Don't Fumble The Bag: A Hypergamous Cautionary Tale!

[@Mrs_CandacePolite]

“What people do not know, they cannot ruin.” Thank you Chloe 🌹

[@mariejilberia5908]

Okayyy!!!

[@LaKymana]

Amen!

[@PolnaLyubvi1111]

🙏🙏🙏

[@AHealedPerspective]

FACTS!!! 📌📌📌

[@IwillNotComply_]

there is a Cape-Verdean proverb: The fish got caught because he opened his mouth.

[@donnac163]

Never heard this saying b4 but I luvvvvvvvvv it 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🤣🤣🤣

[@himynameiscandle7002]

Hmmmmn, wisdom 👏🏾

[@NBean90]

🇨🇻❤️

[@kathyalex778]

Right, it's always better to say less than to say too much.

[@nikkinanette8807]

😩😂‼️‼️

[@cocomocha]

I learned that if your man does anything for you you cannot tell friends

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

@@faa1412 What, seriously!?

[@victoriaabsalom7362]

Lesson learned!!

[@0nly.bhadbby40]

Anyone ! It’s sad

[@Noe_Excusez]

I don’t tell people much of anything. I’ve never felt comfortable… never felt like folks are happy. Shallow people will think you’re not happy because you don’t post on social media.

[@ThePinkApartment]

THIS 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@prettyladie8327]

This video is GOLDEN!! I’m dealing with a wealthy man now & he took me on a yacht dinner date, one of many with just the two of us… The 1st thing he said was..NO SOCIAL MEDIA PICS.. He doesn’t have any social media. His Mom & Dad are wealthy as well & she’s constantly asking me if I post things online.. I only have FB & haven’t posted in years…She’s so beautiful & kept!! I’m learning so much from her..She told me to NEVER over share..She’s big on being protected from the evil eye & spell casting lol

[@sonyab2u974]

💕

[@921cottoncandy]

Yessssss sis ...keep it on hush👸🏾🤗

[@begee5847]

Is she religious has she shared what to do if you think evil eye etc might be happening

[@Wingstofly-0104]

Love this! Keep going and good luck 🍀 with your beu

[@angelofthemosthigh7292]

💯I love this

[@pianotnt]

I'm so private about my love life that people don't even know if I'm straight

[@scorpionpam]

😩😩😭😭🤣🤣🤣

[@aboveaveragejane3126]

Same. All my male friends thought I was asexual and my female friends just straight out ask if Im with someone

[@cosmicbrownie333]

this is me lmaoooo

[@brooklynredbird3298]

Same. Some of my cousins think I'm gay because they've never seen me in a relationship, I don't post anything about relationships and I carefully curate what I share on social media. I'm just lowkey. Because of their internalized homophobia, it works out to my advantage because I don't have to be bothered with them and their ghetto silliness. On the flipside, I can overshare with people I'm super close with like immediate family (still working on that) but overall I'm private.

[@tiffanym9806]

🤣🤣🤣 same girl, same! Lol this tickled me!

[@prettyladie8327]

One other thing..Chloe your videos have leveled me up so much. I’m not going to lie..I’m like Cinderella. Rags to riches type story, I used to talk too much and buy all designer, looking like a Gucci billboard mess🥺😂 I thought to attract a wealthy man, I had to do silly things like that…I’m losing weight,drinking water, getting facials & taking care of myself mentally ..Which landed me a man with a whole lotta money lol…My Mama never taught me to level up because she didn’t know herself…Your videos are appreciated….PROTECT CHLOE AT ALL COST, the level up QUEEN…

[@janekhanyile7600]

🚀👏🏾❤️

[@keepitonmeatalltime5008]

Yeessssss Get you honey❤😍

[@ThatGirlSince97]

Good for you!♥️♥️

[@chakastyles8794]

Love it! So happy for you…

[@queenjackson1037]

I didn’t know that wine is something that is considered feminine, but it’s such a wonderful world to dive into. I’ve been into wine for 10 years & learn something new all the time

[@mmca9323]

I never share intimate details of my marriage, not even my best friend knows anything other than "he's fine, working hard everyday" 😁.

[@jnnlis]

Smart

[@truthinchocolate6156]

Me either girl. We been happily married for 19 years and we are private people.

[@bonniebrown4497]

Smart!

[@mattyrock2467]

yes. Thats the best thing.

[@kilimanjaro5537]

As you should!

[@Wingstofly-0104]

I have such a hard time with this. Every time I spill the beans (even to my friends) I regret it afterward. My mom always says “ There are no such thing as friends” and the older I grow the more I understand what she means. Stay quiet ladies!

[@fmc2973]

Same, I kick myself

[@fabfati]

Same here I begin to distance myself from the person I share things with

[@fmc2973]

@@ToniaAlex13 I don't it is that more so, sometimes what we got going on is meant just for us regardless

[@nikkinanette8807]

How bout you just not have friends for a while. You have too much time on your hands if you keep finding time to tell them your business dear. Please read the 48 Laws of Power 🔋. I made myself scarce, and I am now very self-content with having no girlfriends.

[@AFFTFOMSICHTS]

@@nikkinanette8807 I did this exact same thing. I got rid of all my friends to fully focus on myself without any distractions and it’s the BEST decision I ever made.

[@cleverlady4467]

Chloe you are so right about witchcraft, voodoo etc. I'm South African and it is practiced very widely here-by both men and women. That's why I stay prayed up and I keep my mouth tightly shut. Even those who one may call a friend, don't always have the best intentions in their hearts.

[@nosipho4899]

My South African sister 🙂🙂🤌🏾🤌🏾

[@ka8155]

You need to say this louder for the people in the back to hear. Witchcraft and Voodoo is real, and people are evil enough to sabotage your destiny. I stay prayed up, stay off social media, and keep my mouth shut.

[@nyaraimehlomakulu753]

Yes my dear it's true

[@KnoUrWorthLuv]

I totally agree! I live in southeastern Louisiana and Voodoo/Hoodoo is very real. Not every thing is for you to blast to the world because the people who are practicing that will use you as a target. And the reasons( if they have one) that they will do it are endless.

[@KnoNow9]

I am glad you confirmed this. I think a few people have been out to get me for years but I am very low key almost off the grid low key.

[@ShernoneM]

Just imagine all the single women currently preying on this man now...

[@Lisette121]

Chileee

[@gdisprint2928]

All the pickmee’s out there

[@So_Boujee]

My first thought!

[@AyeishaN0Curry]

Exactly. It's nobodies business but she opened Pandora's box

[@BoudoirBoutiqueNC]

They are fools, he is clearly not trying to share.

[@aimmaculate4985]

That's one reason why I never discuss my relationship issues with friends or social media. Thank you Chloe

[@kathyalex778]

Yep the only people that hear about my relationships are my mom and my therapist!

[@saritamoorebansa4485]

Agreed!!!! Keep your personal stuff personal. Keep your girl friends and family out of your business!!!!

[@MelaniaRose]

Yes indeed

[@chattingwithjojo]

Currently learning this..love my friends but ive noticed something felt off

[@shutit4024]

I see this all the time with people like they’re always showing off their relationship and going back and forth with their baby daddy/mama

[@ClaireHaire]

*Money talks & wealth whispers is my favorite quote. Privacy and who you allow into your life is a privilege not a right. The fact that she let it be known about her prenup, even with how beautiful she is, has probably warded off potential wealthy suitors because, now they know she does not know what discreet means. Also, make direct access to you expensive, I've seen ppl ruin yrs of marriage & trust over a prank.*

[@prettyladie8327]

That’s a good one… 📝

[@vol.9543]

Because she’s a BW, his haters already want to say bad things about her and now she’s given them ammo out of her desperate need for attention. Be careful what you ask for because now you got a lot of negative attention. That was way too exposing and immature. Learn to be subtle and meek. It’s feminine

[@doorknob2545]

Yess, I've seen way to many relationships go down the drain due to pranks and stunts for social media.

[@smarielynn8420]

What type of pranks?

[@thewisdomdivatv]

I didn’t post a wedding pic on social media until I had gotten the official license in the mail. Not even my family/siblings knew and some of them felt a way. I used Covid as an excuse but really that’s how I wanted to do it. Sorry not sorry…

[@TheSmokeWatcher]

Amen…my family didn’t know until my new husband moved me across the country! Sometimes it’s best that way

[@Hephzibah_n_beulah]

I still can’t understand this overwhelming need/desire folks have to share everything on social media to perfect strangers

[@barbaramorris5397]

I didnt grow up in social media era but was young enough to grow with it lol people who are my age and older over share like crazy. I use to think it was a young folk thing. Now I just don't know 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@FuturePsychNurse]

Insecurity is the only thing I can think of. I have a few close friends who do this and I realized both women desperately feel the need to be validated by peers, family and complete strangers. They can’t comprehend how I’m able to move in silence and don’t announce my shit until it transpires. There is a male I follow on Facebook that I met years back on vacation and no one knew he had a girlfriend until he posted pics of their wedding right after it happened. Some of his closest friends didn’t even know he had a girlfriend. I told myself that will be me, no one will know I have someone until those wedding pics are posted.

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

It's called attention whoring!😶

[@kathyalex778]

It comes from insecurity and boredom

[@SadeEllis626]

@@FuturePsychNurse I would be hesitant to post wedding pictures as well. A family of mine constantly posted her ex-husband and herself on social media, and they are divorced. Married couples that post too much are trying to overcompensate for something, and people can sense that. People can send you the evil eye (bad luck). If you post on any social media, make sure to have protection in place.

[@GrowEvolve78]

I've dated men that over share and post their business on social media. It's distasteful and unattractive not matter who does it.

[@ajohonly3721]

Learning to keep my private life private and the lord is doing wonders in private. It’s never too late to stop over sharing doing it slowly.

[@AlyssaHarrisMusic]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@eternalabundance39]

Thanks was just thinking that I want to stop over sharing.

[@kathyalex778]

Privacy is power. It is always better to keep personal things PERSONAL, as lurkers see private information being passed around as their chance to dive in and destroy a life. I learned my lesson about oversharing on social media and that people will twist your life story to benefit them if they are jealous or angry. It sounded like she wanted her followers to know that her life is not perfect and that she shouldn't be idolized, but it still was a bad move. I don't even post pictures of any man I'm dating, and probably won't after marriage either, because I believe in the evil eye and that what people don't know they can't ruin. Secrets and privacy are okay, and you shouldn't be ashamed of keeping things to yourself! You will thank yourself later!

[@kathyalex778]

One thing I’ll add as well is that you can always change your mind and share something you’ve kept quiet for a while if you decide it’s worth it to share. You can’t ever take public information off of social media/out of the public domain, but you lose nothing by keeping things private. When you keep personal info to yourself, it belongs to you alone. When you share it to others, the story belongs to them - which is why many people get over involved in others’ business. They feel entitled the information of the lives of others.

[@astranic]

@@kathyalex778 .

[@f.-j.j.5738]

Was married for six months the first time I put my husband on my Facebook. He did not get on there as a boyfriend (2 years) and as a fiancé (3 months). Most people outside our families knew I was dating someone when I handed out wedding invitations. Marriage is definitely spiritual and sacred and must be protected.

[@malindasuzanne9226]

My closest friends of twenty plus years knows absolutely nothing concerning my private life. I'm their friend, my marriage is not. That's how you keep long term friendships!❤️

[@Lorilores]

I just told a "friend" that my 22 year old boyfriend I’ve been dating for to years saved up 20k for the ring of my dreams. She dead looked me in the eyes and said: that’s great and all but I mean what about the commitment, are you ready for that?. She literally just moved in with her boyfriend after 4 months of knowing him ?!

[@KehindeGlam]

The chutzpah! Stay away from this friend, please. Love and light!♥️

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

Firstly,, Congratulations 🎉 And secondly, take note 📝 that friend is a snake 🐍..

[@itumelengthokwane5096]

Deep

[@Tessy29k]

She's probably desperate to get married and silently comparing herself to you wishing her man would propose. Don't tell her anything again, any advice coming from her wouldn't be genuine because she isn't being honest about her true feelings.

[@zaejohnson3414]

That is a friend you need to reevaluate. No ma’am .

[@AlyssaHarrisMusic]

Preach Chloe! I’m finally in a hypergamous relationship…I honestly don’t even feel like telling people “I have a boyfriend” anymore …because they literally can be so nosy. I know all they care about is getting info about us, him, etc. because when someone will see me after a long time it’s like, hey! How have you been? And the next question is always how are you and your boyfriend? Are you still together? Let me see a picture! And I’m like whyyyy are people so pressed like a panini to know about my Man?!?!????

[@NaomiMordi]

It's the "let me see a picture!" What's that supposed to mean?

[@beac8238]

@@NaomiMordi So they know which pic to look for when they search for him on social media and hit the friend request button lol.

[@NaomiMordi]

@@beac8238 Woah!

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

Honey, I know the feeling and it’s so, annoying.x

[@charlinecharlostin3188]

Or to talk trash if THEY don’t think he’s attractive

[@risingroses]

I think it's inherent in all of us. There's a certain "survivors guilt" or a "need to save the whole village" that comes with leveling up or hypergamy. I'm not condoning her loose lips here but I remember when I first starting listening to Chloe in 2019 and started my own journey I felt like I can't know this alone. I wanted to save my friends and family. There I was sending Chloe links and websites to my friends but now 2 years later, I realise that it wasn't about me helping my friends but it was about me being afraid that I might actually lose my friend and the life that I know. I drive a phly car now, moved to a stunning neighborhood, I have a man who provides for me and is crazy about me. Our fear makes us want to save everyone and we can't. Let us put the cape down ladies. The journey to femininity and hypergamy is lonely. ❤️

[@NaomiMordi]

Well put. 👏🏽

[@annicks7385]

You’ll try to help them and they’ll still be shady lol I stopped that long ago.

[@carrington2949]

Your existing is enough. Those who see you living your best life while always being respectful, kind, humble and maintaining strength in character is enough. If they truly love you and want to better their own lives, they may ask for advice. They will come to you. My mom sent me to stay with my aunt during the summer months. I would help her with my cousins, while she would take me places with her. I learned proper etiquette. Now as a southern girl we were always taught to be polite and respectful. My aunt and her friends simply taught me the intricacies of proper social graces. I met highly educated women who had their own businesses or were stay at home moms. Just being in their presence was enough to encourage me to never give up on bettering myself. Those who truly love you and are happy for you will let you know it.

[@candiedsugarxo4462]

I used to do the same thing when I first started this journey. Sending links and wanting to share all of the knowledge I was obtaining. But the difference between me and them is that I found this all on my own because I was spiritually ready for it. Sending links won’t always help because they won’t be in a spiritually healthy place to take it in. I agree with just leading by example and they will follow if they want to.

[@annicks7385]

@@candiedsugarxo4462 amen! What’s for you is for you . Every blessing god sends is not for you to share

[@Chevonne8]

First off, her man is fine as wine. Secondly, yes! Social media is a flexing spot. I hate it so much. I understood what she was trying to do but it was not necessary to put that post up. But as women, we do too much stuff when we are in our emotions.

[@beac8238]

It was a PSA to announce her single status, set her standards for marriage, & shame her ex-fiancee. It was poorly done & a hit on her reputation.

[@mochibubbly7434]

Yes that man is very handsome. And yes I keep all my social life off of social media. Too much haters

[@shaunaf2811]

Fine indeed.

[@nuwoman1828]

Yep social media is a highlight reel 😊

[@miamitten1123]

This is why even as a child I didn’t even like telling people where I lived.

[@scorpionpam]

Or where I work! I am the SAME WAY!!!! People make me feel like I'm paranoid! 😔😒😳😩😭

[@NotHereToMakeYouComfortable]

I LOVED the advice and this is something this generation of hypergamous women NEED TO HEAR, I am included in that, just got me a new job paying 20k more than what I am currently making I told NO one until almost a week after I signed the offer letter. Now people are mad I didn’t tell them. The quote I try to keep in mind is “Never tell bad spirits good news.” She really IMO should have kept this bit of info about the prepnup negotiations to herself now she may have potentially harmed any further negotiations with her fiancé.

[@rdaniel4810]

I got a 25k raise too...a year ago....I still haven't told anyone. And I wont.

[@keemiel4005]

@@rdaniel4810 good for you and congrats!

[@love252-p4r]

Good! I made the mistake of telling long term friends my salary and it was met with criticism and secret competition. Never again!

[@angelinazru82]

Congratulations on your new job.

[@dewilew2137]

@@love252-p4r I'm so sorry. Unfortunately, you are right. Sometimes it is best to just not discuss money at all, even with close friends and family. Everyone has the potential capacity for jealousy and selfishness, and money is one of the things that will bring it out of someone. Congratulations on your success xx

[@CreativeFya]

I’m a Scorpio and we are known to be private. Never ever felt comfortable posting a lover or even my own children. I can literally feel energy from social media and it’s toxic AF.

[@jaceeoriginated1983]

This comment! I am a Scorpio myself and I feel the same way

[@emolingling101]

Scorpio here and SAME. Me and my bestie are both scorps and we are the same about our privacy.

[@SashaFiercer]

Pisces here, I feel the same way about social media. It’s pure, palpable bad vibes.

[@LunaPaloma77]

I'm a Taurus and I'm the same, on the other hand my oldest sister is a Scorpio and she won't get off social media, posting every tiny detail about her life lol. My gemini sister is very private like me.

[@stoicphilospher374]

I’m a Scorpio as well and agree with everything you said!

[@amyfleming6099]

I often get accused of being stuck up because i am indeed so very private. I remain confident in spite of the hate. I love love love my privacy. Thanks Sis for another wise video… “Privacy is power. And what people don’t know they cannot ruin” …GOLD ❣️

[@Shiasospiritual]

Same here . I get called stuck up all the time . I don’t nothing personal on social media and I do not tell anyone my personal business

[@sevb5998]

love this

[@ummzahra9196]

I was supposed to get married this year but the dude ghosted me I never made a post about it or posted subliminals. I healed quietly. Maybe she had no one to vent to but sis should of wrote it down in her journal.

[@sherrita8582]

I could be in a whole relationship but Facebook would never know it😂

[@aeoligarlic4024]

This! It's better that way too! I've been guilt-tripped by some facebook young women that you have to share about your relationship in social medias to make it known that you are cherised. I mean, why??? How does that a measurement to make things legit?? Lol

[@KeenyaTheStylist]

Back when I got married, there was Facebook, but I didn’t think to post it. Thank God because it just didn’t work out, plus it wasn’t Hypergamous! Knowing what I know now, I look at women posting their boyfriends or their fiancé (with no date) and just roll my eyes. I want to say so bad, “Sis, no, that’s a bad idea; don’t post him!” But, all I can do is shake my head. I know what I know because I’m a member of The New Feminine. Get smart ladies and join today!

[@Lisette121]

You did right. I posted my ex husband before our divorce on fb, and when people found out we split, there were a lot of suble taunting with and "misery loves company" posts from those who were happy we split. Not everyone is happy for you. I learned that the hard way.

[@emmadiri7189]

@@starrjohnson1327 like, I don’t understand why people feel the need to post about their pregnancy online. That’s the one that gets me the most out of all of them lol

[@shutit4024]

I always see women posting them doing wife benefits for a no good boyfriend and I be wanting to say WHO TF CARES why even post every single thing

[@shutit4024]

@@starrjohnson1327 yessss even teenagers post their pregnancy announcements and their parents be posting the ultrasound of their future grandbaby 🤦🏽‍♀️I wouldn’t be posting my 14 year old pregnant it’s nothing to be proud of you failed as a parent but I always see people going back and forth with their baby mom and baby dad

[@shutit4024]

@@emmadiri7189 they do it on Snapchat and Instagram And I see a lot of baby showers I never see weddings

[@ba8501]

I have deleted all my personal social media accounts. I don't want to share my business with these fake people and their envious eyes. He did the right thing to put the marriage on hold. He was testing her and she failed. You can have post-nuptial agreements. She could have discussed this with him. Never air out dirty laundry!

[@FavouredLadyT]

We keep journals for this very reason. To avoid posting private matters on SM. Followers are not friends nor family nor therapists.

[@itsci]

I had actually been told by someone that if i tell them something then it’s ok for them to talk about it to others and from there on out I keep my mouth closed

[@orubek355]

This person said some truth.

[@JustDeJane]

All facts! I post my husband so little that ppl actually started thinking we broke up 😂😂 Ain’t nobody business! Just know we good over here! 😝

[@PrissyLadyVenom]

Lol. People didn’t even know I was married 😂 I remember my coworkers joking that I was making him up, until they met him at our Christmas party.

[@JustDeJane]

@@PrissyLadyVenom 😭😭

[@Laporshaxo]

Lol. Cute!!!!!

[@JustDeJane]

@@PrissyLadyVenom I know that's right! lol

[@karithedoc4764]

💯💯

[@Maxi-lg8tx]

I learned about oversharing the hard way. I was 19, and I shared intimate details of a new guy I was dating with a friend. Those details made its rounds God knows where, and my sister came to me with said details, and I don't even talk to her on that level. I knew I shared that information with one person, and that was all it took for me to keep my business to myself. I am very private and selective with the information I share.

[@annicks7385]

People seem very angry with me all the time that I’m very private . Oh well. I don’t like people in my business and they need to learn how to have conversations that don’t involve gossip . Talk about the news , the arts , a book you read , what you plan to cook, an upcoming event , so many things to discuss but these women want to be in my personal life 🤦🏽‍♀️ that’s when I run for the hills . In my early and mid 20s I would share my bad news and it would be thrown in my face in an argument . And when I had my good news I got the evil eye . I focus on topics that don’t involve my private business . And also social media is trash. I use IG solely for my muse . Interior decor, cooking and such . I don’t post ! This video is excellent ! ❤️ I consider myself very high class in mannerism .

[@aliyarahman85]

This video really made me think about the nature of validation

[@pourladentelle]

I'm neither married or have any sort of significant relationship in my life right now, but everything you've said still applies in my social life. The best thing I've ever done for myself was not only eliminate toxic friends, but also deactiave my Facebook because of all tht you've listed. I still have my Instagram and it's private on purpose. I barely post and when I do, nothing I post is too personal and it's always an image tht happened after the fact. It takes true discipline to keep your mouth shut and to keep your personal life private. I was naive, but after going through public embarrassment, one after the next, you learn privacy is your only way through life.

[@pamellatofu4966]

I also think oversharing is a symptom of low self-control. That post could have made things worse for her. Hopefully not. I don't think there's such a thing as humble bragging. I don't think you can move in stealth if you're oversharing or humble bragging. I'm currently learning how to stop sharing every little detail of my relationship with my friend. It's second nature for some us to talk and sometimes we don't catch ourselves whe we've crossed a line. It's a skill worth developing. Anyway thank you Chloe for yet another amazing video. Looking forward to another one💚 October is mental health awareness month. I strongly agree with what Chloe said about getting a therapist or life coach. I've noticed a great positive difference in my friends and I also want one.

[@Berlanciamyrtil]

I love this comment *low self control* is very true

[@Sarablueunicorn]

The problem is that you don't know who your really friends are.

[@SashaFiercer]

This is so true. Oversharing is definitely a symptom of low self-control and also low self-esteem. Therapy can help with this.

[@Laporshaxo]

I did this when I was younger, because I was made out to be a liar in my family while everyone else were the actual liars. They scapegoated me terribly, invalidated me, and tried to break me and destroy my confidence. I rebelled by airing all of their business. I don’t regret it because it set the tone for them to leave me out of their hypocrisy and stop trying to hurt me without severe consequences. Though classless, it worked. I’ve secured my status as not to be bothered with foolishness….. but I do regret not behaving in a way that would have protected my reputation. It makes me sad that I gave them so much of my power back then but I’m taking it back. Live, learn, improve. 🥰

[@newyorkdiva3]

Social media has messed up a lot of relationships.

[@ohshesglamorous]

Everytime Chole says she's going to ruffle feathers I prepare my edges. It may not always be easy to hear, but it needs to be said!

[@dopestwestafrican]

This is very spot on! I am transitioning from being an open book and keeping a lot more details to myself. People cannot destroy what they do not know. Simple.

[@BonitaBocazas]

This channel is everything 🥰 .. I’m big on privacy , my Virgo self won’t allow it to be any other way. People will spill their guts to me then ask me if I’m going through something similar, even if I am I won’t tell 🤫

[@quoteme.goddess6957]

They're attempting to trauma bond with you.

[@BonitaBocazas]

@@quoteme.goddess6957 I learned my lesson on trauma bonds from chics I THOUGHT were my friend and toxic men! I would notice how when I would speak on good things there wasn’t much interest but if I spoke on unfortunate scenarios all the sudden they’d be so interested.. once I noticed that I kept my distance and my mouth closed. That’s when you hear the “she switched up” storyline , I’m cool wit that just know you won’t be all giddy behind my less than shiny moments any more.

[@tiffanycl222]

Lmao girl same. I take that stuff to my journal & to Jesus & sometimes to my therapist & leave it there

[@chattingwithjojo]

I'm a Virgo too and I'm the same. People accuse me of being secretive lol

[@TheBrookeAshley]

Chloe!! Keep preaching!! This was the #1 rule growing up and it has served me well!! My parents always said “loose lips sink ships” and to always keep your mouth shut regarding potential deals, dreams, etc. people are very hateful, envious and will try to sabotage! I don’t even speak about upcoming vacations so I definitely don’t speak about my romantic life! I keep it very general, it’s going well, that’s it!! Great video as always! 🔥

[@amandineczysz5950]

Your couple is a temple, and nobody need to know what is going on!! I am a happy wife since June of this year. I share few pictures on the gram, off course I hide the face of my provider husband with a big ❤, on every pictures!! Some people tell me " hmm it weird, why you are hiding his face, oh you are on tinder". I do not care, his face is mine! 🙃 And as african women, I know that in my country they love some black magic, and my husband will not be dragged in this, by someone who is jalous or a hater. Secret is key!!!!

[@gretchen725]

I’m so private. I could not imagine sharing my business on ig like that. I even hate when people ask me personal questions. So I can’t imagine volunteering the information. Lol

[@zolelamaholwana]

I’ve realised that she does OVERSHARE ! It’s so tricky because she does try to help other hypergamous women to level up. I think she’s like other hypergamous influencers but she just needs to keep certain parts of her hypergamy journey to herself. You know ? Have a little mystery ❤️🙏🏾

[@TheNewFeminine]

Agreed. There is nothing wrong with wanting to help others, but secure your own Hypergamous Lifestyle FIRST. I would never be here on KZbin If my personal life weren't already established. I wish Cherida and her Fiancé Well.

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

Well Said!x

[@Theoracleprincess]

@@MzBrOdUs18 yes!!!!! I recently got on clubhouse and the plethora of hypergamy groups all ran by black women were exhausting. Alot of the hosts weren't even in committed relationship but werre giving advice as if they were living by example. Its all about validation and it reaks of mean girl messy/pettiness. The art of femininity seems to only be in terms of looking the part but the internal work has yet to be worked on.

[@nikkinanette8807]

What she does is every reason why the prenup was in his favor. He and his family did not turn a blind eye to her coaching. If she were wise, she’d protect her identity as Princess Boss Chloe does. Not only do we see her face, we see her man and her very lifestyle. He’ll be married to someone else within a year.

[@_v4lenTINA]

You have a beautiful name Zolela 💖

[@theselfcarechannel9895]

Wow after listening to the video....i am definitely aware now as to why i dont like to share ANYTHING on social media. My intuition never lies.

[@cosmicbrownie333]

A word as always!My mom used to always say "the right hand doesnt need to know what the left is doing" and never knew what that meant until I was older...aka be private and keep folks out ya business. In my late teens/early 20s I had several "friends" sleep with my significant others etc out of jealousy of me being happy. Now in my 30s, I don't say anything about my personal life or keep it as shallow as possible. Recently went to PR and no one knew until I got back and posted photos weeks later. Privacy is definitely POWERFUL

[@AnonVocals]

Privacy is power.. be a woman of mystery.. Keep them guessing - Now that’s sexy!!

[@keelyross5127]

Yes!😎😉

[@ButterflyBree]

When I was younger I used to share my personal business too much. Now, if I'm not genuinely connected to a friend or family, I don't tell people anything about me. It's no one's business and everyone isn't rooting for you to win.

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

Sadly, so!☝🏽

[@AyeishaN0Curry]

And I wouldn't share with them either. Privacy is the way to go. It's ok to say a little bit family and friends don't need to know anything

[@masonakamara7556]

9/10 times, I drop what I’m doing to watch Chloe.

[@questionresearch8721]

Me too. I was listening to an audiobook about health. ❤️

[@lemonlime2288]

Ladies, this is true across the board. I had "friends" go and tell my business to others and I ended up shooting myself in the foot since I trusted them. Its exciting to share that you're in a relationship but be mindful of who you talk to because your so called friends are probably jealous and plotting your demise

[@shutit4024]

Yup I had a cousin talk trash to my ex and was telling him things I said like “ he’s going to come back” and she told him that and some more but it was true he did come back but I ended up cutting him off

[@shutit4024]

And her

[@JukuduB]

#3 is my mantra! I never put any relationship on Social Media! When the engagement ring comes I may, but until then, no way!!!

[@shutit4024]

I wonder if it’s a good idea to post a video of your man proposing to you and posting it on Facebook?

[@1DNETTA]

I've been intuitively doing this... for years. But with EXTra strength in recent years for MENTal PEACE😌!! I do this for ALL areas of my life. I've learned this lesson gradually years ago because I can relate to "The Story of Joseph" sooo much. My Grandmother used to say "A still Tongue is a Wise Head💡. " Now I quote this😉.

[@Boopooh43]

This is such an excellent post. I was once asked why I never posted pics of bf at time on social media. It was low-key accusatory like a didn't have one. I also didn't care. I keep my business private. People in general are oversharing in ways that are very unbecoming.

[@maylismar3368]

First of all a prenup or post nuptials doesn’t mean you won’t get your cut. Especially in states like California, where it’s a no fault state, most of them don’t get recognized in court. Secondly, prenup are supposed to help women as well like who gets the house, the debts, who plays for the lawyers( which is mostly the higher earner) and most importantly the custody of the children. Ladies you are allowed to have demands and compromises in prenup.

[@enmodelife]

Thank you for saying this. I remind women of this all the time! When that man slides that pre-nup over, tell him thank you and that you'll look it over and discuss later. Then enjoy the rest of your evening as planned... The next day go hire YOUR lawyer to begin negotiations. It's a TWO-SIDED match, not one.

[@Lovebunny0099]

I’ve realised the reason why I would overshare at times was to get validation and to share the amazing men I’ve come across. I feel the need to share maybe because I feel sad that I haven’t found the right guy yet, so sharing helps me get that little validation I need. I’ve learnt my lesson now, I shared a lot about a guy I was seeing, spoke about his wealth , the gifts he got me and a relative of mine started actively pursuing the same guy. I was in shock !!!!

[@Lovebunny0099]

@@munix9351 Wow honestly it is shocking and it’s the least people that you expect to do such things !!

[@tajthegreatone9326]

I've been deleted social media. The only thing I do is KZbin and I monitor what I allow.

[@MyCrownstar]

Chloe, I'm been saying this for years, women need to get off of social media and keep their mouth closed! I move in silence in everything I do, from buying a new pair of rubber gloves to buying a house. People knew I bought a new home when I moved in and invited friend over 5 months later. Her discussing her marriage was on pause has given other women more of an incentive to slide in his DM, even more than they probably already were, ugh!

[@basseetv3356]

Yes 🙌🏽 I totally agree you are on point with this one!!!!! I haven’t heard not one of your videos that don’t speak truth or facts!!!! Plus you have a vast vocabulary which is very important to me…. I am a very private person I do not discuss my relationships with anyone outside of my closest male friends who actually help a great deal they are wealthy and married and their wives do not want for nothing…but for the most part I am a total mystery I do not engulf myself in social media or post the personal details of my life…… Thanks once again for your intelligence great videos and helping women in the fight against bullshit rhetoric and commentary’s!!!

[@autumnrose6370]

Indeed

[@heymisswest]

Move in mystery!!!!! I gotta learn this aspect! I know now I gotta keep people out of my business

[@rhulani934]

I always cringe when I see people overshare their relationships on social media including their pregnancies. I’ve learned that lesson a long time ago…I also feel that the energy of social media is vicious especially when it comes to your wins! It’s human nature to envy and a hypergamous post might just bring the evil eye straight onto your doorstep. Also it’s good to keep people guessing about your private life, it elevates you in a way.

[@hellenvilakazi9316]

Well said 👌

[@kathyalex778]

I feel that healthy relationships want privacy and don’t crave the extra attention either. It literally has no purpose to share about a man you’re with.

[@doorknob2545]

Yes thats true, when I was dating my ex, no one knew, even to this day. It's no one's bussiness.

[@BriteEyes1]

Thank you for reminding me that the only change I’ll make to my FB status is when I am married. Not dating him, not posting places we go together or gifts he buys me, nor flashing the engagement ring. Nope, only once we’re married. And that’s it.

[@questionresearch8721]

Nope, feathers were not ruffled at all. Loved the advice.

[@dwdrawings367]

I have this one friend who’s Hispanic side of the family practice all that voodoo occult stuff. Every time I get into a happy relationship she will ask me how things were going and I would tell her really well and then not even a week later the guy just does a 180 on me. If I meet a new guy again that’s going well I’m not gonna tell her I’m CONVINCED she’s cursing my love life

[@framingfemininity34]

I absolutely love that you mix in the esoteric tips with the practical. I always share this affirmation, it’s been useful in boosting my confidence as well as for protection: I am safe. I am secure. I am abundant in all. I love myself. If I ever talked about this, I’d only talk about it after I got married (either to him or a different man), in the aspect of words of encouragement and a lesson on not settling.

[@gabbsbee5477]

I love that affirmation! Will be printing and framing this!💕

[@framingfemininity34]

@@gabbsbee5477 💖💖💖 Glad it resonated!

[@QHuda_A]

Beautiful affirmation ❤

[@aplanefliesabove]

I'll be honest, I took a break from Instagram several weeks ago because even the Fitness gurus and Self helpers, entrepreneurs. Vegan Justice Warrior Queens are getting on my nerves! It's very helpful to step back and listen to yourself and your body. To know thy self is quite empowering! Sometimes we do not know of how to move without others knowing what we are doing... we must get out of that need for attention & validation

[@yambaraffaella9775]

It's for same reason I left social media

[@Sexycheeks]

Don’t forget the so called relationship experts 🤦🏾‍♀️,

[@WomenCEOProject]

All of this is very true. Take heed ladies. Keep your progress to yourself. Then pop out married. When folks heard of my guy we were married 💁🏽‍♀️

[@lison973]

As an extrovert I’ve had to learn to limit the company I keep. I had to get off of social media. I couldn’t be happier and my information stays close to the vest.

[@bshatajshina]

Most women she shared this with may not even understand where she’s coming from. How many of us are putting our weddings on hold because of a prenup in his favor. Not saying that we aren’t or won’t marry wealthy (I’m married) but the majority of us on KZbin don’t have this particular issue so we may not understand her particular pain. Hence all the more reason to no over share with your followers.

[@heavnli_goddess6052]

oooo I LOVE this video because privacy is a topic so close to my heart!!! People need to realize that social media followers, friends, and some family dont really care about you. They just want to be in your business and gossip amongst their real friends about u! I'm no longer on fb or IG, but the last few months I was online, a woman , who just got married a few years ago began blasting her husband in posts and memes, unfriending him on socials and basically letting the world know she was unhappily married and was planning to relocate to leave her husband! However not even two months later she turned around re-friended him again and stared to sing his praises. I felt really embarrassed and cringe for her and for her husband. Why did she feel so compelled to tell complete strangers her marital business!! Relationships have highs and lows, why broadcast it to unwitting and uncaring strangers?? This video was sooo on point Chloe!!!

[@icalotdonthide2646]

Yup. Keep your business to yourself. MOST issue are related to class and unfortunately low-class behavior is extremely celebrated in the West. If you ever get a chance, live a year in NYC, doesn't matter which borough, you will learn the ways of wealth and how to move in the world. I've rubbed elbows with Legacy family's that have left me with lessons that will last a life time.

[@SagRising19]

"Trust yourself and learn how to be your own bestfriend"! Indeed Chloe. Keep your mouth closed...period! This strategy has helped me tremendously. Shareeta made the IG post, now her fiancé has taken a note, in how she moves...bad move on her end.. Great tips.🌺

[@Babziboo]

Lessons I learned the hard way, throughout the years.

[@intentionalgreatness]

Did she think that putting it on social media would make him budge? He prob feels like he dodged a budget because if she let this be known when she was upset..what else would she do?...smh.

[@ba8501]

She was trying to shame him into budging. He was testing her and she failed.

[@HeleneGLmarie]

@@ba8501 he wasn't testing her. He was protecting his ressources.

[@ba8501]

@@HeleneGLmarie That too.

[@quoteme.goddess6957]

She surely made a dummy move OUT LOUD.

[@ReasonablySpeaking9808]

Thank you for this wisdom. I’ve learned the hard way that sharing intimates is no good.

[@nomanipatrice4667]

People should learn from Patricia Bright,she rarely shares too much about her relationship but once a while we get to see "midwife Mike"😉

[@ohshesglamorous]

Right? I love how she's private about her personal life, it's refreshing

[@anastasiabolu2213]

This was really good advice. I will not ever be sharing anything about my relationship or family online.

[@LaBellaDonna]

I’m an empath so I can feel her pain. She had a moment of weakness and took it so social media. But she should have just wrote in her diary or vented to a friend

[@4EVABLESSED7]

ALL OF THIS!!!!!! This is why I move in silence!!!

[@FirstnameLastname-nq3oj]

7:52 so true. At my last job the women couldn’t stand that I showed up everyday with a smile on my face. They wanted my position as well.

[@simply.evelyn]

Your video appeared in my feed, so I decided to click and watch. It's on point! Privacy is power! There's a lot of oversharing on social media these days and it needs to stop. Everybody doesn't need to know everything about you whether you're online or offline. Be mysterious! Excellent video and advice!!👍🏾

[@Balgees24]

I always tell my mother to not share much because I already seen how some friends just share rumors.

[@The_torero]

Same.

[@Clauds71]

Wow 😮, I don’t know why people think social media is their friend. Another bomb video and advice. Thanks Chloe_ 😍

[@sherrita8582]

I had never heard of the beautiful woman, sad about that...you're right about those spirit attacks

[@rosedalinevaletine6931]

I don’t even share with my close, close friends! A whole social media is too much. I don’t even post pics of me!

[@clerknorth9695]

This shows her level of maturity. This was immature, and in extremely poor taste. I wouldn't be surprised if the wedding was called off completely.

[@Kayla4217]

I only think she is this vocal because she doesn't really love him that much, and he suspects this. A man who is really the center of your world you'll want to keep wholly to yourself, like Issa Rae.

[@Kayla4217]

@@ninawestlake14 no, but her willingness to share him with strangers on the internet can be indicative that he is not, at the center of her heart. She ain't out here doing her family like this, notice that?

[@nikkinanette8807]

You are right; he looks good and has money 💵 but sis did NOT love 💕 him.

[@Kayla4217]

@@kayp9318 yes shout from the rooftops that you LOVE him, not shout from the rooftops that he won't marry you without a prenuptial agreement. Stop trying it ya'll 😂 she don't love that man

[@kayp9318]

@@Kayla4217 I was responding to the part where you said her wanting to share him to the world is indicative that he’s not at the center of her heart. In my experience it’s natural to want to share when you’re truly happy. Whether or not she loved this man, I can’t speak to. I personally think what she did was very tacky!

[@Kayla4217]

@@kayp9318 please quote me properly. I said "share him with strangers", which is NOT sharing that you are happy and ya'll went to Disneyland yada yada. That's just tacky sharing. She shared his personal business. His feelings and opinions on things. His business and financial stances. THAT'S DIFFERENT. Stop being deflective.

[@janekhanyile7600]

Thank you for this video Chloe❤️I’ve been seeing someone new for a few months & is really good to me & I feel I’ve been over sharing with my family I have a feeling me sharing is going to back fire in the near future. I hope it’s not too late to hush about it now.

[@donnac163]

No ma’am it’s never to late just stop sharing. If they ask just say nothing new is going on!

[@TheNewFeminine]

You're so welcome!

[@valenciaorange2000]

I've been getting these messages a lot and it's time that I practice this. It's really beneficial for your mental health and peace of mind.

[@jooo-cfroot8281]

Lady you said what EVERY WOMAN Needs to understand!!!! Standing Ovation 👏🏽

[@jasmynelliott]

I was waiting for your full take on this and naturally you didn't disappoint (and you never do). It's so important to keep the details of your life, romantic or otherwise, under lock and key from the general population. Not everyone is on your team. I'm learning and applying this lesson now and so far it's working out beautifully for me.

[@msmewiththat7532]

This commentary is standing ovation for the one and only, Chloe.

[@nanachioma7876]

What I Dont understand is why they go private or delete their pages on Instagram once they have troubles.... Stay private from the start dear

[@orubek355]

They can't afford the multiple (mean) comments.

[@TheErikaShow]

The only woman who knows my business is my mother…and I even don’t tell her everything…to her great relief…lol!

[@Christine_]

Wow this video hit the mark!!! All facts! I cannot reiterate how important it is to keep the inner workings of your marriage SACRED! Great video. I definitely 👀👀 when I saw Jamie and Nikki. That was a prime example of showing "only the good".

[@bread079]

THIS🎯 Chole, your advice is GOLD! I wish more women take HEED and TAKE NOTES! PRIVACY is a PEACE no one seems to value. Thank You 🙏🏽❤️