Consistency ruins us

[@ericknudten7272]

I was a Mental Health Registered Nurse for 10 years and the advice we get from these writers (ie Emerson, Seneca, Epicurus etc) is better than anything modern psychology has to offer. They tell us timeless truths that once we accept them help us through life. There is a reason why we are still reading them and that they are still in print. Keep making these videos!

[@mary.j9399]

They were life changing for me after i found this channel, i didn't know those books, quotes now i am addicted to them and i fully agree they are better than every season i had with my therapist. I am so happy!!

[@ericknudten7272]

@@mary.j9399 Dont get me wrong..they can be helpfull too, but Ive found that they are just telling people what has already been said for a very long time...Im glad your benefitting! 🙂

[@Cy4nSw4n]

"In order to save myself, I must destroy first the me I was told to be" - The Dreamer

[@EMartones]

You always post such a thought provoking quotes… I feel “Maybe our favorite quotations say more about us than about the stories and people we’re quoting.” ― John Green

[@Cy4nSw4n]

​@EMartones Oooh I love that one! And yeah I do love quotes! The great ones make us think, but the best ones make us feel

[@TheIcebergAnimal]

The best affirmation that successfully set me free from consistentcy is "I am anything I choose to be. I am me, always"

[@wanderunner8971]

Your way of speaking calmly in front of the camera, without any cuts, is just amazing. I think I can certainly say on behalf of others that you have become a mentor to so many people.

[@future-ui2be]

I swear I predicted haircut videos on your channel, and there you go, these shorts. Your mentor is purely based on the hair youd love to have dude.

[@EMartones]

Nothing is more powerful than making the decision to liberate you from the opinions and expectations of others. Following your inner voice will energize you and will restore your joy and inner peace. Your greatest life will never manifest without pursuit.

[@esthergebel5256]

I am one of these people from another country who still has an accent after living here for 50 years. Just today, somebody asked me again where I am from. In order to integrate myself, I started volunteering as soon as we came " off the boat." Volunteering in many different places and going to nursing school later in life helped me not to remain the same. I actually graduated shortly before turning 50 years old. But I believe that deep down we will always stay true to our roots. I won't ever forget where I came from. I am chuckling to myself because I used to read Plato at age 16 on the train in my old country, trying to be different and searching for answers. Now I am old and started to read Seneca's letters. We are never too old to learn and to change.

[@HonestlyHolistic]

I fully agree, changing is a never ending process of life and it is actually quite beautiful. We can always learn and re-learn things and it will feel like you have unlocked a part of yourself and life each time

[@DandreCandia]

Ralph Waldo Emmerson has some of the greatest quotes in human history, each of his remembable 1 liners can have entire philosophies dedicated to them

[@jamestravis1037]

You are incredible!! Thank you 🙏🏻

[@imeocaisina7]

You are the man and seeing so many people in the comments give me belief that a lot of people also want to build their character, their inner wealth. For everything that can be taken from you is not a worth a thing.

[@mary.j9399]

I become regular customer in my library because of you, and got better mentally. Thank you so much ✨

[@jonahlim5977]

I love his videos and how he is able to express himself in a way that is accessible to people! I have been struggling a lot recently and philosophy has brought me comfort!

[@hanaaali1959]

"Won't the others in that country, or in that culture, or in that family welcome us the most if we are kind people, honest people, modest people, just people, won't others benefit if we are people like that?" GREAT question. These are great qualities and yes "most" people want us to have those qualities but NOT if it means we get to be someone they don't approve of. Most cultures, traditions, and families don't want you to change. If being who you are doesn't conform to their ideas and expectations of you, they don't want you to be yourself. They will guilt you, shame you even disown you (as if anyone can be disowned), if you decided to become the person you want to be. Change is hardest thing to do! That's why so few people change. And when the closest people to you don't approve of your change, that is the true test. If you are at that point, ask "Do I want to have them or myself?". 99% of the world is just a copy of someone else. Our thoughts, feelings, behaviours aren't even ours. Emerson said "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment". Thank you for your insights and wisdom 🙏

[@dreamingofthemoontonight]

Your channel is my favorite place on the Internet, thank you for sharing your wonderful thoughts always

[@yayhina]

the way you have articulated these complex ideas of identity crisis, self-imposed constancy and imposing externalities, into accessible and comprehensible but more relevant chunks of wisdom truly moved me. the sense of clarity with which you speak and conveniently relay the core message doesn't just sound reassuring and promising but also touches us all with validation and comfort. I have struggled with changing myself for as long as i can remember. I know who i wish to be and of all of those values and virtues, I wish to be a good communicator but, every time i meet the ones with whom i have always been awkward and shut, i begin to speak awkwardly and timidly again which throws a wrong impression of me. So i try to remain quiet instead of perpetuating my old way of speaking and giving 'em any more of my old self. I am learning to hold myself together in those situations and to fully rely on myself to carry myself well as I please even if it means emerging with a kind of change which might be mocked or scorned. I have observed that people are way too busy fixing their lives to meet with others' changes bitterly. They will be disappointed for a while, but eventually will they see you for who are and either accept it or reject it. as long as you have a vision for yourself that does not hurt others but only helps you get closer to your higher self, pursue it. all that matters is that you are comfortable in your own skin and values. good luck!

[@acceptingtheuniverse]

Thank you for the kind words and your observations; much appreciated!

[@sahds91]

Thankyou for speaking around 10 minutes in, about the experiences of other cultural identities, I don't feel this is spoken about often. You show great insight and empathy

[@shubhambhatia22]

keep uploading there are people who need people like you

[@Englishroserebecca]

This is all so true, living our life to fit in with what’s expected of us by others. It can be suffocating and limiting but it takes courage to go against the grain. I wonder how many people are actually free enough to be completely themselves in every set of circumstances. Interesting video.

[@reluctantme5183]

Nicely said and drawn from Emerson, Seneca, Epicurus. We all need to strive to grow and challenge ourselves daily. Falling back a step or two is ok, we need to be kind to our own mishaps. External perspectives of one's own character is like you said is superficial. We have free choice for our narratives. Thank you as always!!! 🖖🖖🖖

[@Summer-Vibes]

I genuinely needed to hear this today. It’s almost a miracle that this was the message from today’s video. Thank you so much!!!

[@henrikwakman7776]

I think this is the most sincere and intelligent channel on exploring the daily reality of life I've yet come across. Great video, again!

[@_Komi_]

Whenever I receive a notification from this channel, my day is made. I'd be very grateful if you uploaded twice a week. Thank you for what you do my friend:)

[@NorthernPear]

I recently came to the realization that not wanting to disappoint others, being a people pleaser, is manipulative. I blamed others for putting me in a position to not rock the boat, but being the nice person who doesn’t disappoint others is a victim’s way of manipulating. You say it much better. Thank you for articulating what I’ve been trying to wrap my head around about myself and my past character, personality, actions, identity. I don’t want to manipulate anymore. I don’t feel I was consciously doing it-I thought I was being nice. Anyway, thank you so much for this video. Perfect title.

[@Ilsm374]

This was a brilliant, incredible podcast this time (like always!). Exactly what I needed! Thank you!

[@ljh03337]

Great reflections as always. Please never change the setting of your videos. Listening to you is therapeutic

[@VioletMurphy-q5o]

Your videos bring me so much peace. I used to read a lot of philosophy but have been struggling to read recently and you make these important ideas accessible in a very humble way.

[@violettaalexistarot]

The thing I’m insecure about the most is the thing I find I require validation from most.

[@thomasandersen2534]

Me too I’m working on that

[@bernadetteobrien3861]

Wonderful channel, excellent speaker reminding everyone of the universal truths available to all who seek personal growth on their journey through life.

[@Sid5588]

I love Ralph Waldo Emerson , thank you for sharing this , totally agree! Cheers!

[@user-ki8hx1id9w]

There is a book I have been reading it , about identification or in the other words “Ego” I would recommend it for anyone wants to know how to deal with identifications. It is called “A new Earth” by Eckart Tolle.

[@laesy]

It seems these videos are made for what I'm feeling at the moment, always a hit. Or maybe it is common struggles we all face.

[@eyalrochell347]

one of the things i struggle with the most is change, it seems that i can't change and i don't know why. now i know it's because i see myself as the same man i been all my life hope this realisation starts the change i need

[@meadow83]

Thanks for the great video and newsletter this week, I appreciate your takes and how in depth they are. Much to think about.

[@Lauren_bex]

I think the more I try to change the more resistance I feel in doing so, but occasionally I see little things change inside of me that were not there before. Thank you, I have been enjoying your wed's messages, nice way to start the work day during my cup of coffee. 🙂

[@Nischalj]

Thank you for the life changing videos and newsletters, so many amazing ideas!

[@BabarKhan-qp6nq]

Beautiful ..beautiful thoughts .

[@zensvlognotapro]

Let's have a courage to dissapoint others even if people will change how to treat us I experienced that. Sometimes people say I change but they don't know that they're the one who never change. They don't know how to feel people. It's a not so pleasant some people need boundaries so they can find peace.

[@vincentboersma9227]

your message is so powerful! most people do not live this way unfortuantely. Changing this is very hard though. Takes courage.

[@farahfoulla]

beautifully said . Thank you🌹

[@samada5656]

It’s like listening to an E-Book ! Good job 👍🏼

[@favOriTe-v6e]

this man always comes up with the best youtube titles

[@joannakozowska1547]

The only thing I want to be consistent in is consistently standing by myself.

[@seandunlap1743]

Thank you for your continued work and sharing.

[@andreajoy224]

Wednesdays are turning into a new favorite day of the week! 😊 You have given us a lot to think about this week...thank you ✨ I saw this the other day... "You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean, in a drop." - Rumi ♥️

[@_Komi_]

I'm happy to see your channel growing at such a rapid pace. Keep up the good work!

[@jenniferrosebruce6385]

Love again from Bangkok Thailand.😊 your sharing of your knowledge is much appreciated ❤

[@louiseannedicentakerbec7335]

People are often wrong in their oppinions but They had to much pride to admit even to themselves

[@Sjenka-w6r]

Bro your videos help me a lot.

[@kareemmohammed5270]

resonates, much appreciated.

[@justacitygirl]

Married 11 years, stopped wearing my wedding ring after some Covid weight gain. I recently lost the weight and my ring fit again but realized I only wanted to wear it on special occasions. I then encouraged my husband to stop wearing his and he loves it (it just got in the way a lot of the time). Opting out of outdated traditions just for show is liberating.

[@Kkemy1234]

ur my asmr artist, I've become addicted to ur videos thanks a lot 💌

[@meloearth]

Good morning, Handsome. This one is a relevant topic for me. Thank you. I have been trapped and made depressed by this consistency.

[@caty9995]

Great video once again. Starting my first letter today. Thank you.

[@margaretmcgregor5686]

Beautiful just beautiful - citizens of the universe maybe 😊 from Scotland.

[@marianaalves6872]

I love you channel! Regards from Brazil!! 🤩

[@LovelyFlipFlops-jl9kl]

If someone knows who they are they simply try new and if it works for them they keep the knowledge if not, you are correct they don't change and simply view it as an experience.

[@curiousme8]

Thank you for sharing!

[@yeahright3901]

story of my life when it comes to horrible narcissistic parents

[@JoshCPh]

Thank you!

[@Bergo101]

Thank you.

[@adamw36]

This channel is my soul-line.

[@chaitanyavreddy]

I took up Seneca when I came across your videos last month. It has got me out of my reading slump as I’m currently a medical student and medical books itself are vast enough to cover, even a single chapter. 😅 But now I’m slowly savouring philosophy and got my copy of Epictetus as well! I think I’d love to read this genre more than others! All thanks to you for sharing your thoughts in a simple and subtle way which can be understood even by beginners in this genre like me. 🩵

[@michaelturner5919]

FORTITUDE.... solid video. thank u

[@louiseannedicentakerbec7335]

Sometimes actors are good enought to maje you be someone you never been in others mind

[@JJG0818]

Your titles are something else. They speak for themselves.

[@edmi1379]

What is the difference between consistency and avoiding to be self-contradictory? I understand that maintaining consistency for the sake of upholding the image that we put into the world is detrimental in the long run. However, one should not uphold contradicting beliefs for the sake of having a "ever-evolving self." Where is the virtue is claiming to believe in something and yet doing the exact opposite? Thoughts and ideas are welcomed.

[@wintertontoday]

By disappointing others ~ can this be also the fear of rejection of others (?) and the result of such, having to deal with such and where to from there etc. Edit: Also, the very last sentence you say - that self imposed limitations can be remedied - how can they be remedied? For example, if I can see that I am is a B Grade artist, having examined the Greats and stand no comparison - whether music or painting - is this self imposed limitation or actual limitation? I suppose the question to ask is, how can we know what is truly a limitation of ours vs the self imposed limitation? Thank you,

[@lovefool1616]

I love your content but sometimes I don't have time to watch the entire video. I would really appreciate if you could provide a link where we can find the content in reading format. Thank you!

[@Wilyam-07]

Thank You...❤

[@chanwooksook]

you are a wonderful human

[@JamesLucas-l6s]

God please protect me true this process 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🇫🇷

[@JannatHerzallah]

My father has nosy friends that have an opinion about everything and seem to be super competitive and like to show off (their kids went to university for example) i also know that they gossip. I never like them asking me questions about my life. Where i work, what kind of work, where i studied. I never know what to respond. They make me feel nervous because even when im stingy with personal information, they have the tendency to say "it is just a question", or "i am judt curious" or "what is wrong with these simple questions" Deep down i know its not just a question and that they are judgemental. Also my dad kind off shame for me whenever they ask my situation, as i dont have a university degree. I always had learning disabilities since primary school and i have to accept that, for now, i will have to work a normal job at least for a while. How do i deal with this and do you have any recommendations when it comes to books. How can i help myself in these situations? Thank you very much.

[@thestumpavarieteeshow]

I looked at your name and wondered if your were of middle eastern decent and I think you are. Please correct me if not. I am and I mention this cause this is big in the middle eastern culture. Part of it is not their fault, most come from nothing and put so much pressure on their children, hence, the pride and attention going in on what you speak of and what you are going through. Just know, even myself, no matter what transpires, have gone through similar. It is inescapable, however, how you now respond and handle it, is up to you. Stand in your power. Build a life for you, not others. Even not for our parents. It's hard and I can't say too much here but once you start with not caring what others feel and think, trust, that's the first step. 😊🎉❤

[@louiseannedicentakerbec7335]

No….I have to give ir time And thought in order to answer. You also can feel and let the thought hear the heart

[@genkiferal7178]

you are a gorgeous creature, mister.

[@Flyingsnow444]

You always make me so happy ❤ I'm delighted to see your videos..how is your dog doing?

[@Cy4nSw4n]

We do need a Leyla and Mishka update 👀

[@louiseannedicentakerbec7335]

They never dealt w me but the double They thought was mé

[@NM-hq1io]

Unreal aura

[@JoVeda_xo]

I am just myself its different from other people that force their views on society it corrupts my belief as an artist because the overrated mainstream is too stressful😂.😂😂😂

[@louiseannedicentakerbec7335]

We always gros up and we re the ones that live throught our body

[@courtneyodo]

I’m in graduate school trying to get a research paper approved for gender identity disorder. I would love to hear your thoughts on it. psychology really doesn’t know anything about it so I feel like whatever you say I’ll be more enlightening than what I read in my textbook ❤

[@coachellafair7752]

Knowledge serves itself

[@pinardemircan1749]

Thank you for all your sharings. Please increase the volume a bit, there is difficulty in hearing your talk.

[@writersnoise]

I think you have to increase the volume 😅 he's pretty loud on my phone

[@pinardemircan1749]

@@writersnoise no volume of my phone is at its end, compared to other records it was so difficult to hear this one.

[@esthergebel5256]

My husband is severely hearing impaired. While I do hear his voice very well, I think my husband would have difficulty despite wearing a aid. We do take our senses for granted until they don't work as well anymore.

[@esthergebel5256]

Sorry, wearing a hearing aid.....

[@conniefearnside2279]

I can't even take my supplements consistently:)

[@bal5007]

realest stuff being in status quo is nice but it eventually won't stay forever

[@louiseannedicentakerbec7335]

Identité est interieure Identité est aussi génétique Beinng humble to aknowlege ourselves

[@lizaa_sarkar]

Thankyou :)🤍

[@DPPB5]

Insightful speech. I do have some reservations, or concerns, regarding this: makes me think how many might fall into the trap of atomization. Friendships are important and "no man is an island" - as they say. I would very much like to hear your thoughts on the atomization of men, especially in the modern era, and how it can be staved off whilst remaining true to oneself. Best of wishes.

[@laouen]

Let's not kill ourselves just yet; there is still someone left to disappoint. Cioran

[@susbedoo]

My whole life I feel I am always impersonating others. Who am I?

[@rationalideal]

Have you read much Nietzsche along with those current philosophers you’ve read?

[@leggyReid4c]

What do you do when you fear seeing the change in others, feeling like life is happening fast?

[@RyanNelly]

How's that for some advice

[@Leo_Nader]

Hey man, I signed up for your newsletter but I haven’t been receiving the newsletters. I signed up twice to make sure everything is alright but still haven’t gotten any. Anyways, this is a fantastic video, and it personally resonates. Thanks for yet another gem. Happy to see you grow, and to grow with you.

[@سكينه-ح7ح]

إستمر 💕

[@virrgoworld444]

You're a very handsome human being

[@kostaskostas6224]

If God is so annoyed by human pride that he would leave his child to perish because of it......then who in their sanity would want to be a servant of such a God other than avoiding the alternative ( hell or what have you)......

[@Sally-qs2wq]

Can i ask you question ?

[@pcw2241]

❤

[@haidikariem7342]

4:07

[@iverggggggggggggggggg]

amaze

[@Charan4129]

1st!!