Colourism: Dating, Career and relationship Crisis for Dark Skin Black Women.

[@Samuel115s]

Colourism exists within communities of colour but to white people your shade of black makes no difference for the most part

[@LoneRanger-et7gq]

I think this is true in a lot of cases. We saw this with the way in which ytes responded to Beyonce crossing into Country Music, just staying on topic... They literally tried to boycott her music and banned it from their radio stations.

[@handsomeman-pm9vy]

Colorism even exist among white people. It has been around for centuries. And will be around long after you have deceased.

[@LadyOO]

The statistics literally say different. Y’all are annoying.

[@danlang1328]

@@LadyOO would you be able to share these stats?

[@aishasings7632]

It does when it comes to hiring practices. Lighter skinned women are hired more often even if less qualified and are paid more than dark skinned women.

[@Lightreign888]

Thank you for doing the research. As a dark skin woman I will soon be writing a book for folks to understand. This is in fact a thing and it is happening.

[@handsomeman-pm9vy]

No one cares about your book. Colorism has been around for centuries, and will be around after you have deceased.

[@Devilsqueen123]

This man truly gets it, I think other black men do they are just to far gone and refuse to admit it, thanks for this confirmation

[@LoneRanger-et7gq]

Well... that is because they propagate colorism the most.

[@Sarah.M98]

💯, alot of them are aware of it and just don't care until none black women start saying or doing racist things to them because of their skin.

[@Sarah.M98]

​@@LoneRanger-et7gq They really do, white people don't even have to lift a finger to do it anymore because black men are voluntarily doing their dirty work for them. SMH

[@Kingofthenet2]

True

[@CaribbyanDoll-xoxo]

I hate to say it but this man is not Black American. The biggest colorists are Dark Skin Black American men because of their historical trauma. Black men from other cultures love and respect Black women, even if and when they date other races.

[@AFocusedLiving]

Our community just needs to admit that they do find mixed people attractive, and that's okay. However, it's not okay to tear down your own to uplift them, and then tear down the mixed community when they achieve something. the obsession is crazy.

[@inacook2285]

Then... figure out that their own beauty is 100% as valid as any other humans on the earth. Then... recognize that we, in fact, EVERYONE, have been globally brainwashed to believe the lie that dark skin makes one less attractive.

[@BlessedLady82]

TRUTH !

[@Joan-il4qb]

They find them attractive because of their proximity to whiteness not because of their natural attractiveness. That does not mean that mixed people are unattractive naturally. Like everybody else, you find those who are attractive and those who are not. But some black men just go for them for reasons other than their natural attractiveness. 🙄

[@CaribbyanDoll-xoxo]

Thanks brother for standing up for Black women, this is so vital to our mental health. If we had more Black men coming out on public platforms bigging us up instead of tearing us down, we would be in a much better place as Black women. I pray that your voice encourages other Black men to do the same. Thank you! 🙏🏽✊🏾✊🏽💞

[@CNAG-Rapid-Response]

Beyonce and Rihanna each have a very mixed parent. Neither woman has ever had dark skin. You have NOT researched Rihanna or Beyonce well.

[@BiracialTammy]

😂😂😂 They want Beyonce to be dark so bad.

[@MoniqueinLA]

Exactly because Tina is very light skinned. She’s creole. Which is mixed. My dad and his family look just like her and they are creole as well.

[@Mrdimples]

It don’t change the fact that they both bleached their skin

[@BarbershopBytes-ox3dr]

​@Mrdimples You don't have proof of that.Peoples skin color changes my skin color during the winter is very light and I don't bleach

[@WhatIShayyy]

Having a fair skinned parent is not an excuse. They still bleached their skin. There are plenty of dynamics of 1 LS parent + 1 DS parent creating a brown or dark brown skinned child.

[@thetruth5098]

Light skinned?? They done with that. Its about white women and bi racials

[@JubeiKibagamiFez]

0:27 Colorism is huge in the movie, tv, and music industry in the US. There's multiple tv shows where dark skinned cast members get replaced by light skinned actors. The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air is a good example of this. Aunt Viv in S1-2, then Aunt Viv in S3-7.... Most times, though, the lead actress is usually light skinned, even if the lead actor is dark skinned.... This is in hollywood, though. A lot of indie films in the US don't run into this problem.

[@t.p.m.414]

As a light skinned man I'm on your side... Women ONLY want dark skinned men now...

[@sarahjones5172]

Nah

[@carrington2949]

That did not just start in the US. It began in the 90s with the rise of Tyson Beckford, Omar Epps, and Tupac.

[@ServantofAnubis007]

Colorism is weird because they don't understand Eugenics. Only DSW can create chocolate people. Yet they keep procreating with LW. Creating more Light people. 🔁

[@BlessAminata]

This isnt true....

[@TyWerks]

this is true growing up my. light skin cousins got all the play maybe 10 years ago dark skin men were in. I think p*** has a lot to do with it

[@tarschillajackson8397]

I reside in California and also grew up here and it’s really bad out here for dark skinned women!

[@Intelexual]

The job and hiring situation (as far as being less likely to get hired) is wrong (as in it shouldn't be that way) But when it comes to the romantic and dating preference, it is what it is. People like what they like. Can't force someone to pick someone if that's not what they're attracted to. And as far as showing empathy for masculinity, i most certainly will not. The Godfather said it best: if i wasn't on my business and was broke and unproductive would a BW have empathy on my situation? No she would not. So i couldn't care less WHY she's masculine. A masculine woman is a no-go and she'll get left behind 🤷🏿‍♂️ I'm a very successful brotha with desirable traits a wide variety of women find attractive. Not gonna be graceful or empathetic or patient and wait on some woman to find her femininity just cuz she's a BW. Gonna go with my best option at that moment, regardless her ethnicity

[@JubeiKibagamiFez]

8:50 Skin bleaching is a global epidemic, though. It's not just in the African communities. It's in East Asian, Southeast Asian, and Indian cultures, as well. Frankly it makes me sick how prevalent skin bleaching creams are in society as a whole.

[@cocobronze7587]

Kelly is prettier than beyonce.

[@AhminaIsmael]

Nah they’re both pretty

[@AhminaIsmael]

Yall love to hate on Beyoncé after you made her famous. If Kelly was so much prettier why didn’t she get farther than Beyoncé ? Because yall ride waves. There’s a new wave & now you want to switch sides like the sheep you are 😂

[@Kingofthenet2]

Agreed

[@imanigabbana6629]

Cap

[@Second_Son1990]

Agree

[@princ3ssshay88]

It’s not true! Beyoncé and Rihanna are not bleaching!! Beyoncé has Italian & creole blood! & Rihanna’s dad is light with green eyes!! So clearly there’s some high percentile of European there!!!!

[@WhatIShayyy]

Thank you for breaking down this topic. It’s difficult to get ppl to understand something while experiencing it. Your perspective as a black man is needed though. As an adult I experience colorism way different than I did as a child. So I appreciate that you gave realistic examples of how this idea limits or ruins the lives of women with darker skin. Its not always about ppl that used to call me “darkie” lbs.

[@Myraisins1]

Have you seen Bey's mother? Yes she is black American culturally but lets be real. Bk Americans are genetically mixed to varying degrees. Bey's father said he himself thought Tina was white when he met her. He's colorist himself so he knows.

[@theezenriarinze9203]

The obsession with the supposed obsession of who other blk men decide to sleep with and be with never cease to amaze me.

[@allysam.8014]

African American women are not bleaching bc most of us come in all shades. So theres no need and we also don’t think yt is the standard it’s a joke black is beautiful all shades.

[@cutiepiea3687]

Lmao there's a lot of African Americans who bleach. Bleaching is prevalent in the black community PERIOD. African, Carribbean and African American. Look at American celebrities every single one of them have used lightening supplements look at Nicki, bey even Kelly rowland (which is worse cos she's actually dark skin)

[@SONGOHANXBEASTSSJ11]

THIS BROTHER THE TRUTH KEEP GRINDING GOD RT💯💯

[@Sarah.M98]

💯

[@jennalud4748]

First of all, Beyoncé's mom is multiracial, very fair skinned. Beyoncé tans a lot, but her real complexion is slightly darker than her mother's. And you have to take in account lighting and touch ups from magazines! Kelly is not prettier than Beyonce regardless of skin complexion. And Rihanna's father is biracial, and like Beyonce, Rihanna tans a lot! People think they're bleaching because their real complexion comes out....

[@ZoraSearch]

Beyoncé's face is very plain.

[@a.r.tavares1322]

Come on now, Beyoncé, Rihanna AND Kelly have all been bleaching. Beyonce's father and Rihanna's mother are dark skinned.

[@Krae2307]

You say that as if it’s a fact. Kelly and Beyonce are both beautiful but Kelly takes it for me.

[@LoneRanger-et7gq]

​@@ZoraSearchBeyonce's face is not plain, she is gorgeous, and so is Kelly. There is a lot of derangement circulating in the comments... 😂

[@LoneRanger-et7gq]

​@@a.r.tavares1322Having dark-skin parent(s) doesn't mean a child is necessarily going to inherit those particular traits. For instance, two deeper tone parents can have a light skin child. This is fact. More over, if you knew anything about African American and Carribean/West Indian history and lineage, you would KNOW that technically speaking both ethnicities, African Americans and Caribbean/West Indians are "mixed race" people regardless of how deep their skin tone presents. Over 80% of African Americans carry some European lineage (sometimes some Native American ancestory). Both Beyonce's father and Rihanna's mother most likely carry European and Native lineage considering the history of the regions they derive from...🤦‍♀️Do you actually think that because someone has a deeper complexion, they still don't carry their European and Native American traits? It is forever imprinted in their DNA. What do you think happens when these "deeper tone" AAs/FBA and West Indians reproduce with lighter/mixed bp? People really need to educate themselves about genetics and traits. Black people who descend from the black diaspora and black ancestral slavery should know these truths. We should be beyond dictating what people should look like--especially diaspora bp, solely by the appearance of their parents.

[@MulattaMermaid1]

14:37 Beyonce comes from a Creole mixed-race mother… and why do you feel the need to compare her and Kelly? Why can't you just uplift black women without mentioning a light skin woman?

[@akeemMagic01]

Beyonce isn't the least colorist. 🤣 colorists are those who decide who gets the job or who gets highlighted for their talents.

[@plusa6829]

@@LoneRanger-et7gqread that again

[@LoneRanger-et7gq]

​@plusa6829 Yep, my bad. I thought I was responding to the content maker.

[@reformedgirlblogger]

This ideology only leads to more dysfunction and chaos. Why use the language that light skin women are “taking roles” from dark skinned women, instead of just recognizing those women received those roles but there’s also roles for dark skin women to occupy and succeed, but the reality is there would be more of those roles if Black people controlled their media and Africans controlled theirs. Beyoncé’s more successful because she’s more talented and it’s disingenuous to say otherwise because if Kelly was the more talented one it would be evident in her work, Kelly has admitted this herself so why continue to push the narrative it’s about skin color?Also you’re basing this on the racial dynamics in the west specifically the U.S and how it’s exported to the world including the U.K which gets a lot of its culture from America, which is a whole topic in itself.

[@LoneRanger-et7gq]

I agree with you to a certain extent. However, as a lightskin bw, it is ridiculous to note and highlight the ways in which yte supremacy flourishes throughout our society and not address how being in close proximity to whiteness isn't beneficial to light skinned bm/bw. Because it is! This video would have been more informative without the Beyonce and Kelly comparisons, most of us bw (light and deep) are not as privleged as Beyonce and Kelly. However, I agree, comparing Kelly to Beyonce is a tired trope. Considering that Beyonce is one of the hardest working musicians in show business, legends such as Michael Jackson, Prince, and Tina Turner acknowledged Beyonce's greatness and vocal ability and agility. Kelly Rowland, who is beautiful and also very talented, has admitted that she wished she would have worked a little harder at reinforcing her presence in the industry. Let's not forget; she was the first member to break out and have a number one hit with Nelly. She also had an awesome hit in the House Music genre; she was well received in that community. That would have been the perfect opportunity to establish herself as an international House Music queen.

[@ththim7785]

Are you just paid to post? Or just a bot created to drum up conversation?

[@djlivvy46]

The irony is that it is in fact blk people who are weaponising colourism the most against blk women (especially in the music industry) while the mainstream media is the one that is highlighting dark skinned actresses and models.

[@silentnight9655]

Music from North America, not culture - Afro Brits are largely Caribbean and African.

[@GoldenGoth]

It’s funny how you are not addressing colorism dark skinned BM experience too.

[@bennybenz7722]

Bc its the opposite kind of colourism. They are seen as masculine and .. well endowed. Whereas lightskin men are seen as effeminate. Its a different topic. God forbid someone speaks about black womens experience huh

[@djlivvy46]

That's because it doesn't exist to the same extent.

[@petttroville5510]

Here comes the preferences with the mammy tendencies 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@GoldenGoth]

@@djlivvy46 It does but they choose not to deal with it differently unlike the women. A lot of these dark skinned men get turned down unless they have money that’s why they lead with money. Secondly they tend to internalise the rejection then project it onto the women. You can pretend it doesn’t happen but you are not a woman except you are telling me you are a non blk woman.

[@GoldenGoth]

@@petttroville5510 Would that be your mother you are referring to as mammy?? 🤔

[@JubeiKibagamiFez]

10:38 I think a better example would be Beyonce vs Amerie. I feel that Beyonce and Amerie had very comparable talents, but their record label chose to push Beyonce's solo career and break up Destiny's Child, instead of pushing Amerie's career.

[@fiona1407]

African American do bleach too what are you talking about😂, I don't bleach because I find my complexion beautiful dark and lovely. But I realise we've been brainwashed black people dont really accept themselves and that is an issue.

[@Sarah.M98]

He didn't say AA don't bleach, he said bleaching is a big problem in black communities outside America. Study was done and Nigeria, south Africa,Jamaica and india are on top of the list of countries suffering from skin bleaching crisis.

[@fiona1407]

@@Sarah.M98Oh my bad, me I dont bleach im african I never will I love dark skin all shades anyways.

[@carrington2949]

Nope. That sh.. is rare. We will never give white people the benefit of thinking we want whiter skin. Now a wig is a whole other situation. That being said I was shocked when I went to both Jamaica and Western Africa. You have it in your markets. I have never seen so many bleaching products in my life.

[@Joan-il4qb]

I think the South African statistics are lies. Yes there are people who bleach in South Africa but not in the proportions I have seen flying around. Media is dangerous!

[@Intelexual]

Where are these skin-bleaching African Americans? *Katt Williams voice* Don't worry, I'll wait

[@JubeiKibagamiFez]

13:47 This was true in the late 60's and 70's, even a little into the 80's, but not so much anymore. After the fall of the Black Panthers in the 70's, black pride really fell off. That was really the start of the whole colorism thing and the internalize hatred by dark skinned African Americans. Also, that internalized hatred could have been reenforced by hollywood, though. You'll see a lot of movies from the 80's and 90's with scenes of one brother putting down another brother just for his dark skin, and this spilt over in the real world.

[@apollosmartyn]

Great work hope to collaborate with you 🔥🩶🩶👌Namibia 🇳🇦

[@allysam.8014]

♥️♥️♥️

[@Steven-i5f]

How you came to this conclusion? I’m assuming is just an opinion

[@Kiki-jv3ge]

Rihanna has afro centric features the wide nose big lips and forehead and coarse hair

[@coolkiwi1581]

No not really

[@Kiki-jv3ge]

@@coolkiwi1581 of course she does. You are blinded by the fact she has light skin and eyes. Rihanna has very west african bantu features

[@Intelexual]

​@@coolkiwi1581 yes, really. Rihanna is UNMISTAKABLY black. Phenotypically black in every way

[@Kiki-jv3ge]

Perhaps they just arent attractive

[@Kabaselefh]

I gave up on black women, the destruction done to them is irreversible, I try to explain to them that they are the chosen race of God but won’t listen. They all want to erase themselves by giving birth to a light skinned baby 😂

[@handsomeman-pm9vy]

What is the problem? Lighten that skin "ddarkee."

[@t.p.m.414]

Ummm.... And these dark skinned men aren't?

[@PurpleGalaxies123]

What are you talking about? Dark-skinned black men around the world are procreating with non-black, mixed, and light-skinned black women. Dark-skinned black men or dark-skinned men in general hate having dark skinned kids.

[@traumaqueeen]

when you say you have given up on black women, you are part of the problem. Because you are encouraging black women to say the same about the men. Blaming one side and not seeing how we are BOTH (BM and BW) each other's enemy by design.

[@CaribbyanDoll-xoxo]

What about the destruction of Black men?