Common the Rapper Does This to ALL the Women He Dates.

[@gelleh.5456]

Him not marrying anyone actually helps the situation. He's a playboy and would probably be a terrible husband.

[@teniaosayande6355]

this was actually my 1st thought

[@mesalouis8976]

Then why do women keep going out with him? 🤦🏾‍♀️ are they blind?

[@deblibra6884]

The things you presume about others lives will probably manifest itself in your own. Just make sure your husband isn't terrible. Hate to see a good brother dragged for no real reason.

[@IndigoWisdom1]

Does NOT help if he’s taking marraige-ready black women off the market Temporarily just to throw them back in the water. Those women are well into there 40s and do Not have time for that. Takes added time to get over a breakup and back on the dating market without being “on the rebound” all the time too.

[@haywardmccullough2762]

So you don't the difference between a playboy and a good husband? No one is perfect so what's a good husband! Love is a hurting thing!

[@dstturk26]

He also dated Serena, but she ended it because he didn't want to commit! She moved on & married a man that ADORES HER!!

[@MsSjchic]

He said he almost married her. You have to propose first to do that. He never proposed.

[@deblibra6884]

As she should have.

[@princellasmith7562]

Yes.

[@slarsp2]

But Serena also told the world that, her man that adores her, stinks. I guess Embarrassing your man in front of the world is how you show appreciation for someone who adores you.

[@honeylamour1]

What’s crazy is Common came after Drake in defense of Serena, for mistreating Serena and playing with her feelings

[@ParisJenai]

Common is the John Mayer of the black community I cringe every time I see somebody date him. Unfortunately these are the kinds of guys I have dated in the past The “good guys” They Seem good and look good on paper but still no ring, emotionally unavailable but want you to be in your feelings so they get girlfriend perks without the responsibility. Run sis run!!!

[@jamillahwatkins2168]

Yes. I was thinking about John Mayer while watching this. They are each other’s equivalents.

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

That's it.

[@ak-47intelligence75]

They say they are logical and women are irrational and emotional creatures but guess who's mad when women are logical, calculating , discerning and call them out on their BS ? Those exact same men.

[@gurlycash7394]

Preach.

[@simeonhibbert7462]

If Common is this well-known Monster as you say he is what does that say about the women like you who date him?

[@donnamcintosh2109]

Serena was wise to not Alexis slip through her fingers. These bm on You Tube like to minimize Serena's husband's financial status, but these men fail to see that at the end of the day, Alexis is no slouch in the finance department. This man showed he was serious about Serena. Now, this woman is living her best life.

[@Loverlovelife]

I totally agree she won because common just want to play games

[@haryel5058]

Yeah. It was so cute. She said he was nice to her and she wanted someone with whom she can be friend with! That’s it !!! 🤩

[@kgomotsomosiatlhaga8311]

I'd also like to mention Eve the rapper off the top of my head. She ditched her "gangsta love" for a more classier and successful man who is white. I don't think that any of those "industry rapper" men would have married her. She seems happy and content. She is beautiful and successful and deserving of amazing love and im glad she found it. She seems happy✨

[@niratomas579]

Eve is glowing beautifully! Every time I see her she gets more and more gorgeous! You can tell she’s well watered!

[@sianmac7998]

I said years ago Common was not the marrying kind, my ex said maybe Common just hasn't found the right one. I argued at Common's age he must have found the right woman by now and it's just an excuse to remain a playboy. Common knows he doesn't have competition and will only commit when he is old or sick enough to need a companion until then it's 'Playdates Anyone?'

[@lw1524]

The unasked question is it woman he is seeking or just refuge in black beards

[@shebamooncat9162]

Facts

[@justsaying3729]

But does this mean he has to want to get married, No, at least he's not a married man cheating on his wife and being a terrible Father. So many are. I often wonder why people even bother when there is so much Infidelity. I'd say he's a Free Agent & it's okay if he never marries. What about P Diddy, all those children & not family stability but No One slams him. I think he is a terrible example of a man/father. Just saying.

[@tinytowz4471]

Hi. "... at Common's age" is interesting because age doesn't determine if someone is right.

[@ceelo6369]

Common is not looking to get married, he takes full advantage of his Dates. My advice: Date more than 1 person and find your best friend first. Just say NO to intimacy until you get what you want. Stop giving away your power.

[@victorious1929]

This was exactly how dating was In the 70s and 80s. Girls dated several guys for a few weeks and see who’s more compatible. Ion know about this new “ownership” dating. People claiming goods they have bought

[@walteimusic]

Poor advice/ nobody's gonna take u serious/ if ur dating someone else while ur dating them. Ur gonna get played. If women make men respect them they'll get better results. Don't give up the cookies too soon. Stop looking for ballers/ money is good / A man making 70k might be better for you than the guy making 200k. People who make good money can be arrogant and cocky. That's why women need to be making their own money.

[@myronmitchell1791]

I Totally agree....👍

[@joannagipson12]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@yasmin8851]

Anyone who dates Leonardo DiCaprio knows what time it is, black women who date Common expecting marriage are beyond naive.

[@YvetteCousin]

Stop dating exclusively.....you are single until you are married.......cast a wide net and let the best man win.....date everyone

[@dday3322]

💯💯💯

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

This is very solid advice sis, to avoid time wastage and heartbreak before finding one's husband.

[@jarenc2048]

The path to marriage is to see if you both can commit.

[@kdavis5088]

#truth

[@auntiez4917]

THISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!1 Black women are also chronically single because we don't know how to date. We fall for the first man who comes along.

[@WatchingTheWorldGoRound]

I am an Indian man and I applaud this video! I find feminine Black women are the most attractive and I encourage Black women to consider Asian men in dating because it is the same predicament for us as well. The least preferred races in dating apps such as bumble, tinder, etc are Black women and Asian men. Let us get together and make some strong smart kids for the future just the way nature intended. Thank you Christelyn 🙏🏾.

[@christinebogan5945]

I agree I have been in the medical profession for over 30 years I have always found Asian men who truly attracted an admirer black women

[@Mademoiselleantoine]

Yes, I am into Asian men, but some do not check for black women. Which is disappointed.

[@ARS-fn6px]

Many Indian men are exactly the same as black men, disrespecting their own women. I hope youre different because youre here taking notes. I suggest following Tony Gaskins aswell if youre open to truth.

[@trueg7741]

Lol

[@deidreritter1165]

I approve this message!

[@shebamooncat9162]

Common is a waste of time. Every woman that gets with him thinks he’s going to choose them, he doesn’t want anything but to date…..No commitment He’s the kind of guy who makes all kinds of promises and string you along, then when someone new peaks his interest he drops the woman he’s with.

[@keirmiller7198]

💯 🎯 Bingo you done peep the game !

[@patriciadavis3549]

I don't think he even makes promises to them. They just assume he wants them and be there because he is Nice to them. He is just plain old emotionally unavailable and non-committal for long term relationship s. But remember George Clooney was IN his 50s when he got married

[@scottie250]

He can and suppose too... that's his M.O.. this braud is bitter..marriage is not naggotionalble. Mutual maybe!!! You don't choose marriage, it sort of chooses you..compatability, LOYALTY..

[@PucciNYC]

🎯

[@slickrick2420]

We don't know if he lies, I'm sure the women are aware given his dating history

[@Diana734]

Serena refused to wait for a Brotha anymore and I do not blame her.

[@angieangiel2666]

May be tiffany needs a white man.

[@MrJDR_]

She about to get divorced

[@desertdetroiter428]

Is it okay if a brotha doesn’t wanna wait on a sister anymore and crosses the line to get a white woman?

[@pamelawatson5559]

Sorry but He broken 💔 up with her ...

[@traceythomas3571]

Real talk!!

[@Bloombaby99]

I find it funny how the haters are now saying Serena and Alexis are seperating/divorcing yet I have not seen one ounce of proof of this. They *NEVER* want black women to be happy, healthy, and fully functioning on all cylinders.

[@RosalindJulen]

I am so happy with black women's revolution globally. No more settling.Love from the Netherlands.

[@johneta7665]

Black women have always allow different races of men to enter their wombs indiscriminately. You’re just carrying on tradition.

[@deesdees324]

Love this, I’m from the Netherlands too.

[@knowledgeislight9713]

Revolutie? Je bedoelt ondergang.

[@aespamusicisonthenextlevul2295]

@@knowledgeislight9713 Hjb

[@RosalindJulen]

@@knowledgeislight9713 Black women choosing themselves, black women placing herself on a pedestal, black women not caping for others, black women having standards, black women having higher expectations, black women choosing the best man for the job, black women moving away from all the bullshit conditioning is for sure a revolution. Free at last free at last .

[@dekaibrahim6749]

I almost chocked on my food when she said he going to qualify for AARP 💁🏽‍♀️😂😂🤣

[@FuturePsychNurse]

So basically what’s he’s saying is that he always has one foot out the door in all of his romantic relationships. Let this be a lesson ladies, ALWAYS look into the past relationships of the men you VET!

[@Roccofan]

Or give the man what he says he wants in order to be your husband? No? Too easy? Better to be single? Got it.

[@UchihaItachi-nm3vn]

Ignore the dusty in your comment section. And yes you are right

[@SlimGoodie004]

I miss you doing videos like this, encouraging BW to choose character over color and pick the best man for the job. You're one of the first to tell us to expand our options in dating. Thank you 🤗

[@suzygirl1843]

But, remember BW also must wait for the ring or walk down the isle to actually reveal their partner. White men also like to play around, aka Brad Pitt who “dated” BW but never intended to marry one. This is a white men playbook that BM borrowed. Don’t reveal who you are partnered with until that ring is on your finger and vows have been made.

[@Loveis_Kind]

💯💯💯💯

[@ifehansson2254]

Common is that typical black man who pays lip service to black women . He knows his market and black women are loyal customers. He strikes me as the type of person that will not settle down until he is old and needs a 'good black woman' to look after him. All black women should avoid his type

[@glorfindelchocolateflowery6392]

I wish black women would stop falling for this type of foolishness. I hate how they use black women and break they hearts

[@suzygirl1843]

You should always date white men first and black men last. Work down from the hierarchy.

[@Bloombaby99]

Boom. This. All of this.

[@go_off_Sis]

Sadly, a lot of no self value having women will jump at the opportunity to be his caregiver after his EDD kicks in so they can say that they are married to him.

[@deenadream]

That why he named himself “Common” he’s typical & cliché as heck 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@thecrackedcocoon5423]

Im glad BW are seeing the "COMMON" denominator in marriage rates.

[@marquillacoles6279]

This was a great video. I’m 21 and most of the black guys my age just want to sleep around. I’ve met so many who have kids and even dated an older black man but he wasn’t interested in settling down anytime soon. I’m just focused on getting a degree and myself at this point. I hope to move to a diverse area.

[@kyralynch5880]

Serena was living her best life before she met her husband. She was living her best life because of her hard work, sacrifices she made for her tennis career. She is a pro star athlete. We need to stop giving credit to men as the reason a woman is living her best life. Women can and do live their best lives with or without a man. Men can only enhance or decline your life. Living your best life is all on you.

[@goodlife8044]

Well said. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@peonyflowers23]

But that’s what she’s saying though. She’s saying not to settle or lower your standards because of false ideals.

[@JackieleenVerdejo222]

He’s about to qualify for AARP! That took me out! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Facts though! Love this video! Thank you!

[@RoRo-gm7ee]

Me too girl!!

[@cocokdful]

Actually you're eligible for AARP in your 40s. You don't have to wait until 50 to apply.

[@Bourneinlight]

Right 🤣🥴😂

[@jamillia53]

😂😂😂😂

[@SixFootofFitness]

😭😭😭

[@reginayfavors]

I like this: Choose the best man for the job. This doesn't mean the person has to be the same race, but it does mean the person must have vision for the marriage. Great video.

[@deblibra6884]

That I can agree with. The dragging of an innocent Black man, I can't get with that no matter what. Common is an innocent Black man. Did nothing dirty to any of these women and does not deserve to be dragged.

[@OEFTF11]

Ofcourse they don't have to be the same race, are we in 2022 or 1822?

[@deergodllc6244]

Not one lie detected! I like the play on words- Common is the COMMON denominator. He will probably marry a C-list woman of no color at some point in the near future. At least he has the decency not to ruin these BW’s lives with marriage he would’ve probably been a terribly embarrassing husband. BW need to look at what Serena did differently and GET A CLUE. 🕵️‍♀️

[@_prettybrownbrown7729]

Never deal with a dude who won’t commit to you . He don’t deserve your time , or the box . !

[@zc181]

You go girl!!!!

[@bluemagic7366]

I agree with that but going outside your race is not always the answer either because lately black women is getting killed by their Zaddy. My advice would be to be patient and let men know what you're looking for in the beginning that way men like Common will keep going and won't be in the way for the great black man you deserve ❤♥🙏

[@funkdocdoppelganger7720]

That's just it ... that box ain't all that , that's why he don't stick around long... people think just because those chicks are famous or whatever that their box is all that , and we know none of em of any color looks the way they do without the make up...

[@Victoriousniki]

Girl you look good!! Wow! You always look great but you are glowing 😍 so happy you are back! By the way I’m a Hispanic women that has been doing the same with the men of my community as well. I have started dating outside of my community and I am treated much better and am with an amazing Asian man that I love and he loves me.

[@succubusny05]

Yay get it girl!!

[@ThePinkPill_OG]

Hey my spicy sister! Good for you!

[@lailafiola7728]

Overall.Asian men make great partners good for you!

[@anelbre0904]

Yessss girl!!😁😁

[@MeMe-ht2hd]

Good, for you girl! Much love ❤. I a m glad you opened outside your culture. I am also with an Asian man and I am Black. Asian men are great father figures they culturly take care of their women and children

[@lelabrooks04]

Two comments about this topic. Worked in health-care. My white co workers at 85% were married or engaged and got married. Only 15% of my black co workers were married. I hate that I sought out men who looked like me. I wished that I had of dated outside my race.

[@seventhivy878]

@Fromtheheart Facts! Been employed in Healthcare 20+ years and same with my Caucasian, Asian & Middle Eastern colleagues marital stats are spot on to what you said🤷🏾‍♀️

[@missj5564]

He probably does not want women. He has dated so many successful women, but does not claim or commit to any of them.

[@miniminott48]

Many black men don't marry so he's a regular black man in that regard.

[@margyiphillips4931]

G#Y vibes?

[@NycBeauty]

I think the same.

[@thesandrabebe7478]

😳😲

[@Kimberly_97]

So you are suggesting he is gay because he won’t commit?

[@islandgirl8067]

Common jumps from one woman to another. Common is handsome but strikes me as being a pass around. So many BM over 40 are still trying to be players. It’s so sad that Erykah Badu is a 3 time baby momma. As BW we have no choice but to expand our options or end up single like all the women Common discarded except Serena. By the way CK your hair looks fabulous! 😍

[@apriltiff6452]

Exactly 💯

[@melanatednegus174]

I'm not a player. I would love to find me a BLACK queen and settle down with children.

[@_prettybrownbrown7729]

He looks feminine to me . Kindve like a “woke” nature pretty boy

[@deblibra6884]

So easy for you to coin Erykah's name with a humiliating term. Erykah isn't sad about the children she had the pleasure of making regardless of who their dad is. She unlike many in this post isn't raisig them on government assistance or begging anybody here including the pink pill to support them. Stop dragging decent Black women due to circumstances that only they know why it happened the way it happened.

[@lscummings]

Erika B. then Sarina W. In that order these the only 2 that said... boi please early on into relationship with these 2 woman that I can remember

[@MetaDoll]

You have to date around especially when a particular group of men are known for being time wasters.. They will "date" you for 50 years and still kick you to the curb like nothing happened.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

I've noticed that engagements in the BC have a tendency to run and run..........a well known example is Don Cheadle who FINALLY married his girlfriend of 28 YEARS. They have two adult children.

[@deliteful1991]

Facts!!!

[@cindychristian1700]

I had a friend tell me that like 25 years ago! She said "These men will date you forever!" I remember watching Oprah where the topic was men who refuse to marry their girlfriends! It had white and black frustrated women! One black lady, who was 45, had been with her man for 25 years and a younger white lady had three children with her man and had lived with him for 8 years! She even looked at the camera and pleaded with him to marry her! There were other women but those are the two that I remember the most! That show should be on KZbin as a cautionary tale not to wait too long for that ring!

[@simeonhibbert7462]

Who fault is it to allow someone to date you that long?

[@ytresponses]

@Meta Doll You - "You have to date around especially when a particular group of men are known for being time wasters.. They will "date" you for 50 years and still kick you to the curb like nothing happened." Response - A pedestalized group of people (men and women) are serial marry-ers. Elizabeth Taylor for example got married about seven or eight times I think (eight times to seven different men). Then you have David Foster, Zsa Zsa Gabor, Larry King, Martin Scorsese, James Cameron, Melanie Griffith, Nicolas Cage, Richard Pryor, Kelsey Grammer, Pamela Anderson, Joan Collins, Kenny Rogers and probably a bunch more married several(four?) or more times. The only one that's well known from a particualr group is Richard Pryor. I wonder do people consider getting married and divorced several times time-wasting??? I don't see that big a difference between serial marriage/marrying and serial non-marital relationships. They're BOTH part of the modern USA culture. Also long-term common-law type relationships where people are together for many years even decades without formal marriage are probably practically better than marrying and divorcing three, four, five times. Let's not act like there aren't men AND women who are common-law married and happy...doing just fine, and from various demographics in this modern western USA culture. My point...or at least a point I could make is marriage in today's/modern society is NOT the end-all be-all. A person can be quick to marry you and JUST AS quick to divorce you. Marriage has overall lost a LOT of its meaning in this overall culture...this western civilization and culture which was NOT established by a particular group of people. I am curious for people's answer to this question(s): What is marriage, where did it come from, what's its meaning, and what's its purpose? The answer could be in general or as it relates to the modern europeanized/euro-centric civilization and culture...western culture we live in/under.

[@Aries16603]

Black women please jump in the game. Do what black men are doing. Keep your options open, be selfish with your womb just like they are with commitment and also date out like they do. Look at all these different groups of men who love black women. Look at women like Grace Jones and the number of European men she has been with, Eve, Serena Williams, etc. the “other races of men don’t like black women” is a myth just like “black love” is a myth.

[@apriltiff6452]

Exactly 💯

[@Bloombaby99]

Operating in a scarcity mindset mixed with race loyalty has *NOT* benefited black women *AT ALL* ...past or present.

[@deenadream]

Agreed

[@gabeeskridge8291]

Do YOU know why that is? Is this garbage talk and these discussions about options a coincidence? Wake up my people , you're being played!

[@Love-gz4ee]

I think Comman needs to leave women alone. He seems unsure as to what he really wants

[@Truthnofeelins]

How many of us really thought that he was going to be with her long term or marry her? I certainly did not.

[@melbee5767]

I don't follow common closely, but the surface observation is that he may be a narcissist/psychopath. These type men present themselves as a stable, respectful, loving option but in private they say and do things such as gaslighting. These men purposeful find smart, talented, engaging women because they want to emotionally drain them like a vampire.

[@Kuttie03]

Woww

[@deblibra6884]

A narcissist - extreme self-involvement to the degree that it makes a person ignore the needs of those around them. A psychopath -a person suffering from chronic mental disorder with abnormal or violent social behavior. Either educate yourself or stop trying to diagnose someone you don't even know based on some misguided post by a self proclaimed swirl guru for Black women.

[@datgurlky1]

Girl yes. He's fickle and has wide crazy eyes.

[@sherrisolomon8673]

Mel Bee, prob a Sociopath too.

[@IndigoWisdom1]

I don’t think he has narcissistic symptoms. His behavior is very “Common” amongst MOST black men on the dating market these days. Narcissism is a disorder and leads to abuse, I haven’t heard anything about him being abusive and the “Erykah Badu” factor seems to be a thing- no men coming from her lair is gonna be out here being narcissistic towards black women. 😆 I Do think he needs major Therapy as Most black people in America do, by default but especially on this issue of black relating. 👍🏽

[@smiller4659]

I always thought something was off about Common and his chronic, high profile dating without marriage. He may be socially conscious and community focused, but he's maladaptive when it comes to interpersonal relations. Wealthy men tend to marry (over and over again!) but they marry and create a legacy. He's 50 and still dating and 'breaking up' like a kid. It's like arrested development.

[@Bloombaby99]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@shebamooncat9162]

Definitely. He has commitment phobia, he rather break their hearts instead of getting his broken

[@esaw7067]

This is the problem, everyone should be glad he's dating instead of impregnating women and leaving them like half these rappers do. Y'all obsession with creating a legacy is literally creating the out of wedlock crisis.

[@dday3322]

"Arrested Development"!!! 💯💯💯

[@simeonhibbert7462]

For wealthy people your legacy is not your kids it is what you build and leave behind in society that is still prosperous, plenty of wealthy people have stupid kids. Do you know Nike Apple Google Amazon any of their kids and it won't matter because long after their dead their companies will live on. Are you saying that it is better to get married and divorced? because most marriages in the Black community's end up in divorce withe BW filling 80% of the time.

[@Neeks6.6]

Also note Serena was the one who black men dogged out the most insulting her facial features, physique, and complexion. Smdh.... That said, she dodged a bullet with Common. From what I understand, he experienced some childhood trauma which he doesn't seem to have dealt with and may be manifesting itself in his apparent commitment- phobia. I'm glad you're back and looking great!

[@Jjonescp3]

We understand that there are a lot of toxic black men but it is almost solely white men who have called Serena a man and constantly have given her racist energy not black men.

[@guacgirl]

I have heard alot of insults about her as well and I never understood any of it. When I heard (black) men compliment her it was constantly about her body mainly her behind as the sole focus 🤔

[@jihanjae]

IamAneika+ The only thing you should be 'shaking your head' at, is your obvious capacity for self deceit! There is hardly a "black" man who has ever "dogged" Serena by "insulting" her facial, and other physical features. On the contrary, Serena arguably became just as well known off the court BECAUSE of the appreciation of those very same physical features by "black" men. For years (up to the present) Serena has been FAVORABLY featured/referenced in just about every "black" publication and online forum. On the other hand, European Americans have insulted/degraded/mocked/ridiculed/dehumanized both Serena and her sister from the day they dared to step on to the tennis court. Her physical features, & even the sound she makes when serving the ball, have been compared to the animals in National Geographic by so called "white" Americans!! Those of European descent hate her so much, that they cheered for Naomi Osaka, even while Serena represented the U.S.A in a championship match;.......after which a European newspaper cartoonist went on to further ridicule her in a degrading/dehumanizing fashion. If you hate those of your own ethnicity, then grow up and simply say so. Do not make "black" men guilty for the crimes of "white" ones. There is no need to engage in delusion and self deceit in order to create some seeming 'justification' for YOUR own craving for pale skinned association. If you wish to date outside your "race", then simply do so....... without the use of ridiculous/laughable tales!

[@876me7]

This isn’t about childhood trauma. As Kristelyn said he is simply a rich black man with access to many women so he has no desire to commit to just one. Successful black men statistically are the least likely to marry. It’s just that simple. We often seek complex reasons for why something happens when most times the most simple explanation is the truth.

[@donjuanjett4557]

Serena was dogged out by white media. She was adored in our community.

[@lesliemorgan3091]

I just don't buy Common's "pro community" "black love." It looks good, and keeps the money rolling, but it's just a gimmick. He uses these women for image.

[@entheogenicmidwife]

☝🏾

[@simeonhibbert7462]

So, he uses them, and they get nothing out of it LOL SMH

[@selamawitthomas3882]

YES, YES, YES, AND YES 😔. He needs to get checked. At this point black women need to be very weary of his "pro black" rhetoric. It's giving, dating until my next album or book drops energy SMH.

[@melissabursey6383]

I am not qualified to answer a question in this conversation. I am single. Just because you have money and success doesn't mean your LUVable. I can't talk about someone choice . Maybe, he just can't commit.

[@charlotteziggy8353]

"Fighting over the same 12 guys." Lol. Everything you said is true.

[@pumpkinspice213]

Move around ladies and date everyone!

[@ayo8396]

Erykah Badu is a free spirit, I don't even think she wants to get married. I remember her saying in an interview that Comon was weird and became obsessed with her. She broke up with him and he still wanted her. I respect Erykah for not letting "marriage" or men define who she is as a woman. All of the men that have been with her had some level of obsession. 👽BaduVoodu💯

[@saramatthews7159]

I love erykah badu

[@mochamommyATX]

That is interesting . I don't think Andre 3000 felt that way. Remember "Sorry Miss Jackson"?

[@Taven202]

Most are obsessed with Baduvoodu lol

[@melbee5767]

She never got over Andre from outcast.

[@ayo8396]

@@mochamommyATX That song just proves he was a bit sour. He wrote a song about child support and not being invited to the baby birthday cookout 🤷🏿‍♀️.

[@theoracle0075]

He doesn't have access to ALL the BW😳. He strikes me as a pinky's up kinda guy. Not even if I was down, out and dusty would I touch Common.🤷🏾‍♀️

[@leyley8969]

It's crazy because in Commons song with Lauren Hill he says "it's to many black women who can say they're mothers but can't say that they're wives". You are adding to that mess sir.

[@Orchid_1026]

He doesn't only date BW. He dated Laura Dern (actress) for a year or two actually. But he's not marrying anybody!

[@kisha4040]

He never dated Laura.

[@jerrythomas4240]

Lol. As a black man I have to agree with you on this. Real talk Christelyn. 🙏🏾

[@deblibra6884]

Lol... I doubt your even Black.

[@suzygirl1843]

We don’t need Derrick Jaxn copycats. We played that book out. No money is going to any man’s pockets for common sense talking points

[@johneta7665]

I bet you let your girl peg you too. Smh

[@qkendrick813]

😒

[@trueg7741]

Another episode of “The SIMPsons”

[@WellDamn24]

Marriage doesn’t need to be the goal, but Common can’t even maintain a long term relationship for more than a year or so. I can’t be disappointed in Common because he is all but telling the world that he’s not the marrying kind of guy. No one who is looking for a serious relationship should bother with him.

[@11superlife]

The black community is headed down a rabbit hole that will be hard to come back from. I see men saying that black women are not worth marrying and black women saying the same about black men. I don't know where this hate towards each other is coming from but I fear the damage will be irreversible.

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

It's a bit obvious where the hate comes from. BM collectively are at the bottom economically. They don't posses wealth nor generational wealth when compared to ALL other races of men. To offset this issue many BW try to over compensate by giving him a pass on being a builder, protector and provider usually by masculizing herself. This means she gets the dreaded strong black woman label that's supposed to hunt, kill and gather all while reciting scripture. Problem is that as much as many BM don't want to do the hard work, they also want her to be sweet, feminine and submissive. Those two things don't really go together. It's like someone wanting a monogamous roommate they get to sleep with that only has eyes for him, meanwhile he want to be polygamous with any race of woman preferably a woman that has the most powerful race of man. Most BM look at WM as the most powerful so getting one of his race of women is seen as obtaining a form of power. So it makes sense that once the do have some semblance of wealth usually through " entertainment" because they rarely level up any other way, they tend to want their female counterpart to be an example of that wealth. Poor BM do the same thing but their WW usually is an overweight/ obese type. Still for many of them it beats an overweight BW that shares their feature, skin color or hair texture and reminder of who they are. Now the hatred for black women stems from their black mothers and the lack of black fathers. In hid mind it's her fault his father left him behind yet if you notice as an adult most BM don't go looking for their adult children.It's when they're on their deathbed or needing a kidney do they get people to shame their abandoned offspring into showing up to give to a person that was selfish in ignoring their needs when he was healthy as a horse.

[@honestteay6831]

It’s already heading in that direction, I’m instructing my own children to date outside of our race. BM and BW are showing how detrimental we are to each other. I will not allow my kids to sacrifice themselves to help the community survive when it is already a dumpster fire.

[@ericabelcher8760]

I definitely know where the hate is coming from but it's so many layers of issues, I don't even think I have the energy to go down that road. But yea I agree, it's very sad to see! I try my hardest every day to be positive & a woman of integrity in this hot mess culture of dating nowadays! Smdh 🤦‍♀️

[@IamCarrieNotBranshaw]

Its coming from many manufactures. Some say it’s coming from childhood trauma, past relationship and etc. The media, in the US has put this out that we as people are one the lower racks while other are climbing the letter. But we are beautiful and talented human beings, but we’re still learning how to love ourselves I love another. My issue with men is that if you cane be real with me, then I can’t be bother with you. They want so much from us but barely give anything back.

[@jazziccoolcat]

You hit right on point.

[@theblessedblackwoman]

Another amazing video. These type of men just want to play with women. As I got older, I stopped focusing on how good men look. Ladies please focus on how men act!! Looks is just skin deep. Women who want security have to prioritise how men treat women not how men look. Not even d size matters after a certain age. Just my 2 cents. Great to see you back. You're one of my favourite content creators because i can see you keep things real.

[@siesies000]

Exactly, if you want something cute just be cute yourself, or get a cute hobbie.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

But they don't look that good to me though.The vibe is "off".

[@thepragmaticexistentialist]

I agree. Unfortunately, even some older women are encouraging younger women to go for looks and swag, because 'you don't want ugly children, do you?' 🤦🏾‍♀ Sad.

[@deblibra6884]

There is nothing wrong with the way Common carried himself or treated the women he was involved with. He just wasn't ready to marry any of them. They split without problems and went on their way.

[@876me7]

I agree!

[@Sarinleigh]

I just dont know why BW in the entertainment industry date rappers. They have access to directors, producers, record label owners, tech people, and so forth... go for them...not rappers and athletes.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

I know, it's really frustrating and so.......predictable.

[@robinmahan101]

And many times their network is more than the rappers.

[@i.l.746]

The billion dollar question

[@kisha4040]

Those men are probably not checking for them

[@cscstan3294]

Facts we see them date the same few men or circle of men. I feel like the ones dating the other types stay lowkey.

[@chiagozieokwuaka6254]

We need to understand that not everybody is going to want marriage and its okay.

[@deloresdyer6255]

Yes so then why get involved with women who hope to....or deep down want marriage.....Tiffany Haddish has been talking about wanting kids PUBLICLY....Common and men like him get involved with women ...venerable women and get their hopes up for no reason and that is unfair...I hope black women stay as far away from him going forward.

[@justsaying3729]

Exactly & that doesn't make you a Bad person. A Bad one is one that has children all over the place & doesn't take care of them...Emotionally & Financially. And those that leaves their family & forget they ever had them moving on to other women.

[@robbycarson4999]

Marriage is overrated period!!

[@dollhouseq1530]

It's ok unless you are dating people that want marriage and not being honest about your decision to NEVER marry.

[@Boobalopbop]

I don’t usually get moved by celebrity couples but when I heard about him breaking up with her, it made me really sad. She seems like such a great person with a big heart. And it seems he broke up with her just before the holidays, too.

[@ClowneryAtItsFinest]

I read Common’s book awhile back. Erykah is a savage, she didn’t want his ass! He wrote how she was the first time that he ever loved unconditionally. Then a few pages later, she broke up with him in some text messages.

[@pamelawatson5559]

I heard something like that too 🤔

[@c.carter3654]

He wrote it so it must be true.

[@nayonico]

She probably is the reason he just can't commit!

[@nayonico]

I'm trying to see your point. What I'm getting from you is you feel as if black men are not the marrying type and like black love is not important.

[@54andcounting17]

Erykah Badu ain't to be played with at all. I Love Her 😋😋😋

[@iamDavidaRose]

Common is for sure THE DRAMA! I mean he has dated some of the most beautiful and successful women in the industry and can’t pick one? Come on now. Something is WRONG 👀

[@tracystarks1669]

Why marry when he can test the many waters out there without losing his single status and his money.

[@lilblizzy]

‘He’s about to qualify for AARP...’ 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

[@JessicaHicks]

She is speaking the truth here. Period.

[@deblibra6884]

A fallacy at best.

[@traceythomas3571]

That's right!!

[@gabeeskridge8291]

She's speaking some truth. To use Common as an example is asinine and indicative of pushing a flawed narrative.

[@queentwocents9714]

Damn, a few months away from qualifying for AARP, and still trying to play the field.

[@elegantlady8312]

I suspect he really wants to be with a man secretly

[@ThePinkPill_OG]

Then why won't he just be who he really wants to be? 😂

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

@@ThePinkPill_OG Destroys his brand.

[@elegantlady8312]

@@ThePinkPill_OG hi 👋🏽 😊 I think some of the closeted celebrities are ashamed to come out. Tyler Perry is another successful bachelor, over 50 but still hasn’t found a women to marry, not even the woman who gave him a kid. Rumors have been floating around about TP for decades. Common used these stunning BW as beards and for continued success and recognition in the BC. Most BW love and admire every women Common has dated. I’m so glad you’re talking about this.

[@SkippyLaughlin]

Ummmm? Don't lump gay men into this. He's childish and doesn't want to marry and isn't honest when he dates quality women.

[@Katmosphere855]

@@ThePinkPill_OG Image!

[@gtofabulas]

You are 100% right. Don’t be afraid of what someone says. If he’s from a different race or and culture and truly loves you, love him back and start your new life.

[@chareewilliams8802]

CK you make excellent points especially regarding Serena Williams. You’ve given black women a strategy to increase their chances for marriage. Black women need to at least consider it.

[@debradennis3379]

What Common does is one of the oldest tricks, he knows how to get the best out of females while he is always one foot out of the situation. "If she thinks this is going somewhere she will "love" me harder."

[@stevensaintleger3212]

Hes prob gay ... Idk 😌🤷🏿‍♂️

[@glorfindelchocolateflowery6392]

Exactly same thing goes for non black men make sure they aren't just dating black women but marrying them also. I only get encouragement from seeing non black men actually marrying black women not just dating them to pass the time

[@jamillahwatkins2168]

Thank you!

[@gabriellehanks6850]

Meanwhile, ppl gave Serena crap for marrying out but why didn’t Common, Drake (mixed), and that black football player she dated wife her up though?!?!?

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

I don't know who the football player is, but Common probably wasn't that serious and Drake had a child with a white woman, so he would never marry Serena.

[@Bloombaby99]

Exactly! Notice how they quiet about that, though.

[@zoradelaney9412]

Keyhawn Johnson was the NFL player who Serena dated back in the early 2000s. I also remember her being with one or two black comedians too. Even Serena has said that she didn't expect to marry outside her race, but in the end she chose character over color.

[@angeladeleon5922]

Because she was very lucky,!,

[@lunnalocca9376]

It would appear that black men don’t value having a family or being a husband and father. You would think that if you found value in something sacred and honorable they wouldn’t refer to it as keeping the shop open. I’m just sayin. This is coming from a person who happily dating a Spanish man who treats like a princess and a queen

[@mochamommyATX]

I wish you the very best in your future. LOVE and happiness for 2022.

[@NonProphet500]

Will Smith seems like an engaged father and a man who values family. Clearly, that is not enough to satisfy his wife. Clearly, she is still il love with the bad boy.

[@SkippyLaughlin]

Tiffany haddish should have said no. All rappers are problematic. Even if they seem decent

[@niratomas579]

Especially since she has so many options outside of BM! Example: kzbin.info/www/bejne/m17LlqGrbKydqZo

[@aspiring...]

At this point, there is enough evidence to show BW not todate Common if you want to be married and start a family. It doesn't even appear that Common increases the popularity of these women as they seem to be more/equally successful than him. What is the point?

[@876me7]

They’re almost all more successful and relevant that he is. I don’t even know what common does now as I don’t think he still makes music. He’s a middle aged f boy.

[@alexandrahendrick4352]

Yea... he is like George Clooney before George got married, but Clooney at the very least increased the popularity of the the women he dated.

[@bbeyez]

I told some black men, it's Common. The issue is Common, they tell me the women are to be blamed

[@witchywhit]

Black men will ALWAYS blame Black Women😌🙃

[@thepragmaticexistentialist]

The bm signature move is to blame a woman or even little girl. That's why real men don't respect them.

[@_prettybrownbrown7729]

They blame everyone but themselves . Have 4 baby mamas and none of them let him see his kids it might be him lol but he will blame them for not putting up with his toxic ways .

[@deblibra6884]

ALL were grown people... none to be blamed. Blamed for what? They dated, didn't make it and broke up to go their own way. PERIOD!

[@atomaticbillt3532]

That's always their answer because they're the same as common. Ignore them, they're also going by black bro code.😒🤦🏽‍♀️

[@andreaarchambeau9499]

From what I’ve noticed many successful black men that are public figures, tend to marry very late in life; once they have exhausted several dating pools and realize that they are indeed mortal and are looking back on a shallow legacy. Often due to age related limitations their choices have narrowed a bit and possibly their minds have expanded. Think about how many life long bachelors have settled down in their 60s and 70s.

[@shelly8965luv]

This was an incredibly insightful video. and has really made me think about my dating options even more so! I absolutely date for the purpose of finding the best man for the job, as you say and the fact Common has dated all of those beautiful and talented black women that you mentioned and he did not even consider not even ONE of them for marriage is telling!

[@2009Holleywood]

When he didn't marry Angela Rye I already knew. Because even she said he been playing.

[@Playtorians]

Hallelujah, a black women dropping knowledge.. I am a black man and have debated this with my two younger sisters for years go where you are celebrated NOT tolerated!!! Preach on sister hopefully they listen.

[@kd7334]

This is exactly what I was thinking. He has no desire to settle down with anyone besides himself. There's a few other celebrities like him as well.

[@Jay_Dickenson]

There may or may not be an issue with Common. I don’t know that man so I can’t say. However, marriage is NOT everyone’s ministry. There’s a reason why some folks are single and some folks get married and divorced multiple times. PERHAPS THAT INSTITUTION IS NOT FOR YOU AND THATS OKAY….🤷🏾‍♂️ In addition, if marriage is YOUR goal then STOP dating people who are NOT interested in marrying YOU…..PERIODT!!!

[@nayonico]

Exactly! Be upfront and no one will waste time.

[@mangastar234]

That’s exactly what she’s saying. A certain demographic of men are notorious for being anti-marriage so it’s best to avoid them.

[@kniceewiththespice7812]

Either he want a non black woman or a non woman 🥴😩 I’m sorry I just think he doesn’t wants to commit to a bw .. his loss 💁🏽‍♀️

[@indigoGoddess7]

I remember years ago common said in an interview: “I don’t think I’d make a good husband” Yet he continuously dated women who wanted marriage and or kids. It’s so sad, how common doesn’t see how he’s such a detriment to his community (made a BW a babymom and just continues running through his OWN women) Erykah Badu broke his heart lol but EB said he was clingy and annoying + wouldn’t respect when she said she wanted to break up. So she started dating DOC to get rid of Common.

[@MT-yx5cu]

Who is DOC?

[@TheShanieB]

Sounds to me like those women are great contributors because they knew what they wanted didn't align w/ the desires of Common. The Leopard 🐆 hasn't changed his spots.

[@michelejohnson1001]

That's Commons choice in life and his personal business ,an old song title Take Time to know her (him) by Joe Tex

[@michelejohnson1001]

Ain't nothing wrong with aarp

[@slickrick2420]

How do you know he dated women who wanted marriage and or kids?

[@karsten2747]

Love this video and the breakdown. He really is the common denominator.

[@MyWeirdsongs]

As a black man I’m gonna have to agree.. I’ve never dated outside my race and it’s soo hard to find wife material…I think both genders should go where they’re appreciated and respected.

[@preciousgemini3578]

What exactly is wife material? I have heard from dating in my past that I am wife material yet I am single. Men need to focus on being husband material and stop interfering w a women's greatness if he can't/won't add value to her life..

[@shawn_and_one]

💯

[@KariFromYoutube]

To be honest we attract who we are… if you haven’t found wife material it’s because you weren’t seeking it… maybe try working on becoming a husband first

[@MeMe-ht2hd]

Agreed, you have to put yourself out there in areas where classy women are like coffeeshop ☕ , high end stores, event's and so fort

[@marie-francoiset9402]

black men have always dated out. it hasn't been taboo for you. in my area, i see black men with babies strapped to their chest in groceries stores with wh*te women. you're already doing it. now black women are following suit thankfully.

[@georgettedrafts9164]

NEWSFLASH: There is a reason why he chose the name "Common" - totally self-explanatory, self-prophesying and self-fulfilling... 😩🤔

[@veronavb6858]

Speak it sister, I don’t know how she could date him? He doesn’t deserve black beautiful women. Black women should never give him 1 min of there time.

[@suzygirl1843]

Um, Tiffany Haddish is kind of ghetto. Common was as high as she would ever get. I think they deserved each other. Now, Simone Biles, Brandy, Michelle Williams all deserve better men. I hope someone helps Simone Biles with a man of means from another community. Black men she dates are just using her

[@erinbrunson894]

I know it gets challenging. Thank you for continuing to produce fabulous content, Christelyn. 💕

[@123CREATIONS]

This video is fire!!! You are telling the complete and whole truth!! I miss all your old material.i wish it was still up :-( I have 1 still saved in my Playlist but I want to watch them all of them 😧😘🙌🏿

[@msgemsgems]

I wish it was too.

[@Batman-zu1lz]

Great video. She's on point. A female friend of mine, told me this guy she's been Dating for yrs won't marry her. I told her, stop giving him all of you and wait til marriage. She just looked at me. I said, he's not the problem, you are. You have to be available to him to be used. Why should he marry you if he's already getting the best of you.

[@authenticityiskey3078]

Another GREAT video🤩💕 I'm so glad you pointed out Serena being the only one who eventually got married (and guess who turned out to be the best man for the job... 👀🤭🙌🏾). Serena is a beautiful example of a woman who values herself and has a winner's mentality and that mentality is what made her iconic. Serena plays to WIN 🎾🏆. She broke off the relationship with Common when she realized she was dating a loser. She made sure she did not add to the statistics of the out of wedlock rate by having a child AFTER marrying Alexis who valued her enough to marry her BEFORE allowing her to literally risk her life to bring a child into this world. I still love ❤️ your videos, and I'm always taking notes 💯📝

[@kristinrogers2586]

I understand what you are trying to convey, however, at the time of their daughter’s birth they were engaged and not married.

[@071oakland]

You are so telling the truth. This needs to be posted on every single black woman's DM.

[@glorfindelchocolateflowery6392]

Exactly preach I only date for marriage like God intended from the beginning

[@msgemsgems]

Well said Pink Pill. I should have been thinking like this many years ago.

[@zoradelaney9412]

I'm a lifelong lipstick lesbian, but I've been encouraging my heterosexual black women friends and relatives to choose character over color. Avoid these hotep-playa types, posing as "good", "pro-black" kangs!

[@dday3322]

💯💯💯

[@princellasmith7562]

PREEEEEAAAACCCCHHHH!!! I have BEEN saying this. All these women ate wasting time. Taraji would have BEEN married if she would swirl.

[@i.l.746]

Faaaacctttsss

[@niratomas579]

Seriously🤦🏽‍♀️ Look at this man fawning over her: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a5aQaWiYpaqrobM Sis got options but refuses to see it!

[@gabeeskridge8291]

That's funny , they obviously don't do it for her. She's from DC. Stop messing with folks in the industry and she will get the prize.

[@kittykatz4001]

CK. Your hair is on fleek! I’ll come back later and play the video!

[@phalynwilliams4119]

I love your message, hair and top. Absolutely wonderful!

[@saeben11]

This is my first time previewing this channel and THANK YOU SO MUCH! WE BLACK WOMEN need to engage in this particular conversation! I've felt this way about COMMON, other celebrity black men, and a majority of SO-CALLED WOKE SPIRITUAL BROTHAS for a while now. It's definitely time to not only discuss this concern in the black community but also strategize a remedy for the problem.... SO AGAIN THANK YOU AND I WILL DEFINITELY BE TUNED IN!!!!! ALL MY SISTA QUEENS NEED TO HEAR THIS!!!!!!

[@crzrck]

I probably should thank you for my wife. I have no idea that you are the author of The swirl. Was that book that encouraged her to stick it out with me I am the first white man that she ever dated when she was in her forties. We are now married and have a really nice life together. We work as a team and a partnership. I hold her up in her weaknesses and she holds me up in mine.

[@shawnellemartineaux6212]

He slid into my colleague Natalie's DMs on instagram WHILE HE WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP.

[@ThePinkPill_OG]

WHAAATTT?

[@shawnellemartineaux6212]

@@ThePinkPill_OG she told me this last year while in office and I had that EXACT reaction. "WHAAAAAAT?" Nats said she was stunned because she knew he was in a relationship. She didn't reply because of it and also because she is in a great relationship with an Indian guy here.

[@robinmahan101]

I believe it!

[@SkippyLaughlin]

He's freaking gross

[@oliviasimmons3478]

Strong black man my ass lol 😆

[@IndigoWisdom1]

Caveat: Black men from Africa tend to be more focused on marrying & starting a family. There are many black (traditional African) men who would love nothing more than to marry a professional-minded black woman in the West. So I would add them to the list of men to date in addition to inter-racial dating. Thanks 🙏🏾

[@asmrdate]

They can be extremely abusive as well. Vet them heavily too.

[@gabeeskridge8291]

That would be too much like right. The agenda to propagate Self Hatred is at an all time high. The most basic principle is dating outside the race has no spiritual connection, can't relate.

[@DeborahWalkerXOXO]

Common is a sports fisherman. He said it himself; he dates strong, beautiful, accomplished, black women and puts them right back in the "sea". At this point he's like Idris. Damaged goods. And you may say, but Idris married a black woman. A much younger black woman. One that, until she RISKED HER LIFE for him, he didn't truly believe loved him. I love black men. I'm "dating" a black man. But I know he's not marrying me. I love him deeply. But I know I'm looking at another nationality ENTIRELY for my marriage. I've told him this! He gets offended. But after YEARS of being together? He hasn't proposed. And he won't. Any woman getting involved with Common has to accept GOING IN that there's an expiration date on the relationship. I have.

[@TheAmalieGirl]

That's also his third marriage (Idris).

[@aminabangoura2298]

He dated Ava duvernay also and she is an amazing woman.

[@zoradelaney9412]

Chile, he has dated virtually EVERY black woman celebrity!

[@janelleguild3866]

I think Common just doesn't want marriage.

[@marleyite]

Janelle Guild: And nothing weird about that.

[@jediwalker2010]

Not to a woman, anyway.

[@raesweety]

Interesting. Kevin samuels preaches that Black men that make more money or high earners aren't cheaters, they exercise their options. Why is this the Black man's code? How do Black men considered themselves of value when the only way they determine themselves resourceful based on external items such as women and money? It's very concerned 😟

[@geraldineekhator5428]

I have a good many white men that I was with who dated me to use me because I had a job so my money could be theirs or so they thought. Many were non-committal as well. I dated some other guys of different races and more of the same thing there. I’m married now to a man who loves me. I decided to go for that not the color of the skin. I’m hoping that my marriage will stick but am not sure it will 100% because my husband is not an easy man to be married to. Marriage takes a great deal of work on both sides.

[@yzma6142]

He wanted to marry erykah badu and she said no. I believe he never recovered from that

[@aaliyahsashabrookes7952]

Thiiiis!!!

[@MetalShowgirl]

Honestly, I'd rather he be honest and up front about not wanting to get married than see him betray the trust of any woman. Not everyone wants marriage and children and that should be ok no matter what community of which you're a member. Big up to him for being a good human being and not causing harm and distress to any of the women he's dated by marrying them only to run out and cheat. I feel that's commendable in this day and age.

[@wahoo4uva]

Well said! I’m with this all the way. If someone doesn’t want to be married, why shame and blame them for it (no matter their age, etc.)?

[@justsaying3729]

Well Said.

[@msceandra]

Come on hair!!!!!!! Yesssss!!!! 😍😍😍