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Confessions of a Mom Who Has It All | Winter Wheeler | TEDxGainesville

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@kyleighmcdowell
@kyleighmcdowell 3 жыл бұрын
There's so much power in admitting that you're not okay, not only because its cathartic but because it helps other people open up, to know they're not the only ones struggling and then feel better about their own struggles.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Yes, absolutely! I want people to know that they aren't alone. They can ask for help, and that's ok!
@abbyfcruz
@abbyfcruz 2 жыл бұрын
I can not tell you how validating it is to see the mother of small children being this candid about her struggle to maintain success
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Abby. I am so happy this resonated with you and hope you'll share it with your circle. We need to make sure more women feel seen.
@destiny-cole
@destiny-cole Жыл бұрын
I agree 100% that we call want to be seen, heard appreciated and acknowledged for the contribution we make to our families.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching and listening. It's truly appreciated!
@traceyperkins5554
@traceyperkins5554 3 жыл бұрын
This!!!! So relevant, so spot on, so honest! The role of women in family and society has always been “the glue” and because there are more working moms than ever, this role has become more and more demanding without any adjustments in this patriarchal world. By elevating our voices, sharing our stories, we will be heard! This is therapeutic! Thank you for this! We all have those tearful 20 minute “breakdowns” from time to time…nice to know we are not alone! Mom guilt is soo real! Let’s continue this conversation!!! Applauding you Winter for your honesty and sharing these candid and very personal moments. Thank you!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@jackanslow
@jackanslow 3 жыл бұрын
You're not alone Winter! We've been given these unrealistic ideas about 'having it all' and just struggling through what that actually means with a smile but the truth is that we can't maintain that all by ourselves, we need help, and we shouldn't be made to feel 'less than' because of it.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Jack! We'll change things together!
@evie-c
@evie-c 2 жыл бұрын
It's so much easier to "fake the perfection" than to be vulnerable and admit you're not coping.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
It works well until you hit the emotional wall and fall apart.
@tarahjaiden1680
@tarahjaiden1680 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for talking about emotions and thank god you're here.
@caroldendy851
@caroldendy851 2 жыл бұрын
thanks for sharing with me
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching and for sharing. I'm glad this talk resonated with you!
@coopertanner3201
@coopertanner3201 3 жыл бұрын
Sending this to my wife. And my sister. So many of the women in my life are constantly feeling this experience that Winter speaks of. I also see some ways I can help my wife now. thank you Winter
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@keithmlawrence
@keithmlawrence 2 жыл бұрын
This woman has such a powerful and calm presence, it's hard to imagine her sneaking off to cry in a bathroom!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
I've worked for years to perfect that demeanor! Thanks so much for commenting!
@natashafederov
@natashafederov 2 жыл бұрын
This talk made my heart hurt. I constantly feel torn between wanting to have kids and wondering how I would cope within all of that, how much of myself would I lose. I don't know which way this talk has swayed me but I do know that I have a lot of respect for this woman.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
The trick is finding the partner (if you want one) or the village that will support you and ensure you have all the help and rest you require.
@Elusive-Khan
@Elusive-Khan Жыл бұрын
I have so much respect for Winter, she seems so well put together and so motivated, pretty inspirational really.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I really appreciate your words.
@dustycallan
@dustycallan 2 жыл бұрын
The fact that the word "confessions" is used in the title here. The fact that the women in our lives feel any sense of shame or guilt for not being able to "perform" to a standard that is absolutely ridiculous. Thank you Winter for this talk. Will be sharing.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. I really appreciate your words.
@jamesbowie4540
@jamesbowie4540 3 жыл бұрын
My Mom worked 45 hours a week and still made us dinner most nights, lunch every day, managed to get us to activities outside of school - she always made sure we understood that there was a need for balance in life and that you had to find it any way you could - whether it be meditation while doing dishes, making sure she delegated to us.... I still couldn't do what she did, I'll always be so impressed by her.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing that! It's unbelievable the amount of work we manage to take on and handle successfully.
@madisongrace9146
@madisongrace9146 2 жыл бұрын
I hope her family has seen this talk and appreciates the way she holds it all together!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Ha, yes, one would hope. Thank you for commenting!
@bobbywie
@bobbywie 2 жыл бұрын
All of us, don't have it all, most of the time when we get past the I want them, we discover we have just what we need.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Interesting!
@gemi10togood
@gemi10togood Жыл бұрын
Winter strikes me as the kind of person who is always in control and presents herself immaculately, I can't imagine how depleted she must have been to get to the point where she teared up during an interview in such a public forum
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for commenting. I appreciate your words.
@thesteeltitan
@thesteeltitan 2 жыл бұрын
There's no secret formula to "having it all" because we're all individuals with unique circumstances.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely
@luisaesperanza
@luisaesperanza 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Winter for being humble and vulnerable while sharing your story.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching and commenting! I appreciate it.
@sergeypestovskiy
@sergeypestovskiy 2 жыл бұрын
This woman has so much on her plate, it's exhausting just listening to her!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching and commenting!
@why-why-why-why1
@why-why-why-why1 3 жыл бұрын
a definition is switch is needed, over extending yourself is not having it all
@hortonm554
@hortonm554 2 жыл бұрын
Mothers put their heads down and do what needs to be done even if they're exhausted. Often without complaining.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, we do, and that needs to change. We need to require those around us to do more for us.
@WendyMozes
@WendyMozes Жыл бұрын
Thank you Winter for opening up. It’s so true. We have to open up, for ourselves and for the future of our daughters. Superwoman is a fairytale.
@angrybeagles4108
@angrybeagles4108 Жыл бұрын
This talk is beautiful, I love that she's not trying to push some system on us like 'follow this formula for happiness!' like most TEDx talks. Very refreshing Winter, thank you.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching and commenting! I appreciate it!
@jessTcarter
@jessTcarter 2 жыл бұрын
This needs to be shared far and wide.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Please share it with your circle!
@vivianpatgreen
@vivianpatgreen 3 жыл бұрын
We need to stop pretending to be ok. It sets up a precedent that being ok and being a ‘superwoman’ is the norm. The more of us who show the reality of being human, the more awareness and change can happen.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for commenting!
@valeriedijkstra
@valeriedijkstra 3 жыл бұрын
To be human is a divine thing, I love that we are beginning to accept and celebrate such things.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
@@valeriedijkstra Thank you so much for commenting!
@honeyissweetforme
@honeyissweetforme 2 жыл бұрын
What she said at the 4:49 mark about "mom fatigue" resonated with me. Moms are exhausted just from giving birth and never really get the chance to recover from that
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
That’s a great point!
@georgel2393
@georgel2393 3 жыл бұрын
I would read any book she wrote! Her honesty is fabulous and I wish so much that I could articulate like that.
@ramonabest
@ramonabest 2 жыл бұрын
Some days are just s**t, and those days pile us and wear us down. Thank you for being so honest and so vulnerable in this talk
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, Ramona!
@tonyiquintero
@tonyiquintero 2 жыл бұрын
Being a working mother is one of the hardest 24/7 jobs in the world.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
It absolutely is, yet so many of us make it work!
@erika-cheung
@erika-cheung 2 жыл бұрын
Love an advocate who learns to see beyond the case.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@bencycaitlin
@bencycaitlin 2 жыл бұрын
My heart broke at the 10:29 minute mark to think of her a "ball of tears" on the bathroom floor.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
I was initially mortified that I had cried, but ultimately I think it drove home the point. So many people have the exact same experience.
@goldstandardtv7074
@goldstandardtv7074 3 жыл бұрын
Fabulous talk. Her delivery, her presence, her honesty. DO NOT miss this!!!! Moms are superheroes! Winter you are exemplary!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@desivaldez
@desivaldez Жыл бұрын
It takes a lot of courage to really own where you're at emotionally and admit when you need help BEFORE you reach that crying alone in a bathroom phase.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
Thank you! Yes, you got it exactly!
@carollcole
@carollcole 2 жыл бұрын
Self-care is something which should be top of the list in society’s eyes, a non-negotiable. We need to shift this.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
I absolutely agree! Thank you for commenting, Carol!
@elissazachary3790
@elissazachary3790 2 жыл бұрын
I think this is why it's so important to have children with someone who not only also really wants them but who you trust! Trust to just do the things around the house that need to be done, someone you trust has the capability to handle all the extra work that having a child requires.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
That would be a great situation to be in!
@jasptasankert
@jasptasankert 2 жыл бұрын
Definitely not a burden shared enough. It's interesting how quickly a perspective can be changed when we are honest about our struggles.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
I absolutely agree! We can have a societal shift if we all push these issues to the forefront.
@SupermeryPaz
@SupermeryPaz 3 жыл бұрын
How brave you are beautiful... your speech move me to the bond... from so far away I send you all my love and support... I feel you, I admire you, I see you... as you are, You have been the voice of many... what you have done is a legacy...
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
That is so very kind of you! Thank you.
@nigeltomlin
@nigeltomlin 3 жыл бұрын
It's hard not doing it all when you know you can, even if its exhausting.
@janetsplace1953
@janetsplace1953 3 жыл бұрын
it is so tiring isnt it
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Yes, we can do it, but should we?
@chinadiggs543
@chinadiggs543 2 жыл бұрын
You are the voice we all need.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I appreciate that.
@jessiesangster
@jessiesangster 2 жыл бұрын
aaaaand this is exactly why you need to have clear and honest conversations about your capabilities and expectations BEFORE you have children.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for commenting!
@piamirra
@piamirra 2 жыл бұрын
I have the utmost respect and admiration for women who have decided they're happy to take a backseat in their own lives for the sake of raising children. That is, for those who follow through and actually do that. (Yes, Winter is one of them).
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
Thank you. That’s very kind and I appreciate it very much!
@anelisecodrington6659
@anelisecodrington6659 3 жыл бұрын
This was so inspiring to watch and listen to. Thank you for sharing your story!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@marierosko
@marierosko 2 жыл бұрын
"The secret formula is that there isn't a formula". Loved that.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@jamiesternberg9923
@jamiesternberg9923 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being so vulnerable in this talk, Winter. So very relatable to EVERYONE, including working mothers and fathers and world class athletes like Simone Biles. Be vocal about your needs to preserve your mental health.
@nelwashington
@nelwashington 3 жыл бұрын
Wow, such a good talk to send me!
@harrydecker3979
@harrydecker3979 3 жыл бұрын
This was a brilliant find, such an incredible woman!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
@@harrydecker3979 Thank you so much for your support!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
@@nelwashington Thank you so much for commenting!
@valteradnan
@valteradnan 2 жыл бұрын
Her vulnerability makes her powerful!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. I appreciate your words!
@alicjakmusia
@alicjakmusia 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Winter for being so honest. I am tired of resilience being seen as a strength, we shouldn't have to be resilient and constantly strive for better or more or whatever, we need to just be!
@janetsplace1953
@janetsplace1953 3 жыл бұрын
Agree 100% Alicja.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Alicja! I agree 100%!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
@@janetsplace1953 Thank you so much for commenting! I also appreciate Alicja's comment.
@jabajaba7488
@jabajaba7488 2 жыл бұрын
We love to praise the martyr, which makes us feel that we need to be a martyr to be ‘successful’. Talks like this are working towards shifting the narrative to one of genuine and transparent humanity.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this, I appreciate it!
@lauralegault
@lauralegault 2 жыл бұрын
I can relate to Winter's story and her words that everyone needed her, no one could do what was needed without her. Raising small children and working without help is the norm for many woman.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
Thank you! I appreciate your comment!
@veronicacanton9233
@veronicacanton9233 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your story, Winter. You are an inspiration.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@levshalazar
@levshalazar 2 жыл бұрын
Amen! I am so over hearing about all these "successful" women who "do it all", This is not something to strive for in my opinion, our quality of life is suffering in the name of being a success!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Our society isn't set up to sufficiently support women-- no matter what we decide to do with our lives.
@georgenotbest
@georgenotbest Жыл бұрын
Never was the phrase "the truth will set you free" more apt than in Winter's case.
@marym.3066
@marym.3066 2 жыл бұрын
This was very moving. It brought me to tears to watch and as a working mother of four myself, my heart goes out to her. It IS okay to cry sometimes, and if it makes you feel safer to do so in private, do it, but be sure to let it out. NO ONE can understand fully the way life's difficulties make another feel. We all feel it differently, but as women, as mothers, we should work harder to lift one another up. Offer to help when you can, offer to listen; the difference it can make for someone to speak and be heard can be life changing.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this! I definitely agree that talking about these issues helps not only me, but so many people who watch this video. That makes me incredibly happy!
@robyncrosby666
@robyncrosby666 2 жыл бұрын
oh goodness thank YOU for the honesty!!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank YOU for watching and commenting! I hope you'll share the talk with your circle.
@agnespuentes
@agnespuentes 2 жыл бұрын
thank you for the raw honesty!!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
I'm so grateful that I was able to deliver this talk and that it has resonated with so many. Thank you for watching!
@parlyperdot
@parlyperdot 3 жыл бұрын
An absolute force right here. And one we all need to listen to. Women rule this world and for right reason, if they ask for help, we need to listen, because it's help for all of us.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, Parly!
@kaspergardon
@kaspergardon 2 жыл бұрын
Saying it like it is! I had to really take stock recently when I realised how much my wife actually does in a day. Mind blowing! Sharing this with her, she'll feel seen.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
I’m glad this resonated with you! Thank you for sharing your experience.
@jycintabrown
@jycintabrown Жыл бұрын
What she says at the 6:00 mark really struck me, how different someone's words can hit depending on how we're feeling in the moment.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
Thank you! I appreciate you watching and commenting!
@carldupont4440
@carldupont4440 2 жыл бұрын
A friend of mine was talking about things happening with her kids and how they were trying to shift things in a way so that dad could be seen as a source of meeting some of their needs, but that shift is hard. Sometimes, all they want is mom, and nothing else will do. That is a lot of pressure for one person, especially when that one person needs to have their own life for their well-being too. I admire moms so so much.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, Carl! I appreciate your point of view and commentary.
@talismesmer
@talismesmer Жыл бұрын
I love how cheeky her face looks when she says 'there's no secret formula' and 'unfortunately for the host we were about to have a very different conversation."
@ihavecoolthings
@ihavecoolthings 2 жыл бұрын
I've seen another one of Winters talks and I am just so impressed with her authenticity and the way she discusses her struggles with such openness.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I appreciate that you've seen both of my talks!
@justinerather
@justinerather 3 жыл бұрын
thank goodness we are finally being honest about life and the struggles that come with being a parent and having a career
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Yes, absolutely! Let's pull the veil off of faux perfection.
@mymotivationsnow
@mymotivationsnow Жыл бұрын
Nothing but respect for you Winter
@charliechapgould
@charliechapgould 2 жыл бұрын
For most working moms gritting their teeth and keeping on with it is the norm. It comes with the territory and we do it tirelessly 24/7.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
Indeed!
@vladhvadim
@vladhvadim 2 жыл бұрын
I’m crying. I needed to hear this. I really needed to hear this. Thank you.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
I am so glad this resonated with you, and thank you for letting me know. I hope you get the relief you need.
@kaymitchell4935
@kaymitchell4935 3 жыл бұрын
Definitely felt myself get teary when the host asked you how you were. I know that feeling so well. And honestly, so grateful to such a powerhouse as yourself for allowing your vulnerability and humility there, so beautiful! Thank you!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I'm glad you were able to relate and connect.
@buddabuxby
@buddabuxby 3 жыл бұрын
massively appreciated
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I'm glad it resonated with you.
@bonniehavel
@bonniehavel 3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate the transparency here. Honest and vulnerable, traits we are finally recognising for the strength they give us.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@mariannemortimer7724
@mariannemortimer7724 3 жыл бұрын
Bonnie this superb, wish I would have watched it sooner!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
@@mariannemortimer7724 Thank you so much! I hope you'll share it with those who need it!
@aliyahrhodes
@aliyahrhodes 3 жыл бұрын
Such a powerful and vulnerable space- thank you for showing this for what it is and allowing us to witness it.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for accepting me without judgment. I appreciate you!
@frasernicholson8509
@frasernicholson8509 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being so candid Winter! It's nice to know that even the powerhouse women we compare ourselves to have days like that
@turboslayer5995
@turboslayer5995 2 жыл бұрын
I wish we heard more about how much a dynamic changes once their are kids, house, careers and surviving thrown into the mix.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
That would have been a different talk, but certainly one that should ultimately be delivered.
@talicarson
@talicarson 2 жыл бұрын
How incredibly well put. So many women are striving for this kind of life but there is no balance and fulfillment and we have to stop leading the narrative that this is the standard.
@ronaepstien
@ronaepstien 2 жыл бұрын
I really admire the way she lays it all out there, it's a really beautiful display of vulnerability and confidence all at once
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I appreciate your commentary!
@audreylstamford
@audreylstamford 3 жыл бұрын
What an extraordinary woman, they all our. I appreciate her honesty so much here
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, Audrey!
@craigjohns7665
@craigjohns7665 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Winter. As a single Dad who works full time, I can relate to what you're saying. I have family support but I'm almost always trying to do it on my own. I see now being able to admit to myself and to others, will hope both me and my son thrive.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad this resonated with you and that you're more willing to ask your village for what you need! Thank you for sharing with me!
@spaghety9174
@spaghety9174 Жыл бұрын
Oh Winter, I feel for you so much. Right at the start that story about the interviewer. It makes me think of all the times in my life where I was constantly on the verge of tears because I was so, so tired and felt like no one around me cared or even noticed that I was sinking. So even just a stranger asking how my day was going was enough to set off all those emotions
@ursulayildrim
@ursulayildrim 2 жыл бұрын
I am so done with the those who refuse to see the balance that is still needed if we ever hope to move forward within our family units.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
SAME. I'm glad my talk shed light on this.
@carljanicek
@carljanicek 2 жыл бұрын
I remember about a year after our first was born my partner had to sit down and really figure out how we could meet each other half way and not expect one another to be mind readers. It's tough to find that balance but so much better in the long run.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, those conversations must be had. When they're had and yet no changes are made, it's a totally different story. Thank you for commenting!
@pablocortez6960
@pablocortez6960 3 жыл бұрын
What a great person to be able to be so honest and real here!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, Pablo! I appreciate your words ver much.
@JessicaRode
@JessicaRode 3 жыл бұрын
Regardless of individual circumstances we our all so closely aligned in this journey. It’s important we mention it more. Thank you. 💗
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@GeorgiaDawkins
@GeorgiaDawkins 3 жыл бұрын
I was just thinking that! I am not a mother but my biggest fear is being judged because I need a break.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
​@@GeorgiaDawkins Thank you for commenting!
@jorgeestoban
@jorgeestoban 3 жыл бұрын
Yes so true Jess, we must work together.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
@@jorgeestoban Yes, we must! I appreciate your comment.
@oo_eddie_oo4204
@oo_eddie_oo4204 Жыл бұрын
Sounds like a lot of pressure Winter, definitely agree with you about having that grit in spades ❤
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
Thanks, I appreciate you!
@IHaveDenverSoul
@IHaveDenverSoul 2 жыл бұрын
wow, this is right on!
@phillipnorris3rd
@phillipnorris3rd 2 жыл бұрын
agreed
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
@@phillipnorris3rd I appreciate you!
@oakleysienna
@oakleysienna 2 жыл бұрын
Very good information around feeling and listening, not jumping to fixing.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching and commenting.
@guidolazzaro1396
@guidolazzaro1396 3 жыл бұрын
Nobody should have to feel as if they're not enough, not doing enough. Winter, your family is lucky to have you and I am really grateful to have come across this speech of yours as I really feel I understand how my partner feels a lot of the time now...
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I really appreciate your kind words. I'm so glad that my talk resonated with you and gave you a glimpse into your partner's life.
@maehaslet
@maehaslet 2 жыл бұрын
This must have been really tough Winter, you should be really proud of yourself that you decided to be honest in that moment and that you have the courage to follow through with a talk like this
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! That’s so kind of you to say.
@barbarajoyjones
@barbarajoyjones 3 жыл бұрын
Excellent talk. I felt it in my soul. Overwhelming is a good word to describe it.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@xurshidajurayeva811
@xurshidajurayeva811 3 жыл бұрын
It has always been difficult to women ,they may show themselves stronger, but they always need someone can help them anytime
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for commenting!
@williambessel
@williambessel 2 жыл бұрын
This was a really eye-opening talk for me... communication is key to all relationships but sometimes - especially when there's a new baby - we can just be so exhausted that we aren't checking in and having those chats, then that can turn into the norm and before you know it your wife is crying in the bathroom without anyone knowing.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this comment! I hope you'll spread what you learned to your circle of friends because society can fix this problem.
@siarajardine
@siarajardine Жыл бұрын
I don't know if it's just because of how emotive her face is or because of how much this is resonating with me but I'm like four minutes in and I feel like crying.
@felipeecoelho
@felipeecoelho Жыл бұрын
I'm really glad this talk popped up in my recommended videos, it's doing a lot to reassure me and my wife of our decision to be child free
@thesugarshackishere
@thesugarshackishere 3 жыл бұрын
Smart talk, thank you!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@melrobertsreal
@melrobertsreal 3 жыл бұрын
Mom's and Dad's these days are just taking too much on. We are too quickly losing touch with what is important, our family, our community. Thank you for this Winter.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for watching. I'm glad this spoke to you.
@carlafoster1081
@carlafoster1081 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your honesty. As a stay at home mother of 3 young children it is so hard. I tell my husband I need your help. Help with the children ,help with the house work. We are a team.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for commenting! I wanted women to feel seen, and I hope I've done that for you.
@giovanni-is-here
@giovanni-is-here 3 жыл бұрын
great talk to share!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
@@giovanni-is-here Thank you!
@berlindabernard
@berlindabernard 3 жыл бұрын
You are an inspiration, Winter! Thanks so much for keeping it so real. A great reminder that we can be strong and still be vulnerable while continuing to rise in our journey.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I appreciate you!
@dariasotnykova
@dariasotnykova 3 жыл бұрын
All of this! It's so beautiful to see such strong women talk about the importance of vulnerability.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for commenting! @@dariasotnykova
@benjamingdorey
@benjamingdorey 2 жыл бұрын
Wow this has really shone a much needed light. I've always felt there's somewhat of a disparity between moms and dads in terms of how they're perceived and the roles they have to play in the household
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
The disparity is stark and slowly (very slowly) shifting.
@moneymaker324
@moneymaker324 3 жыл бұрын
I feel for you so much- that feeling that nothing had happened, it is just the ongoing systemic mess of it all that, when said out loud, sounds like nothing at all. It is so hard to feel justified in your emotions when it is so long term and ongoing. A slow burn is damaging.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@qiwanggi
@qiwanggi 2 жыл бұрын
This is brilliant, breaking through and being heard.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I appreciate your comment.
@milagroczarnecki
@milagroczarnecki Жыл бұрын
I think this is why it's so crucial for moms to have access to each other in the forms of support groups and just community y'know?
@silversurferdude
@silversurferdude Жыл бұрын
Ugh yes absolutely to what she says at the 5:06 mark. Comments like that just feel like they're trapping you, forcing you to play along with that perception that really isn't serving anyone.
@rainithacker
@rainithacker 3 жыл бұрын
This proves, often all is too much!
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
100%
@BunnieRocker
@BunnieRocker 3 жыл бұрын
That was amazing and inspiring, Winter!! I appreciate your openness and vulnerability.
@winterwheeler3765
@winterwheeler3765 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
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