The Secret to Getting Anything You Want in Life given by Jennifer Cohen | Jen Cohen | TEDxBuckhead

[@angelaymlau]

1) Be bold (practice and harness this skill) 2) Ask for what you want (make 10 attempts)! 3) Just act 4) Get comfortable at failing 90% of the time 5) 10% target (see 4)) 6) Practice (training your brain to be bold) 7) Write down anything you want in life and make 10 attempts with it (chasing what you want and not just taking what you can get)

[@JacobLethbridge]

The comment we all look for

[@LalzJeNeSuis]

Thanks a lot

[@naumanfarooq7911]

Main points of the talk. I like it. I will write down in my dairy and try to implement in my life. One thing I have to learn never give up one day you will got all of those thing that you want do again and again and always be gratitude.

[@automatonlabs7841]

Everything is based of 10% chance of success? Now that is a low skill XD Imagine trying to fry eggs 10 times for a breakfast

[@roy_for_real2674]

Good luck trying to get a diploma 10 times, also many people already knew that.

[@Foster.Unfiltered]

2 things I learnt from this TED Talk: - Be bold, fail and fail again. Don’t settle - Keanu Reeves is the best

[@FantasticExplorers]

I already knew the 2nd one 😉

[@henric.6159]

being beautiful and born privileged (rich) helps too... so much "opportunity" is on "silver platters"

[@jerichoj1540]

Facts

[@shenlaw]

Number three: don’t bring babies to lectures

[@mallik084]

Ha ha...good one foster

[@tangie06_33]

Her first step in the right direction is knowing what she wanted. A lot of people really don't know what they want.

[@abhijaisingh3859]

That is true, I have struggled for the same for a decade but I think I have finally found something I believe to be really what I want. Finding this purpose or passion also requires trying to think, knowing yourself and asking yourself questions. Failing 9/10 times to finding your purpose, Yes this theory applies here too.

[@ASMRCHARLIE]

Not true.. Everybody knows what they want.. U just have to feel what u like most and give u butterflies in life. That is what u want and just act to it.

[@sonaljaiswal6592]

I'm struggling with this.

[@misshoneynevercame4832]

@@ASMRCHARLIE No, not everybody knows what they want. Especially people who grew up poor and could not afford to have a hobby or join a sport. Finding yourself is difficault when parents are broke.

[@redsoxwinagain2007]

Our next gen is struggling with this. The problem could be the amount of options and lack of dedication. I really believe it is because instead of aligning with REAL life coaches, they are watching KZbin videos and comparing themselves to those profiting from clickbait like magic and stupidity. Quick and easy is a distraction. Get to work, complete your commitments, and try to enjoy the ride. When you fail, pinch yourself, count your fingers and toes then look up to make sure their are no bars in your view.. then grow and be thankful for the experience.

[@OukhtiStudio]

I am bold.I am smart. I am talented. I can do it. All of it. I'll be fulfilled!

[@enchantedforest4424]

Main Points: Be *bold* Don't take what you get Don't have self doubt Chase what you want Ask for what you want

[@Meirele]

Ask! Until you get what you want.

[@jennifercohen874]

YES!!

[@mauldindoc123]

@@jennifercohen874 I am impressed how you handled yourself with a crying kid and your slide presentation being off- you are cool under pressure, and I am sure that served you well on your journey to success!

[@rave1704]

I tried this for 10 years.. didnt work

[@carlschleg5822]

@@rave1704 Try again

[@EugeniaPortobello]

"When you are comfortable with asking for the small things in life, it gives you the skills, the habit and the confidence to ask for the big things in life" 🙌

[@jennifercohen874]

YES!!!

[@meshaalforenglish.8333]

Yes

[@schakraborty95]

True

[@jcarc5701]

@@urlauburlaub2222 Get a life.

[@mikestarks8464]

@@jennifercohen874 Excellent talk Jennifer, my last company i started, built and sold now has over 4000 employees. I discovered something over the years...often my best employees were college athletes who were NOT starters and often only played 1 or 2 years at school. I figured they were simply used to showing up, practicing, and accepting the fact they would not start. This 'habit' of showing up, trying and accepting the outcome proved to be one the secrets of our success. Great job!!!!

[@RomainDiaz]

"Boldness is a better indicator of success than intelligence", I am a huge believer in this, yes

[@simplybeautiful6498]

I am a living witness of this message. Being Bold doesn't always substantiate Courage but the more you Step Up and Forward Your Bold Presence will begin to Initiate Courage...

[@prasannapremarathna7192]

Yes , i am also agreed

[@waelfaraj6705]

Courage allows one to harness all intellectual plus intuitive knowing and discerning ... Open heart , open ears and open mind to the pureness of the flow of life help a lot as well .All can go hand in hand if well integrated ... Yes , I love what she says about not always chasing what we want but receiving what we deeply feel as we are naturally talented at and really meant to be ...Internet has been discovered without previous intention while they were trying to discover something else in communication world . The telephones were discovered when a scientist was trying to build a device related to telegraphs ...

[@АртемКисленко-з4ь]

It is maybe a great tactic, but a bad strategy.

[@Stefanburakov]

Combination beats all

[@userdemi8]

Reminds me of my favorite quote. “If you’re not direct about what you want, you’ll probably be dissatisfied with what you get” -Sonya Teclai

[@agr8fulson]

another important truth comes to mind watching this talk: very often, the person who has the most important thing to say doesn't necessarily have the experience or confidence or polish or the right slide on the screen. when THIS imperfect, maybe shy speaker speaks, i will always listen carefully. i've found in life that SO many polished, overly confident, authoritative people have nothing at all to say. thank you Jen!

[@naturesgifts5682]

Exactly. I think I have so many original thoughts to say but because I am not fluent in English, I am not making videos about them. English speaking people have a big advantage.

[@catherinereilly5833]

Mmmmmmm

[@thaba1011]

👌

[@davidcarter3049]

@@naturesgifts5682 how many people in the world speak your native language?

[@DobBylan_]

@@naturesgifts5682 lmao sounds like a great excuse to me

[@TheGoodfella2012]

Keanu Reeves is a real class act man! God bless him.

[@andrewwoodward8563]

Everything I've ever heard about Keanu makes him sound awesome.

[@masongovender9231]

Always has been!

[@projectmike859]

100% agree

[@jeffe2289]

Greatest movie star of all time?? LOL... that is hilarious.

[@markdemell3717]

Keanu souled out .ugh!

[@pijushmoni6293]

"..Stop deliberating, stop planning, stop flowcharts, and just act.." ..LOVE IT..!!

[@jennifercohen874]

Thank you! So glad you enjoyed it.

[@lutaayam]

I just came to this realisation recently. There's a guy who grew up in the slums in Uganda, became a rich pop star, and now is on the verge of becoming president, ending a 35 year dictatorship. When I examined his story carefully, he reminded me of the Nike tagline, just do it! You can find the guy in Facebook, he's called Bobi Wine

[@YpatiosVarelas]

Took me 50 years to get that!

[@aditijain5604]

@@jennifercohen874 Loved it💜

[@Trusted_Advisor]

i.e. analysis paralysis

[@AGKB123]

This is the best advice talk ever. Simple to remember, simple to do, and definitely going to put you in a better place than you started. 1) Make sure you're asking for what you want 2) Commit to 10 attempts for each of your goals Amazing!

[@brianmontgomeryjr6882]

You are spot on. I have this conversation with my wife and sons on a damn near daily basis. No one can read your mind. So you must advocate for yourself.

[@nycz3576]

What she says is true! I attribute all of my past successes to my "boldness". I always believed, "If you don't ask, you don't get.", and "If you always do what you did, you'll always get what you got." Those were my fave mantras. Go for it!

[@dashkaenhbat7738]

Hi thank you for sharing your mantras. Very good reasoning for better future

[@wuokmayangjanguan1591]

Boldness is very important in every aspect of our lives . A man can be handsome and capable of attracting women. But if he has no courage to ask them out, he will remain single.

[@angelrobinson5257]

I know I want something different, but I don't know what I really want.

[@erickkimz]

​@@angelrobinson5257 I hope you have figured it out by now, if not, we can reason together

[@broccolihighkicks3857]

She’s right. My philosophy since I was a teenager has been “You don’t ask, you don’t get”, it works

[@jennifercohen874]

Exactly right:)

[@Oleksiy777]

Beggars don't get much though they ask all days through. There are way more things to success.

[@SoupKitchen91]

@@Oleksiy777 Beggars don't get much, because they don't ask for much. Your attempt to sound intelligent is falling short.

[@leecottongim1854]

I want u

[@gugojah8660]

@Broccolihighkicks. i disagree. i tried asking for what i want many times. but i never got it. so stop preaching a lie.

[@sophiakoko]

Be bold, accept failure and most important of all, chase what you want - don't take what you get!! Very inspiring, amazing job.

[@JP-ne7xj]

Keanu is seriously the nicest guy in the world. He says he’ll do something, he actually does it.

[@FleeceNRun]

Imagine she waited an hour and walked up and tapped Harvey Weinstien on the shoulder instead

[@destinixshakur]

Everyone always says the nicest things about him fr

[@jasminejones9937]

@@FleeceNRun Lol😂😂

[@wolfiestreet6899]

Cringe

[@alexandertsiolkovski5848]

Probably one of the very few TED Talks that I actually listened to completely, found to be extremely clear and helpful. Great job. And thank you.

[@jennifercohen874]

Thank you so much! I appreciate the nice feedback

[@vaunflufinhagan]

100% Agree! This is something I know of but haven’t fully embodied all of the time. I totally agree with your, we take what we can get, not what we want viewpoint. As I look back I realize I have done this in a few major parts of my life and this now..stops. I often am not totally sure what it is I want because I doubt that I can have that and therefore don’t commit to that ideal but often a lesser one that I know is easy for me to achieve. I have had a blessed and good life so far, but a GREAT one is forthcoming. Thanks Jennifer. Well articulated speech. Got allot out of this. Tx.

[@s.muller8688]

gosh, you people are hilarious.😂😂😂😂

[@anythingnice3917]

True

[@SaraX2024]

I once boldly walked about to a famous Hollywood movie director and asked if I could gather some experience on his set, because I wanted to become a director, as well. He wasn't even hesitating for a second and said "yes". That moment, that bold move, changed everything in my career. The worst thing that can happen is that people will say "no" and you leave it at that. But if you never try, you'll never know. Be polite. Tell them honestly what your intentions are. Stay calm and professional. The right people will help you no matter how famous they are.

[@soyfefo]

She lists all my fears in the first 30 seconds, that hooked me up listening to this talk. I found it amazing, truly inspiring. I feel determined now... Now I have to find what is what I desire most in life because I have no idea.

[@katherineblakely7142]

Finding out your "why" will lead you to your purpose, which will reflect your strengths and passions.

[@carolinem4845]

I used to watch this talk thinking about my dream job. I got motivated to try 10 times, and then I got it on the second try. Be bold, take action, break your fear of failure. Only YOU decide what the end of your current chapter will read like.

[@jennifercohen874]

Yes!! Love this!!

[@carolinem4845]

@@jennifercohen874 omg thank you!

[@behulls]

Congrats! Keep killing it 🙌

[@jennifercohen874]

That is so incredible! I am so happy to have read this comment. Congrats!!!

[@Tintak_hatpin]

What happened after you joined this job ? Do you like it there ? For me, my mind is filled with the aftermath of achieving that dream job, whether I would be a worthy employee there or will I be a misfit and suffer from impostor syndrome all the time. Preparing to crack the interview for a few months is different than actually belonging there. This kind of demotivates me.

[@earthempresstv]

last year at age 55 i made the decision to become a professional artist... but that was right when covid hit... even my husband who is normally very supportive said 'don't go into art- nobody buys art'! but something deep inside of me said GO FOR IT. it was a huge learning curve but within months my paintings were $elling :)

[@thelomeleisea9443]

love this and well done for following your heart

[@wendypena4593]

No way! That's so good, so happy for you. I'd love to see your paintings

[@thevoiceconnection]

Ohh that's really great!! All the best for ur future 👍👍

[@I_membahh]

I’m glad to hear you stuck it out and pushed ahead

[@Alisa-yr1jr]

Boldness is a skill, you need to practice it to develop it, The 10% rule: take whatever you want most in life and take 10 attempts at it. (The purpose of this rule is to get very comfortable with failing 90% of the time) Ask for what you want. Chose what you want, and not just take what you can get.

[@ZhoustifyMarketing]

Well said

[@jacoblewis2961]

I love you Alisa!😍⚘😘

[@miguelrodas8505]

Relax. We should watch these videos to motivate ourselves

[@ZhoustifyMarketing]

@@miguelrodas8505 Don't relax.

[@boblester8641]

What if I want to be a sports star but didn’t win the genetics olympics

[@TheFighter-Teacher]

Things I learned from this TED talk You need to ask what you want. Chase what you want Make comfortable to failures Avoid self doubt Be bold and resilient Great speech 🎉 Ted talks boosts my energy ❤

[@madelainesillfors2758]

One of those very few talks that actually contain something unique. The talk is not so "awesome" and perfect, but it is real content. Thank you!

[@kevalthakker5532]

Talk is not awesome or perfect, only after that kid in the audience started being a kid... Before that it was smooth... Yet she managed to deliver what she wanted...

[@boomish69]

I think I like it more because it’s not perfect, kinda makes it more real

[@stevolutiontv]

Keanu is the type of person we should all aspire to be like, he is the pinnacle of what a person should be like, a true inspiration a true good soul, we need people like him guiding us not politicians etc, the man truly is an earth angel and I have so much respect for him :)

[@NextLevelMeNow]

He’s my all-time FAV

[@susana.tresamantes]

Keanu for world president :p

[@thecarriestiles]

My neighbor worked with him to redesign the flooring one of his CA homes years ago. She said he really is the nicest person.

[@mickael486]

settle down. He's broken more hearts than most.

[@user-sg8kq7ii3y]

For me, that guy is Manny Pacquiao. He grew up in poverty in the Philippines, which is much more severe than being poor in America. He often went without food. He slept on the street. He got paid $1 for his first professional fight. He fought just so he could earn some money to buy some rice. Best thing about Pacquiao? He was never invincible. He got knocked out early in his career, but he came back to become champion again. He then got knocked out AGAIN, but rose up and became champion AGAIN. Then he got knocked out really badly by Marquez, yet, once again, Emmanuel Pacquiao rose up to become champion AGAIN. In life, people talk about "getting back up after getting knocked down." But in boxing, one has to LITERALLY do this. It's not just a figure of speech. Boxing is brutal both mentally and physically. Manny Pacquiao is much bigger than even Rocky Balboa. He's an 8 time world champion who came from nothing. He is loved in America and idolized in the Philippines. He literally hands out food and money in the Philippines. He has never forgotten where he came from. And now he wants to help his people by getting in to politics. He gives Filipinos hope.

[@keithjames3024]

Hard work, dedication, having goals, and working as hard as you can to reach those goals is key. Even if you dont reach your goals, you are still happy and satisfied that you did your best. Always do your best.

[@Martin1519]

Shes right. I had an old boss that made me an offer to work for him and i turned him down because i didn't want to work for the pay he offered. He then called me back and offered me a $5 an hour raise for the same job, and i took it. However, i ended up quitting several months down the line because i didn't like the way he treated me. A few weeks later he called me back to apologize and said i was one of the best at what i do that He's ever had. I still turned him down. Today i am attempting to start my own business in my field, and i already have several potential customers lined up. I'll let you know how it goes in a couple years! I'm either going to become successful, or i will learn a lesson.

[@BenTr12]

a business in what?

[@TheMonkeyBottom]

If youre willing to work hard - you'll be successful

[@tamho4239]

Good luck on your next adventure

[@bradforddickson2426]

How’s it going?

[@Saaad2]

@@bradforddickson2426 only been 2 months. Give him a time dude

[@YoYo-gt5iq]

The highest paying job I ever got (my current one) came from an interview where I opened by saying "You need to know that I'm looking to go right to the top, so if you need someone who wants to stay in this position for the rest of their career, we shouldn't continue." They said, 'there's room at the top here.' Then they hired me and on day 1 said, "list 3 goals for 2020 and we'll help you accomplish them so you can get promoted."

[@YoYo-gt5iq]

@@bellavic4777 Seems totally legit

[@YoYo-gt5iq]

@@bellavic4777 I'm good

[@stephanguitar9778]

@@bellavic4777 And your ex is pleased about that?

[@AdemirAlijagic]

"Smart people think of all the negative things that will happen when things go wrong, but bold people think of all the good things that will happen when things go right"!

[@АлимпийТалипов]

RIGHT!!!

[@trillionaireman9016]

False. Smart people tend to think a lot as they have extra processing power. Negative focus creates overthinking on negative outcomes. But if a smart person has a positive focus, all the extra processing power is directed positively.

[@arkin5854]

So?

[@valesauce7235]

@@trillionaireman9016 knowing what can go wrong and buffering against it is why civilization exists.

[@MrSean03839]

And all the bold people call the smart people to borrow money.... LoL!

[@jbo5021]

One thing I really like here, is that she has notes written on her palm. You don't need to be have things down perfectly to achieve great things.

[@jennifercohen874]

Exactly true!

[@zeehuss7275]

YES!! It's about the message she wanted to give, the way of presenting it doesn't matter.. I loved the authenticity of this ted talk..

[@lovelifepoetry1309]

Keep trying. Don’t take the first thing offered. Go after what you really want! Be strong and bold. Ask for what you want! Never give up! Failure just makes you stronger! It’s getting you ready for success ♥️

[@zahidhasan9864]

hi

[@gecko197101]

A dash of generosity goes a long way towards getting what you want too. Assertive but polite, kind and professional. Takers get chewed up and spat out. Givers own the world.

[@Eli666Ms]

brava! I like it because she thinks before speaking, waits, and gives the audience time to imagine the scenario and empathize. This is why every sentence of her is 100% effective and educational.

[@SoulfulTruth]

Summary: "Be bold": You can fail 90% and win only 10% of the time - but that 10% can be a HUGE win - " be bold " Go for what you want - don't accept less than you want.

[@lostnlonely669]

I am not sure about that.

[@keithpotter7366]

@@lostnlonely669 me too

[@lostnlonely669]

@@keithpotter7366 yes

[@carolethomas1772]

@@lostnlonely669 Need to change your mind! Affirm what you want & push for it! Become Found and Loved!

[@roseforrelief7926]

If you didn't my page as yet please go over and show some love 💕 Rose Reality

[@dougsmith7362]

So true and would add that the more you can be bold and step put of your comfort zone the wider that comfort zone becomes until you can do almost anything with little or no fear.

[@steezkitchen]

"it's the squeeky wheel, that gets the grease." I can work with that. ON POINT!

[@tomtillman]

I have found that whenever something goes wrong, There's usually something good about it. You learn something, or another door is opened, or something.

[@jennifercohen874]

Exactly true!

[@chalfontelark9882]

This is how God set it up. Life is a gift, no matter how things may look. Romans 8:28 "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." God is intentional. He has created all of us for a specified purpose. Whatever TRUE dream that you have in your heart, look at it as a gift from God that's given you to indicate that it is already yours. Try try and try and remember when one door closes God will surely open up another one for you. Trust him in Jesus name.

[@raymondphilip6232]

Dualism

[@raymondphilip6232]

Life is like a wheel When u r at the bottom, be patient. Why? Good life is ahead When u r at the top, be ready. Why? U r about to learn a new life lesson

[@michaeld2519]

@@raymondphilip6232 I'd really like to know what you do with all the time you save writing 'u' instead of 'you' and 'r' instead of 'are'.

[@esmurphy9405]

Yes, BOLDNESS is the secret sauce! Be bold enough to push through your Fear and Self Doubt. Self Affirmation, "I am in control" over and over helped me become more bold when fear was almost paralyzing.

[@saeedasl8025]

This rule was the main reason I achieved success in my twenties. I lost that boldness in my late twenties and my early thirties is a mess and failure now. But thank God I have been recovering and standing up recently. Go for it, see it, believe it, work for it, and enjoy working for it.

[@deep-fried-zombie699]

Moral to the story don’t let your fears control your life. Take action don’t wait for tomorrow. You’re welcome that’ll be $50,000 thank you

[@emilyvfletcher9519]

🤣

[@foliveira1632]

Maybe if you ask a few more times I'll give you the money.

[@2006hectordavid]

thanks, spare me 15 min of bs

[@SongiGodsgirl]

🤣🤣🤣

[@Die-sel13136]

@@2006hectordavid why ulistened than?

[@gjoka1983]

Great talk: who needs a glitzy powerpoint presentation, when the message is this powerful. Well done.

[@huyenphan3497]

Key point: "Boldness is the stronger indicator of success than intelligence."

[@Nussbaum981]

I thought it was grit. Probably a combination of things

[@jennifercohen874]

Exactly!!!

[@idiotbuster8662]

I thought it was risk taking. Thats kind of what causes the inverse bell curve of success for men.

[@ahbe9232]

is IQ also one?

[@larosenoire41isma26]

keanu is the right person to ask help for!! so much love and respect for him. Thanks

[@samanthacowden1317]

Keanu has the craziest legacy, it's so crazy how many peoples lives he's touched

[@sofascialistadankulamegado1781]

My priest touched my life and my no-no spot. I wish Keanu touched my no-no spot instead.

[@jacoblewis2961]

@@sofascialistadankulamegado1781 WTF 🤣😂🤣

[@realworldtraining5303]

His name is neo

[@brendabanuelos194]

That's cuz keanu is secretly jesus

[@Chakveta]

@@sofascialistadankulamegado1781 bruh 😂😂😂

[@mellis9729]

I’ll be honest in saying, there are plenty of Ted talks I’ve “learned” more from. But Im not sure Ive connected with a message quite like I did with Jennifer’s here. So often the greatest risk in life is not taking one. Thank you for sharing this inspirational talk.

[@vincentbradshaw9980]

bbabaababbabahahahaahahahaahahaahaha. Wind yer neck outta the sand lmao...V

[@dianahkalibbala5121]

This is probably the most life-changing Tedx talk I’ve listened to! Boldness has been standing in the way. Thank you, Jennifer!

[@strikeback1080]

@Dianah Kalibbala Yes it was fantastic!

[@ohh2752]

Probably didn't work out I'm assuming

[@jennifercohen874]

I am so thrilled to hear this! Thank you so much:)

[@j.jester7821]

Really? Life Changing? Seems like just another cliche ridden power of positive thinking to me.

[@neusquer6018]

@@jennifercohen874 It's inspiring for those who can afford failing 90% of the time. What about the ones who can't? (failing may result in debt, bankrupcy... so you may just have one chance or two if you are not rich/have another person pay your stuff) Should we assume while you failed you had a safety net? What if you don't have it? thanks, and let me know your thoughts

[@strikeback1080]

Love the energy she gives off. Reminds me of a scene in the movie 'Gladiator.' "I wasn't the best because I was the fastest or the strongest. I was the best because I won the crowd. Win the crowd and you shall win your freedom." In relation to this vid "success" is the "crowd." And your continual efforts will lead to you "winning."

[@ARother8822]

That was bold- especially being so young but let’s be honest: Keanu Reeves is literally the nicest actor on this planet. He is such an angel. You picked the right person

[@SalettaRocks]

...maybe, I would love to hear his version of the story. Probably goes like....I am here in Winnipeg bored out if my skull and this kid was crazy enough to give me her number which peaks my curiosity ...beats sitting in the hotel, ...maybe I,'ll get a home cooked meal. ...let's go! ...lots of times it is lonely at the top so it really is true that reaching out might work.

[@xtra_612]

@@SalettaRocks he asked for her number *

[@SalettaRocks]

@@xtra_612 ...and then she gave it to him... :-).

[@kitboklaloo4647]

"When you're smart you're really good at predicting all the possible negative outcome" That's deep

[@Mitutumuch]

this is probably why people say "you think too much, you're overthinking it" ect. its pretty irritating.

[@wedomusic9451]

Basic the theme of Goodwill Hunting.

[@jalexworld4138]

That why luffy will be king 👑

[@nickyalison5848]

Kalvin

[@Mitutumuch]

@@wedomusic9451 I'm gonna atch that again today it's been a while

[@audreykoenig4163]

BE BOLD. Love this message, Jennifer Cohen never fails to inspire me and I LOVE her podcast. everyone should go listen 🤍

[@rfcalm]

erm, yeah. really, er creative advice. Who would have thought that the opposite of not being bold would be a good thing to do

[@farshimelt]

"should," the by word of autocrats.

[@janethaywardcoach]

Thank you - I needed to hear "go for it 10 times". I was feeling discourage and tired, and this encouraged me to keep going because I still have a few attempts before I have hit my 10-times.

[@redesignyourmind3565]

Being bold takes courage. This is something I will be working on in 2021!

[@oamwangase2332]

Wow my words exactly. God inspire, guide & help us!!!"2021 here we(with u , of course )come!!!!

[@redesignyourmind3565]

@@oamwangase2332 Thank you so much

[@lorrainechittock]

Redesign Your Mind, still a few weeks to practice in 2020. ;)

[@noobstyleRR]

start now! don't wait.

[@oamwangase2332]

@@noobstyleRR Yep! And indeed why not?

[@pranavgyara7140]

"when you are comfortable with asking for the small things in life it gives you the skills to the habit and confidence to ask for big things in life", that is really important.🔥

[@chaserandazzo3738]

There is no failure… there is only feedback… 🙏✨💜🍀💐

[@sofascialistadankulamegado1781]

I usually adjust the input gain on the mic channel to stop the feedback. If the feedback doesn't stop, this constitutes some sort of failure.

[@markhirstwood4190]

Of course there's failure, that's why the word exists. It's a perfectly valid word. Failure is common. What a silly idea that there's no failure.

[@puttycake]

@@markhirstwood4190 but if you shift the experience of the failure to be feedback, an object lesson, or a test, you can train yourself to accept the disappointment and commit to keep trying.

[@themacocko6311]

@@markhirstwood4190 You miss the point. Failure is feedback and "failure" is your judgment saying its "bad" when it's simply feedback.

[@laszlopetrucz5709]

I like that one

[@oaesan]

Be bold. Just ask. The secret is knowing what you want and believing you deserve it and believing there's no reason why you won't get it. When you're devoid of doubt, success becomes inevitable.

[@Hollins23]

"Chase what you want; don't just take what you can get."

[@jennifercohen874]

YES!!!!

[@Hollins23]

@@jennifercohen874 : I really appreciated your talk, and took away many salient points. Thank you for encouraging me, and so many others, my lovely fellow Canadian! 💞🇨🇦 HAPPY NEW YEAR!

[@greatmind8918]

That's right but sometimes you are afraid that if you don't take what you can get, you may miss the chance because you don't really know what you want until you try it ..add to that we live in a world crowded with people and lack ideal opportunities

[@sebastianwallin3726]

By those means it also states we shouldn't go for jobs that gets us lots of money but we don't like. A lot of people have jobs they don't like so they can get the money needed to do what they do like. Society is run by people doing jobs they don't like for money.

[@sebastianwallin3726]

@aena mustafa That's a tough call. I can't say money ain't important but working a job you hate can make the money seem miniscule anyway. I don't know what priorities or responsibility you have though. Ofc you need to study to something that will get you money but maybe balance it with something you also like.

[@RedactedNews]

Another takeaway: Keanu Reeves is awesome.

[@DanielCastillo-gk5ie]

Most definitely

[@bamojk]

100%

[@ROTHSTEIN01]

What was this video all about?

[@WaveFin]

@@ROTHSTEIN01 It was a lot of bull

[@WaveFin]

@Gemini Vortex That is silly why would a straight girl want to ask out 10 girls for a date.

[@rokpodlogar6062]

People used to laugh at me when I said I wanted to be a comedian. Well they're not laughing now.

[@jennifercohen874]

Bravo!! Love it!

[@ChrisosIDK]

Bhahahahahha!

[@ps3ud0nym]

😁

[@larsstougaard7097]

Nooooo, you are a comedian and people don't laugh, real sad man. Hope 2021 will be better, maybe the vaccine gives you a boost 😄

[@mauricioquiroga6458]

They should you are a comedian lol

[@PinkYellowGreen2023]

I'm going to get what I want out of life!! It doesn't matter what anyone thinks about it or tries to stop.

[@WillardLund]

I had zero expectations when I began watching this, and while her presentation style is a bit choppy, her message is fantastic. Many kudos and props to her for getting things that she wanted.

[@jennifercohen874]

I appreciate that. Thank you so much and I was choppy indeed:

[@alexandrosantoniou6686]

@@jennifercohen874 Thank you for your wonderful message and style. Is there any channel or web page of yours, to post, to share, to celebrate?

[@ettajoanne]

@@jennifercohen874 You are an amazing story teller, not choppy, you are human and gather thoughts on occasion. We aren't robots and I love the pauses and moving your beautiful hair. Thank you for acting and teaching me something I truly needed today - to go back to being BOLD, I used to be BOLD. I can do it again. Many blessings to you always!

[@elenasunshine]

It is better to enter into a space with zero expectations and come out amazed. 😉

[@davidjeanb]

Listen, I thought she was great. I learned something today…

[@solomongrail7039]

This is honestly the best presentation. I like how simple it is, yet it is practical. I once got a prized internship at the end of my bachelors degree. The company said they get a lot of requests but I got it because I followed up and kept consistent in asking. Thank you for the reminder!

[@jennifercohen874]

Thank you so much for this comment!

[@belovedchildofgod3774]

@@jennifercohen874 Oh my goodness Jennifer Cohen you replied

[@ToshaRaeNailed]

Boldness was a skill I learned at a job I had when I was 18-23... I didn't call it "boldness", I called it "the hustle." It has been one of the most important skills I have ever learned in life.

[@jennifercohen874]

Hustle is a good word also. That's why I have a podcast called Habits and Hustle :)

[@zainababdulrashid3313]

How did you teach yourself this skill?

[@farshimelt]

@@zainababdulrashid3313 It's in all the self help books. And based on a line in the old testament.

[@supplychainsants]

Fearless Voice! You have delivered and spoken the words with Lion Energy, Attitude, Power, and with Higher Frequency. ❤ Claps for you! 🎉

[@mayajoy4218]

the one thing that has always stuck with me, is when my grandma once said to me " If you dont program or change your own mindset , someone else will"

[@kamu747]

Wise words from Grandma

[@EthanKleinScat]

Soo needed to hear this

[@geoiselin]

Did she say how to program your mind as you want?

[@santirafat]

"You need to ask for what you want." Simple like that!

[@tusharsharma5467]

The kid howling in the background is very bold for sure.

[@rinthi_s2644]

Gosh....at last found someone saying this

[@behappyliving2549]

The kid is having his own Ted Talk at the back and parents seem to enjoy it, as they didn`t make the slightest attempt to shut the little bugger.

[@zesvo]

@@behappyliving2549 He'll grow up to be a dolt, jusr like his parents.

[@alleseele]

@@behappyliving2549 That kid should have never been there in the first place, if they can't find a babysitter then they should be listening at home like the rest of us. Hopefully when that kid grows up it's bold enough not to follow in its parents self centered footsteps.

[@КириллГамазков]

All the kids are bold until they're taught that some of their desires are not to be fulfilled

[@Marinresident]

I consider myself bold and I have encouraged others to be bold. One can cultivate boldness and like I tell others--people will not know that you aren't naturally bold. Just act as if you are. The more you practice being bold the easier it gets.

[@thembekhumalo]

“Self doubt is the story we tell ourselves about how we can’t do something...” I love this.

[@maxbluto]

I really like her. You could tell doing this was making her somewhat uncomfortable but she pressed through like a champ. You could tell she was more interested in succeeding at this than what people thought. Thanks for the inspiration.

[@jennifercohen874]

Thank you so much for this message!! You're absolutely correct btw. Very insightful

[@bellavic4777]

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[@bellavic4777]

He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯💯

[@bellavic4777]

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[@bellavic4777]

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[@noem9019]

I do sales and this is so on point. Sales has taught me a lot about life. The key points that she talks about in this presentation will attract an abundance of opportunities into your life.

[@truongngo1225]

I totally agree at this comment of you .I had experienced 1 year in Sale department of Car .If you truly get success to buy something.First of all ,the presentation is so important thing to maintain between sale and buyer connecting with them friend and make more job alway be happy.

[@lokeshdandwani7309]

Love the Ted talk, know this principal before but she has just validated it. I have not applied this due to fear but i hope i will hear her again and again whenever i get fearful.

[@sophiakoko]

Yesss!! Just keep trying, you got this!

[@dallasmanthie156]

Breaking boldness down, it's based off of self esteem. The underlining issue is that people are raised to conform and be complacent. I tried and failed for 7yrs to start my own company and after 15 attempts I was finally able to start business. If someone tells you that you can't do something, prove them wrong. Love from a ND native 💯

[@scottwiseman2966]

Dallas that is my AdvanaCare My XX Attempt. Between InterCore and Covid = AdvanaCare. Thank you for sharing

[@doctortimetv1577]

self esteem doesnt exist its self confidence. two very different concepts.

[@yphantegeorgia6741]

TV what about relationships????

[@donaldcook3112]

@@doctortimetv1577 . . . Nonsense . I have known , know of , some with 'self-confidence' ... and no self-estimation , if your in their 'orbit' for even a short while - it is plain to see . Some of these types attain high office - I t' s p l a i n t o s e e .

[@JJ38255]

@@donaldcook3112 Yes, Sounds like some politicians. Also a good description for "delusional". Or high in confidence but lacking in wisdom

[@MystrEEnt]

DON'T MISS THIS GIFT! I almost didn't watch this, caught myself judging, "Yeah, right, I don't need a pretty lady telling me how to succeed." So I came for the comments I knew would be here, and here they are. I'm so glad that I got over myself, over my prejudice opinion, because I got to learn something, and remember what life has been screaming at me from day one. It's so easy to get caught up in the details that distract and foil any mission. Makes me think of Peter walking on water. The way we get something effects the quality and experience of it, even then, there's no guarantee. Everything comes at its own price. Are we willing to invest in a disposition that's able to meet defeat along the way and not give up? I'm such a weird mix of conviction and inspiration right now, but mostly just grateful. Never "book by it's cover". You never know when you just might find what you've been looking for. Give yourself the room to breathe, to be, and boldly ready to receive. Creation is calling for you bring it. Never give up on your conversation with creation.

[@jennifercohen874]

WOW! I am so happy to hear that my message resonated with you. Thank you for sharing this comment

[@pabloZQM]

I learned something too, this video was worth it:)

[@jennifercohen874]

@@pabloZQM So glad you got something out of it. Thanks for commenting

[@SP-rx4tb]

If your smart you over calculate and if you aren’t you basically get ahead... finally it all makes sense.

[@janicedsilva2857]

Yup I'm an overthinker and I totally get this

[@rubengodoyislas7765]

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[@dang6467]

@@janicedsilva2857 Self doubt is an illusion!

[@janicedsilva2857]

@@dang6467 Hahaha how do I get out of it?

[@janicedsilva2857]

@creme good Thanks but I'm not good committing to routines. I've tried these things :/

[@alisony6690]

Jennifer, you are truly inspiring, thank you!! You have managed to simplify a life law that has baffled me for years!! I am currently stuck in a mundane life, simply accepting what life throws at me!! Your 10% rule has opened up my eyes to a whole new world & future!! 🤩 I love your Keanu story, it reminds me of when I was 16yrs old (24yrs ago) when I was obsessed with the Backstreet Boys & was telling my friends I would meet them one day (I live in Australia). My friends laughed at me, telling me to keep dreaming. I entered many competitions to meet them, but never won. When I was 21, the Backstreet Boys finally toured Australia, they performed a concert in my hometown of Adelaide which I obviously attended, the next day I flew over to Melbourne with some friends to watch them at their final concert in Australia...whilst at Adelaide Airport guess who I happened to meet? Their drummer & guitarist, we exchanged numbers & next thing I know I am being introduced to the Backstreet Boys themselves!! We had different flights to Melbourne, but agreed to meet up after the concert that night. I couldn't get a hold of the drummer after the concert, but a bunch of fans were screaming over a balcony to which I baldly pushed my way to the front, saw the drummer, got his attention, found out where their VIP after-party was & managed to not only meet the Backstreet Boys, I partied with them at their after-party!! This is proof that yes, if you want something bad enough in life, be bald & go for it!! 😁🙏

[@aparnaiyer7329]

So inspiring!

[@seanh9632]

I've learnt that any "thing" I want never makes me okay once I get it. Its about placing less demands on how reality needs to be for me to be okay.

[@michellemichelle9143]

Ooh I like this!

[@rhett5678]

Abundance mindset

[@SohaNoha]

Cool

[@douglasrambo7738]

When you answer a 2nd question "Why you want something?"- many times you realize you either dont want the thing or you start "attracting" other things that get you the same feeling as the first thing

[@MO-ws2tn]

The ten percent thing is really great. Turns the variable of failure into a welcomed means. Thanks.

[@QuantumTransition]

To all of you here reading this, keep the vision of the better version of yourself! Whatever you are going through right now, you have all the strength inside to overcome everything 🔥

[@joshcastle9257]

Never heard anyone talk of the 10% target before, motivated more than ever now. Thank you for the inspiration Jen 💪🏻

[@professorsmith5337]

I can’t believe no one brought her a water 🤷🏽‍♂️💯 priceless information thanks Jennifer

[@jennifercohen874]

haha! i know right.

[@markmickle198]

They did there was a skip in the video and that's y there was a skip if u didn't see it no big deal, a minute after or so when she asked..

[@jackiesdaughter3581]

It’s a shame if they cut that out

[@dougimmel]

Same person in charge of the venue, who did not quietly and politely usher parent and kid to another space for a bit, and a chat. JENNIFER, great work.

[@jessmae007]

She should have asked for it since she wanted it ;)

[@Krasoulass]

This sounds simplistic. However, it is sooooo hard to be optimistic when things go bad and this can make all the difference. Great talk!

[@srupt007]

it's a matter of practice! ex: First time you put 5k on the table or at risk trying to accomplish your desire is the hardest! The second time, it's a little bit less uncomfortable, third, fourth, fifth, ... 20th time, it dont matter much at this step! Am at 45th, of putting 5k on the table in a project, and have not received a single cent back yet! It is not easy, but to succeed to accomplish parabolic success, you have to cultivate what it takes! Resilience is one of the attribute i think. i know she said, try 10 time, but failing is not an option for me, not dead cant quit is better suited for me! Choose the one that fit your spirit!

[@Die-sel13136]

Goodlooking gl!! C.mon say ye!!

[@Die-sel13136]

@@srupt007 what would u do if , one day all vanishe!! And u.ll noing 2 b able to walk, go to wc,or do simple tasks? That.s me! Pls tellme! I would preferto pass in a different dimention!! Now I can.t do even do dat!! Needhelp but what will happen 2 my help?

[@Die-sel13136]

@@liamlian1014 r u irish? Tks a lot!! Sorry I can.t perform better, but anyway: much obliged!! !! !!!

[@Die-sel13136]

@@liamlian1014 in mycase, after rhe stroke, the brain chemistry.s upside down and I.m, even I wish diferently ,dezastrous per excelence!

[@johnadamski9913]

Most of us fall into a comfort zone and stay there. A person can only grow in times of hardship or discomfort.

[@wolfiestreet6899]

Sophistry. Complete rubbish.

[@shanestanton5481]

Nailed it

[@howdan1985]

"Just act" - THE best and most poweful advice. I did *exactly* that and won £1 million on the lottery - I did make more than 10 attempts but unlike many people who told me "Oh don't bother wasting your money, you'll never win" I not only BELIEVED that I was going to win one day but I acted and actually bought lottery tickets.

[@yearingolf]

This is actually one of the best ted talks I've seen. I think it's because of her honesty.

[@jennifercohen874]

Thank you so much! I really appreciate your kind words. I'm flattered

[@AlexGorskov]

@@jennifercohen874 Jennifer, this was an amazing talk. I really felt your confident energy and I LOVED IT! Very honest and greatly motivating talk!

[@jennifercohen874]

@@AlexGorskov Thank you so much! I really appreciate that.

[@samuelfrancosoler6160]

"When you comfortable with asking for the small things in life; It gives you the skills, the habits and the confidence to ask for the big things in life." Believe it or not, this changed my life.

[@jennifercohen874]

WOW! I love to hear this. So glad you liked it:)

[@the_lobster]

she's so beautiful, not only physically but also intellectually. Her story is nothing short of unique too.

[@jennifercohen874]

Thank you! I really aprreciate your kind words

[@manuelschmoller2884]

Hey lobster Is it you? Is it the real lobster? Is it Dr. Jordan Peterson? If so i just wanted to say hi

[@zeehuss7275]

I love her fashion sense..

[@the_lobster]

@@zeehuss7275 i love you

[@TheErika711]

Being bold ive forgotten how that had helped me in my past - ive suffered trgedies that completely changed my life.....time to act boldly again THANK YOU

[@thembekhumalo]

“Being bold means ordering from off the menu. When you are comfortable with asking for the small things in life it gives you the skills, the habits and the confidence to ask for big things. “

[@gowthamuknown]

ya, but I did not fight for smaller things in life"". now don't know about the big things!!!

[@gideonsikk8733]

Size is relative

[@petacat6621]

I tought you were gonna say ´Big wings´ like KFC of the menu

[@susankoech]

It has worked for me as a freelancer, I ask clients for what I want and it has been a game changer.

[@jennifercohen874]

YES!! Exactly

[@陳定杰-h2k]

-Know what you want and be bold while chasing it -The more times you try to get something, the more opportunities it will lead you toward -Don't settle for what you can get or what's in front of you; the end goal is always to get what you WANT

[@razor3974]

I think you Jennifer Cohen for having given to me this 10% rule, it gives a framework to think really easily on "how many trials must I be prepare to give in order to achieve some results". I am right now applying it to the preparation of my master thesis defense presentation by saying to me that after 10 trainings I will be bold enough so that it will become a formality.

[@garyjohnston6248]

I don't keep track of the number of times I failed. It doesn't matter how many time I fail. I only need to succeed once.

[@patriciaearley4177]

I went for what I wanted and got it!! Now I feel empowered going after my other goal I feel confident I will receive it as well!🙏👍

[@deborahpildner8358]

Your message is something I will remember and put to use in my own life. Thank you for your words of wisdom.

[@jennifercohen874]

I am so happy to hear that. Thank you:)

[@th3gughy]

Very good point: become familiar with failure, not by becoming desensited but by making it familiar and ultimately useful! Don't just accept failure, exploit failure: "what went wrong" is key to "what can go well".

[@serenaroseauthentics1391]

This is a great talk. It’s encouraged me to think about how fine the line is between being bold and being entitled.

[@jennifercohen874]

thank you. I'm glad you liked it

[@clintonreisig]

Great comment, O.P.

[@clintonreisig]

@@jennifercohen874 If you are the real Jen Cohen, fantastic talk. People need to know that they can train themselves to be fearless, focused, and have enhanced desire toward the goal

[@nickmaddalena985]

hmmm, just like everything its a heart attitude. What I can give or what I can take. When you are bold you are giving everything you have. When you are entitled you are taking what you think is yours.

[@labbibora]

Well I think most people don't see a line. Imagine everyone being so specific with their order in restaurants. And also - Do I go in 10 different restaurants and ask for what I want, or try it 10 times same place until they get tired of me and finally serve me what I want for being "bold"? Joking ofc 😀

[@cosimosalvatoregiannuzzi6096]

This was actually a really illuminating talk. She was clear, she went straight to the point in a pragmatical way. I've now a new way to see life in all its aspects. Thank you Jennifer.

[@jennifercohen874]

Thank you so much for that/ So happy you enjoyed it

[@deanaphelps8178]

Agreed! Really awesome speak. Very inspiring.

[@darinkidd]

"Chase what you want. Don't take what you get" - pretty awesome statement.

[@jennifercohen874]

Thank you:)

[@sayusayme7729]

Thank you, love that! Never say never, even at 61. Still practicing. 🇨🇦💚🦋