Contracting & Ending a First Counselling Session

This is a role play of a first counselling session, concentrating on contracting, finding a tentative focus for the work and ending the session. It is aimed at Level 3 and Diploma counselling students. Jheni & I teach on CPCAB counselling courses. If you have any comments we would be delighted to hear from you.

[@ChrisSkoyles]

This is the best example of a first counselling session I've found so far. As a Level 3 student currently working on an assignment question about the stages of a session, I've found this video invaluable, thank you. :)

[@sineguguperseverance7771]

I'm now doing my third year and found this video very important in helping me better understand the first session❤️

[@odessablair3989]

Lovely i'am a new counselor, and this really helps.

[@LordJasonKing]

me too!

[@gilbertsimiyu2213]

I appreciate this style of communication and counseling

[@toota1052]

that's the essence of counselling. Listening, reflecting and helping the client say their thoughts so that they can hear them and also feel lighter by letting any negatives thoughts out.

[@TeganHoney]

This comment summarizes therapy in a nutshell. The power of healing ❤️‍🩹 is in hearing.

[@amyleighthomas3564]

I'm first year level 4 and this recording has been a godsend for me. Very well structured and the best I have seen on KZbin. Thank you!

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks so much for your kind comment Amy. I'm glad you found it helpful. Good luck with your studies. Donal

[@EnvirosparkHoldings-qq1xp]

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[@EnvirosparkHoldings-qq1xp]

This is good.

[@Maxzene]

Imagine if having David Bowie as a therapist

[@bellaella3218]

This is really good. Very helpful for a student like myself studying counselling and psychotherapy. My biggest fear is not knowing what to say or saying the “wrong” thing but this really helps a lot. Please more videos like this

[@designsbydeborah2866]

Dont worry you will make mistakes but just remember the client will probably be more nervous than you

[@brandyj.8321]

I feel relaxed just listening to his accent! ;-) Excellent and helpful video.

[@katiebranchflower4543]

" sounds very lonely" I didn't hear that … not surprised she was surprised with that feeling he identified.

[@charlieponting4674]

Loved this practical demonstration of so many things that cannot be adequately put into words.

[@kenkibelel8048]

Tremendous Professionalism yet compassionate

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thank you for your kind comment Ken. I'm glad you liked it. Happy New Year, Donal

[@jessiehorvath8682]

Thank you for making and sharing this. Has really helped with my studies :) the best example of an introduction I can find! Felt very real

[@genefreak]

Just started councelling myself and this appears word for word like my first session.... But my God... DAVID BOWIE LIVES as an Irish councellor!! 😁

[@joshc7865]

genefreak Irish? Lol more like British

[@joolsner]

I did think he look like David Bowie, so my eyes weren't playing tricks on me.

[@randomuser3476]

When he talks you can tell hes irish

[@gemmahunt4468]

Nooo he's definitely English!

[@gemmahunt4468]

I take it back, he's Irish! But such a slight sounding accent! I like it though!

[@RockDove5212]

Donal has such a wonderfully calm and reassuring way; gentle and sensitive to the helpee.

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thank you so much for your very kind comment. I am glad the video is helpful. Donal

[@user-jf8tr8zn9z]

I really enjoy listening to this role play, ( I've watched this heaps of times over the past two years since starting my counselling course.) Thank you so much. I would have really enjoyed listening to the whole counselling session.

[@woollymangina65]

Thank you for your clear, easily digested and informative videos, finding them very helpful in my first year of diploma. Looking forward to more!

[@kalaradoelliott7728]

Thank you so much for that. This was a very useful video. It was very well done and not at all boring.

[@velenirasorewadakuwaqa3905]

its helps me to know how to go about the early stage of counseling-a counselling student Fiji

[@rachaelc8476]

I've found your videos so hopeful, please do more!

[@yigityektakukul1947]

please continue to do type of this video series. because they help us for improving to counseling skills.sorry i cant speak english very well i hope i choosed the right words.have a nice day

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thank you for your kind comment. I'm glad they are helpful. We will try to get some more recorded soon. Donal

[@phumezayamani3746]

this was really helpful indeed, especially for us who are training to counselors

[@leahhymas9956]

I'm studying a diploma of counselling and I have found this to be very useful. Thanks

[@thaj15]

This role play is greatly detailed and helpful. I'm a psychology student about to start my observations for my counselling qualification, so having this video to study amongst other resources is wonderful. Thank you so much!

[@TejBakshi]

I think that this should be more informal The more we treat it as a transformative process for the client with the counselor just being a catalyst. I feel the legal jargon in the beginning could have been conveyed in a more informal way . But overall great learning. This is what i feel. Would love to get some reactions. Cheers

[@halimamakarfi3781]

I enjoyed watching this role play. It has given me a better insight practice as a student.

[@Raven.13]

A very helpful example, thank you!

[@urvidavadra9027]

this is really helpful.I'm sure this is going to help me as a student on how to go about sessions with a client. thank you

[@ifeelpeaceful]

The summary at the end was quite good and also the ending

[@annewalshe6427]

Fantastic!! thank you Donal

[@frankie5425]

Brilliant, thanks!

[@mugdhaghatage7347]

Thankyou so much i got the idea about how and when we should talk while the client is giving all of their information

[@tracygiven2984]

Love this video, very helpful.

[@RetroGuy_77]

Mr O'Reilly, this isn't meant as an insult, but from this angle, you resemble the late David Bowie. Excellent video, thank you for sharing.

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I'm really glad the video was helpful. I don't mind the comparison but the late Mr. Bowie might not be impressed! Lol

[@gomolemodiphoko620]

Helpful indeed❤

[@anngupado5107]

This is the best session that I have seen as a 2 year student at Lira university thank you so much

[@valuableideas759]

I like that kind of educated vidios. As a counseling students thats very helpful. Thank u

[@charliewarlie31415]

This client is so sweet! Wish her all the best

[@enatp6448]

Nice example of informed consent

[@LordJasonKing]

Brilliant, so much appreciated that you took the time to post this. As a student on level 3 its invaluable X

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks David. I'm really glad you found it helpful. Good luck with the course. Donal

[@MsKHall]

What an excellent role play!

[@faithadekoya417]

Quite a good roleplay that I have seen on KZbin I am doing an omnline level 2 skills course but very enlightening. thanks

[@maggsw5481]

Yes, I agree with the comments that this, is best I've come across regarding the 'opening' to a counselling session. Pls do some some more videos on clarifying, paraphrasing and summarising.

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks so much. I will try to get some more done when I get some time. I'm so glad you found it helpful. Donal

[@jeannemariethompson424]

I find this so helpful

[@educatingmummy5]

Excellent, thank you.

[@aigulbolot]

:))) I love her hmmm hmmm... Both are so adorable

[@kalaradoelliott7728]

PS, thanks to the lovely lady playing the role of the client. You made it seemed very authentic and I loved the jokes.

[@carlmanx1]

Thank you for this.. very helpful example of a user centred contract.

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thank you so much for your comment carlmanx1. I'm glad you found it helpful. More will be uploaded in the next week. Donal

[@AlejandraMorel-ni2og]

Excellent vídeo,fantastic and empaty professional.Greetings from Argentina

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Greetings to you Alejandra. Thanks for your kind comment. I'm glad you liked it. Love to Argentina. Donal

[@tanqueray1707]

This is beautiful.... counseling as an art form

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thank you so much for your kind comment Ma Fer. I'm glad you liked the demonstration. Donal 😁

[@lorenanovoaYTT]

Thankyou for sharing, very helpful for me🙏

[@mrs.p6098]

Tomorrow I have to present a demo of counseling in front of my whole colleague and my subject teacher, I found this video really helpful. I will try to use all the skills as shown in the video, and share my experience of being in counselor role, in front of whole mass.

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thank you Laxmi. I really hope your demonstration went well in class. Hope your studies are going well. Donal :)

[@sundayschoolteacher1383]

Excellent!

[@becg4491]

thank you so much!

[@thumaleedesilva3482]

Really helpful to understand stages in the initial interview skills thanks

[@matthewdonkor3349]

am learning theology and this really inspire me

[@jeromecharles7682]

Interesting - very insightful.

[@deeperlife5689]

This is a really good video, very helpful as I am about to start my first session with my first client. Thank you 😊

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks so much for your kind comment. I'm glad it helped. Good luck with your first client. Donal 😬

[@deriosrrrr]

Thank you for this video!! My go to video in level 4!

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

I'm glad you have found it helpful. I hope your video goes well. Donal

[@PaulBaird]

The body language difference is very interesting. The counselor is generally passive giving the client plenty of room to use expressive hand movements.

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks so much for taking the time to comme t Paul. I really do appreciate any feedback. Donal

[@gracetyraa]

Loved it It was actually really helpful

[@BlowMeZesty]

Thank you for this video, I have to perform my first mock counseling session and this really helped.

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Zenaida, I hope it went well. I'm sure it did. Thank you for your kind comment and I wish you well with the studies. Donal :)

[@aditikulkarni2930]

I am a psychology student and this video was really helpful. Thank you :)

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Aditi, I'm so glad you found it helpful. Good luck with your studies and thanks for your comment. Donal

[@mic7095]

this was very helpful mr.trump. thanks!

[@davidransom643]

Found this super helpful for level 3, thanks very much!

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thank you David. I'm glad you found it helpful. That means so much. I wish you the best with your Level 3. Donal

[@ladyhaha5671]

i fkg love this please do more sir ! very helpful

[@kateinawo304]

Thanks very much,this is quite helpful as I will be starting my counseling practicum next week.

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks so much. I hope it all goes well for you. 😀 Donal

[@mathewinnes8794]

very clear, succinct and well spoken, thank you for this wonderful example.

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Mathew, thank you for your kind comment. I'm glad you found it useful. Donal

[@mrsclause8442]

Very helpful

[@fabiocardoso7194]

Very helpful video. Thank you!

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks Fabio. I'm so glad you found it helpful ☺️ Donal

[@QUEENESTHERGLAM]

Very good!

[@estherkamau2803]

Really helpful especially am a counseling student

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Esther, I am so glad it helped. Enjoy your studies. Donal

[@user-eo8cw1sq2f]

I love this i always watch it before counselling

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thank you. I'm glad you like it. Donal

[@omarthearab81]

Excellent example of setting the agreement with the client.

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thank you so much. I'm glad you liked it. Donal

[@fatimaouaiaou2257]

I going to start introduction counseling course, but my English it just pre-intermediate, it is problem?

[@lauraironstalksms]

I am just coming to the end of my level 2 counselling course and this has been the best video to help me understand the contracting and ending process. Thank you. Role Play exam today but this has given me confidence!

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

I'm glad it has helped Laura and good luck with the exam. Donal

[@lauraironstalksms]

@@counsellingselfdevelopment8363 Thank you

[@annemamkwe6881]

Something to learn...🤗🤗

[@acejohnpaulapolinario9492]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:07 *👋 Introduction and Contracting* - Initial meeting between Jenny and Donald for counseling about a breakup. - Donald explains the structure of the counseling session and ethical guidelines. 01:01 *🔒 Ethical Framework and Confidentiality* - Donald assures Jenny about the confidentiality of the sessions. - Exceptions to confidentiality discussed: harm risk and legal duty regarding children. - Mention of counselor supervision and its confidentiality under the ethical framework. 04:00 *💔 Jenny's Relationship Struggles* - Jenny shares her struggles in a 25-year marriage. - Feeling disconnected from her son and contemplating leaving. - Conflicted emotions about the decision to stay or leave. 06:24 *🤔 Exploring Counseling's Potential* - Jenny discusses the potential benefits of counseling. - Expresses a desire for a space to explore her decisions and feelings. - Acknowledges the difficulty of expressing her desire for separation. 09:46 *🤯 Overwhelmed by Big Questions* - Donald highlights the significant questions Jenny is grappling with. - Jenny's internal conflict about societal expectations and her personal needs. - Fear and uncertainty about what life might be like after making a decision. 10:20 *⏰ Conclusion of First Session* - Summary of the topics covered in the session. - Donald suggests the possibility of taking up the offered 12 counseling sessions. - Jenny expresses a willingness to proceed with the sessions. 11:39 *🔄 Reflecting on Session Progress* - Donald proposes pausing midway through the sessions for reflection. - Offers flexibility for Jenny to move at her own pace. - Jenny appreciates the idea of having time to explore and reflect. 13:30 *🗓️ Scheduling Future Sessions* - Discussion about scheduling future sessions on Thursdays at 2:00. - Jenny feels lighter and sees the counseling as a new opportunity. - Expresses relief in finding a space to discuss her concerns. Made with HARPA AI

[@Noramemorycard]

discussed the confidentiality leting the client know that their interest is informed her about the ethical guidelines informed consent the social worker talked about his agency and the session time half an hour he didnt intorducce himself at the begging but did after proper distance assuring confdientiality and mentioned exepctions to break it talked about supervision and clearly explained the procces of not identifying the client identity the sw asking her how she feels and parphrasing and showing understanding by nodding it sounds like summarizing 1. Write two closed ended and two open ended questions asked by counsellor 2. How did the counsellor show intentionality to the client? 3. What was the opening statement of the counsellor? 4. What was the issue faced by the client? breaking up with her partner that lasted 25 years and stopped communication with each other the client dont have plans for her personal llife and feels stuck 5. How did the counsellor end this interview? summerzing what they had talked about mentioned reflecting method arranging and discussied what she can expect from next sessions

[@m.isarah]

Thank you for this video! I have a roleplay very soon for my counseling subject, and this has been super helpful

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks Alia. Glad it was helpful and I wish you well with the studies. Donal

[@samiralqatarani8622]

I am a holder of B.A. degree in Educational Counseling. Now, I am studying Community Services - social worker" How can I get the transept of this session

[@angiegolding6060]

Very well enacted.

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks so much for your kind comment. I'm glad it helped. Donal

[@monsterjazzlicks]

"25 years is a very long time"!!! LMFAO.

[@skylark386]

Good video, thanks!

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks for your kind words. I'm glad you liked it. Donal

[@kevinfry574]

❤️

[@chrisgeorgallis7746]

Great info

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thank you so much Chris. Glad it was useful. Donal

[@TheCherry145]

Can those who might have learning disabilities be accepted into a counselling course?

[@oagomotsarammei5808]

thanks to the video it really help me

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks for the kind comment. I am so glad it helped. Donal

[@athienokeren4078]

This is really good, am a second year student at Makerere university doing counselling psychology Uganda and on Monday 8th may 2023 am having the same practice with my client am really nervous

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks Athieno. Just try to relax. I hope it goes well on Monday and that you enjoy it. Donal

[@guloguloguy]

What is the difference between "counselling", and "therapy", and "psychotherapy",.... and is this "confidentiality" create any "risk" to the "client's" "civil rights", or any "legal status"?... What does "counselling" typically "cost"?... What are the "goals" of "counselling"?... What does "counselling" actually achieve?... How "practical", or "effective" is "counselling" in achieving it's "goals ("success rate"?).... What various alternatives are there in learning about, and implementing the "necessary goals" or "counselling"... = Can these sought "goals" be achieved thru "self-study" (reading text books about the process of "counselling"?.... What are some excellent reference books, that can be recommended, on the subject of "counselling"?.. (="self-help books")?!... How does a client determine if they are really getting their intended "value" out of the counselling sessions/dialogues?.... What is a typical "dollar/cost benefit" to counselling?!... Does a typical client get some sort of "evaluation"/grade/certificate/diploma, or other "credentialed status" for completing certain types of counselling? What kinds of "counselling" sub-categories" are there?.... [ As a comparison; (analogue):.... if someone (curious "client"), were to go to a creditable "resource center" (....= a reputable "counselling" center), and was intent on learning about "history", (actually "counselling"), .... Where would be the best place to begin digging into this nebulous subject?.... Is this like going tru some sort of "driver's training",.... or getting accredited i some particular "specialty" .... ?.... Like becoming an "insurance agent"?....

[@msadm1225]

Clients don't get a certificate for "completing" therapy- when they have successfully worked through the issue that brought them to therapy or no more progress is being made (among other reasons), the working relationship can be ended. (Either party can end the working relationship at any time unless the client is receiving services nonvoluntarily.) There are a multitude of ways to become a therapist, but all of them require a graduate degree and state licensure to practice as a therapist. You cannot practice legally without them. You also cannot ask a therapist to "teach you how to do therapy" because 1) it's extremely difficult- borderline impossible- to give yourself therapy (if people could do it themselves, they wouldn't pay to go to a professional...) and 2) a therapist's job is counseling, not teaching. Some self-help books may be helpful, but many of them are not. However, there are a multitude of resources online that could be useful for self-help purposes; one that I like is psychologytoday.com. Articles are written by professionals and based on the most up-to-date knowledge in the field and they also have a resource to find psychiatrists and therapists near you. The rest of your questions can be answered by Google; I tried my best to answer what I could, but I'm still not sure whether you want to start therapy or start the process to become a therapist.

[@kelebogilebaji7953]

Good hey😉

[@auradjmixes4748]

Really good video

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks Aura. I hope it was helpful. Donal

[@nombi1892]

Please do a session 2 ????

[@codieemmafry1588]

I'm currently doing my level 4 in counselling, and you know I have to include drug trafficking, human trafficking and acts of terrism in the confidentiality agreement.

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Wow! Interesting.

[@lamplvr]

BRAVO

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thank you for your kind comment. Donal

[@starsmith6640]

My life

[@grantknott]

Really appreciate your video. It gives me a good platform for my role plays as a student. My hardest part by far is not laughing 😂. Do you have any tips for that?

[@joygirl1994]

Grant Knott think about-a sad incident in your life. Maybe passing away of a loved one in the family year’s ago. It works for me.

[@dontv1926]

LINES, LYNDON D. SMW 221-social work counseling

[@priscaleonce7336]

What's the type of counselling method used?

[@toddbarker7804]

Person centred

[@sylviaokpara6328]

Hi what is this type of counselling session called?

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Hi Sylvia, I am a psychodynamic therapist but this segment could actually come from any theoretical orientation , apart perhaps from my directive reference to patterns established in childhood. I hope that helps. Donal :)

[@sabrthecat]

I was told that confidentiality should be mentioned first

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Thanks ab. Yes, confidentiality needs to come as early as possible but after engaging a little with the client. Otherwise it could seem strange or artificial. Donal

[@aalphasplatt1153]

This is good BUT that intro seemed too long, detailed and unnecessary (supervision, ethics). The "um, um, um" is real but distracting. It's not her problem though - it's MY issue. I like to listen to people who articulate themselves fluidly..... Meaning, very few erm & ums. I need to reflect on the reason(s) why that's important to me.. There are very good pauses! He allows her to speak, think and reflect before he speaks or asks another question.

[@joanneshieldsblack6846]

i prefer to hear it from the counsellor as it helps build trust and the dynamic of the relationship whilst the counsellor can read the body language and listen to any concerns that a help seeker may have about any of those guidelines. I.e someone may be more apprehensive about talking about problems they have with their children due to fear of thinking that the counsellor may notify social services for any real or imagined neglect from their part

[@yohanangilinde3880]

Exactly

[@andreacabreraluna6365]

why is it that most counsellors are men in the videos? a

[@counsellingselfdevelopment8363]

Hi Andrea, I'm not sure why most are men in the videos. In ours it is perhaps because I do most of them. However, I'm working on getting some of my female colleagues and maybe diploma level students involved. I can only say that in our videos it is not by design. Not sure about other channels. I hope that helps and I wish you well. Donal

[@MrLisbonlions1967]

That earring . I can't focus on anything else

[@leewilliamson2412]

Celt Mc Celt That was wrong!! Now I can’t stop looking at the earring

[@MrLisbonlions1967]

Lee Williamson 😜

[@christopherjohnson-cu9nr]

What a complete and utter waste of time and money.

[@highandmightyqueen79]

😂😂😂

[@proteapsychotherapytv8420]

Jenny sounds like the counsellor with all her hmm's and non verbal encouragers lol lol

[@AyushiSidi1]

Well it's not for people who want some privacy . Good counselors never judge or share client personal problems unlike our friends who judge and tell stuff to others.