Connie's FULL recovery story from CFS & CIRS - and why grit is overrated

[@lisabennett1253]

This is excellent and I'm not even through it yet! The self-compassion part. The "achieving" part. So much good information that you do not get from DNRS. One of the best interviews on this!

[@HealwithLiz]

Thanks Lisa ❤❤❤!!

[@JanaWellbourn-ss1ps]

DNSR is great. I’m 3 weeks in … also a moldy. Thank you Connie for your story. Also thank you Liz

[@lisabennett1253]

OH MY GOSH!! Thank you for saying that Connie!! I have never looked forward to doing the practice either! I thought it was only me!! That is SO DARN helpful for me!!! Thank you!!!

[@Mamoo777]

I’m still doing dnrs. It’s been two years. I have gotten a little better so I k ow it works but the visualizations everyday for an hour starts getting on my nerves. I imagine if I was more consistent I would be a lot further along by now. Great interview! Thanks

[@HealwithLiz]

Thanks Dianne! Yes, consistency and doing what feels right (vs an amount that feels pressured)! Also adding your own spice can help!

[@terrance429]

Did you go thru the cirs protocol while you were on the dnrs ??

[@MEF7]

@@terrance429 Good question!

[@spruceysarah]

Loved this interview so much! Such a great point about learning to stay regulated in the presence of stress and negative emotions -- just like we eventually want to eat all the foods and smell all the flowers again, we also want to be able to have all the emotions without symptoms.

[@HealwithLiz]

Thanks so much Sarah, I loved that part too!!🌼🌷

[@homemakersheart3614]

Thank you Liz for this interview, you do such a great job doing this. I am at 7 mths and have had that focus of 'what did I achieve vs how am I doing this in a more regulated state'. The resilience piece was huge for me, pushing & rushing are such pests aren't they?! Connie, after 7mths of training, and 18 yrs of CFS, I have had no idea of what my "goal" was or what I wanted to "do". So many folks talk about travel, I'm not like that. I love my home and garden, some crafts and friends and church. It was your description that opened my eyes to - my goal can be "to be able to do my day to day activities with ease and grace and out of a choice (sprinkled with self compassion through my day)" rather than I want to see the world! I've never been that person, but all the years of "managing" I have had trouble dreaming up something. Now, with Grace and Connie's story I can see I can LOVE my life and not be afraid to do things in my day to day life. What a shift! Hugs to you both and a warm cup of tea. PS I have to rewatch the last 20 min a few times, there was so much for me in that, I took notes on 3x5 cards of what it brought up for me.

[@HealwithLiz]

Thanks for this beautiful share Dee! I'm so glad you connected with this. I'm sure there are people reading your comment who will relate and be inspired! 🤗 And I really appreciate your kind words, it makes what I do all the more worth it!

[@justbecauseican1410]

Thank you liz for all of the effort. Interview like these give me hope in times where i feel desperate. I will recover for me and my little boy.

[@HealwithLiz]

Thanks, that means so much to me. I believe in you, too! Sending you and your son lots of love! ❤❤❤

[@synnevashaustveit9825]

This is SO great with this honest DNRS/neuroplasticity talk! Thank you! (And Connies story was also the reason I chose DNRS 🌞) much light to you beautiful souls 🤗

[@HealwithLiz]

Thanks Synneva! ❤ Great to hear! Really appreciate your kind words and so glad you appreciated our candid chat! Sending ❤ back to you!!

[@RaelanAgle]

So incredible!! Both Liz and Connie share such inspiring insights. I complete agree that there’s hope for everyone ❤

[@RaelanAgle]

And Liz you ask such great questions- thank you! You get at the information we’re looking for 😊

[@HealwithLiz]

@@RaelanAgle Thanks Raelan!!! I learn from the queen ;-)!! ❤

[@aynapaisley]

I just started practicing my full rounds and I noticed that the feeling of serenity and happiness that I exercise during visualizations tend to make me teary. This is also true in real life - the moments of great satisfaction and happiness even when very low key coming from mundane things can make me tear up from overflow of feelings and gratitude. Does it mean I'm doing something wrong? It fills me with happiness and joy, I'm not sad or mourning. But should I stop trying to feel it on such great level and create more calm and leveled visualizations?

[@HealwithLiz]

I can add my two cents here. I think it's beautiful that your visualizations and daily life brings you to happy tears. I too find myself crying tears of joy at cute moments with my kids or even adorable or moving things I watch. I think I cried happy tears twice yesterday. Calm visualizations are always nice, like in the evening or when they feel right. But if it is a positive emotion, then that's good. The only thing some programs discourage is doing high-adrenaline visualizations. Sending big hugs.

[@lynnlasak4089]

Yessss! Restorative yoga has been so helpful during my journey with brain training.

[@HealwithLiz]

Thanks for sharing Lynn 💓💓!

[@nazishkalaniofficial]

Oh my God! Thank you so much liz. Whenever I see a video of yours I feel this light of hope inside of me. And that smile of yours makes me smile. Thanks to both of you for sharing. ❤

[@HealwithLiz]

Aw thanks so much Nazish really warms my heart to hear that. Appreciate your comment! ❤ Sending supportive healing vibes your way!

[@lynnlasak4089]

Thank you, I’m currently doing brain retraining and I’ve had a couple setbacks, that can be bit scary and discouraging, so thank you for saying all of that. It is hard work and dedication

[@HealwithLiz]

❤❤❤

[@gailivey2015]

I have CIRS, and a friend recommended DNRS while I'm going through treatment. I'm a little concerned about spending that kind of money considering what I'm going through with remediating my house. I've always been very good at visualizing. I go to sleep at night writing stories and movies in my head. I used to close my eyes and actually feel like I was riding a horse when I was a horse trainer for a living. So, I think DNRS would really work well for me. I just have to find a way to add that into the expenses I'm going through when I'm not working hardly at all and watching the mold company eat my savings.

[@HealwithLiz]

As Connie described, the remediation contractor bought DNRS for her. When I bought it I was convinced it was the best thing for me and worth the money. I found it a couple months after I moved to an environmentally safe apartment, and had a setback at the smallest thing, and felt back at square 1 physically. I guess I saw it as an investment. If you really love visualizing, go with what you feel and support yourself in that decision. Read the articles on my website (linked in the about section of KZbin) 'Guest post: Not yet ready for brain retraining?' and 'How I Healed My Fight-or-Flight system (a detailed review of DNRS)'.

[@honorburza9110]

Great interview 👏 I also don’t watch the news for the past several years probably since my first child was born, I didn’t want that in the house.

[@HealwithLiz]

Thanks Honor! Thats wonderful that you're mindful about what you expose your kids to. I'm hoping to do a blog or video about news / digital detox and include other peoples inputs and how they created other healthy habits in a sustainable way. Now that I have a KZbin (which I check pretty often) and an active Instagram, it's not easy to have a healthy balance - because the algorithms are built to suck you in. We don't have TV / cable though. It was such a key piece of my upward trajectory and I remember how peaceful it was.

[@skyman5709]

Love your smile Liz!

[@hugbloom2664]

Thanks for this interview! You are both inspiring and a ray of light when the way gets foggy. Plenty of things that Connie spoke about resonated with me and felt reinforcing of what works for me. Liz you asked some great questions. It gave me a giggle hearing hiw going to the gym was going to heal you Connie 😂 and I did a similar thing before finding out what was going on with my body, by taking really long walks! I appreciate the interview being mainly about mould illness and getting into some of the details, because it's the next piece of my puzzle to work on. I've healed about 70% from ME (😄) while living in a high mould exposure house amazingly, so i think I'm doing ok in terms of the stress response, but want to remove a lot of that mould exposure (especially given very toxic mould species). faced with huge costs to get proper remediation done on the house. Did you notice a difference once the remediation was done in your case Connie? Liz it sounds like you moved house? I guess I'd just find it helpful to hear what this is like for other people. Thanks again for this video interview legends ❤

[@HealwithLiz]

For me, moving was helpful also because it was the start of a new chapter. Even though our landlord finally did pay to remediate it, we had signed the lease on our new place by then - and I just needed to turn the page on that chapter. In the mean time, you can open the windows for cross flow and get a portable air filter like the Germ Guardian or the Air Doctor. I write about how to reduce mold in a blog post on my website. It includes what to look for in your house, how to keep things dry, and insights on hiring inspectors and remediators. It also brings in the nervous system aspect to factor that in. It's in the 'helpful tests' category, but is a comprehensive post. Now that we live in a bit dryer climate and healthier home (the Bay Area has lots of different microclimates), in the winter, we actually sleep with humidifiers on. While I have no issues visiting friends and staying in hotels which might have water damage -- I don't plan on moving into a 110 year old house again with a giant hole in the roof.

[@HealwithLiz]

One other thing -- in case anyone reads that blog post -- the one thing I'd update is that I do know some people who went to certain CIRS doctors to get testing, and then ended up down detox rabbit holes and their nervous system worse from all the fear. I think Connie and I cover the nuance well in our chat (and what to be aware of). I also write about a sensible strategy in the 'doctor strategy' post in my blog - that's one's also in the 'helpful tests' section. It explores the paths, and leads to the importance of the lifestyle and nervous system regulation aspect essential for healing.

[@HealwithLiz]

Also wanted to say thank you for the kind words - I appreciate it!! Big hugs!!!! 💕

[@heatherrhodge2588]

I've watched half of this so far & already, SO MANY things she described are identical to my experience. The way (after getting to the point where you KNOW, "something HAS to be medically wrong with me").. That looking back, I also realized I'd been sick for as far back as i can remember.. Even as a young teen, I never understood why i couldn't seem to keep up with my friends..i didn't know why my energy levels were lower. The years and years of constant stress preceeding the point when I realized i felt too bad for there not to be a physical medical issue causing my issues. The having no energy to keep any friends.. Trying all sorts of supplements.. Having EVERY Dr treat me like I'm an idiot &/or blame it on depression. Also only ordering tests that weren't helpful & all came bk normal. None of my Drs have acknowledged the severity of my symptoms or how disabling they've honestly been and continue to be. After i told my current Dr, I believe I'm suffering from CIRS & tried explaining it to him, he insisted there's no way I've got inflammation in my body, cuz he's given me every test there is for inflammation & even autoimmunity & everything was normal. I proceeded to tell him some of the markers that needed to be tested for CIRS & he said he'd never even heard of some of em and that others were "just proteins" that "couldnt tell you anything".. I could keep on about the similar experiences, but I'm exausted alrdy from typing. The differences...ive been sick so long & to the point where there's no possible way i could do any kind of work, I can't afford to see a functional medicine Dr. I don't have family that's supportive.. Not for emotional support or financial support. They all think I'm crazy and just lazy, even after I've read them stuff about the illness. I have no one i can move in with to get outta this moldy environment. I see no light at the end of the tunnel. My plan is to print a research study article by Shoemaker & take it to my next appt.. It's one with all the tests they gave study participants, further broken down into which ones showed no differences in patients and controls, then the tests that did show differences. I'm also gonna print the basic info about cirs & hope 2 God he'll at least order some appropriate tests. If he does, i have no doubt my results will show how sick i am, then I need him to either write me an Rx for binders, or help me get disability. Hopefully both. After that, I'd (at some point) be able to feel a little better, enough to get a job and pay to see a shoemaker Dr, or if i cld get disability, then save my money and finally see a shoemaker Dr. I've taken the VCS test and failed. I've also got nearly all the symptoms... Not just the clusters, but individual symptoms. My entire neighborhood is VISIBLY moldy! I've never seen any place even close to as nasty as the houses look around here (as far as being just COVERED in mold!! Ive been tempted to try calling the EPA to come check it out, cuz it's so bad and i can't afford to buy even basic essentials, much less pay a mold specialist to look into this area or order the environionomics tests. I can't even buy razors 2 shave, a toothbrush, anything!! My mom's too busy babying my narcissistic brother, 18yrs older than me, who moved here to use her til she dies. She's terrified of him, so won't speak up, stand up for herself or disagree with him in any way. He literally keeps her debit card and spends whatever little she has left every mt after paying bills. Since he's been here, my mental health is much worse & my mom's health has steadily declined. She's 84 now & IDK how much longer she'll be around.. So i really gotta find a Dr to help ASAP, or I'll end up on the street with my young daughter in foster care or something. Since i mentioned my bro, I might as well add... The years and years of stress i spoke of earlier.. Was thx 2 him. I trusted him back in 2009, when i planned on filing bankruptcy due to medical bills with no ins. He convinced me that in court they could force me to sell my car & buy a cheaper one & offered to let me put my car in his name, so that didn't happen. Well, i trusted him at the time & had no clue of his narcissistic tendencies, so I put my car in his name the day i went and paid cash for it (following my previous car being totalled). Not even 3 mts later, he took over the car and left me with no transportation at all. I'd just had to quit my job as a hairstylist due to injuries from a wreck and move back in with my parents. I put every penny i had into that car, so i was broke with messed up credit. After he tore my car up, my parents let him "borrow" their car. Needless to say, he never gave it bk. All my dad rly wanted from him was for him to take them to church on Sundays, but he was too busy playing golf every Sunday. My dad said he'd prob never get to go to church again in his life. He passed away in 2016 & he was right, he hadbt been taken to church once. I HATE my brother, esp now, having to watch him take advantage of my mom like he does. She literally goes behind him & washes his dishes,bc he won't clean up after himself or even take out the trash!! I want to be able to get my daughter and i outta here so bad! I believe she's suffering from CIRS already. I know she IS depressed for sure. She cries at least once a wk bc she's so unhappy being stuck here with no vehicle. Oh yeah, he sold my dad's car b4 he moved here. He had a van when he moved in, but a month afterwards, he hit something and popped a tire. He never bothered getting it fixed & has left the van sitting out there, not paying taxes on it or even considering getting it bk on the road for 4yrs or more.

[@HealwithLiz]

Hi everyone, the timestamps are now up! Please leave any comments if you found it resonated! Sending good vibes.

[@ceciliamac4283]

To be human and not be perfect 👌Giving ourselves permission to live 💓

[@HealwithLiz]

💓💓💓

[@Eliokd]

Please let me understand something, we shouldn't do the shoe maker protocol or other mold protocols and only focus on the nervous system? So, there is no need for binders or cholesteramine? I heard different views and it is very confusing. In the shoe maker world, they can you can't heal unkess u move out from the moldy place, take medications to detox ect.

[@ireneeriksdon380]

Hello Connie and Liz! Connie did you heal even if you were eating food with high histamin? (Spinach/strawberries) or did you take it away? Whats your experience with clients is it possible to heal even if you eat a little food with histamin?

[@jamieessex6047]

19 years a CIRS patient. 10 years OF TREATMENT WITH A CIRS DOCTOR. bought DNRS 2 years ago. But im frozen completely alone . Is this common? I just wanna die. What to not do? What to do?

[@HealwithLiz]

Hi Jamie, sending a big hug. First, nothing I share is medical advice, just advice to a friend. It sounds like your CIRS doctor contributed to giving you a patient/CIRS identity and gave you a set of things that if you were to do and not to, then you would avoid symptoms. But as you say, it sounds like this didn't work out for you. If you are suicidal, I would recommend seeing a mental health care provider immediately. There is no shame in getting support, many people find this supportive. DNRS and Connie, the wonderful guest who herself is an example you can fully heal from CIRS, provide group support coaching. However it sounds like you need to really be seen and heard for your struggles, and might benefit from a place where you can do this, before joining any type of group with a container of mostly positivity. You are not alone in getting stuck with a program and looking for direction from someone on what to do. The answer will be within, but you can use guides to help you - many of us did. You can also consider other more nurturing programs that factor somatics - finding safety within your body - see my video with Rebecca Tolin. It sounds like you're in your mind, and cultivating safety there might help. Take from this message what resonates most for you!

[@HealwithLiz]

There is also Haven by Vanessa Your Grateful Guide and Sarah Jackson's Restore program, which talk about the vagal system and how to get out of freeze. Those are nurturing programs, which aren't really programs, they are monthly memberships that give you access to a beautiful toolkit of nurturing resources and monthly group live coaching.

[@Chelsea-mz4dn]

You could try carnivore diet which drastically helped me. I thought it healed me until recently when I realised if I deviate my symptoms return. Though, that's recovery enough if you can make the permenant adaption. You also have to get away from mould if you have it but it still worked well for me while I was exposed. You can do it ❤

[@bloom4096]

Dear Jamie, I hope you’re doing better. I’m 14 years in with me/cfs and all kinds of extra challenges because of it (like serious muscle atrophy). Please don’t give up. One day we will be healed and we’ll be so grateful we didn’t give up. 🙏🏽🌿

[@sarahmaurice3930]

Hi Liz, will you do an interview with healthyrecovery? That is his youtube name.😃

[@Im_Bennythebooman]

Does anyone have a link for a recovery story from a mom with multiple small children and zero family help ? I’ve been watching recovery stories for years and have yet to see one.

[@HealwithLiz]

That must be really hard raising small kids without help. I'm so sorry your husband abandoned you and your kids. Even though I'm 100%, I don't know how I'd manage with my two small boys without my husband's help.

[@75pdubs]

Can we use a dnrs coach if we are not purchasing the program? I already completed the coarse.

[@HealwithLiz]

It sounds like you may have borrowed DVDs from someone without paying DNRS? Got it -- So I know they do require you to purchase the program for access to their coaches. Connie is currently a coach independent of DNRS so you can reach out to her. PS. DNRS gives literally everyone a hard no who tries to access individual coaches or their group coaching (called Living DNRS) who hasn't purchased the program. The good news is there are many coaches independent of DNRS who are familiar with the program though. Check out the Rewiring Your Wellness Facebook Group and Website. On the RYW (a community of brain retainers) website, you'll see interviews with many coaches who are familiar with DNRS. I recommend going with the person you resonate with.

[@5000NATE]

Liz I'm a lot better now after 15 months but I'm still have symptoms I started meditating they gave me LDN have you ever tried that?

[@HealwithLiz]

Glad to hear you're doing a lot better and on a meditation path. I've read that LDN seems to block the opiate receptors at night so during the day the body produces more endorphins. I know people who took it that it helped. For me, that it helped some people with CFS, emphasized the nervous system / neuroplasticity / joy path that would be my way out - addressing the root. I was looking for something that there would be no side effects, even if only a small chance. Not medical advice. Sending my support!

[@5000NATE]

​@@HealwithLiz I took it for 2 days. Instead of taking it, I decided to for longer walks and meditate actively can get lot of sunlight it's been beautiful out here in Oregon. lately in a great help to me covid-19, last February around November. is when I started feeling symptoms go away I grew up Catholic now I practice gratitude not to say that prayer isn't comforting to me usually when I wake up I feel like I have to meditate now it's something. I need to do part of my life but I'm on my way out of this situation soon everyday I feel much better I'm no longer crashing but I have the tiredness still kind of there once in awhile learning how to baseline what's the biggest thing now I'm healing and recovery thanks to you honestly you spoke to me when I was at my worst Zen meditation has changed my life even with my anxiety issues and issues towards traumas I'm even putting myself out there again trying to meet a new woman I'm healing my past as I keep progressing to better health I don't know how to write with periods or commas so please I'm so sorry about that

[@HealwithLiz]

@@5000NATE Oh the sunshine and nature walks were a part of my healing too... and like you say gratitude, which seems to be a part of so many people's recoveries. I also grew up Catholic, but am more spiritual these days. I had a get together on Saturday, and I notice myself more present and grateful. I also took a couple moments to just be in my back yard look at the sunset and take in the moments. It's something that was such a part of my healing, and I'm bringing it back because I think it's also a part of really enjoying a good life. I'm also considering getting back into meditating because of how much peace and creativity that came from it.

[@5000NATE]

@@HealwithLiz I took your advice, I'm coming out of this now everything is so much better now I have less pot symptoms and basically dizziness upon standing and also my fatigue completely healing now I took responsibility and taking care of myself some sort of private but I will make a little video expressing my gratitude towards you and the community the help me get out this sometimes I tell myself it's hard to be patient I've come a long way I will never change this now it's going to be part of my new lifestyle even when I get back to working out full-time and everything always dedicate two-and-a-half hours to mental work spiritual work practice peace and gratitude and joy

[@fathimasalahudeen3744]

Did connie done any detox protocols other than dnrs to heal from mold illness?

[@jerryiwanski256]

Other than DNRS, there is not a lot of information in this interview on what she did to recover. I’m a little skeptical that she could recover from as sick as she was only with DNRS.

[@terrance429]

I agree 💯 precent. There's no way this is all she had done to heal. Obviously she said she new about cirs and never once talked about the shoemaker protocol. I find this hard to believe. Not saying that dnrs doesn't work

[@MEF7]

E want to know too.

[@lisabennett1253]

Hello Connie and Liz! On top of these symptoms (which I have) did you also have vision changes, vision issues that resolved? Thank you!

[@HealwithLiz]

Hey Lisa. I've heard many people heal from fuzziness, spots, and peripheral vision issues (I can't remember what eye stuff I had exactly - though know it was something). If your eye sight is getting suddenly worse, you will want to see an eye doc. Just know that your body can heal, even the oddest things. But ya, get it checked out if you can.

[@lisabennett1253]

@@HealwithLiz Thank you!

[@mikearcher24]

Hi really enjoyed the vid ive been going thru alot of what yall talked about all the the things cirs has been known to cause currently my hospital told me there was no way to test for mold an they referred me to psych because im to the point i can hardly function or take care of myself an ive even started having hallucinations and hearing things an feelike im on bad drugs when im not all tests at hospital always clean as of a week ago i moved in with relatives to get away from the water damaged room i lived in for 4 years (sirry i ment to keep this short lol) My family and i are desperately wondering what kind of doctor or specialist to seek out im very sick an worse by the day an hospital keeps sending me home

[@HealwithLiz]

Hi Mike -- Sending my support. First, take a deep breathe, and trust that your full healing is possible. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Good questions -- There is a test called C4A inflammation. It's a blood test for the level of inflammation. For mold, the test to determine what species it could be is the Great Plain Labs Urine MycoTOX panel. Emergency Rooms are not equipped for diagnostics. In the mean time, an Infrared Sauna (or a regular one) can be amazing, if you're able to tolerate it - which is the best way to release mold byproducts. For me, I was able to start with a few minutes and work my way up to much longer. Tanning Salons and Gyms often have a sauna. I went to one where I could adjust the heat. I looove the sauna. And then DNRS was absolutely was essential for my full recovery. Before DNRS I'd react to the smallest things, and it really made my nervous system resilient and just was a joyful experience (though it is work).

[@HealwithLiz]

Connie btw is also a wonderful brain retraining coach, for when you're at that stage and offers group coaching.

[@mikearcher24]

@@HealwithLiz first of all wow ty i wasent expecting such a speedy reply! And 2nd do u no what kind of doctor or specialist to contact to get these test done? I havent even been able to find the anwser online an thats even when i can even see or read so do u no what kind of doc to seek out?

[@HealwithLiz]

@@mikearcher24 Anyone with a medical license can order these tests I believe, however don't be surprised if you as a primary care doc and they flat out refuse or refer to get an allergy test which is not the same thing. You can google functional medicine clinics. Just be aware that they can make people more scared, cost a lot of money, and often they recommend expensive protocols. But good to see someone to get the right tests, if it will bring you peace of mind, and help lead you to a path out. In the mean time, have faith and do things to support your nervous system.

[@lisabennett1253]

If Connie might see and answer this.............did you practice for a while without any "proof" that anything was even happening?? You just kept going anyway, without seeing/noticing anything?

[@homemakersheart3614]

Hi Lisa, this is Dee. I can't answer for Connie, only my experience. Yes! Just keep showing up and trust the process. I had great shifts the first few weeks, then it slowed but I still saw some changes. Then I had about 2 mths of what I thought was nothing. But I regrouped and really practiced being present during the practices, being aware of my thoughts and also wrote down ANYTHING I noticed that was different. Such as I could make the bed in our camper...no IT"s! I swept the floors, no IT"S, I walked through a confrontation and able to be at peace AND listen with compassion and not get lost in fear. It's still happening, just at my body's pace.

[@lisabennett1253]

@@homemakersheart3614 Thank you so much for taking the time to answer this for me!