Swipe LEFT: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly of Online Dating!

[@dolcesweet5173]

Quick Storytime: My sister met her now boyfriend on a free dating site. In the initial stages of her relationship he showed exactly the type of man he would be. I remember when my sister told me while they were dating (early stages) that one day she spent the night and in the morning he asked if she wanted brunch. She said yes and he told her to get dressed and that they will take his two dogs w them. They go and when they arrive at the restaurant he tells her to go inside and pick up the food and that he'll wait outside and hold the dogs. She ended up paying $150 for takeout that he already preordered. I clearly told her he isn't the one. That was a test(trick) and she failed. Fast forward almost 2 years and she moved in w him, 50/50 relationship, no ring, and I can already tell he is never going to marry her. He see's her as a roommate he can sleep w and can get a break on his rent and bills. Why buy the cow if the milk is free.

[@elovesp1]

🤦

[@skwilson34]

WOW!!

[@redeemedone1000]

I would have asked if there was a back exit, and left him standing out front and having to pay the bill himself.

[@madelineasmr926]

@@carlottapitts8247 many women myself included entertain men out of loneliness because we don’t understand WHY hypergamy is so incredibly important. Now that I know better, I do better, or working on it.

[@madelineasmr926]

@@carlottapitts8247 you weren’t. You were speaking facts just like Chloe. Sometimes it takes the cold hard truth for us to wake up and realize how short we’ve been selling ourselves. I’m sure her sister is a lovely person all around, and we all make mistakes.

[@stellakamau6994]

One overall lesson I have learnt in my feminine dating journey is you cannot turn a clown to a king or a bum into a boss, when a man shows you who he is and it doesn't match your standards bounce forget feelings and superficial flattery it will cost you in the end. High value or no value.

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@Rosierose902]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@chikFromMTL]

Superficial flattery is the ammo of dusty predators. Don't fall for it ladies

[@lkofie6670]

INDEED

[@Strawberrycheesecake364]

@@chikFromMTL lmaooooo facts

[@ModernSouthernBelle]

I put my job title as “Future Soccer Mom” and say I’m looking for a chivalrous gentleman. Keeps the dusties and cheap men away.

[@JB-hj3xj]

Yes, Queen!

[@LadyAyoola]

Love it! 😂

[@eveharris30]

I like that.

[@Arizona_lilly]

Lol

[@SpirituallyAbstract]

I’m finna do this 😂

[@dionnedeniseeveryday]

Coffee dates are for job interviews

[@jazzjohnson8509]

I endorse this message!

[@wiseman4160]

Then tell other women to stop going on 3 dates or more a week with different men. Men won't feel used paying for restaurant. Women aren't the same as they used to be back 30 years ago, so men don't treat them the same. Meal at Cafe that serves good food 😋 should be fine when meeting someone online for first time or buffet or a place that serves yummy dessert 🍨if women never used men I would say this comment you made is one of the best comments on here. I treat a girl friend to resturants I treat a stranger I meet in person good but different.

[@wiseman4160]

@Mind yours When meeting someone for first time that's non sense to expect the same kind of resturant, as if you were already a couple. If a man wants to take you to a very nice restaurant that's great. But women expecting a very nice restaurant from a person they just meet in person shows that women just cares about herself only. Also some women go on 2 to 3 dates a week who wants to pay for a very nice restaurant to someone that uses men. You may not use men and that's great, but lots of women do use men, so the bad ones ruined it for the good ones. In a perfect world the man of your dreams will treat a women he hardly knows to a very nice restaurant. We don't live in a perfect world so the man that's right for you doesn't want to be used. Playing games like telling men there not the right person for you if they don't treat you to a very nice restaurant, your just making it harder on yourself to find the person. While your scaring off some of the good ones. I know happly Married couples and they didn't do anything expensive on the first date.

[@wiseman4160]

@Mind yours A very nice Restaurant is meant to show a girlfriend or wife how much he appreciate her and love her. Not a stranger you may never see again or she go on 2 or 3 more dates with other men that same week.

[@wiseman4160]

@Mind yours I'm not talking about a man going on many dates. I'm talking about a women going on many dates with different men that same month and them paying for a nice restaurant, then she goes on other dates with different men that same month, even though he spent money on very nice dinner. As I said before in a perfect world your 100 percent right. But some women don't care how men feel about this topic, they just see men as atm attention money and time, could care less about the man not feeling used. And she's not going on many dates because men don't treat her to a nice restaurant in a perfect world that would be why she goes on many dates because he's too cheap to treat her to a nice restaurant. That's usually not why. Because it's not a perfect world, so she goes on many dates because she has lots of options so she lets many men pay for nice restaurant until she choose. That's why men don't like to pay for very nice restaurant with a stranger he hardly knows.

[@misskiaralee4134]

I know a lot of busy people use coffee dates as a quick chemistry check... but i cannot wrap my head around getting dressed, groomed, and slayed to sit at a statbucks lol if I'm leaving my house, its going to be worth it!

[@CiaobellaAmour]

Like who dresses up for that? 🤷🏽‍♀...only here on YT do I hear such things but hey....💀

[@cynthialashawnchannel]

Honestly just FT or call me for a vibe check. Unless it’s the cute coffee boutique coffee shops I’m not going to Starbucks.

[@barbe8155]

But the problem is if the guy's/date's schedule is soo busy that he has to downgrade to schedule a women in to date at Starbucks, then he is too busy to have a committed meaningful relationship... i would let the guy know finish "building" yourself up, THEN reach out to me...if its not you then by the time he is done "building" himself up career wise/business wise, he will realize he wants a woman in his life, then he WILL make the time...im not settling...

[@misskiaralee4134]

@@barbe8155 i agree. Its just becoming so common, but I'm standing my ground. Like i said, if I'm leaving my house for a date, its going to be worth it. ❤

[@BitterPeachh]

You damn right.

[@ms.x1669]

I personally feel like the online dating space is a place for weirdos and creeps. It's dusty world on steroids.

[@CiaobellaAmour]

@@MsNaturalTresses yup! Things most definitely have changed 💁🏽‍♀💀

[@cosmicbrownie333]

I gotta meet people in real life. From my experience it just seems like it’s the worst of the worst of the men you’d avoid like the plague out and about in real life. Had a man reach out to me who had a 9 month old at the home and I was like “yeah, deleting dating sites forever “ 🤣

[@kathyalex778]

Yep because it's too easy. Socially awkward, broke weirdos normally stayed at home and away from women in the past, but now since they can meet women while laying on their couch - they will! Gross.

[@themoonbleu627]

exactly! the rejects

[@jasminewalker3522]

I’ve met plenty of rich and successful men on dating apps. 2 of them were millionaires.

[@GenevieveGetsIt]

"Free will often come at the price of taxing your energy." YES! And I've found this extends to all areas of life. 💯💯💯

[@winniekirui5487]

So true!

[@goddessnoele]

Honey this is SCRIPTURE!!!

[@theselfcarechannel9895]

Very true!

[@GenevieveGetsIt]

@@RedPillCosby-012 Aren't you late for your coffee date?🤔

[@ModernSouthernBelle]

Yes 🙌🏾 💯

[@rickimcfarland2269]

My personal tips: Never get attached to anyone. Always video chat before meeting in person. Never sit and talk to a man all day/night as this creates a fake bond. Keep the conversation short and leave him wanting more -- which should lead him to ask you on an actual date. Never meet a man at his house or his friends house or anyone's house for that matter. Remember to have fun and enjoy the ride.

[@KismetSKinNurse]

Thank you sis for the tips.

[@Tulipsaki]

I have been trying to get them to video chat and find it super suspicious when nearly all of them won’t and the apps give the option!

[@Violetsinbloom]

@@Tulipsaki theyre not tryna get to know u theyre looki g for fast sex this is mainly what youll find on "apps" those men r on there for a reason

[@veeedgee]

A fake bond! So true! Ugh.

[@Strawberrycheesecake364]

Learning all about these fake bonds! Never heard someone put it into words

[@kathyalex778]

5:57 "The lower a woman's standards, the easier for her it will be to meet men". YES! Quality over quantity ladies! Don't freak out if a man asks you out, especially to a cheap date. That's low balling. Set your standards high and do not accept anything less.

[@sadieg3264]

Yassss

[@brunette1234]

I once had a guy on a dating app ask me to meet up with him at the gym of all places 🤦🏾‍♀️ absolute mess!

[@Mamalinds22]

GIRL! Me the fuxk too because he was a trainer.... I’m like “If I wanted to find a trainer I wouldn’t be on a dating app” 🙄

[@Jellybeanjam1991]

Wth! Lmao

[@brunette1234]

@@Mamalinds22 Right?! and since when is running on a treadmill or lifting some weights a date?? Sponsored by Planet Fitness LOL

[@sweetpeaj1952]

@@brunette1234 lol

[@morningsunshine0216]

@@brunette1234 planet fitness head ass 😂

[@DarkAndLovely311]

Met a quality man online years ago. He is rich (family has loads of money), tall, childless, full head of hair, handsome, and recently single. Didn’t know how to start dating again so he went on an app. We are actually neighbors too, but the app made us meet and speak. I’m black, he is white, so having an app act as a “matchmaker” would have lessened the awkwardness if either of us were not open to an interracial relationship. Countless relationships start online nowadays, never know when and where you’ll meet your person. And waiting for real life meetings may make you single for years. I know this from experience. Can’t waste time out here. Edited update: We are getting married!

[@sweetpeaj1952]

💯 , especially with the last statement.

[@cynthialashawnchannel]

Totally agreed

[@VerSpnc]

Yes girl! I met my husband online. It doesn’t have to be one or the other, utilize all your options if you are looking for love ❤️

[@filippat.5011]

On which platform did you meet him?

[@DarkAndLovely311]

@@filippat.5011 Bumble. I personally thought that or Hinge were the best platforms when it came to quality men.

[@celineegeman7911]

In my experience, if a man has a lot of money! He has options, he won’t be on apps. He will go out to a high end bar see a woman he likes and approach her AND HE WILL GET THAT DATE. In my opinion, if a man is on online dating apps! That’s means he doesn’t get attention in real life, ask yourself why, is he broke or etc!

[@Voicesoftheeveryday-y3h]

That is so true👍👍👍

[@lauriejames9740]

Rich men date online too. The man that I was dating had lots of options, I dropped out the game, he is a community leader, has his own business, lives in Encino CA, owns many homes in the Los Angeles area, but he has a lot of women chasing him, I don't chase, never will.

[@CiaobellaAmour]

Guys who are well off online date too

[@ceemac304]

in summary stop being easy and cheap. level up ladies. make a man invest in you.

[@celineegeman7911]

@CasSUNdra high end sushi restaurant, high end steak places, high end Italian restaurants! Charity events, golf courses for the elite (with a membership)

[@MsRight-sb5ds]

I’ve dated several men that are around 50 years old and they all were pushing for sex on the first date. Frustrated that we didn’t sleep together after the second date. I was baffled!! 👴🏾👴🏾

[@MrDomonique3]

They probably suffers from ED too

[@MsRight-sb5ds]

@@MrDomonique3 Girl, yes! The absolute audacity!!

[@purpleplanetary]

Not the emojis lollll

[@theselfcarechannel9895]

Girl. A 48 year old guy i knew thru a friend was pissed after he bought a $22 meal...his food included. He got upset after he asked me to come to his place and i asked "for what". Dusties come in all ages.

[@sweetpeaj1952]

That's how it is now. Women are giving it away too easy so they expect the same.

[@nm-mh4rt]

To me online dating is like a club they are talking to you and everyone else that they find attractive.

[@bp716]

Well technically even if you meet someone traditionally the odds are he’s gone up to other women he finds attractive just like he crossed the room to talk to you...you just have to be careful

[@isattathecreator]

I mean...that’s what I used to do until I got locked down lol. Gotta keep a roster when you’re single because these men sure will.

[@SSS-qu8cn]

Low value men on dating apps usually lead with "wanting a women to cook for them!" Also, watch out for the fake job titles. It seems like everyone is a partner, entrepreneur, business owner, real estate tycoon, self employed, etc. Don't be afraid to ask them questions about their employment. If they tell you very little or change the subject....RUN SIS!!!🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️

[@bambidaydreamer3]

No lies were told here. The entrepreneur hand gets played as much as the “musicians”. Like just say you sell nickel and dime bags on 5th ave and get out my DMs

[@SSS-qu8cn]

@@bambidaydreamer3 Girrrlllll 😭

[@ettamae05]

The new one is “Construction Foreman”

[@ashleynewell3839]

Personal trainer 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@2009juicyfruit]

One nigga told me he was a Life Coach 😂😂😂

[@TheNewFeminine]

The Roster Dating Video will Be Back up on Tuesday! In the meanwhile, continue get this Free99 Feminine Game.💄

[@pop8612]

You can’t be up-scale and cheap at the same time. If you want high earning men it is best go with a personal match-making service than dating apps.

[@elleelizabethstyles]

Do you know of any legitimate services?

[@isattathecreator]

If you don’t know yourself neither a matchmaker or dating app will get you a good man.

[@preciousrxse6754]

Starr Johnson where did you go?

[@annissakapor]

@@starrjohnson1327 Can you share with us the tips you get?Thanks❤

[@amasad4915]

Chloe where do u get all these short clips of all these random black people loll

[@yasminx16]

I love them 😂🙂

[@ashleyalexxis3442]

Lol right a lady came on here talking about one of them was hers 😒 like girl get 👟

[@CiaobellaAmour]

Ikr 💀💀💀

[@madelineasmr926]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@yougotgamesonyourphone6947]

@@ashleyalexxis3442 lmaoooooo a year later and this comment has me screaming

[@TheeCourageousQueen]

I tried the dating app years ago and it was short lived and I experienced low value men. I decided I’m not going back.

[@Luna-kb3sr]

Excellent choice

[@froufroushoo9266]

True ! My friends & acquaintances who met their men on these free dating apps are living hypogamous lives. Splitting bills & doing 50/50. A co-worker recently moved in with her dating app boyfriend. He bought a townhouse, she now pays 50/50 of the bills there & her name is nowhere on the title!! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@chikFromMTL]

She's a fool

[@froufroushoo9266]

@@chikFromMTL I 100% agree !

[@froufroushoo9266]

@@dumfriesspearhead7398 lol If it was my last day at this job I would!

[@smores8982]

She has now agreed to a situation which totally benefits him, not her. If she moved in, he shouldn’t expect her to pay half his bills while he is building equity WITHOUT an engagement ring from him. There is a huge possibility he can kick her out of the house at any given time and she would’ve spent all these months/yrs paying half HIS bills!

[@BitterPeachh]

That's crazy

[@cc_chi123]

I don't want a man that is on an app! No thanks. I stopped doing dating apps 3 years ago. I am about having a man cross a room for me in real life.

[@cc_chi123]

Another stellar video btw!! Chloe you always have amazing words for us women... so thankful!

[@aminah761]

Exactly

[@bookieaustin2244]

Same

[@letgomyego]

Facts

[@Luna-kb3sr]

Amen! It’s a whole mess. I don’t do dating apps and I get on social media a couple of times a day.

[@Mamalinds22]

Might I add that in my opinion I think it’s best for women not to give these men their social media accounts. I’m having a lot of men on apps ask me for mine which is making me think they are receiving them with ease. It eliminates aspects of mystery. It also is low effort, in my eyes, for a man to want to gather assumptions based on my post than to ask intentional questions to get to know me via the app or on a date after vetting. The men who can’t respect that boundary of mine get unmatched. Pros and cons to this minor method, but I find it useful.

[@Mamalinds22]

@@MzBrOdUs18 LMAO please 😂😂 that’s hilarious

[@bcottony]

They do this so they can tailor their responses to you.... sometimes even fake an entire personality just to get close. I refuse to give mine out.

[@madelineasmr926]

Yes girl! And that’s just another place they can bother you lol 😂

[@phugh3878]

They shouldn’t get your social media so easily. It eliminates mystery and he gets to look at more of your pictures for free without paying a dime

[@SSS-qu8cn]

I always block and delete the men who ask. Especially, if we haven't been on a date. 🥴

[@CiaobellaAmour]

I've done the online dating off/on for awhile in between actual relationships & let's just say things have gotten "interesting"🤦🏽‍♀💀. Definitely NOT what it used to be & be prepared to do a whole lotta weeding out. Lots of married/attached men on here too claiming to be "unhappily" married or in "sexless" marriages so💁🏽‍♀

[@a.h.2667]

They love putting that "ethically non-monogamous" nonsense on their profiles.

[@thereshegrows113]

Feminine women do not chase men! confident women do not settle. Let us not be free 99 ladies. Patience is key in this game. i pray all the women watching this find hope and stay motivated. Thank you Chloe_

[@laurennicole641]

Coffee Date Ninjas 💀💀💀😂😂😂

[@CiaobellaAmour]

Idk but I guess everyone has different experiences. I've been on coffee dates specifically just to meet & get a feel of one another to see if not only do we like what we see in person but that we actually click 🤷🏽‍♀. Have yet to have a bad 1 & all the men had lucrative jobs/careers. In 2 instances, they even took me on a shopping spree

[@MegaEpicZero]

Coffee DATES?! DATES?!?! lol. My girlfriends and I called those meetings. When I was doing dating online- my dates would talk to me for a few days and then ask to meet me in person for about an hour or 2 at a well known café or coffee shop (for safety reasons). They would pay for our drinks (and desserts or whatever) and after getting to know me within that time, invite me to a restaurant of my choice and walk me out to my car. THEN- and only then- do they get a "first date"... lol. Making sure they asked me out to meet face to face was VERY important. As for the pictures and profiles - I learned from another hypergamy group I joined when I was 16 how to take photos of myself(usually inside of upscale hotels or restaurants or at beaches). For the bios I would never mention what I do for work, and I would be "classy" about what I was seeking in this courtship. As a bonus, I would write my profiles in the languages of the men I seek (日本語, 한국어, 廣東話, or 官話) and express my lifestyle with my interests. The language alone siphoned out creeps and weirdos quick. I could go on, but in short - online dating can be ridiculous, but having a plan, setting some rules, and making things challenging for men can make it a tad bit easier.

[@strawberrynovel3786]

I love this 👏🏿 How do you word your intentions/expectations etc please? I always wonder what to put in my bio. I want to keep mystery but still be clear ♥

[@lis5708]

👏🏽

[@filippat.5011]

Oh that’s a nice idea!

[@MegaEpicZero]

@@strawberrynovel3786 ​ I'm sorry I'm just seeing this! I keep my bios short and sweet, and I always try to make it sound like I'm writing a book (and I'm the main character lol). One profile opened with " (I'm)Fond of luxuries, both great and small...". That opening combined with pictures of me in very "luxurious" places delivered the message well. I would also add things like "Looking to build a strong lasting relationship, with courteous and chivalrous gentlemen" My wording fits my personality, so this worked just fine for me.(I'm a romantic, and I speak "romantically" lol) Hook people with your bio. As for delivering my expectations, that happens over time. For instance- I mentioned my dating prospects would message or text me for a few days. Over that time I would give them some basic ideas of what I expect. For instance, if I get a message at 11:30pm I would answer at 9am "I'm sorry I missed your message, I don't text after 10pm". I give them ideas of the kinds of dinner dates I'm used to, often offering suggestions. I even discuss little known cooking styles and events I'm interested in. I very casually lay things on the table. Sorry for the long response, I hope I answered the question. 💕

[@annissakapor]

Can you share with us the hypergamy group? Thanks❤

[@Morrocanprincess]

These low quality broke dusties are on Tiktok & everywhere online attacking women who speak out against settling. Using the overused & unoriginal shaming tactic "You're going to die alone with cats". As if the alternative of living a miserable, overworked 50/50 life with a dusty is the better choice & something women should aspire towards looool 🤣🤣 I'll adopt a cat any day before I let a dusty into my life and my home!

[@munarellatv]

girl tiktok is just a whole mess with these dusties. commenting on every woman's page about dying alone simply because she wants better for herself.its just silly

[@Morrocanprincess]

@@munarellatv True, It's unbelievable how many of them go back and forth arguing about it. Just a mess!

[@Morrocanprincess]

@@t.l1357 That's why they are bitter from all the rejection trolling from their mother's basement loool

[@S1lverspike]

I think social media in general is the problem. People need to go back to working on themsleves and being around the areas you would like to find a man. You gotta be in the right place for the right man to notice you.

[@danielrolle7621]

Not gonna lie I don’t listen to many female KZbin channels but Chloe is a real one 👌🏾. Great video

[@np2679]

I tried it once and I just felt exposed like everyone was watching... and I ended up seeing people I knew. lol that turned me off real quick. I am just going to up my social skills another way and be interactive in person when this pandemic is over. great video!

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Omg... yes it is very awkward when you run into people you know.

[@Pinkpanda811]

Why is it awkward? They're looking for love just like you!

[@leanneharvey7797]

This was the most accurate summary of online dating that I’ve ever heard. I can remember being on tinder and the second a man said coffee date I knew he was poor or not serious and either way thats a no. “Up the block to not spend on you” lol Chloe is the bomb ❤️

[@jazannsimmons1330]

Exactly women have more power than they think you are responsible for yourself I'm 37 and I prefer be single than go with a low value man

[@S1lverspike]

⏰

[@fa9183]

​@@S1lverspike 💰

[@SSS-qu8cn]

Somebody tell me why do ALL of the men on the dating apps lead with something similar to , "How is you day?" I don't even answer. It's getting super old.

[@willnill7946]

Guess I need a new line

[@SSS-qu8cn]

@@willnill7946 Yes. You do.

[@ErikErixen]

Because none of you respond anyway. Gets pretty boring writing long, well thought out messages to get nothing in return. Eventually, you would type just "Hi" too until you get at least the bare minimum response. lol

[@innerblackbeauty8815]

Side note, there's also a plethora of married men online. Ladies, the same signs apply to spotting a married online, as one would, in real life. Discernment is key & don't be ashamed to be picky asf with online dating.

[@mainlevel6572]

Just curious... does anyone usually do breakfast or brunch dates (at nice or high end spots) to get to know men vs dinner dates first? I personally feel like evening/dinner dates are reserved for the men who can hold my interest and that I would enjoy seeing in a more intimate setting. Unless I have or can make additional plans or a place to go afterwards, it would irk me to get dolled up for just 1.5 hours or less, the conversation isn’t great or there’s no connection & then head right back home and take everything right off. At least when it’s early, you’re already nicely dressed for the day, can finish daily plans and can possibly even meet more potential dates. Any thoughts or does anyone feel the same?

[@mainlevel6572]

@@babyqueen2030 thanks for sharing! Just wondering why many are quick to go with just dinner dates. Some men’s thoughts are clouded when it’s past 7 lol

[@honeyfreckles5790]

OMG I’ve tried the online dating since the pandemic hit. Men definitely lie! I’m tall (5’10) so I naturally want a taller man. This one guy said he was 6’5 but was literally 5’8. I had heels on so it was absolutely horrible. He also had the nerve to try to have a “meet up date” at the park 🤣 I laughed at that, then he decided on a restaurant. I left because he was clearly wasting my time and energy! Be careful ladies!!

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Facts. I'm a tall chic too, so I get that lying about height thing. 💯

[@PineapplesCoconut]

Just discussed this with my sister regarding online dating and this video confirmed that I will stick with old fashion networking or meeting via friends dating instead of online dating.

[@triciadenice5702]

Whew!! I've had bad experiences with online dating.. 30% is me (I'm still on my journey) but 70% is definitely them!! Dating can be very strange

[@Jellybeanjam1991]

I was recently banned from Tinder and I have no idea why 😂 But that app has become super trashy so I don’t mind. I was reported by all the dusties that tried to take me out for coffee dates 🤣

[@CiaobellaAmour]

Yeah...tinder has many good looking men with good careers/jobs however,many are seeking to hook up or are married/attached but looking for an "adventure"

[@a.j.1819]

Girl same. Sometimes if you look too good to be true or if you reject men, they will get bitter and report your account,

[@homehere9817]

Oh yea, just about the men I spoke to online (mainly POF and BLK) always tell me how much money they have and can’t afford to keep going on dates. They say that shit effortlessly as if breathing and I just cancel them and never make it pass the online chat or phone. These men weed themselves out so I don’t have to. I’ll ball out by myself on myself. I shouldn’t know your financial situation good or bad! It should speak for itself.

[@labelsandlife]

Why is dating and finding a partner so difficult 😞

[@ceoofhoneyconjuredlash7326]

because sex comes so easy its not sacred no more an then you have guys that's on this red pill mess

[@barbe8155]

@ Labels and Life: dont say that sis! mindset/mentality is a big part of the hypergamy journey; practice sending out good vibes/practice sending out positive affirmations when you are in a space of positivity/good mood (not in a space of desperation and lack) and you begin to attract the change you want to see🙏🏾 im living testimony to this practice, my life has changed BIG TIME in a course of two years after being with my low grade dusty man who I settled with after 10 years😓....but change is possible🙏🏾 sending out love/prayers/blessings your way for good changes to come...listen to Chloe to the tea and practice LOA (law of attraction)...

[@bagels3050]

people aren’t honest about their intentions and or have nothing to offer..

[@labelsandlife]

@@barbe8155 so how has it helped you sis? Are you in a relationship?? Have you met a great guy thru positivity?

[@labelsandlife]

@@ceoofhoneyconjuredlash7326 girl that red pill nonsense is leading these men astray...

[@lueyes22]

Chloe I love love love your channel. You are the only hypergamy and femininity channel that I watch. You are straight to the point, real, you don’t male bash or complain. You are what we need . Thank you for focusing on positivity, Strategy and getting real results.

[@Beautybyiasia]

I don’t care what happens I’m not getting back on any app. I would rather be single.

[@ErikErixen]

Darwin award winner detected.

[@icedcocoa221]

Loveeeeeee the 10 min convo tip

[@homehere9817]

Girl, I met a man online and we planned to meet at a pool hall and shoot pool and chat. When I told him I was on my way to meet him there he texted me back “change of plans. Let just meet at my place and Netflix and chill.” I told his ass no! He went off on me in the text and I deleted and blocked. This was on POF about2- 3 years ago. Always meet in a public place during sun up. The latest I will meet someone is 9pm and leave them by 10p. Anything else is too late for me.

[@shakiyagotdreams8563]

Nope no online dating for me. Too many bad experiences

[@shavonnemilan8352]

Me too

[@CiaobellaAmour]

👀

[@BitterPeachh]

Me too.

[@SamI-yd3pu]

Where Do You Meet Them If You Don’t Go Out Then ?

[@shanellori]

I’ve been using the paid version of Match and it’s still similar to the free sites to a large degree. You still have to do a lot of weeding out with guys on there, but I do think the quality of men is a little better. However, I’ve gotten more dates off Facebook dating, but the weeding process there is absolutely ridiculous. It’s just as you say, 1-2 quality men per 100! SMH

[@OLatreil]

Great tips Chloe! Some of them I am doing and some I need to implement. One is to try one of the paid dating apps. I stopped talking on the phone for a long time with men once I realize what type of men they turned out to be, usually very clingy and insecure. Older is the way to go. You helped me understand the build-a-man concept and older men have already built themselves and seem less anxious and able to relax. Another tip is to stick to our standards. If a guy wants to go to your place or his, just stay no and stick to that. We have the final word on what he can do with us.

[@elleelizabethstyles]

I’m just gonna delete my profiles today 😅 I was asked on a coffee date. I didn’t bother to respond. And he was over 40 . Maybe I need to take better pictures. The picture here is the same as my dating profile pic.

[@gracelynappiah6793]

You look gorgeous 😍

[@elleelizabethstyles]

@@gracelynappiah6793 thank you ❤️❤️

[@SSS-qu8cn]

It"s not your pictures sis... it's his wallet and lack of funds. I got asked out for a "drink" 🥴 Dont be offended.

[@BitterPeachh]

No coffe dates. He's just cheap and going to want sex.

[@SSS-qu8cn]

@@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty lol

[@trispr]

Whewwww Chloe! You’ve outdone yourself on this one! 💯

[@mooret212]

"Paying for 3 dates comfortably without breaking into a rash" 😂😂😂😂

[@tq325]

The comparison to those free concerts you used in the video was perfect.

[@mexy04]

Thank you thank you thank you so much! On doing a video dedicated to this. I’ve been struggling with online dating. I started a profile on the league and deleted bumble and tinder. I started to notice their was pretty low looking men on tinder. It hit me on one of your other videos. I need to work on my bio. I have no idea what to write, I’m college educated but writing in a dating app feels impossible. Plus my pictures. I’m very pretty but don’t like how I look in pictures and lack being photogenic but I know it’s a process and I’m learning.

[@PolarTurtle6401]

Try doing 2 truths and a lie on your profile. It’s a fun lil ice breaker for the guys to get to know you. Best of luck it’s definitely not easy but it should be something fun. Don’t take it to seriously especially if you get a good rooster going

[@PolarTurtle6401]

@@dumfriesspearhead7398 yes im more of a math person lol been out of school for a bit now

[@Samahsings]

Online dating isn’t always the best. Everyone think they have options.

[@framingfemininity34]

I’m not pressed to be married at this time in my life so at this point I’m using online dating for practice. Definitely need to test the waters to see what kind of fish I catch as the woman I am today.

[@AbnormalJustice]

I had a dusty I met online suggest we meet at a GROCERY STORE 💀❗️

[@AbnormalJustice]

He said he wanted to see if the vibe was going to be there before we met up. Smh I said no. We got drinks, he didn’t pay, blocked him after immediately.

[@skyshae3224]

I had a guy who wanted to meet me in a park... oh no sir 🥴🥴🥴 BlOCK!!! He didn’t give me any information on him or nothing I kept asking him to tell me about himself and all he said was I’ll save it for when we meet up I don’t wanna ruin the surprise lmao I never showed up for the surprise 😂😂😂 that was so weird and creepy 🥴🥴🥴

[@NaijaDoll1]

I would add there shouldn't be 3-4 hour dates. I used to think this is great. We're having a great time, but just like phone conversations, you have tol create that angst for a second date. Never again. Dates are now an hour to 2.

[@Alore_08]

For everyone saying meeting someone online is creepy and there’s a bunch a weirdos, you can meet that same creepy weirdo in real life. Just because you met a man in real life and he tells you his name is Jonnie and he makes 6 figures a year he could be lying too! You don’t know that man, just like you don’t know the man you met online. The only precaution we can do is listen to what he says, see how he treats you, and do some an online background check on his ass! 😂

[@bp716]

Plus you have more options online vs. real life...

[@letgomyego]

Feeling close-contact Energy, body language, mannerisms, facial expressions, tone of voice, body odor, potential stank breath, actions & politeness, physical attraction, hygiene and style, confidence or lack of it, eye contact and actually seeing a human being in person can save you a WORLD of time and trouble when you meet people in real life opposed to online. Yes there is creeps everywhere but when someone is in your physical space and face its easier to detect a dusty then the dump of catfish trolls that pretend to be high value men behind a computer screen with pics that aren’t even them possibly smh that’s why I don’t online date

[@thelongevitylady]

Met a generous provider man on Hinge...at 42. Lots of dusties before him though. There's hope but be swift on the edit.

[@PolarTurtle6401]

I do agree that coffee dates are low effort but I also hate being stuck on a date with weirdos because they are paying for everything and I don’t want to be rude and leave. Sometimes a 20 min meeting low pressure something flexible (were u can cancel if it rains and you don’t want to go out) can be a great way to not spend a long 2 part hours date with a dude you don’t like.

[@LK-lr7fv]

I agree, I also feel culture plays a part. In Australia we have a huge coffee culture, cafes anywhere and everywhere, usually with food. I reckon a 'pre-date' followed by a proper dinner date is the formula for me, I'd hate to be stuck eating with someone I wasn't vibing with. I imagine it's different in America but in Australia there's heaps of cool and trendy cafes

[@bookieaustin2244]

You are right I’m 23 dating apps and fb full of duties that’s why I stop . Wanna come over on the first day you talk to them

[@NaomiMordi]

6:08 is a word. 8:32 I wasn't ready for that. 😂😂😂🤣

[@Cwade14]

Oop....she mentioned KS with the shade😩😎😂

[@tamaraglenn1574]

Loved it 🤣

[@SSS-qu8cn]

I recently blocked a guy who idealized KS. It was a NO for me.

[@TiaraSoWavy]

I dont Date period these men are crazy asf these days I rather keep to myself

[@tatlivinlavida]

lool jajajajajaj

[@pm1647]

Online dating is the same as meeting someone in real life its great practice if your not experienced in the game of dating just don't sleep with them!

[@sherose5370]

"Kevin Samuels Pond" 🤣🤣🤣 Chloe_!!!

[@laurie6292]

That was too funny!!! I agree throw them back to the swamp!

[@proactivemimi6473]

I tried online dating they where all dusties ...I deleted all my online dating profile ..

[@JustforusCanada]

you had me at coffee date ninjas

[@DevelopingHer]

I agree. You should get on a paid app if you want someone serious. I met my husband on match. Tip: Try and contact a newer member on the app as oppose to the ones that have been there for awhile. I feel like the ones who have been there awhile tend to be picky or have unresolved issues. We all have issues, but some more than others.

[@unauthorizeduserr]

The kevin samuels pond 🦐 lol

[@iamglorialouis6184]

Chloe you changed my life 🥺🙏🏾

[@Bae2349]

Thank you Chloe! You are so right! Set the timer!! You got 10 minutes to ask me out, if no talks of that...I gotta go.

[@PiLarTheStarlet]

Chloe you’re killing meeeeeee 😂😂😂not the tinder swap meet hinge flea market Im crying 🤣🤣🤣

[@reflections4me]

Let’s get it ladies!!! Summer is here. I am assuming we have done the work right? Let’s go. Life is good...life is good ladies!👗👙👠🕶✨🥗🥂🍾 💐 .

[@Liz-yq1bc]

Thankfully that wasn’t my situation. My husband and I met online. Things happened organically and let me rest in femininity. My close friend met her husband online and is a stay-at-home mom and lady who lunches. Be honest in your bio, list what you want, and don’t settle for less. You’ll know from the 1st meet-up what he’s about.

[@annissakapor]

I would love to know what did you write on your bio and how do you know hes the right man for you.Thanks❤

[@iheartvida]

This is on point 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@mschangingthegame425]

Online dating is ghetto . I'm over it

[@tulips91]

'The Happy Princess' while waiting for her prince.. Love that.

[@MultiChiedza]

Coffee Date Ninja 🤣🤣🤣

[@themoonbleu627]

speak the truth sis I hear no lies👏👏👏👏👏 if you value your time you wouldn’t dare be online just look cute and go outside 💐

[@crystalcormier9376]

Facts!!!! If a man has to approach woman online and not in person is very telling!!!

[@themoonbleu627]

@@crystalcormier9376 girl YES!

[@letgomyego]

Period

[@princesachula]

Datings apps are FULL of married men for my age group 40+

[@BitterPeachh]

@Corinne D'amato Same with me. I've ask one guy, once I found out he was married. Why are you out with me, when u have a wife at home? He said him and his wife only had sex once this year. I said, that's not my problem, lol.

[@Inthebeginning8715]

I use bumble. And I'm always separating the wheat from the chaff. Bumble has been pretty good to me since I've reset my standards. I'm all about hypergamy. I'm roster dating on bumble, and I'm enjoying myself. I've done different sites geared towards hypergamy and have dated some wealthy dust mites from them. You do have to be careful either way. Have fun ladies! Happy dating! 😉

[@HonieeLove4You]

@krystal elaine which dating sites are geared toward hypergamy?

[@Carter83Aly]

I like Bumble as well. At first, I was a little put off by initiating contact but it definitely helps the 'matches' stay more clear. These other sites, every dusty man is just swiping sending messages knowing they would NEVER stand a chance!

[@fisf.2148]

Chloe, honestly you completely nailed the Waste of Time that is online dating in this video. I really hope this goes viral. X

[@sashasasha2254]

Well ain't that the truth ladies... I've been on dating apps for a few years and all I got from there were men with short attention spans... men who I would have amazing dates with then would ghost and then try and 're match with me a few months later as obviously their plan B had failed so back to me.. honestly it's not worth it. I don't have a clue how people find matches on there who actually end up long term... happens to like 5% of people

[@Trini190]

I honestly don’t mind a coffee date! Because I want to see if I have chemistry with a guy first, if I don’t see that we have chemistry, I won’t go forward! It avoids the awkward feeling I have to make conversation with u pretend to like you and so forth.

[@letgomyego]

You can’t see chemistry at a high end restaurant? Lol or on a 10 minute phone call lol

[@Cherryblossom-fg1pl]

I am so grateful for your channel❤️

[@mika9883]

Ugh... I hate online dating. I fail at it miserably not on purpose tho. However, I do need to do some work on myself because I can do better 😩.

[@Ashley-fg2mu]

I really, really appreciate this.

[@CandieP]

Whew boy! Luckily I’ve been off the market for over a decade and I honestly feel bad for women out here that are dating and online dating. I couldn’t imagine dating in 2021🤦🏾‍♀️. Sorry my friends be scaring me 😱. But hang in there ladies. I know there’s a lot of frogs out there but that upwardly mobile, educated, protector and provider prince is still awaiting you. 😉

[@Paul-McB]

I do agree, many dating profiles do not advertise to the interest if men.

[@nicolewhitlock7394]

Thanks Chloe for this channel much needed

[@foreignlashclub2068]

Love ur channel ! The best advice ever !!!! It’s realistic ❤❤❤❤ thank u 🙏🏾

[@berritru]

My ex was a dust-bucket who really clowned me about using dating apps years ago when I was in college. His reaction/demeanor was weird, but I couldn't put my finger on why 🤷🏽‍♀️ It turned out he paid for The League and Hinge, and was talking/soliciting to over 50 different women. So yeah, I been left the dating app doom in the 🔥pits🔥 to the right of where the *now melted* bar is and I STILL had a run-in with his exposed use on those apps 💀 so ghetto

[@leagueG5]

I saw this and said oh snap, Chloe_ is about to come with that truth. ❤🔥

[@ashleyalexxis3442]

I actually got lucky on Tinder years ago , met a guy that was very loaded with no time for a woman. Took me to the strip club and gave me $500 first date no sex perfect gentleman. He was a tech nerd and was socially awkward and shy but had BDE. We are still friends to this day .

[@CiaobellaAmour]

So no actual relationship?

[@audreyc1091]

omg what happened after that? no dates after?

[@Theoracleprincess]

Was the strip club a date ? Was this an arrangement? I'm confused 😕

[@ashleyalexxis3442]

@@CiaobellaAmour no ma’am

[@ashleyalexxis3442]

@@audreyc1091 lol he continued to pay for stuff until I got into a relationship

[@KnoUrWorthLuv]

Chloe_ ,darlin’ you have done it again! As usually preaching nothing but the facts!🙌🏾

[@SalmaSophis]

Thanks Chloe for your informative videos. I'm sure they'll be extremely helpful to many ladies on the hypergamous journey.

[@Ohvickyoh]

Four years ago, I spent an entire summer online dating. I met a lot of nice guys that wined and dined me. I was going on dates every week. It served it's purpose for the time. I would never do it again

[@TheRealJPhillips]

Once upon a time, I remember online dating was for the less desirable ppl. Not anymore I see

[@MsKismetNoRegrets]

I’ve always had an internal aversion to online dating. I’ve never done the free apps. Recently, I took the time to invest in match. I’m not impressed.