Combating the Lies That Can Destroy Your Marriage (Part 2) - Dr. Greg Smalley and Dr. Bob Paul

[@johndurham8965]

I have been married 15.5 years. This book has opened my eyes to things I wish I had known many years ago.

[@jessyjonas4988]

TRUST is the real issue!! Safety and authenticity are useful trust builders in all relationships. TRUST is really what we are all after! How to build trust in a relationship; T- truth R-respect U- understanding S- safety T- transparency I- invest time+ emotions N- niceness G- genuineness

[@CynthiaRaeC]

Love the definition of an adult! So helpful in so many ways!!

[@cathie223]

May each one understand, as you expressed, no one is alone in need to learn how to develop and grow their marriage relationships. Teach us Lord to keep seeking answers until we find and knock until the door (knowledge) is opened to each one. 🙏

[@danieldaniel-vb8rh]

I just love this program, I’m single at this moment of my life and I’m learning so much form this. Also, I’m getting that book

[@jonasconradkapila7382]

Grateful for this profound info guys. With love from Zambia ☘️

[@sheebaalex3185]

Thanks so much.I have been listening to your Podcasts and it's been very helpful

[@sheebaalex3185]

So true safety and security is so concerned to build intimacy

[@jessyjonas4988]

Amen, Marriage is a Team sport!! You win or lose together In a conflict if one wins, you are both losers! Resolutions should be win win!

[@lchapter383]

If I can do better he will love me more.interesting statement

[@jessyjonas4988]

@@lchapter383 it is said you get married because you are in love. After marriage , you love because you are married.

[@mareenapaul3801]

Well explained.👍🏻

[@hopecreed5502]

How can 16 people not like this I cant understand that one at all

[@s1n4m1n]

Because they are just trying to sell books. I was lied to about marriage by people like this. For the amount of effort put into it, it’s not rewarding. Completely scammed.

[@gregorfong-rose910]

definition of adult :) loved that part

[@kimscott1794]

Clearly none of these men have lived with some actual irreconcilable differences. They should try it before telling others what to live with.

[@MsBridge26]

What are your thoughts on a marriage counselor who has never been married?

[@sporadicfaneurysm]

In my humble opinion, if the counselor can guide you through Biblical truths & principles about marriage, take what they say in consideration. You may be surprised at how helpful whatever it is they're teaching you. I'm speaking from experience. Our mentor/counselor isn't married but his insights were extensively helpful to our marriage. 😉 You know there are people who take their calling very seriously & would go through lengths to study/learn & develop empathy & valuable wisdom but we sometimes discount them & forget that perhaps the LORD called them to a specific calling because He knows how much they'd fit the job description. 😉

[@jessyjonas4988]

When it comes to marriage, if you are not Paul or Jesus Christ, I would rather have someone who is married or has been married giving me advice on marriage. And of course he or she should have the basic bible believing, Jesus following, saved and sanctified.

[@focusonthefamily]

Hi Bridgitte - We're so sorry not to have seen and responded to your message sooner. It's hard to answer your question without more specifics, but if you'd like to consult with one of our staff counselors about things to look for in a good marriage counselor, please feel free to give us a call at 800-A-FAMILY (800-232-6459). We'll be happy to set up a free phone visit for you. God bless!

[@MsBridge26]

@@focusonthefamily Thank you for getting back to me. I'm not looking for a Marriage counselor myself, I am actually in the process of getting my Master's in Marriage and Family Counseling. My question comes from being a single woman myself.

[@kimscott1794]

If one has never been married, they have zero business telling others how to live in a difficult marriage. It's like taking your car to be fixed by a nurse instead of a mechanic. Until one lives in that world they don't know what they're talking about.

[@kmac2923]

What about if your wife is dead set on being a jehovahs witness and is causing a very divided atmosphere in the home? And she wasn't this way when we got married.

[@jessyjonas4988]

The vows do say for better or for worse What was her faith before marriage? If she is willing to talk through it, there can be some understanding and you can both move forward to some new normal. Without dialogue, if will be difficult. Most situations can be made easier with dialogue. Encourage dialogue Keep talking it through together! Extend grace, be patient and understanding and remain respectful with each other God's blessings

[@kimscott1794]

The Bible doesn't say for better or worse.

[@kimscott1794]

Jesus said to live in peace with others as much as you can. If you can't live in peace, then there is virtually no hope.

[@Caderic]

I love FOTF but I hate when they make a two part series, and they are a lot of the same thing edited in different ways. Not cool.

[@chantaljarratt6417]

Im not in a marriage im under a sickmin d weeked heart

[@kimscott1794]

Run

[@elitedrumlessons6174]

Marriage is a team sport is not accurate. Somebody has to submit, and the Lord is asking wives to submit. That doesn't mean the wife is never right, if she's right about something do it her way. But when at an impasse, the husband has final authority scripturally.

[@kimscott1794]

You're taking the submission thing out of context. It tells husband's to also submit. Read the entire text within its context to get a full meaning.

[@elitedrumlessons6174]

@@kimscott1794 Submit yourselves to one another because of your reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband has authority over his wife just as Christ has authority over the church; and Christ is himself the Savior of the church, his body. 24 And so wives must submit themselves completely to their husbands just as the church submits itself to Christ. The first sentence is what you are referring to? I agree. But then it explains in detail that wives submit to husbands. I have a feeling you don’t agree with these passages?

[@s1n4m1n]

In order for the husband submit to the wife, Christ would have to submit to the Church as that is the parallel drawn by Paul.