Combating the Lies That Can Destroy Your Marriage (Part 1)- Dr. Greg Smalley and Dr. Bob Paul

[@maryjames5655]

The one truth that wears couples down, is keeping score. How many times must the same issue be addressed. Especially in long term marriages. Forgiving doesn't always mean forgetting. When you are under fire or in the fire, mentally, day after day and boundaries are not respected, you wonder if the treaty is broken & if you are broken. No one wants a full on war. Negotiations aren't always successful. But I am devouring this information on the battlefield right now. I am weary. Agreeing in prayer for Holy Spirit to lead me into truth.

[@Angebaby1237]

My husband and I have just signed up for hope restored. We are so broken! With everything we’ve gone through and other couple not walking in Christ would have been done a dozen times over. Looking for a miracle!! 😢

[@michaelmcintosh8599]

I'm a marriage officer and of course have seen many unity candle ceremonies but wowwww I have never thought of it like that before and I must agree that he is totally right. The big mistake is that we often think that becoming one means to loose your individuality, but as I often say that if bother are exactly the same then one becomes redundant.

[@kengy1991]

15:00 That vacation suggestion works. My wife and I did that on a cruise a few years back. Did an excursion on one day and then just relaxed the next day. That way you aren't exhausted when the trip is over but you've still had some fun experiences together.

[@drakemarcellus4953]

I know Im asking randomly but does any of you know a way to log back into an instagram account?? I somehow forgot my login password. I love any tricks you can give me

[@shadowprovesunshine]

My marriage is struggling. The spouse doesnt want to try and get a better job to better our situation (I'm working 2 pt jobs and homeschooling). The long hours we both work and the prioritization of my spouses work above our family has left me cold and bitter in our relationship.

[@faithm9284]

I haven't seen the end to this yet , however, I have seen it from both sides of the coin and forgiveness is after the fact. However, to avoid having to be in a position of forgiving is to affirm and respect each other by showing appreciation for everything we each do! Appreciation is the glue of Love! With 'appreciation' having to forgive is seldom needed. If you are not grateful for the small everyday things, you will miss big ones, and no one wants to be with someone who doesn't notice their efforts to show them 'love'! A man's job is to provide and protect. If he is not doing that, you'll have to stop getting in the way of him doing just that, it makes them lazy, spoiled and ungrateful. Let him be The Man, so you can be The Lady! A man will love you for it! We all know 'you can do it', but he needs to know you need him or he will be easily led to find someone who does need, and admire his 'maleness'! I am grateful I have finally learned this precious lesson. 💌

[@graftme3168]

I believe growth is the goal. But, my husband hasn't grown in 36 years of marriage. He still doesn't take responsibility for his own actions. It's always someone else's fault. He lies and uses people and thinks it's okay because he doesn't "mean" to.

[@breannaphillips9071]

Goal is growth, not happiness🔥🏋️‍♀️

[@kimoneb.spencer8975]

Love this program. So knowledgeable

[@dolliehill6285]

I'M MOST GRATEFUL TO APPRECIATE WE ALL NEED HELP IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS. NOW,IT'S A CHOICE@ NEED.

[@ariadnehendricks9529]

The goal is groweth…. Not so much happiness 🙏

[@amazingjewell]

I totally get the bed making thing i was one who never dod that but it ment alot to my husband now I can't go with out making it even when hes out of town

[@andrewbaroch2141]

Great advice. It's too late.

[@davidjohnston9817]

I can't get married i can't worry about my well being to other person I just can't I won't bad relationship in past I have one son but I love deeply but he's 21 now I love my sonny

[@robertoburt173]

thank you for this

[@higsgirl]

Just donated, sounds like a great book.

[@kimscott1794]

I doubt they would be doing this if there wasn't the possibility of making money on it.

[@kimscott1794]

Why are they charging for something that should be free?

[@higsgirl]

@@kimscott1794 they aren’t. It’s free but you can donate if you like:)

[@Braffet22]

1. Love Branson! Such a fun town! 2. Just made donation 3. Waiting for book Thank you so much for all of your love and dedication to speaking truth and life to our families!

[@cherylslane2862]

I had no idea my marriage would revolve around his mother and sister. I’m last in everything. And to cover it all up, I’m looked at as the “villain” a white woman married to an Indian Sikh/Hindu man if that helps any.

[@kimscott1794]

Run

[@kimscott1794]

You can't win here

[@davidjohnston9817]

Think ur right . But its true I see it in my life

[@cherylslane2862]

If I disobey, my finances are stripped from me.

[@Yeshuamysavior1]

Can you escape?

[@faithm9284]

That is narcissistic! Look it up! Don't tell him he is narcissistic, quietly plan your escape without him knowing. Control isn't love, and neglect is abuse. 💌

[@RealLittie999]

Where can we sign up for the retreats you're talking about? Thank you!!

[@focusonthefamily]

@Tru Vine: Here's a link to our webpage about our Hope Restored Weekend Getaways - bddy.me/3xWIZvv. Thanks for asking!

[@focusonthefamily]

Hope Restored also offers marriage intensives for couples who are really struggling - bit.ly/3kHYHqo.

[@RealLittie999]

Awesome tysm!

[@nathimbele]

This is awesome, can I purchase a copy of this book in South Africa?

[@focusonthefamily]

Nkosinathi, we do ship to South Africa. If you'd like to receive the book, it is offered for a donation of any amount at the following link: bit.ly/39hxqTW. Please note that tracking numbers are not available for international shipments. God bless you!

[@HS-ml8dx]

@@focusonthefamily Smallest donation on that link is $50, which means this book will cost at least R716 and it is not clear if that includes postage and shipping. That is more than you pay for a decent Bible in South Africa. It is also way more than the average South African can afford. So I think we'll give the book a pass and just listen to the teaching on KZbin.

[@hopecreed5502]

How could 17 people not like this message WONDERFUL messages to help marriage's td

[@rodrique1971]

Try FonF - SA. I'm in Dbn and there is a branch in Hillcrest to find out if they have it in stock.

[@faithm9284]

Where two or more,...

[@davidjohnston9817]

Its nice to date but nothing else ! It seems they want more how much more do u want i am poor all my life im still happy I get the picture

[@maggievada4797]

8:30- 9:00.

[@svwerner2877]

What if husband isn’t a believer and doesn’t care to ever be???

[@peace7267]

i know you guys are helping but you really dont have any idea what its like to have no job, no direction, a vacation (whats that) we CANT buy books , you sit at a thousand dollar table in million dollar suits talking about your wonderful vacations and how you overcome your problems, come on you wouldnt know hardship if you stepped over it.

[@riyanwilliams7664]

Seek first the kingdom and all these things will be added to you.

[@mpenner3]

You have absolutely no idea how much hardship a person has gone through in his or her life just because of what they appear to be now.

[@A-A-RonDavis2470]

I smell a ton of projection from insecurities. Stop being a pity party.

[@MarinaPier77]

Peace, even if you see it that way, maybe there's something to take away. Our focus can be Christ. That's really what we have in common and we each have our faults, sin and hardships..as unapparent as they may seem.

[@m.suegriffin5203]

I often feel the same way about Focus . They use all experience therapy. They need to point people to the Word. The answers come from the Word not their books ect.

[@hellstromcarbunkle8857]

Focus on the Family, peddlers of lies and fake information, know all there is about using lies to destroy people

[@nataliesmith6686]

That is NOT a fair statement about this organization. I personally know some of these people. I KNOW actual facts about the work they are doing. "peddlers of lies and fake information" is your opinion & not factually based. You apparently don't actually know these folks! You are probably just throwing them into a group with someone that may have given you bad information.

[@hellstromcarbunkle8857]

@@nataliesmith6686 Gave you the links. Your Peddlars of lies blocked them.

[@des711]

I don't understand what you are talking about. The information they are giving are more helpful than what Hollywood and TV and news sending out.

[@hellstromcarbunkle8857]

@@des711 Other than the fact that the "information" is fake news and the FOcus on the Family are political liars, everything you said is true...oh, wait, a lie.

[@faithm9284]

If we become 'one', as the same,..then one of us is unnecessary! 🫤