“college is the best 4 years of your life.” dude, no. here’s what I wish I’d known.

[@totallynotsonali]

If there’s anything I’ve learned in college it’s that I DONT KNOW MYSELF 💀 and that the previous 13 years of my schooling were all sCAMS. College teaches you so much more about yourself and the world than you were exposed to before and it’s all so sudden that it can be overwhelming 😭💔 but navigating all of that will help you grow so much 😋

[@KaitiYoo]

I agree. It's an incredibly cathartic, overwhelming, jarring but REWARDING experience getting to know yourself.

[@totallynotsonali]

@@KaitiYoo fr 😩 not to mention the confidence you will develop in yourself and your decision making skills is PHENOMENAL! it’s a learning curve for sure, but you get so much out of it 🥲

[@khalilahd.]

Ugh I couldn’t agree more! You think you’re going to have it all figured out before college and then you have this crazy wake up call in college 😭

[@carliepierre1543]

I agree with u. I've learn so much about myself and the structure of the real world in the past 3yrs than the last 12years of elementary/high school.

[@shanelclark2949]

@@khalilahd. YES, whew if only hs senior me knew

[@wayNAY87]

This could be a series. College is very glamorized. In reality, it’s one season of life that may be okay, amazing, or difficult. Any college students whose expectations weren’t met, just know that you have the rest of your life to live. Better days are ahead. - a thirty something year old.

[@isaac-yo9dh]

thank you :)

[@demymasor3310]

thank uuuu🥰🥺

[@peachbooks3199]

thank you

[@whatsnew955]

Thank you. Definitely need to hear this as college is that one season of life that turns out to be very very difficult for me. These words are needed🥺

[@mitzara25]

thank youu💚💚

[@CamilaGLucar]

As someone in their last semester of uni, totally agree with everything! But i also would add that you don't have to take everything so serious, you are still young, go to that party, go watch that movie, do what you want. No, that doesn't mean that you should ditch work or studying, but make time for you social life and self care, push yourself to have that special time. That's something i would have liked to hear wheen i finished school, uni or college it's not worth your wellbeing.

[@KaitiYoo]

Agreed! My biggest regret is spending so much time on schoolwork in the earlier half of college (pre-pandemic) instead of making memories. The work will get done and we'll forget about it, but the memories are what truly last.

[@CamilaGLucar]

@@KaitiYoo Totallyyy

[@adelepenguin13]

Yes!!! Totally second this. Have fun! You will only be living with your friends during your college years

[@ceegee5287]

@@KaitiYoo it’s okay my strict Indian parents made me miss out on the party scene by not letting me stay out late or sleepover. After being moved out in my mid 20s and seeing friends who outgrew that phase, I hope to recreate that experience somehow

[@BigPotatoStuffedWithPotatoes]

College was so stressful, I was poor, depressed and hated my life. I literally counted down the days till I was finally done.

[@katievallejo737]

Let me tell you: the whole "these four years..." expectation assumes straightaway that you'll only be in college for four years because you'll know what you want to do right away, as Kaiti mentioned. But in my experience, as a person in my late 20s who's still attending university because I switched career paths two or three times, you should not be afraid to not only take a different path than others, but also to take longer than them to find yours. If you spend too much energy worrying about a timeline, you'll spend your entire life worrying about being "too slow" or "taking too long." College shouldn't be a checkpoint on your To-Do list. It should be a venue for self-exploration and self-discovery, no matter how long it takes, or how late you start. I'm glad I didn't let a timeline of needing to graduate by 22 stop me from finding my own way in life. Otherwise, I'd be stuck in the first career path I thought of, and utterly miserable five years from now simply because I didn't think I had enough time to slow down and think things through. Give yourself the chance to figure it out. The world will keep spinning no matter when you finish university - you may as well leave it feeling more fulfilled, even if it takes you two - or five - years extra.

[@cinnamonrollkittykat_0.0]

same here I totally relate and agree

[@jerrseyy1088]

Beautifully said 🌸 Thankyou!

[@vanillex5882]

As someone who also did some college-degree-switcharoos (med school to political science), I'm curious about what you ended up switching between haha

[@raiha1425]

I took a year off college after my sophomore year and it was such a great decision! I wasn't happy where I was and I needed time to re-evaluate. Now I'm traveling around the world for several months and living out my dreams :) I'm planning to go back but taking a different path helped me to build a life that really fulfills me.

[@lisatarsavage6944]

This is really great advice - but only if you can afford it. Up until my family started doing better financially, I was panicked trying to finish my degree in 4 years bc my financial aid runs out after that.

[@ppjskh]

As someone whose been in college for five years, I hope others know that there’s no timeline on how long you take to finish college. I’m currently a senior but I decided last semester to double major, so I’ll probably be in college for another year AND THAT’S OKAY!!! You do you. 😌💅✨

[@mickmellan130]

YASSS girl preach 👏🏻

[@bilastravlog]

YES!! I'm in a degree of 4 years but here I am as a 5th year who's planning to graduate after 6 years. It's scary at first because you think ppl see you as a failure (not graduating "on time") but look around and listen to yourself is the most important thing! Graduating with better grades and work experience works out very well for me since I can also have a life outside of uni.

[@angelayellowlife]

Exactly! I'm double major and honestly DON'T RUSH IT, studying Is beautiful and it allows you to do other stuff not just work

[@justmedidi]

so true! i lost direction when i first started uni and ended up nearly dropping out after my third year. decided to come back and major in something that i was passionate about and now i have an extra 3 years to go. it'll take me much longer but i'm more satisfied now than before when i was trying to force myself through :)

[@habituscraeftig]

I came in as a junior, and I still stayed three and a half years. I got two minors and hit a really high level in the main language I cared about, at the time. Absolutely no regrets.

[@Nihal-wx3th]

Please make a part two on friendship and dating in college

[@athenadia4743]

please!! that would be amazinggg

[@adeleyedivine-grace]

Really amaaazinnnggg!! I love you Kaiti😚❤

[@catchingfeelings2691]

Yessssss, pls talk about friendship during and after college. How we lose connection with ppl we used to hangout with. I couldn’t wrap my head around the fact that’s realized years later how toxic our relationship was with both my childhood and uni friends. It was totally heartbreaking .

[@carmen-xr1sx]

+++

[@gnomiehomie5368]

My last two years of college was the most miserable time in my life. I just didn’t know enough about myself or life in general to know how to take care of my mental wellbeing, and I took school way too seriously. The four years of my first job out of college were awesome and I enjoyed that time a lot more!

[@melai8688]

If you’re willing to share- I’m curious, how did highschool go for you?

[@gnomiehomie5368]

​@@melai8688 I was a pretty average student in high school. I didn't really enjoy any classes, so it made no sense for me to go to college tbh. It was just drilled into my head since I was a child that going to college is the only reliable path to success. Which is so, so untrue.

[@bassafratz]

what did you study in college?

[@aj_zafra]

oh my goshhh, as a highschooler constantly thinking about college, thank you for this, from the bottom of my heart!! definitely will keep these tips in mind. 💗✨

[@KaitiYoo]

YOU'RE GONNA DO GREAT!!!

[@aj_zafra]

@@KaitiYoo awe, thank you so much!! 💗💗

[@kathydelarosa1286]

It’s funny because I remember being in your shoes and thinking that college was the most important thing in my life. I’m graduating and I can tell you it really means nothing and we glamorize this too much. Do what you want, whenever you want. If you don’t get into your dream school, guess what, it doesn’t matter. By the time you reach your 30s you’ll forget your college experience anyways . Just keep that in mind

[@aj_zafra]

@@kathydelarosa1286 thanks for the nugget of advice 😊 congrats on graduating soon!! 💗

[@glo3475]

kaiti yoo you literal piece of stunning spinach how dare you bless me with this huh

[@KaitiYoo]

LMAOOOO i will hereby only answer to the name of "stunning spinach"

[@mayas3422]

as someone who had one of those large obnoxious friend groups, they all dissolve by the end of freshman year. im still friends with a good number of them, but the large friend groups you see in media just aren't sustainable. that being said: if you find yourself in one of those groups, have fun!! but take care of yourself, and don't let it take over your life.

[@vanillaisthriving]

College for me was just work. No connection, no parties, just work work work and no time for my hobbies. My job is when I made all my friends and finally found time to dedicate myself to my hobbies. Plus I'm getting paid for it and not PAYING A SCANDALOUS AMOUNT for.

[@afreshloafofbread629]

As someone feeling pretty lonely in college rn, this made me feel a little better. I keep hearing about how much harder it is to make & keep friends as an adult. Thanks for the reminder that it's definitely possible

[@wayhuncho6599]

Job is less time for you? Thats f in great

[@vanillaisthriving]

@@wayhuncho6599 I find 9-5 easier to live because uni was literally 7 days a week, sometimes more than 10 hours a day studying. At least when my shift is over, I don't have to think about it anymore and can enjoy my rest. Then again it depends on each job so I can't generalise

[@AnnanasOcean]

@@vanillaisthriving what is your job?

[@BanachBeans]

My top piece of advice is that no decision you make is something you have to be stuck with for the rest of your life so don't stress yourself out too much. Graduating high school you picked degree A but you aren't enjoying it? Then transfer into degree B. You took a job at A but realised it's not for you? Then apply for different jobs and quit. I don't know anyone over the age of 40 who has been in the same job or career for their entire life so stop letting others convince you that these decisions your making now will decide what you do for the rest of your life because that's a complete lie.

[@rindellegioucrosszeria9017]

Actually, most Japanese get stuck in the same job for decades and decades. Some of them even start young if they are inheriting an art or trade from their family. That's why most Japanese are sad.

[@primmeprim7587]

As a freshman, currently in the 2nd semester. I cannot find any close friends yet and I wonder how others find their group of friends so quickly. It bothered me a lot at first because it is tough for me as I am studying abroad and do not have any family or relative in the country. But I kind of get used to it right now and I will not force for any friendship because I think friendship for me needs time to grow gradually. It is normal for human wants to have the sense of belonging somewhere, but remember, whoever you are with, make sure to be your true self and that all matters. I never force myself to be someone else to fit in and even not having any close friends right now, I am the happiest person I can be at the moment because I am being myself. Also, I enjoy my own company and I do not get to care about other frienship drama stuffs. I hope I could find a great friendship too, as for the sake to grow, push, and learn from each other, but if not that is fine too, it does not bother me much now Attending university really helps me find out who I want to be, as of now, classes are so stressful and I know that I do not want to have that much pressure and stress in life, I just want be happy🤣🤣. Also, I want to study on the specialized courses that in the field I am interested now and I feel that I learn better by self-pace and by online courses. Still, I did not know it could be this stressful but I never regret because university teach me so much about people and life.

[@rachaels742]

oh my god this is exactly how i feel! i am also in my first year rn and i only have a few (not very close) friends. i’ve been so sad about it bc i haven’t been able to replicate my friend group and relationships from back home. but i’m sure we’ll get there eventually when the time is right for us :)

[@yuwenchng511]

I felt the same way as well a year ago where I would put some much effort into making friends but constantly not getting any reciprocation. Thinking back on it now, I was putting so much pressure on myself to be that person who has tons of friends. I’ve learnt to let that pressure go and be open minded to getting to know people. Since then, I’ve somehow formed a little friendship group with ppl in my course. Just know that there are people out there for you and it just takes time for them to reach you :))

[@shireenqasimm]

dont worry! just participate in stuff happening around you. im currently a sophomore, in my 4th semester amd i found my people at the end of 3rd semester! you'll find your friends dont worry!

[@ashemiller5588]

I'm a 2nd year in my second semester and I was right where you were. My only friend was my roommate and I barely did anything that wasn't studying. Now, I have a two new life-long friends and a close little friend group who I hang out with every weekend. You don't have to force yourself to make friends; just be yourself and be open minded. You'll find your niche.

[@tuana9927]

im gonna be going to college this year abroad without anyone with me so Im really scared. do you have any tips on that to idk studying, being all by yourself, finding new people etc

[@KaitiYoo]

KZbin IS GLITCHING AND I AM SAD BUT TOO BAD I WILL STILL PREVAIL >:D

[@Antoinettet]

Ahh that’s why! I was so confused why the video was on private hehe thank you for the video Katie yoo! :)

[@leenakhanye]

girl if i end up any way after my uni experience i want it to be as accepting of my experiences and feelings that you are

[@KaitiYoo]

MANIFESTING THAT FOR YOU

[@LaLaLand926]

I’ve always said if you’re rich and come to college with job connections from your family, college will be fun. Everybody else leaves college with a mental illness and trauma

[@aranzaaranda]

I’ll also add on, do not force friendships! Your first year will be difficult to click with people and do not blame yourself for it

[@charliesspace7119]

I made ZERO friends at college. Not 1, not 2, ZERO. I also didn’t know what I wanted to do so I ended up just choosing a major quickly because I completed all the prerequisites. I hated college

[@honk42069]

I've also made no friends so far and I'm almost done :( I feel insecure about it because all of my friends have expanded their friend group and are constantly meeting new people in their uni. I even started a year earlier than my friends. I just keep telling myself it's because of the pandemic but deep down I fear that I'm just unlikeable af

[@VioletA400]

Same. I’m graduating soon and have made no friends. I tell myself that it’s because I was a transfer student and then the whole pandemic thing happened but honestly I’ve always had a hard time making friends. I also chose my my first major and school way too quickly, which was why I transferred and changed majors. Some family members still ridicule me for that but I didn’t know any better at the time as I had no one to guide me through the application process. Even when I transferred, I just chose another random major before changing it again and finally settling on one. But I have really enjoyed my classes once I found a major I liked so that’s good.

[@linmax300]

Along the lines of friend groups, I always had a fairly “small” friend group through elementary school to hs (probably around 5-8 people depending on who’s joining us.) I always thought that was a perfect size by it allowed me to get to know everyone on a meaningful level, but also still talk to several people. Now that I’m in my last few years of hs, my friend group has grown quite surprisingly and unexpectedly to around 8-10 people. While I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing, I’d still say I’m closest to the same 5-ish people bc I’ve known them the longest and I feel comfortable around them :) I’d definitely choose quality friends over quantity any day

[@sebyali1981]

I'm in the second semester of my freshman year and so far it's been so overwhelming and stressful, especially with the multiple transitions from offline to online and the reverse. I've also made no real friends, just acquaintances, and from the way everyone describes their college experience I thought we would be holding hands and singing kumbaya from day one. This video made me feel so seen tbh. Glad to know nothing is wrong with me.

[@zinni0335]

I'm a freshman in university, and can I say Tips 1 and 5 really resonated with me. Friendship in college is so so different, and it can be easy to feel weird or isolated when you're not apart of these big friend groups you see all around campus, in the library, etc I've personally struggled with this a lot, but I'm kind of learning not to compare myself to others and find who and what works for me. Kaiti is (once again) spitting facts 👏🏾awesome video!

[@kyo5962]

i'm in my first year of college and I've been under so much pressure to make some friends in my major because everybody talks about having connections and being in a "big group" but after this video, I realized that I am definitely thinking about it all wrong haha. so thank so much for the reassurance !

[@yourfriendlyharp22]

as someone who is scared of missing out and base my life on what everyone else is doing i needed to hear this. thank you so much for saying what needs to be said kaiti!!!!!!

[@cherrykeri]

What I really appreciate about Kaiti is that even though she’s really entertaining she’s not just that. She thinks back to what she went through and supports others by giving sincere advice that people really need. Her honesty and thoughtfulness is what I love the most about her.

[@KaitiYoo]

This is so thoughtful of you to say! I truly do try to do both and I appreciate you supporting me in every step as I try to do so. :,)

[@oliviajurney9623]

the point you made about “who’s going to actually go to work and do the things? (you)” is something i stand firmly with because i can tell some of my family members are skeptical with my major (Consumer Apparel and Retail Studies with a concentration in Apparel Design) but i honestly see myself being happy with the career following it. Design is something i’m passionate about but also learning the business aspects of everything will help me get a really good job in the future and i know that for sure.

[@sooya2198]

your "dude, no" videos are my favorite ❤️❤️ the advice you've given has been so valuable to me

[@Kat-tt6pr]

As someone who went down that path of choosing a difficult degree that sounded good on paper and sticking to it even when I was barely passing, you’ve really resonated with me. Whilst I never had the courage to pivot, your advice about not getting caught up in what others consider is a good career, is something I needed to hear and puts things into perspective.

[@inunemuicrafts]

I'm an engineering student currently in junior year and in the last semester. Throughout hs, I didn't know that there was a college course for being a writer. And I wanted to be one. I only knew this at sophomore college. I started to question life then. I started breaking down. But then, I encountered bs psychology while being in college. Now I want to shift to that course. But the thought of being just “one more year” and I am gone, I am out of this institution, just makes me not want to. I don't want to go through such struggles again. I really regret not doing my research back then.

[@peachbooks3199]

what you said about the stigma around quitting!! preach!! i stuck out the four years of college major that did NOT match with me and it's the biggest regret of my life. now i graduated with a degree i abhor and skills i wish to never use. do NOT stick it out out of perseverance or whatever stupid shit society tells u!!!

[@sunny-rs3mr]

will be starting college in the fall, I really needed to hear all of this before I get sucked into a shitty "this isn't what I thought it's be" mindset. thanks Kaiti!

[@victorialim1480]

such solid advice as always- i really needed to hear all these points! would absolutely love one about friendships!!!

[@TheExaltedHerobrine]

The worst part about it is that it costs a lot of money. More money means more problems

[@syd1066]

As someone who's going BACK to school after college + x years of work to then realize I need to change careers now LOL I really needed to ms yoo's wise words. I've been through the growing pains of college already but a career change is another kind of nerve-racking, and it felt SO reassuring to be reminded of how far I've come! THANK YOU KAITI

[@pamayapaya]

As a sophomore in college (who started during the pandemic and is only just now going in person) I really do need this 😭

[@KaitiYoo]

I'm rooting for you, and trust me, you have nothing to worry about ;) YOU GOT THIS IN THE BAG

[@Leewheeee]

I'm in the exact same boat, so I feel your pain 😔❤

[@anneisnothere4324]

So many good points talked on here! Definitely many people needed to hear this. Plz do one on friendship in college!

[@ashemiller5588]

This is such a wonderful video and something I wish someone had told me before I went into college. College is such a wonderful, terrifying, and eye-opening experience. Yes, I've learned things in my courses, but I've learned so much about myself as well. To any incoming freshmen reading this: look at the resources available on campus and use them. Do it. There are people available to help you not only with academics, but with career exploration, personal goals, health and wellness, and hell, there's even some people who will help you figure out how to budget. Also, absolutely reach out to professors. They can be fantastic mentors and I owe a lot of my current direction to their guidance. Above all, you've got this. You may trip and fall on your face the first semester, or the second, or even the third. You may change your direction a few times. But you'll get your feet underneath you again and you'll find your balance. I promise.

[@nyla1377]

This video really came at the right time. I'm a senior in high school about to decide which school to go to and I'm so, so nervous! Thank you for reminding me to challenge the status quo :)

[@0997liner]

Brutal Truth #3 reminds me of Yoongi's lyrics from Burn It which was “Giving up decisively also counts as courage.”.

[@carolinesit]

i'd rather hold a plank for an HOUR

[@inglishtea6487]

Thanks a lot, Kaiti!!! I got ill from a very bad brain disease and I’m on my 7th year of college, finally a senior. And even tho I’ve had amazing experiences, college is full of ups and down. AND IT’S NOT EASY

[@galaxypeaches]

girl i NEEDED this today. adore u.

[@_yenaa_]

KZbin doesnt tho, like bruhh👁️👄👁️💧

[@Antoinettet]

I know right, KZbin just glitched sigh

[@KaitiYoo]

@@_yenaa_ LITERALLY like excuse me

[@galaxypeaches]

LOLL

[@showersofstardust]

I love this, and I love working for things you believe in. I spent the first 6 months of my first job learning the job and excelling, but also researching companies and skill sets that were completely different..because I wanted the Heck out of there. It was a grind, and I got out to someplace better, and it was worth it. However...as someone married to someone with >100k in student loans who can't figure out what he enjoys in terms of work, I think its important to remember that so long as your coworkers are kind and you can pay the bills and then some, you can also have motivation to do the things you want outside of work. My husband is saving towards a car, and spends his free time in the archery range. And that's what makes him happy, more than any job ever could. So I guess it's important to determine what needs to be taken care of (bills, mental and physical health, hobbies, relationships) and figuring out how you grind to make that a reality-- and remembering your job isn't the end all be all. It's a lot of your time so don't be somewhere that takes advantage or hurts your personal life, but don't take it personally if work isn't your main motivator either.

[@jeon_artemis]

I've finished college two years back and took two consecutive gap years. I can relate to every point Kaiti made. And sadly, but I don't regret though, I learned all these in this last two years. But they'll always be life lessons. Thanks Kaiti. And I'll definitely appreciate if you make video on friendships too.

[@ppmkdpj3704]

i've been too scared for college these days since this is my last year and the next year i will be starting my college life, i really want to thank you for this amazing tips!! it really helped to calm myself a little bit.

[@kiyakiya8360]

I WAS JUST THINKING ABOUT THIS- Kaiti you psychic legend. Thank you.

[@marciavox8105]

As much as I enjoy the fashion tips, I really sit myself down and make time for these ‘older sister’ style videos. Thanks, Kaiti! Eheh “i’d rather hold a plank for an HOUR”

[@thefrustratedneetaspirant7777]

Here's what I've learnt in my life about the 'the cool groups'..they dint have anything and the reason those people don't let you be a part of them is that they know that you'll know they don't have anything. They all just look cool but actually aren't cool but a bunch of people pretending to be main characters.

[@AlaePulli]

This is so good!! I honestly thought something was wrong with me, because I didn't find many friends. I didn't go on trips and didn't have the best time etc. at university. But after I graduated I realized the same thing: Why does this have to be the best time in our lives?? It doesn't have to be at all!

[@wewegomb]

one thing I wish I do, choose between more playing or more studying. just decide which one, no in between.

[@sabrina-gabrielfreeman3574]

I LOVED your 3rd tip,everything you said resonated so much with me. I'm currently a uni drop-out because I decided to leave this prestigious course at a top university in my country simply because I didn't enjoy it, and it was not resonating with me as much as I thought it would. it's really refreshing to hear someone voicing the feelings I currently have about it and to see you doing so well after chosing what was right for you. thank you for this!!

[@evanrosechannel]

Maturing is realizing that it’s fun to have a group of friends but you all you really need 1-3 people who will always be there for you⬅️⬅️⬅️⬅️⬅️⬅️⬅️

[@HannahElise]

"it's not the what, it's the how" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@anneliseschader2409]

i'm literally a senior in uni now and i still needed to hear these things lol, thanks girl

[@jackieli20]

im a sophomore in college right now and I commute to school so I've always felt bad that I only have one friend group with 6 people. what you said about how friendship levels vary in a friend group definitely has stuck with me and this is really helpful and reassuring :)

[@rose_tea5302]

6:17 this is so true. I entered college telling myself I'm going to do video game design but then I realized I don't really play video games...I'm still pursuing animation but I have no clue what I specifically want to do with animation. The possibilities are ENDLESS

[@isame0085]

I was also thinking about doing video game design but then I too realised that I almost never play video games lol

[@rachaels742]

i’m finishing my first year of college, and i’ve grown and learned SO MUCH about myself. i’ve changed my mind about my major, i’ve discovered more about myself and my identity, and i’ve learned how to be an adult living on my own. it’s CRAZY how different i am from myself not even a year ago. so for all my incoming freshman: the first year is a wild ride and i’m sure it’ll just keep getting wilder! but it’s also a really fun ride and im so grateful for how much i’ve learned and grown

[@taylors1460]

absolutely heartbroken that i've encountered this video with less than two months left of my college experience

[@kaylituh]

Please please make a video about college & friendships. I'm going to college out of the country this year and it is soooo intimidating. In high school I've always been introverted and shy, and I've gone through senior year with only 3 friends where I'd only consider one of them to be close! I really want to know what to expect in terms of friendships in college, because it's a part of my life I've barely tapped into (the social aspect).

[@literallykhant]

needed this ! currently struggling with friendships and whether I'm doing anything right at all and questioning if I'm even doing the right degree. thank u for this, its so easy to lose sight of the why in uni

[@qingyiye4942]

I agree with the part about not knowing about all the different career paths as an incoming college student soooooo muchhhhhh

[@isabelleb-l2699]

I love how your videos always seemed to deeply researched and you always know what you are talking about AND have quotes from well-known authors who agree

[@friedrice4015]

Also, I'd say for people who haven't started college: You are going to change so much in ways you can't imagine. I never thought I'd go Greek, but I love my sorority and my sisters so much. I never thought I'd be an English major AND a pre med, but uhhh lmao. I didn't think I had super strong analysis skills, but I'm writing my final for a graduate level English course in African lit right now! I never thought I'd be a partier, but my social life has become a lot more fun and rich for it. I put on pounds of makeup in highschool bc of my acne, but it's cleared up and most days I just slap on sunscreen and lip balm and roll out the door in the sorority gear I never thought I'd wear in highschool. Literally life will come at you so fast and you are gonna be a radically different person by the time you get through, enjoy it!

[@shazabi_stop]

I’ve always been pushed to do my best and get the best grades, so in high school when I recognized hanging out with my friends took time away from studying, I stopped hanging out with friends. This is the exact opposite thing you need to be doing because grades don’t matter nearly as much as having social skills, and in order to receive social skills you have to be social.

[@lenawu8067]

my biggest sorrow right now is that I’m going to Brown but not able to meet you on campus. Thank you for all your savage (but beautiful, honest, and humorous) thoughts in your videos that helped me a lot in high school.

[@aratigurung3]

Congrats for 500k 🔥 prettiest & coolest person on the internet… 💯♥️

[@rajveesoni6458]

yesss plz video on friendship

[@donnashreeingti1597]

Wow the timing cuz I'm starting university this September. I'm scared, nervous n excited at the same time. Hopefully I'll be able to graduate without any regrets.

[@arlenenagtalon7838]

Thank you so much for this video, Kaiti!! As a first-year in college, I've honestly felt so lost. I've ended friendships in high school with people I thought were my ride-or-dies, college has been BRUTAL compared to high school, and overall, I'm still trying to figure out who I am. You're pretty much the internet older sister I wish I had, so I appreciate these videos and tidbits of advice you have to offer

[@rachaels742]

i’m with you here 💕 i hope college turns around for us, but if not i’m sure it’ll only go uphill after graduation! :)

[@tess8691]

as a current hs junior who is lowkey DYING with all of the sudden college stuff being pushed on me this video is a godsend

[@misterl0gic]

What college taught me: Want to live good? Borrow.

[@elizabetaaa]

my experience towards what career i want to go towards was decided when i was pretty young (specifically 7) ive played piano since i was 5 and started teaching at 13 earned money for my performances and was lucky enough to love what i do even with the insane pressure that comes with it, i stuck with piano and was solid on my decision, very thankful that my parents put me into music at such a young age 😅

[@gaurigoyal5744]

Definitely need the friendship video. I'll be in college in probably half a year. The sentence where you said that College is a safe space and we can fall down on our faces and there'll be safety nets to cat h us was a HUGE reassurance. I didn't realise until that moment that I was looking at college as this perfect place to prepare me for the future and no mistakes allowed.

[@mariajijo8062]

This was absolute perfect timing. We had our last day of class yesterday and this gave me a sense of maybe what I've done all these years was actually pretty good for me. Thank you!!!!!! ❤✨

[@adelinefrancis9181]

I'd love a video about friendship. I personally struggle with making new friends and my current friends (2 to be exact) are great but we're just the worst at sticking to plans and shit :( But on the subject of college/uni, I'm also in 4th year :') WE MADE IT THROUGH Y'ALL!!!

[@positivelypurposeful8522]

For 4 years, I was in college and I believed that I wanted to be a doctor. Being safe and making a ton of money plus the external validation, I just knew it was for me. But then, when I graduated I knew it was not for me. Pivoting was the scariest thing I ever did and I have never been happier! Also, I had a really rough college experience, but I learned so much. Thank you for making this video :)

[@marnenotmarnie259]

alsooo if college isn't right fir you, that's okay. going into my freshman tear i had a feeling it wasn't for me, but because of my parents i did it anyway. i dropped out after that first year. it was just so obvious that i wasn't going to get anything else out of it. do i regret going? no, not at all. but do i regret leaving? helllll no

[@MiniKitty27]

i'm a sophomore in college right now and it's also incredibly important to go at your own pace. society sets up this "four year" expectation but for my major? it's nearly *impossible* to get through all of my required credits in just four years unless i want to have a HUGE risk of burnout. when I told my parents this they were incredibly confused because they graduated in four years, but they were business majors, fine art majors are incredibly different and college back then was also so different than what it is now. TLDR: There's no set timeline and you shouldn't feel discouraged if it takes you longer than what you initially expected

[@rtchemp]

As someone who is also graduating from university in May, THISSSS^^^ is everything

[@lin_mill]

What you said about quitting/ending things is so so important and I really needed to hear that! I switched out of engineering at a 4yr university to now agriculture at a community college and will be transferring back to university to pursue holistic health and healing, so I have been ALL OVER THE PLACE. It’s so easy to feel weak and uncommitted because I haven’t stuck things out and I have many seasons of regret and shame tied to my college journey. But it’s so important to remember that change is inevitable, yes, for some people more than others, and that’s okay! We learn as we grow and explore things we never knew before with mindsets that have evolved over time. It is so hard to stick with one thing forever, and most people do shift around either in college or their careers when you think about it. “Quitting” doesn’t need to be negative, you are simply moving onto something beautiful and new. Great video!!

[@Sophia-gv6wl]

As a high school senior going into college this helped a lot, tysm

[@quaintleaf1208]

this is so good. i'm a cornell sophomore and so many of these tidbits of wisdom resonate with me. would be very much interested in a friendship/all types of relationships video(s)! thank you, kaiti!

[@michael.vanner]

This is probably the realest college advice. Currently a sophomore and going through every single thing you mentioned.

[@sylliepiee]

Interesting video! I'm from Malaysia and attended a British university (they have a campus in Malaysia as well) as an Education student and I can confidently say my degree and course prepared me to be a teacher in many ways, which is my current career lol. It was mostly theory-based backed up with research about education but there were also hands-on things such as mock teaching we had to do. But I had so so much fun in uni lol

[@carliepierre1543]

Love this video! Having a change in perspective can break or make your uni experience. If more people understand this perspective, more people will thrive and find these 4 years less dull.

[@athenas5959]

thank you for this, decision day is literally in a week and i’ve been losing my mind

[@imscarlett6823]

In a month I will finish the uni after five years (yeap, México and five uni years wuju) and I wasted my time dealing with my depression and when I was ready to enjoy my college time, boom! Covid. Half of my time crying and the other half? Crying but in my room. Did I make friends? Yeap, one. Did I have bf? No. Did I do other thing instead of study? Of course, no. No trips, no friends, no parties, just me ♥romantizing my 17 hours of study♥

[@LoveLadyMJ]

These 4 years were definitely the worst and the hardest in my whole life lol. But I also have really learnt the most about life and myself during that time.

[@crustapple6205]

tysm for this vid!! I’m going to college next year, this helped a lot

[@mariannebec9871]

ngl it's not even been a year and i HATE college, i literally only stress and that is all. yes it's cool to have your independence and be yourself but aside that? dang i just can't wait to have my degree and finally take care of myself without the money worries and everything else

[@ewang2019]

this is EXACTLY what i needed to hear today. truly. thank you.

[@sushitajaishankar4726]

It's funny how timely this video is cause this year I'm gonna start college. What u said about being completely clueless of what u want during this time in life, it is so true. It sometimes boggles my mind how often we get asked where we see ourselves in the future, when those who ask us that question had no answer either when they were our age. It's high time we get used to the factt that the future is for us to explore without a map and just walk the path ahead. It doesn't matter what good or bad comes from it, we just have to grow to accept it, and believe it was for good!

[@vashtizerlinda]

Couldn't put it better into words! I have graduated from college for years now but never been able to completely put how I feel about all the "glorious college expectations vs reality situation" into a summary, thank God you did!

[@RamenNamen991]

Currently a second semester sophomore in college. Definitely needed some of these reminders. Especially since I don't have a career in mind and don't actually care that much. I'm here to learn what I want, get a degree and learn life skills.

[@Emily-wq4dn]

I had this in my Watch Later for probably a good year. As I’m approaching the post of committing, enrolling, and attending a college, I felt it was time to give it a watch. Very grateful for your advice and insights. Even if some of it was similar to what I’ve heard from others, you present the information so eloquently and in a very inspiring manner. Thank you ♥️

[@tchaney3777]

Babes, I’m 35. It’s going to keep changing and you are going to revisit some passions later. Just find your inner stability and go your pace.

[@jessicaveeno]

That part about quitting. I totally I agree. I actually 'learned' how to quit in college. Istg I thought of quitting almost as a sin until I was bombarded with more than I could handle and realized that quitting is also a healthy option sometimes. I studied a major I hated but was good at, and a minor I loved but sucked at and in the end had to give up both. Looking back, I should've quit even faster. When something is just way too hard, giving up allows you the mental space to discover other creative options you didn't even know existed.

[@shivanigautam670]

This video honestly felt so comforting and reassuring, and it just further enforced some positive pieces of advice in my brain. You're doing such a great job wit your content Kaiti, I'm looking forward to everything you put out in the future.

[@Battlesthegolden]

I’m on my last semester and unfortunately most of my friends are out of college so I don’t really have much people around. Though looking back, I think I really wasted the first 2-3ish or so years and I focused too much on schoolwork overall. But I think I really grew as a person, so I’m grateful for that.