Conscious Co-Parenting? Van Jones & His Friend Welcome a Baby Girl

[@dawncullen0214]

I will NEVER understand how a baby isn't more permanent than marriage???? Ppl will say anything not to commit.

[@lashondarochell7584]

I definitely agree with you

[@gaila.9852]

What do you mean?

[@daneyd8401]

Exactly

[@erica8657]

This comment 🙌🏾❤️💯. You can’t give a baby back but you can get divorced.

[@mysteriousgirl935]

@@gaila.9852 i think she means it’s dumb that men are okay with pumping babies in people but afraid on marriage or commitment because you can break up but you can never not be a parent once you have a child

[@madisonmcdowell4071]

I'm with Loni. You should have children in a marriage. This cuts out a lot of the complications. My head hurts trying to understand it all.

[@clevertbacchas3670]

Not necessarily true. It also cause complications as well depending on those involved.

[@Peresphone]

Why in a marriage when half of marriages end in divorce and 9/10 people married are severely unhappy. At least they're going to be present parents for their child, that's all that matters

[@clevertbacchas3670]

@@Peresphone marital laws needs urgent attention. The state is benefiting alot from divorces, hence there will be no urgency in addressing them.

[@dawncullen0214]

@@Peresphone Is that an accurate statistic bc that just seems like yet another excuse for yall not to commit

[@Glorias_finds]

No women use sperm donors all the time this is the same situation except the sperm donor wants to be involved and you know who the sperm is coming from.

[@user07-awubt01]

Agree with Loni a 100 percent..this is just new age term for "non commitment"

[@lefiakuanna7256]

Only for fans over 18 years old BEAUTIFULGIRLS.SITE 👈 tricks I do not know Megan: "Hotter" Hopi: "Sweeter" Joonie: "Cooler" Yoongi: "Butter So with toy and his tricks, do not read it to him that he writes well mamon there are only to laugh for a while and not be sad and stressed because of the hard life that is lived today. Köz karaş: '' Taŋ kaldım '' Erinder: '' Sezimdüü '' Jılmayuu: '' Tattuuraak '' Dene: '' Muzdak '' Jizn, kak krasivaya melodiya, tolko pesni pereputalis. Aç köz arstan Bul ukmuştuuday ısık kün bolçu, jana arstan abdan açka bolgon. Uyunan çıgıp, tigi jer-jerdi izdedi. Al kiçinekey koyondu wins taba algan. Al bir az oylonboy koyondu karmadı. '' Bul koyon menin kursagımdı toyguza albayt '' dep oylodu arstan. Arstan koyondu öltüröyün dep jatkanda, bir kiyik tigi tarapka çurkadı. Arstan aç köz bolup kaldı. Kiçine koyondu emes, çoŋ kiyikti jegen jakşı dep oylodu. # 垃圾 They are one of the best concerts, you can not go but just seeing them from the screen, I know it was surprising 💗❤️💌💘

[@janderson947]

Agreed unless the guy is gay or something other than that I'm with loni

[@ronaldmcdonald1977]

How is a baby "non commitment"?

[@CrystalM1917]

@@ronaldmcdonald1977 non commitment to a relationship/marriage and a two parent in the home family structure.

[@ronaldmcdonald1977]

@@CrystalM1917 Its a commitment to a relationship. You have a relationship if you are raising a child together. But you are not married. I do believe its a 2 family home structure. If that man is contributing towards that home. Again, man who make very good money, are not home all the time. Barack Daughters didnt get to see their daddy in person everyday. Men were known to go away and leave their families in order to make a living. but the kids were aware who the fathers were and provided for. Military men do this often as well. Especially in times of war.

[@redember9380]

I am with Loni here..The world is getting crazy

[@qicle]

lol "getting crazy" lmao you must not know much about the world. Literally all these ideas were MAN MADE. Murderers and all types of terrible people come from traditional two-parent homes, there is no perfect way.

[@v.g7279]

It sure is❗️👏🏼 and not for the better either. I'm honestly scared to raise kids in this world. A lot of people aint mentally right

[@Msladyrae92]

What is so crazy about wanting to have a kid and being a perfectly capable adult to raise a child? They are well aware of where they stand with one another and both are planning to be in the kids life. I'd be curious to know your opinion of women seeking sperm donors.

[@Tan87ful]

@@Msladyrae92 exactly 💯💯👏👏

[@chcx5275]

@@v.g7279 especially when your future daughter may share a toilet with a man

[@madmann1000]

There are too many children in foster care and adoptions homes for single people to be out here engaging in this type of foolishness

[@lynne709]

This! Hill Harper is single and he adopted a beautiful little boy a few years ago. Sandra Bullock chose to adopt after her divorce. An arrangement like this isn’t necessary.

[@ronaldmcdonald1977]

Show us the paper work of how many youve adopted.

[@ashLen868]

Exactly!!!

[@cjwillz]

I hear you but I want to have a child of my own with my DNA that came from my body and I think most people feel the same way.

[@mckenzie.8653]

And? I’m adopted and I still think people should have their own biological children if they choose to.

[@JesusisKing1776]

Loni speaking facts

[@lefiakuanna7256]

Only for fans over 18 years old BEAUTIFULGIRLS.SITE 👈 tricks I do not know Megan: "Hotter" Hopi: "Sweeter" Joonie: "Cooler" Yoongi: "Butter So with toy and his tricks, do not read it to him that he writes well mamon there are only to laugh for a while and not be sad and stressed because of the hard life that is lived today. Köz karaş: '' Taŋ kaldım '' Erinder: '' Sezimdüü '' Jılmayuu: '' Tattuuraak '' Dene: '' Muzdak '' Jizn, kak krasivaya melodiya, tolko pesni pereputalis. Aç köz arstan Bul ukmuştuuday ısık kün bolçu, jana arstan abdan açka bolgon. Uyunan çıgıp, tigi jer-jerdi izdedi. Al kiçinekey koyondu wins taba algan. Al bir az oylonboy koyondu karmadı. '' Bul koyon menin kursagımdı toyguza albayt '' dep oylodu arstan. Arstan koyondu öltüröyün dep jatkanda, bir kiyik tigi tarapka çurkadı. Arstan aç köz bolup kaldı. Kiçine koyondu emes, çoŋ kiyikti jegen jakşı dep oylodu. # 垃圾 They are one of the best concerts, you can not go but just seeing them from the screen, I know it was surprising 💗❤️💌💘

[@JaiClaire880]

Loni better preach, I’m with her on this situation. A man asked me this and said HELL NO. Adrienne sounds like she’s being politically correct. Garcelle legit is find with this one and I couldn’t disagree with her more. There are so many issues with this and like Loni says, we are giving men too many passes.

[@v.g7279]

THANK YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU

[@ericobioha7434]

Yup. Van already had 2 kids by his ex wife. Now another 1. So he has 2 baby mommas

[@KIDSFUNHOUSE123]

Adrienne and Jeannie stay being politically correct

[@elizabethibarra4700]

Thank you Loni! Stop trying to make all these crazy ideas the “new normal”

[@shavonh8421]

I agree

[@Prince_the_One]

I dont think anyone is making it the new normal. They're just doing what's best for them. You do what's best for you. That simple.

[@teresamarie7460]

Loni and the rest of you find this confusing because a black man is agreeing to help raise the child. Otherwise, black American women have been having babies by black males without commitment and marriage for years.

[@elizabethibarra4700]

@@teresamarie7460 I don’t think this has anything to do with his race, he could have been white and my opinion would be the same

[@MsRose00]

@@Prince_the_One Exactly. People are doing what is best for them. I have friends who are single, accomplished women who want to be a mother. They either have not found the right person to have a child with or don’t even want to be in a relationship. I have a coworker who will be 40 at the end of this year. She was married at 25 and divorced by 33. She hasn’t found anyone to remarry and have a family with in almost seven years but she wants a baby. And unfortunately adoption isn’t easy even for a woman who is successful, college educated, and owns her own home. Bottom line, she’s single. So she started looking into sperm banks. I wish her much luck on her journey to motherhood.

[@keneishaathompson]

Loni is such an old soul...love her. People need to be reasonable and take into account that the one person who will be most affected by their "choice" is the one person who will never be able to weigh-in on the decisions. Think about what the conversation is gonna be like with that child, the possible question they would ask and if it's sounds stupid and complicated to you...it's definitely a bad choice. Stop ✋ expecting yours kids to just be ok with your choices when you still mad at your parents for stuff they did...just saying.

[@estyarmstrong1185]

THIS!!!! Especially that last part!

[@mckenzie.8653]

Stop expecting people to raise children the way YOU see fit. This is the same argument people said about same sex marriages and families. There is more than one kind of family unit and manner of raising a child. One is not more valid than the other. If the 1950s version works for you, amazing! Bless that. If you decide to co-parent with another trusted, stable and responsible adult that’s also fantastic. Stop expecting people to see the world thru your lens.

[@agathachris9722]

Exactly. The reason people are more eager to have children and not marry is because the consequences of marriage affect them but having a kid with any random effects the child and most people are okay with thwir children carrying the emotional, psychological, educational, amd physical repercussions of being born in a broken home, than they are with bearing the responsibilities of marriage.

[@user07-awubt01]

@@agathachris9722 this!!! Very well explained

[@OrangeBlossomMilk]

THISSSSSS! Exactly what I was thinking.

[@erinmontoya4151]

C’mon we can’t talk about how damaged society is with absent fathers and broken homes and then want to (by choice) bring a child into the world with an ALREADY broken home… Shout out to LONI who always speaks sense. She’s right. People want an excuse to not commit and live their best SELFISH lives. Selfish. I said it.

[@kca3346]

I think this could actually be a solution to absentee fathers. I mean an absentee father is a man who was willing to sleep with the mother and maybe even be in a relationship with the mother but wasn't willing to be a father. But with this arrangement both the parents aren't looking for a romantic connection or relationship. They just want a child that they can co-parent together. I think it's actually pretty sweet for that child to know they weren't conceived by accident or because of social pressure placed on a newlywed couple but because they were actually wanted so bad their parents weren't willing to wait to meet the right person and risk it being too late.

[@carenasmith7]

I agree with Loni, this is basically willing agreeing to become a single mother knowingly

[@rleon8955]

Loni is keeping it real! Facts! Listen to Loni!

[@yamirants]

I prefer two people coming together amicably and making a conscience decision to co-parent, then getting into shitty relationships, having a child and being forced to co-parent.

[@drec777]

This! Too many people in these comments coming from a judgmental place about this arrangement when they are in unhappy toxic marriages and/ or are baby mamas themselves . Many relationships don’t last so if that was the intent. You are absolutely right!

[@chosenone9074]

Thank you, Loni for sharing some common sense and wisdom in regards to that subject.

[@MaryBieber7]

We love Loni always keeping it real!

[@mysteriousgirl935]

for real them other 2 had me really wondering if i was the only one that thought this was completely ridiculous

[@shocomoco1867]

I'm with loni! Back in my days, we all had different relationships with one person. Now we give labels to everyone. She is my wife but she is the mother of my kids. And she is my side piece and she is my CONSCIOUS CO PARENT. LOOOOL 4 different people doing what one is supposed to do and is supposed to be enough. This is soo stupid

[@mckenzie.8653]

To YOU it is. I know folks who co-parent and they’re incredibly stable, mature and supportive. I also know people who are married with kids and they’re unhappy and stuck. Do what works for you. Happy, fulfilled parents make happy, fulfilled children.

[@v.g7279]

So stupid ❗️❗️🆗 👏🏼

[@707tich]

OK 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 well said

[@jolieluc]

​@@mckenzie.8653 The goal should be a family unit with positive co-parenting as a plan b to make things work when plan a didn't work. Just like single mothers can do a phenomal job raising kids on.their own but the most ideal situation would be that they're not single.

[@LolaLondonx]

@@jolieluc 💯

[@kaki_karei]

Yes Loni! She has been on a roll with fact speaking with no chills! 👏🏾 As for Adrienne, it seems like she talks as she thinks!

[@chidichinaka]

Why is garcelle acting sense lol he accidentally got his lady friend pregnant and he is trying to make a baby daddy/baby mama situation sound sophisticated.

[@Missdgaf440]

Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you’ll be good parents together. Everybody can’t live the same life y’all. Let people do what they want! Everybody can’t be married and some people rather leave this world being a parent than somebody husband or wife.

[@madlaz5795]

Then why get married to someone you know is going to be a rubbish parent, if your goal is to have kids

[@MsRisse94]

@@madlaz5795 why are you being obtuse? Ppl marry pl who they think are great ppl all the time and then those ppl switch up. Don’t be dumb. Not every marriage works out and not everybody goes through that marriage being who they were in the beginning

[@mimia.4810]

Marriage is better for everyone, especially the children. It shouldn't be done intentionally.

[@dance4life1208]

Yea because people get married and the man still ghost them with the kid

[@madlaz5795]

@@MsRisse94 it’s only African Americans that will do everything to try and prove reasons people shouldn’t get married. Marriage is better for the children, for the community and for yourselves. Stop being stupid. Ofc don’t marry someone who has the capability of leaving their kids. Marry someone with good morals and values so even if they are not the same at the end of the marriage (which is normal) their values will always be the same

[@musicqueen6617]

I can't believe how selfish so many people are. These folks are only thinking about themselves and their desires. No one seems to be thinking about what's best for children and this foolishness isn't it. Children need and deserve to be raised in a happy, married two parent household. Having children haphazardly is extremely selfish. It's amazing to me how women of certain demographics are excoriated for being single parents but individuals of privilege doing the EXACT same thing are being defined as "choice mothers" or "consciously co-parenting". How sad it is that no one is taking into account how this will affect the children. It's my opinion that this is just WRONG on so many levels. Very sad!!!!!!!

[@mckenzie.8653]

I’d rather have two parents who are happy, conscious and communicative then two unhappily married people forcing their children to live thru a failed relationship and a divorce. There is more than one kind of family.

[@feminineblend3047]

I agree!! nobody is thinking about the child

[@mckenzie.8653]

CHOOSING to produce and raise a child with another responsible, stable adult as co-parents is NOT the same thing as an accidental pregnancy. At all.

[@Ipaintprettyfaces]

What about single people who can very healthy raise a child?

[@paulwright6044]

@@mckenzie.8653 Well said! The difference is the "privilege." If you have the resources to PROPERLY (let me emphasize this--PROPERLY) take care of the child, I see nothing wrong with this. Not all families are going to consist of two parents living under the same roof, whether by divorce, circumstance, or choice. That doesn't mean the parents cannot come together to raise their child. That's basically saying single parents are doomed to fail, and that mindset is NOT it.

[@lornanaitore4735]

Why are we trying to make a single parent home normal,why are we going so far out of God's order ... There's nothing normal about this sad where we have reached as a society

[@ScreamTatumRiley]

Yesss I know it’s already many traumatized kids in the world with no father or mother it’s crazy naw

[@ronaldmcdonald1977]

It is normal.

[@43cassy]

It’s a tragedy! Smdh

[@v.g7279]

@@ScreamTatumRiley Thank you❗️❗️we living in the last days ❗️

[@CrispyFriedPickles]

Honestly, I’ve already decided that if I’m not married or in a serious committed relationship by 35, I will do this same thing… Either with a good friend or through IVF. Some people are well off financially and have the desire to start a family and would make AMAZING parents, but just haven’t found the right person yet. And especially for women, we have a biological clock. Why should I have to miss out on the opportunity to have a family just because I haven’t met the right guy? Obviously, I HOPE that one day I will meet the right guy, get married and start a family the traditional way, but that’s my backup plan. I’ve always wanted to be a Mom and I’m not willing to give that up…

[@CoachLove]

That lady just sealed taking millions to her community...😂 She knew what she was doing. 🤝👏

[@CrystalM1917]

You a Cyn G cousin.😁 Hey girl hey👋🏽

[@CoachLove]

@@CrystalM1917 Hey cousin!

[@madlaz5795]

Exactly! And I find it funny how he chose to have a biracial kid

[@annisaarthur-castro6227]

@@madlaz5795 Exactly He divorced a white women. Why didn't he find a BLACK friend to have another kid with? smfh

[@Tan87ful]

Yep. Last year Amazon Founder and CEO Jeff Bezos gave Van Jones and chef Jose Andres, the founder of World Central Kitchen, $100 million each so they can spend the money on and use it how they see fit. Both Van and Jose have estalished organizations, programs, and also other charities/causes/goals they want to create and accomplish. I would imagine they would be spending and saving some of that money to support themselves financially so they can pay their bills and live since what they want to achieve may require them to have to work less often as they can or want to. The mother of Van's new child is set for life along with the child. She secured the bag. 🤣🤣🤣🤣👏👏💯💯

[@missb2182]

I respect their choices to bring a child in the world where both parents love the child..This is NOT a new concept, just a new name. Best wishes..

[@lavonnealexander6936]

Same here, I see a lot of people are uneducated about the concept. If that was option for me , I would definitely try it. It seems very peaceful.

[@joshuamcdowell9745]

It's no difference from a single woman who goes the sperm bank route and decide to raise the child as a single mother.

[@jocelyncooper1738]

@@joshuamcdowell9745 I don’t think people realize how many single women actually do this. It’s a lot more than most people would think.

[@MaddiGirl16]

I think it’s interesting that when Garcelle first read this story, not once did I think the two friends were going to have a child through sex or science. I automatically assumed two friends wanted a child and were going to look into adoption. So this is an interesting perspective!

[@amminarose]

Loni is speaking the truth

[@ew4645]

I can’t wait to do this! BUT the co parent has to live in the same house or nearby and the baby should be conceived medically. Basically both parents should be as committed as they would be in a romantic relationship. It’s all about making the child feel loved and safe every day ❤

[@shoonm3227]

“STOP GIVING A MAN AN EXCUSE NOT TO COMMET” Loni Love .

[@tamaramichelle4326]

Not sure why creating single/baby mommas and single/baby daddies would be considered socially responsible!

[@teresamarie7460]

Black Americans have been doing this for years... Black American males have not been committed for Centuries. This is nothing new.

[@tamaramichelle4326]

@@teresamarie7460 I’m a product of two parent black home and all my black friends come from the same. Let’s not push this narrative that this type of behavior is the norm because it’s not. Even those I went to school with that come from a lower economic class are all married to the mother of their children! 🤷🏾‍♀️ All of my non black friends and associates come from divorce background and my white co workers in corporate America are all on second marriages and or choose to have baby daddies just have a child!

[@mahsa065]

The examples that Loni is giving are just couples that have kids and got divorced or broke up. What Van Jones has done is have a child with a platonic friend. The idea of conscious co-parenting is that you are conscious of the fact that your child will not be raised in a household with both of you and that co parenting starts from the get go.

[@lefiakuanna7256]

Only for fans over 18 years old BEAUTIFULGIRLS.SITE 👈 tricks I do not know Megan: "Hotter" Hopi: "Sweeter" Joonie: "Cooler" Yoongi: "Butter So with toy and his tricks, do not read it to him that he writes well mamon there are only to laugh for a while and not be sad and stressed because of the hard life that is lived today. Köz karaş: '' Taŋ kaldım '' Erinder: '' Sezimdüü '' Jılmayuu: '' Tattuuraak '' Dene: '' Muzdak '' Jizn, kak krasivaya melodiya, tolko pesni pereputalis. Aç köz arstan Bul ukmuştuuday ısık kün bolçu, jana arstan abdan açka bolgon. Uyunan çıgıp, tigi jer-jerdi izdedi. Al kiçinekey koyondu wins taba algan. Al bir az oylonboy koyondu karmadı. '' Bul koyon menin kursagımdı toyguza albayt '' dep oylodu arstan. Arstan koyondu öltüröyün dep jatkanda, bir kiyik tigi tarapka çurkadı. Arstan aç köz bolup kaldı. Kiçine koyondu emes, çoŋ kiyikti jegen jakşı dep oylodu. # 垃圾 They are one of the best concerts, you can not go but just seeing them from the screen, I know it was surprising 💗❤️💌💘

[@jalenwinters1874]

Perfect explanation ! I had put in my Initial comment asking the question on whether or not they would both be living in the same space or be away from each other with a healthy coparenting situation

[@curtismorgan6607]

🎯right

[@nataliewalton5118]

He already has to kiss and a busy career and ex wife. There is no way that he intentionally wanted to have more kids.

[@queenprincess4life]

@@nataliewalton5118 he got caught up and didn’t want to be part of the statistic of broken homes which he is.

[@niqualeee]

Loni I said the same thing & someone tried to argue me down. 😂

[@melindahmkhwanazi]

You know what we are all messed up and we are the product of all types of parent relationships. As long as they love that baby and are genuinely good people they may just succeed. Lord help them, parenting is hard.

[@TheAliness221]

To each their own but I don't think we should normalize this really and truly...

[@kendracosey]

I’m sorry, but this is weird. Although this is something that happens everyday, it is disheartening that people are PURPOSELY creating single-parent households. Nobody ever thinks of how the children will be affected while we’re cooking up our (so-called) genius ideas. We love to deviate away from God’s plans for us and we then wonder why the world and the people in it are so jacked up!!! 😔

[@lefiakuanna7256]

Only for fans over 18 years old BEAUTIFULGIRLS.SITE 👈 tricks I do not know Megan: "Hotter" Hopi: "Sweeter" Joonie: "Cooler" Yoongi: "Butter So with toy and his tricks, do not read it to him that he writes well mamon there are only to laugh for a while and not be sad and stressed because of the hard life that is lived today. Köz karaş: '' Taŋ kaldım '' Erinder: '' Sezimdüü '' Jılmayuu: '' Tattuuraak '' Dene: '' Muzdak '' Jizn, kak krasivaya melodiya, tolko pesni pereputalis. Aç köz arstan Bul ukmuştuuday ısık kün bolçu, jana arstan abdan açka bolgon. Uyunan çıgıp, tigi jer-jerdi izdedi. Al kiçinekey koyondu wins taba algan. Al bir az oylonboy koyondu karmadı. '' Bul koyon menin kursagımdı toyguza albayt '' dep oylodu arstan. Arstan koyondu öltüröyün dep jatkanda, bir kiyik tigi tarapka çurkadı. Arstan aç köz bolup kaldı. Kiçine koyondu emes, çoŋ kiyikti jegen jakşı dep oylodu. # 垃圾 They are one of the best concerts, you can not go but just seeing them from the screen, I know it was surprising 💗❤️💌💘

[@sammierose1150]

I agree! No “exploring” no “considering”. 🙄😑 Children do best in a loving, nurturing, non-toxic two-parent, married household. I’m politically moderate but damn some of these new “relationship trends” really push my buttons 😖

[@Prince_the_One]

As long as the child is loved that's all that matters. Period.

[@Linda-op4hg]

Preach

[@nicholelove4008]

Periodt

[@hilo6487]

I have a friend who is doing this (his little girl is 7 now). He is gay and she wanted a child. He is an amazing father and the child seems to have a great life. I feel kids need a stable foundation and if that's achievable and doing it with one person *cough* multi baby daddy culture* then I think it's great. Wouldn't want that for my own kids though.

[@MH-et4bo]

Kids deserve a mom and dad.

[@alexred1038]

High level rubbish

[@v.g7279]

@@alexred1038 ❗️❗️🆗👏🏼

[@v.g7279]

Wouldn't want it either. All this does is confuse kids lol ppl are insane

[@alexred1038]

@@v.g7279 And they wonder why society is immoral and each subsequent generation keeps getting weirder and more pathetic.

[@chetabari9817]

There are plenty of children who need homes/parents. My opinion is if they really just wanted to be parents, They could’ve adopted separately but their lives their choice. But please if you struggle with having kids or aren’t /is in a marriage and want to be a parent, consider adoption.👐🏾

[@Jasminemarie94]

Some ppl want to have their own children with their own dna.

[@drtash21]

I really don't like this being normalised at all. When are ppl gonna think about the wellbeing of, y'know, THE KIDS??? What sort of life are these kids gonna have in a situation like that? I really believe kids need STABILITY and this mess just throws that out of the window, esp. if both ppl get new partners. Very selfish. Typical of this generation it seems 🙄.

[@christianrose4084]

The same kind of life children of divorced parents or parents who stay together but hate each other go through, actually probably much healthier. Also this is not a “this generation” thing as the man is in his 50’s. Use your brain

[@Katlady001]

Ridiculousness. People just don’t honor the sanctity of marriage anymore it’s all these made of situation-ships. When men do this it makes me question their sexuality. Just because you have the money doesn’t mean you shouldn’t follow certain rules and guidelines for a children to grow up in a happy environment. Speaking of money let’s ask van Jones what he plans to do with the 100000,000 that Bezos gave him. I really hope the young people choose wisely because these adults are messing everything up. Smh.

[@lefiakuanna7256]

Only for fans over 18 years old BEAUTIFULGIRLS.SITE 👈 tricks I do not know Megan: "Hotter" Hopi: "Sweeter" Joonie: "Cooler" Yoongi: "Butter So with toy and his tricks, do not read it to him that he writes well mamon there are only to laugh for a while and not be sad and stressed because of the hard life that is lived today. Köz karaş: '' Taŋ kaldım '' Erinder: '' Sezimdüü '' Jılmayuu: '' Tattuuraak '' Dene: '' Muzdak '' Jizn, kak krasivaya melodiya, tolko pesni pereputalis. Aç köz arstan Bul ukmuştuuday ısık kün bolçu, jana arstan abdan açka bolgon. Uyunan çıgıp, tigi jer-jerdi izdedi. Al kiçinekey koyondu wins taba algan. Al bir az oylonboy koyondu karmadı. '' Bul koyon menin kursagımdı toyguza albayt '' dep oylodu arstan. Arstan koyondu öltüröyün dep jatkanda, bir kiyik tigi tarapka çurkadı. Arstan aç köz bolup kaldı. Kiçine koyondu emes, çoŋ kiyikti jegen jakşı dep oylodu. # 垃圾 They are one of the best concerts, you can not go but just seeing them from the screen, I know it was surprising 💗❤️💌💘

[@mckenzie.8653]

How can you dishonor the “sanctity of marriage” if you were never married to begin with? Apeople love to act like it’s only nowadays that people cheat and their spouses and divorce. Henry the 8th literally formed the Church of England 500 years ago JUST so he could divorce his wife 🙄

[@mimia.4810]

I agree. The destruction of marriage and the family unit is the destruction of society as a whole.

[@brooksinternational4128]

AGREED. CHILDREN ARE NOT GIFTS FROM A WHOLESOME UNION ANYMORE. ITS SO TERRIBLE

[@v.g7279]

@@brooksinternational4128 Agreed✅👏🏼

[@d.c.7533]

Out here casually donating humans!? Why split the "family\household"? That's a lifetime commitment. Sad how children come into the world today

[@marykay7878]

i dont want to judge him, but i think there is a huge difference between a. parents splitting up and b. unplanned pregancies where two people who are not in a relationship decide to co-parent and c. when people who dont even have the intention to live together have a child....especially in the first years, children need and crave the PHYSICAL presence of their father as well. i wish we would stop underestimating the importance of fathers, the sense of security they provide. if you want to have a child regardless of your relationship status, why dont you adopt? those kids are already here and have NO ONE and being raised by a single parent is a huge upgrade and will have a positive impact on their life. why consciously bring a child in this world when you dont want to provide a two parent home to them anyway?

[@lefiakuanna7256]

Only for fans over 18 years old BEAUTIFULGIRLS.SITE 👈 tricks I do not know Megan: "Hotter" Hopi: "Sweeter" Joonie: "Cooler" Yoongi: "Butter So with toy and his tricks, do not read it to him that he writes well mamon there are only to laugh for a while and not be sad and stressed because of the hard life that is lived today. Köz karaş: '' Taŋ kaldım '' Erinder: '' Sezimdüü '' Jılmayuu: '' Tattuuraak '' Dene: '' Muzdak '' Jizn, kak krasivaya melodiya, tolko pesni pereputalis. Aç köz arstan Bul ukmuştuuday ısık kün bolçu, jana arstan abdan açka bolgon. Uyunan çıgıp, tigi jer-jerdi izdedi. Al kiçinekey koyondu wins taba algan. Al bir az oylonboy koyondu karmadı. '' Bul koyon menin kursagımdı toyguza albayt '' dep oylodu arstan. Arstan koyondu öltüröyün dep jatkanda, bir kiyik tigi tarapka çurkadı. Arstan aç köz bolup kaldı. Kiçine koyondu emes, çoŋ kiyikti jegen jakşı dep oylodu. # 垃圾 They are one of the best concerts, you can not go but just seeing them from the screen, I know it was surprising 💗❤️💌💘

[@nailsbyobie1289]

Why are people so weird about people having biological children? Regardless of how they are brought into this world. If I want my own biological children, I can also adopt. We can do both, I don't have to choose one or the other.

[@marykay7878]

@@nailsbyobie1289 everyone understands the wish for having biological children. no one negates that. what some people dont agree with is that an adults wish to have biological children overrules a child's need and right to be raised in a two parent home. if i dont find the right partner to have biological children and raise them in one household with, then i would rather adopt. i would rather give a child, that has no parent and is being institutionalized a loving single-parent home, than going through IVF or random hook ups to have my a biological child as a single mother. even though being raised in a single parent home is definetly challenging for any child, it is still an upgrade in comparision to being institutionalized, in foster care or adoption homes.

[@nailsbyobie1289]

@@marykay7878 Right but why can't I adopt & have my own child? Why do I have to only adopt if I can't give my own child a two parent household? I'm just saying we can do both. Plus adoption is extremely hard to do, you can't just go to an agency & adopt a child right then & there. Some people who would be great parents aren't able to adopt because of how they run agencies. Not saying you shouldn't try & do everything you can to adopt (if that is what you choose) but having a child of you own is WAY easier. Given there are no complications with the pregnancy.

[@marykay7878]

@@nailsbyobie1289 when did i say only people who are single should adopt? obviously i encourage everyone to adopt, especially couples and also couples who already have children? i said something completely different: if i am single, and have not someone who i can see myself spend the rest of my life with, then i would RATHER adopt that going through IVF with someone that is not my spouse. i would rather give a child who has no parents and is already in this world by themselves a single parent home, than deliberately create a child in a lab to be raised in a single parent home. i think the child's right to be ideally raised by two parents overrules the adult's right to have biological kids regardless of their spousal or relationship status. also, while i hear what you are saying about the challenges of adoption...ivf can be just as timely and costly: garcelle had her twins with her second husband via IVF and it took them 5 years, and tens if not hundreds of thousands of dollars. adrienne and israel are trying IVF for a couple of years as well, and must also have spend huge amounts of money on it.

[@anonnona6433]

Okay, how can you be afraid to commit to a relationship with someone but you are not afraid to commit to the life long relationship of parenting with them 🙄. That speaks volumes to me. One parent most especially the man may just want to pay the bills but not get involved in the equally important things like feeding, school runs, disciplining, teaching value systems etc.

[@MaishaOnTop]

This is so gross. And so weird. I'd feel so weird as a child knowing my parents were just friends and didn't create me out of love but just cause they wanted a baby. Man this really is the end of the world. This is scary. Edit: I'm aware that all children are not born out of love, I ain't stupid. But still this thing is so weird and the fact that it can potentially become a norm is scary

[@lefiakuanna7256]

Only for fans over 18 years old BEAUTIFULGIRLS.SITE 👈 tricks I do not know Megan: "Hotter" Hopi: "Sweeter" Joonie: "Cooler" Yoongi: "Butter So with toy and his tricks, do not read it to him that he writes well mamon there are only to laugh for a while and not be sad and stressed because of the hard life that is lived today. Köz karaş: '' Taŋ kaldım '' Erinder: '' Sezimdüü '' Jılmayuu: '' Tattuuraak '' Dene: '' Muzdak '' Jizn, kak krasivaya melodiya, tolko pesni pereputalis. Aç köz arstan Bul ukmuştuuday ısık kün bolçu, jana arstan abdan açka bolgon. Uyunan çıgıp, tigi jer-jerdi izdedi. Al kiçinekey koyondu wins taba algan. Al bir az oylonboy koyondu karmadı. '' Bul koyon menin kursagımdı toyguza albayt '' dep oylodu arstan. Arstan koyondu öltüröyün dep jatkanda, bir kiyik tigi tarapka çurkadı. Arstan aç köz bolup kaldı. Kiçine koyondu emes, çoŋ kiyikti jegen jakşı dep oylodu. # 垃圾 They are one of the best concerts, you can not go but just seeing them from the screen, I know it was surprising 💗❤️💌💘

[@lilouliving]

Most people aren't born out of love

[@MaishaOnTop]

@@lilouliving I know this obviously but I'm just saying that it must be the weirdest thing for a child to know his parents were never in a relationship but friends who just each wanted a child

[@arianna5270]

I think the amount of folks in toxic romantic relationships raising their children in traumatizing environments is much more scary then two grown people committing to showing up for a child, without the added complication of romance, and providing all that they can.

[@JennHayden]

It's already the norm here in the United States. There hasn't been a baby made out of love here in 400 years.

[@tori9951]

“She have the baby, you pay the bills” that’s called a Baby Mama’- Romany Malco -Baby Mama 2008

[@eddylove5429]

They recently interviewed Vivica A. Fox. And she open up about her always wanted to be a mother, but hadn’t been married yet etc. this was one of her regrets, not having kids. I think is amazing women are now having children on their own accord without the commit from men. Why wait? If both parties are an agreement to raising the child then it’s fine.

[@ineedya123]

Baby, it messes children up and does damage beyond compare. Please do not choose single mother hood as an option. Children need two family household with a mother and father.

[@foreverlibra93]

@@ineedya123 Children need people who love them and want to care for them. Families come in all different shapes and sizes.

[@Jasminemarie94]

I mean she literally almost burst into tears bc that was her one regret it life. She waited for the right man and he never came. Smh. Don’t wait.

[@ineedya123]

@@foreverlibra93 No. God set up the system, it works best. Mother and Father are in the home. Research backs this up time and time again. Familes comes in all shapes and sized because of a misguided failed society. Be blessed.

[@queenprincess4life]

@@Jasminemarie94 that’s because she wasn’t open to interracial marriage. That was her fault. She could have chosen better but she didnt. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@michigangirl5072]

I gotta side with Loni on this one. The world is so backwards. People, please stop following everybody else. Just because somebody does it DOESN'T mean you have to follow what everybody else is doing.

[@sammierose1150]

Nope, no “exploring” and no “considering”. 🙄😑 I will never have children outside of a marriage (personally, no judgment to those who do, that’s your business - I don’t know your life). Children do best in a loving, nurturing, non-toxic two-parent, married household. I’m politically moderate but damn some of these new “relationship trends” really push my buttons 😖 It’s like the saying goes “common sense isn’t so common anymore”. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@ronaldmcdonald1977]

Show evidence that a child wont do better in a "loving, nurturing non toxic co parenting family." vs a "toxic two-parent, married household" If you cant show evidence, then its a good idea. Its just not your idea.

[@mckenzie.8653]

Children do best with happy, healthy and supportive adults. Sometimes it’s their grandparents. Or a much older sibling. Or a mentor. There isn’t only ONE version of a functional, healthy family.

[@ronaldmcdonald1977]

@@mckenzie.8653 I agree 100%.

[@lisah3460]

@@mckenzie.8653 Will you stop speaking for children. I have spoken to children and most children do want to be in a happy nuclear family. Not an unhappy family. But a family where the father and mother is there all the time. They don't have to be together. But Van Jones is not thinking about children. He is thinking about himself. Children aren't a commodity.

[@shanerob681]

I understand where Loni is coming from when she says this kind of arrangement makes it easy for men not to commit, but there are scores of people who get married and have no real understanding of what marriage or a committed relationship is about. Getting married does not mean your relationship will last or be healthy. While I think the term conscious parenting is very pretentious, the most important thing is that both parents want the child and are able to financially support the child. It’s very hard to find “the one” and if you know that your fertility window is closing up, but you are in the right place emotionally and financially to have a child, I don’t see anything wrong with arranging something like this.

[@ineedya123]

please never have a child for selfish reasons. a child needs a mother and a father in the home, it is deeply selfish to do other wise.

[@Tan87ful]

Exactly

[@Jasminemarie94]

@@ineedya123 having children is selfish within itself tho.

[@shavonh8421]

I agree with Loni 💯

[@lefiakuanna7256]

Only for fans over 18 years old BEAUTIFULGIRLS.SITE 👈 tricks I do not know Megan: "Hotter" Hopi: "Sweeter" Joonie: "Cooler" Yoongi: "Butter So with toy and his tricks, do not read it to him that he writes well mamon there are only to laugh for a while and not be sad and stressed because of the hard life that is lived today. Köz karaş: '' Taŋ kaldım '' Erinder: '' Sezimdüü '' Jılmayuu: '' Tattuuraak '' Dene: '' Muzdak '' Jizn, kak krasivaya melodiya, tolko pesni pereputalis. Aç köz arstan Bul ukmuştuuday ısık kün bolçu, jana arstan abdan açka bolgon. Uyunan çıgıp, tigi jer-jerdi izdedi. Al kiçinekey koyondu wins taba algan. Al bir az oylonboy koyondu karmadı. '' Bul koyon menin kursagımdı toyguza albayt '' dep oylodu arstan. Arstan koyondu öltüröyün dep jatkanda, bir kiyik tigi tarapka çurkadı. Arstan aç köz bolup kaldı. Kiçine koyondu emes, çoŋ kiyikti jegen jakşı dep oylodu. # 垃圾 They are one of the best concerts, you can not go but just seeing them from the screen, I know it was surprising 💗❤️💌💘

[@anoelsilliw5256]

There's a difference in divorcing or breaking up and having a broken home and raising a child in that, and deliberately having children in a "broken home"🙄

[@ronaldmcdonald1977]

Next you go say women belong in the kitchen. because the same people who made these silly rules, adhere to teachings that women were less than. If we go keep it 100 lets keep it all the 100

[@anoelsilliw5256]

@@ronaldmcdonald1977 @ronaldmcdonald1977 no. I'm not going to say that because I believe both people have to balance out responsibility in a household. How is wanting a child to grow up with both parents in the house suddenly equaling to me wanting to oppress women to specific roles? As a woman myself I'm fed up with people normalizing not raising children TOGETHER, normalizing halfing their time with their kids. If these folks even lived in the same house that would be different because the kid would have both parents at all times growing up, not just split time. I am keeping it 100. "Research indicates that, on average, children who grow up in families with both their biological parents in a low-conflict marriage are better off in a number of ways than children who grow up in single-, step- or cohabiting-parent households."

[@ronaldmcdonald1977]

@@anoelsilliw5256 I hear yah, but the old would say you working was a broken home. Its all based on perspective and culture. My grand mother feels shes the better parent because she stayed home with the kids, thus she feel she gave them the attention and love they needed. But equally, my grandmother didnt have the opportunity to decide to work as working women was not the norm, in regards to a respectable profession. The church raised to obey her husband, which lead to her have 8 kids. The norm depends on the group. But as a descendant of slaves, aint nothing normal in this world.

[@missmytime]

@@ronaldmcdonald1977 I don’t think we should use extremes on either end to minimize the truth about a child’s basic needs. The stay-at-home mom from back then was not that different from the single mother today; both are raising their kids alone, and neither situation is ideal for the kid (or for them). It’s always better for both parents to be present for their child in the home. This is not only proven by countless studies, it’s just common sense that we can all attest to for ourselves.

[@reabetsweimanmoabi7911]

You right .... people are crazy now

[@Krisha158]

I like this idea. ESP if everything is written out legally regarding custody and etc. If both Individuals are clear on the agreement I say this is way better than people having babies accidentally and then women are stuck raising children alone. At least in the fore-mentioned situation there are two parents. A lot of the current generation were raised in single parent homes and the world hasn’t fallen apart. Children need a loving financially secure environment that’s it. No one should be restricted from having children just because they never met someone who wanted to marry them. If you can afford it, emotionally ready for it, go for it. Divorce rate keeps getting higher, you have a better chance at just being single than meeting someone getting married and that marriage working. It’s time for people to be realistic and stop smoking on that fairytale crack pipe, that dream died a long time ago.

[@mckenzie.8653]

this! I’m so tired of people acting like true love overcomes everything. It doesn’t. Hollywood made that up. Communication, respect and shared values make a supportive family unit, of whatever variation. Romantic love doesn’t guarantee any of those things.

[@kiabelgrave4885]

Yes Loni 🗣🗣 And this is why the new generation relationship is the way it is.

[@reni344]

I get what Loni is saying however being in a relationship does not mean you are free from complications when it comes to raising children. Just because a man is physically in your home does not mean he is being a good father.

[@themindoflori]

I don’t see what’s so controversial. This is way better than 2 people accidentally having a kid and don’t have a plan or clue in the world for how to co-parent.

[@MsRose00]

Agreed.

[@Tan87ful]

Exactly

[@SJ-Reactions]

Loni talking about just “wait for love”! Girl the way the dating world is set up nowadays and don’t forget that women have a biological clock that’s ticking, so this concept doesn’t seem so far fetch to me. As long as it being handled in a responsible way I don’t have a problem with it.

[@mckenzie.8653]

Also, “love” doesn’t guarantee long-term probability or compatibility in child rearing.

[@Rio_Monique]

@@mckenzie.8653 You been making sense all up in these comments but most of em don't hear you though. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@km4336]

Agree 💯%

[@Jasminemarie94]

Okay?! Women can’t wait. Don’t know how old that woman is. Some women gonna wait forever. I know women who don’t have kids and regret it bc they waited

[@BurritoMassacre]

Why is Adrienne so caught up on whether there was sex involved or not? Why does it matter? He obviously loves and regards this woman enough to have a child with her, they made a conscious choice to be parents together because they admire each other.

[@MsRose00]

Because often, sex equals emotions and attraction, no matter how people try to state otherwise. If there was conception without sex, then it really was basically a business deal and there is more than likely truth that there are no romantic feelings involved. If there is sex involved, you felt something for this person. So any person who comes into the relationship afterwards, deserves to know the details of the relationship.

[@nataliewalton5118]

Yeah, a 50 year old divorced, man with 2 children just decided that he wanted another baby?? Haaaaaaaaaaa

[@banthony620]

Y’all need to listen to Loni. Raising kids is hard with both parents let alone some agreement with a man who can come and go as he pleases. This is a dumb concept imo

[@teresamarie7460]

But black American women have been choosing this lifestyle for years because they know most black males don't commit or get married. The only thing new about this the black man is agreeing to stick around to help raise the baby.

[@v.g7279]

Very dumb concept.

[@sandracrump]

Loni is so spot on! You’re making it easier for him!

[@noliefani8509]

For the first time in forever I fully agree with Loni! This is madness

[@MsRose00]

I feel what Loni is saying but at the same time, Van Jones is already in his mid 50’s and perhaps the woman he has had this child with is also at a point in her life to where she wanted a child before it was too late for her. They both came to that agreement. Van divorced his wife only a few years ago, maybe he doesn’t see himself remarrying but did want more children. Perhaps that was one of the reasons his marriage ended because his wife was content with the two sons they had and he wanted more? Who knows?! I do know that it’s not only women who have the desire to procreate and there are also many women who have no desire to procreate (I’m one of them). But I have no problem with this. I have more of an issue with what Nick Cannon is doing than I do with this. Nick will have five kids the same age, that are all in different households. Let’s talk about that before we talk about Van’s situation which sounds like detailed planning.

[@MH-et4bo]

Van already has LOADS of kids that need attention.

[@CrystalM1917]

@@MH-et4bo 😩🥴

[@MsRose00]

@@MH-et4bo Loads? I know of the two sons with his wife. What other kids does he have?

[@CrownyourSoulJourney]

Loni thank you 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@demitriwelling1348]

Van Jones is mistaken here sorry all he did was create a baby mother. Also because the mother is not Black she is not considered to be tainted and or lose her value. Loni thanks for having standards and looking out for women.

[@taliahali9827]

the 3 of yall together is such a vibe and you all look gorgeous! Love watching this show grow

[@briannawilson6483]

We ain’t falling for it, Loni!

[@teresamarie7460]

What do You and Loni mean... Black American women have been choosing this lifestyle for years. The only thing new about this is the black man agreeing to help raise the child.

[@lavonnealexander6936]

😂😂😂😂right!

[@briannawilson6483]

Meaning, I wouldn’t agree to have a casual co-parenting relationship without love and dedication within a happy marriage. To those who want to engage, kudos, but that is not my portion! I’m happily married and have a growing family. If my husband had approached me “as friends” letting me know he wants children and since I do too, we should procreate, I would’ve told him to kick rocks. To each their own.

[@ithinkigottalent4047]

My siblings and I were born into a marriage and many times I wished my parents weren't married because their marriage wasn't great. If the parents are happy, that's all that matters 😁👍🤸🏾

[@mysteriousgirl935]

i disagree to parents are grown ass people who made a decision to lay down and have a baby! all that matters lis that the children are happy. The parents job is to make sure the kids are good no matter how hard it gets because the kids didn’t ask to be here they brought them here.

[@jocelyncooper1738]

I begged my parents to get a divorce. I knew from around the age of six that my parents were two people who absolutely should not be together. They finally got divorced when I was twelve.

[@KennM12]

feels like purposefully brining a child into an already divorced situation. doesn't feel stable or right for the child

[@ronaldmcdonald1977]

You mean like casual sex with the cashier? or a night night stand after the club? 70% of black women brought kids into the world under those conditions.

[@kennywright2934]

Kids don’t even see their parents all day. They have school or day care (usually). They could alternate days or weeks like divorced people do. Just like you shouldn’t stay together because you have kids, you shouldn’t keep from having kids just because you’re not “together”

[@alexiscaldwell4133]

lol you do realize the circumstances of children not seeing their parents bc of being in school is a NOT the same as a child not seeing their parent regularly as a result of divorce / an intentional separated household ?? TWO completely incomparable circumstances. I know y’all are not this silly & ignorant.

[@kennywright2934]

@@alexiscaldwell4133 I understand. The situation you presented however is unintentional, whereas conscious coparenting is planned.

[@GoldenGlam95]

I’m with Loni…this is CRAZY! Just because you want something doesn’t mean it’s for you! Peoples problems is they try to FORCE things to happen rather than letting life take it course🤦🏾‍♀️

[@jazzyj904]

Loni’s going to say what we’re all thinking or at least ask the questions.

[@ifeanyi90]

Thank you Loni. Has anybody thought of the child? Why are people out here trying to create more broken homes & confusion all over the place. You are either committed or not.

[@feefs2139]

🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

[@Drawingboredi]

People marry trying to create home but end up creating broken homes. Marriage does or traditional does not = no damage or no brokenness.

[@ozdaniels2051]

Great conversation!!!

[@e.m.6158]

Two words-- Ah.Dopt! Adopt!! There are so many children that are already here, and need love, a family, a stable home life-- everything! Take that desire to parent and give it to a child that is already here.

[@glogler]

This is very common in the LGBT community. Many people have children with friends

[@v.g7279]

I noticed that too. All I see is unhealthy cycles❗️❗️❗️❗️❗️❗️❗️

[@maleyahrae7495]

Loni was the only one keeping it real🤣🤣!! My thing is why would you intentionally have a child with someone you don’t want to be in a relationship with? If this co-parenting situation doesn’t work out, a friendship will be lost!

[@v.g7279]

Thank you 😭😭

[@ages6592]

A beautiful idea but why not adopt a baby or a child that is in the system and need parents? I mean if you don’t want the sex and being pregnant as a couple, adopting is beautiful way to form a family!

[@mckenzie.8653]

Is the child loved? Supported and provided for? If so, that’s all that matters.

[@lisah3460]

Love is not enough.

[@Natalia3605]

Garcele seems like she’s tired of Adriane 😂😂

[@BATOOLESK]

I swear humans have too much time to invent new things !!! I agree with LONI it has to be a relationship

[@kittykatsboudoir]

Whatever happened to the sanctity of marriage, having children and being a baby mama shouldn’t be the goal and this noemi is nothing but a baby mama

[@lk_c7214]

Look, it might not work for certain people but if there are 2 friends willing to co-parent instead of a woman having an anonymous sperm donor leaving the child with only 1 parent, then I don’t see the issue. And this seems a far better situation than some of the alternatives we see today. I’m pretty sure Van Jones’ new baby will have a far healthier and stress free a life with 2 BFF parents than Da Baby and Danileigh’s daughter is going have with her 2 dysfunctional parents that were once together but now hate each other.

[@lstarsabb]

That right there how many couple started out in this lovnig relationship with kids and ended up spilting. This is just basically cutting out all the hurt that comes along with co parents

[@Tan87ful]

Exactly

[@Jasminemarie94]

Right! I can see this working out far better than two parents who once were together bjt arent and can’t stand each other.

[@dumpd6227]

Judgement is for God only. We are playing judge and as human beings, we do not have that power.

[@roter13]

Just because it doesn't fit what society has conditioned us to believe a family should be does not mean it is "non commitment". Some people are so small minded...

[@curtismorgan6607]

Exactly !!!!!!

[@christianrose4084]

Not everyone wants to be in a relationship but still want children. I have never desired to be married or anything of that nature but would still love to have kids. Do what works for you. Also I hate that a two parent household is seen as ideal as someone raised in a two parent household , I can tell you that it can also be extremely traumatic. Friendships tend to out last most romantic partnerships so this seems much more sustainable in my opinion.

[@43cassy]

You should be friends with your spouse. That’s the foundation for a healthier marriage.

[@christianrose4084]

@@43cassy yes but you can be friends with them but and still not be romantically compatible in the long run. I feel like people who weren’t raised in two parent households have an idealized version of it that just isn’t real.

[@CrispyFriedPickles]

Honestly, I’ve already decided that if I’m not married or in a serious committed relationship by 35, I will do this same thing… Either with a good friend or through IVF. Some people are well off financially and have the desire to start a family and would make AMAZING parents, but just haven’t found the right person yet. And especially for women, we have a biological clock. Why should I have to miss out on the opportunity to have a family just because I haven’t met the right guy? Obviously, I HOPE that one day I will meet the right guy, get married and start a family the traditional way, but that’s my backup plan. I’ve always wanted to be a Mom and I’m not willing to give that up…

[@_herblackqueen]

Im with loni on this one. I feel like whenever you take big decisions make sure the main person it will affect is you. Having parents that are not together isn’t always easy for the kids , so not sure how their kid would feel growing up.

[@NdeniseColeman]

Why is Garcelle matching the chair on set? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Was That Planed? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@TyLadyVols]

My bestfriend and I are doin this same thing this summer… it has nothing to do with just not committing that’s very simple minded of Loni.

[@lavonnealexander6936]

Smh 🤦🏿 right! Congratulations 🥳 on your new baby.

[@hot.wasabi1]

As a son of somebody sometimes i ask why my mom put me out into this world. So i can’t imagine what that child would’ve said😩

[@bellaapple2166]

The son of someone? Did your mom have you alone?

[@Shalayah2010]

aw.

[@jenniferselmon1511]

Yasss this was a bomb discussion. Love it 💙💙💙

[@Memkoh]

I agree, they all put their heart in it.

[@Cyamonicaa]

I’m disagreeing with some of the views. These people are adults, let them do what they want. It doesn’t affect you in any way.

[@RW-yt7ro]

And how Loni know it wasn’t the woman’s suggestion especially because women have a clock they don’t have forever to “ find the perfect man “

[@pheebsphan1]

"Don't fall for the okey doke!" 🤣😂

[@SoStacy]

Seems common sense isn't so common anymore. I have to agree with Loni.

[@ninabee1333]

Having a child it’s not something that you do part time

[@carmellem6813]

There are so many children in the system who are looking for good parents. What the hell is this? Why not adopt?

[@CH-jo4wp]

I find disturbing that all these people are creating a child without thinking about what the child would feel I think that this choice is very selfish.

[@_ZHA]

I agree with loni 💯! Everyone is scared to object these days “talking bout it’s the new normal”! Oh please !

[@mjluv1234]

Loni keeping it real 💯 👌

[@jasminesanders6034]

Adrienne don’t have any sense lol

[@NazASMRSA]

How about the child? not growing in a normal healthy dynamic family.. isn't that selfish?

[@diannejowers7857]

Yes Loni I agree with you it is crazy.

[@lunaForever2020]

Selfish narcissistic people be multiplying. I feel sorry these babies