Conversation Skills: How to Stay Present in Conversation

[@hueymalia8333]

I can't believe my mind drifted while watching a video on how to stay in the present !

[@tootiegreen4095]

I'm dying 🤣🤣🤣

[@HOPECAPAWAN]

I think him in the park is on purpose

[@HOPECAPAWAN]

You cant really focus when your in an open area

[@vin_lulz]

I definitely focus too hard on what I should say and how it should sound to everyone that's hearing it and focus on how it sounded afterward and I definitely come off as awkward to a lot of people, and I never realized until I watched this how pointless it is to stay focused on something I already said and how that's keeping me from staying in the conversation. Thanks your videos really speak to me

[@jgvidotto]

"my Nurse was a sister" haha

[@lolitsnick6610]

XD

[@themacocko6311]

JGuilherme Vidotto It's cool how he didn't even skip a beat though.

[@kashishkohli5464]

"My Father is my brother!" ???

[@hondaaccordnomad7116]

Well, if your nurse was Black, she was a sista.

[@theone9751]

@@kashishkohli5464 sick mind

[@Jon-lp6en]

What I Have Learned From This Video: 1. Eye Contact with Certainty and Conviction - People will sense that spiritually 2. Take The Notes - Constantly ask questions to pick their brain as well as finding about how I can add values to their lives or businesses - It will make the listeners feel more special and they will try to provide more value in return - Make sure to use pen and notes to take note 3. Allow People To Finish Their Own Sentences - Don't fking interrupt while they are talking! 4. Indicates Them You Are Actively Listening By Nodding or Saying 'Uh Hmm' 5. Ask Core Questions - Question That Goes Deep Into A Particular Subject - For example) "How did you get into that?" or "You know, why do you do that?" or "Huh, Why is that important for you?" or "What are your goals and dreams?" or "What is stopping you?" or "What's preventing you from getting what you want?" or "How can I help? How can I serve?" or "Who do I know that could help you?" - I should not be memorizing this; just focus on creating values to listeners - Asking these open-ended question will open them up so they can open the part of themselves where I can help.

[@hosannasjourney5927]

Very helpful 🙏🏾

[@hosannasjourney5927]

Sometimes with eye contact. I loose focus on what the person was saying. Any tips on this?

[@Jon-lp6en]

@@hosannasjourney5927 Hi, in order to keep up the eye contact with the person you are talking to, just don't stress yourself out and you will feel mentally great.😊

[@bobbojibbs]

watched this high...when this nigga started talking about the future and the rippling waves of the space time continuum my head just about popped

[@InfiniteWatersRalphSmart]

An incredible video :)

[@GoldJacketLuke]

Agreed Ralph. I kind of understood "the now is all there is" concept.. but how Shogo explained it in this vid (I was the cameraman so got a real first-hand experience listening haha), my mind was blown and really started to comprehend living in the now and the concept of time :)

[@shogogarcia]

Thanks Ralph, much appreciated. I love your content as well, it's very inspiring and from the heart!!

[@abohatimfordrawing4181]

hi ralph, man I asked you a Question in your chanel, and i really really want you to answer my question, can you do that?

[@degetei5287]

Feels so good to be alive baby!

[@rogerronan2222]

a trick: you can watch movies on InstaFlixxer. I've been using them for watching all kinds of movies these days.

[@powerhuffandpuff6479]

So lately I've been feeling really lost. My words cant seem to catch up with my head. Ive been so caught up in the past and living with so much anxiety about the future. This seems to happen to me a lot after I finally get settled into the present moment. So in other words, after I have a genuine connection with someone, I begin wanting it to remain as it is or control it in some way- in turn sabotaging it. Ironically too because I do enjoy teachings of taoism and eckhart tolloe is one main inspirations- but I couldn't seem to severe that mind pattern way of thinking. You basically just summed it up for me so amazingly. I only ever feel true joy when I am rooted into the present so it only makes sense to look at yourself as person sitting in a pond while the ripples are things that sway you. I really want to thank you for say the words I couldn't find and illustrating it so beautifully.

[@kroguegaming8891]

How’s it going

[@Outdoorcookwarereviews]

Bro i have aspergers abd of all the videos ive watched in the last 3 years since i was diagnosed this is the only one that actually explained why i've always been told to 'get with the conversation' Thankyou so much! This is like a paradign shift in awareness for me

[@scatchef]

There's a lot to love about this idea.

[@preparedsurvivalist2245]

Also, when you flub and say something dumb, the other person might start to tune you out or dwell on the dumb thing you said. But if you immediately refocus on something else (i.e. creating another ripple) then the other person will snap back into the present and forget about the dumb thing you said earlier and focus on what you are saying now.

[@sydniusalminia5364]

wow, the premise of women aside, your concept of the puddle created a entirely new idea of the present and reality in my mind. I spend my life looking for new ways of thinking and you have given me a gem. Thank you sir

[@Kollin011]

I had trouble listening to this video. The palm trees in the background intrigued me and I started wondering if they were coconut since I've never seen them before. Then i wondered if you are in california or in the carribeans. then that led me to wonder are you in a gated community or a golf course....

[@brackishnz]

I was wondering similar, also I was wondering who was holding the camera. a tripod would be better. but interesting video.

[@pendejo6466]

***** ...then I noticed the sunglasses on the grass, and I wondered if they were Dolce and Gabba's or a swap meet knock off, speaking of swap meet, I went to...

[@brackishnz]

can't say I went into that much detail.

[@shogogarcia]

Pendejo ... the flea market last weekend. They had a lot of knockoff sunglasses for sale, but what interested me most were all the stamp collectors selling their goods. I've never been into stamps, but when I was a little kid I collected coins ever since my family vacation to Italy when I was in 5th grade...

[@shogogarcia]

Collect more stamps.

[@mandeepsinghfilms]

You are very articulate. This is something I need to work on. Great video :)

[@drancyneuftrois3120]

Mandeep Singh It was 4 years ago, how are you doing now ? :)

[@prmxcars]

How is it going guys?

[@sonnyringo8522]

25 seconds into the video...i went back to see if that was a person walking a dog in the background. It actually turned out to be an old lady I think carrying bags. I don't know. But anyway, I continued to proceed and I heard "my nurse was a sister." So I stopped again to view the comments to see who else caught it...almost everybody did lol. Anyway, After reading a ton of hilarious comments, I realized I was paying 0 attention to this video and maybe I have a problem with staying in the present as well...or...

[@waazup2]

1:29 "My nurse was a sister in 2008" haha that wasn't intentional was it?

[@shogogarcia]

Nope! But I think it works :)

[@goat504]

Shogo Garcia no matter what you say it always sounds good

[@MIKERUPTION]

Woah! For a split second there, I thought Davey Havok was speaking. I totally got distracted, which is why I need videos like this.

[@WelcomeDanny]

Shogo. You were really inspiring. Where have you been? I still think about this video and you. miss your videos

[@TheMojomo]

But at the same time if we are to improve the quality of the intuitions that come to us of what to say, we require at least a quick analysis of their effectiveness. So at the same time as remaining in the present it is good to still judge our intuition, but the key it seems is not to dwell on it and simply be aware of how well it worked, because this awareness will subsequently encourage or discourage appropriate or inappropriate intuitions in the future.

[@xXvXkoryxXvXx]

Wow!! This is deep! I truly love this.

[@kenseim9314]

I'm too high for this but it was exceptionally pleasant and I watched it all the way through.

[@khyvich]

A way I explain presence and the linear use of time: The bar graph. The X axis is time, the Y axis is presence, focus and energy. If the left of the X axis is the past, the center is the present and the right side is the future, where is your energy? If you are mindfully in the 'past' or 'future' or both, you cannot use your limited energy 'now.' There would be curves all over the graph. The Y - your focus - axis would be ups and downs like most people's focus. Keep yourself in the 'now' and the peak of energy is high, is powerful and it's undiluted. It is potential and powerful Now.

[@realbritney]

Just putting it out there - you may of just sparked a bit of an epiphany

[@bboyfocus12]

+realbritney *mind blown

[@bboyfocus12]

+realbritney *mind blown

[@tjmeagher9604]

Ohh, Great way to dig deep into the nature of change and apply it to daily life.

[@kongthao293]

love ur Vids bro. u got me crackin up when u say. at 1:28 minutes into the vid." My nurse was a Sister in 2008 " tho lol. good stuff!!

[@gh0sthussi3n83]

after 7 years KZbin: i guess that's a good video for you

[@realvidzs]

Great video bro!Thanks for uploading.

[@Ernstly930]

Thank you so much for this amazing video! You are a great teacher!

[@quintentingle5387]

You are so awesome!!

[@mikgol81]

Very good and useful video, thank you brother. If you make a similar video in the future, I would love to hear your advice on speaking in a group situation, knowing when its your turn to speak etc. as I find one-on-one conversations fine, but group conversations my brain cannot deal with

[@mindovermatter5042]

past is just an agreement of the changing nature of things I like that statement

[@catmuffin371]

I like helpful channels like this one

[@rengiku19]

Shogo what happened? Why haven't you posted new videos?

[@Outdoorkings]

That's definitely a different way of thinking. So what about if you're doing something now for your future... like planting a garden, let's say. Is there still no future?

[@evemystique6662]

Cheers for the video, this has helped me a lot !

[@SingingMagnolia]

Profound.

[@nickmanning4prez]

Eckhart Tolle.

[@Elibeli19]

BLESS YOU !!!

[@muhammadahmadrathore3559]

In the middle of conversation I have no idea what is he talking g about. Is it only me?

[@sanjeevmisra4487]

No me too

[@triplang111]

😵

[@lifebydesign9435]

That's the point feel it

[@doibing9856]

Dude get out of my head! Great shit man.=

[@hosannasjourney5927]

Can you actually give examples of being present. You have a good example of the past. “My sister was a nurse “. What would one say to be present?

[@4yz222]

inspired !

[@floresamor4146]

Dude, you're awesome. I just subscribed :-)

[@thebuniverse6739]

Anyone know what happened to this guy? He vanished

[@MusicMindConnection]

I subscribed you Shogo Garcia!

[@mikumisao9112]

AH! Your voice :3 i love it. Its so. . .so crispy xD

[@eduran777ify]

what if your talking about the past ??? like good memories

[@dovemoody6645]

that was his example sister was a nurse in 2008

[@tinlokni2359]

staying present in the conversation on the job how to debug the file etc etc. JRE folder

[@BRTHDAYX]

This guy is amazing

[@Vpopov81]

so funny how new age spirituality is making its way into pickup. SO many PUA talking about meditation and Eckhart Tolle.

[@alphapimp0073]

Who is in the pick up community?

[@Astfresser]

eckhard tolle is the father of pickup. this guy gets so many bitches its mad.

[@themacocko6311]

Victor Popov This is hardly "new age". These ideas have been around for thousands of years.

[@MrDoubleT123]

This was a major insightful mindfuck

[@kymberlydawn1445]

I have a feeling you are an old soul...

[@ridarza]

Please try to slow down when you speak, we tryna feel what you're saying but you keep catching yourself in knots

[@Rabbitthateats]

good points, linear time is cultural though, scientifically all times exist simultaneously, and we just happen to be in this moment perspectively, so yes be in it, you can't do anything wrong

[@bejarny8636]

im in scotland.its so different . its just ripping into each other. for the patter. if i said this shit id get bullied ahaha

[@tootiegreen4095]

Hahaha this is me I'm also an over thinker

[@lilyhou379]

you're telling us about staying in the present yet you are playing with grass and looking around the whole time...

[@evemystique6662]

the grass is in the present :D

[@bboyfocus12]

Lily Hou that grass of the future

[@ralphruiz2120]

I think I actually problem my found lol

[@proflob]

you are hot, Shogo!

[@proflob]

Victor Amson your social skills are low. that's why you are a gamer

[@silentobserver9418]

proflob so being a gamer makes your social skills low?😁 Wow you're really dump and your social skills is worse than him

[@giobbymenta]

you have the same cadence of Obama, the same way of speaking really...

[@rawconsciousmama5261]

God created the earth and the big bang.