Food is more than a 3rd party topic I'd say. If you can cook, this is a good avenue to get her to your place for a future date and set up it up right there and then.
@VEE7277 ай бұрын
Yeah but you don't have to talk about it
@kd645710 ай бұрын
Watching this while on my way to a first date 😂
@woudanborson277810 ай бұрын
me too
@coolusername907710 ай бұрын
How did it go
@GR-uc1gq10 ай бұрын
Update us
@palnagok172010 ай бұрын
Check out Dan Bacon
@cial6710 ай бұрын
Spoiler: The guy she ditched you for was not watching this on the way to her apartment 😅
@markm234810 ай бұрын
1) stay away from topics that indicate you have money like travel or don’t be surprised if you attract gold diggers 2) if your looking for a LTR you are going to want to get to deal breakers right away and politics for many of us will be a deal breaker.
@Markus_Pis9 ай бұрын
But then again gold diggers are perfect for a one night stand. Remeber the song "Money for Nothing and the Cheeks for free"?
@Jeyekomon3 ай бұрын
Have you ever been on a date? That's the literal opposite of what you should do.
@SuperMurray20092 ай бұрын
You should never talk politics on a date
@AcTaRus-fk6nj10 ай бұрын
Hi Todd, Thank you for sharing these valuable advise for interacting with women. You are really inspiring. I watched two of your videos before going out and I had an amazing night interacting with women (no sec though, I'm not there yet). First I interacted with two lesbians and teased her on their homosexuality. I already knew one of them who told me she was married and showed me picture of her husband and family. Then I ft I wasn't going anywhere. I then looked around and looked for the most attractive women in the Pub. There were two blinds. I thought about what you said:"It doesn't matter how it's going to turn out, I'm going to project my high value vibe". I approached them as they were sitting and used my vampire lesbian joke (look up online). It made them laugh and I continue engaging. It turned out that one of them was a customer of mine in my coffee shop. We had a very good laugh about it. I was very connecting with her (maybe too much). They even bought me a drink and asked me where I was going after the Pub. In the end I scared her too much as (I think), I was projecting a too confident and introspecting vibe. Or was an amazing experience as they were really impressed to meet a man who has balls to approached two girls. Your teaching are great and helped me a lot. Now I can see where you can improve. - Your student should first focus on becoming alpha male before learning the techniques. - You should develop a total philosophy that covers everything. I was a little bit Tipsy, that's why I was inspired and could talk to them. You should think and talk about alcohol. I would be very interesting in meeting you in your London Boot camp and see the master at play. Thank you for your inspiration Mate!
@ghostviper957910 ай бұрын
I’m glad to see you Todd and happy for you to have lost all the weight too, but more importantly I like that you knew how to play the KZbin game and figured out to make a subtle comeback. Keep on and keep going
@joeymoffett0010 ай бұрын
Haven't watched pua in for ever, but this was honestly good 👏 Thanks man
@rizzamaeong10 ай бұрын
No wonder my chatting goes nowhere. Thank you for these insights. Value baby! 🥳
@tomasrpdepaiva980610 ай бұрын
"Damn, that's crazy". ;)
@palnagok172010 ай бұрын
...well rizza , a tip for you.. no chatting but FLIRTING...check out Dan Bacon .
@peterwilliams636110 ай бұрын
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
@TrentReeves-c2k10 ай бұрын
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
@peterwilliams636110 ай бұрын
its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
@TrentReeves-c2k10 ай бұрын
this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.
@martsmart32919 ай бұрын
@@peterwilliams6361look at you guys helping each other. That’s brotherhood, supporting your fellow brothers in need. Keep up the good works guys🙌
@martsmart32919 ай бұрын
@@TrentReeves-c2kbest of luck brother🤞
@Stellieyo11 ай бұрын
What to say to lead to sex: Ask questions to get to know her better and LET HER TALK THE MOST AND LISTEN TO ASK FOLLOW UP QUESTIONS. Validate her, tease her, and don’t hesitate. Men tend to talk themselves right out of sex.
@mister-zen84914 ай бұрын
Only 3% of men know this!
@dimitrioskatsikostas980411 ай бұрын
The father of modern PUA community.He has the balls to carry the whole community in his shoulders 👏🏼
@CorbinB-Rax5 ай бұрын
No he is not. Erik Markovik is the father of PUA.
@shastregorshonirel25985 ай бұрын
No you are both wrong. 😂 It is Ross Jeffries who is the father of PUA.
@Dtibs829 ай бұрын
Todd, I think you need to change it from pua to pick up engineer cause damn bro you be gettin into the weeds and highest levels of details on every piece lol great job
@I.Z.Phooto10 ай бұрын
It's so wild. We're taught "everybody's equal" and "you just gotta find the right person". All you spicy senaritaz out there have no idea the grind it took your man to be "the right person" and meanwhile you're just hot and alright to be around
@iceshades9 ай бұрын
lol. A man who's been through the grind will not go for the 'just hot and alright' girls. He will need something else. Also, why would you believe there aren't women who go through the grind? there's plenty of them actually, and proof abounds that women are having better game at growing and evolving, since they seek advice, seek support, discuss a lot, take breaks from dating and understand emotions better.
@tnix809 ай бұрын
@@iceshadesyou had to go and ruin a funny post
@CommanderTexas9 ай бұрын
@@iceshadesMen don’t want women who been through the grind. They don’t want a friend they want a traditional woman
@TheMrDarius9 ай бұрын
@@CommanderTexasthat part. Nobody except simps want ran through women.
@prosperenfantinylosgeograf27218 ай бұрын
your standards are so low 😂 gl actually enjoying your a relationship
@playhard87811 ай бұрын
4:14 your editor skills did come a long way 😄 nice to see
@ZombieRommel10 ай бұрын
It looks like Todd probably hired a new editor. I agree, that person is doing a good job.
@playhard87810 ай бұрын
@@ZombieRommel don't crush my illusion man. He did it by himself! That's why he is so high value to me!!!11!
@Elijah-l5u9 ай бұрын
I like the Care you put on shooting these videos...i actually don't even need them (thx to u btw) i just like beautiful work
@stankulp100811 ай бұрын
back when people didn't kiss on the first date, there wasn't as much hatred in break ups. Just something to consider if you want to be truly joyous and patient about finding the right person
@Swiminator_0810 ай бұрын
This is so technical. Just talk less, eye contact, allow awkwardness, allow tension. Talk about things shes wearing, then touch them as you talk about them. Gradually escalate, move her to more quiet places, kiss close, lets chill at mine i have pineapple in the fridge, done.
@moodfordayscast816210 ай бұрын
Agreed lol my talk works. Be out going and talk random shit. That’s it. Omg. And look presentable. My game works. This is for dudes who never even had a relationship
@bulukcarvery782211 ай бұрын
The OG Todd always blessing us with his wisdom. Side note: Todd you’re looking fit and lean, keep it up 🤙
@douglasmorgan81928 ай бұрын
Todd - You rock. Very articulate, great advice, entertaining presentation. A very real public service. Appreciate it...:)
@noamzilo673010 ай бұрын
This one is really good. Useful
@davec35688 ай бұрын
Great vid! You left out creative visualization games and personality tests where you interpret their answers. The cube game. IME there is absolutely nothing better for a 1st date. Women LOVE it. I added "body of water" to it, which represents your attitude towards your sexuality, this is a huge improvement if I do say so myself. You want to make some small talk first... interests, hobbies, travel, etc. briefly, using mirroring behavior and with an eye toward if she's genuinely interested. Once a basic rapport is established ask her to play the game with you, I've never had any resistance to this. Practice your game or test with friends as much as possible, the high point of this game is showing that it actually works and reveals your beliefs and personality for both of you. It creates a connection with another person very quickly and provides hours worth of quality material to talk about. Mystery was a fan of palm reading, that seems pretty hokey but I can see it working for some folks. I think it can be a turn off for those who don't believe in such things and it doesn't come off all that masculine. OTOH you don't want to whip out the full Meyers Briggs either.
@RafaelGringo11 ай бұрын
Although I agree with most of the ranking, I believe the topics are also subjective to each individual situation, particularly based on how you two met and how much you have talked before. Sometimes I can just skip to sexual topics or sexual teasing in the first half hour without looking like I have an agenda or being too foward. Or sometimes when the girl is moving back to her hometown in a few days or the next day, you almost always have a shortcut to sex. And most importantly, this is not that common, but depending on the girl's level of insecurity, the "boring topics" will not move toward sex but can make her more comfortable with you. You can still make playful teasing while doing so. Just be aware to not stay in these topics for too long.
@codederick692010 ай бұрын
Love that the Toddfather is ranking all these convo topics!
@charlesrandolph65897 ай бұрын
Thank you for this list! I have a 2nd date this weekend for a picnic and I want it to go well. I had her laughing a lot on the first date.
@DanielKeller-w8f10 ай бұрын
I wonder what Chat GPT would come up if I trained it on all your previous content and field videos :D
@WhatsY0UTUB38 ай бұрын
ToddGPT automatic texting bot
@CatsClaws.11 ай бұрын
Very useful and informative this video. I'm not a fan of the Gen Z/TikTok editing, though.
@swaggybaconcheese156611 ай бұрын
Thank god this man didnt leave the industry 6 years ago. I would've gone crazy
@free369011 ай бұрын
Very informative, thank you
@chiefdryno8 ай бұрын
Bro you gave so much gems in this video for free! God bless you! Subbed 🍻
@damirowsky2410 ай бұрын
I talked to this girl in the gym a couple of times, and the last time I mentioned this tv show, Supernatural and as soon as I mentioned I saw that she was more interested in me. I came home and then I saw that she followed me on IG. She even asked me out. We dated for a while. But that's just 1 example... and he is right, talking too much about tv shows, movies, hobbies will get nowhere 98% of the time. Todd is probably the coach that makes the most sense on yt. Great content!
@BWater-yq3jx10 ай бұрын
Carry on my wayward son. 🤠👍
@fuzzypanda168410 ай бұрын
Wait, what? You said that you talked to her about a TV show, which made her MORE interested in you, which lead to her following you on IG, asking you out, and dating you. Then you say that talking too much about things like TV shows, the thing that led to her pursuing you, will get you nowhere? Um, I think the algorithm of this bot has malfunctioned.
@damirowsky2410 ай бұрын
@@fuzzypanda1684 I was trying to say that it happens, rarely, but it happens. And if you are gonna talk about a tv show talk concisely and in a fun way.
@douginny6 ай бұрын
Todd was a tremendous help to me in 2023. He got me through a year of online dating to where I finally met a decent attractive person.
@chrislevy783911 ай бұрын
Does Todd have a non-black tshirt?
@benjaminjones40085 ай бұрын
I’d say I’m decent with women. But this is my first time listening to this guy and it makes a lot of sense in ways I haven’t considered.
@Lord-Innocence10 ай бұрын
Dating is so... complicated.
@PhysIXjuk310 ай бұрын
It is not complicated, it is nuanced. The more you know about people and what we do/what we want, you can learn to form conversations that lead to building lasting relationships.
@fritzbauer50437 ай бұрын
@@PhysIXjuk3it’s very complicated. If you are not just looking for someone. And if you are dating many girls for sex or just practice every girl at some point starts to become just someone.
@newhusk5 ай бұрын
I'm 28 and dating is hardcore to understand, im introvert so i will stay and suffer till death 😂
@evan126975 ай бұрын
it sucks
@evan126974 ай бұрын
@@christianmarriott3696 hi, I'm so many people lol. No I totally do that and I'm only just now at 27 finding out how fucked up and dumb it is
@futureceltic00Ай бұрын
Current events in my opinion is really good approach especially if you can test the waters between countering their political or religious stance and then do some playful teasing around it.
@OHHnoYOUdidntMAN11 ай бұрын
Thank you for the new concepts and categories. I'll have to go out today and use these
@tiki4rafiki39011 ай бұрын
thanks Todd this was really good
@jonathanzuniga36817 ай бұрын
This is actually very solid guidance
@theloniousparekh10111 ай бұрын
Bro among us and gta sound effects 😂
@tbryant0248 ай бұрын
In all honesty, it doesn't matter what topics you talk about as long as you can make a woman laugh, as long as you don't play things too safe. However, I agree with all of aspects of each topic Todd analyzed. You can still talk about those topics as long as they can turn into laughter, but don't linger on them for too much. I honestly am insanely passionate about music, so I think I can expand that a little more as I know I can pour emotions through this subject. But good to know that I shouldn't linger this topic for too long either.
@nextland561410 ай бұрын
I have all of your courses including the old ones that you canceled for sale. Can you please tell me which course should I start with as I am a beginner?
@h4gg49711 ай бұрын
Hey man got heaps of value from this video. This is an area I've always struggled at.
@Minmalist8 ай бұрын
So what do i have to talk about, can you make a video on what to talk
@Rapbando11 ай бұрын
Poor mind talk about people, average minds talk about places, great minds talk about ideas
@aspektn.50662 ай бұрын
8:45 Food and drink. "My favorite food is Pasta Bolognese". Briefly touching upon food is nice for getting ideas for a later date. IMO first dates ought to be a glass/cup of something, and later dates could be meeting at either of yours places for food and drinks.
@nextland561410 ай бұрын
I have all of your courses including the old ones you canceled for sale. Can you please tell me in what order I should start the courses? I'm still a beginner. (I am now starting at valentine university 2.0)
@robertwells786110 ай бұрын
Speak what to do first, what not to do last.
@ga80659 ай бұрын
Music AKA Dance is emotional. You do know what they say about good dancers.
@DonVal8611 ай бұрын
Subscribed immediately after he said avoid current events. 😂
@nathan_something11 ай бұрын
She wouldn't shake his hand at first, but twenty minutes later, she was kissing him. In-fucking-credible. I'm going to go out on a limb and come to the conclusion that this man was undoubtedly fairly attractive to her as well, therefore rendering this information useless to me, awesome.
@fritzco5510 ай бұрын
If you can be playful and joke around, and have fun, any topic can build tension. Her: Do you like parties? Meh: “hell no. I hate them… Oh hey, want to come to this party at my house next Friday?” Her: What do you think about PDA? Meh: “hate it. Don’t touch meh.” 2 mins later… I touch her hand… “oops! What are you doing?!” 😉
@focusedallday562010 ай бұрын
Just a reminder that if she likes you, it doesn’t matter what the topic of discussion is. I use it as a test to gauge how much interest she has in me. Stay Focused!
@sebo6418 ай бұрын
What if your goal is to see if you can friends before having a romantic relationship?
@acquiesce10011 ай бұрын
Todd can you give more examples of the Drinking games "Questions" on you ask me and I'll ask you and Never ever have I. Can you give us specific questions. What's all that about with tattoos?
@VEE7277 ай бұрын
Can you give some examples of future adventure projections? Maybe make a video on it?
@walkerskii11 ай бұрын
I'm age 60, is your advice the same or does it change with age? Seems the 'bad boy' is attractive to younger women, while a 'nice guy' is sexy to older women, no? BTW, I'm 6'1" blue eyes & outgoing, but I'm 50 lbs overweight, so yes, diet is my #1 focus, thx!
@keithgraham954711 ай бұрын
Dude. Really? To women, "nice guy" = weak = doormat. Most women assume this automatically about all men who just are reasonably polite and civil. You're post basically says you're a sitting duck for women looking for a bailout. They will see you as an ATM. Or the "dinner guy" or "taxi guy" or "fix my plumbing guy" or "way h my kid(s) while I go fuck Tyrone guy." You need to watch a lot of R P and dating videos first, so women don't use you for a doormat. No, women don't sleep with "nice guys" unless they think it's time to settle and think you are ready pickings. Good luck.
@JerryLouisPutItInYaMouth11 ай бұрын
Trust me your blue eyes don't mean shit 😂 I laugh when white guys say this type of shit 😂😂 they lack deeper identity so they truly believe delusions like this
@GCOUNDOU11 ай бұрын
do low carb/atkins and you'll lose the weight in 3-4 weeks. and yes the same advice holds 100%% I am 58
@nncoco11 ай бұрын
Similar age here. Women still want fun. Bad boy is OK but it can't be your whole identity. #1 value add for these older women is alluding to some kind of rental income in a non-duschy way. ""Ooops there is paint on my hand," (from fixing something for a tenant today.) Financial security makes them feel safer with you but if you have nothing they may also just smash and dash. Women!
@keithgraham954711 ай бұрын
Testing to see if Communist You Tube deletes this comment, too.
@jamesmullen30685 ай бұрын
When talking about past relationships goes badly and kills the initial vibe, that can be a good thing because it indicates deep incompatibility
@MaccusFNS11 ай бұрын
Todd, I don't understand what's the point of picking the topic that leads to sex... I could talk about whatever. All that matters is if the girl is attracted to me and if she goes with me to another location. There's no point in brining up sex because it's going to happen anyway.
@DJ-Krimson-Steele11 ай бұрын
Yeah, that's an extremely stupid thought process. Talking about sex could be your only saving grace in seeing if you're getting laid or not.
@-whackd11 ай бұрын
@@DJ-Krimson-Steele only if you're autistic and don't know how to ooze sexual energy without talking about it.
@dreamawake267011 ай бұрын
Why would she be attracted to you?
@lint839111 ай бұрын
She's going to be more attracted to you if the "chemistry" is there. She's more likely to feel that the chemistry is there if you've had a light, fun, teasing conversation with emotional spikes and some sexual content than if you've had a logical, job interview type conversation with her. The decision to sleep with a man is a mainly emotional one. This video from Todd was all about the sort of conversational topics that are more likely to get the right sort of emotional feelings for her.
@josesantana77011 ай бұрын
I agree with you 100%. Your vibe, tonality, flow with words, frame in general is what will attract her. As you mention once the attraction is there see will eventually happen. The fact that you bring the sea topic doesn't translate into escalation. You can be flirtatious and inspire the topic as she might understands it.
@xristoskostoulas984111 ай бұрын
The effects on top of your voice Todd, are fuckn rejuvinating😂😂
@Selfprogressionasaman8 ай бұрын
My father said if you ever go to a movie theater or Netflix and chill watch a horror movie. She will hold you tighter and lead to her subconsciously seeing you as a protector.
@leon-gl6bv2 ай бұрын
Ye it works but you don't talk that much is good for physical escalation
@Uzodesign11 ай бұрын
Dating is a stressful chore. Pretty much a lot of faking and manipulation to get sex or food or ego boost.
@panwu66025 ай бұрын
Yeah, I never understood how it's fun for some people.
@emily61954 ай бұрын
Dating is supposed to be a testing phase to see if you want to marry. If you find it a chore the person probably isn’t right for you
@Abcdefghijklmmm3 ай бұрын
Mastering soft skills will take you further in life than anything else-because knowing how to connect can open doors that hard skills alone can’t.
@Uzodesign3 ай бұрын
@Abcdefghijklmmm I'm glad it's that straight forward for you, I guess that's why all those people who connected are getting divorced left and right and in some cases killing each other. 😂 yeah, soft skills.
@Uzodesign3 ай бұрын
@Abcdefghijklmmm But humor me and expand on these soft skills. I'm being serious. Pray do tell.
@davidwinet56078 ай бұрын
Excellent. One thing: it's "intimacy."
@rodneypate169311 ай бұрын
Thank you. Very helpful ❤
@boondoggle482010 ай бұрын
The norms, customs, laws and beliefs in this country cripple men from the most effective topic of conversation to lead to sex and that is sex, because we’re told that it’s inappropriate, harassment, a form of disrespect, etc., because that’s what Americans believe even though it’s irrational and makes no sense. So, it’s no wonder that guys end up in these generic conversations that lead them to the friend zone because those guys are trying to follow the rules that America laid out.
@mattmalone965911 ай бұрын
Could’ve used this 2months ago before getting friend zoned on a date😂
@davecullins160611 ай бұрын
You now know for the next one ✊
@BWater-yq3jx11 ай бұрын
Probably not gonna nail it on first go anyway.
@AudiFanPK11 ай бұрын
Not to be a jerk, but if you care about one outcome of one date months later: That's problematic. Date more. If you combine aloofness with evaluation/ improvement you'll find success.
@sweetsimpleslowlife270911 ай бұрын
It’s not too late to use this information for your next date 😉
@user-xz1wy4to4o8 ай бұрын
@@AudiFanPK well said 💎
@sleap39402 ай бұрын
your editing is so funny
@DragonWarrior345737 ай бұрын
Well, you said we should avoid the "boundaries" discussion for a while, what if she later tells you that she's totally against premarital intercourse!!
@andresmithjr97638 ай бұрын
Thanks for the info!
@charthers890311 ай бұрын
Most women keep circling back the conversation to career and work - how do you get out of that topic?
@RealJandi11 ай бұрын
@@anthonym.3781 this is such a low iq generalization bro
@nobodyasks-js5tq11 ай бұрын
leave her
@keithgraham954711 ай бұрын
If the girl keeps coming back to career and work, it's probably because of one of these: She is trying to get a guage on your ambition and income or potential income. (A girl may just want to know you have at least some ambition to make a living. If she's a golddigger, it will show up quick. Dump her.) She may be proud of her job and income and wants you to ask. If she's a boss bitch, big red flag. Most people, and especially women (like 90% of everybody), can't carry their end of the conversation. This may be her floundering and trying to hold up her end of the conversation, but not knowing what else to say. In all cases, it means you probably have not sexually escalated, which you should do within ten minutes maximum. Better if you have a classy way to escalate the first 0 to 30 seconds, then back off, then escalate more later. You want to make it clear you're there because you're considering taking her to bed, not be her gay bff. Women usually decide the first 30 seconds if she will sleep with you, sometimes before you say hello.
@keithgraham954711 ай бұрын
So a girl circles back to "What do you do?" My suggestion is be somewhat vague and turn it into an escalation or playful, to outlandish. "I'm a student. I'm actually studying all about life.". Drop your voice, slow down, move closer do you're only talking right to her, almost in her ear. "But I know nothing of beautiful women. Would you teach me?" Or you say, "This and that. Some day I may have to get a real job. But it lets me slip out at lunch sometimes." Lean in and wiggle your eyebrows, drop your voice. "Do you go back to the office more relaxed after a nooner?" Or you can say,"Are you a bad girl who slips out to go with me to the track Wednesday afternoon,?" If she chastises you about a nooner, say, "What?! Oh! You're a dirty girl, you're thinking about S E X. I was thinking about the buffet at the Such and Such Resort Hotel on Fridays .they have bourbon bread pudding and I can get a 1:30 tee time. Do you play? Are you going to be a dirty girl on the course and seduce me on the 16th hole to keep from losing?" Or, "Okay, I'll tell you the truth, but you can't tell anyone. I'm an alien. But the good kind. I'm actually a grad student here working on my thesis, "Earth Girls Are The Hottest." Would you like to help with my research?" Then you can get more outlandish as you go. "Lots of people think the girls on Zulwisky are, but that's just because they have three tits. One on the back for dancing. I prefer slender girls with perky breasts. My premise is perfect, perky ones have a direct connection from their nipples to their doo-dah." Do you think you can manage from there?
@exxie111 ай бұрын
It just means you don't know how to take the lead in conversations. If they keep bringing it up, you can stay in topic but tell a personal story within your work or career that's humorous. Then you can tangent to that to whatever topic you can to escalate whatever the vibe is until it gets to you and her being intimate.
@aromero92438 ай бұрын
Todd on every topic "This may or may not work". Her at the start of the interaction "This may or not work"
@luisislas216210 ай бұрын
Thank you, Todd!
@rajatyadav264811 ай бұрын
Hey I tried to buy verbal game academy but my transaction was declined. So could please give me a link to a secure site
@aspektn.50662 ай бұрын
22:02 Answer you'd want to give is you gotta have a spark, gotta have chemistry. And this ain't a topic that often comes up, so don't know why you had it in the list.
@blakeloyd110 ай бұрын
Like a funny TV show if it applies to something happening right there in the moment.That's a good topic
@Sadowsky4610 ай бұрын
These days, where people need help about how to talk to each other
@emily61954 ай бұрын
As an autistic woman some of my favourite topics are religion and politics. I also like travel. Also talk about dealbreakers first thing otherwise it’s a waste of time if you find out after several dates that she matches one of your dealbreakers
@nncoco11 ай бұрын
Games are fun if they make you feel alone together in a crowd.
@bowlingdj30010 ай бұрын
To much to think about here and complicated, just have fun and if you gel things should arrive in a happy place, if not next, also don't think you cant friend zone her.
@cymbergan3 ай бұрын
What if you play an instrument for a hobby? Should you still avoid talking about music? I also write my own lyrics.
@GCOUNDOU11 ай бұрын
amazingly good advice. thank you Todd, will put to use
@OzzieBird8 ай бұрын
Find someone with whom your sense of humor clicks. If you cant laugh at life and its ups and downs then..., well, good luck. If you can each share a laugh and your senses of humor to some degree and you each kind of understand each other you are a good match that can support each other 💘 You dont have to be stand up comics or have each other rolling on the floor. Nobody wants to hang out or go home with a negative Nancy/Nick.
@Jesse-qk1uy10 ай бұрын
The following MenTaL Box perspective that looks deeper into male character development: Dignified Man vs Undignified Man/Red Pill Mindset: A Dignified man will make his money honestly not hurting anyone in the process, and will not bait outwardly beautiful women into his orbit that will not love and respect him for his character. He falls from time to time, but always has a conscience if any of his actions hurt others in the process. An Undignified man will make his fortune and power play even if it is unethical and hurts others in the process. He will also keep outwardly beautiful women in his life as trophies, not seeing their inner beauty. He will not see the depth of character in himself or anyone else, and have a lack of conscience in how his actions affect others.
@LehiRulon11 ай бұрын
Great video 👍
@Eterackbroad4 ай бұрын
Love this guy 😂
@nielsvandermeiden7 ай бұрын
I'm usually a bit cynical about this sort of dating advice video, but this one is actually good and to the point. Like it! (I had 20 dates the last 6 months, and always looking to improve my game)
@rustykoenig356611 ай бұрын
Food and Drink? For me it is definitely NOT a 3rd party topic.. It is a ME topic lol. First Date.. I cook dinner. Usually Pizza because you really can't go wrong WITH pizza and just about EVERYONE loves pizza. Cooking pizza for dinner does not include going to frozen section and "picking one out" and throwing it in the oven to warm it up.... HELL NO! Fresh vegies and meat, slap out the dough... NOTHING frozen. A pizza that you could go to a restaurant and get... only without the restaurant :) I don't do the whole cook dinner "together" thing either... when she gets there or I go get her, it is already done and ready to go... or it's in the oven and be ready in 15 minutes or so. Food... is ONE thing that EVERY FUCKING BODY has in common.... no matter WHAT. YOU will have FOOD in common with ANY date you have had, are having, and will have. No matter WHO they are, what CLASS they are... You and her WILL have FOOD in common.... because EVERYONE eats and everyone has an EMOTIONAL reaction to FOOD, usually your favorites. A little secret.. people eat with their EYES first, way before it even gets close to their nose or mouth, their eyes are already "eating" it. Because good food is an EMOTIONAL experience if done right. And if you do it right.... the ME topic becomes a WE topic because if you do it right... she will be talking about that PIZZA long after the date ends. If you can create and serve food that is on par or stomps "restaurant" food... then don't go OUT to eat... bring her IN to eat at YOUR restaurant :) And cooking is absolutely NOT "rocket science" and for the most part/most of the time... you do not even COOK the food... because usually the food cooks ITSELF with no help from YOU. You just throw it together and let it COOK. A steak... cooks itself, you just flip it... A pizza cooks ITSELF, you just throw a bunch of crap on top of a disc of dough and throw it in oven and it does its thing.... Amazing how many people cannot even cook boiled water.... If you know how to make Strawberry Shortcake... the usual sliced strawberry sitting in a sugar water solution until it thickens up... had a chef ask me if I know how to make it... I'm like ya... he told me to go make some but use orange juice instead... WTF your NUTZ! Make some but use OJ instead... that was the only thing he told me so I made it and instead of sugar water solution, I did sugar/OJ solution with strawberry slices in it.... and .... OMFG!!!! Just get some OJ and pour into a bowl and add sliced strawberry and add sugar to your preferred sweetness and let it sit or help it along by forceably "stirring" it with a fork to help infuse the strawberry into the "solution" faster.... and pour over the cake... you will never go back to traditional strawberry shortcake EVER again :) If you can serve food to equal or rival a resturant, absolutely SKIP the restaurant and bring her IN for dinner... and Food/Drink is not a distant 3rd party topic or "maybe" some "value" for later, it can absolutely become CENTRAL to the whole thing and... from a simple pizza you can explore what else she likes and figure out what to serve next time :) If you want something more "social" or "public".... you can do that AFTER your "private" dinner :)
@sweetsimpleslowlife270911 ай бұрын
I’m on my way to your place to eat pizza and strawberry shortcake…😂…two of my favorite things…always! 😍🙌
@rustykoenig356611 ай бұрын
@sweetsimpleslowlife2709 CANT go wrong with PIZZA! :) One perk of cooking in restaurants. You kind of learn how to cook.... if you aren't in the SAME one the whole time ;). Diners, steak houses, Italian, Chinese (scratch Chinese), pizza places. One of the diners made pretty much everything from scratch... meatloaf, soups, their own breading mixes, pies and peeled/boiled/milk/butter/salt&pepper mashed potatoes :). And with all the stuff to make their stuff... almost can make anything with what they had. We even got #1 diner in Arkansas from MSN food&drink with no advertising, only word of mouth. I never had title of "chef" but I have worked with a few :)
@Ohmriginal7226 ай бұрын
"Stories of what happened at after parties", I've never been to an afterparty, I kind of hate parties because I enjoy my alone time and don't drink.
@brendanobern553510 ай бұрын
Helpful.
@rajnishsharma208410 ай бұрын
Brilliant ❤
@laod852211 ай бұрын
Epic Vid 🔥
@Ohmriginal7226 ай бұрын
I am like the most logical person ever socially, coming from computer science, so this explains why I've never got anywhere close to this stuff and am so bad at flirting. Also I generally don't keep track of stories from places I've been and things I've done I'm a very point to point do thing then thing person so I don't generally have any stories to tell or at least I can't conceive of a way to turn things I've done into stories, also I generally mute my own harsher emotions, I mean I am passionate, but not in a way that motivates me to wax poetic. Also my PhD major is going to be political science XD I just know how to never get a girl I guess
@LTHEGRIFFTAH10 ай бұрын
Ok so talk about nothing eat and go home got it
@Angrymobs629 ай бұрын
😂
@paulescapades6 ай бұрын
Yeh he talks to fast too
@King-is3td3 ай бұрын
No examples is crazy though
@mbrinkmann188110 ай бұрын
Value your little man more. Don’t devalue your worth as a a man. When you carry yourself and respect yourself, you will find your wife. Praying will help.
@panwu66025 ай бұрын
Dating is really not fun.
@jamesstrom69919 күн бұрын
whose fault is that?
@panwu66029 күн бұрын
@@jamesstrom6991 Women. I can bet it'd dramatically more fun if I was gay but unfortunately for me I'm not 🤣
@billyblim121310 ай бұрын
This town is just my imagination and all my friends are just the different ways it is to be me. And the goal of the game is to get them to like each other so we can all do something important together. But I don't know what it is yet and besides they don't even get along. 😮💨😢
@brutalbrainwash10 ай бұрын
Good stuff
@TerrifyingBird10 ай бұрын
I tried the question escalation game with a girl from tinder that I was talking to on Instagram. It is so effective that it feelt like cheating 😂
@randallfavors56159 ай бұрын
Soo what ls the deference between “the System” and “Verbal Academy” besides $200.00 ? You said the system but your link is for the Academy.,
@oz-zy11 ай бұрын
Man i wish i had Todd's pick up skills. Dude is insane.
@rustykoenig356611 ай бұрын
Music?????!!!!! He is right... he DON'T know much about MUSIC! "It is sort of emotional right? People do have emotions about music and do have feelings about a certain song so it is KIND OF about you and her but fundamentally it is a 3rd party topic." Ok... IGNORE EVERYTHING HE SAYS ABOUT MUSIC!!! Because.... he said it... he don't know shit about music. MUSIC is not "sort of emotional"... music IS EMOTION!!! The lyrics themselves stir emotion and the music itself stirs even more emotion. Music is the physical embodiment OF emotion. And... most people get VERY EMOTIONAL when 'lost" in music. There is absolutely ZERO LOGIC involved with "music"... sure it is all logic when figuring out the notes and the timings and the key of the piece or the words to it... sure... that is mostly "logic" but once you know that logical stuff of it... you practice it... sing it... play it... weather it be in your head or physically playing it on a instrument... you begin to disconnect with that "logic" and instinct/muscle memory begins to take its place and when you no longer THINK about it, no longer have your BRAIN actively engaged in the process OF playing/singing it.... then and only then can EMOTION begin to enter the "music" and the music begins to play YOU rather than YOU playing the music. If you want to see DEEP emotions and the kind of DEEP emotions that a person has... you only need to see that person lost in their "music"... and you can tell a LOT about what they are about when you see what emotional attachment they have with the music they like. And... the thing about music... they can be 100% opposite of your musical likes and it is not a deal breaker because they don't NEED you to be invested into their "music".... Mom/Dad were married for 50+ years and were polar opposites on music choice... Dad loved classic rock and Mom was pure country and they actually ended the marriage the way marraige is SUPPOSED to end... and is the last line in your vowes. Till Death do us part! If you find you have similar taste in music... GO FOR IT because that alone opens a door into the soul. If you find they are opposite taste in music.... you have something to "tease" her with :) It is a WIN WIN either way :) lol. A musician can make an audience laugh, excited, cry, sit on the edge of their seat in suspense... and do it all within a SINGLE song if he so chooses.... let that sink in a bit....