Is the Relationship Over if Your Parents Don’t Approve?

[@TheRealDaytime]

Are your parents’ opinions a deal-breaker in relationships?

[@letibabe]

Absolutely not a deal breaker but 100% taken into consideration when I’m ready to decide. When are you guys going back on-set?

[@Korecarnation]

Neither of my parents have the right to an opinion

[@Nique1986]

When I was younger yes but now no it only matters what I think!!!!!

[@kurleykath.]

Nope

[@Knowbuild]

A lot of it is the man who a father gives his daughter to must face him. Shake his hand and look him in the eye. Man stuff. Y’all wouldn’t understand. You know that date that pulls up and honks twice. She runs out and hops in the car. A father will never approve to that. Come to the door, knock, dad opens, he’s sees his shotgun, he gasps, Mr so and so I’m here to take your daughter out on a date. Start to finish. Dads know. Even moms. But sometimes you need a respect or fear factor into play. Someone can be legally done wrong. How do you prevent this and protect her. But if she grown she grown. She gonna do what she wants

[@emmaloufegan4140]

Sometimes your family can see something isn’t going to work out and warn you, but an adult should make their own decision and whether they want to take the parents advice or not is up to them and I feel the parents should respect that at the end of the day.

[@bonita392]

OMG I NEED HELP. My boyfriend is a veteran he smokes a lot of weed and has an average job installing air conditioners. But I do love him we had our ups and downs because he's so antisocial and hes dislikes large gatherings which I love he acts weird with people, at one point I was like its over but he did a 360 change he still is anti social and smokes alot of weed but he gave me the ring. I am 34 turning 35 and My parents SAY NO He's a lowlife and he's not your faith. I am so torn.

[@TheWellnessBrew]

@@bonita392 how is it going for you? Are you still with him?

[@socialmedia1276]

Cheers to the adults who don't let their parents still make their choices.

[@lstarsabb]

Right, I can't be with someone that is more concern about not upseting their parents over their relationship. Sometime it is just about concern they don't like your partner but half the time is about wanting to be the main woman or man in their life and they know your partner is not going to just roll over and take their crap.

[@RavansFan-u5j]

You’re going to be living with that person for the rest of your life

[@jordan12118]

@@RavansFan-u5jand my parents better get used to her being in my life for the rest of my life and theirs

[@ThePrincesspickle88]

Ryan has so many excellent qualities: she's intelligent, funny, down to earth, and such a great fit in this group. I'd love to see her back as a guest co host ANY DAY! Great convo ladies!

[@noehailynita2881]

Yess I was thinking the same thing, IDK her that well but the conversation was so fun and I loved it.

[@bonita392]

OMG I NEED HELP. My boyfriend is a veteran he smokes a lot of weed and has an average job installing air conditioners. But I do love him we had our ups and downs because he's so antisocial and hes dislikes large gatherings which I love he acts weird with people, at one point I was like its over but he did a 360 change he still is anti social and smokes alot of weed but he gave me the ring. I am 34 turning 35 and My parents SAY NO He's a lowlife and he's not your faith. I am so torn.

[@milesjohnson7423]

Parents can be wrong too. You can take what they say into consideration but they're not fortune tellers. Ultimately it's your decision and you take a risk either way.

[@princessvictorUK]

True. This is my story

[@sheilacastillo3988]

So true. My parents have disapprove of my relationship and may have been together for two years. Even though it hurts I had to except it that they were not going to come around and I can’t change their mind at all of how they feel. I just had to do a best for me. Even though it’s hard to go against my own parents you know after everything they have done for me but at the same time I had to do what made me happy and follow my heart

[@jyn88]

When Adrienne cut off Ryan @5:34 I thought she was adding to Ryan's story but she was talking about her own mom. Thankfully Loni noticed @5:53 and directed it back to Ryan lol.

[@helenmayberry6010]

She has a bad habit interrupting just to say nothing

[@lucky4evr1]

For Real!

[@anulikaoligboh8502]

I think Adrienne was responding to Ryan. Ryan said that she loved how Adrienne was empowered by her mother.

[@samanthabraidyspence7967]

This is the first guest that I actually think fits perfectly. She was great. They should invite her more often. Or add her to the panel

[@cynthiaciciho885]

ok love Ryan on this show, first guest Ive felt fit in so well. I usually dont like guests lol

[@tishataray]

Love Ryan and her self confidence/ honesty when speaking

[@madisonmcdowell4071]

I think you can listen to their opinions, but at the end of the day, they can't stop you from being with that person if you are an adult. I also think there are certain personalities that clash. It doesn't mean they don't like your partner. There is a difference between them being wrong like abuse and your parents just having slight annoyances with them. I think there are certain parts of everyone's personalities that you don't necessarily like.

[@ripshannon]

My parents have been right about every guy they didn't approve of. At 26, I will now always listen to them on that topic especially. My parents are old enough and smart enough with enough life experience to see through anyone and I'm so grateful for that bc now I'm learning too. 💖

[@sassygurl8615]

Naaaah, that’s my decision to make. I would like my boyfriend to talk to my mom just to let her know but It’s my decision and nobody can get in the way of that.

[@natashajoyy4223]

This girl should come around more often, she's great! Does she have her own show? 😂

[@tessa4181]

“Well idk why you couldn’t have the big tiara...why did you have to have the little one”🤣🤣

[@latriceking8887]

Ryan Sterling is such a beauty and a great conversationalist. 🥰

[@akhonalanga8731]

Ryan Michelle Bathe Brown, Sterling is her husband’s name

[@latriceking8887]

Thanks.

[@MargaretWalkinshaw]

A-MEN! :)

[@ToDaMaxxx]

Adrienne was so on point this episode. Ever segment. She was hitting it on the head. The she was hilarious

[@ratanyahemley2259]

I wish Ryan was a permanent host on this show. I love her perspective on things.

[@MajesticMyronn]

Once again this is one of those topics where you damned if you do , you damned if you don’t... my life decisions should not be up to my parents if I’m here to love on you and only you your parents should respect... like the old school mentality is cool and all but there are some parents that intentionally push their child’s partner away and that person ends up heartbroken if the child of said parent says no and then if you cut off your parents for doing you then you’re in the wrong... it’s so crazy to me

[@luwamalem9537]

Exactly! It really is that old mentality that some parents try to force on you. They just need to accept that it's your life & there's only so much that they can force you to do or dictate! Who you date should not be one of them

[@cat56789]

Exactly and I also feel like it’s so dangerous because parents can potentially have their child’s relationship ruined just because of what they think and they have that old school mentality of “no one will ever be good enough for you” like what Ryan said no matter who your with your parents won’t ever be satisfied but to that I say who cares what your parents think about your relationship if your child loves someone and they love them and treat them with decency, respect, etc. parents shouldn’t deminish that because if the child breaks up with their partner they may not be able to find that love ever again, your parents do not control your relationship or what goes on in it you and your partner do that’s just my opinion, I also think your man doesn’t need to ask the parents or the girls dad permission to marry their daughter

[@CheeseBuritto]

the end!! LOL "wheres my tea"???

[@_a-qu7yb]

Ryan is an amazing addition, I was laughing the whole time and she brought interesting discussion

[@nolor8397]

I love Ryan and Sterling's story

[@thedramainew]

Currently going through this situation with my girlfriend's parents.We briefly broke up and reconciled come to find out that after a year of dating her they don't "approve of me" 😞 my GF is extremely upset and stressed about it.Feeling torn between the man you love and your parents is not easy for anyone.I don't plan to give up anytime soon ❤ when you know its meant to be there will be people and things trying to keep you apart.God's got us 🙏🏾

[@melloncollieinfinitesadness]

Ryan's mother needs to get over it. my god. 15 years !!!!

[@Iloveallpenguins]

I’ve been in relationship with my husband for 10, it never ends.

[@manailadaiana2717]

I had this problem with my mom and i stopped listening to her when was about my relationship because i realised that no matter who i bring home she might never like that person because my values , likes and dislikes are really different than hers. So i told her that, i stopped confesing my problems with her in regards with my relationship and she had nothing else to do than to accept it. But i have a friend who's mother can't stay out of her relationships , always making a fuss out of nothing , always complaining about her boyfriend's apearance (because her bf doesn't look the way her mom wants) and all of this weights a lot on her relationships even to the point that she breaks up with them because she can't take any more bs from her mom... (Mind that she still lives with her mom because she is a student and not financially independent)...

[@aena5995]

Yeah i have always been asking for advice from my mom since i was a kid which frnd to stay with wht to study etc and i used to think she was always right but now idk of its true or not 😑😑

[@manailadaiana2717]

@@aena5995 well i think sometimes moms are right but in the same time their opinions are based on what they want, what they feel and what they like... And it's a big chance that those will not apply to you as well. Some moms are just over protective and selfish (i'm not saying it is your case but that's what i've seen in general). Moms like to have the control and it's hard for some of them to let go of that

[@anoelsilliw5256]

Let me tell yall something. My dad has the best discernment I've ever met in anybody, and he's fair. He doesn't just outright not like somebody to not like them. Ever. There's always something off about them if he has a feeling about it. If he tells my future fiance "no" that tells me everything I need to know about it.

[@immaculateclare6641]

he is a human being just like any other. He could be wrong and you need to be an adult to make your own dscisions.

[@immaculateclare6641]

your father cannot tell whether down the line someone will change.He cannot tell whether you will be with someone for the rest of your life. All im saying is,as an adult do your due diligence on someone,take your time to learn someone and then make a decision that is right for you. Your are taking a risk with someone either way. Just dont expect your dad to be right always,he is human too.

[@25prestige]

Great co-host love Ryan’s energy 🥳🥳🥳

[@ajlasmajlovic5395]

Yo I just looove these women so much🥺❤

[@TheRealDaytime]

We love you too!

[@pertuniasoboyisi8671]

Sis...same!!!

[@ajlasmajlovic5395]

@@TheRealDaytime OMGGG NO WAYY🥺🥺🥺❤❤❤❤❤

[@josephlovely7759]

@@TheRealDaytime can you block this McElroy bullying Adrienne in the comment section. The team has to do something. He is disgusting.

[@thorpfad]

In my culture they say what an elderly can see sitting down, children cannot see it even if they are on top of a tree.

[@pcdloverin]

Parents can be wrong too there is no guarantee for anything in life !

[@thorpfad]

@@pcdloverin yes they can be wrong too. They were right in most cases I have seen though. Peace and love🙏🏾

[@Korecarnation]

My father doesn’t deserve an opinion. I will make that very clear to anyone I date.

[@janisegamboa5333]

😂😂😂

[@AaAa-qq5wr]

dang lol

[@2centsfreelancer]

I’m w/ Adrienne, I’m one of those ppl it wouldn’t matter what my dad say cause I know our views on relationships are completely different. And this was actually a homework assignment for me years ago and it Prove my point 😭😂😂

[@ss-wc2oi]

Love Ryan with all the ladies

[@alexandramateo4444]

I agree with what Adrienne said. It's your life you're the one sleeping with the person not your parents. BUT I cannot be in a relationship with a man if his family doesn't like me. Maybe because I've never had that problem before, thankfully my in laws are like family to me and every guy I've dated his family loved me, but that's just it if I don't have that kind of relationship with the man's family then I don't want a relationship with him! I'm saying do you want to go to his family house, and they all give you the cold shoulder or the stank eye or worse, not even be invited at all Cuz I sure as hell don't! yeah, it's easy to say idgaf what they say I'm not dating them I'm dating him that's my man this that and a third, but it's going to get to you eventually and there goes your relationship. So, in a way I would have to say, yes if the parents don't approve relationship is over. Unless you have a mom like Ryan who always had high standards then you can ignore lol.

[@florarosario5888]

I think they should add Ryan to the group permanently. I'm loving her vibe.

[@anikawilson1937]

When it comes to asking for your hand in marriage, if your parents have Real concerns, REAL being the operative word, I believe that at least should result in a conversation so your parents know that you will be alright.

[@MrAllysonn]

Love Ryan's hair 🖤

[@toffecrunch]

This new chick yo! Her shading her parents oh my... totally me to a “t”. I’m giggling over here! Please have her back. Her energy is so refreshing.

[@jyn88]

I did not know she's married to Sterling. He is an amazing actor! I rarely feel that way about an actor or actress but he really can act. He impressed me in This is Us.

[@cat56789]

She is married to him, they have a family together as well

[@offtaylorgray]

How could you not love STERLING K BROWN?!

[@just-nadia-and-keys]

My sentiments exactly!

[@siobhanmesias28]

Ryan is so perfect for the real! Loved her!

[@MissHard2Forget]

My husband asked because it was the right thing to do. My mom would’ve never said no to anyone she knew I loved and was happy with unless she had seen him being abusive or something. Parents need to let their offspring live their own lives

[@TygaTakesTheTime]

Pleaseeeeee addd Ryan to the showwwwww, shes such a great addition loveeee herrr

[@cicilove9496]

Omg, I love this group together; Ryan is excellent on this show

[@whitleylangley]

It's definitely over parents see through people

[@DKDiva804]

You can say no but I'll still do what I feel! I need to learn my lessons on my own and if it works out then I can say I told you so I know my man was right for me 🤣🤣🤣

[@julianacheriza1575]

I think it depends if your parents have your best interest at heart( because not every parent wants their kids best interest)

[@ebso2027]

It is not just about who you should love. It is who you will raise a family with.

[@RavansFan-u5j]

Some people just love and don’t have children

[@CreativelyKia]

People keep saying it’s your decision at the end of the day so It doesn’t matter what your parents say. Yes. well obviously....I think it’s more of a old school respect thing like ‘hey I would like your blessing, I would like to marry your daughter... ‘ Like: as in it’s not a necessity. I think it definitely shows that someone took a little more initiative, and tried to do the right traditional thing, esp if the parents are alive, and well. There’s alot of situations where it varies.

[@Aquariusfairy16]

Ryan is so entertaining.

[@siaf2398]

I LOVE Ryan!

[@paigez7680]

I recently asked my dad if he is expecting my future boyfriend to ask for my dad's permission to marry me. My dad said: hell no, that is your life and your decision. I'm not apart of that relationship. I would hope I instilled some wisdom into you of how you can make your own decisions about your life and taught you that you deserve the best. Ideally, he would hope to like the guy im with but its my choice to say yes or no. I LOVE my dad! ❤❤❤

[@mevacooper6731]

I agree with Adrienne. However, let’s be real. When you bring home a partner or go to their house, you want their family to like you. Even though a lot of people say they don’t care about what other people think of them, in reality, every human cares in a way. I don’t think it should be up to your parents to decide who you should love. But you should definitely listen to their opinion. Sometimes they can end up being right. Personally me, if I go to a guy’s house and their parents don’t like me, I wouldn’t really feel comfortable being around and vice versa. This topic is complicated, but at the end, we all care in a way to be liked and want our partner to be liked as well.

[@NMA635]

When I was teenage and early 20s I never take my mom words seriously I thought she was being mom and overreacting but actually I was wrong and she was right I never said that to her but I will reconsider my decision.

[@NMA635]

@UCSeUe6_hmqRhoSovb47cQ6Q actually she is sweet and lovable woman who has positive energy and some wisdoms.

[@ashunt29]

Who would have known Sterling Brown didn't grow up with his father! He is so manly. Ryan's mother never really liked Sterling from the beginning seeing their interview on Black Love.

[@tamerilee]

I hope Ryan reads these comments 🥰🥰

[@va_lee_ree]

I agree with A and Ryan!!

[@adamgranger5653]

Before my mom died I would have said yes her opinion matters because I would need her and my girl to get along. But now that she is gone and my dad is 71 which makes him old school I actually don't have to worry about that problem worrying about the opinion of parents regarding any future relationship I decide to participate in

[@Sk88p]

It depends on what the parents see that could be a problem, as to why they do not approve. Sterling not asking Ryan's mother for her hand being the reason she is still salty, is just silly. Ryan knows why it did not occur to him to ask, and that is all that matters. But if your parent knows what you want and need in a partner, and sees that that person is lacking and sees that her son/daughter does not look really happy, that is something more serious.

[@terrispencer]

Please add Ryan to the show.

[@ingrid8994]

Love Ryan! 🥰

[@britbritnicole]

Adrienne is right, if you’re an adult, it’s not their discussion it’s yours

[@ranitagadling4312]

If a guy asks his girlfriend's dad for her hand in marriage and her dad says no he should end the relationship and just stay single.

[@lucky4evr1]

Quick story.. I knew this person who did the whole 9. Asked the parents.. Picked a great spot to propose.. And she said NO! All that work down the drain 😐

[@macadamia668]

The relationship is over when YOU want it over. Your parents are just a "wiseful" source for a second opinion

[@jaelajulien3833]

I got a question how do you get comfortable telling your parents personal thing s

[@ajohonly3721]

Not everything but if you’re hurting definitely talking to them is important.

[@jessialina]

Let them know what’s coming, like tell them hey I’d like to have a serious open minded conversation with you, and ask them to support you through what you want to talk to them about. And let them know that if they can’t be open minded and supportive then you don’t have to tell them things. Idk but I hope this helps! Good luck 🍀

[@washurhands5079]

It’s a nice gesture but ultimately I’m going to marry the man whether he’s a good guy or not. I might be right about him or might be blind and not see things they see. We just gotta be adults at the end of the day and own up to our decisions ✌🏽.

[@Nique1986]

I think that you can listen to there opinion but ultimately it should be your choice of who you date !!!!

[@Mamuမးမုၣ်]

I love my family and my mom, but NOPE. Nobody is gonna tell me who to love and what to do with my life except for ME.

[@jasminesoyinka]

I like Ryan 😂😂

[@cindyben3089]

Can we keep Ryan???

[@kemieshahaynes6771]

Adrienne is looking gorgeous***

[@yasminejasmine4368]

Can we keep Ryan please......

[@shaynanichelle8621]

Ultimately it is the person’s decision on whether they want to marry the person or not and like Adrienne you’ll be the one in the marriage, not the family. Ideally you want your family to like your SO at the of the day but it doesn’t always work out that way. I just wonder how do you tell an adult that they can’t marry their adult daughter 🤔? Like how does that work fr?

[@navneetmadhray8974]

I’m with Adrienne here.

[@brisaperez7454]

how do I have a conversation with my mom about a boy I want to date but that she doesn't approve of

[@tamerilee]

Adrienne said it all honey

[@missgallen6183]

Hey ladies ❤️❤️❤️

[@Simplelivingslowliving]

Well, ultimately it's my decision yes. But I will say that when your parents dont aprrove of your relationship it will create friction and uncomfortableness when the family get together.

[@nilasapphire361]

Yeah if you're grown their opinion shouldn't matter but if they see abuse then that's different

[@sheilacastillo3988]

That is a Toughlove topic. I’m really going through the situation with my partner being in interracial relationship but I’m glad that his side of his family supported because if his family wasn’t supportive any type of way it would’ve been hard on both of us and we probably wouldn’t last long.

[@shawy1707]

Ade really be preaching

[@jordan12118]

No not at all. Who cares what my parents think or say about my love life?

[@perfectlyimperfect1095]

I'm not American, I'm South African so yes if my parents don't agree to me marrying this man then I cannot marry him. This is because in my culture it doesn't just stop at asking for my hand in marriage. His parents will ask for my hand on his behalf and once my parents agree then a date is set where my aunts and uncles will negotiate magadi(a bride price, bride wealth or dowry) with his aunts and uncles, our parents will always be present throughout. Once an agreement is reached which can be a mix of live cows and a monetary equivalent to cows e.g 1 cow= $100/ R10000 meaning if 6 cows is the agreed upon amount then $600/ R60000 is the amount of money my family must receive as well as gifts for the whole family, a list is written. A date is the set when he and his family will bring all this to my family. Once that is done then I will be presented to my husband and in-laws. A cow will be slaughtered and the meat cooked. Then it's a celebration, all this happens at my home. This is the day my parents officially release me to my husband and in-laws. We can then proceed to plan and have a what we in South Africa call a white wedding where I will wear a white bridal gown, have bridesmaids and the whole nine yards. Then we sign the marriage papers. Then have another cultural celebration at my husband's home where I will be welcomed into my new family. In my culture as well as many others in South Africa marriage isn't just a joining of 2 people it's a joining of 2 families as well.

[@agathachris9722]

I'm not south African but same. If my father doesn't agree, I wouldn't marry him

[@nitaya92]

No, some families will always find an issue & are never happy

[@TheSunshinefee]

A lot of parents don't approve of someone's partner, especially in the South-Asian and Asian community, and when there is someone from another ethnicity involved, the matter gets more complicated. @therealdaytime you should invite people from the instagram account 'blindian' they are all about fostering black-asian relationships

[@missgallen6183]

Hello ladies y’all always looking beautiful ❤️

[@luwamalem9537]

Hm, I feel like this is always going to be a controversial topic no matter what. As parents, they have the right to input their opinion and even go as far as to say that they don't want you dating them. That's their opinion. However, at the end of the day, it's your life & they can't dictate everything that you do or don't do when it comes to who you date. I will never understand arranged marriges or forced marriages because, how is someone (parent or not), going to tell who I'm going to spend the rest of my life with, have kids & tolerate!

[@marilynnelson2240]

Sorry Garcelle…totally disagree with you. She’s not marrying her father.

[@TheAlkebulanTrust]

Facts or undeniable facts?...if you're an adult no it's not over. As you make decisions of your own. Parents who want to disapprove of relationships for their children might as well do arrange marriage for their children.

[@daniellalove143]

@Jay LMAOOO

[@amayrasalas5427]

Exact reason my ex and I broke up

[@gemacontreras992]

Me too

[@Candie4JC]

If my parents or brothers say no, it is an absolute no for me. Nope!

[@MJSJenkins]

It shouldn’t be.

[@Gheuns3251]

Adrian makes sense for once

[@Carlyon100]

I would add to parents whose expectations of their marriage minded kids are out of step or touch: take your meat out my rice.

[@alezandradavila2581]

Wow that’s nuts …. Sterling is nice

[@josequintanilla9932]

Honestly who cares what the parents think you have the right to make your own decisions and your parents have no power to tell you who you can and can’t be with

[@RavansFan-u5j]

Exactly. An example is if your black and are dating someone who is White or Latino your parents might not want you dating/marrying them because they are not the same race as you (black). You’re parents should not stop/prevent you from dating someone who is outside of your race

[@josequintanilla9932]

@@RavansFan-u5j that’s right race shouldn’t matter at the end of the day if you two truly love each other than there shouldn’t be a problem being a different race doesn’t make you any different we are all still human 💯

[@jeupshaw]

Asking for hand-in-marriage is treating the daughter like property. The tradition was totally misogynistic.

[@shaynaloveswiss1]

Thank youuuu Ryan. Can we talk about parents like mine who want me to marry within my own race? That ain't my dating history tho....lol. 😒 sterling is rich and famous - her mom can eat dust hahaha. She right some parents have ridiculous expectations. That man paid for himself through Stanford. Tf Matt Damon for lol??

[@bonita392]

OMG I NEED HELP. My boyfriend is a veteran he smokes a lot of weed and has an average job installing air conditioners. But I do love him we had our ups and downs because he's so antisocial and hes dislikes large gatherings which I love he acts weird with people, at one point I was like its over but he did a 360 change he still is anti social and smokes alot of weed but he gave me the ring. I am 34 turning 35 and My parents SAY NO He's a lowlife and he's not your faith. I am so torn.

[@senaiskender4401]

My mums a narcissist so she would never accept anyone i wanted either.

[@nolor8397]

Matt Damon is literally married lol

[@Iloveallpenguins]

Finally someone who has a momma like me! My mom wanted me to marry rich Jesus. He had to be a pastor. Every man was bad. My dad liked my husband but we didn’t ask because he didn’t believe I was property.