COMMON: The 7 Red Flag Signs of a Future Faker!

[@mrttamara]

I wouldn’t want a guy who has so many past relationships. It makes me think that he is a womanizer.

[@wildsiempre3716]

He is a narcissist

[@debbyluxe]

@@fedoramcclaren4294 Right all you have to do is observe them

[@Ang_Nicole]

I’m slowly but surely learning that I need to be strict with my standards and boundaries with men. Growing up, I was taught to be more tolerant of men, but nothing comes from being the nice girl except heartbreak and pain. I’m over it 😂 **EDIT** I love how Chloe’s comment section is it’s own sisterhood. Thank you all for your advice and encouragement❤️

[@haitianqueen4218]

Same! I'm constantly getting hurt because of it. I truly find it baffling when men state that they like nice girls but disrespect them like no other.

[@aprokofashionbykharis6357]

Yeeees I’m definitely over it 😤

[@mekadoe9993]

Amen !

[@bonniebrown4497]

You can't be too nice to men. They'll take advantage.

[@unlisted333]

DATE MULTIPLE MEN! It solves a lot of what you’re struggling with. It’s the best tactic to keep you from over emotionally investing in one man before he’s has committed to you. It keeps you from spending too much time with one man, you’ll have a great time learning to receive from men without feeling you need to do anything in return. No need to be bitchy, stay sweet but advocate for self.

[@JukuduB]

This man has been a time waster for yearsss! Omg.

[@themoonbleu627]

tell it !!!!!!

[@vol.9543]

Habitual

[@everyonedeservestogohome2949]

Chiiiile

[@geovanajalio4200]

Leave this man alone. He's not the problem. The women are.

[@georgiahylton2766]

Because he is gay

[@kinkykirby4798]

Man, I was almost tricked by a future faker. Luckily, I got out in two months after realizing his words weren't matching his actions. Never again.

[@tkjspeaks1491]

THIS

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

👏🏽

[@jossly21]

Sis I wish I did this. 8 Months wasted.

[@Eternal32bloom]

Good for you! Always recognize the red flags 🚩!

[@MrDDUDLEY10]

Mine took 3 years 🥴 I know now though!

[@lyndoraburroughs-robinson5663]

Yes, Common said that Michelle Obama asked him why he wasn't married and he replied that he hadn't found a Woman like her yet 🙄. Lying through his Teeth. He had dated M C Lyte, Serena Williams, A prominent DC Attorney, and Angela Lee Rye at that time. Ladies let's say this all together now PLAYER 🤣🤣🤣🤣💯

[@AllThingsTiffanyTV]

He meant not a career woman. Probably a house woman who serves her husband and raise her children gracefully. Very feminine chic and inspiring. Cook and clean …Mrs Michelle followed her husband vision up until the children were older….I’m just speculating that’s what he wants. He seemed to be the type who wants his women all about him 😬 Obama literally is in loooove with his wife. He cherishes her. Common has yet to show those same things for women. Therapy is needed.

[@TheeOne4.44]

He really likes Men

[@camillemurphy73]

ERYKAH BADU

[@Pursuepeace0715]

@@camillemurphy73 that's right this guy gets around

[@missj5564]

He probably does not want to be with women.

[@purposedpatience6597]

A red flag to me is when someone thinks they dont need therapy! especially if they have past trauma.. I purposely talk about the power of therapy so i can hear a mans reaction. LOL

[@TheNewFeminine]

Or a woman. You’d be surprised at how many women would rather jump through a circus ring on fire than to seek mental help.💄

[@purposedpatience6597]

@@TheNewFeminine so true 💕 The clock is ticking and I’m watching it Closely lol 🙏🏽Ty for being a vessel of wisdom 💕

[@purposedpatience6597]

@@jchris4090 amen to that♥️ agreed

[@dcryptospace1284]

Lol

[@kathyalex778]

@@sheenabean2957 That’s beautiful! Congrats to you two

[@cocoarose9990]

To be fair, women need to take responsibility as well. If a dude ASKS me out....he needs to be clear about his intentions within 60 to 90 days....whether he is looking for something serious or casual. If he is vague or silent on the issue...I simply make myself available to be pursued by others. I had one guy who was pissed and to this day (3 years later) cannot look me in the eye. He thought he was going to play on my time and looked up and I was with someone else one week after he last took me out.

[@db7234]

@Cocoa Rose it doesn’t take 60 to 90 days for a man to know his intentions. People know if they are ready to focus on a relationship (settle down in the near future if they find the one) or if they just want something casual. You should know this within the first week of meeting a person. Before you even go out on a date.

[@cocoarose9990]

@@db7234 You are correct. I guess I was giving a little leeway for shy dudes, etc. But yeah, with age I learned that men know early on...first few dates if they like you.

[@allisond4916]

Some men lie about their intentions though and can keep up the charade for long periods of time.

[@db7234]

@Cocoa Rose I learned that lesson too

[@Cs-ym5nh]

​@@db7234 it may not take 60 or 90s days to state intimate intentions, but that only benefits casual. A man who says he is looking for a relationship and takes you on a date can still be playing games. That 60-90 days (aka how long men can fake if you let them), LIFE intentions need to be clear.A man cannot tell you he wants xyz if at minimum his Jan-March(or 1st quarter 2022) isn't planned out by the end of this week. Not dividing man intentions (his own goals and ambitions to compete) and man with woman intentions is where we give leeway for no reason. It doesn't sound "romantic" all the time or feel like you don't "fit in"initially. You fit in when you are in his life. Truly personal things aren't said month 1, but the perimeter can be.

[@viiamor9159]

Common gives me those "living for a new experience" vibe. Like, he's truly interested in the women he dates but besides them giving up the goods, he also gets a taste of their adventures and their world and a fresh start. Once he's bored of that, he calls it quits with no hard feelings. He reminds me of those boys from high-school who dated almost every girl, yet he's still cool with all of them after the breakup like nothing ever happened.

[@_JL82]

Yea I refuse to befriend any of my exes . I may speak to one , as he’s genuine.. even then I’m still distant

[@ukkugoodasfidem]

Yes! They didn’t seem compatible at all. But everything in Hollywood is a show. She may not even be as ghetto as she puts on. It’s all a facade for ALL celebrities. We will never know know the real them.

[@muffy9215]

@@ukkugoodasfidem I agree with your 💯

[@Introvertsan]

I agree that is what he is. So it wastes their time but he is having the time of his life

[@MrDDUDLEY10]

There is usually a bad reason why they are my ex.. so there will be no friendships.. he wasn’t my friend while together.. there is no possible way he could be my friend afterwards

[@purpleflows5680]

Future fakers hide under the “he has potential” umbrella. Avoid at all costs.

[@kathyalex778]

Don’t believe a word that comes out of a man’s mouth

[@EarthAngel44-qmcc]

Right!!

[@EarthAngel44-qmcc]

Right!!

[@kamarimari7765]

Absolutely!!!

[@mmbbee]

women also don't realize he has the "potential" to waste ur time as well

[@Bawdybybee]

CHLOE THANK GOD FOR YOUR LIFE! I’m 23 and was dealing with a man who was in his later 30s on and off and I recently came to my senses. He’s never been married but has 3 BMs…. And didn’t tell me until the last minute !

[@Beautiful_Butterfly]

Great JOB!!!!!

[@radiantgoldensun6438]

Oh hellll no RUn!

[@annicks7385]

What a waste of time . My ex was like this ... always a damn excuse . Even after the break up , telling me I was the most perfect woman . So what was the problem ? Smh it’s also GASLIGhTING !!! They do not plan to marry .

[@deliteful1991]

My ex also.

[@Thankgot]

Ladies take your clown shoes off.most of this men need a therapist's chair. Their emotionally unavailable. They will hurt you

[@Maimuna_joy]

I wish I had all this game when I was in my 20’s.

[@movingforward2711]

Me too

[@aminah761]

Me too I’m 42 now ughh

[@simplysunshine9868]

I’m 50yrs Fabulous 💃🏿 Knowledge is Power! The most important thing is WE have this knowledge NOW so that WE can spot and repel the 🐍

[@gutchiespencer2714]

NEVER, EVER tell a man about your past relationships, especially bad experiences because he will use that against you.....Also, many men have been sexually abused/ molested as youngsters and are living with the unhealed trauma even with attempted therapy, the experience has left them confused about their sexuality.....

[@globalnationalismyoutube]

Shouldn't you and your partner tell each other about their past so that you understand each other better.

[@JukuduB]

@@globalnationalismyoutube that is the normal thing to do. However, some things you must keep to yourself especially extremely personal things. It's true, a man can be upset with you and throw it in your face. Especially if he himself is not in a healthy space.

[@JukuduB]

And the sexual abuse comment is true. I have a high school friend who knows he loves women but has issues with healthy bonds with women. He was molested as a child and very sensitive. He will cut you off immediately when he feels triggered. Extreme therapy is needed!

[@animezae]

FACTS

[@asiachestnut4210]

so true sound like my last 2 exes

[@ArtemisUnderscoreJ]

A public break-up during the holidays feels like salt in the wound.

[@purposedpatience6597]

It was intentional. Narcs do that in order to ruin your holiday 🚩🚩🚩

[@TheCruzan26]

Nah, it sounds like he saved money on gifts. 🤣

[@wildsiempre3716]

@@purposedpatience6597 yess common is a narcissist 🤣

[@sminno]

He is both. He wants the perks and benefits of commitment but not the responsibility/ leadership of the actual commitment

[@ClaireHaire]

*Love bombing doesn't work for me, my love language is acts of service, so my nature naturally wards off dusties. My issue is that fact that he pretends that he wants to settle down but, it will never happen & some women think that they can change that. He's 50 and set in his ways, I feel like he had a chance w/someone when he was younger & blew it because, he felt that as a rapper he didn't want to be tied down and now spends the rest of his days "searching" for this "perfect woman" that doesn't exist.*

[@scorpionpam]

@itsbubbles Saaaammee!!!!

[@Jennifer-Guerlain]

I NEVER date men that hit their mid forties & never married because girl, you’re the next person whose time he’ll waste. Men in that age range that have never had long term relationships are a no no for me!

[@Wholelottarosie-lc8ed]

I'm 42...never married no kids because men my age are terrible. They refuse to grow up and think they can run around and be with 20 year olds that they can manipulate and control. What's sad is society QUICKLY and HARSHLY judges me and tells me I'm the issue, expecting me to lower my values and standards to be with a grown boy, that will cause me nothing but heartache, trauma and age me, but the boy gets a free pass.

[@akg4n8]

Lesson learned. Time is the one commodity you can never get back. Let no GROWN boy waste your time. Number one lesson I’m teaching my nieces and future daughter. Walk away and do it EARLY.

[@staceydenise5538]

Thank you for putting together such pertinent information on all these issues. I fell for the hypogamy/homogamy facade. I didn't know my worth relying on my masculine energy because it was praised growing up. A couple of marriages later and I am starting over with such optimism and excitement for learning this info even though I'm 48. It's never to late Chole!!

[@dcryptospace1284]

That’s right!! It’s never too late sis!!💗🙏🏽

[@stephanies9071]

As long as there's breath and your body and your healthy, most definitely not.🙏🏿💖.

[@nessawithsmiles]

I appreciate this video because if Common does end up married to someone, people are going to start singing about all the things that woman did to become the exception. When in reality, if you give it time, the history of his past relationships will show throughout the relationship with whoever he decides to pretend to settle down with. It will be more about convenience than anything.

[@SunandSunflowers]

Wow yea....you speak truth sis

[@thewrongshoes]

I think he might marry when he gets old and feels mortal instead of immortal. Some men will do it because they feel old and they want a rocker buddy. Whoever is around when that happens gets the ring .

[@kimberly9276]

@@thewrongshoes He works hard at staying young.

[@kathyalex778]

I don't know if it's because of social media or what, but you're absolutely right that so many people want to be the "exception" and be "special" and outside the norm in every single situation. We should always go in with a strategy when dating and marrying and using methods that have proven positive results, not take a man with a bunch of baggage and a laundry list of past bad decisions and hope that by the time he meets us, he'll be 100% done with therapy and ready to be the perfect partner. Nah 😂

[@vol.9543]

@@thewrongshoes rocker buddy…..? You mean a nurse 👩‍⚕️ ?😆

[@missfavoured]

It never sat well with me when she publicly shared her point of view of their proposal and family building, when he never made a sound about it. Learning from you, Chloe.

[@201stars]

Damn that’s a good point. Her loud mouth was doing all the talking. Smh

[@crystalcormier9376]

Yeah common wasnt makin it well known on what he wanted. I guess it was case of I'm just goin with the flow until somethin else catches my eye. Smh lol

[@missfavoured]

@@crystalcormier9376 May be true. He missed out on Angela with this behaviour.

[@maureensisi]

Yess, flattery is a huge red flag! God loves us so much that he even warns us "For such persons do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites, and by smooth talk and flattery they deceive the hearts of the naive." - Romans 16:18 Dont believe everything men say, no matter who they may be. Thank you Chloe for your amazing content💛💛

[@___shaishayshae__]

Thank you

[@chiomalala7338]

I'm grateful my leading "love language" is not words of affirmation. I honestly couldn't care what is said, word is cheap. I look at actions and consistent actions that back up said words. Also ladies don't ignore your intuition and be discerning.

[@lyndoraburroughs-robinson5663]

Exactly 💯

[@movingforward2711]

True

[@sue_geele]

I’m single until I have a wedding date and dress ready! 😂 No cap!

[@nkolemwaba2526]

Common doesn't want marriage and he doesn't want kids. My issue with alot of people who live unconventional lives is that they go after people who don't want the same things. I don't know what it is about their own kind that puts them off. I agree with those who are saying that he will wake up one day and realize that he is getting old and his peter pan selfish lifestyle is impractical then marry whoever out of convenience, and then try to spin things like he finally found the one but we will know, we will all know.

[@kathyalex778]

I think a lot of people today date and marry based solely on physical attraction, and that's one of the reasons why lots have many sexual partners and the divorce rate is so high. When you don't find someone who shares the same values and direction in life, you'll definitely be miserable in the long term, confused, and praying and hoping your partner will magically change someday. Some people take "opposites attract" way too far and find someone who shares nothing with them but lust and "go with the flow" mindset 🤷‍♀️

[@plmitch]

Players love to 🎮 ...... there's no fun in playing with someone who offers no challenges or hurdles/hoops to jump through. It's actually pretty sociopathic....

[@plmitch]

@@p_tiffanii ABSOLUTELY!!! it's ENERGY THEFT!!! you cannot "rob" someone who offers NOTHING.... People think I'm stressed b/c I'm my age and never been married and have no children. I'm ACTUALLY very healthy because I've never succumbed to these energy 🧛🏾‍♂️!!! I had a progressive mother who had me in therapy for family issues since I was seven, so I'm not gun shy about getting tuned up. I have a therapist now and will have one until I exit this planet!! 😆🥰😊

[@ochacal7794]

Maybe is not selfish maybe Marriage is not for him right now!! Men don’t have agency for getting married.... we just don’t

[@plmitch]

@@p_tiffanii to you as well!!!

[@Model_Roe]

Important to note Common was sexually abused when he was younger and from the looks of it never got psycho therapy to resolve his scars I wouldn't be surprised if that is a factor in his inability to commit to women considering he's more or less pushing 50 and hasn't settled down with anybody

[@Chevonne8]

I think he wrote a book about addressing the assault but I’m not for sure if he went to counseling for it. He also maybe in fear to commit

[@Model_Roe]

@@Chevonne8 if he was consistent in counseling he would have been healed and been able to have a functional relationship with a female but like a lot of black people and considering his age he probably was averse to therapy my mom is his age group and she was always refusing to go to therapy even though I thought it would help her

[@evelynseden]

In red table talk, he said he went to therapy so maybe he isn’t ready to heal.

[@kalimistakidou9103]

@@Model_Roe consistency does not equate to a certainty

[@Model_Roe]

@@kalimistakidou9103 it's not about certainty because as someone who's been through years of therapy it's a process and there's levels but what I'm saying is consistent in your journey to heal will get you to a place where you're functional enough to not be traumatised by what happened to you in your childhood and I don't know if he's done that kind of internal work yet like I said he's almost 50 black people his age group were adverse to the therapy thing

[@sheritownsend7525]

I believe 90% of the things you mentioned are red flags women choose to ignore. EXAMPLE: 1) ten year engagements. 2) going for guys that they KNOW have a horrible dating history. 3) going for guys already in relationships. 4) allowing men to have access to their accounts. I've known very intelligent women who did these things. I used to try say something when I saw my GFs go down that road. Now, I 've learned to keep my mouth shut. They don't want to hear it, because they already KNOW, and don't want it pointed out. I used to think women were naive when it came to men. Now I believe many go into these relationships with their eyes wide open. The common denominator seems to be the idea that they are going to be that SPECIAL someone who gets a different result. There's definitely some self delusion there. Just don't come to me complaining when it doesn't work out.

[@shawnigirl405]

I have two thoughts on this the first is I believe Common chooses women who he thinks other men wouldn’t likely choose first. That way he can be the “ prize” in the relationship” because the woman might have a sense of Wow he picked me? I’m so lucky in other words validation from a man. The second part is that I believe that when you are dating as a woman of faith you should not be dating a man that you would not marry. In other words if you and him have not discussed what the purpose of your courtship is and the goal is not mutual than move on period. My husband and I meet discussed that we wanted to court towards marriage and in five weeks he proposed we have been married 10 years as of last month. All praise to the Lord. FYI this was a behavior I had to learn after doing things the wrong way 🥰

[@DancingDeity]

That makes me wonder if my ex thought the same of me - that I wouldn’t be other men’s first choice (which isn’t far from the truth - I have work to do). It’s like he knew he didn’t bring much value and suspected that a woman with limited choices would be more tolerant of that. It makes me feel like shit. I was the ultimate placeholder.

[@loveyb3347]

@@DancingDeity im going to be honest. Men do that. But just stay positive an glow girl.

[@shawnigirl405]

@@DancingDeity yesss that’s it !the first part of ur statement. Like oh Shes lucky to have me all the woman look at me. So she’s going to deal with what I dish out. Some women do feel validated when “attractive men” choose them. Like it makes them feel special. And a man that has no intentions of marrying providing and covering them will be very careful to pick those woman with that mindset. The second part of your statement in my experience is accurate as well for men that aren’t completely ok with the expectations or boundaries that you have communicated in regard to you alls relationship but knows that you are a good catch enjoys the benefits of being with and knows that u would be an answered prayer to someone so they stay in relationship with you but are also looking for the next best thing or a better version of you… which never happens. Like you said a placeholder 👉🏽 that part.

[@aphroditeg2712]

@@DancingDeity glow up, it's the best revenge. And one man's 6 is another man's 8

[@TheCruzan26]

@@loveyb3347 Yes, men do this because there's plenty of women wanting men out of their leagues. I can't tell you how many women I come across that's overweight but say they only date men in shape. You date these women knowing you have a higher SMV than them.

[@nicolebrown5987]

I don't have dating experience and I'm over 30....this is helpful to us Chloe!! God it makes me afraid to date.

[@deshawnm06]

Same

[@Cpre1111]

Me too.

[@nkolemwaba2526]

I'm over 30 and I've never been in a serious or long-term relationship. I feel like I'm the only one sometimes 🤦

[@brooklynredbird3298]

Same. It's not uncommon. Sometimes you get wisdom from learning from other's mistakes rather than going through it yourself.

[@blckstrdust2703]

Understandable for sure. But don’t let these men make you afraid and miss your blessings… go where you are appreciated. Work On yourself and do what makes you happy. 🤗

[@marsishome9488]

This video describes the vast majority of men that I've met in my life. I recall a man telling me that he lost count of how many women that he slept with, I asked him if he slept with more than a few hundred, he said yes, but he don't recall the exact amount and of course he made it seem like his promiscuity took place in his younger years but come to find out, at 53 he was still womanizing and sleeping with lots of women. I've come to conclude that when a man tells me about his shameful past, I believe that he is the same person until he proves otherwise. I no longer give people the benefit of doubt.

[@ladybugroyal5264]

R👀ght💥🔥👏💕🤟🤘👍✌️

[@shutit4024]

I had a guy lie about his body count it was high but not that high it was a big turn off of him asking me twice but when I asked back he said 5 then he said I think 6 then he said 4 but I later found out it was almost half his age smh

[@inspiredbydior5447]

Yea that is such a turn off! And I don't believe people change. I believe they can make alterations to their character and behaviors, but change? I used to think it was possible, but not anymore. We are who we are based on our childhood and life experiences; in order to change that, we'd have to go back in time and redo childhood and the things we experienced in life. That's just my opinion...If you're generally a nice/kind-hearted person, that's just who you are by nature. You might be able to grow/learn to have tough skin, but the core of who you are, is exactly that. Your overall moral compass cannot be changed.

[@leahlatrice7227]

I recently dated a future faker but thank God I had sense enough to know just because he spoke of the future didn’t mean he wanted that with me

[@stellabellafontay9366]

I've never found Common to be attractive or appealing. This was excellent though. Adding "future fakers" to my love vocabulary.

[@f.-j.j.5738]

I think as women we need to take some accountability. It's the only way to place the power to change back into our hands. If a man has been wasting 2 or 3 or 4 women's time, youth and womb power, why would it be different with you? Pass your turn, Beautiful, and find a man who desires what you desire in a relationship.

[@kathyalex778]

Too many people walk into relationships blindly believing they are "special" and the "exception" to the string of their partner's bad behavioral patterns. NOPE

[@Pursuepeace0715]

because for some crazy reason we think that just maybe we might be the exception. But Common doesn't want to settle down he is just a "serial dater". The rumor mill stated the reason he and Angela Rye broke up was because she wanted kids and he did not. who knows.

[@wahoo4uva]

Exactly!

[@pamellatofu4966]

I've never delt with this kind of guy before but it looks like Common has commitment issues and unresolved issues that could stem from his past somewhere. I also agree with Chloe that he doesn't give off provider protector vibes. He looks like the receiver in his relationships. As always therapy is the way to go. Broken people tend to choose each other whether they mean to or not. Hopefully him and Tiffany consider going to therapy. I don't think life-long bachelors behave like this. Generally you know or if not they won't lie to you about their level of commitment. But even so, you can tell by their dating history and lifestyle that they are not the types to marry and have kids. In my opinion bachelors are easier to read than future fakers because there's little manipulation or zero involved.

[@kikikareema5912]

He was molested when he was ten by a man. He has trust issues somewhere.

[@pamellatofu4966]

@@kikikareema5912 Ooh flip. I didn't know about that but that trauma is motivation enough to start going to therapy to heal. Whether he dicides to settle down and marry or remain a bachelor, he definitely deserves healing.

[@Pursuepeace0715]

Tiffany Hadish and Common just didn't seem like a couple to me. Surprised they got together but not surprised they broke up. they did not seem like each others type. very odd couple. This guy has dated singers, actresses, Athletes, activists and cannot commit!. He has been everywhere and is the common denominator in all the break ups. Common IS a red flag and I would avoid him like the plague.

[@chrysanthemum3464]

Common and the white lady looked even more odd. Or did you miss that?

[@user-yk6nj7lp8j]

He is definitely a future faker. She surely wasted her damn time.

[@CommunicatingPodcast]

Wasted 3 years of Serena's.

[@---re9jc]

@@CommunicatingPodcast Such a mean behaviour. Definitely a a fraud.

[@joanofarcxxi]

Avoid a man who has never been married, and especially if he is older and has a past history of problems with women. Better run. There is a reason why that man is still single. And there are no exceptions in that, you will not change him, and you will regret wasting your time. He is quite happy being a bachelor and loves the seduction game, plenty of practice, he is good at it, he gets a rush from it, he gets high on making women melt. It's like cotton candy: sweet, beautiful, melts in your mouth, but doesn't last, and it leaves you feeling hungry, and it has a negative effect on your health. Ends with you disappointed and frequently cheated on, and the fool playing victim with the next woman to justify why he never got married.

[@schmaelepaulection1431]

Couldn't have said it better myself 💯

[@gargoyliangaming6556]

Avoid a man who has never been married or yea so get with a guy with 3 ex wives. Yall sound stupid asf reading through these comments. No wonder yall keep each other miserable with horrible delusional advice to one another. Yall need Christ thats what Yall need

[@the_emmasculator]

But who wants someone who's been married numerous times with ex and baby mama drama!? No thank you

[@joanofarcxxi]

@@the_emmasculator Did you watch the video? Pretty obvious to any intelligent person that those types should be avoided. No self respecting lady is going to subject herself to a man who spreads himself around. And yet, many women don't avoid them. It's an epidemic. I added the single guys because they are much more difficult to detect and just as hopeless in the end.

[@the_emmasculator]

@@joanofarcxxi What I'm saying is Im more wary of a man with multiple failed relationships than one who hasn't been married. Not married isn't always an indicator of issues, while dumpster fire past relationships are almost ALWAYS harbingers of serious problems.

[@iamamazing7418]

I think common is fighting alot of inner demons. He has to put on for the world, and pretend to be one way. I think he's not comfortable within himself and waste time with women while trying to figure himself out. These kind of people are emotional dangerous and selfish. He needs some alone time. I hope the next person he deals with proceeds with caution. Ladies please take note.

[@OHoneyPot]

This❣️

[@TheeOne4.44]

He's a Pisces Male too.. Wishy washy, can't make clear decisions, very hyper sexual, delusional, selfish and a few more things. I honestly believe he likes Men, but may be afraid to live his life publicly with a Man.. I never saw a connection with Common & that Comedian anyway.

[@iamamazing7418]

@@TheeOne4.44 I just ended my engagement with a Pisces man, and everything you said is sooo accurate!

[@H_NNY]

@@iamamazing7418 I moved back in with my parents and broke up with my pisces ex too! They make you feel crazy but they’re so slick with their manipulation and abuse. They definitely know how to “put on”.

[@iamamazing7418]

@@H_NNY Yes they are very slick, I'm glad you are starting over. I feel free and at peace. Many blessings to you, the next level is going to be amazing!

[@ShelbySteele23]

In my experience (and opinion) men like Common are usually struggling with their sexuality. Also, I'm not update on him, but this situation reminds me of Hill Harper. He dated quite a few starlets but never married and adopted a son, "alone". Interesting.

[@tya4662]

im thinking the same thing!

[@astarisborn9820]

💯!!!

[@NaijaDoll1]

Exactly 💯

[@agravery223]

Corey Booker too...

[@islandgirl8067]

Common is decent looking & talented, but he has player written all over him. He’s been with so many women but was never able to maintain a relationship. I’m side eyeing any man his age with a long dating record that’s never been married. I get the feeling Tiffany realized she was wasting her time.

[@kitty-kattkline9956]

I think he thinks HE'S the PRIZE.

[@joyokere2613]

"It's not common knowledge that I'm with Common"- Tiffany Haddish on Ellen's show! Yep she was broadcasting him like he were the price...it was clear then that something wasn't potentially right...I wish them both well!!!

[@latifajenkins6547]

Common needs to live his true self and be happy!!!

[@NeishaNineStarz]

This could be it he’s not being honest about what he really wants.

[@ka8155]

I'm convinced he likes men.

[@tedeishawatson3813]

Common just wants to be COMMON

[@latoshathomas3612]

He said before they got together he didn't want kids. She in the process of adoption. They aren't on the same page period

[@Glad2BGolden]

I feel like roster dating is underrated and understated. Players are good for boosting your ego. Common like Leo, are just going to rotate young women in and out through the revolving doors until Father Time shows up or they start to feel their mortality. Women need to start learning to judge men as they judge us. Some men are players, play with them then move on to your husband. These men are great for women when we are sowing our oats and also getting a come up from their financial support and connections. Don’t take it personal, people are out here doing whatever. You have to look out for your own interests.

[@tq325]

I don't think he's necessarily a future faker. He probably doesn't even make promises per se. Women who deal with these types have to know what their end goal is from jump and make smart decisions. Vet from day one and don't waste your own time.

[@NalaMahal]

I have been talking to someone who I knew through his family and I noticed some of these flags. I called him out for blame shifting and he denied it - nothing is ever his fault; I also asked him about his past relationships and they all sounded toxic where again it was something they did, not him. And I always get this feeling that he hangs up whenever he doesn’t want to respond to something. I’ve been on a call with other narcissists, one being a former supervisor is a group zoom meeting, and they all hung up the phone when they got wired up.

[@wildsiempre3716]

Yep that's what they do 🤣 you got them hanging up the phone or fake "I'll call you later "

[@NalaMahal]

@@wildsiempre3716 it’s bizarre 😂 like he asked me a question then call ends. One time, I called and he answered referring me as “hey kid” then I responded by saying “who?” and the call ends 😆 I called back and he acted like there was something wrong with the connection.

[@wildsiempre3716]

@@NalaMahal hahaha I'm guessing you're like me ? Once you figure out they are a narcissist and rage like that you'll do it on purpose just so they hang up or stop texting you for a few days 🤣 I do it just so my ex stop hitting me up changed number he found that and called me mad and I'm like dude you went out your way to find my number to start drama 🤣 so now I just purposely make him have a narcissist injury so he leave me a lone for a few days the longest time was a month and I felt so light and happy ...like he have a bug or something soon as I got promoted here he comes trying to be nice fake future talking and then upset I said I don't want a relationship 🤣

[@danijasthestylist1991]

I can tell from the very beginning that their relationship wouldn’t last(not trying to be negative)but for me their energies for having/being in healthy relationship were both wayyyy off especially commons

[@aphroditeg2712]

Perhaps, like Malik Yoba in the past, he is hiding and not ready to come out?

[@kdtabb]

or johnny gill

[@FateOfTheElephant]

Honestly wish I had friends like in this comment section, you're all amazing women.

[@essencemack5809]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@fizahaque]

🥰🥰🥰

[@SB-mf2th]

I remember meeting Common at his book signing (long lines of black women) and he was so socially awkward as if he'd never been with women in real life. It was the kind of social awkwardness you wouldn't expect from a man like him. Perhaps he's bisexual or on the downlow or has a woman in secret who is cool being a secret. I never thought Common and Tiffany were together frfr. I always thought it was a part of her joke skits and for their personal PR/brand.

[@Yuki._.948]

I agree. I saw Common as well at a CD signing after his concert and I just got a strange vibe from him. Most of his fans were women and he seemed like he wasn't feeling any of them even as an artist that appreciates his fans. He just wanted to get his money and leave. Afterwards I did not care for him anymore.

[@J-Lynnn]

Wow interesting

[@wildsiempre3716]

Narcissist like to act that way to get the women they get because women find them "interesting" lol it's a game to them

[@fallonrappaport5270]

He is gay or anything of that nature, that's a cruel rumor.

[@kidchocolate9253]

This is another Pandemic. So many variants with this one too.

[@MaryJane.007]

I hope he is being honest with these women from the very beginning, if children and marriage is not what he desires.

[@soystef]

And I always thought that his song “Come Close” was my dream wedding song… he never came to embody his lyrics of that beautiful song

[@missdrgirlfriend]

it's interesting how Common's attractiveness has plummeted over the years.

[@LizNeptune]

I just heard of this "future faking" term about 2 weeks ago but of course have been experiencing it for as long as I've been dating!! How can I tell a guy to stop talking about the future when we hardly know each other? It's like my normal, frontal brain understand it's all smoke and mirrors but my reptillian brain is still storing this information like, oh there will be a future!

[@zenanirae]

If Chloe drops a video on a weekday evening… you know it’s important.

[@kaleidojess]

Time is valuable and precious. It’s disrespectful to even pretend to want a future with someone.

[@kaybee5162]

Thank you for reminding us that these types of men come in all flavors!!! A lot of women forget about this and only discriminate against one type or race.

[@msevolution2317]

Watching this is turning my stomach, I was SO naive and I really have a lot to learn.

[@mybrwnisbeautifulhin1165]

My honest opinion, I think Common might be on the dl.

[@esemusic8294]

I agree

[@deandravr]

All the women he has ever dated may be BEARDS.

[@loveyb3347]

Women need to stop ignoring not every man wants a relationship.Not every man wants to provide.Some just want convenient sex and company.Also, men often view us as objects not people. They like to flaunt talented and rich women like a "look what I got" typeof thing..Women are more honest about what we want in these situations bc men are likely to be down. Women on the other hand,have to be buttered up and get something to open up in that way especially if they are high value or high earning women. Jlo is the same exact way as Common and many other celebrities. Lots of these celebs have commitment issues or just made it so far (financially and time wise)in singleness they almost dont want fulltime companionship. Not every man or woman is gay if they dont want a man or womans company 24/7 til they leave here. These clowns are telling us who they are we just dont listen.

[@fchenry86]

Women need to stop having soul ties with men like this! It's very dangerous to ones mental, spiritual, and emotional stability. I could tell Common is the problem when it comes to committed relationships especially when he let go of Erykah Badu, Serena Williams, Taraji P, and Angela Rye. All women who are deemed high quality, successful, and substance.

[@unchainyourbrain3312]

This man is not the sharpest knife in the set.A woman more than likely would rather count him as a dodged bullet.

[@antasiashaw8815]

Chloe I love your channel I’ve been listening to you for the last 5 months and I’ve learned so much you’re saving me from so many dusty men

[@maddielu5286]

I was alarmed when she started claiming him. I told someone at the time that I would never claim him if I was her.

[@MaryJane.007]

I recall reading somewhere that Angela Rye wanted children and a family. I believe Common does not want more children.

[@CommunicatingPodcast]

I wonder if he's upfront about it though. Serena publicly admitted to wanting to marry him and have his kids. She could have saved 3 years of her life had he told her his intentions from the get go.

[@merlene_k]

My exx was definitely a future faker. He sold me on so many future lies and promises 💔 and i fell for it. Now I'm definitely wiser

[@tarao4382]

Chloe has done it again!! Hands down the best content.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Common is a non factor at this point. Same old cycle! 🥴🥴🥴🙄🙄🙄

[@Mimi-xv6jm]

I’m glad Tiffany made it out of that relationship and I wish her success with being a mentally healthy person after Common. I hope many women learn from her public experience of being too eager to have a man. Because, this experience can make her a stronger person who develops concrete boundaries with herself and other people. From these experiences, “the victim” can learn to develop discernment and trust her intuition as a guide. And ladies, don’t listen to people trying to shame you because you learned to level up from a future faker. What do men like Common learn from a break up? Nothing. Which is why he’ll forever be a loser, because men like him refuse to be better. I hope Tiffany is the heroine of this cautionary story.

[@peace.404]

Tiffany just got her a piece for the quarantine, and now she is moving on.

[@chinedumudeagbala2658]

I noticed that Common jumps on dating a Woman when she is at the peak of her career : - Serena when she was the reigning tennis champ - Angela during the beginning of the black reckoning movement when she was at the forefront - Tiffany at the peak of her career Something about that is just fishy and wierd .., it’s like he clout chases by jumping on their success

[@bidah007]

OOOO that'S AN EXCELLENT POINT and then he break up with them as if he was in a mission to break those ladies emotionally !!!

[@sharlonlewis784]

OMG!! I briefly dated someone like this!! Dangled the idea of a bright future together and when I really looked at their past and the way they have set up their life, I realised that they have fashioned themselves to be a bachelor for life! For once I realised my worth and got out… not gonna lie- the attention can be intoxicating, but it’s not worth it in the end. I cut that person and that energy out of my life completely. I pray he finds peace within himself and can eventually find true love though…🙏🏽

[@ceemac304]

Stop being so desperate. Tifanny seem desperate. Common is a perpetual bachelor.

[@szaszathebore8096]

Her energy just seemed like she was chasing him. Never heard him mention her really!

[@kristadaniels3467]

In interviews she said he pursued her. She told him no several times because she knew other women he dated. Eventually she gave him a chance, she didn't chaser him.

[@oshun2866]

The only woman we know of that he seemed captivated and closest to being wifey was Erykah Badu. Erykah never really took him seriously or seemed into Common. Had him wearing crochet pants. That weird circus album and then she dumped him. 😂😂 Tiffany seemed too giddy and claimed him publicly and he always gave her the good friend public treatment. Common chase after women that don’t want him

[@shaunaf2811]

Crochet pants 😂

[@YGabi333]

This came like the right moment for me to hear!! Just today I was asking God/universe to show me if I have to leave someone who I have met a couple of weeks ago. It started so nice and suddenly cold. Me afraid to make the wrong choice, came this video as a blessing! Thanks alot❤

[@tkjspeaks1491]

In the same predicament Started so nice and suddenly cold Future faker...

[@shaunaf2811]

If you have to ask for a sign, that IS the sign ❤

[@SAnderson54]

I called cap the moment Tiff Haddish went viral for stating she doesn't want a wedding ring, but wants an investment property instead...

[@shaunaf2811]

🤦🏾‍♀️

[@sabymindbiz]

Chloe: Been there, done that...you're still giving great advice for the OGs, too! Thank you...you're blessed beyond the moon!✌💕🙌🔥🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@sydtaylor4022]

i thought 'future faking" was when a man is just like future but he pretends not to be

[@intergalacticbnb]

😂

[@inspiredbydior5447]

LMAO!

[@zhanazhana1001]

Most celebs have dating/commitment issues. I don’t take any celeb relationship serious. It’s also fair to mention the only woman he has been with that has a stable relationship is Serena. They all have issues in my opinion

[@colleenmariet]

Thank you for enlightening us as usual Chloe.

[@MissKimLifeStyle]

Stevie Wonder could see Common & Tiffany weren’t going to last longer than a year. Common has issues. He got with Tiffany shortly after Jaguar Wright spilled that tea about him. I knew he was just trying to get the heat off of him by hooking up with that loudmouth thirsty woman. I wonder who his next victim, I mean girlfriend will be.

[@Investinyourselfdarling]

Serena called this out about him some time ago and then she met her now husband. She define this perfectly about him.

[@heymisswest]

It's giving RUN LADIES RUN!!!

[@kanika2861]

He didn't want anybody but Erykah Badu. She broke his heart and he's been playing games ever since.

[@merinajalaya740]

Never been dogged out by multiple men. My husband is the only man I've been with but I still watch stuff like this just in case ... I gotta be ready and gamed.

[@soleil4124]

You're lucky. I'm extremely jaded after horrible experiences. All I want to do is hurt men.

[@m.reeseeversonesq.1532]

I will say that Common {Rasheed) is a complete gentleman. No matter what he may not be. He is extremely respectful.

[@moons4363]

Common gives me emotionally abusive vibes. Defo a love bomber 😒

[@ahelena2790]

Ugh. Have dealt with all of this before 😫. Never again.

[@777sweet]

He’s a Pisces Man! Nuff said. That’s how they are.

[@777sweet]

He’s a Pisces Man! Nuff said.

[@mckinleydivinity2365]

Wow really needed to hear this! Wasted 6 months. Finally waking up// taking my power back. #enoughisenough

[@pattyG2023]

Watch out Jennifer

[@AyaEgbuho]

😂😂😂

[@jespaul2582]

Common never claimed Serena either. Common is traumatized of past childhood. He just trying cope in this world

[@jespaul2582]

@@candlecane TRUE

[@abriaangel9986]

I almost made this mistake, a guy once told me he was interested, seemed so, then he ghosted and randomly called me weeks after I deleted his number to ask me out after I told him off. I declined the date and we're cool on social media but never again.

[@RUNWAYBEAUTY]

He’s definitely a future faker. He just wants to roam around.

[@lindsaypeek63]

Good points. When you have your internal boundaries in place with no judgment to the other person(man) involved then these kind of people don’t even make it to get close to you in any way. We don’t need to judge him for the way he is just have our standard in place and when it’s clear he wants something different say oh that sounds nice but not for me. This needs to be done before you give your body and heart

[@wateractivatedmakeup]

"Decepticon men" 😹😭