Coming out again Story Time

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[@Howie_vibeMaster]

"not everyone fits into a box" and thats why the word queer is so important, I like using it for myself, Happy pride!!!!!!!!!!!!💙💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@catatonicillus]

As a trans man who has a fem fashion sense, it sucks having people try to make me feel shitty for being myself. I’m glad you follow you! Happy late pride!

[@nightmareeyes2083]

As someone who’s been following your stuff for years, and also went through the process of figuring out my gender, I am so happy that you are comfortable and happy in your own skin. I am also nonbinary but I used to present very feminine, and hearing your story brought back some memories. The first ever nonbinary exposure I had was Stevonnie. And even tho I don’t present as feminine now, I remember seeing that character and realizing that I don’t have to be stuck as what everyone told me I was. ‘stuck’ was the exact word because I always felt different too. I knew I was different I just didn’t know how, and even with figuring out my sexuality I was still lost. But seeing someone who looked like me at the time but go by different pronouns and act how I acted was so enlightening. And hearing your story about it also cemented that I was not alone in that feeling of seeing representation for the first time/meeting people who were like you. Thank you Michie for sharing your story

[@oceansideecho]

Ace Spec Lesbian here! I'm happy you were able to learn more about yourself even if the journey to that point may be challenging. Congratulations on coming out and we'll be here to support you

[@heckinguy]

congrats on coming out! im really happy for you :]

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Thank you!

[@greennymphart]

Michie! Happy Pride~!💜🖤💜 You have a really eloquent way with words and I always end up learning something new about you or the world when I watch your vids! Kudos on coming out again! And thank you for sharing~ That story of the Handsome group just warmed my heart, you love to see it XD. Very happy for you Michie xoxo

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Oh gosh do I thank you quq

[@justanotherweirdo11]

Thanks for sharing Michie. Happy Pride Month!! 🌈 I also happen to be bi, demisexual, and nonbinary. I knew I was bi first. Had my whole religious deconstruction homophobia arc and eventually came to terms with that as a preteen. Gender wise I'm Agender. I'm also gender apathetic and pronoun indifferent so don't care what gender people perceive me as or what pronouns they use to refer to me. People irl default to she/her and people online tend to use he/him for some reason. After that I realized I truly don't give af personally. Don't have a preference for any particular pronoun, she/he/they is all ok with me. And I think I've experienced social dysphoria before because when I was younger people thrust gender roles upon me and I just thought it was all bullshit. I don't use trans to describe myself even though I fall under the umbrella and I'm definitely nonbinary/agender. I just don't relate to the concept of having a gender identity. I didn't realize I wasn't allosexual for a long time. I thought you had to be sex-repulsed to be asexual which I wasn't me so I didn't think to hard about it. Until I realized what I thought was sexual attraction was actually aesthetic attraction. I thought "They're gorgeous/hot" never "I want to get in your pants". So asexual and then like two years ago I experienced sexual attraction for the first time towards a close friend. So yeah, label update, I'm demisexual. 👍 I'm also demiromantic and hanging around in the aro community is what made question and realize I was acespec as well.

[@Pastelmonstaa]

HANDSOME FRIEND GROUP i love that im cryiiinnnggg 😭💕 I'm in the middle of my journey so I'm not sure where I am yet. But HAPPY PRIDE YA STINKY

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

It takes time ya Stinky!

[@KibaCPup]

I'm happy for you michie 💜💜

[@nope6021]

No wait LOL the way you described your friends talking about their attraction is so enlightening. I'm also Demisexual and find ppl attractive aesthetically but not like, think about them in my own time or want them to fuck me type attraction. And I've never quite understood how non-asexuals thought about that kind of thing? Like I get it in theory... but its a different thought process altogether.

[@archerkacey]

I've been a fan of your work and your stories for a long time, it's so amazing to see how resilient of a person you are and your confidence only growing over the years. Happy Pride, thanks for sharing with us!! 💛🤍💜🖤

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

your gonna make me cry thank you so much for your kind words

[@magitekrealms]

Happy Pride Michie!!! ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜 I can never make it to the streams, so I really appreciate the KZbin vids you make to update us! Doesn't matter when they come out! Just happy they are still around! 💜💜💜 Here's to being/finding more of your true and authentic self! Happy Pride!!! 🌈🌈🌈

[@CheshireCatism]

First off, love the video, thank you for sharing your journey! As far as I can tell 'queer' has been thoroughly reclaimed, I use it for myself, and I hear so many other folks from the queer community use it. I'm also a 30's AFAB non-binary (ace and aro specs, poly, multisexual), and it was only in the last 4-5 years that I realized I was non-binary (though in hindsight it seems pretty obvious, haha). I have a lot of fun with getting to pick and choose what gendered language feels right or wrong for myself. It bugs me when people think non-binary should look a certain way, to me it's all about the way you feel and doing and wearing things that make you feel like yourself and who cares that society has arbitrarily assigned genders to articles of clothing or makeup or colors or likes or hobbies.

[@Tracy-ob9wn]

We missed you michie! Happy pride month ❤

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

i missed being here TvT

[@rosamaeart]

Awe congrats on coming out! ❤

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Thank ya

[@rindrr]

Yippee happy pride! I came out as enby/ace a couple years ago. My experience was pretty different, the moment a friend used He/him on me it put a genuine smile to my face. I don't really like she/her but I tolerate it. Always nice to figure yourself out as you grow ^w^

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Happy pride!

[@peachyjjarred]

Omg this is so wholesome!!! I’m so happy for you Michie!!! As someone who’s trans masc but am comfortable with my fem identity;and not fitting in the “said” mold of what trans masc male should be and look like. Your story is such encouragement to me. To keep striving as I am being proud for who I am. It really means a lot;thank you for sharing your story. I appreciate you taking the time to share such important things about you.

[@SweetieCreeper]

Happy pride month :D 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️💖

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Happy pride!

[@mothcakes]

❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉

[@theblackrose013]

If i know anything u gotta respect the peer review❤ congrats michie in glad uve figured ur current self out :) happy pride!

[@micahmakes]

i feel you on the coming out multiple times! i believe esp now, we have a lot of language that we didnt have before, and that helps a lot. on the nb thing, i kinda had a very similar like process of getting there, just in the opposite direction ^^' being transmasc i mean. but very much the "thats not me.. is it?? that feels kinda incorrect?" is so relatable im glad you've found who you are with terms that feel right!! 💜🌌

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

RIGHT Things change all the time. Which is why I think it should be more normilized. OR even so just to allow people to experiment with Gender and see what they like and don't like.

[@LilithRosemary]

❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@akiraohalloran]

Omg I went on a similar journey when I leanrt why kids at school would always have crushes frequently but I'd rarely ever get them. And the crushes that I did rarely get were of friends of the same gender, I would have no initial sexual attraction only romantic until I actually dated someone later down the line and eventually felt sexual feelings towards them. It's interesting because I'm hypersexual and a hopeless romantic but I don't feel that attraction towards anyone really. I also was enbyphobic before learning that I hated being called she/her, girl, women, lady, ext. It took a bit because same as you, I'm femme presenting but I'm very much not a woman. I'm confident in my nonbinary identity, however my sexuality is still a journey for me. I'm glad to hear your video and know I'm not alone with my demisexuality and demiromantic-ness!

[@nightfury_dream4089]

I’m so happy for you michie!! I can relate to the feeling confused about your identity. For me I use to be okay with being called he/she/they, being gender-fluid. But as the years went on I didn’t like being called he, eventually I told my friends and my partner I rather go by she/they. For a while I wasn’t sure if I was allowed to label myself as nonbinary, I confided in my friends about my struggle with my identity and one of them told me I could also be genderqueer. Since I explained to them I really felt more queer, and really didn’t want to put a label on myself and that’s when they told me more about genderqueer. And I’ve accepted that to me ever since. I also found out and it’s okay if you don’t agree with this but I use to be so obsessed with barney as a kid and Barney’s color palette is very genderqueer so that made me cry 😭. I also found out my actually birth name is pretty gender neutral like I was so shocked to find out about my name. The stars really did aligned for me lol. But I’m so happy for you michie and this video is really close to home so thank you for sharing and I hope you have a wonderful day!! Happy pride month everyone !!!

[@unctrlabyexcite]

Winks at you in 🖤🩶🤍💜 spectrum

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Winks back bby

[@patch3455]

When I was in middle school they still had Gay Straight Alliance but I’m 19 years old now so I’m not sure my info is up to date.

[@thelingeringartist]

They still had gay straight in school where I lived, up to when I was a junior. 20 y/o.

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Happy to know they still have it!

[@Pebble-With-a-Pen]

yooo gender gang!!

[@BlackMew13]

A LOT of this is very relatable! XD I had to come to terms with gender in 2022 myself I used to not be ok with my feminity, but ironically i've learnt to embrace it after coming to terms with being nonbinary XD I still prefer to be androgynous or more masc leaning most of the time, but sometimes i really enjoy being fem presenting now ^^ Personally im still struggling with wether im Demisexual or not, i kinda go back and forth, but atm i've swung back to thinking i might be Demi, but im honestly just kinda confused :'D Learning about yourself is an ever changing journey i guess ^^"

[@lilymoon9659]

Congrats! We all knew ❤😊

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

lol what how did yall know before me?

[@v-t-holmes]

your experience with being refered to with he/him reminded me of how i entertained the idea of using those pronouns back in 2020 for not more than an hour before being called he in an among us lobby and realizing i hated that talking of coming to terms with queer identities, figuring out oneself during the rise of exlusionism in the mid-2010s (all the ace discourse and transmedicalism bullshit, yknow the drill if you've been to tumblr and other queer online spaces around that time), meant it was tough to actually feel validated as being a-spec and it set back gender contemplation by literal years for so many people because being a-spec was seen as "just straight people wanting to be special" and little-to-no-dysphoria or just being openly nonbinary meant you were "faking it" for very specific subsets of people

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

OH I remember that Toxic time for the queer community in 2010.... I also had to learn to get over toxic thoughts I had from that era for myself. * hugs *

[@ryanlyn65]

Being a bisexual gal and having a monogomous relationship with my current bf is such a weird thing cause im still told th oh so i chosen to be straight finally. happy to hear your experience while different but its still sorta reaches that misunderstanding of dating preference.

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

nah ive had this for such a long time " oh so it was a phase " " so your not x any more " and its like getting married in a straight passing couple changed nothing. my Partner even came out as Bi recently

[@CreativaArtly]

With the recent breakup with my boyfriend, I’ve found out that I am indeed ace to some degree. Sex has honestly repulsed me since middle school. It taking a break up to make my realize that was just wow tho. Ex was way too freaking horny. Way too freaking horny and I’m just not.

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Im sorry to hear that. IT can be hard being with a Hyper sexual person ( not that that is a bad thing ) But for some people Ace is also a Spectrum. Like myself I am Ace and I fall under that Label. But I more so identity with the Demi Sexual Bi romantic label. Cause I never cared about Gender expression or Gender identity of my partners. But I have to grow a bond before I got the Horny Fee fees for them. Which used to be something that upset me until I learned there were other people like me!

[@gagamarrythenight11]

You are amazing ✨🏳️‍🌈 thank you for continuing to be brave and tell your story the only way to be yourself is to be brave I recame out 2 years ago myself I had to unlearn a lot of things I had within me that I felt I couldn’t be this since I thought this or people around me and Society says X Y & Z at the end of the day I had to see myself for me and to see what fits me not what others think I am or who I should be Happy pride month this video made me feel very seen and heard and I’m so happy to hear you have good friends and a wonderful partner in your corner that continues to accept you with open arms Changing is hard and it’s even harder at times to even accept things that do change and to embrace that We hot and gay all 2024 😝✨🏳️‍🌈😊

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

Trying to Learn to forget hard traits can be so hard! its a fight in its own right. But Im happy you are seen and heard and very very valid

[@ainsart]

I'm so happy for you! I myself am a very femme presenting non-binary folk, and I'm always excited to hear when people discover it's totally possible and OK for them to do as well🩷 I actually had an interesting thing where as a kid, I really disliked "girly" stuff, because I thought there was only two options and like it was being forced down my throat. But when I learnt you could do whatever you wanted, and that you could be NB however you wanted, suddenly super femme stuff didn't feel so suffocating, and in fact kind of fun! Gender can be expressed however, and I think that's pretty cool :]

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

ye thats how i felt

[@sugar0coated]

I've been watching your videos a long time, Michie. I don't normally comment, because I don't have much to contribute, but I just wanted to say: Well done you for being real to yourself! And I guess I kinda feel compelled to share my experience. :') I'm a similar age to you. I have to admit that my experience of learning about non-binary and sexuality stuff was similar to yours. I mostly dismissed it as young people who feel like they need to label themselves. The queer folk in my sphere were largely in the same boat, and dismissed it as "straights trying to get under our flag". To some degree, although I don't have any hate or whatever, I still don't quite get it. When I was a kid in the 90s and early 2000s, we were doing away with gender stereotypes. Boys could play with dolls, girls could play with cars. Like it was a whole thing of removing gender labelling where it was unnecessarily divisive. So I was a bit weirded out by people who presented themselves as gender non-conforming, yet seemed to have an enormous focus on deciding how masuline or feminine everything is, from clothes to colours to toys and cars. It just felt like a step back. At 30 I went to uni to study art and I was surrounded by I guess a new generation of young people with a completely different understanding of gender and sexual identity than the one I grew up with, which I thought was already a super-progressive mindset. One thing that did rub me up the wrong way was conversations I had with groups of young people who'd try to "diagnose" my gender and sexuality. I am comfortable saying that I am straight and a woman, but I can acknowledge that my sexuality probably has some nuance that I didn't realise until recently. I've never had sexual feelings toward a stranger of either gender, although I've only dated men, and have developed sexual feelings toward them only after becoming close to them. I can acknowledge when someone is attractive (and tbh I think there are way more beautiful women than men), but like you said, I don't fantasise about fucking strangers or have specific sexual thoughts about people I'm not in a relationship with. Tbh, I didn't realise that most people aren't like this. I guess I kind of thought that people were joking or being edgey when they said shit like "I'd let him do me---" or whatever about models and celebrities. 🤷‍♀ Based on that, some well-meaning fellow-students tried to tell me that I am demisexual. Now, I get why they'd think that based on reading up what it means, but I also... don't get it still? Like I don't personally feel like I need to label it. I am not uncomfortable with the idea of being included under the queer umbrella, I'm 100% an ally, so that's not it, but I also don't think I need it? I've never had to fight for equality because of my sexuality, and I don't have the same struggles. And also, is it right for people to decide my sexuality for me? If I decide to adopt that label, shouldn't I be able to "come out" as it were? I don't know, I just kinda feel straight, maybe bicurious (which I have never written down before, yikes). To me, the label feels like it would unnecessarily complicate my otherwise very simple self-identity. Tbh I was a little offended the first couple of times I was asked for my pronouns - it felt like they were saying I wasn't feminine enough or that I didn't look like a woman. It kind of gave me some body-image issues if I'm honest. I tend to wear tartan jeans, Docs(boots) and a graphic Tshirt most days. And I tend to lean toward black with a pop of bright colour. I've had people ask me if I'm non-binary based on this. But again, I thought people could wear what they wanted regardless of gender? And again, it tickles my insecurities that some people don't think I'm feminine enough to call myself a woman. Same when I previously cut my hair into a pixie cut, or when I go out without makeup sometimes. For me, being identified as a woman is a descriptor of my body, and I'm okay with that, but I also understand that some people might not think the same. I also understand that this same feeling of discomfort I feel at being asked is probably not dissimilar to the feeling of non-bionary and trans folks who get their gender assumed wrong. I think it's been important to me to acknowledge that I am more comfortable with the identity of a straight woman at this point in my life, but that someone with the same features as me might instead like to label the same things as demisexual or non-binary. I feel like having all of the education on newer thinking of these kinds of concepts is super important, but that you can equally just decide to be comfortable with your existing identity as you are adopting a new one based on this knowledge. I don't know if all that makes sense. But all this to say: I have a similar experience, but I went a different way with it. That said, I'm happy for you to have been able to find a self-identity that brings you joy and comfort :) Being comfortable with who you are and how you choose to refer to yourself if great, and something I absolutely do understand, even if I'm personally still trying to figure out the rest of it. ❤️Happy pride!

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

thank you for your sweet comment sugar

[@Pearakeet_Arts]

Happy Pride Month!

[@Pearakeet_Arts]

Idk how to class my sexuality, tbh. I use queer and gay a lot because it's just how I feel comfortable with. I use to say I'm pan, which fits the attraction model I suppose. I feel awkward having to constantly stand my ground because many people told me to just be bi. That its transphobic or biphobic to personally ID as pan. It's to the point where I'm just kinda exhausted with labeling something that looks different depending on how I present myself and who I'm with. Especially as I am polyamorous, to me my sexuality is just fluid. So queer is just that all encompassing term for me. I'm a trans man, I feel pretty confident in that. Some days I'm very fem, other days more androgynes. I don't mind they them pronouns, but would definitely prefer he/him. That's the thing about putting humans in boxes, they can be guiding and constraining. I find it helpful to know that I'm not alone.

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

See that's also fine too. I have a friend of mine who is very Queer and NOT in a straight passing relationship. But they feel they wanna stay undefined for the time being. So they just use the Queer label and the Progress flag.

[@lottie659]

Does anyone know any other good story time channels

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

I know starfishface does storytimes with art from time to time

[@NekoEijiKikumaru]

It gives ME gender euphoria hearing people's stories like this. Cheers, and you're always welcome in the family! We love having you here!

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

awww thank you for your sweet kind words

[@BiblicallyAccurateHoodie]

Queer is a slur???

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

To some people it is

[@Eli_sharing_TheGospel_]

Romans 10:9 If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

[@Twist3dDisast3r]

...Brother I'm Jewish

[@Eli_sharing_TheGospel_]

@@Twist3dDisast3r Jesus is the messiah. He died on the cross for our sins and he’s the only way to be saved. We are not saved by works of the law.

[@Minspi_26]

You realy think commenting that will change anyones mind and soul i didnt know we had a full circuis in one man you dont get people to god with fear and hate and using a biased translation of the greek text to push an agenda you sir are a complete clown