. Who's talking about rights? Nothing on me, I didn't interrogate her, I just let her talk. I'm glad she shared it, it helped me understand a little of her nature.

[@hsny76h4l9]

​@@CoffeewithCareyu are making excuses for her.She got bored 😴 and left a good husband and father,he was right to pass her up

[@srbaruchi]

The view from your high horse is still the view of a single guy. There may be more to your story, but, assuming you found her physically attractive, you should have pursued whatever short-term opportunity there was rather than projecting into the future.

[@Last_one_before_I_go]

@@srbaruchi - I've lived enough in my 60+ years to know the key to peace, happiness, preservation of my wealth and...my sanity, is to carefully tread when it comes to, or practice complete avoidance altogether of "short-term" opportunities. Those can result in some long term losses. She was ordinary and didn't possess anything singling her out from any other woman. I found her story rather sad and her future to possibly being one where something will never be enough. I'm also old enough to understand that a woman of her age is foremost looking for security and to return to a life of "easy mode". I made a vow to myself that in my older years, I'd never again raise another child, nor support another woman. Be Well.

[@alexandrasmith7682]

If a guy likes the look of you, then he will approach you. I've been point blank asked for my number, asked if I need help reaching anything (I am only 5'), had offers to load my groceries in the car on a number of occasions, three times got chatting and been asked to go to the coffee shop ...... Etc etc. At 46, how did I meet my husband? New city ..... Apartment complex held a new tenants coffee evening. He was on his way out to dinner, noticed me through the glass wall, and stopped. Manager told him ..... "Move quick because I've had two guys already ask about her". He took courage in his hands and walked over. Ten minutes later, he had picked up our coffee and I had grabbed our cake. One week later, we had been out to dinner and enjoyed a sightseeing Sunday. Six months later, we were engaged. He is super successful. Well dressed. Highly educated. Witty. Slim and fit. Kind and supportive. Why had he been passed over? Because he is 5' 6" . Broaden your horizons if you want a good man!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yeah, it’s really a struggle with my guys under 5’8. If you’re open to it, there are a lot of fantastic men under 6 feet!!

[@polycrase]

Yeah, women give "try a short man" good lip service on the internet, but don't apply it in their real world lives.😂

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@polycrase well I could tell you to date a very curvy woman, and that’s not going to convince you either unless it’s something you’re open to.

[@adamkane7513]

​@@CoffeewithCarey False equivalency. A 3rd of young Men are not having sex, many never have. 300lb women are still able to get laid, always have.

[@ssiegreen5292]

I bet there is a difference in the courage level it takes to approach a dainty 5' woman vs. one that is nearly 6' tall, no matter whether she's curvy or slim. And just like there are few men who have the cojones to approach women taller than themselves, there are few women who will at first sight - be physically attracted to men that are shorter than them. I'm not saying it doesn't happen - but I think it takes a bit more knowing each other for that to work, kind a needing a chance to grow on each other...

[@kevintaylor6015]

I used to go to the grocery on Friday or Saturday evening. Women shopping at these times don't have dates. Sunday evenings worked also.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Interesting approach.

[@kevintaylor6015]

@@CoffeewithCarey Also, the Garden center at Home Depot on the weekends. I got a date from there.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@kevintaylor6015 Home Depot was definitely on my list in that very recent episode about where we should be talking to men and women.

[@crimestoppers1877]

@@CoffeewithCarey I suggest prowling the aisles earlier when she is seriously shopping.

[@crimestoppers1877]

@@kevintaylor6015 Home Depot is a serious hook up meeting spot for women.

[@susan29234]

This is awesome!!! 😅 I know you address talking to people in public, that helps me so much! Thank you so much for making this video about the grocery store!!! ❤️ 😊 Loved it🎉

[@CoffeewithCarey]

♥️☺️

[@susan29234]

❤️😊

[@jcontreras1736]

I am in retail wholesale it is easy to talk to customers and start a conversation with them and humor is a good way to start I make them feel comfortable and give them great service on products that we sell. I have built friendships on this from returning customers over the years and been in this business for 39 years and enjoy doing it. Talking to people is second nature to me I meet their needs as a customer That’s how I approach people. Have a great day.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You’re saying you use those skills you have perfected on your job to talk to people anywhere in the wild, right?

[@jcontreras1736]

@@CoffeewithCarey yes it works very well. Not as a way to date but just to establish friends.👍

[@doncavanaugh4268]

I’m from Houston. We talk to everybody. First trip to London I was down in the subway waiting for the next train. There was a woman sitting on the same bench and she was checking me out. So I said “hello”. She got up and left and a few minutes later returned with a cop who asked me why I was bothering this woman.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Omg!!! Hahahha. Sorry for laughing, but that is Ludicrous, Don!

[@brianthesnail3815]

I highly doubt that is true. First of all, there are not random police officers hanging around in the London Underground and finding one would be really difficult in a few minutes.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@brianthesnail3815 it’s a story and tell me all the time. I’m used to it if you listen to fellas women are running off screaming and jumping off of bridges just because of guy who believes he is not good looking said something friendly. Lol.

[@miket7184]

LOL! After answering the cop, you should have told him "We'll, I guess I should have told her she's a skank and please walk away far enough so I can't see you".

[@KpxUrz5745]

EXACTLY!!!

[@bobjones2460]

I love this! It seems so many women these days avid making eye contact. I'm 48 and it didn't seem to be this way in the past. Do you have any comments on why this is so? It's as if people are so distrustful of one another anymore. I live my life with no regrets; you are right about avoiding regrets, even if you get turned down.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Bob, try an experiment; just keep a gentle smile on your face and see what happens. I think so many people are just oblivious and seem unfriendly, but would love to make some connections.

[@bobjones2460]

@@CoffeewithCarey I'll try it! A few years ago, I was at the grocery store and I saw the most beautiful woman imaginable. She was wearing black yoga pants, boots, and had a very ample rear end. I wanted so bad to talk to her but I had no clue how to start off the conversation! I felt I looked really good also, wearing a tight shirt that accentuated my chest and arms. I kept going close to her but she never said anything. Ohh, the regrets! lol

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@bobjones2460 😌

[@katrinakaye7997]

There are always very handsome guys at my grocery store. The only issue is, they always seem to be rushing. I have tried making eye contact a few times but then I'm too shy to do anything else! I'll try to build up some courage to say hello the next time I'm there. Wish me luck!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You can do it!!

[@markwest7258]

You're cute. If you said hello to me with a smile, you'd stand out enough for me to stop to chat. It would help if you know how to respond to flirting.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@ at this point, you have to just be present and in the moment. Be friendly, smile, and go with it.

[@katrinakaye7997]

@@markwest7258 lol thank you, I just need to work on being more confident!

[@katrinakaye7997]

@@CoffeewithCarey yes absolutely

[@chriswolford1054]

I just subscribed and find you attractive, intelligent, friendly and with a good sense of humor. Good qualities to look for in any woman.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Glad you are enjoying the channel!

[@SamThacker]

Safeway in Austin had a Safeway Singles Club in the late 70s. It was fun looking in ladies baskets to see what the were putting in their baskets. It really does tell you a lot about someone.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Amazing. Some of the grocery stores in the Chicago area I have a little wine bar!

[@PeteThecurious100]

Bananas up or down? ;)

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@PeteThecurious100 I still find down easier and then also you can cut off the flaps and have a handle. Lol, especially for the grandkids.

[@PeteThecurious100]

@@CoffeewithCarey I am sure you get it but in our part of the world, the (crude?) joke is when a pretty single girl with a bunch of bananas obviously sitting in the shopping basket placed in an erect position is suggestive. ;)

[@stefanadamcik8221]

Carey, you've got great conversational style. You're so right about meeting people at grocery stores. The grocers have put alot of work into creating an atmosphere of saying "yes" to purchases. Why not ride that wave for free?

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Drafting and slipstreaming through the grocery aisles! Haha 👍

[@markwest7258]

I liked your line about dancing and I'd expand on it with something like this, "Say you what, I actually enrolled in a dance class a few years back but I had to drop out." She'll either question or acknowledge then follow with, "Yeah, I wrenched my back near the bottom of the pole" smirking (VERY important) at the end. Or hows this, intently look in her cart and say "That's quite a shopping list you have. So what are you planning to cook us for dinner?" This one DEFINITELY needs a cheeky smirk or smile to pull off.

[@guysavoy626]

Some great advice and observations. Dry delivery? I thought some parts were subtely hilarious.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thank you!

[@DaveThompson-u8v]

Carey, this is the first time I've met you. I think you're terrific.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thanks, Dave! Pleasure to meet you as well!

[@Aldo-d6z]

I’m glad I saw this clip. Now when my wife asks if I can go to the store and pick up something for dinner it’s gonna have a whole new meaning. Thanks👍

[@CoffeewithCarey]

😆

[@shawngilliland243]

"Organic Oreos" - that's hilarious!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🤎

[@michaelbartjen3406]

One of your best videos, because, you give a lot of ideas on how to (start/break the ice) on a possible new relationship, and that rejection is no big deal, Thanks

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Glad it was helpful!

[@dklang]

If they reject you, just reject em back lol

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@dklang exactly! Lol. They’re foolish. Who needs em?!

[@randybarnes8454]

In life they're two types of regret, regret of doing, or regret of not doing. Both have a life long memory.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

So they say.

[@ronhall5395]

Once, way before I met my wife I was shopping and these two cuties walked up to me and asked what I was planning that evening. I told them, dinner and then to.bed early. They giggled than asked if I wanted to share that bed with them. Like a fool I said no thanks.. I was more worried they would rob me. Lol

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@ronhall5395 gotta becareful out there.

[@jimdandy8996]

Yep

[@jimdandy8996]

@@ronhall5395 Or set you up for a False Me too accusation.

[@vaughnkavon3993]

What a very interesting woman. Good communication, smart, inspiring, and quite beautiful.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Aww gee, thanks.

[@vaughnkavon3993]

@@CoffeewithCarey I would love to make dinner for you sometime.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@vaughnkavon3993 that’s a thoughtful offer but my man cooks all my meals here. I’m retired from cooking after years of cooking for a family of four. Fortunately he’s never cooked for anyone until me so he loves it! I hate it and I’ve bro one a terrible cook! On purpose? 🤔🤫

[@erob65]

Thanks, Carey. That was fun!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thanks!

[@rustyknott-W.D]

I always lead with, "Hello". I worked my way through college at a grocery store in the early 70's. The best line I ever heard was a guy asking a lady, "Having a good time?", her answer was, "No." His reply was, "Want one?" Classic. They walked out together.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Bold. 🤎

[@adrianjames6736]

GREAT!

[@shadygremlin9702]

Can I get dem digits Carey? You is an example of the Beautiful woman.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I’m gonna give that a six out of 10. I think you can definitely get to a 9 out of 10 by the time you get to the grocery stores. Good luck out there! 😂

[@shadygremlin9702]

@@CoffeewithCarey lol, I was just being funny, but thank you M'lady (⊙ˍ⊙)

[@tonyalgar4886]

Loved your video ! I'm always at the grocery store, and regularly trying to check out left hands !

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@the1972bulldog]

Absolutely Love your work. First time I've caught your channel and I'm a Keeper. Bonus points for having Coffee in the name, brilliant idea ☕️ Ayway, Thank You and Lots of Love from Down Under here in Australia Beautiful 🙏🏻💙✌️ Hope You have an Absolutely Amazing day and most definitely a little caffeine shot or 3 to ☕️🇦🇺💐😎👌

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Pleasure to meet you! You’re not the first from down under, but you are certainly a welcome addition! I hope you find plenty of new insights and things to ponder from the channel! 😀🤎👍

[@sheilasheila2709]

I had a man approach me in the Aldi parking lot...lol He asked if he could place my groceries in my car for me. I saw him at the check-out, he was in front of me. He said he saw me in the store and waited for me to head to the check out before he checked out. I had no idea! He gave me his number and asked if he could take me to dinner. I took his number and sent a text a few days later. We had lunch. He was cute, very gentlemanly, business owner, but too young for me. I admired his confidence to approach me. I wish more men had his style.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You’re already judging someone to be too young for you after one date and despite their interest in you? 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@sheilasheila2709]

@@CoffeewithCarey about 15 years younger.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@sheilasheila2709 why is that too young? Should you be making that decision for him?

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@CoffeewithCarey Good question!

[@AnthonyManzio]

File for harassments.

[@georgiaguardian4696]

Wow great tips! I am in my 40s and still find reading these tips helping me with my wife and may be meeting others to have some fling

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🥨🫒

[@markwest7258]

Or at the very least, her jealousy could rekindle the flame. Jealousy is like pepper, a little bit gives a dish some heat, too much makes it inedible.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@ #toxic

[@robertliverant2322]

Our country could use a big dose of CIVILITY and MANNERS! If you have traveled the world you know that greeting others on the street is a cultural norm in many countries. Remember, LOVE THY NEIGHBOR?. You can't be a good neighbor if you cant be bothered to initiate a good day greeting. Just like you wouldn't ignore someone who is bleeding, (I hope) you shouldn't ignore anyone. Your greeting might have greater meaning than you could ever imagine. Women in America are terrible about initiating a simple, "good morning" or responding to it. Too high and mighty, to acknowledge another human. Society requires respect of each other, and we do this in part by wishing each other well. Say something to a stranger, wish them well, it raises the general culture and well being of the entire country........one "have a great day" at a time. Be the change, you wish to see.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I was following right with you until you had to go and say “women in America are terrible…” 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@michaelmorris7293]

So where are all of these women who are supposedly delivering these lines? Every time I go to the store it's a solitary experience.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Dude! YOU DO IT! 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@ronhall5395]

One Friday around 6 pm, I was doing the shopping. My wife was home pregnant and feeling like garbage. I had out 2.5 yr old with me. As I was checking out I noticed a lady about my age. She looked at the long lines and seemed to panic. She was dressed to seduce. Had a bottle of wine and a package of two steaks. I waved her over and let her go in front of me. She gladly went in front of me. As I was unloading my cart I felt someone grab my ass. I turned and it was the hottie. She kissed me on the cheek and thanked me before she rushed off. I don't think.I will ever forget that.

[@cardsfan5100]

@michaelmorris7293 It depends on what you look like.

[@lorettacaputo6997]

Don't go to the self check out lane. None of the lines work in that aisle.

[@rexgigout1472]

I have no idea why this popped-up in my feed, but, even though I am a married man, and not looking around, I thought that I would watch and listen, for the entertainment value. I then realized that a man had probably flirted with me, while I was looking for a specific cat food, for an elderly neighbor’s cat, a few days ago. (I sometimes shop for a mobility-impaired neighbor.) I then recalled that a seemingly random woman had been quite helpful with advice, in the cat food section of a different grocery store, several months ago. Of course, it could simply be that people in the “cat culture” are more likely to speak to fellow cat folks, but it could be that the cat food section is a particularly good place to intentionally meet others.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Hahhaha. Or maybe it was just me. I’m super friendly and talk to everyone everywhere!

[@cindyriehm7411]

I always told my grandma that grocery store was the best place!)) She actually agreed and had already done so !!😊

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🤎☺️

[@jackfenton2271]

I counted 6 attractive, single, (no ring) ladies at the store today. I ignored them all. Y'all just aren't worth it anymore.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Charming

[@mattrandall1808]

cope

[@crimestoppers1877]

I also see them and enjoy the view and cologne but only take a bite if they ask first. Me Too is the law in California. Our first dates are always somewhere where there is no camouflage or fake up: Beach, swimming, gym, sauna, horse riding, skiing or tennis courts. What you see is real and not fake.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@crimestoppers1877 ☀️

[@crimestoppers1877]

@@CoffeewithCarey My fave is my gym club sauna. Open 24/7. No chunkies or fatties dare to enter. The fake up will melt like cheese at these temperatures 150 deg F.

[@paulocasella3778]

In the pet aisle, "Let you in on a little secret, I don't own a cat, but this stuff tastes so good

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Sounds like something my dog treat eating mother might say. Lol

[@idunno6480]

🤣🤣🤣

[@adrianjames6736]

HUMOR ALWAYS WORKS!

[@alexanderlapp5048]

A farmers market is actually a place where I am comfortable talking to strangers. I used to sell nursery stock at a farmers market. It was actually a good place for meeting people.

[@ssiegreen5292]

Hi Alex!!!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

That’s fantastic! The grocery store isn’t too different just less open air and good vibes. But you can use your smile to increase the good vibes! 👍

[@alexanderlapp5048]

@@ssiegreen5292 , Hi @ssiegreen5292 👋

[@crimestoppers1877]

@@CoffeewithCarey Men are careful of smiling which is a sign of simping (placing her on a pedestal) behavior. Women want to ride a horse that she can not always control.

[@mikek749]

Went to farmers market sat in a open area. Women my age no ring. Caught her looking my way several times. After 20 minutes started walking over to talk only to haver her husband meet her first with a cup of coffee. Not good!

[@Dakota77d]

I do see a lot of men shopping now compared to 20 years ago. Good to know a few one liners- you made me laugh

[@CoffeewithCarey]

All in good fun too! Hopefully it inspires people to at least be friendly, when out there in the wild

[@paulackley2882]

Trouble is a lot women are married and don't wear a wedding band. Then they'll say " Sorry, I'm married sir!" I'm like what the hell?!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Well, if I’m JUST being friendly and they say that, I might say “well feel free to pass my friendliness along..” but you’re always have to be trying to figure that out, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with a natural mistake. It doesn’t have to be embarrassing. And nothing wrong with asking which pretty much broadcasts your interest.

[@Mrbfgray]

Sounds lk the "sorry I have a BF", often as not it's a polite wave off. (or not polite, lol) Doesn't matter why U got your answer.

[@crimestoppers1877]

Most married women area "available" just like they were single. Most women filing for divorce already have a few orbiters in their rotation. A man wearing a wedding ring shows responsibility and looks safer than one more single guy who is on the hunt.

[@norme2681]

It depends on what you are looking for, but I never notice a ring. I make eye contact give a friendly smile, if I get one back that opens the door. If you are finger checking you my miss her signal that she is opening the door. So what if she is married, you made a friendly contact.

[@KpxUrz5745]

This is EXACTLY what will happen. And even if not married, they will always say "I already have a boyfriend" --- even if they don't! This is one of the first things that all women learn to do.

[@ssiegreen5292]

Good sunny Saturday morning to all of you!!! For all of you that usually listen to videos while you do something else - this is one that actually needs watching too! And a pen and a piece of paper for good measure! If you're just listening - you're missing more than half of her suggestions - go have another look! And for gods (goddess') sake - like and share it and/or support it with some comments. This video deserves to be +++ should be well on it's way to being viral - it's loaded with super - and more important - absolutely usable advice! Carey - this one is right on par with the other one last week in quality content. The other one touched the heart, this one is chock-full of easy to translate and adjustable info! You rock!!!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thanks so much, S! This one was super fun to make. Although editing took me about eight hours! Haha 🤎

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@CoffeewithCarey I bet! I can see how much effort and also intent + goodwill went into the making of it! I just don't get why you're not getting any more traction? You're using good shorts. You're utilizing your community page very well with interesting polls + frequent messages. You should be growing by bounds and leaps. Maybe better keywords, tags, etc in the titles and experiment in the info box as well? I wish for your channel to become so successful, that get so flooded with replies and comments, that you can't keep up with them any longer and you not feeling guilty for it, LOL.

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@CoffeewithCarey PS - You could make an entire series of 3-4 pick-up line videos for various places - both humorous + seriously???

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@ssiegreen5292 the mystery of the algorithm! If we could crack that every KZbin video would be viral. ☺️

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@ssiegreen5292 Idk, That was fun but my favorite is actually just introducing yourself Hahah.

[@cbroz7492]

..I not my very first hot GF...an older woman..ten-years older in a grocery store..I was a Keebler sakes rep and she was a marketer..I struck up a conversation and within a few months we were going at it like rabbits..and stayed together for over ten years...

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🤎 and the way you describe it makes it sound so romantic. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@nickf2170]

Apparently you have never tried to talk to women in this manner. They are rude, hostile and indignant that you even said the slightest thing somehow in their direction. They, on the other hand, have no problem asking if you can reach something for them on that top shelf....and then snub you every time they pass you thru the store and in the check out line. Men, just go about your day like women are invisable, you will be much better off.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I talk to both men and women in this matter every single day! No one has ever been hostile or indignant. Occasionally, I will bump into somebody who’s rude and ignores me. Maybe it’s your delivery or what you’re saying? 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@nickf2170]

@@CoffeewithCarey Of course, what else should I expect...but for you to blame me. That's very original on your part, I must say. Men know exactly what I am talking about. Out right hostile and indignant women are a fact, that men face every day. God forbid if you ever held women accountable for their actions.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@ I wasn’t blaming you. Lol. I’m just saying you might not be good at it yet. I talk to everybody everywhere I go. It’s second nature to me. Unless you’ve been doing it every time you leave your house it might not go the same way for you. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Also, I have men talk to me all the time. Numerous times a week. I’ve never been rude.

[@nickf2170]

@@CoffeewithCarey Here is a story for you...I just got back from buying a birthday card for my son. The man in line ahead of me saw I had only a card, and he let me go ahead of him. I said thank you and checked out. Leaving the store a woman was speeding thru the parking lot and came inches from running me down....just so she could sit in line at the starbucks drive thru. I see this all the time when out. Women are out of control. You don't see it because you are not a man.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@ are you trying to convince me of your opinion that men are patient and kind and women are rash and rude? Lol. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Just because you have had experiences doesn’t mean they’re applicable to anybody else besides you. I’m out here connecting jibing and enjoying the hell out of everyone!!! I’m sorry that’s not your experience. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

[@walterfechter8080]

There's always someone else - at least with me. I've also run into gals with enough "baggage" to fill a cargo hold of a passenger jet. I'd rather spend my time and money helping others who have life a lot worse than me. Stay wise. Be careful with your heart. Ciao.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

The good news about hearts is that they don’t ever really break. They’re pretty resilient.

[@walterfechter8080]

@@CoffeewithCarey The trick is to never allow your heart to become hardened. Ciao -- W

[@walterfechter8080]

Take care, dear lady. With a bow from the waist. -- W -

[@Corsairforu]

Had to Grocery once when I was separated and doing some house cleaning and before I left house thought "I;m not going looking like I'm married (old work sort of clothes) so got in a decent button down short sleeve shirt and short pants and had no sooner got to first display of veggies some woman was giving me the eye, she had child with her, few isles later with slight passing friendly smiles, looks & lil flirting I asked if she was taken, she said yes but thank you! On a scale of 1-10 I'm a 5-6 and she was a decent 7.5 to 8. Maybe my attention she sort of needed also.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

My guess is that you changed your energy that day and other people were picking up on it. That’s a real thing I’ve experienced it numerous times in my life.

[@TerryB751]

Much better suggestions than what Gomer Pyle said in the old TV show when meeting someone "Gee, for a fat girl, you sure don't sweat much." 😁

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Is that where that line is from?? 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@TerryB751]

@@CoffeewithCarey I think so. After all, who is smoother than Gomer? 😁

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@TerryB751 who indeed?!

[@johnschaefer2238]

Hey Terry who’s smoother than Gomer? The other guy from Mayberry Goober. That beany he wore was dapper.

[@ulfhednar3328]

Your background music had me thinking the ice cream truck was on my street.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

How disappointing that there was no Creamsicle in your reality after that! 😉

[@sparkleshobbes]

Favourite grocery store line. “You shouldn’t be here in the frozen food department. You could melt all this stuff!!”

[@kirrasdad]

Steve Martin in my blue heaven

[@sparkleshobbes]

@@kirrasdad yep. And in his Italian accent it’s even better.

[@kimmorrison9169]

That line is so corny but I guess some gals might fall for it

[@BlackVibeBallsack]

You spanked after everytime, bunghole

[@Mrbfgray]

Uggg....start off simping, has that ever worked in the brief history of humanity?

[@michael7286]

As a Brit this is all to embarrassingly cringing to listen to, however whilst waiting at the supermarket checkout conveyor today to pay for groceries, a lady that was also stood behind me in the queue caught me glancing in her direction, she looked at me and thought I was checking her out 🤣😁. Hahaha ... do you get it - checking her out ... Sorry I'll get my coat 👋😊 🇬🇧

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You’re missing out Michael! You can cringe or you can connect with other humans. Doesn’t matter if it leads to a date… it feels really fantastic! 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@camaroacrossamerica7266]

Carey, I've been watching you for just a few months now after one of your videos came up. THIS video is so good. find out what works for you ponening is so wise. ima widower after 25 years with my best friend.may fave place to tease her was grocery store. She always laughed or smiled. I can't wait to give these a try. Quick story in my 20s, I'm 62 now I'd go dancing fri satnights.if I saw a group of lady's having a great time together I'd walk up to the table . ask the one I fancied. Is it your birthday? theyed say, yes, or no. if no I'd Say would you like to dance. typical they'd dance with me at least once. If they said Yes it was. I'd Say how about a birthday kiss? if they said yes I'd give Thema quick kiss. then ask them to Dance. No to a kiss I'd Say Dance? they'd say yes. it wasa great ice breaker!! and so unusual it worked really really well. obviously this wasn't done Ina creepy way just a fun approach. big smile and flirt. now when I'm ready I'm gonna try out the groc store. with yourtips and ideas.thank you.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🤎 I’m confident that you still “have it”! 😉

[@camaroacrossamerica7266]

​@CoffeewithCarey thank you. it's a whole different world at 62 than in my mid 20s. But nice, fun, kind lady's are still here. We all just look a little different and have some battle scars. thank you for your response too.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@camaroacrossamerica7266 The focus here when I originally started was a lot more on getting back out there after 50. So maybe check out some of my older episodes too. And if you get stuck, you can always follow the link down below to my website and schedule a coaching session. ;-)

[@Jimeoin351]

Like I often say, 'Nothing ventured, nothing gained'. Have a bit of fun in life.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I hope, like me, you are having way way more than “a bit of fun”!! 🤎👍

[@johnshafer7214]

Hi Carrie, good to see another video.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Were you not expecting one? Five years, every single Wednesday and Friday. Lol Also, it’s Carey.

[@johnshafer7214]

@@CoffeewithCarey I've been really busy this summer but was glad to have some down time to watch some videos.

[@9999deoxys]

Carey, you are correct,....do not invite someone to your home for the first date since it is too early to trust them. Do not try to show off your house as you will only attract gold-diggers. First date should be out in public, a walk, coffee, something inexpensive where you can talk and get to know the person. Movies or dinner are not really my choices for a first date (too much of a money commitment and not necessarily conducive to talking). Rejection is perfectly fine, the bigger worry is picking a bad person.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Movies and dinner are not good. First date choices. Agreed. Nor is coffee unless you align it with that walk, you were talking about. I wouldn’t worry about anything. Not rejection not choosing incorrectly. Worrying is not something I choose to do with my energy.

[@9999deoxys]

@@CoffeewithCarey You make a good point about not worrying. I appreciate the support. Good responsiveness.

[@gordonelwell7084]

Some really great advice here . . .

[@CoffeewithCarey]

😊

[@midlifegoddess]

Sometimes I make the first fat in the grocery store…and I think men could suggest this too. It I kills two (or more) birds with one stone. You can get your groceries, see what they eat, how they act in public, are they organized? And maybe even train them a little in case it works out 😂 now I need to do a whole video on this one. ✅ love your ideas and verve

[@CoffeewithCarey]

☕️☕️👍

[@f.k.6151]

You are a very pleasant mentor.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Why thank you 🤎

[@Noodur1]

This is helpful. Can you please do a follow up or how to move the conversation beyond the initial conversation? How long before I introduce myself or ask if she’s single? Im in my mid 30s and divorced last year from my high school sweetheart. Never learned how to meet women. Thanks!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Looks like you didn’t watch the whole episode. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Noodur1]

Watched it while I was cleaning the kitchen, but I will rewatch it now. Thanks again.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@Noodur1 probably for the best because there’s lots of reading in this one. 80% of the pick up lines are not spoken, they are written on the screen. 👍

[@shawngilliland243]

@@Noodur1 I was multi-tasking the first time I watched, so I was really just listening, and missed 80% of the good stuff. As Buddhists say, "when you do (x), simply (x)".

[@tankmeister8131]

You can see who you are dealing with, do they have children, tattoos, makeup and their attitude, saves a lot of time.i seem to run out of money for a date with hungry kids so it doesn’t go any further or I never see them again.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yeah, that can be challenging after a divorce I know. 😌

[@stovepipehahaha272]

some towns people are approachable and happy and other places people hate and refuse to even make eye contact with each other . My town east of KC better not dare try talking to a strange woman . Your gunna get .. I dont know you ! 90 miles east of here every woman in the store will greet you . Huge difference in peoples attitudes from town to town .

[@CoffeewithCarey]

It’s not that I don’t believe you, but I also believe I could approach and speak to anyone! Lol.

[@squarewheel142]

Load your shopping cart with Filet Mignon and other expensive luxury foods / wines before you say anything, it might give you a "leg up" on things.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Or just be yourself. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@stoundingresults]

I'm a man on a mission going to the store. With a list based on the rows. And I got to get home before the cold groceries get warm especially my beer. Ladies please be forward and direct.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Oh, surely, you can take a quick pause in aisle 4 to be friendly. 😉 Like me you are not doing a good job hiding your type a personality. Lol.

[@stoundingresults]

​@CoffeewithCar ey beer priortized, makes me less shy 😘

[@bethsewer5463]

Well i needed this right now . I've got a crush on a clerk at a grocery store . I really want to approach him , but don't know how at all

[@CoffeewithCarey]

👍

[@paulsz6194]

I think she’s asking for some advice…

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@paulsz6194 I made her an entire video. 👍

[@richardpauly1635]

Just give him your number on paper .checkers can't get tips

[@truthboomertruthbomber5125]

Beth, I’m in the same boat with a clerk at my grocery store. I really turn on the charm and she is super attentive. Her name is one I had never heard before so I asked her how to pronounce it, etc. Then “where are you from?” Turns out it is one of the central Asian countries north of Afghanistan. Hence almost certainly of the Islamic faith. No chance of a relationship.

[@ronaldyeater3322]

Its funny saw title lol, i met both my late wives in grocery stores lol. And my girlfriend now in parking lot of grocery store, late eives were both at the butcher counter, i helped puck meat out, and ended up talking.. my girlfriend now actually found me in parking lot, i was going to go in but had an urge, i selfsuck, and she saw, stayed until i was done, she was amazed, ended up going for lunch, and that was 6 years ago, everyone seems amazed at tallent? But normal for me, figured it out as kid. I love it, not hurting anyone, i do all the time, even now, in college id pick up women in bars, betting and sharing tallent, but long term relationships were grocer stores lol Tyvm

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Love it!

[@ronaldyeater3322]

@@CoffeewithCarey Lisa can't believe posted it on KZbin lol,tyvm

[@robertantonides]

I saw a beautiful redhead looking at hair colouring products and I walked up to her and said , “Don’t you dare change the colour of your hair , it’s beautiful “ as was her smile

[@CoffeewithCarey]

She was probably just repurchasing a product she had been using for ages. Also, you crossed a boundary by telling her what she should do with her own body. Maybe next time instead of demanding she do what you want with her hair you tell her, instead that you think the color of her hair is really attractive.

[@robertprice7859]

@@CoffeewithCarey Ho Lee sheet! Your type are the reason men are not approaching women anymore! He gave her a frigging compliment and you turn it into a misogyny lecture! Gent's the cat food isle is full of single women.

[@littlelamb6804]

​@CoffeewithCarey It definitely did cross a line, but how he said it could've made a difference. I thought it was a cute comment that was complimentary. 😊

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Where do you think the red came from, Billy Joel. 😆 She's probably brunette.

[@cwally1994]

I stead of saying "don't you dare change that color" say instead "whatever color you are using looks beautiful on you".

[@pemj7360]

So I consider myself an outgoing, friendly guy . Plus, have the added advantage of being a handyman. So talking to total strangers every day comes easy. So a trick I learnt with women in shops if you want to know if they are single and you can get chatting with them. Asking indirect questions or make polite but indirect comments will normally get you answers that you want . Meaning finding out if they are with someone or not . Don't be a creep just polite banter. It's worked for me so many times

[@CoffeewithCarey]

This is what I’m talking about! Exactly

[@dk314-countryboy]

I appreciate the video. I typically good at creating conversation in the wild. I get nervous if I talk too long, it sends out creepy vibes. After this video I am thinking after a quick joke/organic Oreo fact (lol), I can maybe slide a compliment follow by asking for a coffee date or phone number? Not sure which would be the best approach.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Experiment!

[@ssiegreen5292]

You know, that's a fair and valid question. I'd like for you to know - just in case no woman has ever told you that - that for some of us, our phone# are kind of sacred, LOL. You'd be easier able to talk me into a cup of coffee in a public place nearby, that doesn't require for me to travel across town - than for me to give up my phone# to a total stranger. Especially if I'm not prepared for that or you surprised me out of the blue. That's probably different for younger women, or for women who you know are actively dating or given you the impression that they are up for a number exchange, but for a "cold call" that could be a no for you, without it being personal, even if she might be interested and open for a coffee or a longer chat. Also keep in mind - especially around this time of the year [summer] - she may turn you down, because of the groceries in the car. I live in GA and our temps are 95-100* +++ every day during late May through well into September - it's impossible to leave groceries in the car for any length without ruining or melting something, to go hang out for a chat. If she says no, ask clarifying questions - and be direct in what your purpose is. "If now is not a good time for you, would you be interested in having that coffee or ice cream cone later in the afternoon, or tomorrow after work?" That also leads into a smooth transition to asking for her number so you can confirm the meeting at a later time, without it being clutzy or out of the blue. And it gives her a chance to tell you if she's married or otherwise not available, without her NO becoming a painful rejection, that keeps you wondering why she turned your offer down. And lastly - sometimes you're surprising women by asking - especially in scenarios where they were not expecting this. So many will say automatically no, simply because their reflex is to close up, rather than being open to play or consider. Sometimes you got to simply smile at her some more another time or two, and then try again. You will know if she wants you to or not, by observing her behavior. Eye contact, smiling and maybe getting into your way a time or two in the aisles, could mean she would welcome you trying again...

[@moreme40]

I caught a woman looking at me over my shoulder at the magazine rack yesterday. She said she was looking at the tattoo on my arm. It’s the last line of “Brilliant Disguise” by Springsteen. It’s my all time favorite quote

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Funny. Some man in line yesterday asked me yesterday if it hurt getting a tattoo on my wrist. 👍 Ps. Not one bit.

[@BlackAbe007]

I’m a Charismatic, Tall Dark And Handsome Man. And I just keep it Moving…🏴‍☠️

[@CoffeewithCarey]

YDYD

[@williamsporing1500]

Smart man! I’m 6’2”, musician. Only time they even look at me is when I’m on stage. I avoid them like the plague. They’re nothing but drama.

[@Chris-uo5it]

You're a pretty lady, this is the first time I watched any of your content. It was very interesting

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thank you and welcome. I hope you subscribed. I have a really fun episode coming next week that I think you’ll like. 🤎👍

[@howardschultzberg4263]

Thank you, Carey....If you see someone in the potato chip aisle wearing a cap or T-shirt with your team or favorite music star, there's a perfect ice-breaker right from the jump. I do it all the time at Whole Foods, and I have safely scored on several occasions. Hey, I'm just saying....😁😁😁

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I think I’m confused. Why the potato chip aisle?

[@JohnGeorge-z2d]

Watched the video, went to the grocery store the same day and met the most wonderful women, got her number and we have been dating ever since. Worked the first time. Thank you.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yep! It’s just about being friendly and getting a phone number. If they think you seem interesting and they are open to meeting people it’s pretty simple stuff, right? Some people like to over complicate things.🤷🏻‍♀️

[@nukelaloosh4795]

👌

[@lonewhitewolf7772]

A tip for woman wanting to know if a guy is single at the grocery store . As a single man I usually use a hand basket or at lest 95% of the time .

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I don’t know the exact percentage but I would think this would be over 50% accurate! ;-) Thanks for sharing.

[@jeffw1267]

I'm 57 and women chat me up at the supermarket all the time. I'm not attracted to women my age, but I'm polite to them. However, I don't stop to chat. Men really start to die off around 55, due to heart issues and strokes, and men generally prefer younger women, so the pickings for women get slim pretty quick. That's my theory as to why female attention toward me has increased dramatically. Women even outright tell me I'm handsome now. It was much different ten or even five years ago.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Men are dying off at 55? No, that’s not anything I can back with science. And not all men prefer younger women so I don’t agree with your theory but I will say that some men get more attractive with maturity in their 50s which is perhaps why you’re enjoying compliments.

[@KpxUrz5745]

I have never seen this happen to anyone, and as a man it certainly has NEVER happened to me! When I hear stories like this, I really have a hard time believing them. You say "all the time"?????? For almost all of us men, it is more like "never".

[@CoffeewithCarey]

unless people are talking about eating sleeping or pooping I never believe anything is happening all the time. My sweeping generalization/ exaggeration flags get thrown and I’m leery. He also said men are dying off at 55, and that it is slim picking for women. So how am I supposed to take the rest of what he says at face value? But I do know that a smile on your face and a friendly lighthearted attitude will take you far in attracting people to you and if you’re willing to say hello, or start a friendly conversation, you might be surprised…

[@alfonsoamador958]

I always talked to strangers (women) and still do..they will respond if you are relaxed....

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Cheers! ☕️☕️

[@azmike3572]

I do all the time. And everyone I talk to says they're sorry, but they're already in a relationship or married but not always wearing a ring.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Maybe you need to start grocery shopping in another neighborhood where it’s not all married people

[@azmike3572]

@@CoffeewithCarey Thanks, but also know that I'm 75, so the age range of women I can go up to is more shallow; maybe 65+. There is also the possibility that some I meet that say they're already in a relationship are really letting me down easy because they prefer a guy taller than my 5'5" height.

[@AnthonyManzio]

Never cold approach huge mistake

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@AnthonyManzio for you. not for me!

[@littlelamb6804]

If at first you don't succeed, TRY, try again! 😊

[@MathumaTao]

Good suggestion that are a lot of pickup lines you can use with eggs, but stay away from asking if she likes hers fertilized

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Indeed

[@joehallimen8368]

Nice video Carey , this old dog will use the organic Oreo line for sure !

[@CoffeewithCarey]

👍

[@paulsz6194]

I’d say I wouldn’t know. I like hotdogs from Costco,LoL… 🌭

[@dklang]

Problem with the grocery store is that they're shopping and want to get their stuff and get home. But I have a few intro lines I use there, like - too many choices! they keep moving things around! - which is true where I shop. Do you come here often, is tired, but it may make her smile, or get a cold look, could break the ice. Rarely I may get the chance to ask her if she wants to get a coffee, but often it doesn't happen.

[@dklang]

Playful, flirty lines like, Are cheetos really good for you? Ever heard of the snickers bar diet? Can get a smile or a laugh and start things off. Cat/dog food section does have some possibilities.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I feel like you didn’t watch the whole episode and see all the lines that were flashed across the screen.

[@dklang]

@@CoffeewithCarey Was only part way thru the vid when I replied, still all good, 100s of lines out there. Did you read my whole response

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@dklang I feel like my reply went to the wrong comment here. I apologize for the confusion. 🤎

[@dklang]

@@CoffeewithCarey S'all good

[@ViceCoin]

Nice tofu!(Asian slang)

[@CoffeewithCarey]

That’s new to me. Lol best used at my Asian grocery store? ;)

[@ViceCoin]

@@CoffeewithCarey It's graphic. Refers to genitals....

[@martybgood62]

I'm going to go through this again with a pen and paper!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thank you. And make sure you’re watching because 90% of the lines are just flashed on the screen and not spoken!

[@markleaman8313]

Where I live chicks wont even look at you, let look at you, let alone talk to you!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Sounds like you might be doing it wrong. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@badgerden7080]

That is not the reason why. How could a woman of your maturity not understand this? Women don't see the average man. They only see the top 2-5% of men.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@badgerden7080 EVERYBODY notices attractive people. It have nothing to do with gender. Nobody’s naïve enough to think that isn’t true.

[@davidholden4543]

California?

[@divin777]

One good line that comes automatically is when I see a cart almost empty or has more bottled water or something non alcoholic or whatever, “ looks like you gonna have a wild party tonite!”. The intention is to generate good vibes and that’s all! If there is a fun replay I continue, on the same generous intentions, bringing light fun for the sake of a short fun conversation. I might also come to talk about the potatoes in my basket or whatever it is there. At the end I say hi and thank them for a nice and kind conversation. It lightens my mood and fear of conversation so it helps me in general. Hopefully the other side too.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yes! I love this. Except your wild party line could definitely go over somebody’s head if they are not paying attention, or a little distracted. You’re not always expecting somebody to be facetious in the grocery store. 👍

[@divin777]

@@CoffeewithCarey the reason I even open my mouth is for my own fun.. if they join in is better and if not the same. And I know sometimes they might not hear me and it’s so ok. I’ve sparked many fun conversations like this and as a result one of the cute cashiers started hitting on me too. I also talk to the cashiers, in special when late in the evening. I am thankful for them being there at that hour, and I ask them about the time they came and how long they have, if their feet hurt and so on. Or I pretend to pay with a banknote like you swipe a card. It gets funny

[@brucesmith9144]

A grocery store and even a laundromat are better than online or at a bar for meeting people. The first two locations are better for seeing people in their quiescent state and get visual clues what things they like. Online and a bar are filled with people trying to be something they aren’t; too many filters.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I see your point, but I still love that evening vibe where there’s romance in the air. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@williamdyer3999]

I asked a woman about how to find the best papaya and really thought about melons the whole time . I froze when she gave me so much help and conversation. Cuz all I could think about was melons !

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Lol. Awww. That’s the perfect example of why we do this all the time. The more you do it the more comfortable you become and you don’t freeze up by getting in your own head. once you’re comfortable you can just have a regular conversation. 🤎

[@williamdyer3999]

Ok thanks so much! Truthfully I was really distracted by her physical appearance and beauty. Yes she was beautiful and friendly. I can normally carry on conversation with anyone. She was not anyone . I was like a deer in the headlights and sorry for the euphemism but I was distracted by her headlights. Hence the melons as well. But I’m listening to what your saying and learning from your experience and wisdom! Thanks a bunch again You’re the best

[@FreckledFran]

One of the major grocery store chains in Ohio, has a Starbucks inside near the checkout area. That would be perfect for a safe, no pressure first chat.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yes!!

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@CoffeewithCarey Gotcha!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@ssiegreen5292 ohhhh. I thought she meant she could approach for a chat at the Starbucks. Not sit there!! haha

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@CoffeewithCarey I know you did - but I couldn't help myself!!! LOL

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@ssiegreen5292 Lol

[@timothym.johnson3485]

Two things. 1. Hi, I'm... 2. Don't leave your purse in the cart and walk away to get something. They aren't lines, but they work and are affective. 😊

[@CoffeewithCarey]

That’s all that matters. Glad you found what works for you!

[@timothym.johnson3485]

@@CoffeewithCarey thank you.

[@chrispetrillo9042]

I'll walk up to a beautiful woman and say excuse me miss I don't know if you ever meet any cute guys when you go shopping but I'm half off this week. You won't need a coupon to take advantage of me.😮 Most women laugh.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I would laugh!

[@crinwp]

So, my problem is a bit different. I'm a big muscular guy, or so I'm told. I'm a natural Alpha; I have no problem talking with new people and do so all the time. I have sisters, and I had a good relationship with my Mom (and Dad) so I tend to be respectful of women, and people in general. I was military for 20-years but I'm not dyed-in-the-wool. I don't do bars, clubs, and I don't cat-call. Hell, I don't drink, smoke, or do the or vices. The problem I have is it seems like I scare people. I don't stare or glare but it seems like even my casual eye contact causes panic in 90% of the women I meet, even if I'm smiling. I don't have any visible tatts or weird hair. I'm a Henley shirt and chinos kind of style. I'm about ready to make up some T-shirts or something that say, "I'm not as scary as I look", or something. It seems like the only women who are attracted to me are almost always married! 🤣🤣🤣

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Is it an authentic smile?

[@abj99861]

Cat food isle say “now all I have to do is figure the one they’ll eat today” works a very high percentage of the time. Cat lovers always enjoy talking and showing pics of their cat. Even better than the cucumber section in produce

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Hahahah. Love it!

[@abj99861]

It works !

[@Jcy9521]

Let’s be real here - the vast majority of men today are not going to approach a woman they don’t know, in the grocery store (or anywhere else for that matter), to ask here out on a date. Sorry ladies, but that custom went the way of the rotary phone.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Somebody choosing negativity and a contrary opinion while he didn’t even watch the whole episode. 🙄

[@RobertIngram-ui3ri]

I do it all the time and have met and dated some really nice women just by starting the conversation .

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@RobertIngram-ui3ri FANTASTIC! it’s so simple and just connecting with another human- despite how it turns out - is so uplifting! 🤎

[@rickypitman1035]

Sounds like she's probably "kooler broke"

[@MaveRick-prepper]

With items in the grocery store you could ask if she has a favorite recipe for this product. That can move to asking if she shows you how to make her favorite recipe that you will bring the wine and strawberries.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yeah, I think it’s great to ask people how they prepare the things that they’re buying. Great way to start a conversation.

[@t200b-i7k]

🛒Very entertaining! 😂

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🛒😆😆😆

[@artied1807]

I am 6'3" and I get asked alot to pull something off the top shelf for ladies who can't reach that high up. They are always grateful and occasionally I will sense when a lady would like to start up a conversation but unfortunately I was born with a dry sense of humor and I always reply with something goofy like "well maybe in your next life you will be born tall! 😂😅 And then head home wondering what might have been if I could just get a little more serious about meeting someone.

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

how about if you just offered to lift them up to it instead? must be said in a joking manner.

[@artied1807]

Never thought about that one. I'll have to give it a try!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Off the top of my head… “For the price of one home-cooked lasagna meal, I could even clean off the tops of all your cabinets! Would you like my number just in case?”

[@artied1807]

@@CoffeewithCarey Are you talking about you cleaning my top shelves or me cleaning yours? The last time I reached onto one of my top shelves, something bit me! Hey but nothing better than home cooked lasagna with fresh garlic bread except you wouldn't want to try mine. A friend once called it A Touch of the Amazon Rain Forest Lasagna! But seriously (sortof) what state do you reside?

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@artied1807 I was giving you a pick up line for the grocery store if someone asks you to reach something up high for them. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@rey8102]

Hugh I'm not the one who needs advice on how to loosen up here. And, thanks for sharing .

[@CoffeewithCarey]

😊

[@realdealio1]

Looking for single men at Home Depot too is a thing, apparently.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

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[@markplautz6842]

The best line I ever heard/saw for a grocery store was in a movie with Steve Martin called My Blue Heaven. He sees a woman that he wants to approach (played by Carol Kane). She’s standing in front of a glass door in the frozen food section. As she opens the door he comes up behind her and says… (paraphrasing here) You know it’s dangerous for you to be here in this section. She turns to him and asks why. He leans in close and says, Because you could MELT all this stuff! Believe me when I tell you that it’s MUCH better in the movie than I can explain here. If you haven’t seen it, look for it. I’m sure it’s on a streaming service somewhere.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yeah it’s a cute one for sure. But overdone. It was all over the internet when o was searching. 😉

[@michaelgarrow3239]

Um,,, nice buns… What? Ok! I’ll let myself out…

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Please do. Lol