Coping with Self-Harm ft. Luke Cutforth | Voice Box | Childline

[@kadenlacey3205]

I love Luke so much. He used to self harm and he takes that to help others.

[@childline]

Hi +The Phandom Did It, helping others when you have gone through hard experiences is a great thing to do , we have a lot of respect and admiration for Luke!

[@whathappenedincapetown]

I'm really glad stuff like this exists, because there's kids out there who can't talk about it to people they know and this can really help them.

[@lucygrainger4860]

your username is goals

[@childline]

Thank you +phanic! at the disco (Great name!) We hope that young people know that they can talk to ChildLine about Self Harm. There are also the ChildLine message boards where young people can talk to each other about their experiences with Self Harm too :) www.childline.org.uk/Talk/Boards/Pages/Threads.aspx?boardid=bff63842-edd2-4c62-a6cd-e7b70c73b24c&brdname=Self+harm

[@Phanasouredits]

ayyy im 3 months clean today

[@Erika-tj7gd]

Ayyyyyyyy

[@childline]

+Phanasour that is really positive, keep going and if you need support you can always talk to ChildLine when it gets hard to cope; www.childline.org.uk/talk/Pages/Talk.aspx

[@insertedgyemobandnameshere813]

Phanasour yay!

[@shelbyhiggins7684]

I helped my friend through selfharm and it had taken her 2 year to get through it but she is finally on the better end of the line. I would stay up till what ever time in the mornings talking to her making sure she was alright and informing her mum was one of the things I didn't want to do but I did in the end I told her to not say anything but just keep an eye on her and her mum done that until it got worse and the only person she would talk to was me and I could be out calming her down waiting till she was asleep and going back home and going back if she needed me and finally after 2 years she is coming home tomorrow for one night and I get to spend it with her your videos are great love them all thank you

[@childline]

Hi Shelby, it is so great to hear about how you were able to support your friend. Thank you for watching our videos and your feedback. Childline is always here and if you need to talk about how you are feeling you can do that too. Take care Childline Facebook Team

[@rg5985]

self harm is a addition and you get so far into it that u just want to end it all you isolate yourself from everyone and if u tell people they just assume your attention seeking you don't tell anyone. its so hard and you feel so alone and isolated

[@childline]

Hi +becca gardiner, if you or anyone you know is feeling like that you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor. Self Harm can be a really hard thing to talk about aloud too, so you can have an online chat with a counsellor if you prefer that to calling. You can find out more about the different ways to contact ChildLine here: www.childline.org.uk/talk/Pages/Talk.aspx Take care ChildLine KZbin Team

[@rg5985]

thanks its nice to know that someone understands it just feels so lonely

[@jrocknpoppingirl]

I think you guys all said the most important parts. Just being there and finding the resources to know what to say when a friend or family member needs to open up. and, however hard it is to put it in words sometimes, you need to be able to articulate what you need from others when you're the one that is opening up to others. Thank you so much for making this video and giving this dialogue a much-needed place to occur!

[@childline]

Hi +jrocknpoppingirl thank you so much for letting us know what you found helpful and important. Opening up to people is one of the hardest things to do, and equally not knowing what to say can make people pull away. If anyone feels like they don't have someone they can talk with, ChildLine is always here :)

[@BuischuiCosplay]

My friend is a year clean and I'm so proud of her, I'm trying to follow in her footsteps and I'm about 4 months clean!

[@Bills_kaulitz]

As a person who does self harm, I want to share ways of helping others who also do. I recommend talking to them daily if you can. Just them being able to talk to someone can really help them. Talk about their emotions to them, encourage them to talk to others as well. Sometimes it can get to the point of you having to talk to someone else about it if you feel like the person who is doing self harm is in danger because of it. Talk to them about coping mechanisms. There are lots of different ways to cope with it. Theres the butterfly method, which is when if someone feels like they want or need to self harm, they can draw a butterfly on their arm. Or someone else could draw one for them. The goal of it is to not self harm until the butterfly / butterflies fade away. Think of the butterfly method as a game. Assure them that if they do self harm, its okay. they can keep trying. Another method is having a hair tie around the wrist and when they feel like self harming, they pull it back and let go. Everyone deals with things differently, and if you are trying to help someone, it can get overwhelming for you aswell. While you are talking to them, they may start to panik. There are things you should say and some you shouldnt say. Don't say, "promis me that you will stop." because if they do it again, they may start to feel guilty. Instead, say "I am always here to listen, you are not alone. Don't stop for me, stop for yourself." It can hgelp them to get through it easier.

[@ozdudeholland91]

Something that helped me is seeing my friends scars and realising I'm not the only one

[@childline]

Thanks for your comment. The Childline website has lots of information on self-harming which you may find useful: www.childline.org.uk/info-advice/your-feelings/self-harm/. Childline is always here for you to talk to, there is lots of different ways you can speak to Childline. You can find out more information here: www.childline.org.uk/get-support/

[@ekeetley123]

Thank you for getting Luke involved in this. He deserves to have his great advice heard.

[@HollersHolly]

Thanks for this video! It's so great to know there are people out there who care about things like this. :)

[@lydiabug2281]

this is a lovely video. thank you so much 💕

[@bronaghpearson9001]

phan phan Dan I'll stop

[@jessietherat1691]

So proud of you luke because you care about this subject xxx

[@napofastar553]

Thank you, this was really helpful

[@childline]

Hi +Rat A Cat, thank you for letting us know it was helpful, we hope that this is something that people feel able to share with anyone that they feel might need it.

[@napofastar553]

Thanks for being there for people when they have nobody. Its comforting that helplines like Childline exist, even if you decide not to use it. :)

[@mychemicalkurloz6466]

Luke is life ❤️ I came here for everything but like drew me in

[@elliegrantham221]

Same

[@childline]

Hey everyone, we hope you find this week’s video helpful. To mark Self Harm Awareness Day we also ran a survey with SelfharmUK, Young Minds and Youthnet and found that only 16% of young people who self-harm would actually choose to talk to their parents about it, while only 27% would go to their doctor. How do you think we can help young people who self-harm feel more able to speak out?

[@childline]

PS. If you’re affected by anything in this video you can always talk to ChildLine: www.childline.org.uk/talk/Pages/Talk.aspx

[@TheWhisperrKid]

+ChildLine I think self-harm sometimes can feel a very isolating experience and knowing that you are not alone with it, helps you to be able to talk about it. So, I think general overall more awareness ... and more 'stigma busting' ...stigma and shame are also big factors in this issue. (Videos like these are awesome :) )

[@childline]

+TheWhisperrKid Thank you- your point about stigma and feeling shame are really important, it can really hold people back from talking about it. We are really pleased that you like the video, thank you for the support :)

[@grace-pu6ik]

thanks, this video does really help.

[@childline]

+UmItsGrace You're welcome, we are so happy that people are feeling positive about the video and that it can help people that are living with self harm as well as their friends and family :)

[@Edavey103]

This was very helpful thank you. One of my closest friends self harm and yes thank you.

[@childline]

Hi+Ellie Davey it is great to hear from so many people that want to support their friends :) If it is something you want to talk about more, you can always speak to a ChildLine counsellor about how you are coping too. www.childline.org.uk/Talk/Chat/Pages/OnlineChat.aspx

[@emaleighhine5802]

I would just like to say thank you this helped so much

[@childline]

+Emm Hine this is wonderful to hear. If you ever feel like you need support, you can always speak to a ChildLine counsellor for free: www.childline.org.uk/talk/Pages/Talk.aspx

[@kierafive977]

I should probably go message my friend and try to help her.. I've never really known what to do so this has defiantly helped :) (lukes bae btw)

[@elliottrae9355]

Awesome, awesome video! Informative and inspiring. Thanks so much for this :) And some ways to help cope with self-harm? Finding something fulfilling and relaxing to do that will take your mind of the negative thoughts... for ex: drawing, coloring, playing music, talking with a friend, being in nature, going for a walk, baking, writing, exercising. Any healthy alternative instead of self-harm.

[@childline]

Hi+MaryAnne Skora thank you so much for your support and your suggestions too! Finding something fulfilling is great advice :) All of these activities are so positive- colouring in can be so relaxing and beautiful when you complete a picture!

[@abigailcripps5449]

its a shame because I tried calling childline once many years ago about my self harm which took me a long time to vocalise as it was the first time id ever spoken about and the woman kept asking me why I did it but I wasn't ready to say that it was because I was questioning my sexuality and I felt like she just assumed I had no legitimate reason and so she asked me why I even called childline and what I expected to get from it and tbh I didn't even know I just didn't know what to do and it may have just been me but I felt like she was judging me quite a lot and by the end I just felt a whole lot worse

[@childline]

Hi Abi Catherine, thank you for leaving this comment. We know that it’s not always easy to call and talk to someone about how you're feeling. It’s always ok for any young person to take their time and to only speak about what they feel comfortable with. We understand that it can take time to build up to what you want to say. Sometimes, counsellors ask certain questions to find out how to give the right kind of support and that should always be explained. We can see that wasn’t your experience and we're sorry to hear this. If you, or anyone, has any feedback about the counselling service, you can contact a Childline counsellor directly through our website: childline.org.uk/get-support/ Thank you.

[@saskiak7129]

My best friend self harms so this was very helpful

[@childline]

Hi +onesie queen we really wanted to include how it might feel for a friend who wants to support someone. We are so pleased it was helpful for you. If you want anymore information you can also find that on ChildLine.org www.childline.org.uk/EXPLORE/SELF-HARM/Pages/about-self-harm.aspx

[@childline]

Hi everyone. The ChildLine helpline is there to support anyone under the age of 19 who needs support. As this page is not private or confidential we can’t provide direct help here but you can talk confidentially to a ChildLine counsellor on our free 24-hr helpline 0800 1111 or visit www.childline.org/talk to talk to us online. Most calls to ChildLine are confidential, but if you need to know more about what we can’t keep confidential, have a look here www.childline.org.uk/pages/confidentiality.aspx

[@btheGFX]

Luke

[@childline]

We agree +Beth Tong Luke was also great in this video, we hope everyone can share the video and help others that are not ready to speak out, know that ChildLine is there for them.

[@tomasmartin185]

i love you luke i feel like we could really get along, i'm also a vegan and i see a lot of myself in you, i'm 16 though but idk you're my favorite youtuber and i'd love to meet you someday

[@childline]

+Rodrigo Echenique Casales it's so nice to see so much love for Luke :) ChildLine is so grateful that he worked with us on this, he is a great role model to have!

[@sam-pl6es]

I know this video is kind of old but the only thing I find wrong with this video is that when Luke says that there is never a wrong reason for self harm I say this because of one exception when I over heard two people talking in my class talking a they were saying how they were faking self harming to get out of class and one guy was like oh you should try it at first your parents will be a bit worried then you can get out of class when you like and he was saying how two of his mates were talking to the head of year about it he also said about how they take medication.

[@childline]

Thanks for your comment, and it's always okay to disagree with things on our videos! People can give lots of reasons for wanting to self-harm, it can be good to remember that people also might not feel ready to tell you everything that's happening. At Childline we believe that if a child or young person asks or says that they need support they should get it no matter what the reason. If the behaviour of people in your class has affected you, it's important to remember that it's okay for you to talk about that, you could speak to an adult you trust or even to a Childline counsellor: www.childline.org.uk/get-support

[@Nate-yw6gk]

it would be simply peachy if it actually let you sign up on the website tho

[@Nate-yw6gk]

my friends told me they had problems with getting on it

[@childline]

Hi, have you been able to sign up now? We have launched a new site that should make it easier to use on mobiles too, please give it another try of you need. www.childline.org.uk/registration/

[@Nate-yw6gk]

Childline I have been able to now after countless tries

[@emaleighhine5802]

what if we would like to ttalk to some one but we really cant is there any way with contactI ng you but not actually talking to u on thw phone

[@milliehudson1344]

on childline they have a 1-2-1 chat which is really helpful

[@emaleighhine5802]

thank you i have tried it but i dont feel like anyone is getting it though

[@childline]

Hi +Emm Hine, sometimes talking to other young people going through similar experiences can help too, and you can do this on the ChildLine message boards; www.childline.org.uk/Talk/Boards/Pages/Messageboards.aspx

[@jas6871]

Here's how to cope: Go and see a doctor for professional help, if you had cancer would you brag about it online instead of seeking help? Of course you wouldn't. This helped me alot in terms of self-harm but I'm still struggling with emotions but it is slowly getting better :) Good luck to all who read this, have a great day!

[@lt7587]

Hi Jas, it's really great to hear that you've made so much progress - congrats for this, it's inspiring to hear. :) It's also great that you felt able to approach your GP and that they were helpful too. All the best to you! :)

[@childline]

Hi everyone, if you post onto our KZbin videos talking about harming yourself, then we need you to send us a private message with your full name and address so we can pass this over to the NSPCC to get you some help. Please do remember that you can always speak to a Childline counsellor for support at any time - calling 0800 1111 is free from major UK mobiles and landlines. You can see all the other ways you can get in touch by looking here - childline.org.uk/get-support If you are in immediate danger, please call 999. Take care

[@darraghhayes7129]

what is self harm

[@childline]

Hi +darragh Hayes you can find out more about coping with it or supporting a friend who self harms on the Childline Website www.childline.org.uk/Explore/Self-harm/Pages/Self-harm.aspx

[@girlindisguise223]

Those long eyebrows o.o

[@soph.7987]

I liked how you said "be with their silences" because sometimes you just want to sit and be silent and occasionally say something about how you feel, thats okay.

[@childline]

Hi +Sophia Gracee it is so nice to hear what you took away from this video. Stef one of our wonderful counsellors at ChildLine gave great advice, hopefully people won't feel as worried or scared to be in silence during a difficult time and know that it can help.